Episode 239 | Do I Need To Immediately Forgive My Abuser?

Most often survivors are told to immediately forgive their abuser yet no demands are placed on the abuser. Survivors are told that this is the only way they can receive healing. We long for the day when justice is sought FIRST, then people talk about forgiveness. In the end, what keeps us all safe from abusers is when some form of justice keeps them at bay where they can no longer produce victims, contact victims, or harass innocent people. Once an abuser begins the process of repaying what they took from their victims we can begin a conversation about forgiveness.
Please note that we are not attempting to convince anyone to change their views on forgiveness. We are, however, talking about what worked for us and many survivors we've spoken with. You may find these conversations difficult but that in no way diminishes your healing journey.
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[@SD_Chosen]

Not immediately, But it Takes Time Prayer and a Lot of Love, Providing the Abuser Repents as Well.
God wants us to Repent of Sin, So Same for Anybody Who Has Abused Someone
Repent, Truly

[@smokymtnlady3856]

Jimmy, I truly appreciate this so much! My abusive ex is continuing to abuse women, and I know this because TWO of his former girlfriends have contacted me via FB to ask me about his behavior after he abused, gaslighted and then ghosted them!
We have now become friends, they are amazing ladies, and this weekend we are meeting for the first time for a girls weekend in Gatlinburg!
I don’t worry about forgiving that scumbag! Why should I? He’s out of my life and I’m HAPPY, and my mental health is great! So forgiving an abuser for yourself and your own healing is just plain stupid advice, IMO! I’d LOVE to hear more about forgiveness in the Bible, so I can help others see that it’s NOT necessary for your healing!

[@jimmyhinton1692]

I'm SO glad you have a healthy approach to the abuse. I always say that we don't need to forgive to heal or to be happy. Sounds like you're living proof. Great on you for getting together with the other women!! I did a sermon series on forgiveness several years ago. I'll look up the link and send it your way!

[@jimmyhinton1692]

Here's that series
ruclips.net/p/PLMvc1bWHCKZYukIg9qVmrViGAERmREJqn

[@smokymtnlady3856]

@@jimmyhinton1692 TY!! I appreciate it!

[@jimmyhinton1692]

@@smokymtnlady3856 you're quite welcome!