Dave, I tend to enjoy all your videos, but for me personally these ones where you just sit down and talk about Japan in this casual fashion where you/whoever you're with just speaks their mind I find to be wildly informative. They help my own introspection in a number of ways because you seem like you're really speaking honestly. I do hope you keep up with your more creative endeavors but also hope to see more of these types of videos in the future as well. Love it all, keep it up!
30 year expat with kids and married to a Japanese woman, here. I haven't noticed much change in myself, besides what you've mentioned about "traditional" roles. I feel I'm much more conscious of my role as father and husband and all the duties and expectations that entails than I would have been if I were in Canada, my home and native land. For example, when a Japanese couple have children, they stop referring to each other by their given names and exclusively call each other "Pa Pa" and "Ma Ma". The couples parents immediately go from being called mother and father and become "Ji Chan" and "Ba Chan". It was when I became a father that I handed over all my bank cards, credit cards etc. to my wife who from that point on gave me a monthly allowance. I don't suppose I would have accepted that in Canada, but here in Japan, I understand and accept my role and comply accordingly. I teach English at a private high school. I would likely consider that a job in Canada. Here in Japan, I consider it a role in the community that involves the care of and commitment to the children of our community. I'm aware of even running across a flashing traffic light about to turn red...it's my duty to act in an exemplary manner. I don't believe I would have the same hyper awareness back in Canada. The emphasis on the group and the individual's responsibility in the group has made me more conscious of myself as someone who should take care to be responsible and do my part for the benefit of the "team" whether that be my family, school or community.
Thanks, Mike. I appreciate that. I grew up playing competitive hockey in Toronto, so the team concept and accepting of one's role was a natural adjustment for me. Luckily, I was able to continue my love of hockey over here where I run an elite youth program, Japan Samurai AAA Ice Hockey Club. I understand that accepting a role or place in society does not equate into sacrificing your individuality, which is a common misconception. On the contrary, I believe the individual finds purpose and meaning within the group. I've been rewarded with a wonderful family, a great job and a fulfilling life sharing my love of hockey and culture with those who appreciate my efforts and passion. I'm sure that comes off as a bit cliched or sappy to some, but it's the truth. Hey, don't get me wrong, I love Canada. I'm grateful and feel very fortunate to have been born and raised in a country that had given me so much opportunity and support. I'm grateful to the volunteers who facilitated my hockey when I was growing up, I'm grateful to the veterans who sacrificed their lives and health, I'm grateful to the teachers, cops, farmers, doctors, nurses and all the hard working honest Canadians who make Canada such a great country, I just happened to find my way here through a twist of fate and fell in love with the place. I look at it this way, Canada is my mother...Japan is my wife. Anyway, I appreciate the kind comment. Cheers!
Gordon, it was your choice to give control of your finances to your wife, but it's not the law. I told my wife before we married that my bank card would be staying in my wallet, and I'd pay the rent. But I don't tell her what I earn, nor does she ask. I just couldn't do it, but it doesn't mean I'm not serious about my marriage. If it works for you though, good luck to you.
Green Morning Dragon Productions It’s standard practice in Japan, even for CEOs of corporations. The wife is in charge of the household finances as well as the children, including their education. It’s the way things are done here. It works for me. I have paid off my home in full, drive a decent car and have money for my kids’ education. I doubt I would have that if I were in charge of the money. Money runs like water through my hands.
Chances are you are married to a very traditional woman. My wife is Japanese and we've been married for over 15 years. We live in Kansai, she happily goes to work every morning while I work at getting a music career going. I handle all the finances because she knows that's my strength. I also take care of our children's education. It's difficult because they are in Japanese public schools and my language skills leave much to be desired. She takes care of all the medical stuff because I'm unfamiliar with medical terms here. Same as you being a hockey player, as a musician it felt very natural for me to fall into the team concept and accept my role in the society I live in. Living in Kansai feels so different than any other part of Japan. It's almost... American in how much people touch and hug and how loud and opinionated they are. I was thinking it would be difficult to make friends and that I would have to rely on my wife to do so, but I've been able to build relationships with Japanese to the point that I have no Western friends at all. Even the bands I play with are all Japanese members. I've been lucky to have been accepted very quickly, and when someone makes a comment about my size (I'm literally Tochinoshin's size) or my bad Japanese, my friends sternly rise up to defend me. So much for Japanese being non confrontational! Besides that, the only major change I've seen in me, is how much I've slowed down. Contrary to western belief regarding the overworked Japanese, here I've learned to relax, stop and smell the flowers or simply watch a butterfly go by. People here do that and it's almost an art form.
With what seems to amount to as an over-abundance of vomitous waves of bad J-vlogging where people have such little content and much self-indulgent navel-gazing, this is especially good. The tone, the style, the pace, the great editing, the topics explored (and not beaten to death), are all top shelf. Having just recently discovered your channel I am greatly enjoying it. Thanks for all the great work. To respond to the content of this particular video, and as an expat in Japan myself (20 plus years and counting), I think that your insights are quite accurate. My own perspectives have changed (mutated?) over time, but I think that what seems core to your message here is a marriage of self-awareness and empathy for others. Much respect. Well done!
Dave your videos are very useful and informative. I like your straight, no fluff approach to talking about your life/expat life in Japan. I've watched a few of your videos and noticed that you tell it how it is. Not in a bad way, but a realistic, open and comprehensive manner. Sharing your own experiences (and your mates) in Japan has given me a lot of insight. Hope to see continued success with your channel and that you're having a good break back home right now.
Great video and content, loved the scenes and music. Texan living in Japan here, down in Oita Prefecture. Big yes to discussion on scale, distance, showing true appreciation with nuance, reading the air. I have many years of classical ballet and theatrical training, so these concepts feel rather familiar to me already; I feel them at work in all situations no matter where I am. That said, I feel maybe for the first time that this sort of "background processing" is also being done by everyone around me. It is very interesting because it creates what seems like a *tangible*, *perceptible* feeling, vibration, mood...
I moved to Japan last month (thanks for being part of the reason moved). I've been a lot happier already, because I needed a change of scenery and I love my job now. I look forward to many years in Japan.
As an expat for almost 7 years in France, I can appreciate your reflections on life abroad. Super interesting, especially about seeing the value in both cultures as time goes on and not doing things just one way. I think when we first arrive somewhere, it's easy to see the new culture as better and then you flip flop a bit with ups and downs, and then if you're lucky, you find your place and take the best from both worlds with you as you go through life.
Dave it’s great to see how you grew throughout your journey in japan. I’ve been watching for 3 years. I feel like your more accustomed to japan then prior to your arrival. Keep elevating your self for growth is immeasurable.I see you became a much better photographer taking iconic shots of Urban Tokyo in contrast to the lighting. Great work bro I know it’s hard posting videos but would like to see more.
That trailer in FB made me go to RUclips in an instant. Great video, hope to see what changes will come to my life when I move next school year. Dating had also been one of my worries and I appreciate the discussion, wish you went deeper into it but I still looked what I got.
Hi Dave, just wanted to say how much i enjoy your videos. I am currently on my eighth year of living in Korea and have visited japan six times. When I’m there, i always have this strong feeling that i HAVE to live here someday but i am too invested in all things korea. I live my alternate reality through your vids so thanks! Keep up the excellent work!
Crazy that our timing in going to Japan are under very similar circumstances. It is amazing how submerging yourself into an entirely new culture can give you a deeper and broader perspective to life and to yourself. Having moved from a small town to LA, I think I had a similar shock in terms of culture, lifestyle, and world views. Changing scenery, whether for travel or moving, really allows for a greater appreciation for the world and people at large, but also strengthens and morphs your own values in life. That might have been repetitive... but great insight on your five years! Congratulations and best wishes for whatever the future may hold for you!
Great video as always, Dave. Can't believe I'm not getting notifications from your page even though I have the bell on, or else I would have watched this video waaaay sooner.
Forever bugs in the system... Thanks for making the effort. I'd send a message to youtube but honestly I think nothing would come of it. When you clicked the bell which selection did you choose if you're not careful it will only notify occasionally as that's one of the options. Have a reclick and see what comes up. Cheers!
I've had it set to "all" since the first time I subbed however it only seems to notify me every other video or so, it's unfortunate and hopefully RUclips ends up doing something to fix it in the future.
I've contacted creator support on this issue now. Some bizarre things are happening. ;p I have access to an email that you only receive if you are eligible for the RUclips partner program. Upon sending in my concern I received an email saying I am not in the partner program... What.. I shouldn't even be able to send the concern unless I am in the program. Luckily I have a contact email for someone at RUclips Tokyo and forwarded the concern on to them. Hopefully have some good news shortly. It's hard enough pouring the hours into the content itself without the back-end of things going south. Thanks again for bringing this to my attention Greg because something legitimately seems to be bugged.
First of all I want to agree with you that being in "traditional" gender roles can be great for some people and doesn't get as much respect as it deserves. Sadly it is looked down upon in the US(although some of the negativity is perpetuated by the media and not indicative of how many people, specifically feminist, actually feel). I definitely think it can be healthy. However, in Japan as a whole I wouldn't say it is completely healthy. These "traditional" roles prevent women from achieving their life goals. There was a recent issue with a school that lowered women's scores to prevent them from getting into med school. On the opposite side you have the pressure on men to be able to provide for a family. It doesn't just affect women. I think we should respect those that choose or choose not to follow those roles. If a guy wants to be a stay at home parents then he should be as equally as empowered just as a woman should.
Thank you for another great video ! :) ...educational and eye-opening especially about how important it is to be sensitive to a culture's nuances and layers and how you can flow with it once you are. **where to watch/find Drew's project?
Interesting on how much of the way of thinking has changed by being here so long, it has certainly changed my views on some various things. Need to meet up again Dave!
Hey Dave, your videos are great! I am planning to be in Tokyo in November for a couple weeks. I am hoping the weather will be better. I'll shoot a message once in town.
Hey Dave, that's another great video! As I am living in Germany with my japanese girlfriend and daughter I can totally see all your points. I changed a lot, even though I do not live in Japan. If you'd ever want to have the other side in a video, a japanese person that moved to Europe/Germany, or just like to have a discussion, feel free to contact us!
Hi Yuki and Simon. Thanks for checking out the video. That sounds like a fantastic conversation that many people would enjoy participating in. I'll make a note to contact you.
Drew seems like a pretty nice guy. He as this nice, decent character. It's a pity, that he doesn't have an own youtube channel. I would really appreciate his point of view and experiences in and with the knowledge of living this long as a (former?) foreigner in Japan. But because this isn't the case, you Dave, just have to make more videos featuring him ;) Keep it up, you are a nice and sympathetic duo
Both of you have interesting insights on your respective experiences. Thanks for sharing. I think just preparing to go to Japan has changed me positively. I try to learn everything I can before going so I will have a quality experience. I learn so much to prepare that even if I end up not going, I still am improved as a person. I plan on going to Tokyo in about three weeks. I am going to Kamakura, also. One thing that jumps out at me is how the Japanese keep going after so many hardships. 2018 thus far has been one disaster after another. I admire their resolve to keep going in spite of the earthquakes, volcanoes, heatwaves, tsunamis, upside down demographics, enormous national debt, threats from China, North Korea, Russia, and no oil.
Interesting stuff dude, Drew seems super chilled, chicken cartilage on the other hand is not (actually has the texture of egg shells) and that reading the air thing will definitely improve your spider senses 😁😁!
In traveling and growing up around immigrants from all over the world I've learned there are many tones to respect and that among some crowds, what is rude for one group may be respectful or another. Sometimes 'rude honesty' is respectful, for instance. I've also learned many ways to appologize when getting such things wrong. There's also the fun of backhanded compliments among some people that others just can't comprehend the existence of.
Really interesting video! I have always thought about living abroad after finishing college, and I'm starting to like the idea of going to Japan. I know this is a hard question to answer, but do you think most foreigners like japan more than their own country once they have been there for a few years?
Many people don't know this but RELIGION has a huge impact in a society. Understanding the spiritual and religious beliefs of a group of people allows you to not only know why they behave in such way but it also gives you the opportunity to change those people's perspective and as a result, their lifestyles.
nice music interesting topics but it would have been nice to know who it changed you two not in regards to how you see Japan and interact there, but how it might have changed you two in regards to how you see your homeplace, how it feels to give a tip again, how it feels to just sit down for 2-3 hours after meal
Very interesting video, I had thought about moving to Japan 3 years ago and wonder what I would be like now as a person. Decided I need to stop wondering and just do, have an interview with Interac next month :) looking to continue my vlogging focusing on sports/esports, would be a great experience to meet you should I have the chance!
Do it man! Coming to Japan was one of these best things I've done and would recommend for anyone. Even if it's for a year, the experience is worth it. All the best with the application.
A Side of Miso I watch your videos! I can relate to the video you made about requesting an area of Japan and them sending you to the other side haha I had a similar experience when on a program studying in America. want to spend more time on youtube/twitch in the future to build a brand around fitness and gaming. Japan would be an experience for both of these areas. Looking forward to more videos!
Lubo great to hear, I currently work long hours in my Job so don't have the time I would like to dedicate to youtube/twitch but making changes for the future so hopefully I can create content that adds value for people.
@@bryanhenderson7101 that's dope bro, would be cool to meet up and do some fitness videos once you're out here. Keep me updated on your progress 💪🏽💪🏽👌🏽
Wow!!! You were 28 when you got here? By the time Im 28 (this year), it will be 6 years since Ive come to Japan. After almost 6 years, I still havent been back to my home country yet.
Hi Dave, really interesting topic! I especially enjoyed when you guys talked about "Tatemae/Honne" ...I'd love for you to discuss about these topics more in depth in a future video, as this is one of the biggest differences in Japanese people vs rest of the world （by the way, how do we subscribe to Drew's channel & also see his "omoiyari" documentary??）~
Its always interesting experiencing different cultures. One of the reasons why I really want to go to Japan. In terms of my own experience, well I have only lived in California and Texas and holy crap the difference. I found people in California to be much more materialistic and health nuts to an almost psychotic level. Not to say they are bad people. A lot of my friends still live there actually. Then there is Texas and boy does that state live up to that southern hospitality stereotype. I find people here to be much more patient (mostly) and friendly. Also the food is better. So are the drivers. The roads suck though. Obviously in both states there are exceptions but this a generalized overview of my own personal experience. In any case, as always I loved the video and am already looking forward to your next one. Keep up the awesome work. =)
@@DaveTrippin hey, thanks for the quick reply! Do you feel that going in as a teacher is a good foot in the door to go full on corporate at a later date?
Yeah in English you have to try and make something more grandiose to show appreciation, you destroy the meaning of the word and make it less significant. I like the different scales of appreciation that Japanese language has.
Insightful and introspective. Also thanks for the link! I'm watching about 50 channels now about Japan and the themes you talked about seem consistent amongst them all. My wife and I have been binging on Japanology Plus from NHK and appreciate the deep dive they go into a topic, too. I also just saw a TEDx Talk, ruclips.net/video/d0yGdNEWdn0/видео.html How to learn any language in six months | Chris Lonsdale | TEDxLingnanUniversity , that you might find interesting. Another language learning tip that I have heard so many times but have never until now taken very seriously is to begin with children's songs because in many respects that is how we begin to learn language as a young child.
Wanting to do something for someone isn't a "traditional gender role". Its doing what you want because its what you want to do. Being "obligated" by traditional gender roles, which is exactly what you are referring to (but trying to manpoligize for horribly), is extremely unhealthy. If you want to cook for someone, good on you, if you don't good on you. Sorry, but the drawn out explanation was very awkward and you know you stepped in a ditch which you didn't get out of. Nothing "traditional" about gender roles is healthy or even necessary, thats a psychological fact. Encouraging a person's interests and sharing responsibilities is healthy.
Don't isolate yourself. There are people who have been through what you might be facing right now and they overcame it. Don't push people away, surround yourself with people who are spiritually mature and get the help that you need. Isolation when you are in pain and don't know if there's a way out is dangerous and that's why we have suicide cases. Listen, there's nothing that you can be facing that God is not able to solve for with God nothing is impossible. Hold on. Jesus loves you.
Your a foreigner I want to practice English with, the appropriate response, sure what's for dinner or lunch depending on the time of day, no meal no lesson ;).
To the person reading this, you are who God says you are. You are made in the image of God, The Creator of heaven and earth. Because of His love for you and I, He sent His only Son Jesus Christ to die for you so that you can have everlasting life and not go to hell. Jesus Christ arose from the dead, He is alive and is the only Messiah, the King of kings, the Beginning and the End. Jesus Christ is the Savior of the whole world. Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, invite Him into your heart/life today. Wherever you are, He can hear you for He is everywhere. Remember Jesus Christ is the ONLY way to God the Father. Jesus loves you sooooo much so that He gave His life for you. You are valuable...You are loved.
It would have been nice to lead with a more profound example about traditional roles in relationships... most modern, internationalized Japanese women I’ve met confess that they don’t actually enjoy the serving thing, they just do it because it’s a societal expectation and there’s no fighting it. There are many ways to demonstrate caring for your significant other and the paying/serving paradigm has to be one of the most archaic out there🙄
Perhaps you missed the part about how it's important that it be the person's actual choice? I'm not even being sarcastic. That would change your whole understanding and negative impression I think. If we want to do something (a service) the point is that it's best enjoyed when not under duress. In my experience it's not that Japanese women dislike it. It's that they hate feeling compelled.
DaveTrippin I did catch that part, but this is the point: most women I have heard talk about this custom don’t like it and don’t want to do it; however they feel pressure to do it because of expectation and societal pressure. That’s not choice, that’s obligation. Also they are so, so polite that it seems like it would be difficult or awkward to have that kind of straightforward talk. Moreover it was off-putting that serving someone was the example you chose to highlight why you appreciate the concept of traditional gender roles, which as pointed out by another commenter (and loads of research) have been proven to not actually be very healthy. For me, that section of the video had a definite mansplaining vibe, which was disappointing as I found the videos about English teaching to be fairly informative.
@@carolinewjordan Again more delicately than I would usually approach this I'll restate. We very specifically are referring to women (or men) who enjoy being able to do a service for thier partner. Your point, that an expectation exist makes the act frustrating is entirely true, I would add, for both sexes. What matters if that we're able to freely express our appreciation for one another. Service, generosity, whatever you want to call it. I appreciate that act when it is not demonized. Necessarily in the east when it is a compulsive behavior people don't like it. I wouldn't either. But I repeat, when it is not under duress. When we *choose to act in service of the person we love. There are few things more beautiful and kind. I'm making this effort in the hopes that you'll perhaps see. To give freely of yourself isn't the flaw, but to do so of an obligation is. I appreciate you didn't lose your shit and just rage comment. Many would 😉
Hey Dave, love your videos! Do you have any links to the project Drew is working on?
I do indeed. www.omoiyarisongfilm.com
@@DaveTrippin Thanks!
Dave, I tend to enjoy all your videos, but for me personally these ones where you just sit down and talk about Japan in this casual fashion where you/whoever you're with just speaks their mind I find to be wildly informative. They help my own introspection in a number of ways because you seem like you're really speaking honestly. I do hope you keep up with your more creative endeavors but also hope to see more of these types of videos in the future as well. Love it all, keep it up!
30 year expat with kids and married to a Japanese woman, here. I haven't noticed much change in myself, besides what you've mentioned about "traditional" roles. I feel I'm much more conscious of my role as father and husband and all the duties and expectations that entails than I would have been if I were in Canada, my home and native land. For example, when a Japanese couple have children, they stop referring to each other by their given names and exclusively call each other "Pa Pa" and "Ma Ma". The couples parents immediately go from being called mother and father and become "Ji Chan" and "Ba Chan". It was when I became a father that I handed over all my bank cards, credit cards etc. to my wife who from that point on gave me a monthly allowance. I don't suppose I would have accepted that in Canada, but here in Japan, I understand and accept my role and comply accordingly. I teach English at a private high school. I would likely consider that a job in Canada. Here in Japan, I consider it a role in the community that involves the care of and commitment to the children of our community. I'm aware of even running across a flashing traffic light about to turn red...it's my duty to act in an exemplary manner. I don't believe I would have the same hyper awareness back in Canada. The emphasis on the group and the individual's responsibility in the group has made me more conscious of myself as someone who should take care to be responsible and do my part for the benefit of the "team" whether that be my family, school or community.
I enjoyed reading your comments . We desperately need you back home.or at least your communal outlook.
Thanks, Mike. I appreciate that. I grew up playing competitive hockey in Toronto, so the team concept and accepting of one's role was a natural adjustment for me. Luckily, I was able to continue my love of hockey over here where I run an elite youth program, Japan Samurai AAA Ice Hockey Club. I understand that accepting a role or place in society does not equate into sacrificing your individuality, which is a common misconception. On the contrary, I believe the individual finds purpose and meaning within the group. I've been rewarded with a wonderful family, a great job and a fulfilling life sharing my love of hockey and culture with those who appreciate my efforts and passion. I'm sure that comes off as a bit cliched or sappy to some, but it's the truth. Hey, don't get me wrong, I love Canada. I'm grateful and feel very fortunate to have been born and raised in a country that had given me so much opportunity and support. I'm grateful to the volunteers who facilitated my hockey when I was growing up, I'm grateful to the veterans who sacrificed their lives and health, I'm grateful to the teachers, cops, farmers, doctors, nurses and all the hard working honest Canadians who make Canada such a great country, I just happened to find my way here through a twist of fate and fell in love with the place. I look at it this way, Canada is my mother...Japan is my wife. Anyway, I appreciate the kind comment. Cheers!
Gordon, it was your choice to give control of your finances to your wife, but it's not the law. I told my wife before we married that my bank card would be staying in my wallet, and I'd pay the rent. But I don't tell her what I earn, nor does she ask. I just couldn't do it, but it doesn't mean I'm not serious about my marriage. If it works for you though, good luck to you.
Green Morning Dragon Productions It’s standard practice in Japan, even for CEOs of corporations. The wife is in charge of the household finances as well as the children, including their education. It’s the way things are done here. It works for me. I have paid off my home in full, drive a decent car and have money for my kids’ education. I doubt I would have that if I were in charge of the money. Money runs like water through my hands.
Chances are you are married to a very traditional woman. My wife is Japanese and we've been married for over 15 years. We live in Kansai, she happily goes to work every morning while I work at getting a music career going. I handle all the finances because she knows that's my strength. I also take care of our children's education. It's difficult because they are in Japanese public schools and my language skills leave much to be desired. She takes care of all the medical stuff because I'm unfamiliar with medical terms here.
Same as you being a hockey player, as a musician it felt very natural for me to fall into the team concept and accept my role in the society I live in.
Living in Kansai feels so different than any other part of Japan. It's almost... American in how much people touch and hug and how loud and opinionated they are. I was thinking it would be difficult to make friends and that I would have to rely on my wife to do so, but I've been able to build relationships with Japanese to the point that I have no Western friends at all. Even the bands I play with are all Japanese members. I've been lucky to have been accepted very quickly, and when someone makes a comment about my size (I'm literally Tochinoshin's size) or my bad Japanese, my friends sternly rise up to defend me. So much for Japanese being non confrontational!
Besides that, the only major change I've seen in me, is how much I've slowed down. Contrary to western belief regarding the overworked Japanese, here I've learned to relax, stop and smell the flowers or simply watch a butterfly go by. People here do that and it's almost an art form.
With what seems to amount to as an over-abundance of vomitous waves of bad J-vlogging where people have such little content and much self-indulgent navel-gazing, this is especially good. The tone, the style, the pace, the great editing, the topics explored (and not beaten to death), are all top shelf. Having just recently discovered your channel I am greatly enjoying it. Thanks for all the great work.
To respond to the content of this particular video, and as an expat in Japan myself (20 plus years and counting), I think that your insights are quite accurate. My own perspectives have changed (mutated?) over time, but I think that what seems core to your message here is a marriage of self-awareness and empathy for others. Much respect. Well done!
Thanks very much sir. Truly appreciate the kind words.
Dave your videos are very useful and informative. I like your straight, no fluff approach to talking about your life/expat life in Japan. I've watched a few of your videos and noticed that you tell it how it is. Not in a bad way, but a realistic, open and comprehensive manner.
Sharing your own experiences (and your mates) in Japan has given me a lot of insight. Hope to see continued success with your channel and that you're having a good break back home right now.
Great video and content, loved the scenes and music. Texan living in Japan here, down in Oita Prefecture. Big yes to discussion on scale, distance, showing true appreciation with nuance, reading the air. I have many years of classical ballet and theatrical training, so these concepts feel rather familiar to me already; I feel them at work in all situations no matter where I am. That said, I feel maybe for the first time that this sort of "background processing" is also being done by everyone around me. It is very interesting because it creates what seems like a *tangible*, *perceptible* feeling, vibration, mood...
I moved to Japan last month (thanks for being part of the reason moved). I've been a lot happier already, because I needed a change of scenery and I love my job now. I look forward to many years in Japan.
"I love my job now" I look forward to saying the same next year.
This seems to be the case for so many people who come out here. Certainly was for me. Congrats on finding something that makes you happy.
@@awheywithmiso thanks!
What type of work? I am considering the move but seems daunting.
@@briankelly1240 I'm an English teacher. It's definitely a big adjustment to live in Japan but I'm a much happier person now.
As an expat for almost 7 years in France, I can appreciate your reflections on life abroad. Super interesting, especially about seeing the value in both cultures as time goes on and not doing things just one way. I think when we first arrive somewhere, it's easy to see the new culture as better and then you flip flop a bit with ups and downs, and then if you're lucky, you find your place and take the best from both worlds with you as you go through life.
Dave it’s great to see how you grew throughout your journey in japan. I’ve been watching for 3 years. I feel like your more accustomed to japan then prior to your arrival. Keep elevating your self for growth is immeasurable.I see you became a much better photographer taking iconic shots of Urban Tokyo in contrast to the lighting. Great work bro I know it’s hard posting videos but would like to see more.
Really interesting video! Also, loved the little cinematic touches you added to it as well :)
I love how you change scenarios. It keeps the video fresh throughout.
Thanks man. Really appreciate it.
Great video! Interesting and captivating, hard to find these kind of videos on youtube nowadays. Good job Dave!
Cheers man. Appreciate it.
That trailer in FB made me go to RUclips in an instant. Great video, hope to see what changes will come to my life when I move next school year. Dating had also been one of my worries and I appreciate the discussion, wish you went deeper into it but I still looked what I got.
Hi Dave, just wanted to say how much i enjoy your videos. I am currently on my eighth year of living in Korea and have visited japan six times. When I’m there, i always have this strong feeling that i HAVE to live here someday but i am too invested in all things korea. I live my alternate reality through your vids so thanks! Keep up the excellent work!
Cheers, man, much appreciated.
Crazy that our timing in going to Japan are under very similar circumstances. It is amazing how submerging yourself into an entirely new culture can give you a deeper and broader perspective to life and to yourself. Having moved from a small town to LA, I think I had a similar shock in terms of culture, lifestyle, and world views. Changing scenery, whether for travel or moving, really allows for a greater appreciation for the world and people at large, but also strengthens and morphs your own values in life. That might have been repetitive... but great insight on your five years! Congratulations and best wishes for whatever the future may hold for you!
Cheers to you E. Good luck in your travels as well.
Great video as always, Dave. Can't believe I'm not getting notifications from your page even though I have the bell on, or else I would have watched this video waaaay sooner.
Forever bugs in the system... Thanks for making the effort. I'd send a message to youtube but honestly I think nothing would come of it. When you clicked the bell which selection did you choose if you're not careful it will only notify occasionally as that's one of the options. Have a reclick and see what comes up. Cheers!
I've had it set to "all" since the first time I subbed however it only seems to notify me every other video or so, it's unfortunate and hopefully RUclips ends up doing something to fix it in the future.
@@replicants1 That is so strange.. Thanks for letting me know.
I've contacted creator support on this issue now. Some bizarre things are happening. ;p I have access to an email that you only receive if you are eligible for the RUclips partner program. Upon sending in my concern I received an email saying I am not in the partner program... What.. I shouldn't even be able to send the concern unless I am in the program. Luckily I have a contact email for someone at RUclips Tokyo and forwarded the concern on to them. Hopefully have some good news shortly. It's hard enough pouring the hours into the content itself without the back-end of things going south. Thanks again for bringing this to my attention Greg because something legitimately seems to be bugged.
DaveTrippin Fingers crossed Dave!
I can't help but be envious of Dave's biceps. Great video as always! Thanks!
First of all I want to agree with you that being in "traditional" gender roles can be great for some people and doesn't get as much respect as it deserves. Sadly it is looked down upon in the US(although some of the negativity is perpetuated by the media and not indicative of how many people, specifically feminist, actually feel). I definitely think it can be healthy. However, in Japan as a whole I wouldn't say it is completely healthy. These "traditional" roles prevent women from achieving their life goals. There was a recent issue with a school that lowered women's scores to prevent them from getting into med school. On the opposite side you have the pressure on men to be able to provide for a family. It doesn't just affect women. I think we should respect those that choose or choose not to follow those roles. If a guy wants to be a stay at home parents then he should be as equally as empowered just as a woman should.
Well said
Thank you for another great video ! :) ...educational and eye-opening especially about how important it is to be sensitive to a culture's nuances and layers and how you can flow with it once you are.
**where to watch/find Drew's project?
Long time. Good to heard you again and get a little piece of Japan. Regards from Spain (yup, I moved again).
Man. The "We're good-looking guys!" got me! Lmao. Great video man, awesome topics and take on them
The food descriptions makes me realize, even have been there a month, there is so much more for me to try!
Great video Dave and Drew. It was informative and immersive as with all your videos. Keep at it!
8:57 I saw that sculpture in Ottawa when I lived there. I didn't realize there are more than one
Stellar vids man! Taking off to Sapporo now!
Interesting on how much of the way of thinking has changed by being here so long, it has certainly changed my views on some various things.
Need to meet up again Dave!
Hey Dave, your videos are great! I am planning to be in Tokyo in November for a couple weeks. I am hoping the weather will be better. I'll shoot a message once in town.
this was awesome vid thanks dave and drew
Hey Dave, that's another great video! As I am living in Germany with my japanese girlfriend and daughter I can totally see all your points. I changed a lot, even though I do not live in Japan. If you'd ever want to have the other side in a video, a japanese person that moved to Europe/Germany, or just like to have a discussion, feel free to contact us!
Hi Yuki and Simon. Thanks for checking out the video. That sounds like a fantastic conversation that many people would enjoy participating in. I'll make a note to contact you.
Drew seems like a pretty nice guy. He as this nice, decent character. It's a pity, that he doesn't have an own youtube channel. I would really appreciate his point of view and experiences in and with the knowledge of living this long as a (former?) foreigner in Japan.
But because this isn't the case, you Dave, just have to make more videos featuring him ;)
Keep it up, you are a nice and sympathetic duo
Great point around 6:50 . I do not know if I am wrong or not but I´ve always felt the same...
Nice vid! I remember your buddy from that Machiya video (looks like he might have moved on from Kyoto)
Hey Dave, thanks for sharing.
Great video per the usual. More drumming!
Both of you have interesting insights on your respective experiences. Thanks for sharing. I think just preparing to go to Japan has changed me positively. I try to learn everything I can before going so I will have a quality experience. I learn so much to prepare that even if I end up not going, I still am improved as a person. I plan on going to Tokyo in about three weeks.
I am going to Kamakura, also.
One thing that jumps out at me is how the Japanese keep going after so many hardships.
2018 thus far has been one disaster after another.
I admire their resolve to keep going in spite of the earthquakes, volcanoes, heatwaves, tsunamis, upside down demographics, enormous national debt, threats from China, North Korea, Russia, and no oil.
Great video! What type of camera did you use? Great quality!
You have come a long way. Too poor to donate, but I may be moving to Japan soon. I appreciate your thoughtful advise!
Thanks so much for sharing your stories,Dave ur a Champion. Arigato👌🍺
Food and mass transit were two areas where Japan changed me for good.
some good points here. particularly about using politeness to create distance.
Interesting stuff dude, Drew seems super chilled, chicken cartilage on the other hand is not (actually has the texture of egg shells) and that reading the air thing will definitely improve your spider senses 😁😁!
In traveling and growing up around immigrants from all over the world I've learned there are many tones to respect and that among some crowds, what is rude for one group may be respectful or another. Sometimes 'rude honesty' is respectful, for instance. I've also learned many ways to appologize when getting such things wrong. There's also the fun of backhanded compliments among some people that others just can't comprehend the existence of.
It's very interesting and I can learn English from your RUclips videos
I'm lucky, thanks
Thanks appreciate it. Are you Japanese?
@@DaveTrippin
Yes, of course I'm Japanese and I'm living Osaka
@@dollmr439 so cool. I've so interested to know what Japanese viewers think of my content. Great to hear it's a positive impression.
very interesting topics as a Japanese.
Thank you,Dave.
Ah that's always refreshing. I'm so often curious what a Japanese perspective would be of my content.
I love your decent personality.
keep up the good work!
Really interesting video!
I have always thought about living abroad after finishing college, and I'm starting to like the idea of going to Japan.
I know this is a hard question to answer, but do you think most foreigners like japan more than their own country once they have been there for a few years?
As I can only really speak from my own experience I'd say I simply feel split now. I love both. I feel like I have two homes.
Many people don't know this but RELIGION has a huge impact in a society. Understanding the spiritual and religious beliefs of a group of people allows you to not only know why they behave in such way but it also gives you the opportunity to change those people's perspective and as a result, their lifestyles.
Excellent on many levels Charles. Thank you🙏🏻
gr8 as always Dave, thanks
nice music
interesting topics
but it would have been nice to know who it changed you two not in regards to how you see Japan and interact there,
but how it might have changed you two in regards to how you see your homeplace, how it feels to give a tip again, how it feels to just sit down for 2-3 hours after meal
Very interesting video, I had thought about moving to Japan 3 years ago and wonder what I would be like now as a person. Decided I need to stop wondering and just do, have an interview with Interac next month :) looking to continue my vlogging focusing on sports/esports, would be a great experience to meet you should I have the chance!
Do it man! Coming to Japan was one of these best things I've done and would recommend for anyone. Even if it's for a year, the experience is worth it. All the best with the application.
Awesome man! I'll be following your journey through your vlog :)
A Side of Miso I watch your videos! I can relate to the video you made about requesting an area of Japan and them sending you to the other side haha I had a similar experience when on a program studying in America. want to spend more time on youtube/twitch in the future to build a brand around fitness and gaming. Japan would be an experience for both of these areas. Looking forward to more videos!
Lubo great to hear, I currently work long hours in my Job so don't have the time I would like to dedicate to youtube/twitch but making changes for the future so hopefully I can create content that adds value for people.
@@bryanhenderson7101 that's dope bro, would be cool to meet up and do some fitness videos once you're out here. Keep me updated on your progress 💪🏽💪🏽👌🏽
Thank you for this
Thanks for watching.
Wow!!! You were 28 when you got here? By the time Im 28 (this year), it will be 6 years since Ive come to Japan. After almost 6 years, I still havent been back to my home country yet.
Japan is great. Adapting to the culture and living here was hell... but it was worth.
Thanks for sharing 👍🏻👍🏻
旬。no ..! you are not wrong. it is exactly where and when you use this word. im glad this word is widely used :)
I am going to call you "positive Dave". Excellent video.
Hi Dave, really interesting topic! I especially enjoyed when you guys talked about "Tatemae/Honne" ...I'd love for you to discuss about these topics more in depth in a future video, as this is one of the biggest differences in Japanese people vs rest of the world （by the way, how do we subscribe to Drew's channel & also see his "omoiyari" documentary??）~
Can you teach me how to get another job apart from Interac?
Its always interesting experiencing different cultures. One of the reasons why I really want to go to Japan. In terms of my own experience, well I have only lived in California and Texas and holy crap the difference. I found people in California to be much more materialistic and health nuts to an almost psychotic level. Not to say they are bad people. A lot of my friends still live there actually. Then there is Texas and boy does that state live up to that southern hospitality stereotype. I find people here to be much more patient (mostly) and friendly. Also the food is better. So are the drivers. The roads suck though. Obviously in both states there are exceptions but this a generalized overview of my own personal experience.
In any case, as always I loved the video and am already looking forward to your next one. Keep up the awesome work. =)
What does Drew do?
He's a business relations account manager for Google.
@@DaveTrippin hey, thanks for the quick reply!
Do you feel that going in as a teacher is a good foot in the door to go full on corporate at a later date?
Yeah in English you have to try and make something more grandiose to show appreciation, you destroy the meaning of the word and make it less significant. I like the different scales of appreciation that Japanese language has.
Great Vid :)
Dave nice video..👍🏻
What your job in japan,,,
Does Drew have a RUclips channel? Or an Instagram?
drewkentkyoto instagram
@@DaveTrippin thanks, buddy
It sucks how guilt ridden western men are about relationships with women
One thing your friend definitely picked up is the (from a western perspective) excessive "uh-huh-ing" :D
Insightful and introspective. Also thanks for the link! I'm watching about 50 channels now about Japan and the themes you talked about seem consistent amongst them all. My wife and I have been binging on Japanology Plus from NHK and appreciate the deep dive they go into a topic, too. I also just saw a TEDx Talk, ruclips.net/video/d0yGdNEWdn0/видео.html How to learn any language in six months | Chris Lonsdale | TEDxLingnanUniversity
, that you might find interesting. Another language learning tip that I have heard so many times but have never until now taken very seriously is to begin with children's songs because in many respects that is how we begin to learn language as a young child.
Wanting to do something for someone isn't a "traditional gender role". Its doing what you want because its what you want to do. Being "obligated" by traditional gender roles, which is exactly what you are referring to (but trying to manpoligize for horribly), is extremely unhealthy. If you want to cook for someone, good on you, if you don't good on you. Sorry, but the drawn out explanation was very awkward and you know you stepped in a ditch which you didn't get out of. Nothing "traditional" about gender roles is healthy or even necessary, thats a psychological fact. Encouraging a person's interests and sharing responsibilities is healthy.
Don't isolate yourself. There are people who have been through what you might be facing right now and they overcame it. Don't push people away, surround yourself with people who are spiritually mature and get the help that you need. Isolation when you are in pain and don't know if there's a way out is dangerous and that's why we have suicide cases. Listen, there's nothing that you can be facing that God is not able to solve for with God nothing is impossible. Hold on. Jesus loves you.
y'all have a real cute story there. real cute you guys.
Your a foreigner I want to practice English with, the appropriate response, sure what's for dinner or lunch depending on the time of day, no meal no lesson ;).
I'm waiting to watch it with my girlfriend tomorrow.
I'm sure it's good.
長く続いてることには意味があります。長くと言ったとき日本は他の国と違う長さがあります。そこに他の国の人が少しでも気づきその意味を
理解してもらえると嬉しいです。
Thanks for the kind words Mariko. I really enjoy getting the unique Japanese perspective on my content.
I like your objectivity towards gender roles. Refreshing.
God I miss Japan... luckily my working visa will be here soon :)
Nice vid
Didn't you used to hangout with that guy tkyosam? 😂
Cheers
Gosh I wanna do this so bad. Like so bad.
Man do I have some Japanese dating stories for you... great video though
Too many damn foreigners leaving their own countries to move to Japan for whatever glorified reason they have.
To the person reading this, you are who God says you are. You are made in the image of God, The Creator of heaven and earth. Because of His love for you and I, He sent His only Son Jesus Christ to die for you so that you can have everlasting life and not go to hell. Jesus Christ arose from the dead, He is alive and is the only Messiah, the King of kings, the Beginning and the End. Jesus Christ is the Savior of the whole world. Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, invite Him into your heart/life today. Wherever you are, He can hear you for He is everywhere. Remember Jesus Christ is the ONLY way to God the Father. Jesus loves you sooooo much so that He gave His life for you. You are valuable...You are loved.
It would have been nice to lead with a more profound example about traditional roles in relationships... most modern, internationalized Japanese women I’ve met confess that they don’t actually enjoy the serving thing, they just do it because it’s a societal expectation and there’s no fighting it. There are many ways to demonstrate caring for your significant other and the paying/serving paradigm has to be one of the most archaic out there🙄
Perhaps you missed the part about how it's important that it be the person's actual choice? I'm not even being sarcastic. That would change your whole understanding and negative impression I think. If we want to do something (a service) the point is that it's best enjoyed when not under duress. In my experience it's not that Japanese women dislike it. It's that they hate feeling compelled.
DaveTrippin I did catch that part, but this is the point: most women I have heard talk about this custom don’t like it and don’t want to do it; however they feel pressure to do it because of expectation and societal pressure. That’s not choice, that’s obligation. Also they are so, so polite that it seems like it would be difficult or awkward to have that kind of straightforward talk.
Moreover it was off-putting that serving someone was the example you chose to highlight why you appreciate the concept of traditional gender roles, which as pointed out by another commenter (and loads of research) have been proven to not actually be very healthy. For me, that section of the video had a definite mansplaining vibe, which was disappointing as I found the videos about English teaching to be fairly informative.
@@carolinewjordan Again more delicately than I would usually approach this I'll restate. We very specifically are referring to women (or men) who enjoy being able to do a service for thier partner. Your point, that an expectation exist makes the act frustrating is entirely true, I would add, for both sexes. What matters if that we're able to freely express our appreciation for one another. Service, generosity, whatever you want to call it. I appreciate that act when it is not demonized. Necessarily in the east when it is a compulsive behavior people don't like it. I wouldn't either. But I repeat, when it is not under duress. When we *choose to act in service of the person we love. There are few things more beautiful and kind. I'm making this effort in the hopes that you'll perhaps see. To give freely of yourself isn't the flaw, but to do so of an obligation is. I appreciate you didn't lose your shit and just rage comment. Many would 😉
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