I work for the NHS and you have certainly explained the state of the nhs and transgender healthcare well. I would imagine the NHS waiting list will only grow as more people go private as, in my experience, the surgeons who work in private healthcare are the same ones who work in the nhs. What needs to be done is to encourage more surgeons to do these procedures, especially bottom surgery as, again from my experience, breast surgeons are not that uncommon. My bottom jaw fell to the floor when you said that the first appointment, not surgery, but first appointment is around 5 years, that is a lifetime!! (I’m still gob smacked). Yes you would need at less 6 weeks recovery for bottom surgery and no lifting anything heavier than a half full kettle.
A close friend went to Thailand about 5 years ago for bottom surgery, because in New Zealand our wait list for surgery is 40 years. The only surgeon who did bottom surgery here retired, so that list is probably many years longer now, and also means that bottom surgery privately isn't an option either. Couple flights to Thailand with surgery costs, plus flights for her family member to support her post surgery, accommodation for the 3 months she had to be there until she could travel home again, and you have a hugely prohibitive cost for most trans people. It breaks my heart, truly. I'm NB and have considered going down the medical route but all these things put me off. And yet pearl clutchers still claim that children are being chopped up willy nilly because they "choose" to change genders overnight. Keep waving that flag Jude. You're amazing.
I'm a cis female in the US, I appreciate your honesty in your journey. I hope all countries and health care companies get on board with supporting people without any exclusions.
Thank you for helping me/us understand. Watching you over the years has helped me with my own struggles and you always bring a smile to me, that's a big thing some days. I worked in a "reassignment" unit many years ago here in Canada and was shocked at how people had to "earn" the right to transition often at a great emotional cost. This is not a luxury, nor is it cosmetic. I wish more people understood that. I think you will help that a lot. x0x0x0x0
Thanks for the time and energy you put into providing this education. It’s definitely disheartening and I’m glad to hear you have people wanting to support you! Watching your video reminded me to call our employer-funded insurance here in the US to find out which clinics are in-network for my son’s gender affirming care. (He’s 8 now but once puberty begins, he will start blockers.) Well, our insurance flat out excludes any coverage for transgender-related care. So we’ll be fighting that! Let the appeals begin! Sending you care, support and solidarity. My son loves watching your videos!
Maaaan! I'm so glad you give some more visibility to trans knitters! (And trans people). I feel so alone knitting and crocheting in my small Belgium hahahhaha! I wish you all the best and send good wooly vibes your way 🤗🤗🤗
You are not alone. I am the proud Belgian mom of a trans daughter. She was born in Belgium but never actually lived there. Trying to get her birth certificate changed to reflect her real gender and name. Bit of a challenge since we live in the US.
@@momonwallstreet must be because you live in us? Here in Belgium we have a super easy process to change names and gender. We recently even got the gender mention deleted from the id cards to not stigmatize the trans and non binary people
@@Fierdre The issue is mainly that my daughter has a Belgian birth certificate, a Belgian and Australian passport and an American Green Card. In all these countries, it is relatively easy to get name and gender changed but figuring out the right order of doing this is a bit challenging.
I can’t imagine one of my kids realizing they’re trans at some point and facing so many hurdles. I’m off to call my representatives! The way we treat and support trans people has to get better and I don’t want to wait for it. ❤️
It's so great that you have the courage to make videos like this. I learnt so much about transitioning that I hadn't considered before. I have experience of the problems with mental health care in Britain (ie they don't have enough money to properly care for people) which had a devastating effect on my late husband. Although I am trying not to increase my stash this year, I will definitely be helping you in other ways. You're amazing!
I am learning through your journey, Jude. Who knows, it may help me support one of my family members down the road. Mostly I know I care for you and want to help. Thank you for being so open.
"What's going on in my pants." Love your phrasing for that, I think that is my favorite thing I have heard today. You are such an amazing person, appreciate what you share and I hope you never feel pressured to share more than you are comfortable with. I too came here because of your knitting many years ago, you are one of the few podcasters (not sure that is the right term) that I have stayed with. Another US Cis-female rooting you on, sending you good thoughts.
I think the thing I respect about you the most is......your ability and willingness to remain positive, smile on your face, while discussing any topic. Thank you......now I have "commercials to watch"
I had no idea it got this bad with the NHS waiting lists, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Thank you for the thoughtful commentary and sharing your personal journey! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you mate 🤞
I have found this very enlightening. Not a topic I have had to think about personally. I am a long time viewer and appreciate the amount of very personal information you have shared. I will definitely be more mindful of watching the ads on your channel as well as purchasing your beautiful yarn!
Thank you for taking us with you on your journey. Representation matters. Insight is essential. Wishing you speedy funds to you can take the next step towards living your authentic self!
I don't understand why anyone would give trans people grief for wanting to transition. What business is it of theirs?! Hopefully those people keep their opinions to themselves. Those of us who watch you regularly like you for you, the work you produce and of course #notmycat 😁. You just keep doing you
You are inspirational Jude! I came here for the yarn several years ago but your journey now is so brave. I just want you to be happy and content. All the luck in the world and please keep up us to date with your journey!
I admire you so much and appreciate you shedding light on the healthcare costs and process and sharing your journey. I’m just in shock at the waitlist. Thank you for being so brave and open with sharing your journey 💖
Thank you Jude for shining a light on the problems around trans healthcare. I am sad to say it is not much better here in the Netherlands, the waiting lists are long and the gatekeeping is really bad. Hang in there and keep being amazing.
Thanks for sharing...We are so invested in you to be your true self! We are also invested in helping with the medical expenses, so keep the yarn coming and we will always keep buying to support you!
Jude, you are such a special person and I appreciate the time you have taken to share your journey to your true self. The UK position in not encouraging transgender healthcare is deplorable. I live in Texas and believe me things can be a lot worse. The terrible Republican stranglehold here in so many backward ideas (book banning, women healthcare including choice, rewriting history etc) now includes a push to punish parents who seek to help their kiddos receive transgender care being accused/hounded as child abuse. No actual law has been passed but the folks in Austin (capital of Texas) has started down this road. Texas is a beautiful State and has many good qualities, but its government is not one of them. We do what we can and it is an uphill battle. So that is my rant. Take good care all good things you wish for will come to you.
Dear Jude, I love you and I am sending you so very many virtual hugs. As a parent of a trans teen, I see how hard it is on so many levels from her perspective. If I win the lotto, I've got you covered. For now I will continue to donate to your Kofi and I will be a voice in the USA for trans people in as many ways as I can. Part of what I am grateful for in my life is that I am able to be a parent that my kids need. So many kids don't have that. I will buy yarn and destash and all of the things. Your ability to so beautifully and clearly share your journey will surely open hearts and minds.
Bravo, Jude ~ Well articulated and enlightening . Wishing you all the very best on your quest ( and difficult wait ) to live your authentic life. Take good care of yourself in the challenging process ahead. marcia
I think you are so brave to be so open about what you are going through with your transition. You are perfectly right what goes on downstairs is private, I wish you good luck and best wishes for your future. Stay safe love and hugs xx
Hi Jude. I too am invested in your journey. I’ve been following you for about 4 yrs now, and I’m a big fan of yours. I must say, I’m super happy that your in Scotland while going through this, and not the USA. I say that bc of the many issues playing out there right now, and the many times you’ve mentioned that you would love to live there. That would be heartbreaking for you to be pushed against the wall so dramatically now that your on your way to you. To help me understand how things are for you, I’ve been watching some documentaries on the issues and steps for a trans male and female. I truly wish you all the best in your transition, your life, and your business. I read a couple of comments before typing this, and how awesome that you can be there for others who are also feeling the same. Nothing like a good community. I’m here for you and your content always. Thanks for sharing.
Hi Jude. Thank you for the overview of transitioning health care in the UK. I would like to see more videos with trans-related content. I am totally in support of your pursuit of happiness.
Thank you so much for sharing all of this, Jude. I have a friend that also has been navigating the system for a number of years now; and it's positively ludicrous the hoops you both have to go through with the NHS. Yes, there are hoops here in Canada (also stemming from the fact that there is 1 -- only one -- clinic that does lower surgery in the entire freakin' country), but I don't think there's anything quite like the waitlists you are describing. I was trying to do my own research to see what it would be like here, and the waitlists quoted on the websites don't seem as bad (max 2 years)? But I'm not a person seeking this type of treatment, so I don't know what it actually is. It also varies widely in terms of costs and wait times per province. Does it violate RUclips's Community Guidelines to shout expletives at the Tories (And really, any governmental power that attempts to limit the rights of trans people)? Because I would really love to give them a peace of my mind. I 24 weeks pregnant and full of hormonal rage and I am not afraid to use it.
Thank you for sharing Jude. Very informative video, the wait times are ridiculous and can only be causing bigger issues that the health service has deal with down the line as the trans community deal with being in the wrong body psychologically. Sending you love and good vibes for your journey.
Thanks for sharing this Jude. I really had no idea of the costs and waiting involved. I wish you all the very best and will help when I can . Keep up the good work and take care of yourself .
Thank you so much for your open honesty. I am cis female and came to you for all things yarn, but I fully support your journey and thank you for sharing your experience so that people can appreciate that there are others going through the same things they are. Even if you help just one person realise that they are not alone, then it's all worth it. Hopefully you won't get any trolls. Much love. xx
Jude thank you for taking us on the journey to becoming your authentic self. I think it is shocking that the trans community have such huge waiting lists just to be seen for the first time.
Jude, thank you so much for sharing so honestly about your trans healthcare experience. I hope that you will be able to fully realize yourself as the person you know you are in the most expedient way. I’m cheering you on from over here in California and will support you as best I can because you truly deserve to be your fullest self.❤️
Thank you for this video. I have two friends who each have a child in the process of transitioning to male. Your clear explanation of your thoughts and experiences is much appreciated. Came for the knitting but learning so much more.
I so appreciate your podcast and sharing your journey. I’m a cis female and have a trans family member who is struggling. I’ve recommended they watch your channel for your take on your journey.
Thanks Jude! I've been following a few trans folks and I knew a bit about wait times, but not the full extent of it. It's frustrating and unfair. I'm looking forward to your fundraising effort - I'm fairly certain the yarn community will have your back 💖
So interesting and enlightening, Jude. I have been watching your yarn related videos for ages and commend you on your trans journey. I had no idea of the expense and time investment involved and will support you in ways that you talk about, whenever I can.
I think you're amazing what an honest and thoughtful video ,it made me emotional just thinking about what a journey you are having .I have very limited knowledge about trans healthcare and other issues so you are educating me in a good way .I work in nhs and appreciate what'd you say .This government is so short sighted completely get what you say about mental health too especially for adolescents .Thank you for sharing
Thank you again - we both learned a lot from that about waiting times and expense. I have followed you from the start and am aiming to be supportive, but don't often have spare money. Do always let the ads play now on all my favourite podcasts though I mute them - do hope that makes no difference. Was under the impression your yarn was always instantly sold out - must have a look and see if I am wrong! Best wishes always, Carol and Lynn xxx
Thank you for this very informative podcast! I’m a cis female yarnie from Sweden, and like many others started watching for the yarn but quickly stayed for you and your personality. Here in sweden the political debate about trans health care in the news has recently seemed to focus on the few people who regret their treatments and surgery, which sadly seem to bias the whole process towards implementing even more hurdles before the trans person gets to finally become their true self. Do you find that to be the ”trend” in the UK as well? Best of luck with your whole process, there are tons of us who are rooting for you and support you!
First of all, hug! I cannot even imagine the strength & determination needed to basically put the brakes on your life & do a 180°turn. Dealing w dysmorphia must be quite challenging, both physically and emotionally. I'm glad that so many in the knitting community support your vlogs & are willing to learn & cheer for you. My GP is undergoing the same process; however, I'm incensed at what his hospital is putting him thru. I'm upset, he must be hurt, embarrassed & yeah, bullied by his place of work. Can you believe that as his patient I was called & interviewed by the hospital staff?! Questions were short & horrid in this day & age. Basically, they wanted to know if I had any issues being treated by my former doctor, now transitioning to male? I understand people have different opinions, we all have the right, but just exposing him to all patients out of the blue? Then, I was sent another questionnaire w same purpose, even if worded differently. Then I had a remote consultation & again, I was called AND received a survey, about the same issue. Agghhrrr!!! Human beings don't exist in only in a fingernail, we r a collection of thoughts, emotions, soul, honor, attitude, dreams, so much more than our shell & how we can feel at home in that skin. Again, I might not understand how complex & painful it might be to be put in a specific & assigned spot, but you have my respect because I'm not blind to "fear", those of us might have when we don't understand something or we don't know how to process a drastic change, but one that is absolutely personal to another human being. I also send you a hug to let you kno someone at the other side if th Atlantic is sending you positive vibes & believes you have every right & reasons for conducting your life as you see fit. If you are not hurting or depriving another of their same rights, no one has the right to invade your privacy, nor deprive you of your choices.
Cis Canadian woman here fighting with my trans friends for an end to gatekeeping. Completely understandable that you want things to move at a faster pace as although this might be new to us Stranded fans, it been 30+ years of you waiting to become your authentic self. Sending you love and I wish I could come and help during your recovery… oh hey wait that might be an idea - hold a lottery for a “yarn dyeing with an expert experience” for the 3rd to 6th weeks of your recovery where you sit in a comfy chair and tell people what to do!
Hi Jude, thank you for sharing! I am sorry to hear that, while intentions seem to be good (coverage by NHS) practise is far from that. When you have a heart condition, you don't want to wait 5 years for a consultation. When you have genderdysforia of course you don't want to wait 5 years either! As I understand it for at least a number of people, the journey to their coming out can take time, years. Like you said, waiting years and years for treatments and such, sounds honestly horrible. I have heard someone explain they felt trapped in a body they could not relate to and to think that there are ways to change that for the better and then to hit such a waiting list....
Thank you for sharing all this. Lots of information I didn't know. I'm a UK resident and I had mostly assumed that private healthcare would remove a lot of the gatekeeping and wait times, but you explained it really well. Lack of resources because Tory government is terrible all round basically.
I love how you open up about this topic. The unknown makes unloved. The thought you want a transition for fun is too bizarre to think about. Hun, 3 years to get your first appointment as a teenager in Northern Europe. A psychologic chat. Then you have to start the traject íf you get permission. Super frustrating as things start to form you certainly don't want to form. For older trans it is a long time. All free. If you go to private clinics the prices skyrocket and takes also a certain amount of time you don't want. I do hope all will go as you wish, Jude.
If you have handknits that no longer suit you, I could see auctioning them to support transitioning as a double win. I'm so glad you're finding a path on this journey even when the powers that be make it difficult and frustrating.
This is so interesting to think about the way that the UK health system works. I am a gay man in the united states who currently is living under his parents' health insurance for a few more years. I am honestly so scared and worried about the steps that I need to take when it comes to having to pay for the blood work I do for specific medications as well as the medications themselves. I wish you the best with everything and hope that by just watching and supporting that you feel comfort from those who really care to listen to you!
Always glad for your videos, Jude. Sounds like top surgery costs the same in the UK as the US. While more insurance policies are offering coverage for trans healthcare in the US, it's still rare and tricky to find it. It's mostly dependent upon where you live. Certain states, like Colorado and Washington, have set the legal requirement that any insurance company operating in their state must cover gender-affirming care; this means that I have full coverage for my gender care on state (poverty) insurance in Washington, and that companies like Aetna that are based in these states must also offer gender care coverage. However, most insurance is still tied to a person's employment, and you'll have a hard time getting these insurance policies if you live in conservative states. Back in Texas, most trans people I know worked at Starbucks at some point, because their insurance covered gender care and kicked in at only 20 hours/week. Further, while I do have the poverty-level (medicaid) insurance which is supposed to cover my care, I haven't been able to navigate whatever hoops they want me to jump through for that coverage. Honestly paying out of pocket in Texas was cheaper, because I was lucky to live in Houston where there's a big queer clinic (born out of the AIDS epidemic) where they had financial assistance available. Testosterone through their pharmacy was 1/10th of the cost it is for me here. I started testosterone seven years ago, but I've probably only been ON t for three years in that time, due to poverty and bureaucratic runaround.
Hate to tell you, as a nurse who’s had shoulder surgery…you’ll probably have closer to 3-6 months to build up your strength in lifting, I’m working with my grand son with these issues and also my son-in-law… I wish you the best in your transition. Love your yarns. Will continue to purchase
From one transgender knitter to another: I'm glad I found your channel some time ago. I'm not glad how trans healthcare is in... well, anywhere, I suppose. Hoping for a brighter future.
I've always felt at home with the gender I was born into, but I know not everyone does and I know that it helps to find people you identify with particularly if you feel different than those around you. I wanted to say that I appreciate you sharing this with us, and I do find it very interesting and I can't even imagine how difficult this would be in America where health care is so expensive my everyday prescriptions cost almost as much as my groceries do. Granted I do have a lot of prescriptions but they are not unusual ones for someone my age.
Jude, have you thought of a documentary regarding your transition journey? Based on the number of folks who have commented their interest and fascination with the subject material I would think it a profitable project to follow your journey through a series such as those on Netflix. You have an engaging personality and a humble presence which would draw an audience. I unfortunately do not have any connections but I bet someone in your large following could help you. What do you think?
Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a delight. I imagine you could raise a lot of money if you did a virtual knit night where the people on the call had to donate $20 each. We would love to hang out with you.
I'm cis female, I'm invested in your personal journey. Came for the knitting, stayed for you.
This! Fully behind you Jude xxx
Me too
I work for the NHS and you have certainly explained the state of the nhs and transgender healthcare well. I would imagine the NHS waiting list will only grow as more people go private as, in my experience, the surgeons who work in private healthcare are the same ones who work in the nhs. What needs to be done is to encourage more surgeons to do these procedures, especially bottom surgery as, again from my experience, breast surgeons are not that uncommon. My bottom jaw fell to the floor when you said that the first appointment, not surgery, but first appointment is around 5 years, that is a lifetime!! (I’m still gob smacked). Yes you would need at less 6 weeks recovery for bottom surgery and no lifting anything heavier than a half full kettle.
A close friend went to Thailand about 5 years ago for bottom surgery, because in New Zealand our wait list for surgery is 40 years. The only surgeon who did bottom surgery here retired, so that list is probably many years longer now, and also means that bottom surgery privately isn't an option either. Couple flights to Thailand with surgery costs, plus flights for her family member to support her post surgery, accommodation for the 3 months she had to be there until she could travel home again, and you have a hugely prohibitive cost for most trans people. It breaks my heart, truly. I'm NB and have considered going down the medical route but all these things put me off.
And yet pearl clutchers still claim that children are being chopped up willy nilly because they "choose" to change genders overnight.
Keep waving that flag Jude. You're amazing.
Thank you so much for being so transparent about your journey. It’s one of those things I’m curious about, but afraid to ask. Very proud of you!
I'm a cis female in the US, I appreciate your honesty in your journey. I hope all countries and health care companies get on board with supporting people without any exclusions.
You’re great Jude. Absolutely fabulous. Thank you for educating us all by sharing your journey with us x
Thank you for helping me/us understand. Watching you over the years has helped me with my own struggles and you always bring a smile to me, that's a big thing some days. I worked in a "reassignment" unit many years ago here in Canada and was shocked at how people had to "earn" the right to transition often at a great emotional cost. This is not a luxury, nor is it cosmetic. I wish more people understood that. I think you will help that a lot. x0x0x0x0
Thanks for the time and energy you put into providing this education. It’s definitely disheartening and I’m glad to hear you have people wanting to support you! Watching your video reminded me to call our employer-funded insurance here in the US to find out which clinics are in-network for my son’s gender affirming care. (He’s 8 now but once puberty begins, he will start blockers.) Well, our insurance flat out excludes any coverage for transgender-related care. So we’ll be fighting that! Let the appeals begin!
Sending you care, support and solidarity. My son loves watching your videos!
Maaaan! I'm so glad you give some more visibility to trans knitters! (And trans people). I feel so alone knitting and crocheting in my small Belgium hahahhaha! I wish you all the best and send good wooly vibes your way 🤗🤗🤗
Plenty of trans and queer knitter and makers of all sorts around the world! With you in spirit all the way from South Africa 💖🌻
You are not alone. I am the proud Belgian mom of a trans daughter. She was born in Belgium but never actually lived there. Trying to get her birth certificate changed to reflect her real gender and name. Bit of a challenge since we live in the US.
@@SherbetLollipop *sending love to you and across the world* 💖💖💖💖💖
@@momonwallstreet must be because you live in us? Here in Belgium we have a super easy process to change names and gender.
We recently even got the gender mention deleted from the id cards to not stigmatize the trans and non binary people
@@Fierdre The issue is mainly that my daughter has a Belgian birth certificate, a Belgian and Australian passport and an American Green Card. In all these countries, it is relatively easy to get name and gender changed but figuring out the right order of doing this is a bit challenging.
I can’t imagine one of my kids realizing they’re trans at some point and facing so many hurdles. I’m off to call my representatives! The way we treat and support trans people has to get better and I don’t want to wait for it. ❤️
Thank you for the information on transitioning and sharing your journey with us Jude. Take care. Sending love, Sam xxx
It's so great that you have the courage to make videos like this. I learnt so much about transitioning that I hadn't considered before. I have experience of the problems with mental health care in Britain (ie they don't have enough money to properly care for people) which had a devastating effect on my late husband. Although I am trying not to increase my stash this year, I will definitely be helping you in other ways. You're amazing!
I am learning through your journey, Jude. Who knows, it may help me support one of my family members down the road. Mostly I know I care for you and want to help. Thank you for being so open.
"What's going on in my pants." Love your phrasing for that, I think that is my favorite thing I have heard today.
You are such an amazing person, appreciate what you share and I hope you never feel pressured to share more than you are comfortable with. I too came here because of your knitting many years ago, you are one of the few podcasters (not sure that is the right term) that I have stayed with. Another US Cis-female rooting you on, sending you good thoughts.
I absolutely will continue to support you, anyway I can, through Kofi, RUclips, or buying your yarn! Good luck to you!
Thank you so much ❤️
I think the thing I respect about you the most is......your ability and willingness to remain positive, smile on your face, while discussing any topic.
Thank you......now I have "commercials to watch"
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I had no idea it got this bad with the NHS waiting lists, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Thank you for the thoughtful commentary and sharing your personal journey! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you mate 🤞
Thanks for sharing Jude! So many thoughts I have but for now I am going to watch some more ads on your video 🙋♀️
thank you jude for taking the time to share this information with us. i learned a lot. sending hugs!
I have found this very enlightening. Not a topic I have had to think about personally. I am a long time viewer and appreciate the amount of very personal information you have shared. I will definitely be more mindful of watching the ads on your channel as well as purchasing your beautiful yarn!
Sending you lots of well wishes!
Thank you for the reminder that things like videos likes help. I went back to like your video about your name, too. Much love from New Zealand
Thank you for taking us with you on your journey. Representation matters. Insight is essential. Wishing you speedy funds to you can take the next step towards living your authentic self!
I don't understand why anyone would give trans people grief for wanting to transition. What business is it of theirs?! Hopefully those people keep their opinions to themselves. Those of us who watch you regularly like you for you, the work you produce and of course #notmycat 😁. You just keep doing you
You are inspirational Jude! I came here for the yarn several years ago but your journey now is so brave. I just want you to be happy and content. All the luck in the world and please keep up us to date with your journey!
Thank you Jude, that was very interesting! ♥️
Good for you Jude! Wishing you a smoother transition than you dare hope for!
I admire you so much and appreciate you shedding light on the healthcare costs and process and sharing your journey. I’m just in shock at the waitlist. Thank you for being so brave and open with sharing your journey 💖
I enjoy your company . I have for years. I am glad you have taken the time to discuss what the medical cost situation is.
Thanks so much Jude for your honesty and courage!! I support you on your journey. We are all so lucky to know you! Hugs and well wishes from Oregon.
Thank you Jude for shining a light on the problems around trans healthcare. I am sad to say it is not much better here in the Netherlands, the waiting lists are long and the gatekeeping is really bad. Hang in there and keep being amazing.
Thanks for sharing...We are so invested in you to be your true self! We are also invested in helping with the medical expenses, so keep the yarn coming and we will always keep buying to support you!
Jude, you are such a special person and I appreciate the time you have taken to share your journey to your true self. The UK position in not encouraging transgender healthcare is deplorable. I live in Texas and believe me things can be a lot worse. The terrible Republican stranglehold here in so many backward ideas (book banning, women healthcare including choice, rewriting history etc) now includes a push to punish parents who seek to help their kiddos receive transgender care being accused/hounded as child abuse. No actual law has been passed but the folks in Austin (capital of Texas) has started down this road. Texas is a beautiful State and has many good qualities, but its government is not one of them. We do what we can and it is an uphill battle. So that is my rant. Take good care all good things you wish for will come to you.
You’re some kind of wonderful Jude. Thank you for all of your sharing and I look forward to supporting you xox
You are amazing Jude! I hope you get to your authentic self as fast as possible. Like others have very well said. Came for knitting, stayed for you.
Thank you for sharing this info with us Jude. The wait on the transgender health care is just nuts! Don't get disheartened, you'll get there!
Thanks for making the video and sharing your journey, Jude. I knew it was tough but did not know just how hard.
Dear Jude, I love you and I am sending you so very many virtual hugs. As a parent of a trans teen, I see how hard it is on so many levels from her perspective. If I win the lotto, I've got you covered. For now I will continue to donate to your Kofi and I will be a voice in the USA for trans people in as many ways as I can. Part of what I am grateful for in my life is that I am able to be a parent that my kids need. So many kids don't have that. I will buy yarn and destash and all of the things. Your ability to so beautifully and clearly share your journey will surely open hearts and minds.
Bravo, Jude ~ Well articulated and enlightening . Wishing you all the very best on your quest ( and difficult wait ) to live your authentic life. Take good care of yourself in the challenging process ahead. marcia
Thank you for sharing! ♥️
Thank you for your courage and content! I just discovered your videos and yarn, so I’ll be seeing more of you and supporting your journey.
I think you are so brave to be so open about what you are going through with your transition. You are perfectly right what goes on downstairs is private, I wish you good luck and best wishes for your future. Stay safe love and hugs xx
Hi Jude. I too am invested in your journey. I’ve been following you for about 4 yrs now, and I’m a big fan of yours. I must say, I’m super happy that your in Scotland while going through this, and not the USA. I say that bc of the many issues playing out there right now, and the many times you’ve mentioned that you would love to live there. That would be heartbreaking for you to be pushed against the wall so dramatically now that your on your way to you. To help me understand how things are for you, I’ve been watching some documentaries on the issues and steps for a trans male and female. I truly wish you all the best in your transition, your life, and your business. I read a couple of comments before typing this, and how awesome that you can be there for others who are also feeling the same. Nothing like a good community. I’m here for you and your content always. Thanks for sharing.
Hi Jude. Thank you for the overview of transitioning health care in the UK. I would like to see more videos with trans-related content. I am totally in support of your pursuit of happiness.
Thank you so much for sharing all of this, Jude. I have a friend that also has been navigating the system for a number of years now; and it's positively ludicrous the hoops you both have to go through with the NHS. Yes, there are hoops here in Canada (also stemming from the fact that there is 1 -- only one -- clinic that does lower surgery in the entire freakin' country), but I don't think there's anything quite like the waitlists you are describing. I was trying to do my own research to see what it would be like here, and the waitlists quoted on the websites don't seem as bad (max 2 years)? But I'm not a person seeking this type of treatment, so I don't know what it actually is. It also varies widely in terms of costs and wait times per province.
Does it violate RUclips's Community Guidelines to shout expletives at the Tories (And really, any governmental power that attempts to limit the rights of trans people)? Because I would really love to give them a peace of my mind. I 24 weeks pregnant and full of hormonal rage and I am not afraid to use it.
Thank you for sharing Jude. Very informative video, the wait times are ridiculous and can only be causing bigger issues that the health service has deal with down the line as the trans community deal with being in the wrong body psychologically. Sending you love and good vibes for your journey.
Thanks for sharing this Jude. I really had no idea of the costs and waiting involved. I wish you all the very best and will help when I can . Keep up the good work and take care of yourself .
So informative, Jude, I’ve learnt so much, always good to be educated, thank you so much, will be a pleasure to support you in any way I can x💕
Thank you so much!
Thank you Jude for this video and a very important conversation 🌟
Thanks so much for sharing this Jude. I wish you felt more supported by the health service & didn't even have to think about finding funds.
Thank you so much for your open honesty. I am cis female and came to you for all things yarn, but I fully support your journey and thank you for sharing your experience so that people can appreciate that there are others going through the same things they are. Even if you help just one person realise that they are not alone, then it's all worth it. Hopefully you won't get any trolls. Much love. xx
Jude thank you for taking us on the journey to becoming your authentic self. I think it is shocking that the trans community have such huge waiting lists just to be seen for the first time.
Love all your videos, yarn, cat or daily life. And when you talk about your jorney I see that as a education for me💞
Jude, thank you so much for sharing so honestly about your trans healthcare experience. I hope that you will be able to fully realize yourself as the person you know you are in the most expedient way. I’m cheering you on from over here in California and will support you as best I can because you truly deserve to be your fullest self.❤️
Thank you so much for sharing some details of your transition with us Jude. I have learned a lot from you
Thank you for this video. I have two friends who each have a child in the process of transitioning to male. Your clear explanation of your thoughts and experiences is much appreciated. Came for the knitting but learning so much more.
I so appreciate your podcast and sharing your journey. I’m a cis female and have a trans family member who is struggling. I’ve recommended they watch your channel for your take on your journey.
Thanks Jude! I've been following a few trans folks and I knew a bit about wait times, but not the full extent of it. It's frustrating and unfair. I'm looking forward to your fundraising effort - I'm fairly certain the yarn community will have your back 💖
Thank you. I really know nothing at all about trans. And today I learned so much. Thank you for sharing your story.
So interesting and enlightening, Jude. I have been watching your yarn related videos for ages and commend you on your trans journey. I had no idea of the expense and time investment involved and will support you in ways that you talk about, whenever I can.
Your hair look great!! ❤️ I also came for the knitting years back and stayed for you!! 😘❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing more of your journey with us. This was really interesting and I now feel more informed 🥰
Thank you for explaining all this so clearly Jude. I had no idea about the process and how difficult it all is through the NHS.
Jude, you are really amazing . You make me want to learn more about these things and how I can be of help . So thank you for sharing your journey. 🥰
Thanks for being so upfront about medical care in the world. if you were my child, I would be very proud of you
Thankyou! 🏳️⚧️💕
I'm a cis female in the US, and I really appreciate you generously sharing your journey with everyone.
Thanks for sharing this Jude! Really interesting and helpful. Thank you for sharing your personal journey! xx
my first child is going through the same thing,i wish you all the best on your journeyxxx
great video Jude 👍💪😊
I had no idea what a long and expensive process it is. Thank you for sharing it couldn't have been easy for you to make this video.l
Thanks for sharing, Jude. The best of luck to you. 😘
Thanks for sharing and educating, even when you don’t have to. I really appreciate it, I’m learning a lot from your journey. ❤️
You are amazing and I am SO proud to call you my friend 💛💛💛
I love you! 💕💕
I think you're amazing what an honest and thoughtful video ,it made me emotional just thinking about what a journey you are having .I have very limited knowledge about trans healthcare and other issues so you are educating me in a good way .I work in nhs and appreciate what'd you say .This government is so short sighted completely get what you say about mental health too especially for adolescents .Thank you for sharing
I’m glad you did this video! It helps to know what is and is not available..
Thank you again - we both learned a lot from that about waiting times and expense. I have followed you from the start and am aiming to be supportive, but don't often have spare money. Do always let the ads play now on all my favourite podcasts though I mute them - do hope that makes no difference. Was under the impression your yarn was always instantly sold out - must have a look and see if I am wrong!
Best wishes always, Carol and Lynn xxx
Thank you for this video. I appreciate the information and transparency.
Thank you for this very informative podcast! I’m a cis female yarnie from Sweden, and like many others started watching for the yarn but quickly stayed for you and your personality. Here in sweden the political debate about trans health care in the news has recently seemed to focus on the few people who regret their treatments and surgery, which sadly seem to bias the whole process towards implementing even more hurdles before the trans person gets to finally become their true self. Do you find that to be the ”trend” in the UK as well? Best of luck with your whole process, there are tons of us who are rooting for you and support you!
First of all, hug!
I cannot even imagine the strength & determination needed to basically put the brakes on your life & do a 180°turn. Dealing w dysmorphia must be quite challenging, both physically and emotionally. I'm glad that so many in the knitting community support your vlogs & are willing to learn & cheer for you. My GP is undergoing the same process; however, I'm incensed at what his hospital is putting him thru. I'm upset, he must be hurt, embarrassed & yeah, bullied by his place of work. Can you believe that as his patient I was called & interviewed by the hospital staff?! Questions were short & horrid in this day & age. Basically, they wanted to know if I had any issues being treated by my former doctor, now transitioning to male? I understand people have different opinions, we all have the right, but just exposing him to all patients out of the blue? Then, I was sent another questionnaire w same purpose, even if worded differently. Then I had a remote consultation & again, I was called AND received a survey, about the same issue. Agghhrrr!!! Human beings don't exist in only in a fingernail, we r a collection of thoughts, emotions, soul, honor, attitude, dreams, so much more than our shell & how we can feel at home in that skin. Again, I might not understand how complex & painful it might be to be put in a specific & assigned spot, but you have my respect because I'm not blind to "fear", those of us might have when we don't understand something or we don't know how to process a drastic change, but one that is absolutely personal to another human being. I also send you a hug to let you kno someone at the other side if th Atlantic is sending you positive vibes & believes you have every right & reasons for conducting your life as you see fit. If you are not hurting or depriving another of their same rights, no one has the right to invade your privacy, nor deprive you of your choices.
Cis Canadian woman here fighting with my trans friends for an end to gatekeeping. Completely understandable that you want things to move at a faster pace as although this might be new to us Stranded fans, it been 30+ years of you waiting to become your authentic self. Sending you love and I wish I could come and help during your recovery… oh hey wait that might be an idea - hold a lottery for a “yarn dyeing with an expert experience” for the 3rd to 6th weeks of your recovery where you sit in a comfy chair and tell people what to do!
Hi Jude, thank you for sharing! I am sorry to hear that, while intentions seem to be good (coverage by NHS) practise is far from that. When you have a heart condition, you don't want to wait 5 years for a consultation. When you have genderdysforia of course you don't want to wait 5 years either! As I understand it for at least a number of people, the journey to their coming out can take time, years. Like you said, waiting years and years for treatments and such, sounds honestly horrible. I have heard someone explain they felt trapped in a body they could not relate to and to think that there are ways to change that for the better and then to hit such a waiting list....
Awesome video. I think everyone who has watched it will benefit from being better educated on trans issues. Going back to watch those adverts now 😅
Thank you for this informative video, I am always grateful to learn more.
Thank you for sharing all this. Lots of information I didn't know. I'm a UK resident and I had mostly assumed that private healthcare would remove a lot of the gatekeeping and wait times, but you explained it really well. Lack of resources because Tory government is terrible all round basically.
This is a very informative podcast. I have really enjoyed it. Thanks
I love how you open up about this topic. The unknown makes unloved. The thought you want a transition for fun is too bizarre to think about. Hun, 3 years to get your first appointment as a teenager in Northern Europe. A psychologic chat. Then you have to start the traject íf you get permission. Super frustrating as things start to form you certainly don't want to form. For older trans it is a long time. All free. If you go to private clinics the prices skyrocket and takes also a certain amount of time you don't want. I do hope all will go as you wish, Jude.
If you have handknits that no longer suit you, I could see auctioning them to support transitioning as a double win. I'm so glad you're finding a path on this journey even when the powers that be make it difficult and frustrating.
This is so interesting to think about the way that the UK health system works. I am a gay man in the united states who currently is living under his parents' health insurance for a few more years. I am honestly so scared and worried about the steps that I need to take when it comes to having to pay for the blood work I do for specific medications as well as the medications themselves. I wish you the best with everything and hope that by just watching and supporting that you feel comfort from those who really care to listen to you!
Thank you for sharing about your journey. I like the kofi option.
Jude you are an inspiration !!! Love ❤️ from 🇨🇦
Thank you Jude for this eye opener on trans health care, strength to you, keep your heart strong!
Always glad for your videos, Jude. Sounds like top surgery costs the same in the UK as the US.
While more insurance policies are offering coverage for trans healthcare in the US, it's still rare and tricky to find it. It's mostly dependent upon where you live. Certain states, like Colorado and Washington, have set the legal requirement that any insurance company operating in their state must cover gender-affirming care; this means that I have full coverage for my gender care on state (poverty) insurance in Washington, and that companies like Aetna that are based in these states must also offer gender care coverage. However, most insurance is still tied to a person's employment, and you'll have a hard time getting these insurance policies if you live in conservative states. Back in Texas, most trans people I know worked at Starbucks at some point, because their insurance covered gender care and kicked in at only 20 hours/week.
Further, while I do have the poverty-level (medicaid) insurance which is supposed to cover my care, I haven't been able to navigate whatever hoops they want me to jump through for that coverage. Honestly paying out of pocket in Texas was cheaper, because I was lucky to live in Houston where there's a big queer clinic (born out of the AIDS epidemic) where they had financial assistance available. Testosterone through their pharmacy was 1/10th of the cost it is for me here. I started testosterone seven years ago, but I've probably only been ON t for three years in that time, due to poverty and bureaucratic runaround.
Thanks so much for raising awareness of these issues and sharing your journey. ♥ Hope your wait to be in the proper body for you won't be much longer.
Hate to tell you, as a nurse who’s had shoulder surgery…you’ll probably have closer to 3-6 months to build up your strength in lifting, I’m working with my grand son with these issues and also my son-in-law… I wish you the best in your transition. Love your yarns. Will continue to purchase
Gahhhh. Yeah, I suspect it’s not going to be fun 🙈 thank you so much for your support!
From one transgender knitter to another: I'm glad I found your channel some time ago. I'm not glad how trans healthcare is in... well, anywhere, I suppose. Hoping for a brighter future.
I let out an audible gasp when I heard the price of that original appointment.
Jude you are amazing!❤
I've always felt at home with the gender I was born into, but I know not everyone does and I know that it helps to find people you identify with particularly if you feel different than those around you. I wanted to say that I appreciate you sharing this with us, and I do find it very interesting and I can't even imagine how difficult this would be in America where health care is so expensive my everyday prescriptions cost almost as much as my groceries do. Granted I do have a lot of prescriptions but they are not unusual ones for someone my age.
Jude, have you thought of a documentary regarding your transition journey? Based on the number of folks who have commented their interest and fascination with the subject material I would think it a profitable project to follow your journey through a series such as those on Netflix. You have an engaging personality and a humble presence which would draw an audience. I unfortunately do not have any connections but I bet someone in your large following could help you. What do you think?
Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a delight. I imagine you could raise a lot of money if you did a virtual knit night where the people on the call had to donate $20 each. We would love to hang out with you.