This is making so much sense to me! For the first time in 15 years of living with OCD (and questioning that diagnosis because my real event OCD/harm OCD/POCD/ROCD/false memory OCD were never specified in the handbooks) I feel like I finally understand what's happening in my brain!
Jade is one of my favorites to listen to. She makes it all so clear with examples and she gives hope about what the process may look like even for someone who can only find access to self help.
Thank you for this! I overcame hyperawareness OCD following these principles. I sort of stumbled across this mindset by accident on my own but it’s my saving grace through life ❤
So very helpful!! I have found that unconditional self acceptance has made the anxiety lift and the result is that it helps to train my brain. It’s helping with understanding that my fear isn’t reality because there’s no anxiety attached to it anymore
Growing up Christian it was normal to do all these compulsive behaviors to avoid hell. Im still terrified of going to hell and its really silly since I've left that belief system in order to recover and I realize how paranoid that way of living is.
Thank you for this one Jade. This reminds me of a method Dr. David Hawkins talked about. Breaking down a fear by saying “and then what” to it. So like I’ll poison my family, and then what, and then they might die, and then what, and I’ll be all alone and maybe in prison, and then what, and so on. Eventually most fears lead to fear of death and you say, and then what to that too. Releasing more and more layers of fear. I’m paraphrasing but it was something like this.
I am consistently amazed and grateful for the content of this channel. I appreciate the counter-narrative regarding how acts can permanently define us, and I think it is something that other OCD channels don't really capture adequately. Yes, it is important to focus on exposure etc. However, it will always feel contrived until you appreciate the existential component that accompanies everyone. Again, thank you Jade for the courage to speak on this really difficult topic. I am sure this will really help me with my personal recovery.
Very useful information and testimony. I've recently listened to several worthwhile videos from you and your mates. Nice, forthcoming, and lived experience. Glad you are in recovery and thanks for sharing. Be well.
Jade, your explanation sparked a shift inside of my mind even though I’m still confused and I’m still trying to wrap my head around this concept, but a lot of the things you’ve said were very comforting and hopeful and I thank you for giving me some light
Thanks for this video it makes me realise that the regrets and mistakes I've made were down to poor mental health, and i can try and accept myself, now and can use this for other themes that ocd has latched to cheers
It has been really triggering for me to apply that concept, I am affected by lots of type of OCD's and recently I have been really affected by the pocd theme and it has been very hard it feels so damn real it's crazy. But I have learned to rather listen to the body's response to the thought and just watch and observe. I know deep down that im not that, but you keep saying that if my ocd fear happened it "wouldnt be the end of the world" but it would clearly be. I could not live with myself if it ever happened, id rather end my life than do harm. So I was interested on how do you apply that deep acceptance with that particular theme i am really confused.
Please answer if possible. Can Unconditional acceptance be applied on sexual thoughts related to mother or sister ? I mean as Rob says 1 in a billion chance if it'll happen I'll face it whatever happen. Isn't that not okay to accept that even in 1 in a billion chance in this case ?
The judgmental labels we hear in response to peoples' behaviors or words (like it's their character) are difficult indeed. What does this person need when they harshly label? Safety, assurance, certainty? Why do they choose to write people off? Because it's painful to acknowledge the fear that comes from these events, so the response is to transform it into anger?
I have excruciating ROCD with panic attacks. My last relationship I stuck out even with brutal ROCD. I can honestly say ROCD did not lead me to decide to end the relationship it was merely because we had different values. However I am terrified of a next relationship where ROCD rears its ugly head again. Mines the normal I will be trapped with this girl the rest of my life I can't commit because I find other woms attractive and i will be bored with her and want to leave but she loves me and I'm a bad person I should be ashamed. I only want sex and an not interested in her really. Ect The I only want sex thought is making me ashamed I feel there is a small bit of truth to it because I get socially anxious with potential romantic partners and use sex as a compulsion to alleviate the anxiety like a drug. I really don't care anymore if I am just a sex addict. I know I'm not it's my ocd brain amplifying it but the shame and need for certainty, trying to fix the thought and the mind of a sex addict is overwhelming. I honestly just don't give a shit anymore if my mind shames me when I'm with a girl saying "she will find out you are using her for sex and don't care about her and are just manipulating her for sex and don't care about spending time with her or don't love her or will cheat and all those shite thoughts Unconditional self acceptance - yeh maybe I am a sex addict and a narcissist and a bad person and should be ashamed of using and manipulating the girl I'm with maybe I will have karma. - but I'm still a good person
This is making so much sense to me! For the first time in 15 years of living with OCD (and questioning that diagnosis because my real event OCD/harm OCD/POCD/ROCD/false memory OCD were never specified in the handbooks) I feel like I finally understand what's happening in my brain!
Jade is one of my favorites to listen to. She makes it all so clear with examples and she gives hope about what the process may look like even for someone who can only find access to self help.
Thank you for this! I overcame hyperawareness OCD following these principles. I sort of stumbled across this mindset by accident on my own but it’s my saving grace through life ❤
So very helpful!! I have found that unconditional self acceptance has made the anxiety lift and the result is that it helps to train my brain. It’s helping with understanding that my fear isn’t reality because there’s no anxiety attached to it anymore
Growing up Christian it was normal to do all these compulsive behaviors to avoid hell. Im still terrified of going to hell and its really silly since I've left that belief system in order to recover and I realize how paranoid that way of living is.
Thank you so much for bringing clarity on this
Thank you for this one Jade. This reminds me of a method Dr. David Hawkins talked about. Breaking down a fear by saying “and then what” to it. So like I’ll poison my family, and then what, and then they might die, and then what, and I’ll be all alone and maybe in prison, and then what, and so on. Eventually most fears lead to fear of death and you say, and then what to that too. Releasing more and more layers of fear. I’m paraphrasing but it was something like this.
I am consistently amazed and grateful for the content of this channel. I appreciate the counter-narrative regarding how acts can permanently define us, and I think it is something that other OCD channels don't really capture adequately. Yes, it is important to focus on exposure etc. However, it will always feel contrived until you appreciate the existential component that accompanies everyone.
Again, thank you Jade for the courage to speak on this really difficult topic. I am sure this will really help me with my personal recovery.
Very useful information and testimony. I've recently listened to several worthwhile videos from you and your mates. Nice, forthcoming, and lived experience. Glad you are in recovery and thanks for sharing. Be well.
this was explained brilliantly! thank you so much.
This was absolutely wonderful. You've no idea how helpful this is, Jade. Thank you SO much :)
Jade, your explanation sparked a shift inside of my mind even though I’m still confused and I’m still trying to wrap my head around this concept, but a lot of the things you’ve said were very comforting and hopeful and I thank you for giving me some light
Thanks for this video it makes me realise that the regrets and mistakes I've made were down to poor mental health, and i can try and accept myself, now and can use this for other themes that ocd has latched to cheers
So great, thank you. I have this exact fear pf going to prison so helps alot
omg I watch the whole season of friends 5 times. It was the best distraction
I started watching these videos, they are so helpful thank you so much.
Very good VERY GOOD JADE !!!
Thank you ❤
You are so brave - and such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your story.
Very good explanation Jade. Thanks! On the front end of my recovery.
Very helpful video. Thank you so much.
Well said! Your voice is so soothing ❤️ 👏 bravo!
excellent, very well put. i really liked the video!
It has been really triggering for me to apply that concept, I am affected by lots of type of OCD's and recently I have been really affected by the pocd theme and it has been very hard it feels so damn real it's crazy. But I have learned to rather listen to the body's response to the thought and just watch and observe. I know deep down that im not that, but you keep saying that if my ocd fear happened it "wouldnt be the end of the world" but it would clearly be. I could not live with myself if it ever happened, id rather end my life than do harm. So I was interested on how do you apply that deep acceptance with that particular theme i am really confused.
Helpful to the core.Thanks for sharing the experience and tools of recovery
You really provide amazing information
I understand what you're saying but i struggle to feel compassion for child rapists, that's a real tough one!
Thank you for making this video
Super helpful, thank you.
Thank you very much for making this!
Please answer if possible.
Can Unconditional acceptance be applied on sexual thoughts related to mother or sister ?
I mean as Rob says 1 in a billion chance if it'll happen I'll face it whatever happen. Isn't that not okay to accept that even in 1 in a billion chance in this case ?
Unconditional self acceptance means exactly what it says on the tin, unconditionally!
The judgmental labels we hear in response to peoples' behaviors or words (like it's their character) are difficult indeed. What does this person need when they harshly label? Safety, assurance, certainty? Why do they choose to write people off? Because it's painful to acknowledge the fear that comes from these events, so the response is to transform it into anger?
Grateful for the Sharing..
This is beyond helpful, Thank you
Very useful and explained so brilliantly..👍👍👍🥂
Thank you so much ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Never heard the saying controlled in a box before. Yet i understand what it means somehow.
Excellent ty
Thank you so much. So helpful
There has to be a reason why people with OCD likes friends so much.
Very well said
So great video ?
How about harm ocd do you have session ?
Makes sense very helpful
Thank you so much.
This is so hard for me right now but working on it. I want to recover
Can't b explained much better
Sending love from Edmonton Alberta Canada
I have excruciating ROCD with panic attacks. My last relationship I stuck out even with brutal ROCD. I can honestly say ROCD did not lead me to decide to end the relationship it was merely because we had different values.
However I am terrified of a next relationship where ROCD rears its ugly head again.
Mines the normal I will be trapped with this girl the rest of my life I can't commit because I find other woms attractive and i will be bored with her and want to leave but she loves me and I'm a bad person I should be ashamed. I only want sex and an not interested in her really. Ect
The I only want sex thought is making me ashamed I feel there is a small bit of truth to it because I get socially anxious with potential romantic partners and use sex as a compulsion to alleviate the anxiety like a drug.
I really don't care anymore if I am just a sex addict. I know I'm not it's my ocd brain amplifying it but the shame and need for certainty, trying to fix the thought and the mind of a sex addict is overwhelming.
I honestly just don't give a shit anymore if my mind shames me when I'm with a girl saying "she will find out you are using her for sex and don't care about her and are just manipulating her for sex and don't care about spending time with her or don't love her or will cheat and all those shite thoughts
Unconditional self acceptance - yeh maybe I am a sex addict and a narcissist and a bad person and should be ashamed of using and manipulating the girl I'm with maybe I will have karma. - but I'm still a good person
We have a ROCD webinar coming up if you are interested 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com
USA helps when OCD involves guilt especially
did you ever fear or have eye floaters?
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