alongside these tools I'm learning I need to learn to increase my ability to tolerate discomfort...I have given into urges too often, instead of waiting it out, distracting those addictive screams in my head. key point in my recovery
I am so impressed with the quality of the content and presentation of these videos! I love the awareness of the importance of self-acceptance. I recently came to the realization of the importance of unconditional self acceptance and those of us who often find themselves in shameful states of being. We are worthy of love and acceptance no matter the conditions. I am so happy to see more and more Smart Recovery content on RUclips. I am new to the community, but have connected with the values and philosophy and will be doing the facilitator training online starting today! Thanks for sharing some powerful tools for recovery.
Great video and I echo the sentiments already expressed. A point for improvement: "03:59 control your only responsibility to 04:02 yourself is to do your best and truly 04:05 believe that your best is good enough" This thing about "doing my best" is unhelpful and sets me up for failure. "I had a red hot go" "I gave it a sincere shot" "I authentically want to give it as good a try as I can" These give me more room to be 'human' and flawed.
Interesting thought! Not an english mother tongue i always had difficalty with this expression. Hiw ti say it to me in my FIRST (childhood) language.?. The other expressions are dufficult to understand though. Except the last one
I always felt very ashamed & guilty towards myself & that i humiliate myself when i slipped & called a person who is not doing me well. Now i heard that here. The only question is how to re-programm my inner reaction & how to actually BELIEVE it - that i am worthy no matter this, that i have nothing to be ashamed of & instead of feeling bad about myself/of beating myself up for this slip learn to truly innerly accept & love me.?.
This video was so amazing. I have no words!!!! But the only thing i felt was that there were many core concepts which could have been covered deeply in separate videos. NVM it's great 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Hi Garvita! Thanks for your nice comment. Please let us know what other core concepts you would like us to cover in our future videos: please email us at tipsandtools@smartrecovery.org
Overall this is quite good but I was very surprised to see the self-negating concept of "character defects" included in the defintion of USA. Not only is that term taken from AA, but it is also rooted in Christian belief in original sin and other such nonsense.
@@SmartRecoveryUSA The phrase "character defect" was used at 5:01 in the list of self acceptance talk. The quotation marks seem to mildly indicate that the term is inaccurate and should not be acceptable. Also, the quote says ".....because there is no law in the universe that says I can't". This seems to reject the notion of "character defects". I may be wrong but don't hold it against me. I won't. Peace.
i am so weighed down inside feel so low in myself because i have had it drummed into me for most of my life pre AA and for 20 yr of AA that im full of defects and i cant get off and stay off for long because i cant get rid of my defects.i dont go to AA anymore left few yrs ago.but just feel so bad about myself dont even know what my assets are because i was only told im full of defects
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Smart Recovery is soooooo much more effective than AA
Whatever works for the individual. I personally enjoy living in Reality, though. Weakness is for the weak. Ownership is where strength begins.
I am not my addiction. I have an endless possibility to learn and change. I am not my past. I accept who I am and I am 100% responsible for my choice.
alongside these tools I'm learning I need to learn to increase my ability to tolerate discomfort...I have given into urges too often, instead of waiting it out, distracting those addictive screams in my head. key point in my recovery
Manny Williamz Go Manny!
USA is a key for OCD suffers
I am so impressed with the quality of the content and presentation of these videos! I love the awareness of the importance of self-acceptance. I recently came to the realization of the importance of unconditional self acceptance and those of us who often find themselves in shameful states of being. We are worthy of love and acceptance no matter the conditions. I am so happy to see more and more Smart Recovery content on RUclips. I am new to the community, but have connected with the values and philosophy and will be doing the facilitator training online starting today! Thanks for sharing some powerful tools for recovery.
Chandler Savage Thank you for your lovely comments! I’m sure you’ll make a great facilitator!
Wow ❤this actually works for me
Thanks for the uplifting thoughts. This has been very helpful!
This is a really good video and this concept of USA can really make a difference for people. Greetings from Sweden.
Thanks Joel!
Thank you for another FABULOUS video! I'll be showing it this week😉
Great video and I echo the sentiments already expressed.
A point for improvement:
"03:59
control your only responsibility to
04:02
yourself is to do your best and truly
04:05
believe that your best is good enough"
This thing about "doing my best" is unhelpful and sets me up for failure.
"I had a red hot go"
"I gave it a sincere shot"
"I authentically want to give it as good a try as I can"
These give me more room to be 'human' and flawed.
Hugh Kilpatrick Duly noted and appreciated Hugh!
Interesting thought! Not an english mother tongue i always had difficalty with this expression. Hiw ti say it to me in my FIRST (childhood) language.?. The other expressions are dufficult to understand though. Except the last one
I always felt very ashamed & guilty towards myself & that i humiliate myself when i slipped & called a person who is not doing me well. Now i heard that here. The only question is how to re-programm my inner reaction & how to actually BELIEVE it - that i am worthy no matter this, that i have nothing to be ashamed of & instead of feeling bad about myself/of beating myself up for this slip learn to truly innerly accept & love me.?.
Thank you thank you I needed that
Thank you... I really needed the words you put up at the very end today. It is day 2 for me
Gen Smyth Keep going. You can do it.
I hope you are still feeling worthy and strengthened on your recovery journey :)
Great video. So helpful and insightful
Good exercise everyone in recovery generates a host of emotions many quite negative can determine your feelings of self worth
This video is spot on
Good stuff 👍
Love this tool! One of my favs! ~Lunaa
how do you know when you have accepted yourself
When you’re not criticizing yourself
This video was so amazing. I have no words!!!! But the only thing i felt was that there were many core concepts which could have been covered deeply in separate videos. NVM it's great 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Hi Garvita! Thanks for your nice comment. Please let us know what other core concepts you would like us to cover in our future videos: please email us at tipsandtools@smartrecovery.org
you should give credits to albert Ellis since these are his original ideas ! in his book "the myth of self esteem" he explains what USA is !
Yes we do cite Ellis in our written materials and owe him a great debt.
I’m going to update our description and include Ellis and his book. Thanks for the idea!
At the end of the video "stuggles" should be "struggles." Very nice!
Overall this is quite good but I was very surprised to see the self-negating concept of "character defects" included in the defintion of USA. Not only is that term taken from AA, but it is also rooted in Christian belief in original sin and other such nonsense.
D recall mention of character defects. Let me check.
@@SmartRecoveryUSA The phrase "character defect" was used at 5:01 in the list of self acceptance talk. The quotation marks seem to mildly indicate that the term is inaccurate and should not be acceptable. Also, the quote says ".....because there is no law in the universe that says I can't". This seems to reject the notion of "character defects". I may be wrong but don't hold it against me. I won't. Peace.
Dave Roberson thanks for the insight!
i am so weighed down inside feel so low in myself because i have had it drummed into me for most of my life pre AA and for 20 yr of AA that im full of defects and i cant get off and stay off for long because i cant get rid of my defects.i dont go to AA anymore left few yrs ago.but just feel so bad about myself dont even know what my assets are because i was only told im full of defects
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