Escaping A Toxic Marriage: My Journey To Freedom
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- My story about escaping a toxic marriage... I made the decision to go ahead and marry a guy despite so many red flags from the start. I was insecure and wasn't sure I would ever find anyone who so perfectly fit my criteria for the 'ideal husband' and so I plowed ahead with the wedding... my breaking point didn't come until years later.
I'll be following this up with a video more focused on what happened next, aka my recovery--which is where things get really interesting... I recovered from codependency and initiated a divorce which is now final... but things have not been easy.
The Disney/Hollywood brainwashing is something I've given a lot of thought to in recent years as well. I had a similar experience meeting a woman who I thought was my dream match. She also turned out to be very toxic and abusive, and even though the signs were there I plowed forward because the way we met was like something out of a Hollywood romcom. I was so in love with the story I constructed in my mind and the feeling that it was so once-in-a-lifetime that I was willing to tolerate a lot of abuse just to live in that fantasy. It was quite a learning experience.
I'm so glad that you are taking responsbility for your part in the failure of your marriage. So many women, including my ex, blame their unhappiness on the other person. I'm also glad you are a believer. Since you are a believer, I would recommend that you go through the epistles and find all the phrases that mentions the phrase "in Christ" you can highlight them and write them down and go over them, confess them and meditate on them.
Not going to lie, you ARE Beautiful.
See how she ignored your comment? That’s what happens to simps.
You kept chasing him, disregarding the red flags. You even disregarded your parents opinion. You didn't want to see the culture differences. You were not able to 'fight' properly. So that went worse and worse. Looks like you were not adult enough, or smart enough to handle your man.
You have no one to blame but yourself.
I absolutely made poor choices/will never do that again. Doesn't mean he wasn't even a little bit to blame, too...
@@justpeachy4393 Kudo's for you, admitting that you made poor choices. Now get up and walk. Take care of the kids, make them proud of you. MOVE !!
@@Billy-the-Kid All I can do is acknowledge my part, grow and move on. I hope my ex husband does the same. I have a feeling we agree on more than you think we do... aside from that there is some great divide between men and women.
@@justpeachy4393 XX & XY is really different stuff.
I'm so glad I found you Peachy. I'm old enough to be your Mama...and while I'm absolutely sure you don't need any other parents ( they can be a real pain in the neck can't they?) I'm not okay with our mutual friend here, Billy-the-kid who is apparently wise enough, in his own view, or hers, to blame you for your life choices. Let's ignore that completely kay? What's really strange is the suggestion you weren't enough to "handle your man". That phrase isn't something I imagine most mature men saying. LOL. So whether you've got a snarky teen commenting, or a femme who's simply out to attack you, they aren't looking out for you. Now you don't have to listen to me, but I'd ignore our dear mutual friend entirely. C'est bon? :)