Falling out of love with New York
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- Both a love letter and a good-bye letter to a really wonderful, strange city 💗
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I'm Kate, a 36-year-old woman living in Toronto, Canada with my dog Lexi. This channel is a mixed bag about my life as a single woman in her mid 30s - I talk about trying to get good at money and life, with some random tangents into organization + decluttering, mental health, and relationships. Please subscribe if that sounds like your cup of tea 💜
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I was born in Brooklyn and raised in the city. I left 2 yrs ago after 55yrs there. The city is no longer the same. Us New Yorkers know that. I also dream of the days when I lived a few blocks from Central Park. Just a dream. Thank you for sharing. All the best.
For those who leave New York City, whether it is to move on for better or for other reasons, is like the end of a relationship. It is a break up. The city that held so much promise, now can be seen for what it really is, for myself a very lonely isolated city. I moved off the Island in 2005 and still revisit my apartment in Astoria in my dreams regularly. Much of these dreams I try to convince my now husband and child that we could live in this place again. The life I have now was is what I wanted then. But, the reality is-if it weren’t for moving off, they would have never come into my life.
Wow this is beautiful, thank you for sharing 🥹
I cried in shared nostalgia for those days in NYC, and then I cried in solidarity with rebuilding somewhere else. You're not alone. Thank you for this video.
I’m an expat New Yorker. I do satisfy my cravings for the City on an annual visit, but also know that both the City and I have evolved and changed.
I appreciate where I live now, zwith a new world of friends. I don’t mind, in fact I like, being known as from NYC. In my heart, I have realized that my home is where I am surrounded by those that I care most about. Thank you for your beautiful and selfless story. Your life has many joys in store for you.
Lifelong new yorker here - i love this video so much... I've made friends with so many who have come and gone from the city. It seems like a pit stop for so many, but its always been the people who have made this city great including all the ones who only stay for a little while.
I love this so much. New Yorkers are one of a kind and are what made my time there so incredible. Thank you all for the hospitality 😉
Thank you for phrasing it like this. I moved to New York when I was 18 and escaping an abusive childhood. It's been 20 years now. The city and the people I have met here, whether they have stayed or gone, saved me. And thanks to Kate for a beautiful video about moving on when a much dreamed for situation is no longer what you need. It doesn't mean the city is suddenly a terrible place, just that it's no longer right for you right now. It hurts to hear others disparage the city or what it has become. The constant in New York, much like in life, has always been change. Some changes are better, some changes are worse, but we persevere. And you're absolutely right that the people make the city great, whether they stay or pass through. Leaving doesn't have to mean that you've given up on the city or malign it's current state. What we don't like, we can hope to make better, in big or small ways, even from afar.
😥I miss the City... but mostly I miss the person I was back then... naive, bold & unafraid. Thank you for sharing your story, friend.
Oof I feel this comment so much - naive, bold & unafraid 🥹
Moved here in 2017, this brought a tear to my eye. Wonderfully edited and narrated. It's hard explaining the feel of this city to someone who hasn't lived here, but I feel like you've done a really great job of it. Get ready for this video to blow up on your channel very soon! All the best in Toronto.
Thank you so much! NYC is truly indescribable but I'm so glad this conveyed even a small taste of it 💜
What a beautiful video and testimony! I also thought my life was over after leaving Manhattan and the fashion industry. I did so anyway, found a new identity, taught both middle and high school, lived abroad in both Belgium and France, decided to go to graduate school, got a PhD, and landed in Philadelphia. The universe is very funny in the fact that I now live a short train ride away from the city when I need to get a scratch of it, and then come 'home' to a more manageable version of the city in Philly. I too knew when it was time to leave, though I still love it (there is no place like it)! Thank you for this reflection.
Thank you so much for sharing, I think we have so many little common threads in our stories 💜 also I love Philly so much. Funny enough, it's also where I wanted to move next when I was still in NYC. Like you said, just a short Amtrak ride away to the city 😊so glad you've landed in the right place!
@@kateismostlygoodwmoney Thank you for responding; I feel honored!!!
I stayed in New York for a couple of weeks by myself last year doing all things tourists do. Although I LOVED every moment of it, I knew in my heart that the city can never be my home, ever.
I was born and raised in NYC and I want to move to Canada so badly. I went to Quebec City 3 times this year and fell in love.
Aww I love to hear this. And seriously, Quebec City is one of the most enchanting places in the world so I totally get it! 💗
The algorithm brought me here, I'm glad it did, this video feels like old youtube-honest and true. As a native NYer I always wonder what it would be like to look upon The City with new eyes and feel what it's like seeing her for the first time, it wasn't until I started traveling the US that I realized how different she truly is. As a native I have also seen so many friends come and go, The City has a way of bringing people in but it's so hard to stay, most left cause they missed family, wanted more space to start a family, or just couldn't keep up with how expensive it is, even my friends who grew up here, most have left. P.S. Happy you met Brooklyn and Queens, most rarely make it out of Manhattan. Cheers!
It’s the ebb and flow of life. I knew from a child I wanted to live in Manhattan. The skyscrapers, vibe, variety of food and like no other city. I lived there from the eighties until 2005. It was great but very different after 9/11. I don’t want to move to where I live now but it was a blessing. The city has changed and so have I. I don’t miss New York like I thought I would. My time there came and went and the city will always be changing with newbies moving in chasing their dreams. Thank you for your story and best of luck. I lived there when the city had an authentic grittiness to it before it became too sterile and overly kitschy.
Hey beautiful stranger on the internet, sending you greetings from Manhattan. I just completed a decade in the city and think about all the friends who left the city during this time, this kind of out into perspective time how we change and how the city changes us. Props to you for having the courage to up and leave when the time was right.
A decade - you've made it! I love how you put that, "how we change and how the city changes us" - this captures so much of my feelings about nyc. Thank you for sharing 💜
Such a heartfelt, beautiful video! I started undergrad at NYU in 2016 and was in New York at the height of the pandemic. I had said all my life that I wanted to move to New York and loved my life there. My mom is a native New Yorker and much of my family still lives there. But during and after Covid, something about the city died. The pace of the city changed and it still hasn’t recovered. I moved to LA in August of 2020 and moved back home to Chicago in late 2021. I’ve been back to New York several times since, but the fun and spontaneity of the city is gone. I’m glad I got to experience it at its peak right before Covid, but you’re not alone when you say you fell out of love with the city.
Something about NYC that draws a nostalgic response or love longing\love lost from multiple generations through waves of its history. The city has gone through these dark periods in the past that ultimately led to urban and social revivals and renaissance periods pulling in new dreamers and settlers from far and wide. The 2020s is a dark period for NYC right now and this down period is likely to last for another ten or 15 years. The city will rise again but it will be something altogether different from what we knew it as. For later generations it will be the dream place to be, to shape, to love, and then maybe to leave on their own terms in some future time.
My time growing up in the city was the 1970s-1980s, and that was the last period of decline the city experienced. However, the city had a rich social, cultural, art and music scene that was a great time for a youth to grow up in. It was way more affordable and accessible for most people in a way that it hasn't been in recent years. Even though I left the city 30 years ago for the suburbs I still visited the city several times a year through the 1990s-2010s, and even worked in Manhattan for some time during those years. It was a new golden age for NYC and I'm glad to have seen that kind of rise in my lifetime. Now as a senior, I am very nostalgic for what NYC was during my youth, and even before my time (the 40s-60s, now that was a golden age!). I am now in a different part of the country, but I sometimes have dreams about the apartment I grew up in and schools I attended in Queens, the family and friends mostly gone now, and, in some cases, the (more) innocence of times past. Its sad to see NYC decline like it has. I know I could never move back there, but I have wonderful memories, and know that future generations will have their wonderful memories too.
this was so well done 👏🏼
ahh thank you, that means so much to me! 💜
Really nicely told. Cling on to the good memories of NYC, cherish those forever
“New York State of Mind” by Billy Joel is what comes to mind when I saw this video. NYC never leaves you, although you leave her. Such good memories. All seasons come to pass, but those memories are nice to revisit every once in a while. Thank you so much for sharing this memoir. Cheers to your new chapter!
Thank you for making this. I've been feeling so many similar feelings about New York lately and found your journey both comforting and inspiring. Best of luck in Toronto. ❤
Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment, and I'm so glad it resonated with you 🤍
How beautiful. I too lived in New York for 4 years in my 30s, but left after having our baby. I will always miss New York, too, but we are so incredibly lucky to have lived there at all. Your dream did come true! You will never forget that time in your life. But good for you for moving forward.
Yes! I will always be grateful for my time there and I think anyone who is lucky enough to have spent even a brief stint in nyc is incredibly fortunate. So glad you have also now landed in the right place for you and your family 💕
I grew up in New York my whole life. My lifelong friends all knew that I was always meant to leave NYC. It was never an ‘if’ but a ‘when.’ And when that time came they celebrated our lives together and the future that awaited me in the west coast. Even the west coast isn’t end game for me. I miss Mew York all the time if I think about it too hard for too long. Nostalgic for a life that will never exist again. But I know that I have taken everything and learn all I could learn from my city. So now when I go to see my friends and my family (that still remain, most of them also left New York), it feels like I can just devote my time to filling my heart with as much as I can to hold me over. But I do find the city exhausting now every time so only a few days at a time 😅
This. You said it so beautifully. Knowing when you have taken everything and learned all you could from the city. This was so lovely to read, thank you for sharing 💕
Great video! You have amazing story telling. 💜
I am Canadian, went to school there, spent 9 years there. So glad I left. The city is being destroyed. I still have my memories.
I know the exact feeling of falling out of love with the city that you lived in.
This is beautiful. I live in NYC and it can be so hard.
YES it is not a city for the faint of heart 🤣
You left New York but New York will never leave you, it never does for anyone. I love your thumbnail. Good luck in Canada and good job listening to your gut.
Wow I’m feeling so much watching this. I too had similar experiences 💜 sending you love and hugs 🫂
Never saw a video of yours until today, I’m literally crying, I felt so much of this, I’m glad you’re finding peace and just hope you know Jesus loves you too! This really was a beautiful visual diary ❤️
thank you so much! 💗
At least you got to enjoy living nyc once in your life. You know the old saying…if you can make it here…you can make it anywhere…
New to the Channel… I really enjoyed your video to NYC, Bravo to You!!!
Beautfully made. Thanks for sharing.
Beautiful video. Has a nostalgic, film feel to it, like watching videos from childhood, remembering times gone by. Thank you for sharing it.
wow thank you so much, that's exactly the feel i was going for, so that's really appreciated 🙏
This was a beautiful video!!
It's different when you're a native. It will always be home because family and friends are here. And there's a NY spirit that can't be found anywhere else. I'll visit and live in other cities and countries but never for long. It's home.
absolutely beautiful video thank you for posting!
That was a very nicely done video. It was like a trailer to a good movie or show, but they showed you the whole story.
algorithm suggested me your video. I clicked on it and I didn't regret it, actually Ive loved it more than I thought I would, this video was wonderful, breathtaking and refreshing. I felt everything you said, it was so real, and I loved it. I wish you a good luck with everything.
Wow you just made my day, thank you so much! 🥹
Thank you for sharing your story.
You’re a beautiful story teller
Babe, stop cutting those onions, I'm trying to watch a video. Brava Kate. Beautiful video, well done.
thank you so much for your kind words 🥹
Never been to New York but grew up outside of Chicago. As a guy whom is almost 39 and never married and has moved a lot as well, this video spoke to me. Fantastic work and has made my day for sure.
wow that means so much to me, thank you for taking the time to share.
Great video…great commentary on the ups and downs of life.
Amazing story ❤ subscribed!
Your story is so inspiring! Wishing the best for you
Thank you so much! 💓
"And I loved every moment of it...." after decribing a pattern of life that fills me with a sense of despair, emptiness, exhausting
New York City is not for everyone.
I am in tears. thank you.
this is so good!
Wow that means so much to me, thank you for taking the time to comment 💗
This life is hard. And the last 5 years has been something unprecedented that no one deserves. Keep charging forward. The best really is yet to come, believe it.
So reflective and very well done! 🎉
you just made my whole day, thank you 🥹
Yeah I live off grid in upstate, southern tier. I'm 35. Screw the city. That gets old.
Real 😂 I get it. I spent a lot of time upstate and I love it. That is where I would want to buy a home if not for visas!
A really lovely clip - thank you for sharing it - my nephew just graduated college and is living in New York - I hope he gets to experience some of the things you loved about the city
Sobbing silently on those NYC memories incl. NJ Transit ticket ;) As an ex-transplant in NY I'm still yet to find another city with as exciting lifestyle as in New York. But the ability to call such greateness home is so dependent on the job and visa status, and the fear of losing such a good life can be more intimidating that never having tasted it.
Also found the sentiment a unique ex-New Yorker feeling. Friends in other US cities tend to have less reminiscence when moving abroad for work...
Ha that NJ transit ticket will bring back ALL kinds of memories 🤣but thank you so much for taking the time to comment, your thoughts describe exactly what I felt.
Enjoyed this! Very emotional video, it describes a very universal experience people have. I loved how simple and real it was, no fancy Hollywood extra-ness. May you continue to heal and I hope your dad is doing better!
I love both Toronto & New York. I live & grew up near Canada. Both TO & NYC have felt like a second home to me on my somewhat frequent , brief visits over the years, visiting friends & Family. It’s been a while since I’ve been to either of them now. Hoping to visit again soon. Welcome Home !! Wishing you the Best !!
Ahh this makes me so happy to hear, they are both such wonderful cities! And thank you so much for the kind wishes 🥹
This is soooo beautiful 🥲
Beautifully told and edited, bravo!
This was so evocative, beautifully told
I can relate to your story a lot except it took me a lot longer to figure out. Although your story is beautiful and poetically portrayed, I would say that baked in to the New York experience are hurdles that can only be overcome through the amount that is in your bank account. In other words, everybody “falls out of love” with New York except only some can afford to ride it out. The best news from your story is that you didn’t get jacked up living in Bed Stuy.
NYC is not for everyone, if you can make it here you can make it anywhere, but alas not everyone can and it's truly the survival of the fittest. I thought a real comment is necessary out of all the sugar coated ones, but luckily New Yorkers have grown a thick skin too unlike internet snow flakes.
I arrived in Brooklyn June 30, 2018! It was the best...but the pandemic and the lack of feasible job opportunities in my field made me leave just a little over 2 years later. It's painful to think I can't go back. But it just seems so unfeasible now.
Ahh that's wild we arrived at the same time! I understand what you went through during the pandemic 😭 I'm so sorry that it didn't work out and I completely get why it feels out of reach now. I hope you are happy and settled wherever you are now 💕
Wonderful video. Good luck to you! You’ll be back to visit but life is better elsewhere. Xx Gene (ex-NYer now in Maine)
beautiful story!!!! blessings!
Great video.
I never lived in NYC, but I have visited several times a year for most of my adult life.
IMO, the city is not the same, post COVID. Not the same hustle and bustle.
Things that I used to overlook now annoy me. Like cab drivers honking their horn every time the light changes. It still has a lot to offer, so I will keep going back for now.
Absolutely, it is still such a wonderful city. I really feel what you said, I felt like I had changed and I was irritated by things that didn't used to phase me about the city.
Wishing you all the best on your new journey!
Wow! just found your channel randomly - what a stunning piece of art this vlog is. I am Australian and moved home from USA (SF/NYC) to Melbourne and much of what you feel absolutely resonates with me.
wow thank you 🥹 i'm so glad it struck a chord with you. I can be so hard to be that far away from home and I hope being back in Australia has been the best thing for you. Wishing you all the best 💕
@@kateismostlygoodwmoney thank you x
I lived in New York City for 40 years starting in 1978 (Queens, Brooklyn, Manhattan, the Bronx). I wish I never did. What a waste. I’m so glad to be out of there. It’s a trap. New York City went from bankrupt to thriving while I was there due to the baby boomers moving from the suburbs back to the place their parents had abandoned and emptied out. Now it appears to be headed back to bankrupt. Life there is poluted, expensive, dirty, stressful, dangerous, and hard. You can’t afford to get sick, you can’t afford a family there. You can’t afford space or solace or quiet or peace of mind. There’s an energy in the air there that’s full of unhealthy stress. I hope to never go back.
Lovely story telling, composition and reflection on your time in NYC. It's always interesting to see a foreigner's perspective on the city as it is a more difficult journey and you seemed to have made it happen.
Wow as someone who lived in Boston for 7 years and left after a breakup. I feel you. There's something about breaking up with someone in a new city that just makes it hard to stay. Not sure if thats the point of this video but I think for many of us, we find a home in that relationship and when we lose that relationship, we lose that home.
Yes wow you put this so beautifully, "we find a home in that relationship" 😭 this struck such a chord with me. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share your experience ❤
Wow! Can't wait to visit NYC some day! We loved your vlog :)
nice video! I love all the footage and editing, I bet u had lots of fun,
This was beautiful! 🥹
Beautiful video
Beautiful done video. I wonder if you work in the film industry you’re a very talented storyteller. P.S. I feel sorry for your cats. Hope they found good homes.
They are with my ex so they are in excellent hands!
Great video newyork is nice but its really expensive and well!! Thats all!
I hope you'll find you happiness!!
Beautiful video…
‘The wind blew, the shit flew, f*ck you, we’re thru’ Leave NY in the past honey, you ain’t missing much.
So touching your story 🥹🥹, Liked and subscribeds 👍
wow thank you so much, i'm so glad it resonated with you 💜
Omg I have never watched a RUclips video so profound!
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NYC has gotten more prohibitive to live in. No question about it. Big real estate development, not to mention city and state governments totally in cahoots with these developers who pad their pockets with money to get their way, have turned NYC into a shining city for the wealthy. People who grew up in neighborhoods being forced out because they can no longer afford to live here. Mom and pop shops shut out because of exorbitant rent. Charmless glass towers and mega-stores taking over. The city losing so much of what makes it special, its character and individuality. New York City is now much more a transient place for people to make their money, and leave. Who can blame them? NYC had been, up until only a generation ago or so, a place you could come and bring your talent, whatever it was, make dreams come true, all the while absorbing the world-class culture, food, entertainment, bragging rights you had “made it”… Growing up here has made it somewhat easier to survive. When you’re born here, your roots are firmly in concrete. I regularly drive a couple of hours north along the Hudson River to get out of this crazy city. I don’t see myself ever leaving. I’m glad you experienced and loved NYC like a true NY’er. You’ll always be a NY’er. Best of health, happiness, and success to you!
Thank you so much! It was New Yorkers who made my time there so special, y'all make the city what it is 💜
I’m New York before it turned into a bike lane! Rip to what used to be. Thanks trust fund kids for ruining this great city. The city has so much character and history but those who appreciate it can’t afford to live there. Sad. Born in New York, but the south is where I live now.
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IRAN has subway trains and train stations more modern and cleaner than NYC. And people are actually civilized in public.
Thats so cool
Jesus Christ heals the spiritual and physical. Glory to God, he hosts us.
Nice video. NYC is the best and most overwhelming place in world at the same time. Its also ironically can be the most lonely too. Have only visited, but around 15 times and my highest moments of rapture have been in NYC. Touchy subject but I wonder what your thoughts are on the migrant crises in NYC...seems like you chose the right time to go, the city is a bit in shambles right now it seems, breaks my heart..
Life long New Yorker here, midtown is my area and yes the migrants are wreaking havoc in all the boroughs, she left at the right time !!!!
Yes the best, overwhelming, and somehow lonely sums it up perfectly 😂 may be an unpopular opinion but my experience of nyc has always been that any depictions of it in the media are way overblown (e.g. it's gone to shit, etc) and also, yes, the city does have real problems. I can't speak to the city much lately, I've only been back to nyc once since I moved away. But I lived in Turkey during the Syrian war and watched millions of displaced people pour across the Syrian border into Turkey. My hope is always that we live in cities that will care for its occupants and that we don't direct our ire at innocent people. Immigrants are the lifeblood of nyc and migrants are the backbone of america. They have arrived to seek asylum legally and I would hope that we would be doing all we can to house and care for people while providing the legal supports for them to obtain necessary documentation and their temporary work authorizations.
@@kateismostlygoodwmoney , agree on all fronts
Forced immigration pushed on us by the Biden administration is affecting ALL Americans.
How I can ring you
Toronto is also cooked though 😂.
But good video.
NYC is finished!!!
……..Got to have LOTS of $$$ to live WELL in NYC!! 🤷🏼♂️🤷🏼♂️🤔🥂
It certainly doesn't hurt! I did okay, but I was working for a charity lol so yea...😂
Why did you have to give up your cats? I hope they went to a good home. But it looks like you still have your doggie?
They stayed with my ex! In very good hands :)
I've never been to NY and I've never wanted to visit NY. I don't understand the hype!
That's fair, it's not for everyone.
New York has been ruined. Disgrace.
Is your dog a boxer?
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What does the Bible say about getting drunk?
Why did Jesus ,according to the bible, turn water into wine? Why not turn wine into water lol?
@@noorlancer That doesn't answer my ? Read Ephesians 5:18 KJV then get back to me
You are pretty good at narrating your life. 🫶🏽
The great cities of the world (European) are not cesspools like NY.