Mortuary Makeup for Difficult Bodies
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
- Desairologist Monica Torres (and her assistant Debbie) instruct me on the art of restoring the dead.
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Mortician: Caitlin Doughty
Producer: Louise Hung (@LouiseHung1)
Editor & Graphics: Landis Blair (@landisblair)
My wife beat cancer of the tongue 3 x. By the time she past from her 4th fight, her jaw had been replaced once in a 15 hour operation, had her face flitted off her scull 2x in operations, the cancer had eaten out a 5” x 5” hole in the front of her neck, and her reconstructed chin had turned inward and downward into where her neck had been (which had been hollowed out by the cancer).
I fully expected to have a closed casket funeral but I handed Kathleen ( the woman who removed my wifes body from our home and was a close friend of hers in life as well as our Desairologist ) a photo of my wife on our wedding day and said “do your best but no worries I’m not expecting miracles”
I went to view the body and saw the face of the woman I married 18 years before. I got a miracle. It was incredible. She even cut parts of her wedding gown we were burying her in and sewed a scarf which covered the surgical scars around the base of her neck. I swear the work was perfection.
you have no idea what a healing comfort this was even 9 years later. This is one of the most loving and important jobs in life,
forever thankful.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your wife was a fighter and warrior and I am glad that you were able to see her beautiful self one last time.
Made me tear up. So sorry for your loss but so happy for you that they were able to provide the comfort.
Wow, that is so touching 😢
I have been a cosmetologist 23 years. This interests me especially knowing the family has a softer goodbye that is less traumatic. 💖
@@SnowFamilyOf4 we're a very religious family, I don't know what your particular beliefs are so I can only ask you that you take these comments from the perspective that we have
I Find your profession to be one of the most holiest on the planet. You have my deepest thanks and prayers for your success and well-being
My scripture say that death is our greatest enemy, and the grief in the damage that it brings to those who remain, you're on the front line softening that blow,
@@salvationsplace I am a very Religious minded as well. I lost my third child, he was stillborn at full term a week after a healthy gender ultrasound. One day after my baby shower. The hospital gave us as much time with his body that we needed. We spent 24 hours with him in the hospital holding and loving him, family came to see him. The experience was so deeply traumatic but the professionals involved were angels on earth. I remember the woman who took his body to dress and prepare for burial. She had her work office in her home. She told me she sung to my baby boy while she dressed and prepared him. I will forever be grateful for her beautiful soul and complete respect for the grieving family.
My husband died in a car accident. The kids and I needed to see him before we laid him to rest. The mortician did a wonderful job fixing him up. The job you do means a lot to families.
I'm so sorry to hear about your husband :( I wondered if it brought comfort to the family for this much effort to be put into making over the body. Now I know that it does. May eternal rest be granted unto your husband and peace be with you.
wait omg i accidentally hit dislike im so soo sorry for your loss
I am so sorry for your loss. That had to be awful.
My condolences about your husband. And I hope you find peace and acceptance in your life. Sending good thoughts x
I am so sorry about your husband. I am glad you were able to see him.
My grandma passed on Thursday and today I went and did her hair,makeup,and nails. I didn’t want a stranger getting her ready. It was actually comforting being able to care for her. She took care of me in life and it was only right that I care for her in death.
So sorry for your loss
Gwendoline Le Goff Thank you
Could you give some advice to a person on how you were able to get that done? The person said his grandmother wants him to do her makeup when she dies. The person channel is Alexander's Dimension. They are in the comment section.
That's so sweet. Sorry for your loss.
Bless you, that is such a meaningful tribute to your loved one.
We had a cousin who flipped his truck - a guy cut him off, and my cousin went into the ditch. Unfortunately his window was open, and he didn’t believe in seatbelts. His arm got caught between the truck and the culvert, and the left side of his face was sanded off, eye out, etc. His wife wanted an open casket, and they ended up putting a silk drape over the face and an orangish light. Don’t do that. Please don’t. His daughter had nightmares for months. Just keep the lid down and remember them alive.
How devastating. I am so sorry.
This is so incredibly sad
My friend was involved in an auto-ped accident in February. He was in a coma for nearly two weeks before succumbing to his injuries. He had quite a few surgeries on his brain done and I think they had to remove part of his skull. His family chose to do a closed-casket service, and honestly, I’m thankful. while i’m sure they would’ve made him look okay, I just wanted to remember my friend the way I knew him.
Yeah, that’s crazy
Nellie Olsen I don’t understand how anyone would want an open casket after such a tragic accident. In all the funerals that I’ve ever been to, if the deceased had massive damage to his body, the relatives would choose to have a closed casket viewing, or to just avoid the viewing, cremate the body and then have a group gathering for prayers.
About 8 years ago, my cousin was killed during a robbery and got shot in the side of his face. His mom is severely cardiac and I - as the person who got to see his body first in the mortuary - and the rest of the family were very concerned about her seing it and have an attack (she was sent to the emergency room when she got the news). Thanks to mortuary makeup, his mom got to see her son for the last time and spent time with him in a way that she recognized his face. I was extremely thankful for the mua allowing them a proper goodbye. 🙏
So sorry about your cousin and for his family.
I am so sorry about your cousin, and so grateful for his mom. ❤🐞
This made me cry. What an amazing service. I want to be able to help people like this. I wonder if it’s too late for me to learn?
@@Rose_from_UK ' Too late to learn ' is when you're dead … do it !
Mari Santarem ~ Viiixxxen ....okay, now I feel a little small about the comment I made. We have a young death in our family, too. And yes, people who do this are indeed very very special and talented. No complaints when my mother and father passed. Lost a 27 yo nephew who no one saw. And my best friend who died at 37 from mouth cancer. She had a wig on, which I wanted to pull off and throw it out the damn window. She Never wore a wig. A doorag, but no damn wig!!🤗😃🤣😂😁GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR GOOD MEMORIES, MAY THE OTHERS FADE....TRULY, Danielle in Philly.
I promised my Mom that I would do her make up if anything happened. We used to do each others make up, so I knew what she would have wanted. The funeral director let me use a nice room. I think it was a viewing room. They did do the base so it would all flow evenly. I invited her best friend. We brought champagne and music my Mom loved. The rest of the family thought it was morbid and that I had lost my mind. They said for sure they wouldn't be there because it was too much for them. Well guess what!!! That room was full of the family that was against it. In the end, she looked like an angel. All of her friends (that didn't know I did it) said how beautiful she looked. I kept my promise and I have no regrets.
I’m so glad you had that time left with your mother. I’m sure she absolutely loved and appreciated it.
That isn't morbid. Families used to dress up their loved ones and take pictures with them one last time. Even that isn't morbid because that was a commonality in the culture of that time.
That was so nice to hear.
Thank you so much! @@nannabanana2568
Not morbid at all! What a beautiful, lovely way to say goodbye. Good for you for keeping your promise even though others didn't understand it at the time. ❤️
What a beautiful memory! Much like the wakes the Irish always held. They were celebrations of life, not death. There was food and wine and laughter and music and rejoicing. It's always seemed such a pity to me that the customs were lost and changed by other cultures who thought of the Irish as pagans and heathens. I'd love to have a real 18th century Irish wake when I go, but of course, everyone think such talk is absolutely scandalous.
My son was murdered 4 1/2 years ago. Being able to see him and spend time telling him goodbye meant the world to me. He had been out in the 110 temps for over 12 hours during the investigation, but he looked like himself and I was grateful for that.
I am so sorry about your son. I’m glad you were able to sit with him.
I'm glad that you got to see your son look normal. Today I pray that you & you family are doing ok, and that God has wrapped his arm around you.
i’m so sorry for your loss:(
I cannot imagine the strenght it took for you to survive it. I hope there's justice,as much as there can be any for taking a life,and I hope you find peace and closure. My best friend was murdered and it nearly broke me...I cannot begin to comprehend your pain. I wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart, internet stranger.
Im so sorry about abour son honey.. Im sending all my love, hugs, and comfort to you and your family.. Just remember that he loved you SO much, you sound like an amazing mama and he wouldnt want you to be heartbroken.. What comforts me alot, is thinking of what the loved one would have said to you if they KNEW they were going to pass soon.. I guarantee you he would have told you he loved you so much, you were the best mom ever, and THANKYOU for everything you did for him.. and to be happy 💕💕
When my uncle was murdered, they carved his face into mincemeat. My grandmother still wanted an open coffin and God bless the people who restored him, really gave her comfort.
Crieko oh my gosh I’m so sorry. I’d like to know more, if you’re willing to tell. If not I totally understand and I hope I don’t upset you by asking
emily-sioux i too am interested in how they performed that
@@MakaylasLifee I don't think they'd know 😑 they didn't do the restoring
Crieko ❤️
@@noiz1762 they're clearly asking about the murder...
We need a feature length documentary, twelve minutes was not enough
its so disrespectful but i wanna see it on real bodies, i feel like the craftsmanship that goes into it on a 3d wrinkly slowly decaying body must be incredible
Agreed. I also agree that it would be interesting to see a real case. I would probably pay to see it. Not because I have a gore fetish or something but because I am intrigued by the artistry that can be used to restore a person to a state that will bring comfort to a family. I had a dear friend who passed from a gun wound to the face. I would have loved to have seen him one last time. I was told there was no way that they could have "fixed" him up. I don't know what the limits are to something like this, but I can definitely appreciate what they are doing for the loved ones of the deceased as well as for the person they are working on.
I want a feature length documentary on Caitlin's life. It would be really cool and interesting to see how she got into death. It would also be cool to see how she came to own a funeral home.
@Jason Marsden the part where you're hoping they wheel in a super mangled face for a satisfying restoration might be. its not like they're restoring antique paintings for private collections
Yeah, only thing missing is a dead person
my beauty school teacher said this is a great field, customers rarely complain
Insert morbid chuckle. TBH, I know a lot of cosmetologists that also moonlight working with funeral homes. It actually is a good field if you're not squeamish and it is always in demand. Death really is the one thing you can always count on in life and it's nice to know there are people that are doing their best for the deceased.
WOW!!
Your unhappy customers can haunt you though.
You wrong for that lol
Paula kreinberg I screamed
Omg mortuary makeup is so important. My mom was bedridden, I was so worried mom wasn't going to look presentable for funeral viewing. Mom had been sick for awhile and just wasn't able to keep up with normal grooming activities that were very important to her in life such as having her hair colored and style. I then requested her to have a root touch up, styled ,makeup and nails done. The funeral home was happy to carry out her last wishes and she looked very beautiful. I was so happy mom was going to be remembered the way she wanted to be remembered.
My condolences.😑🌹
Sorry about your loss💔💔
@@staribarra9656 thank u
her deeds would be remember ed to all
i hope it doesn’t sound insane but i really wish videos like this had actual corpses so we can truely see the difference
Patrycja Zdunek you can donate your body to mortuary science programs for these types of educational content
Probably just a censorship and consent issue.
She doesn’t want a Logan Paul situation
Michael Merritt oh my god
you must not know dick about starkid that’s true.. it’d be cool to be able to see things like that without having to do it illegally or pay a lot of money
My sister use to do the makeup and hair here at the funeral home...most times she had to do at night cause to many distraction's during the day...alot of time she was alone said was quiet and eerie but she loved her job and did her best to make them look good for family...she did it for nearly 6 years before passing away herself of a brain aneurysm at 32..they did a good job with her to...she looked good ...always miss her but always proud of her for what she did for others
excalibar13 32! So sorry to hear that.
Its an art and it takes someone special
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Sorry to hear that
Your sister sounds like she was a great person and impacted the world for the better. Rest in peace ❤
I guess you could say less is mortuary 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Bada bum tsssss...😆
oh fuck no ahaha
I like that
Bonez ....🤗🤣😂😁😀😆😚😎
Genius 😂
The lady wearing the pink top( Monica Torres)is the real deal!! She’s so knowledgeable and very professional.
She's very well spoken.
Her name is Monica!
And very pretty too.
@@pattygirl6372 I always thought that too.
All that laughing is not professional
Im a makeup artist and my grandma loves getting her makeup done by me, she recently told me while I was doing her makeup that she loved how I hade her look because she feels young and beautiful.
She wants me to do her makeup for her funeral and It was a really tough thing to think about since she's only 65 but it's a reality ill eventually have to come to terms with when she passes away. She suffers from Alzheimer's disease and I don't know which paperwork we need to get done before she's on a more advanced stage of Alzheimer's. I would appreciate some advice to make my grandmother's post death wishes true.
Thank you so much for the content you put out into the world and for educating all of us on such a serious and tabu topic.
best regards,
-Alexander.
Oh my gosh Cailtin needs to see this, you should tweet her.
If not, depending on where you are you could go to citizens advice bureau where they'll look into this for you for free.
I'm in the UK and it's not expensive to make a will, you could mention it to your grandmother and include that wish in the will.
If you're in US you can have your Grandma fill out an advanced directive asking for whatever she would like. In any case talk to the funeral home and see if they will work with you. If not, try a different funeral home. Honestly it's not in any way illegal, it will just depend on the funeral homes policies, which is where the will or advanced directive helps.
Living will and testament direct hospitals have them
At med school, in anatomy class, my teacher told us, by the end of first year, to write an thank you letter to the corpse we used to study. She was heavilly botched and very yellow for the weekends spent in formol, and i tryied my best to "dress her up" for the reading of the thanks note. Found my old wig (that looked like how her hair should have being) got her some age appropriate clothes and because her face was not dissected, it kinda worked like a wake. When everyone got there to the final class, she was looking very decent. Teacher loved it. Everyone read their letters and it got quite emotional in the end. We ended up requesting her to be cremated (and not be striped for the bones, as most of the corpses were) and they did what we asked. Her ashes were still on the anatomy lab last time i checked, in a nice little box. We called her gloria in thr end.
Monique Sampaio
This is so sweet...
What a lovely story. This is a classic example of death embracing the positive. Instead of death perception being all fear, violence and sadness. More people need positive death stories.
This is wonderful!!!
Thanks guys. I remember that story because i tryied to make her face less yellow and failed completely, had to wash her head and assemble it back. The lipstick worked better, tho. And the old wig covered a lot of things. She was my second cadaver and the first one we never knew what happened to him, but he was not in the lab anymore and i felt bad about not knowing and people not knowing when i asked. Like he didn't mattered. I was surprised by my second teacher actually take the last class to honor the corpse and make us reflect on that.
My grandmother gave her body to science. I have felt bad thinking of it, but this was a very big help. Thank you.
I feel like this is the perfect job for beauty gurus that are antisocial.
“What do you think, Mrs. Smith?...”.
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“They are always speechless. I love my job!”
I would love this lol
I wanna do this so badly
This is me... social anxiety... love working alone... i have an interest in forensics etc...
but im a hair and makeup artist 😂 on the living
Elizabeth Crossley I found your next career! 😂😂
Yes!!!
One of my close friends died in a car accident a bit over a year and a half ago. When I heard it was open casket I was afraid to see the way she looked. I don't know the desairologist at my local funeral home, but I wish I could thank them. She looked so peaceful, almost like she accidentally fell asleep after putting on makeup.
Honestly, I wasn’t expecting this channel to hit so hard, emotionally. I don’t have a lot of emotions, generally speaking. Seeing these women care about dead people makes me think that maybe someone will care about me and respect me and think about my family when I die...and I didn’t expect that to be so emotionally significant. At the same time, I appreciate that they don’t coddle people with their information. When it comes to death, it is what it is, but at the same time, it’s not without humanity, empathy, and kindness.
I never really thought about death until I found this channel, but now I feel like a stronger, healthier person. Thank you Caitlin 💕
Im impressed with the amount of skills this woman has. Like, from make up to hair to using a fking drill and putting a human skull back together...most underrated job on earth!!!
Diletta Comini 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤💀
Shes the real MVP!!!!
Thank you for noticing that. It makes me happy to see people learn more about working in death care.
Brain surgeons and plastic surgeons can't do it.... I know from personal experience.
I’m living (pun intended) for this 90’s employee training video vibe
My grandpa passed away a couple of months ago. He had a massive heart attack and fell down the stairs. He had been sick for the last 4 years. The people at the funeral home made him look so good. They made look like he's never been sick
Why? What didint you leave her alone
My mother STILL goes on about a relative that had to have a closed-casket funeral. As a whole, the family just hasn't gotten over it. Monica Torres and those that do similar work would have spared her and the family that agony. Such work is really, really meaningful to the bereaved.
Many families opt for a closed casket. Or not having a vigil at all.
Closed casket for my grandmother. I saw my husband in his casket and sort of wish I hadn’t. He looked like a dummy. You could tell the soul or spirit or whatever was gone.
Speaking from personal experience, sometimes, it's more merciful to the family/friends of the deceased to just not let them see the body. Sometimes, there isn't enough "material" left to be able to make them look as 'normal' as possible. It's horrible, and painful not being able to see your loved one again, but sometimes, it's just the least bad option. I'm sorry your family wasn't able to have an open casket if that's what they really wanted. I hope you all were able to find some healing and peace afterwards.
That's true. Imagination is probably worse than the reality
My ex-boyfriend’s step dad, to whom I was always close, was adamant: CLOSED CASKET. Well, when the day came some outside members were pressuring family to make it open. As if in a final act of his own determination, his body was simply too swollen and discolored. I know they all had a chuckle about it and are all content with their memories of him in life.
I would have gladly attended his service, as our families go back 6 generations and when we split his mom and stepdad told him they were keeping me. Unfortunately I had a spinal injury that prevented me from travel. It was a work day, so I live-streamed the funeral in my classroom while working. I remember staring at the casket and hating it for taking him from us. Irrational, yea, but it needed to be furious at something.
I had to plan my moms service. I brought you up to the director and he said and I quote " oh you are a deathling ". He let me go in do her hair, and nails, and help dress her. I think he knew I knew I could because I watch you. So thank you I got to spend some quiet time with her body. He even asked if I wanted to be present when th he began her cremation but I didnt want to.
I’m sorry for your loss but also touched by your empowerment gained through this channel. I think your story is the goal.
Sorry for your loss. What a beautiful thing he let you do! Wish more would be so open!
I'm sorry you lost your mom.
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 xoxo
That is so nice that you got to do her makeup.
Can you talk about still born babies? Like what is different or what is the same as far as preparing them and burrying them? Also, it wasn't that long ago that if a baby was still born they wouldn't let the parents see or hold their baby in the hospital. My grandma had a still born baby in the 60s, they knew he would be still born going into labor and the nurses quickly whisked the body away and she never got to see him. I had a still born son last year, and we knew going into labor that he had already passed. The nurses had an outfit for him to wear, let us take as much time with him as we wanted, and even had a professional photographer volunteer who comes in to take pictures of the baby with parents for free. I believe it was called, "Now I lay me down to sleep photography."
go check out Kari northey videos she has one about this x
I'm so sorry for your loss. My family had a similar experience with my eldest sister's unborn daughter passing suddenly a couple weeks before her due date. She opted to deliver in a natural birthing center attended by midwives and also had a volunteer photography come to take some really lovely pictures, and once she and her husband had enough alone time with her the rest of us were allowed to spend time with her. As horrible as the whole thing was, I am relieved that the system treats families with more care and respect nowadays. Being able to hold her and kiss her goodbye really helped us all though it.
i am sorry for your loss. my daughter went into early labor with her twins and they were born alive and passed quickly. she kept them in room with her for few days. there are people who knit tiny hats and a photographer who did pics as well. so special,
I'd like to know this too, as both of my older sisters in 1976 and 1982 were stillborn. My parents had Rh incompatible blood types and my mother was never given the proper medication during her pregnancies (including with me).
@@laura121684 That's why my grandma had her still born baby as well. They had a shot developed, but if you were already exposed and your body created the antibodies, (which happened to my grandma in the 50s before they invented the shot) it no longer works. It's only preventative unfortunately. I too have RH negative blood, but that wasn't why my son passed away. We never got any answers.
This brings back so many memories... losing my brother when he was 19... going to the viewing and him being plastered with makeup. Horribly. My mom asked for remover... we cleaned him up. Until he looked like himself. Slightly bruised but more himself. It made her feel better. Less is more. What you do matters.
This is literally my dream job and I didn’t realize it was an actual career
I discovered this job because of an anime lmao
@@helloimsomeone447 please tell me which anime
@@helloimsomeone447 which one is it
I'm noticing that in my job, I also use brushes on dead bodies. The difference is that we intervene long after the funeral: archaeology is reverse desairology!
Mister Brick That’s perfect. I’ll never look at archeology the same way.
My cousin was murdered last February and the description of the night she had to endure was extremely violent. The MUA at the funeral home was a make up artist for sephora for 10yrs and she did a amazing job on her. I cant imagine how it must feel to have to reconstruct someone and then make them look like themselves, it sounds like one hell of a job and I'm happy people with such patience are able to do it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad that makeup artist did such an amazing job, though. I hope it brought some comfort.
I'm so sorry for your loss
@Cypress Esparza
I’m sorry for your loss of your cousin. My mom said that when she saw her deceased mother at the viewing she was disappointed with the makeup job the funeral home had done, that it was obviously makeup and a very poor job. Her Mom died from a cancer so there was no damage to her face and in life her Mom didn’t wear any makeup anyway except for a little lipstick. 💄 Her Mom died in the late 1950s. I attended the viewing and funeral of a young man who got lost in a sudden snowstorm on a local mountain and died of hypothermia in 2005. Whoever did his makeup did a terrible job also. The face was too dark, the lips were too red and his hair had been sprayed into a hard helmet. He was just 15 years old.
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔
Im so sorry. Very happy you could say goodbye in a dignified way 💙
Wow things have changed. I grew up in a funeral home. I remember when I was little dad was going to school to learn reconstructive work. He would have a clay head they would smash up, a picture, and he had to rebuild the face.
My sweet grandfather died back in 2013 and somehow, they totally butchered his makeup. The jaundice was still very apparent and he looked cakey....
Turns out my poor gran didn’t read the reviews and we got the WORST person in our city. It absolutely sucked, but that made me appreciate the hard work and effort that goes into doing this as a profession. Thank you for what you do.
We were told that when someone has Jaundice it can be very hard to get the yellow out of their skin especially if they are very yellow
LittleMissFairy Bread I understand that! I can imagine how hard it is. I think they just picked the wrong shade for him. It’s kind of funny looking back on it now, because we’ve come a long way in makeup!!
So sad, I spent a lot of money and still got an awful deal. Strength to your family
I am so sorry your family experienced this. Sending prayers that God will give you the mind for the best memories of your Grandpa.
I love your pic honey haha Noel is my fav... And im so sorry about your grandpa 💕
the youtube algorithm is really working wonders with this one...
Seriously! Really popped off this time around
which is shocking considering how much youtube hates topics like these!
Haha ikr this popped up in my suggested next to curly hair tutorials and Juicy Jaz’s channel GRWM
Same here. I was like wtf youtube is doing recommending me this stuff but then i stayed and now i am glad i get to know the work of people like these, they really help people so much with their job. Amazing.
well uhh, right below this video on my recommended was “can i have a dead man’s child”. sooooo, yeah that youtube algorithm thoo 😂
update: both videos were actually very surprisingly wholesome :)
The title is making me think of a very pissy undead person squirming about on the table like a kid. 'I don't even LIKE blue eyeshadow!'
Mortuary Makeup for Assholes. LOL!
Pippin Major Dead person: *Comes back to life* "Ugh, please pick a less ugly color." *Dies again*
@@CommanderWiggins that's a strong mood right there
@@CommanderWiggins That would be me after I die. :) If the mortician gives me a bad makeup look I'm going back to haunt them and constantly criticize their cosmetic skills.
Ahhh the famous and ever present mortuary blue eyeshadow! Uggh. I can almost forgive it when it's a dude doing the make up, but when I find a woman has done that I just want to give her shaken baby syndrome.
when my aunt passed, they forgot to put mascara on her, so we asked the funeral director, he found some but got it on her cheek, and he actually did spit on his finger and wiped it off, while me and my aunt's bff was standing up there watching him. She shouted "holy crap, did you just spit shine her" but we laughed, my aunt would have found that hilarious! So no harm done
I graduated cosmetology school. Ever since then, I have been looking into doing this type of work. Thank you so much for making s video on this! I will be looking into it more so that I may send people off looking fabulous! ❤️
"how badly do you wanna see me-"
video has been out for a day, already at *43K likes*
@@Jtzkb ofc
52k now wooo
55K 😁
56k in the early am of March 7th 2019 the video section where she low balls her guess ruclips.net/video/tMyzwMCGl-k/видео.html
57K March 8 morning. We get to see her again.
There aren't any mistakes, only happy corpse accidents.
any time my fear of death threatens to get the better of me, I watch a few of your videos and feel soothed by the fact that death is just a part of life
Thank you so much, I just got a job as an assistant Desairologist and this is SUPER helpful.
1960's Clint Eastwood but Clint I thought you just did the shooting of the heads
Hunny Bunny He's been feeling sentimental in his old age. Trying to give back
1960's Clint Eastwood what state? How did you do it? I’m a cosmetologist but there’s no info how to get started
@@itseasybeezy I live in São Paulo Brazil. Here, you need to go to school, mine lasted one year. Plus I'm a bachelor in Industrial Design and the morgue's Manager is my mom's friend for years and I got the job due to lack of personnel in graveyard shifts. We work 24/7 non-stop and I've had 36 hours shifts, but there a comfy couch on the breaking room I take my naps there sometimes.
@@wolpertinger. so I don't have to work on closed caskets. Because you know, who needs make up after a 45 Long Colt to the head?
The artists that worked on my grandmother did an amazing job when she passed in 2004. My poor grandmother was very bruised from blood thinners and her face was very gaunt and sucked in, and her hair was so thinned from meds and age. And the artist made her look like she just stepped back 20 years in Time and had a relaxing weekend at the spa. So major kudos to what these artists do!
choirkitty same with my mom
As a hospice nurse I cared for someone for a few months, and the person died, of course. I was stunned at how beautiful the person looked at the funeral, never having seen that person healthy in life.
My Mom was only 66 when she died from evil cancer. It made her look 86!!! The mortician knew my family since my small town only had 1 funeral home. They made her beautiful!!! Rob took off those 20 years and then some!! She looked so beautiful people cried. It’s been 23 years, but thanks again Rob M.💕🙋🏽♀️
@Ionasku Alexander probably the one who did the funeral makeup. I mean, who else?
I lost my dad to cancer, I know the life it sucks out of you. It’s shocking to see the pictures before and after the cancer. It makes me sick he had to suffer through it
that’s so sweet..
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I can relate. I lost my beautiful Mama at 66 to that disease on Valentine's 2013. I couldn't, I just couldn't bare to look at her lifeless, emaciated, war torn body; we had her cremated so didn't even attempt to go the makeup, coffin route. Even if the most gifted makeup artist did my mother's makeup, it wouldn't cover up what "it" did to her after such a long and valiant fight. She didn't deserve it and I'm sure yours didn't either. My condolences to all loved ones left behind.
Ionasku Alexander ...Rob M. was the mortician who attended to her after her death. He made her look beautiful again🥰
My loved one hadn’t paid to be embalmed in her pre funeral plan, in less than 6 hours after I requested her funeral directors had her laid out looking just as her self. It meant a lot to see her like that since she died in a hospital gown. Thank you for your content you’ve really made this easier for me 💛
If I could just say to any morticians, GET A PICTURE of the person in real life. Study it. Do their hair like THEY did it, not like you'd do it. :) And I loved this video.
They probably do
No, actually, they don't. It's very sad.
I have to say that in all four of the open casket viewings I have been part of (in separate funeral homes) a picture of the deceased when living was used in the preparation for viewing.
@@marianalopez3132 They did this for my mom. My sister gave them the photo. She looked more like herself than she had in years due to aging, over 100 years old.
I was just binge watching your videos and then this notification popped up lol. I have a story for you:
Yesterday, in my 12th grade english class, we were having a book talk about our free reading books and I was rereading Smoke Gets In Your Eyes and I was expecting awkward silence from my classmates because "ew death no go away mortality" but almost everyonr had questions and we had like a 20 minute discussion about it. I told them about natural burial and home funerals and everyone was like "YOU CAN DO THAT!?!?!?" and they were all completely fascinated. I was shocked, but also happy that I could spread the knowledge of this. If you have a surge of new 17 and 18 year old viewers, that might be the rest of my class cause I told them about your channel. Thank you so much for your videos
Woo hoo! Next generation deathlings! Thank you :)
@@AskAMortician I was so excited, even the really loud and obnoxious guys that sit at the back table were asking questions like, "How long does a body keep on ice?" and one even looked up your channel in class (with the teacher's permission) it was so amazing and I think a lot of people were interested in the home funeral and natural burial. They were very enthusiastic.
Was sitting Shiva last week and was telling everyone about this channel. My uncle, who is a lawyer, didnt believe any of what I was telling him. So yes, we sat watching Ask A Mortician at another uncle's funeral. Good times indeed.
Sadly you may have a influx of death phobic parents that dont think that should be taught in schools. In our current society it seems that people get offended so easily.as a parent that watches Caitlyn with my 10 and 8 yr old thank you. We need death education everywhere.
I gave a copy of Smoke Gets In Your Eyes to my 13 year old niece for this past Christmas .
this ladys needs a PR package from makeup companies so she gets a variety of skin shades!!!!!!!!
Kendall Stout maybe an airbrushing company or SFX makeup....
Yassss
Yes Jeffree should donate some of his PR to them!!!! 👻👍👍👍👍👍👍
"Urban Decay, Corpse Pallette 3"
Susan Higgins I’m screaming 😂😂😂
I did my grandma her make up yesterday. I’m really glad I did and that I could do that for her. With the make up she looked more herself. It is still a lurid thing.. the whole death aspect. May my grandma Rest In Peace 💜😢
I'm sorry for your loss but am glad that you were able to have a precious memory with her.
Akio Kuro Thank you for your kind words
This was so.respectful and informative.
is "my corpse, my choice" on a t-shirt? cuz it should.
Have a look at her merxh store. I'm sure it is and on tote bags
Hell ya
I'm going to make one now I made a hoodie that says "Are you interested in death"
Yay, we passed 50,000. On the table you go 😂🤣😂🤣😂
Update...
WE'RE STILL WAITING 😆😆😆
Martin Pickard lol and when on the table, no complaining because you’re supposed to be dead .
😂😂
Lmaoooo
Yes!!
Counting...we're waiting!
I have a EXTRAORDINARY amount of respect for her career. This is the toughest thing to do-reconstruct a person to look as if they are resting, not dying from a violent experience
This channel has done wonders for helping me cope with my deep fear of loss and endings (not just actual death, but that's in the family too). Not quite ready for some videos but I'm starting to "graduate" from the historical content to the process, and quite it's fascinating
Graduating is such a good way to put it! I hope to "graduate" soon.
I feel the same way. Not looking forward to that day I leave this planet 🌎 but somehow less fearful 🫣
"In no situation should you spit on the deceased" well considering I'm in Mortuary College right now that is good to know!!
earth witch nice👍🏼
No spit shining the corpses. Got it.
I gotta say, that's extremely intuitive advice
There's nothing like death education in the morning
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Me too lolo
I hear Carolina is pretty nice then, too.
Or right before you drift off to sleep, like I do every night
You could have said mourning and I’m honestly so sad that you didn’t
It's a Debora Dollhead too! *laughs in Cosmetologist*
Monica is such an amazing professional, I'm very impressed by her
Beauty gurus are quaking right now.
Marina Blue like ducks?
@@Anatyne Yes.
And armchair quarter backing.....
@@jhanes3791 Also yes.
I can see it now. This video gets shared. There is a rash of RUclips beauty gurus who find out more about the subject and make videos. Then there come the palettes sponsored by these people specifically designed for the dead. The idea is funny, but a good idea at the same time.
So when is she releasing a branded airbrush palette for the dead? I'll preorder.
You'd pretty much have to..
😂 I'll pre-order: underrated comment
My mom recently died suddenly in a plane crash. These videos helped me understand more of what happened after her passing and have given me comfort. Thank you
My father killed himself while sitting in his truck in his parent's drive with a .357 to the temple on his 50th birthday Aug 8 1992. The Mortician did a WONDERFUL JOB.
Big respect for mortuary aestheticians. A relative committed suicide by hanging... thank God the makeup covered most of the bruising of his hands and face . A very young individual, his grandparents would have been even more traumatized than they were. Thank you Monica Torres for your skill and dedication!
OceanSwimmer my heart is breaking for you. I’m so sorry.
Can you do a video about handling the bodies of children and babies? What is different? What is the same? Is it psychologically harder for you to work with them? Any other details you can share or think of?
She talks quite a bit about her personal experiences working with children and babies in her book, 'Smoke Gets in Your Eyes'
Stephanie L ji
Gets me everytime when I have a patient thsgs younger that passes from an illness or an accident. It's tough takes along time to get used too. Working in medicine I've seen many things but when you have a child pass its difficult. I rather deal with an older person than a kid. Takes time and a lot of mental prep, but that's part of the job when you work in medicine and you learn that it's a part of the process of life. 😔😁
I have her first book, she talks in depth about dealing with stillborn babies and such, it's worth a read/listen.
Read her book smoke gets in your eyes great inside to things like that. She also talks a lot about how to talk to children about death and such.
My husband's cousin was murdered. Her sister had to redo her makeup before her funeral. She said her sisters looked awful and she couldn't let their Mom see her that way 😔😢 Thank you both for caring so much. I wish all mua were like you two. 👏👏
As a very young lady I was a cosmetologist and worked with an experienced hairdresser and she and I would go and do the hair and makeup for our clients that had passed. It was not an unpleasant experience. I wish that we had had an airbrush and many of the products that you have to hand. I respect you for the care and respect as well as your professionalism. I'm so impressed with you. I was warned to not burn the client with the curling iron, and since it was my first time I actually did and my partner was very upset with me. But she was able to fix it well enough. thank you for doing what you do for the bereaved families.
My great uncle had been decomposing for 3 weeks before his body was found in his home. For some reason, his kids decided to have an open casket. (To each their own, but I definitely wouldn't have.) I have a feeling the mortician wasn't very experienced with this level of restoration because he looked HORRIFYING. His makeup was very visibly cakey and flaking off in spots. Also, his eyelids were partially open. Pure nightmare fuel.
My Dad was found dead after several days, he was an alcoholic, been on a massive bender and then aspirated his vomit. After we had to sort out his house full of maggots and flies and faeces, my brother wouldn’t view his body, and he advised me not to. I think he knew the mess he was gonna be in. I was 17, and as always, thought I knew best. I’ll never forget it as long as I live. As I stepped into the room I hadn’t realised he’d be right there in front of me, I just assumed I’d be able to approach the coffin slowly. Instead I screamed and literally dropped to my knees. It was fking grotesque. I don’t know if they’d done too much make up, or not enough or what, but I was absolutely terrified. His face was bright yellow and purple and blue, and I mean as bright as a child would paint if you asked them to paint that colour. I could see the lumpy suture line in his hair from the post-mortem while his younger brother was kissing his head. Of course at that time I didn’t know any better and we just paid in full, no questions asked. Lordy if it was *now* I’d be refusing to hand over a damn penny til they put him right! Like you said in your case, it was the stuff of nightmares. And he was only dead for 3-5 days max, not weeks. I can’t even imagine how that must’ve been for you. Was there a bad smell? That’s what I remember most about his house that we had to go in n clean up, the flies, the maggots and *that* smell 🤢😱
@@fairlyvague82 I am so sorry to hear that. It's heartbreaking that they didn't do a better job, or at the very least, tell you there was nothing they could do and recommend a closed casket.
In my case, my great uncle lived a few hours away and, fortunately, I didn't have to set foot in his house. I can't imagine what you had to go through.
I work in special makeup effects and we use similar techniques with wax, which I'm sure originated in the funeral industry, but in a lot of cases. We are obviously going for the opposite in a lot of traditional zombie and trauma looks. Instead of reconstructing, we use the wax to "deconstruct". This was very interesting to watch.
Kelly Brown people used to use morticians wax in sfx. It doesn’t work amazing on the living lol
yeah, i'm pretty interested in sfx makeup(+have a friend who actually is a sfx makeup artist) and i was going to comment that the techniques and tools look more similar to it than what beauty gurus do and use
@@maggiee639 there are still some artists out there like Powdah who use morticians wax. It seems like it would be harder to work it!
Kelly Brown um yea. I feel like it would look unnatural on a living person as well. There are so many better materials to work with that aren’t super expensive.
@@maggiee639 definitely. I always keep ben nye in my kit in case I need wax on set.. I would be sweating bullets if I had to use morticians wax but maybe I just lack the skill. I wonder if morticians wax is harsh on living skin or not.
“Less is always more”..... **sprays debbie’s ENTIRE FUCKING FIVE HEAD** I AM FUCKING CRYING OMG
My aunt and uncle were both murdered in their own house and shot in the head 3 times. The funeral home did an excellent job with getting them ready for the viewing!! This was a very informative video!
my only complaint is that this video was too short lol
That’s my complaint for all of Caitlin’s videos lol, GIVE US MORE!
Alright guys, you know what to do. Let's get her back in Phoenix again.
Hi there my sister died as a result of an accident prescription overdose and we had the viewing just before she was cremated. When I saw her she was smurf blue colour it shocked me!!! I’m wondering is that hard to cover up as I saw this video with your blue glove or did the funeral people here in Oz (Australia) just couldn’t be bothered with her?!! Bye the way just love your videos!!!!
Monica is so thoughtful, respectful & gentle it's amazing to see!
I had the privilege of working with a mortician that was a master of restorative art. There were several cases where we worked hours to rebuild very destructive causes of death. While he didn't do hair styling, he was a wizard in making someone look as natural in death as they did in life. Truly an artist.
The only make up tutorial I'm interested in 😂
You should hop on over to Amy's slaton's next for her makeup tutorials.) If you don't know her, you must. Then try to imagine her doing this job. Your morning will be complete. Or whatever time I day possible
i like ur name
I want a desairological makeup vlog by Monica! It would be a smash.
M. Ch. 🖤💀
I can not believe the amount of skill, care, talent and just absolute artistry that goes into this profession. I would be absolutely honoured to be in these ladies hands because it seems like they take really good care of people after they have passed
The most important makeover anyone will ever do! So many people depend on what their loved one looks like as they're passing over 🙏
Much respect to all who do this type of work 💪💯😇
People like Monica really help make funerals and body viewing less traumatic for a lot of people. My great aunt died a few months ago and whoever prepared her body did a lot of great work like Monica does and I know it was comforting for our whole family, especially her sons, her daughter, and her brother.
One of the biggest gifts this channel gave me was the awareness and then the basic skills to do my mom's post mortem care. Even though it was bare minimum as it was just for me and dad to see before they took her from the hospital, being able to do her makeup and dress her to see her as she normally was is an experience I will always treasure.
I'm so sorry for your loss
Thank you for what you all do to help bring closure to the families of the deceased.
Oh my goodness, these stories in the comments are so bittersweet. RIP to the dead in all the comments💐.
I recently said goodbye to my great grandma weeks ago. Her makeup looked gorgeous under the soft pink light on top the casket. She was a wonderful lady and will be dearly missed 💔.
I do not comment on videos but I want to thank you for what you do. One of my friends was shot in the head, and she was the first corpse I've ever had to view. She looked so peaceful and like herself again. Since then, I had always been wondering what goes into extreme trauma repair so I can feel like she had the best care. Your videos have turned my relationship with death into a learning opportunity as well as comforting closure.
Everyone like the video, so it can get to 50,000!
I need to share so much.
How did i not know she was in my town?! COME BACK TO PHX!
I love the ratio of views:likes. :D The numbers are so much closer than on an average youtube video. Everyone wants to see this. Just everyone, Caitlyn really underestimated her viewers, she could have easily gotten so much more than 50,000 within a few days.
Almost there!
Very cool. The career you've chose has such a huge impact on families and friends. Thank you for helping during the grieving process.
Caitlin I can appreciate that you're bringing an education to something a "normal" person doesn't think about. Certainly there are skills tools and techniques to in a sense help to give those who have passed respect for the body in what is a very emotional experience whether it's family, friends, Loved ones...
91k likes. Get on that table girl!
up to 127k like now.
@@kevinsullivan3448 but corona virus:(
@@lxlx7941 But she did do it! 3 months ago actually, it's her "Watch Me Get Embalmed" video, I'll link it below when I find it
@@lxlx7941 Here you go! ruclips.net/video/AuaGWDSeqvE/видео.html
I think it's wonderful that she puts so much care into her job.
Nancy W yes she speaks and presents very well too..
99% of us in funeral homes care so so much
Learning new tricks. I’ve been an on call make up & hair stylist for the dead for 12 years & still learn something new everyday. The white base before the flesh color makes the end result much more natural looking especially if there’s alot of discoloration. I haven’t delved into skull reconstruction the furthest I’ve been is just plaster putty in a caved in portion of the head/ face. Non embalmed bodies are harder to work with as there is not alot of time, they go bad pretty quick & sometimes, when freshly dead, nerves can make an arm or leg twitch or even move, very creepy till you get used to it. Everyone I know thinks I’m strange for doing what I do but, someone has to do it & I get a wonderful feeling when the family members are happy with their loved ones final appearance.
I love how that lady thought 50k was a stretch but this video has almost doubled that!
Also can I just say how pleasant and refreshing it is to see two ladies who have seen some unsettling things ( by the person who hasn't experienced death in a gruesome manner) in their careers, to be very professional and a joy to watch! Well done ladies!
I feel like she could be Safiya Nygaards older sister
Yes, I’ve never thought of it this way but I totally agree!!!
you bob 😂😂😂😂
Yessss
Both educated woman who whent to college
Monica or Debbie?
Desairology, very interesting. Several years ago my mother thought she would just love reconstructing, beautifying & returning the dead to a previous state. I thought she sounded nuts & now I learn it's a real thing. It's all just very interesting that all of this has come out in the open. I've now learned not to discount others interests, wants, desires & needs, lol. I've since told her it's a real thing & no longer think she sounded nuts. Thanks for the learning experience. I think it's great to educate women about all the different fields of study there are in our educational systems these days. So many options! Too cool!
I done my granny's make up when she passed away. It was an absolute honor to make her just as beautiful asleep as she was awake ❤💔 xx
The "shot in the head/face" scenario is not so far-fetched. One of the most depressing aspects of being an inner city ghetto/barrio school teacher was the number of children's funerals I attended. These were students that I had either taught or were known to me, some as young as five. The local funeral homes took turns caring for the bodies of these children (either gratis or for the small stipend the city/county gave toward burying the innocent in gangland slayings) and, frankly, they didn't really do an esthaetically pleasing job. In one case, a little boy, barely a teen, had been shot directly in the face. The mortuary patched his face with what looked like patching plaster just troweled on and covered over with layers of paint.
Sad but true.
@@missdee212-- There are eight million stories in the naked city--and they all ended up in our classrooms. (With apologies to the writers, producers, directors, and actors on the 1948 movie and the 1958 TV series, "The Naked City". The population of NYC in 1948 was just under eight million.)
I used to work in a dementia ward so I've seen a lot of people die. Usually when somebody had died (most of the time because of pneumonia) they look malnourished, actually dead. Then a week later, before the funeral, I got to see these lovely people again except they actually look like the pictures in their room! Amazing how people like Monica can transform people like how they used to look. It's a very important job and so important for grieving properly!
My favorite thing about this video is that the closed captions, on a video about dead bodies, starts with (upbeat music)
Thank you for the peace you bring to these families.
These women have bigger balls than me, to work in a profession like this lol My hat goes off to you both.
frank Zmonster Especially since it is incredibly male dominated. It is definitely a boys club and they dislike "alternative" morticians.
This is actually one of my dream jobs. 🤷
@@mommyeyes Me, too!! I don't find it disturbing at all...taking care of people, just like women do in life
They don't have balls at all. Perhaps that's the clue?
They will never have to worry about running out of customers.
Today on this weeks episode of I have of no idea why this was recommended to me
TheRandomExplorer SAME
Emo attraction ?
Me too
I watch jenna marbles, and was thinking maybe it was recommended to me cause of the mention of "just for men" lol
Yup
Wow... My mind just opened a little more and I learned something. Thanks for posting this.
WOW!!! Monica HAS to be a very strong woman to do THAT job. I couldn't imagine doing that. I would be so upset. Especially, tramatic injury cases.
6stringgunner it would be very tough indeed. I’ve dealt with some horrendously gruesome, gory deaths as a vet tech, and sometimes you just need to take a moment and really look because the thing about trauma is that it’s never what you expect. I really appreciate the strength and love and dedication Monica has to do what she does for these families. I wonder if like me she has those nights she can’t sleep because whenever she closes her eyes she sees the horror of a body. It tends to be different when it’s just postmortem you have to deal with (for me, seeing suffering and trauma in life before death is what really turns my stomach and haunts me to this day).
@@wolpertinger. thanks for the great reply 👍😊. I've seen alot of death over the years. It's crazy how OLD men send us young men to other countries and war. Blood money to satisfy THEIR greed. We've ALL been lied to, ALL of these years. Horrible!!!! Sorry for the negativity. Have a great and safe weekend 😊 🌞😎. Peace and love from Ohio.
6stringgunner you’re an army guy, I take it? I had a boyfriend that did a tour of duty in Afghanistan. If you’re a veteran I would like to offer my sincere thanks and sympathies. My inbox is always open if you need to chat with someone 💗
@@wolpertinger. thank you. MY son is in the USAF. He re-enlisted and plans to be a lifer. I'm proud of him. He has great leadership qualities. I lost my father and Uncle in the Vietnam conflict. THEY were USMC. The USAF is MUCH safer. And he wants to be a pilot when he gets out someday. Thanks for the talk. Have a great and safe weekend 😊 🌞😎. Be safe out there 👍😃.
A job like another.