First found you in January when my ex left me for someone else who was there and available. It’s been 9 months, finished nursing school and landed my dream job. My life is flourishing without her and will continue to without her. Feelings are still there for her but I’m in a better state of mind to say that I will get over her. When I think of breaking no contact, I watch your videos and remind myself how far I’ve come. Thank you
It will be 2 yrs In February. i think i’m over it now.. i’ve been watching your videos since we first broke up.. Your videos helped me get through my breakup.. Thanks.. and i still watch them.. 😊
@@jeaneengant6771same here she texted me asking me if I wanna have xxx😂😂I didn't reply and two days later she asked if am gonna talk to her again or not but hey am damn busy for stupid stuffs😂😂😂
It’s crazy that with you, it’s not about winning anyone. You remind us how valuable we are as a human being. Whatever you’re teaching is so professional and facts ❤
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
Mine of 4 yrs ended about a month ago as well. Don't even have the notion to think about dating in a long time. Healing my heart while setting boundaries. This too shall pass. ❤🙏
Amazing video, I just cant believe my husband left me after 18 years, he just left me.he doesnt even want to talk to me anymore. Ive tried everything possible to get him back, but nothing seems to work and I cant stop thinking about him Im frustrated I dont see my life with anyone else. Ive done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I cant I dont know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just cant stop thinking about him
Im really sorry to hear that. I went through something similar not too long ago. My boyfriend and I broke up and I felt completely lost. I tried everything, but it just seemed hopeless. Well I ended up reaching out to this incredible spiritual adviser. He helped me in ways I never thought possible. After working with him my husband came back to me and now we are happier than ever
Thank you so much! I just searched his name, and I found him, the reviews look amazing, and I m feeling hopeful now. I really believe I can get him back. I’m so happy to have found this.
We ended the relationship (1.5 years) but we were both hoping we could sort things out and make things work after i finished going away to work for 2 months. I was hurting a lot but she avoided her feelings and she admitted that she felt nothing and was distracting herself from thinking about me. The weekend after we broke up she brings another guy back to hers. I had a feeling who it was and she promised me it wasn’t him. 2-3 months later (last night) I found out they’re dating now. In a way knowing she’s moved on so fast is a good thing because i know eventually her emotions will catch up and it probably won’t last. But knowing she’s with someone else now is also a different stage of pain. Thank you coach you’ve been teaching me a lot and helping me get through it
Moving on is not a bad option. The most important aspect is letting go. Easier said than done but when you let go of them, THEY as well as other dating prospects are more attracted to you. Then you can choose
@@blacademicI need help I found out my girl was texting other dudes and I grabbed my stuff and left but she never did anything physically with them but I don’t know I told her I won’t take her back and we need to focus on ourselves and get our mental stronger but idk what to do cause she literally had no family to talk to what should I do part of me wants to stay with her and my ego is telling me to leave her and never look back
@@joshslayy3985you were the one she should have been talking to if she needed to be heard, not other men. Emotionally cheating is still cheating. I’m sorry 😞
Ur videos have really helped me deal with my breakup that happened in may. Although things are still uncertain between me and my ex ur videos have helped me to better understand all the things that have happened to cause this all to happen and have made me feel more at peace almost 4 months later. I do have hope that everything we had together and what I did for can be enough to get her to realise that she always loves me and changes her mind to fix what has been broken but I have to continue to be realistic knowing that only she can change how she feels; no contact has been the way to go for me and I’ll keep with that until she hopefully properly reaches out to sort things out with me. Thanks again coach blac :)
Been watching videos for over a month now. Breakup with girlfriend was a month ago. She dumped me. This has helped me navigate through this hard time. I still see her everyday but ive been no contact. She is slowly opening back up but i will not ever look eager to jump back into things i value myself 1st. Thank you Couch Blac
I tried to be friends with my ex… It will never work if still love and want to be with them. Always give yourself time to heal. Go no contact and give it time, maybe one day you can be friends
I made alot of mistakes in my relationship i was drinking when we were apart and caused alot of unessarcy turmoil saying hurtful things i didn't even mean because i always had a hard time with trust and her trust in me to change went away. Weirdly it was not my intention cause i love her deeply i just let my addiction over ride the relationship. Even though shes cut me off it's been 2 weeks I'm actually changing now i regret all the bad things i said during those moments i just should of been more determined to stop from the beginning. I hope in time she forgives me because i truly do love her
It's been 17 months, life got better for me. I see her in staffings and court hearings and in person staffings. Yesterday was the most recent physical interaction with her. She did the usual things to get attention and everyone saw it. (Bending down near me while i was seated in the front - sitting far away and sitting in a position to look/stare at me. ) So alot of folks spoke on subjects. And she was dressed quiet. When i spoke. She had to add something and she was agreeing with what i said. I know she misses me, but the peace i have in NC is amazing. She'll come around in her own time. I'll be just well and continue to get better.
Hey brother, have watched several of your videos. We have children so no contact is a bit challenging. Thanks for your videos. Above all, what I’m getting out of this is improving myself and raising my value regardless of outcome. Our children will benefit from my growth. Thanks again 🤙
My ex gf and I have been off and on for over two years we started dating 4 yrs ago. We are always arguing, we stop talking a few days and we’re right back. But this last time was really bad. I said a lot of things I shouldn’t have said to her and about her only because I was fed up and felt like she talk about me too 🤷🏾♀️ but that was no excuse…so I asked her for three consecutive days to talk to me, I apologized but she won’t have it. So now I’m moving on. This is my first day of no contact. Not necessarily wanting a relationship again right now but I want her to want me again. I want us to fix it all! Your videos are helping me tremendously! Please continue uploading Sir❤ thank you
My ex broke up with me for 4 months... he's been in a new relationship for three months... it's horrible for me that they publicly confess their love... we used to be a family I love his child as much as mine... I miss him terribly
An x will always be an x, no coming back.. when you take them back they are worse than before. It has been 15 years that we broke up and I am very happy all by myself. The day I don't feel to cook, I don't, the day I feel to watch TV and stay in bed all day I do, x my ass gone and forgotten. Lol lol
Finally I began to try and let go of his indiscretion and didn’t bring it up. We celebrated his birthday last weekend and had On Monday of this week, he mentioned to me that the woman left an item of clothing at his place and asked if I got rid of it. My answer was yes. He totally got angry and said he couldn’t do this anymore when he created the situation! Nevertheless, I now must go into no contact mode again. Which is so difficult and painful. I’m not sleeping, eating, etc. Thank you for listening.😔 (Sad in South Carolina)
I was in love with a mother of 2 lovely children from Germany in a long distance relationship. She shocked me 5 weeks back that it's all over and went for someone else during our relationship itself .. Since I was in love with her children I took some time to go No Contact... I started it from Today itself... Hoping for the best
I got my ex back after 4 months of listening to Coach Blac, honestly speaking I regret taking her back it's just no longer the same 😢I don't trust her anymore. Sometimes am even disgusted to kiss her. People here's a piece of advice don't take your ex back there are amazing people out there believe me. Please help me I want a break up I just don't know how to tell her without hurting her feelings like she did to me😟😟
Hey coach, im seperated 6month now from my wife of 7 years (together 15) and 3kids. ive moved out and Ive made so many mistakes pleasing and professing my love and its so hard no contact with kids. Respect had gon from her to me even though i devoted myself to the family Feel like im stuck because i want her and the family back. I am working on me and destroying myself in the gym and with work ❤ i hope i feel better soon and she misses me
My ex dumped me the day I got back from a vacation roughly 6 weeks ago, I spent 3 weeks being friends and trying to jump through hoops I shouldn't have amd she ended up blocking me. Im pretty sure it broke off for reasons entirely in my control. I only made worse by storming up and saying "goodbye" pretty angrily. She blamed family but seemed to not want much to do with me outside of helping her pass time at work before the block. In these last 3 weeks I have been working on myself, cleaning up, staying no contact but in the back of my mind it feels like I am still just jumping through a hoop. Im here on these vids cause I want to hear her sweet voice again after all but I must accept that may not happen. When we were dating we went out twice a week and were very close so I am very confused. I hope she left cause i used to be a slob but I can never know. It wasnt a very long relationship, maybe 2 months but it hurts regardless. I just hope life works itself out for the best.
Once People start looking into Personality disorders this will be a wake up call as to who their ex really were. I recommend looking up border line personality disorder or Narcissist. These are highly manipulative evil people.
Hi I love all your video's. It helps me get through my day...I am in no contact three weeks after breaking up 7 weekis ago our relationship was four pretty good years .However then i saw him...I was casual he hugged me twice I made it brief then i caved and texted him hi the next day and he no replied this was a huge set back for me I had a horrible weekend because of ty.
It’s been 2M to the day since he ended things with me abruptly. Month 1 - 1x/wk I was reaching out. I felt so embarrassed so I stopped. We’ve been in NC since Aug 11th. I love him and I miss him, but I’m feeling like he’s done.
My ex ended things for the second time. We broke up the first time 6 years ago for different reasons. We were able to reconnect. We got our own little place then moved into a house. Things were amazing! Overtime I became complacent and wasn’t supportive. I lacked motivation and was always stressed- this had nothing to do with her. As a result I became lazy and stopped attending to my duties as a partner. She said she didn’t feel as though I cared, I didn’t ask her how she was feeling and didn’t do my part when it came to chores etc. she’s moved out, told me she doesn’t love me and that she would happily see me move on. I feel that she doesn’t mean this. All the contact we have had since the breakup she has started. Small comments to just reach out I’ve noticed just to get my attention. Currently haven’t spoken for 6 days. I’m letting her have her space, I’m radio silent at the moment have been for almost a month in terms of social media/posting. Any tips coach?
So if my ex doesn't want me anymore, then why does he still look at me and is often sad when he sees me? It's not logical, because he wanted a breakup, not me.
Ok so me and my ex were together for a year and 8 months.. we never once argued or anything it was a good relationship.. then he told me he didn't see me in his future. So i said ok and walked away. A week later we started talking and pretty much went right back to how we were, but now he was on dating apps.. which is how we met. and I just felt like he was with me till he finds someone better.. he told me he would never find someone like me. But it wasn't good enough for me. I wanted gim to say ok ill get off of them. But he didn't so i walked away.. but I feel like we are meant to be together. It's only been 5 days, since we talked. I know he will get a hold of me soon. I just don't know how to handle it when he does! I've always been someone who wears my heart on my sleeve and it's really hard for me to fake being happy.. i just don't know how to handle my situation! 🙏
I've ended up my situationship 2 weeks ago. He didn't want to commit. I never in my life felt this way. Before i had high self esteem and i was very confident. Somehow this guy took everything. I cut the contact. Didn't agree for being friends.. i don't want to be his back up option 😢
@@Millianbabe its not labelling. its life saving to know if someone has narcissistic traits/tendencies or using narcissistic tactics on you. narcissistic abuse is real. a lot of women have wasted years unknowingly dating or married to a highly narcissistic man.
The thing is I don't want her back at all. I just want her to come back begging cause she chose a narcissist she dated in the past over me after everything I did for her. I want her grovelling at my feet begging to do anything, just so I can tell her where to go.
Mate I love how you word things and use theories and real stories, but when you get back in contact can you make a video on like things to say in text and how to show real growth and confidence bc I’ve been thinking this a lot in person I think be easier but in text things can be misread and misunderstood but was wondering your thoughts
I am in a brake up small contacts i only respond when I feel like and 1 word I will keep it like that I think men don't like when you show or give love ladys let's keep it dry and what ever mood that works
Coach she said me to move on and its of no use but i really love her ive been hitting workouts and all and tryna be mysterious. Weve dated for 4 years. And its been 2 months for the break up. We've been in no contact for 2 weeks. i really need her bad i pray to god and listen to your words but deep down i do not want to loose her i love her so much what do i do?? From my childhood ive never been loved and the way she did was something magical..
For me I’m sure eventually she will come back I was the first man she had that was actually good to her the rest cheated and beat her … her issue she was scared that’s all real simple and expected me to be like them … so she never seen my value put me through the ringer … and pulled the rug With that being said even if she does come back do I really want something who didn’t even find me worth it ????
Great vid coach but please do more content about families with kids. Its so confusing not being able to do noncontact successfully when the feelings are so strong and youve ALWAY gotta see them
What if during the breakup you said terrible things to your ex, even attempted to harm yourself but you asked for their forgiveness though they said they never will?
It's been two weeks since my ex broke up with me. She said I was being too strict, I take small issues to be big issues, she can't joke with me or play with me etcetera. Says she wants freedom and she doesn't want to date someone else. We were friends for 6 months, and relationship for a year and I month. Due to the things she refused to work on, and how she behaved, I asked for a break for a week, that we should see where we're going wrong, sort it out, and then see how it goes for us, only for her to come back to say she wants freedom, but also wants to get comfortable in communication, which I stopped. I still love her deeply, but I gotta give her what she wants, the freedom and the breakup, while I work on myself.. Am I doing the right thing, coach?
It’s been two months since I’ve walked away from a three-year and a half relationship July 11, 2024… it’s September 12, 2024.. it’s been rough.. I wish I could reach out but I can’t…
Hey partners, I have a question to understand a certain event. I was with my ex for three years, she never had a boyfriend for that long, after breaking up after two weeks she went back to her ex who she was with for a year. Is this a rebound?
It is hard for me to not contact him because we were living together and we still have bills to pay together but he never calls me and he only respond to my texts if it’s about the bills. We’ve been together for 3 years. It’s painful
My partner of 10 years has left me and found his with someone else. Been trying to fight for him come up with solutions of keeping him and our family but his not there. Help me cope I’m struggling to cope
We have broken up for a year but my ex has a close relationship with my daughter. He stays in touch and also want to talk about out breakup but never talks about reconciliation, and when I ask why do you always want to talk about the past, he says he doesn’t know. He sometimes says, he knows we will get together and then next times say, I just want pour my heart out but not to change anything. I do not understand his motive
We broke up 2 months ago after 5 yrs... now hes messaging to meet. I declined the offer. Is it the best thing to do, right now im not ready to meet him.
me and my girlfriend were having an argument and in the heat of the moment she said something that triggered me and I said some hurt full things to her and she blocked me and after two days she broke up with me I begged and pleaded and asked for forgiveness but still she didn't listen to me ..And after that still I am blocked from almost every where its been almost 2.5 weeks that she left and have not talked since.... please help me I want her back... please give me solutions to how to get her back . I don't have enough resources for the 1-1 coaching.
Coach, we should post on our insta stories our new life updates? Me and my ex never unfollow but I mute her stories and all that. I should stay completely in silence ? We brokeup again I think 3 years ago but we were childish. Now I message her again after I ghost her 3 years ago, we were fine with a lot of fights but after we were good for about 4 months. Thats also a long distance relationship so we are together every weekend. She see that I change a lot and she tell me she was so courious about me because she couldnt see my (i delete all my socials 3 years ago). What should I do? Post on insta stories or just complete silence. I dont use to post a lot of things on insta before we brokeup. We just use to post same photos together. I post 2 photos after 1 day of breakup but now I feel like the complete silence its a better threatment. Sorry for my english and tell me if you dont understand someting. English its not my 1st language.
Hello everyone, My ex-girlfriend and I broke up in September 2022 after being together for 5 years and working at the same place. Over the past year and a bit, until this month, we were still going out for food, drinks, and to the cinema. She mentioned that she went on a date a few weeks ago and we haven't spoken since. I recognize that I have shown some weakness. Is there any hope for me to improve this situation?
I’ve been broken up for over month and half and we see each other because we share a dog that we both love and I have to see her every week but I can also leave the keys outside the house so she can pick him up it’s once a week but I don’t know what to do it’s extremely hard when I see her when I’m texting im much more distant and direct but when we see each other it’s different I can’t hold my emotions she wants to give me 2 kisses as a friend.. which I can’t do and talks to me a little bit about her problems and I fall into giving her a hug which at the end I did she hugged me back obviously but I don’t know if I did the right thing 😔 or should I stay distant also or just not see her in person at all
Hello coach, my ex broke up with me but wanted to be friends.I said no, we been over for 7 months now, but the whole time he still calls. He still wants to see me, but I know he's on dating sites. I haven't been answering his text lately. I told him I don't want to be friends. He keeps texting. I haven't texted back lately, but how is no contact going to work for me if he continues to text it's like he won't do the break up. And how do I know when he feels the lost of me? I'm so confused it's like he wants me and everything else too. When do I know when to text back? Just don't know how to handle this at all
If you still love him and want to be with him, be straight up and tell him that for one day… then the next day begin no contact. No matter how much he texts, see the texts but ignore them all until he says something you want to hear, like him saying he wants to be with you. Works like Magic.
Hey Coach. Are there any videos related to a marriage that is failing? Wanting to do No Contact to save the marriage. Wife of 5 years wants a divorce in the near future. We live together in our house, but in separate bedrooms. She announced she wanted to be “separated” until we are able to sell the house. Please help. Thank you.
I dumped my avoidant ex after another slow fade and avoidant behavior. After 13 months she watches all my stories again, I miss her very much. What should I do?
So im 15 ill be 16 on sunday and my girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago she said she lost feeling a bit over a week ago and im just crushed i have never been in a good relationship and this was my first love she needed a mental health break and she lost feelings but i just dont know how to get over her and get her back it was a healthy relationship for the most part i just dont know how to get her back man and im so hurt i need help i need advise please man i have been constantly crying and checking up on her everything reminds me of her and i feel like i cant leave her alone and ik its desperate ash but dude i never wanted to loose her and now that i have im just crushed its only been about 3 days and i need help please bro please reply please give me advice
I’ve been in no contact mode but yesterday she called me, 10 missed calls in a row and I broke the code. I feel guilty I couldn’t keep my routine.. I kept it brief though, did I mess things up?
Sorry to hear that, must be destructive, altho you gotta leave such a person a let them go, once they cheated you cant give them same trust. Ppl wgo cheat would do it again and again.
@@lucywood4988 im on same boat, my ex just left me, and i did a lot of mistakes after break up, pleased , begged, chased, i went NC altho i deleted some comments on ig and that was kinda contact, so she texted me rly angry , that im trying to erase her from my life ,trying to look it like she has never been part of my life, and i got caught, coz i said i still love her. That was a mistake coz she was just looking for validation, and now she did this brick wall again. Im suffering a lot coz she has zero interest in me. She just wanted to know if im still an option for her. I gotta move on which is completely destructive atm for me. I dont even know how this move on things works. Trying to hit the gym, going to therapy, working a lot etc. But it just doesnt work. Rly only time can fix this shit. But the pain is fuckin real. 😭
My ex reach out to me after no contact but we still on the friend zone level she ask for favours most time and grant them, but she also check on me,as much as i want to talk to her deeply i text her as if i am not interested in her no more, am i wrong for that? Tell me what should i do coach plz i reallu do love her though but i dont want her to feel that way that i still do
My ex I have a kid with helps me still money wiz but is still with other guy what does that mean also gets mad or upset if I go out but it's been 5 months also ones or twice out of a week she claims to want o come back but im not sure if I want to get back together
@bIacademic4 No thank you, because it's over and I learned soo much about myself after the breakup. I became a way better person, doing things differently because I saw that my behavior pushed her away and i started to questioing myself. I am thankful she came into my life for me to evolve to another level.
@@comfortzone5618 never seen it in my life. I know ca 100 women, ca 90 of them have been divorced, have dumped some men and they NEVER have came back. Never. Men can do whatever they can, do, nothing works.
U need to like get to the point u be on the long talking and all just tell us get to the point then when u do it’s just a minute on the subject and u done
First found you in January when my ex left me for someone else who was there and available. It’s been 9 months, finished nursing school and landed my dream job. My life is flourishing without her and will continue to without her. Feelings are still there for her but I’m in a better state of mind to say that I will get over her. When I think of breaking no contact, I watch your videos and remind myself how far I’ve come. Thank you
So glad for you, I hope you keep progressing in life. Some day you get to meet the one for you❤
You’re doing amazing, I hope one day you find someone who makes you happy you deserve it
@@chrissarabia9643 me and her broke up 7months ago.. bro I’m still chasing I can’t give up and she’s not answering none of my calls 🤦♂️🤦♂️
Good 4 u! Don't look back
You are proof that they don't always come back. Unfortunately me too
It will be 2 yrs In February. i think i’m over it now.. i’ve been watching your videos since we first broke up.. Your videos helped me get through my breakup.. Thanks.. and i still watch them.. 😊
Do y’all speak at least?
At some point you get over it.
Same, I'm completely over it now, and his videos definitely helped me to keep moving forward.
@@JayySafenope for what.. No need to be friends..
@@jeaneengant6771same here she texted me asking me if I wanna have xxx😂😂I didn't reply and two days later she asked if am gonna talk to her again or not but hey am damn busy for stupid stuffs😂😂😂
It’s crazy that with you, it’s not about winning anyone. You remind us how valuable we are as a human being. Whatever you’re teaching is so professional and facts ❤
Your voice is the most relaxing male voice I've heard on RUclips ever
So true lol
@basicinfo2022 very hypnotizing
you a flirt:)
@@DOIT.4ME maybe a little🤭
Right, every time I sit down to listen seriously and make notes and start falling asleep instead especially when story time begins
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Mine of 5 years ended in January, couldn’t get over her until I got under another
Mine of 4 yrs ended about a month ago as well. Don't even have the notion to think about dating in a long time. Healing my heart while setting boundaries. This too shall pass. ❤🙏
It sucks
Amazing video, I just cant believe my husband left me after 18 years, he just left me.he doesnt even want to talk to me anymore. Ive tried everything possible to get him back, but nothing seems to work and I cant stop thinking about him Im frustrated I dont see my life with anyone else. Ive done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I cant I dont know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just cant stop thinking about him
Im really sorry to hear that. I went through something similar not too long ago. My boyfriend and I broke up and I felt completely lost. I tried everything, but it just seemed hopeless. Well I ended up reaching out to this incredible spiritual adviser. He helped me in ways I never thought possible. After working with him my husband came back to me and now we are happier than ever
Really? A spiritual adviser, that sounds interesting. What did you do? How can I get in contact with him?
His name is Owen Abiola,and He's a great spiritual adviser who can bring back your ex.
he is Owen Abiola, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you so much! I just searched his name, and I found him, the reviews look amazing, and I m feeling hopeful now. I really believe I can get him back. I’m so happy to have found this.
We ended the relationship (1.5 years) but we were both hoping we could sort things out and make things work after i finished going away to work for 2 months.
I was hurting a lot but she avoided her feelings and she admitted that she felt nothing and was distracting herself from thinking about me. The weekend after we broke up she brings another guy back to hers. I had a feeling who it was and she promised me it wasn’t him. 2-3 months later (last night) I found out they’re dating now.
In a way knowing she’s moved on so fast is a good thing because i know eventually her emotions will catch up and it probably won’t last. But knowing she’s with someone else now is also a different stage of pain.
Thank you coach you’ve been teaching me a lot and helping me get through it
You and I are in the same exact situation
Coach is over here saving lives. The only coach on here that is all positive. Others say “move on” no help!
Moving on is not a bad option. The most important aspect is letting go. Easier said than done but when you let go of them, THEY as well as other dating prospects are more attracted to you.
Then you can choose
@@blacademicI need help I found out my girl was texting other dudes and I grabbed my stuff and left but she never did anything physically with them but I don’t know I told her I won’t take her back and we need to focus on ourselves and get our mental stronger but idk what to do cause she literally had no family to talk to what should I do part of me wants to stay with her and my ego is telling me to leave her and never look back
@@joshslayy3985you were the one she should have been talking to if she needed to be heard, not other men. Emotionally cheating is still cheating. I’m sorry 😞
And maybe you should be moving on.
Exactly I don't wanna move on i been with this man 10 years I rather fight and fix my family
OMG!!! THIS IS THE REALEST RESPONSE I HAVE EVER HEARD!!! I'M TOTALLY SPEECHLESS!!!
Ur videos have really helped me deal with my breakup that happened in may. Although things are still uncertain between me and my ex ur videos have helped me to better understand all the things that have happened to cause this all to happen and have made me feel more at peace almost 4 months later. I do have hope that everything we had together and what I did for can be enough to get her to realise that she always loves me and changes her mind to fix what has been broken but I have to continue to be realistic knowing that only she can change how she feels; no contact has been the way to go for me and I’ll keep with that until she hopefully properly reaches out to sort things out with me.
Thanks again coach blac :)
Been watching videos for over a month now. Breakup with girlfriend was a month ago. She dumped me. This has helped me navigate through this hard time. I still see her everyday but ive been no contact. She is slowly opening back up but i will not ever look eager to jump back into things i value myself 1st. Thank you Couch Blac
Please make a video on how to act while staying just friends with an ex that you want back
Good question, I'm wondering the same. I think we should be neutral
i also need this video
You can’t be friends with an ex . 6:56
I tried to be friends with my ex… It will never work if still love and want to be with them. Always give yourself time to heal. Go no contact and give it time, maybe one day you can be friends
I made alot of mistakes in my relationship i was drinking when we were apart and caused alot of unessarcy turmoil saying hurtful things i didn't even mean because i always had a hard time with trust and her trust in me to change went away. Weirdly it was not my intention cause i love her deeply i just let my addiction over ride the relationship. Even though shes cut me off it's been 2 weeks I'm actually changing now i regret all the bad things i said during those moments i just should of been more determined to stop from the beginning. I hope in time she forgives me because i truly do love her
It's been 17 months, life got better for me. I see her in staffings and court hearings and in person staffings. Yesterday was the most recent physical interaction with her. She did the usual things to get attention and everyone saw it. (Bending down near me while i was seated in the front - sitting far away and sitting in a position to look/stare at me. )
So alot of folks spoke on subjects. And she was dressed quiet. When i spoke. She had to add something and she was agreeing with what i said.
I know she misses me, but the peace i have in NC is amazing. She'll come around in her own time. I'll be just well and continue to get better.
when he cheated on me.. he also cheated himself out of a good woman.. and he knows this.. I’m good in the hood now.. 😂😂😂
Why are relationships like this bro why do all these walls bridges and bricks and fortresses she’s playing 5D chess and I’m playing checkers 😢
Hey brother, have watched several of your videos. We have children so no contact is a bit challenging. Thanks for your videos. Above all, what I’m getting out of this is improving myself and raising my value regardless of outcome. Our children will benefit from my growth. Thanks again 🤙
My ex gf and I have been off and on for over two years we started dating 4 yrs ago. We are always arguing, we stop talking a few days and we’re right back. But this last time was really bad. I said a lot of things I shouldn’t have said to her and about her only because I was fed up and felt like she talk about me too 🤷🏾♀️ but that was no excuse…so I asked her for three consecutive days to talk to me, I apologized but she won’t have it. So now I’m moving on. This is my first day of no contact. Not necessarily wanting a relationship again right now but I want her to want me again. I want us to fix it all! Your videos are helping me tremendously! Please continue uploading Sir❤ thank you
My ex broke up with me for 4 months... he's been in a new relationship for three months... it's horrible for me that they publicly confess their love... we used to be a family I love his child as much as mine... I miss him terribly
If you find the new love with another man he will be back knocking your door. It almost always happens.
Wow he moved on fast he must really wasn't into u 😢
Great analogy. Thank you for being so kind on a hurtful topic.
An x will always be an x, no coming back.. when you take them back they are worse than before. It has been 15 years that we broke up and I am very happy all by myself. The day I don't feel to cook, I don't, the day I feel to watch TV and stay in bed all day I do, x my ass gone and forgotten. Lol lol
Finally I began to try and let go of his indiscretion and didn’t bring it up. We celebrated his birthday last weekend and had On Monday of this week, he mentioned to me that the woman left an item of clothing at his place and asked if I got rid of it. My answer was yes. He totally got angry and said he couldn’t do this anymore when he created the situation! Nevertheless, I now must go into no contact mode again. Which is so difficult and painful. I’m not sleeping, eating, etc. Thank you for listening.😔 (Sad in South Carolina)
My ex came back to his ex after we broke up because he wasn’t valuing me, I am low key jealous but I did what was right for me.
I was in love with a mother of 2 lovely children from Germany in a long distance relationship. She shocked me 5 weeks back that it's all over and went for someone else during our relationship itself ..
Since I was in love with her children I took some time to go No Contact...
I started it from Today itself... Hoping for the best
I got my ex back after 4 months of listening to Coach Blac, honestly speaking I regret taking her back it's just no longer the same 😢I don't trust her anymore. Sometimes am even disgusted to kiss her. People here's a piece of advice don't take your ex back there are amazing people out there believe me. Please help me I want a break up I just don't know how to tell her without hurting her feelings like she did to me😟😟
Have the integrity to leave her. Be honest with her and focus on building yourself back up.
Your analogies be on point🔥🔥🔥 you do a great job of making me understand the psychology of my ex and why silence and distance is the best recipe
I enjoy his stories they make so much sense..
Hey coach, im seperated 6month now from my wife of 7 years (together 15) and 3kids. ive moved out and Ive made so many mistakes pleasing and professing my love and its so hard no contact with kids. Respect had gon from her to me even though i devoted myself to the family
Feel like im stuck because i want her and the family back. I am working on me and destroying myself in the gym and with work ❤ i hope i feel better soon and she misses me
@bIacademic1 tell me how
Thank you really helping me in my life broken up in 2012 but now she has ran into me no contact is def working
My ex dumped me the day I got back from a vacation roughly 6 weeks ago, I spent 3 weeks being friends and trying to jump through hoops I shouldn't have amd she ended up blocking me. Im pretty sure it broke off for reasons entirely in my control. I only made worse by storming up and saying "goodbye" pretty angrily. She blamed family but seemed to not want much to do with me outside of helping her pass time at work before the block.
In these last 3 weeks I have been working on myself, cleaning up, staying no contact but in the back of my mind it feels like I am still just jumping through a hoop. Im here on these vids cause I want to hear her sweet voice again after all but I must accept that may not happen.
When we were dating we went out twice a week and were very close so I am very confused. I hope she left cause i used to be a slob but I can never know. It wasnt a very long relationship, maybe 2 months but it hurts regardless. I just hope life works itself out for the best.
Give them the breakup!
Once People start looking into Personality disorders this will be a wake up call as to who their ex really were. I recommend looking up border line personality disorder or Narcissist. These are highly manipulative evil people.
I’d bet the tip is to show zero interest in getting back with them. This situation just happened to me. 💯
What happened right after?
Did it work for you?
Did it work for you?
Well said coach black❤
Hi I love all your video's. It helps me get through my day...I am in no contact three weeks after breaking up 7 weekis ago our relationship was four pretty good years .However then i saw him...I was casual he hugged me twice I made it brief then i caved and texted him hi the next day and he no replied this was a huge set back for me I had a horrible weekend because of ty.
It’s been 2M to the day since he ended things with me abruptly. Month 1 - 1x/wk I was reaching out. I felt so embarrassed so I stopped. We’ve been in NC since Aug 11th.
I love him and I miss him, but I’m feeling like he’s done.
I've given my Heart, he is not to be Trusted, he's thr one that cheated!
Great advice but just move on. Save yourself time. Work on YOU!
Great information thanks 🙏
Hello, Guns!! 💪 Can’t wait!! 🙌
My ex ended things for the second time. We broke up the first time 6 years ago for different reasons. We were able to reconnect. We got our own little place then moved into a house. Things were amazing! Overtime I became complacent and wasn’t supportive. I lacked motivation and was always stressed- this had nothing to do with her. As a result I became lazy and stopped attending to my duties as a partner. She said she didn’t feel as though I cared, I didn’t ask her how she was feeling and didn’t do my part when it came to chores etc. she’s moved out, told me she doesn’t love me and that she would happily see me move on. I feel that she doesn’t mean this. All the contact we have had since the breakup she has started. Small comments to just reach out I’ve noticed just to get my attention. Currently haven’t spoken for 6 days. I’m letting her have her space, I’m radio silent at the moment have been for almost a month in terms of social media/posting. Any tips coach?
So if my ex doesn't want me anymore, then why does he still look at me and is often sad when he sees me? It's not logical, because he wanted a breakup, not me.
He could be a narcissist but see those signs before wanting him back.
Thank you so much 💓
My ex said he doesn’t want commitment,so I had to end things😢it hurt but I had to let go,so am currently in no contact for 1 week now
Can you make a video about situatioships also and ldr?
Ok so me and my ex were together for a year and 8 months.. we never once argued or anything it was a good relationship.. then he told me he didn't see me in his future. So i said ok and walked away. A week later we started talking and pretty much went right back to how we were, but now he was on dating apps.. which is how we met. and I just felt like he was with me till he finds someone better.. he told me he would never find someone like me. But it wasn't good enough for me. I wanted gim to say ok ill get off of them. But he didn't so i walked away.. but I feel like we are meant to be together. It's only been 5 days, since we talked. I know he will get a hold of me soon. I just don't know how to handle it when he does! I've always been someone who wears my heart on my sleeve and it's really hard for me to fake being happy.. i just don't know how to handle my situation! 🙏
What happened
I've ended up my situationship 2 weeks ago. He didn't want to commit. I never in my life felt this way. Before i had high self esteem and i was very confident. Somehow this guy took everything. I cut the contact. Didn't agree for being friends.. i don't want to be his back up option 😢
Don't worry, we not all the same, just be yourself and value self first....you'll find the right fella❤
❤Thank you King❤
Bro why yall act so helpless in the comments. Learn a little bit, pray more, and attract, not chase.
Make sure they are not a narc or highly narcissistic before you want them back.
Don’t be so quick to label people. Nobody is a saint ✌🏽
@@Millianbabe its not labelling. its life saving to know if someone has narcissistic traits/tendencies or using narcissistic tactics on you. narcissistic abuse is real. a lot of women have wasted years unknowingly dating or married to a highly narcissistic man.
That’s a banging Cardigan
Well it's been 8 month's sense he broke up with me i ain't gonna lie i still love him we share a child together i have to fake wen i'm around him
The thing is I don't want her back at all. I just want her to come back begging cause she chose a narcissist she dated in the past over me after everything I did for her. I want her grovelling at my feet begging to do anything, just so I can tell her where to go.
This intension won't bring her back btw good luck
3-1/2 years now. I’ll never talk to her again.
Mate I love how you word things and use theories and real stories, but when you get back in contact can you make a video on like things to say in text and how to show real growth and confidence bc I’ve been thinking this a lot in person I think be easier but in text things can be misread and misunderstood but was wondering your thoughts
I am in a brake up small contacts i only respond when I feel like and 1 word I will keep it like that I think men don't like when you show or give love ladys let's keep it dry and what ever mood that works
I experience this topic and I been in no contact for a long time we had talked but it wasn't about getting back together.
Coach she said me to move on and its of no use but i really love her ive been hitting workouts and all and tryna be mysterious. Weve dated for 4 years. And its been 2 months for the break up. We've been in no contact for 2 weeks. i really need her bad i pray to god and listen to your words but deep down i do not want to loose her i love her so much what do i do?? From my childhood ive never been loved and the way she did was something magical..
For me I’m sure eventually she will come back I was the first man she had that was actually good to her the rest cheated and beat her … her issue she was scared that’s all real simple and expected me to be like them … so she never seen my value put me through the ringer … and pulled the rug
With that being said even if she does come back do I really want something who didn’t even find me worth it ????
What ever happened
How will they know if they're still the motive or not, when no contact is taking place?
Great vid coach but please do more content about families with kids. Its so confusing not being able to do noncontact successfully when the feelings are so strong and youve ALWAY gotta see them
What if during the breakup you said terrible things to your ex, even attempted to harm yourself but you asked for their forgiveness though they said they never will?
Yeah the video came in time just when I decided to disappear in his life no Contact at all
I did the same thing to her. It’s two months…. Keep up your good work…
@@franklujan8304 definitely so hopefully in the end we wil get the love we deserve 🙏
Great !!!
I really want to do a private session but my budget presently won’t allow for $300. Perhaps in the future.
It's been two weeks since my ex broke up with me. She said I was being too strict, I take small issues to be big issues, she can't joke with me or play with me etcetera. Says she wants freedom and she doesn't want to date someone else. We were friends for 6 months, and relationship for a year and I month. Due to the things she refused to work on, and how she behaved, I asked for a break for a week, that we should see where we're going wrong, sort it out, and then see how it goes for us, only for her to come back to say she wants freedom, but also wants to get comfortable in communication, which I stopped.
I still love her deeply, but I gotta give her what she wants, the freedom and the breakup, while I work on myself..
Am I doing the right thing, coach?
It’s been two months since I’ve walked away from a three-year and a half relationship July 11, 2024… it’s September 12, 2024.. it’s been rough.. I wish I could reach out but I can’t…
Same boat - same dates, exactly. I’m heartbroken and been in NC for 1M
Hoping he’ll feel something and wanna reach out.
Hey partners, I have a question to understand a certain event. I was with my ex for three years, she never had a boyfriend for that long, after breaking up after two weeks she went back to her ex who she was with for a year. Is this a rebound?
It is hard for me to not contact him because we were living together and we still have bills to pay together but he never calls me and he only respond to my texts if it’s about the bills. We’ve been together for 3 years. It’s painful
My partner of 10 years has left me and found his with someone else. Been trying to fight for him come up with solutions of keeping him and our family but his not there. Help me cope I’m struggling to cope
We have broken up for a year but my ex has a close relationship with my daughter. He stays in touch and also want to talk about out breakup but never talks about reconciliation, and when I ask why do you always want to talk about the past, he says he doesn’t know. He sometimes says, he knows we will get together and then next times say, I just want pour my heart out but not to change anything. I do not understand his motive
Are these love spells worth
We broke up 2 months ago after 5 yrs... now hes messaging to meet. I declined the offer. Is it the best thing to do, right now im not ready to meet him.
How do I use no contact when there's kids envolved. No one has given me an answer about this.
Are you trying to get back with this person? You have to clarify that
@@MrOneal9141 yes I want to get back with her, but there's so much envolved with this
me and my girlfriend were having an argument and in the heat of the moment she said something that triggered me and I said some hurt full things to her and she blocked me and after two days she broke up with me I begged and pleaded and asked for forgiveness but still she didn't listen to me ..And after that still I am blocked from almost every where its been almost 2.5 weeks that she left and have not talked since.... please help me I want her back... please give me solutions to how to get her back . I don't have enough resources for the 1-1 coaching.
Coach, we should post on our insta stories our new life updates? Me and my ex never unfollow but I mute her stories and all that. I should stay completely in silence ? We brokeup again I think 3 years ago but we were childish. Now I message her again after I ghost her 3 years ago, we were fine with a lot of fights but after we were good for about 4 months. Thats also a long distance relationship so we are together every weekend. She see that I change a lot and she tell me she was so courious about me because she couldnt see my (i delete all my socials 3 years ago). What should I do? Post on insta stories or just complete silence. I dont use to post a lot of things on insta before we brokeup. We just use to post same photos together. I post 2 photos after 1 day of breakup but now I feel like the complete silence its a better threatment. Sorry for my english and tell me if you dont understand someting. English its not my 1st language.
Hello everyone,
My ex-girlfriend and I broke up in September 2022 after being together for 5 years and working at the same place. Over the past year and a bit, until this month, we were still going out for food, drinks, and to the cinema. She mentioned that she went on a date a few weeks ago and we haven't spoken since.
I recognize that I have shown some weakness. Is there any hope for me to improve this situation?
Coach I need to talk to you one on one let me know how much a session is
I’ve been broken up for over month and half and we see each other because we share a dog that we both love and I have to see her every week but I can also leave the keys outside the house so she can pick him up it’s once a week but I don’t know what to do it’s extremely hard when I see her when I’m texting im much more distant and direct but when we see each other it’s different I can’t hold my emotions she wants to give me 2 kisses as a friend.. which I can’t do and talks to me a little bit about her problems and I fall into giving her a hug which at the end I did she hugged me back obviously but I don’t know if I did the right thing 😔 or should I stay distant also or just not see her in person at all
Hello coach, my ex broke up with me but wanted to be friends.I said no, we been over for 7 months now, but the whole time he still calls. He still wants to see me, but I know he's on dating sites. I haven't been answering his text lately. I told him I don't want to be friends. He keeps texting. I haven't texted back lately, but how is no contact going to work for me if he continues to text it's like he won't do the break up. And how do I know when he feels the lost of me? I'm so confused it's like he wants me and everything else too. When do I know when to text back? Just don't know how to handle this at all
If your over him let him just tell him to leave you alone and move on then just ignore everything else after that.
If you still love him and want to be with him, be straight up and tell him that for one day… then the next day begin no contact. No matter how much he texts, see the texts but ignore them all until he says something you want to hear, like him saying he wants to be with you.
Works like Magic.
The same way y'all got them is the same way you gotta keep them!
Hey Coach. Are there any videos related to a marriage that is failing? Wanting to do No Contact to save the marriage. Wife of 5 years wants a divorce in the near future. We live together in our house, but in separate bedrooms. She announced she wanted to be “separated” until we are able to sell the house. Please help. Thank you.
20 yr relationship n he broke up with me. Didnt feel spark anymore. Fell out of love. Is their hope?
Same with my wife. Also 20 years in total. Without any serious reason.
@@patricktill4119 your wife just hit menopause. Thats common.
You must find love with another man and he is back soon.
@@marguskiis7711 I dont think that this could be the reason. She is only 36 years old.
@@patricktill4119 cmon, your wife was with you from age 16. She was a kid when you started. Its normal some changes must happen.
Mines just broke no contact after 2 in a half months !!!
@bIacademic1 how can we do that ?
A man?
@@marguskiis7711 this was a women the broke up with me
I dumped my avoidant ex after another slow fade and avoidant behavior. After 13 months she watches all my stories again, I miss her very much. What should I do?
Nothing! Let her reach out to you.
If your ex is aggressive when you talking during breakup does it mean she still love you??? Help
So im 15 ill be 16 on sunday and my girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago she said she lost feeling a bit over a week ago and im just crushed i have never been in a good relationship and this was my first love she needed a mental health break and she lost feelings but i just dont know how to get over her and get her back it was a healthy relationship for the most part i just dont know how to get her back man and im so hurt i need help i need advise please man i have been constantly crying and checking up on her everything reminds me of her and i feel like i cant leave her alone and ik its desperate ash but dude i never wanted to loose her and now that i have im just crushed its only been about 3 days and i need help please bro please reply please give me advice
I’ve been in no contact mode but yesterday she called me, 10 missed calls in a row and I broke the code. I feel guilty I couldn’t keep my routine.. I kept it brief though, did I mess things up?
No worries just say I know and be on no contact atleast for 30 days unless she storm at ur place pleading for forgiveness
Or do I give grace
What if your ex has cheated and moved away
Sorry to hear that, must be destructive, altho you gotta leave such a person a let them go, once they cheated you cant give them same trust. Ppl wgo cheat would do it again and again.
@bIacademic1 how do I contact
@@imferrer it’s very hard at the moment from what’s happened 😢💔💔
@@lucywood4988 im on same boat, my ex just left me, and i did a lot of mistakes after break up, pleased , begged, chased, i went NC altho i deleted some comments on ig and that was kinda contact, so she texted me rly angry , that im trying to erase her from my life ,trying to look it like she has never been part of my life, and i got caught, coz i said i still love her. That was a mistake coz she was just looking for validation, and now she did this brick wall again. Im suffering a lot coz she has zero interest in me. She just wanted to know if im still an option for her. I gotta move on which is completely destructive atm for me. I dont even know how this move on things works. Trying to hit the gym, going to therapy, working a lot etc. But it just doesnt work. Rly only time can fix this shit. But the pain is fuckin real. 😭
Is there a video on what to say to initiate no contact?
My ex reach out to me after no contact but we still on the friend zone level she ask for favours most time and grant them, but she also check on me,as much as i want to talk to her deeply i text her as if i am not interested in her no more, am i wrong for that? Tell me what should i do coach plz i reallu do love her though but i dont want her to feel that way that i still do
For a woman it is hard to come back, it is a pity for them. Thats why she takes it slow.
My ex I have a kid with helps me still money wiz but is still with other guy what does that mean also gets mad or upset if I go out but it's been 5 months also ones or twice out of a week she claims to want o come back but im not sure if I want to get back together
@bIacademic4 can't afford it I'm paying for my kids medical for his tumor just found out he has one last month it's in his spine
@bIacademic4 also because of the meds they give him to shrink the tumor he eats more so that's an extra $200 alone and groceries
Yoo
Héllo Bro... I have been in no contact for 3 weeks and she's talking about me with her friends... What does it mean!?
@bIacademic1 okay Sir
should i reply on small talk? or just ignore it? cuz it's not leading to a meet up, i dont want to be friends with her
@bIacademic4 No thank you, because it's over and I learned soo much about myself after the breakup. I became a way better person, doing things differently because I saw that my behavior pushed her away and i started to questioing myself. I am thankful she came into my life for me to evolve to another level.
😓😔
NC does not work with women.
It does!
@@comfortzone5618 never seen it in my life. I know ca 100 women, ca 90 of them have been divorced, have dumped some men and they NEVER have came back. Never. Men can do whatever they can, do, nothing works.
U need to like get to the point u be on the long talking and all just tell us get to the point then when u do it’s just a minute on the subject and u done
if its her birthday in 5 days and its been a month can I send a message? sm1 help
No. You need to leave her alone bro
Don’t send the text, let her miss you.
@@blacademic can you send the info again please
My ex talks to me when he feels like it he is giving me mixed signals