Mloog xwb yeej paub tias koj niam koj txiv yeej hlub koj dua, vim koj ntaus koj tus kwv mas koj niam nkawv tsis cem koj, tab sis koj tus kwv ntaus koj ces koj niam nkawv ho cem nws li no yeej tsis ncaj ncees lawm, yog nkawv hlub nej ib yam nkaus ces txawm leej twg ntaus leej twg los cem ob leeg mas thiaj yog. Tos koj tus kwv ho chim txog niaj hnub no los koj yeej tsis txawj ua tij laug vim koj niam nkawv hlub koj dua ces koj muaj plhus zog.
Younger brother: your story is valid, your pains are real, but you control what you can do with that experience. You can let it hurt you and take it negatively or you can use it as your strength. How you choose to use it, will make a difference in your future. Big brother, Your demeanour negatively impacted your brother’s life. Just say sorry and be there for him. Big brothers need to live by example so that younger siblings can respect.
I’m pretty sure this part was left out of the story because Jenny nitpicked this story to hell. But they did make up and all that. The second brother went broke and started his toxic ways again. At that point it’s the second brothers issues and not anyone else’s.
@@msvajmom will side with the 6 siblings rather than Neng bc he is the antagonizer in the family. It’s obvious who the true issue villain is if all siblings get along and have only cut off Neng from their lives.
@Peach-gd2gy This is only two sides of the story. Everyone in the family has their own perspective and experience. All I'm saying is that the family dynamic stems from the parents' parenting style of each child. Neng's feelings and experiences are valid. His older brother's feelings and experiences are valid too.
It doesn’t matter who’s right and who’s wrong. At the end of the day, no one cares about you when you’re dying except your blood siblings. As siblings you should respect each other. I supposed your mom can tell her side of the story but it seems your parents won’t be able to remain neutral. Sounds like they favor their first born more. Sibling rivalry over love and money. Your mother lived with your brother when she applied for disability. As soon as your mom got her SSDI, you take your mother to live with you. You are not so innocent yourself. Just because you’re the older one, you’re not always right.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
@@Youcantbehereman what I’m saying is that life is too short so love one another. I recently lost a brother and a sister in two years apart. Our siblings never had the problems your brothers are having. We have 8 siblings and got alone well but never said “I love you” to each other. It’s a given that we love each other even though we never said it. I realized after they were gone how much I loved and missed them. It’s like a part of me is gone. At their funerals, a lot of people came but only us siblings get up close and touched them. A few people cried but us siblings were brokenhearted. I hope you can all come together. I am not sure why the rest of you siblings have to take sides if there are no rivalry between you and the two brothers. You said you all disowned your brother, is that not taking sides to oust one brother? It’s your family’s problems and I don’t really care but just saying show each other love and respect because you don’t know what tomorrow brings.
Yep. If older brother knows how to lead, the younger siblings will follow. But if older brother acts like a tyrant, younger siblings will resist. And this causes division in the family.
@@nightowl7261 sorry to say this but hmoob parents away love the older kid and the younger kid, because they know that they ua neeb all the time and thier middle son allergy to all the things that that burn how come they did take thier son go see a Dr. too
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.@@nightowl7261
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Jenny, I appreciate you sharing our story, but you left out a lot of information that would have cleared up the confusions. You told me that you've talked to my mother and was able to confirm a lot of these information were true about Neng. The first half were just my perspective, but the second half of your videos were from mine and my mother's perspective. No matter how many chances we tried to give to our brother, he will not change, that is why we decided the best was to just cut him off. We will never accept him back due to everything he's done, has done, and has continued to do. Nothing he does shows to us that he is trying to change for the better. He kept trying to stay in our lives by doing the most horrible things possible to us, including slandering our family all over social media, and making threats to us and our mom. I have my own fault growing up, but I've grown from it and learn to love and respect all my siblings. I tried to show the same respect towards Neng, but nothing will ever change him.
You don’t realize that coming on to tell your side of the story is still continuing to abuse and berate him, it’s the adult version of how you treated him when you guys were kids. You’re trying to put everyone on your side still. Sometimes it’s as easy as just acknowledging what you’ve done to him and apologize, that’s it.
@yhawj1065 and trust me, ive apologized to him many, many times. And even then, he goes back to making these stupid post. He's probably writing down a new lost as we speak.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
I'm not proud of you or your younger brother. Either is better than the other. You both think you're right & disregard your flaws. Your younger brother is at fault for not being able to live his life focusing on himself. You're at fault for deeming yourself as the better siblings/older brother who's never wrong. You are also at fault for coming up with the dumb idea of eating out fancy when you can't fork up the money & allowing your mom to pay. You both need help outside of your family & the hmong community. Better yet, live far apart from each other.
They shouldn't seek help from the Hmong community..because the Hmong community or this case the clan system will just favor the oldest son just like the parents. Hmong families run on this oldest to youngest hierarchy. Even when the oldest son is wrong, they still favor him. That's why this story exist.
Maybe you didn’t finish the story. Everyone already forgave each other after the dad passed. The second brother was the one who became toxic again because he went money hungry. Abusing the mom for more money when he ran out of money.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.@@luemas2766
@@Youcantbeheremanthanks for clarifying. Sorry to hear about your situation. I do have a similar story, my 2nd older brother does not like my oldest brother as well. My 2nd brother always brings up the pass everytime they argue. And I see that the problem is from the 2nd brother for not letting go of the pass. But I’m thankful that they haven’t got to this point. I love them dearly and would hate to see them at cut throat every time. God bless you and your family, hopefully you guys can find peace and just live a normal life. All the best for you.
Younger brother acting out of jealousy because of lack of attention and favoritism. Older brother used power of being older. We all have been through siblings rivals. Younger brother needs to let go of the past. You both don’t have much time left to love your mom, lower your ego and start making good memories with your mother before it’s too late
Your story just proves that you’re an evil older brother. He’s the victim in all your bullying and your parents have put you on a pedestal. Sad when parents are being unfair towards their own children.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
There is sympathy and empathy for both sides. Many families go through this. Including families with just 2 kids. All kinds of ethnicities too. This is not unique, but is an interesting and attention-grabbing story because now it’s out there. I believe there is way more to the story than this but telling all details would require several hours. Hopefully there is a part 3 and part 4, the mom’s side and the sister(s) side. I agree with Jenny the younger brother was hurt to the point he had to defend himself in his own home. If CPS knew of these kids or if one of the kids went out and told teachers what was happening at home, there would have been an investigation. In retrospect, maybe that’s what should have happened. It may have saved the family from this despair. It may have forced the parents to make some changes. They seem like good parents and very hardworking, but because of the nature of their work, they couldn’t be there for their kids. It seems there was favoritism. Children are extremely sensitive and vulnerable. The 2nd brother was most affected. Take time to be apart. Through trials and tribulations, I believe this family will come back together. Will take time. The best teacher is one’s own experience and mistakes. The big brother will have to have a big heart and stop triggering the younger brother.
Nah, i don't need or want to hear any more of anyone's sides. This is all we outsiders need to hear. Now u guys will have to deal with your dramas privately, not exposing each other out here bc it's useless to us.
@Youcantbehereman I hope times heal everyone, and even if they never come to an agreement and forgive one another, just leave each other alone and make peace with oneself. Love the one that is still there and the one that decided to be parted. Let them go. Hopefully, someday, they turn around.
I was the oldest of my siblings and i was nothing like you. When my brothers and sisters played game I just step away and let them play, I don't fight with them. You mentally hurt your younger brother.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
A totally dysfunctional family: parents who don't know how to discipline fairly, older brother being a bully because he's his parents' favorite son, and younger brother holding onto grudge/anger. So much of this adult hate could have been avoided if you, the older brother, had behaved like a loving & caring older brother instead of a bully! If you are as innocent as you claim, then you should have taken the first step many years ago and apologized for your bad behaviors as a youngster, but all I hear is excuses. Neither brothers are innocent, but you are most at fault for setting up this bad situation between you and your younger brother and you never truly took the necessary steps to fix what you caused.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
@@Youcantbehereman If Neng is as bad as you make him sound, then either he was born bad OR he was seriously damaged by family members when he was younger which caused him to turn out the way you described. He sounds like he needs some serious, professional help, not disownment, but that's just my opinion. Hope the family finds a way to heal.
This family issue, I can relate that the younger brother ua neej rov qaab lawm. Bringing up the past to your present life is a big impact ruin family relationship, even spouse relationship too. I’m sure this come from a bloodline somewhere with parents or ancestors. It’s not too late to stop brother, or you will pass down to your kids. Holding grudges doesn’t bring you peace.
It’s not about the bullying in the past, the older brother is using it as an excuse. after our dad passed away he graduated college, took his mom out to eat and didn’t own up to his role. Took his younger bro to court over a petty bill. The same old bully tactic.The past was just a friendly reminder of who he really is and hasn’t change a bit. Me on the other hand is just bringing out our dramas. Am I wrong to stand up for myself? No
To the older brother you abuse your role as an older brother whose parents aren’t home. Your parents place you in charge when they’re not home but koj yeej tsis zoo thiab txawj coj thiab. You are the bully. This is not your brother’s fault because you abused him from a vey young age. Apologize to your brother and start fresh. See from your brother’s point of view, feel his pains and sorrow. As an older brother you lead by example not by bullying and use your role as a first born son to put the younger siblings in their place even if you’re wrong. Good luck
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
It’s your parent’s fault. Jealously between siblings is created when parents do not love all the kids equally. The toxicity was created from the parents to begin with and manifested to the kids. No wonder the kids don’t love the parents the same too.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Cas zoo mloog koj cov lus mas zoo li mob hlub kawg li os, rov qab mus sib foob dua hauv court xwb thiaj paub Tias Tus twg yog Tus yeej xwb, yus tus kwv es yus xam maj muab foob txog hauv court lawm CES tsis tas ua kwv ua tij lawm koj yuav dag npaum li Cas los Neeg yeej paub kawg
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
There Are Jealous Siblings & Sometimes We Don't Know Why ... As A Mom, I Can't Just Love One Kid Unless They Mean ... But, If I Have Millions Of $, Everyone Would Get One Same Thing!!
I think you the older brother think you have more rights and use your power over your younger brothers. And your younger brother is jealous and doesn’t want to obey it. That’s the problems. You both need to be humble, love and forgiveness.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Bruh he didn't come out and defend himself against how he try to change the beneficial to him on his brother insurance policy. That's pretty big that he left that out.
how did you know this? I was the owner of HIS life insurance policy. he said he'll change the PGE account owner to his name AFTER i gave him his life insurance. Had he kept 1 promise, I wowuldnt even have to take him to court. Our dad didnt trust Neng with his own life insurance, that's why I had it. Neng owed me 6 months of premium.
@@Chewiebakaagain making excuse after excuses. You were paying for it cuz it was still under your ownership. I only started paying for it after u legally transferred it over to me. Also u didn’t even bought and pay for it since we were little. It was mom and dad that bought it, they just had ur name on it cuz they favor you more. Grow up narcissist. Mom bought you your own life policy. The main thing was you forged my signature to change ownership without my consent but at the end u didn’t get what you want. You’re mad, everything had to go your way we get it, you’re a narcissist
@@Chewiebakawhy would I pay for something that you still have ownership of? Also that pge account was in your moms name and yours. You’re on the computer 24/7 why not just change it urself? You’re mad at mistakes u made
@@enyang1907you’re not very smart you just proved chues statement right lol. You’re just mad that you have to work as a stinky security guard and only get paid 13$ an hour. While your other siblings are getting paid double. That’s why Lou has to work under the table bc you’re broke hahaha. So sad for your family.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
A few things to say after hearing both sides. Youger brother did talked a lot of favoritism and his rants are based on jealousy. There are some things he was hiding about his bad side. Younger brother should have granted his dad's wish about the money. Your mom had the right to decided, not u. Maybe you know your mom wont be capable to use those money so for sure youre gonna ask for some little by little. All ur other brother's made the right decision., so dont be mad about it cause u made urself the bad brother. About the disappearance of your mom, yes, you must have done something horrible to her to make her ask ur other brothers to come get her. And the gym stuff, who cares you work so buy a new set yourself. Also younger brother, you dont have to make ur mom pay you for helping her getting her ssi money. You are the reason y she have you for. She's your mom not your client. She trained you well enough to get ur a** out there and make your own money. Also younger brother said your mom doesnt know your kids, why dont you bring ur kids around ur mom? Who's fault is that? Older brother, you are as bad as your younger brother. U knew not to get urself into it with ur little brother but yet cant show no love. Ur lil brother may be insecure about something or holding onto some grudge against you. As an older brother urself, no one is gonna teach you as you teach yourself how to love and forgive your little brothers. Youre smart and got a good degree. U didnt waste anytime on that but the brother bonding u did. Maybe when your little brother needed someone to protect and look up to, u pushed him away. To both of you Hopefully big brother would step up and bond with the younger brother. It's never too late to say sorry for the things yall done. U two should have each other's back. Your parents did what they could already. They couldn't fix ya two. Now sit down and talk about the things yall need to work on. Dont argue about something that's already in the past. yall were both stupid. Plan a family gathering once a week. Go enjoy things together, we only live so long enough before we say our goodbyes. Wishing yall the best. Just know that every family isnt perfect. Ty for sharing yall stories.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Neb 2 kwv tij ko ces nyias nyob nyias kom deb deb xwb zoo dua. Koj yog tus hlob koj tsis txawj coj koj thiaj ua rau koj tus kwv muaj qhov chim cib nyeej rau koj lawm. Vim nws yog tus yau kiag ntawm koj ces koj ua dab tsi los koj ua kom khib khib nws. 2 tug kwv yau mas nkawd yau neb ntau lawm ces nkawd tseem me koj thiaj tsis ua rau nkawd es nkawd thiaj li haum nrog koj xwb. Tsuas hais raws li tau mloog neb cov lus tham peb hnov no xwb.
This is a he said he said...all hearsay...very irrelevant and no solid substantial truth - just pointing fingers. You both are brothers. Life is too short. Both of you need to humble yourselves and work it out. Humbleness, love, and forgiveness is so important that you both can give to one another while still alive. Btw, I chuckled at your irrelevant perspective of your niece's name MIA. Definitely not Missing In Action. Mia is a beautiful name from Hebrew name Miryam.
Mia doesn’t mean missing in action you are right about that. But when second brother made his FB post holding his daughter he said “Mia when you grow up I want you to know what your name means… how all your dads side of the family is missing in action.” He’s volatile enough to make his daughter’s name mean that to him. Second brother doesn’t take accountability of everything he’s done to the family. There’s a reason why all the siblings are on good terms and still talk to each other and have cut off the second brother.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
The oldest son is always the favored one in our culture. No bs. Our generation forward has to change that old way of thinking. Hmong people always say "I'm the oldest, you have to listen to me." Thats some bs if you are wrong nobody's listening to u, period. Hope this family can forgive each other and rebuild the relationship.
Both of you brothers are equally bad. No one is good out of the both of you. All I heard is blaming game. You guys are grown now, so learn to forgive and let go.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
All these issues are so small and not even worth fighting over. It’s a shame you guys can’t even get along. I agree with your ending about bad parenting now that you’re adults you two need to grow up. You guys attend church too? Let go of your egos and apologize/forgive each other and move on.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Ib cov tij yeej Tsis txawj ua tij. Yus Tsis txawj ua tij ces lawm kuj tsis txawj ua kwv xwb mas. Koj yog ib tus tij coj Tsis zoo lawm Thiab os. To me this story is about jealousy only. If I was the younger brother, I will not forgive my family . He is ur guys brother and u guys even have the nerve to call the cops on ur own brother/son when he went to clam himself down.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
I see that you just wanted to twist the story that your younger told. I don’t believe you. I believe your brother more. I’m the oldest and I never treat my sisters and brothers like that. For your brother acting like is because you are not a good rule model.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Cas nej niam thiab txiv yuav yug tau ib pab niag tub lwj liam npaum li no es tseem tsis mus khwv los pub yus niam yus txiv noj es tseem mus txeeb niam thiab txiv li noj na ntuj aws
After listening to both stories i think it’s all about jealousy who gets the most attention and who gets the most love and money from their parents. Your mom is old now just love her and cherish the time she has left with you guys. As for your brother let it be.
We are trying to, but it’s hard when the second brother does things like this. This is not the first time he has made lies about the family to get support from strangers online. He’s so sad and won’t own up to his own mistakes in life so he blames the oldest brother. All of the family and siblings are doing better without the second brother in our lives. Hopefully it can stay that way forever.
I'd be content if Neng just stop slandering our family to strangers on the internet. He should go live his golden life and stop bothering us every few months. We dont even mention him, the only time we bring him up is when he pulls this kind of shit.
There are so much misunderstanding among siblings because siblings see their own views only. This story clearly demonstrates the point. The other brother made himself sound great and honestly you too made yourself sound great🤔. Your brother is a victim of your bully so he'll always feel insecure. I hope the siblings learn to love each other and work through your issues.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Nah, I believe the younger brother's side. This bro is just making excuses for his bad behavior, making himself out to be the good guy instead of owning up to what he did.
@@Unic0rnsfurso you don’t respect your siblings, they have to earn it?! Idk what kind of world you live in but respect should be everyone’s priority. If you don’t respect people, how do live in piece. Smh
@@luemas2766It's rather difficult to respect a bully, regardless if it's family or not. The younger has resentment towards the older, and all I hear are excuses from the older. It's easy for a bully to just tell his victim to let go of the past, but the truth is that the victim cannot let go of his hurt without actual acknowledgement and genuine apology from the bully.
@luemas2766 lmao respect doesn't equal peace. Those who hand out respect even to those who don't deserve it are called "people pleasers." Now, that doesn't mean that you go out of your way to disrespect someone either just because you don't respect them. That's called being "cordial." I don't know what world you're living in, but you're in for a rude awakening, thinking everyone is going to respect you.
Og parents always favorite the 1st born, and the last. Those in between/middle children are the forgotten ones! I believe Neng side. You are full of excuses.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
I believe your brother and I know you played victim and think you had power over your younger siblings. You took advantage of your parents love and bully your brother. You did not know how to be the older brother. This is what happen when parents play favorite between their kids. You instead of being a role model you were a mean brother. If you said all that about your brother, I hope you better take good care of your mom and don't use her also. Your mom is getting old, so you better marry someone who will accept her.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Listening to this story and the other brother story gives me a headache 🤕 I, for sure did not learn anything from this story besides not to be like the parents who favor one over the other. Waste of time listening. Good thing I fell asleep through half way, off and on.
Nej pab kwv tij mas thiaj tsis tsim nyog tuaj nyob rau lub teb chaws vam meej los nej yeej tsis vam meej li kawg nej twb tsis tau mus noj mov rau tej chaws noj mov zoo zoo li nej cov tub ces yeej liam ib yam nkaus
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Oldest brother behaves like a tyrant. Parents enable older brothers behavior. Younger son saw the inequality and the division starts there. Nobody wants to change or compromise because everyone has their pride. Everybody is messed up in this family.
There was no division from the family to begin with. The oldest brother and second brother rivalry did not happen at all. The Second brother is just a crybaby who blamed his sad life on the oldest brother because its easier to do than admit the second brother was a bad person. Everyone in the family does not act this way and has cut off the second brother for a reason. To say the whole family is messed up is just showing how ignorant you really are. Please look yourself in the mirror and do better because when you say these things on dramas you don't know it shows how ignorant you are. Don't act like the stereotypical Hmong OG and do better.
As the youngest child myself of 6 older brothers. There almost no such thing as standing up for yourself in a Hmong house but only to forgive and respect your oldest. Sad to say at the end. No one would listen to you and your opinion, unless it’s with money.
I agree it is sad when that happens, but in this case there was no bullying. The second brother is a narcissist who thinks his problems that he created himself is all because of the oldest brother. The second brother doesn’t want to admit to it but he’s a 30 year old man who can’t maintain a good life so he blames others instead of himself. Everything that has happened is because of himself and not the oldest brother. All of the siblings love and are on good terms with one another except the second brother because he’s the problem child in the family.
@@Youcantbehereman Honestly we just looking for a good role model. But if we see you’re not someone we see as growing up to be. Than don’t expect us to be as what expected. When we not even allowed to learn the bad habits we see everyday.
As a big brother. Why you beat up your little brother, called police on him, and take him to court. Glad I have a big brother take care of me like a dad.
This kind of conflict happen in almost every family with a lot kids even in my own family, but I believe that if you both really wanted to fix your relationship. Now is the time you need to talk to each other as growing men instead of continuing to take revenge on each other while your mom is still alive and continue to bring back the past into your every day' life. It's too overwhelming. Some of our Hmong families even my own, we aren't practiced enough to say sorry and thank you but we need to. Seems like you both are very intelligent men. Instead of sending your story to air on youtube, why don't you both use this time to talk to each other as man to man and say sorry? Wishing both of you the very best of luck and hope you will find a solution to your conflict before your mom passes. What our parents wanted to see is for their kids to love and respect each before they take their last breath.
When their dad died that was everyone agreed to drop any hard feelings for each other and change because they realized that’s the only family they have. Neng was the one who ended up going back to his evil ways when he realized he could try and manipulate the family into doing what he wanted. Ex: taking mom’s money and forcing her to pay for HIS own expenses. Neng has been given multiple chances to change and be better son/brother. All he has done is try and hurt the family for his own personal gain. Neng has been cut off from the family bc of this. The 6 siblings all get along and have good relationships.
@@saivang-provenzano518 yes it’s sad and unfortunate, but they have decided to cut him off. He is the one who continues to try and tell the family issues online.
IMO, i feel that it is neither the younger son or the older son who are the big issue. It's really starts with the parents and their parenting. They gave him authority and turn a blind eye when he is in the wrong; therefore, he became abusive and arrogant with his power. Giving authority to an older sibling is fine, but teaching them to be humble/grounded with their authority and correcting when them when they are becoming abusive/tyrannical with it should be what every parent should do. Also, just because your kids cater to you does not make them in the right, listening and analyzing all your kids action and point of view will give you a better understanding of what happened and what is right or wrong.
That's in most Hmong family. The parents give all the power to the oldest *son.* I said *son.* Because even the oldest daughter, even if she's the oldest in the family don't get the same power as the oldest *son.* By doing this, the oldest son becomes prideful and narcissistic, knowing he can do no wrong. And then starts abusing that power by mistreating the younger ones. It creates division in the end.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for his bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who didn’t fit in with the family because he was toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Uali cas koj tus brother los hais tias koj yog tus bad one. Koj hi hais tias koj tus brother yog tus baf one. Tsis understand li lawm lau. Kom koj niam thiab koj civ brothers sisters tuaj hais seb yog tus twg tiag lau.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
@@MsPajrose Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Yes she is. That’s why she continue to force Neng to send $500 a month to her family when he can barely afford his rent or his wife and daughter here in the states
I didn’t know the name Mia means “missing in action”. 😂😂 And you said you haven’t seen or been able contact your mom in 6 months, that shows how much you love her too. You’re not a good older brother either.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
There are a lot of unresolved issues. Anger, hurt, and resentment. The parents should have nip this in the butt. They did something to enable these behaviors. Family therapy is what you guys need. Lots of it!
It’s sad because after our dad passed away, we all actually came together and apologized for all the bad we’ve done. We made it a purpose to be there and start fresh, for which we did. We have family get together on holidays and such big events. It’s the second brother who went against this and went back to his toxic ways. The second brother is the problem in this family and that’s why he’s came to RUclips to gather support for his bad life. This isn’t the first time he’s done this and aired out our family problem to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for listening to our family problems but take things lightly from the second brothers story because all of it is falsely spoken.
Mloog xwb yeej paub tias koj niam koj txiv yeej hlub koj dua, vim koj ntaus koj tus kwv mas koj niam nkawv tsis cem koj, tab sis koj tus kwv ntaus koj ces koj niam nkawv ho cem nws li no yeej tsis ncaj ncees lawm, yog nkawv hlub nej ib yam nkaus ces txawm leej twg ntaus leej twg los cem ob leeg mas thiaj yog. Tos koj tus kwv ho chim txog niaj hnub no los koj yeej tsis txawj ua tij laug vim koj niam nkawv hlub koj dua ces koj muaj plhus zog.
Younger brother: your story is valid, your pains are real, but you control what you can do with that experience. You can let it hurt you and take it negatively or you can use it as your strength. How you choose to use it, will make a difference in your future.
Big brother, Your demeanour negatively impacted your brother’s life. Just say sorry and be there for him. Big brothers need to live by example so that younger siblings can respect.
I’m pretty sure this part was left out of the story because Jenny nitpicked this story to hell. But they did make up and all that. The second brother went broke and started his toxic ways again. At that point it’s the second brothers issues and not anyone else’s.
We need the mom version part# 3 now😂
The mom they always at the farm maybe she doesn’t know the story
That will be the best version to this story
Jenny already spoke to the mom on the phone and mom was able to confirm the bad things Neng has done to the family.
@@msvajmom will side with the 6 siblings rather than Neng bc he is the antagonizer in the family. It’s obvious who the true issue villain is if all siblings get along and have only cut off Neng from their lives.
@@Peach-gd2gythank you Jenny
The two brothers' stories confirm that the parents played favoritism and created jealousy and resentment between the siblings.
If this was the case then the younger siblings would have the same issues too then? Why is it only between the 2nd and the oldest.
@Youcantbehereman You must be part of this family or know the family to take it so personally.
@Peach-gd2gy This is only two sides of the story. Everyone in the family has their own perspective and experience. All I'm saying is that the family dynamic stems from the parents' parenting style of each child.
Neng's feelings and experiences are valid. His older brother's feelings and experiences are valid too.
It doesn’t matter who’s right and who’s wrong. At the end of the day, no one cares about you when you’re dying except your blood siblings. As siblings you should respect each other.
I supposed your mom can tell her side of the story but it seems your parents won’t be able to remain neutral. Sounds like they favor their first born more.
Sibling rivalry over love and money. Your mother lived with your brother when she applied for disability. As soon as your mom got her SSDI, you take your mother to live with you. You are not so innocent yourself. Just because you’re the older one, you’re not always right.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Agree 100%
@@Youcantbehereman what I’m saying is that life is too short so love one another. I recently lost a brother and a sister in two years apart. Our siblings never had the problems your brothers are having. We have 8 siblings and got alone well but never said “I love you” to each other. It’s a given that we love each other even though we never said it. I realized after they were gone how much I loved and missed them. It’s like a part of me is gone. At their funerals, a lot of people came but only us siblings get up close and touched them. A few people cried but us siblings were brokenhearted. I hope you can all come together.
I am not sure why the rest of you siblings have to take sides if there are no rivalry between you and the two brothers. You said you all disowned your brother, is that not taking sides to oust one brother? It’s your family’s problems and I don’t really care but just saying show each other love and respect because you don’t know what tomorrow brings.
poeple away say the older brother be the leader but look like you didn't know how to be a leader for your brothers and sisters in the first place
Yep.
If older brother knows how to lead, the younger siblings will follow.
But if older brother acts like a tyrant, younger siblings will resist. And this causes division in the family.
@@nightowl7261 sorry to say this but hmoob parents away love the older kid and the younger kid, because they know that they ua neeb all the time and thier middle son allergy to all the things that that burn how come they did take thier son go see a Dr. too
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.@@nightowl7261
No matter what happens between you too please remember you guys are family. And family always comes first and love each other other
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Only they know the truth along with God!
That’s why god took away the second brothers left nut. 😂
Jenny, I appreciate you sharing our story, but you left out a lot of information that would have cleared up the confusions. You told me that you've talked to my mother and was able to confirm a lot of these information were true about Neng. The first half were just my perspective, but the second half of your videos were from mine and my mother's perspective. No matter how many chances we tried to give to our brother, he will not change, that is why we decided the best was to just cut him off. We will never accept him back due to everything he's done, has done, and has continued to do. Nothing he does shows to us that he is trying to change for the better. He kept trying to stay in our lives by doing the most horrible things possible to us, including slandering our family all over social media, and making threats to us and our mom.
I have my own fault growing up, but I've grown from it and learn to love and respect all my siblings. I tried to show the same respect towards Neng, but nothing will ever change him.
You don’t realize that coming on to tell your side of the story is still continuing to abuse and berate him, it’s the adult version of how you treated him when you guys were kids. You’re trying to put everyone on your side still. Sometimes it’s as easy as just acknowledging what you’ve done to him and apologize, that’s it.
@yhawj1065 and trust me, ive apologized to him many, many times. And even then, he goes back to making these stupid post. He's probably writing down a new lost as we speak.
I have advice for all brothers, love each other, respect each other and encourage each other, if y’all do this there will be no problems
Grow up kids
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
As the middle brother, us younger brothers got bullied by my oldest brother. He's still a douchbag. 😂
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Wow wow brother vs brother thanks you for the share
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Now I want to hear the sister’s side of the story as an observer!
Neng needs to stop going to church bc it ain't helping him none to be a better person.
Nej txhob cem tug tij laug thiab os, nws twb lees tej yam nws ua tsis yog lawm thiab ne, kuv twb raug li nws raug lawm thiab tsis yog kuv tsev neeg tabsis ib txhia uas nyob ze ntawm yus na yus yeej xav tsis txog tias yuav txhaum rau nws tiag tabsis nws cia li muab yus post li yus kuj chim siab thiab. Yog li tus tij laug tsis tuaj qhia cov tseeb ces peb kuj xav tias muaj tiag no nws thiaj tawm tuaj qhia nws seem xwb. Qhov zoo ces neb sib zam txim xwb mog yeej yog li tus tij laug hais lawm es neb ob me kwv tij sib zam txim xwb nawb tsis muaj leej twg hlub neb phaum neb tsev neeg lawm os.
I'm not proud of you or your younger brother. Either is better than the other. You both think you're right & disregard your flaws. Your younger brother is at fault for not being able to live his life focusing on himself. You're at fault for deeming yourself as the better siblings/older brother who's never wrong. You are also at fault for coming up with the dumb idea of eating out fancy when you can't fork up the money & allowing your mom to pay. You both need help outside of your family & the hmong community. Better yet, live far apart from each other.
They shouldn't seek help from the Hmong community..because the Hmong community or this case the clan system will just favor the oldest son just like the parents.
Hmong families run on this oldest to youngest hierarchy.
Even when the oldest son is wrong, they still favor him. That's why this story exist.
Tej teeb meem ntawm nus muag, viv ncaus, kwv tij sib khib sib ntxub no ces yeej tsis muaj chaws xaus thiab yeej tsis muaj leej twg hais tau tab sis nco ntsoov hais tias nej ntxawm yuav sib ntxub npaum li cas nej yeej yog ib roj ib ntshav niam ib lub plab yug thaum nej tuag lis txog nej cov niam txiv ib plab thiaj sib pab xwb os mog tsis muaj leej twg quav ntsej txog nej nawb.
Ya brothers. Ya need to stop holding grudges and just forgive each other.
Maybe you didn’t finish the story. Everyone already forgave each other after the dad passed. The second brother was the one who became toxic again because he went money hungry. Abusing the mom for more money when he ran out of money.
@@Youcantbeheremanobviously they have not forgave each other because they are still here bashing each other
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.@@luemas2766
@@Youcantbeheremanthanks for clarifying. Sorry to hear about your situation. I do have a similar story, my 2nd older brother does not like my oldest brother as well. My 2nd brother always brings up the pass everytime they argue. And I see that the problem is from the 2nd brother for not letting go of the pass. But I’m thankful that they haven’t got to this point. I love them dearly and would hate to see them at cut throat every time. God bless you and your family, hopefully you guys can find peace and just live a normal life. All the best for you.
Younger brother acting out of jealousy because of lack of attention and favoritism. Older brother used power of being older. We all have been through siblings rivals. Younger brother needs to let go of the past. You both don’t have much time left to love your mom, lower your ego and start making good memories with your mother before it’s too late
Your story just proves that you’re an evil older brother. He’s the victim in all your bullying and your parents have put you on a pedestal. Sad when parents are being unfair towards their own children.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Raws li mloog tag neb 2 leeg cov lus mas, kuv txoj kev nkag siab thiab kev xav mas. Ntse neb 2 kwv tij no yog muaj caub, muaj kev chim dhau ntau tiam los lawm. Nyob rau tiam no neb txawm yug tau los ua kwv tij los thiaj tsis muaj kev sib haum xeeb kev sib hlub sib zam. Feem ntau yog yus rov yus los nrog rau yus cov yeeb ncuab ntau tiam dhau los ces yeej tsis muaj kev sib hlub sib zam txim li. Ntawm no yog kuv txoj kev nkag siab cov neeg tsis sib haum li.
Niam thiab txiv yeej hlub tus me nyuam hlob thiab tus me nyuam kawg tshaj thiab xyov neb 2 kwv tij no leej twg zaj story yog qhov tseeb li lau
There is sympathy and empathy for both sides. Many families go through this. Including families with just 2 kids. All kinds of ethnicities too. This is not unique, but is an interesting and attention-grabbing story because now it’s out there.
I believe there is way more to the story than this but telling all details would require several hours. Hopefully there is a part 3 and part 4, the mom’s side and the sister(s) side.
I agree with Jenny the younger brother was hurt to the point he had to defend himself in his own home. If CPS knew of these kids or if one of the kids went out and told teachers what was happening at home, there would have been an investigation. In retrospect, maybe that’s what should have happened. It may have saved the family from this despair. It may have forced the parents to make some changes. They seem like good parents and very hardworking, but because of the nature of their work, they couldn’t be there for their kids.
It seems there was favoritism. Children are extremely sensitive and vulnerable. The 2nd brother was most affected. Take time to be apart. Through trials and tribulations, I believe this family will come back together. Will take time. The best teacher is one’s own experience and mistakes. The big brother will have to have a big heart and stop triggering the younger brother.
Agreed, you are right at point. These siblings need to let go of the past. Apologies to each other and move on. Life is too short to hold grouch.
Nah, i don't need or want to hear any more of anyone's sides. This is all we outsiders need to hear. Now u guys will have to deal with your dramas privately, not exposing each other out here bc it's useless to us.
Zoo mloog tshaj li ob zaj neej neeg no na!
Neng has had a grudge for you for a long time, so whatever you do is wrong to him. I hope you and your brother will come to understand each other day.
Can’t love someone that wants you dead. In this case, the second brother will never love his family. That’s why he’s been disowned by everyone.
@Youcantbehereman I hope times heal everyone, and even if they never come to an agreement and forgive one another, just leave each other alone and make peace with oneself. Love the one that is still there and the one that decided to be parted. Let them go. Hopefully, someday, they turn around.
I was the oldest of my siblings and i was nothing like you. When my brothers and sisters played game I just step away and let them play, I don't fight with them. You mentally hurt your younger brother.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
A totally dysfunctional family: parents who don't know how to discipline fairly, older brother being a bully because he's his parents' favorite son, and younger brother holding onto grudge/anger. So much of this adult hate could have been avoided if you, the older brother, had behaved like a loving & caring older brother instead of a bully! If you are as innocent as you claim, then you should have taken the first step many years ago and apologized for your bad behaviors as a youngster, but all I hear is excuses. Neither brothers are innocent, but you are most at fault for setting up this bad situation between you and your younger brother and you never truly took the necessary steps to fix what you caused.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
@@Youcantbehereman If Neng is as bad as you make him sound, then either he was born bad OR he was seriously damaged by family members when he was younger which caused him to turn out the way you described. He sounds like he needs some serious, professional help, not disownment, but that's just my opinion. Hope the family finds a way to heal.
@@YoucantbeheremanI feel that you guys did wrong to Neng from the beginning. Your parents play favorites in this case
This family issue, I can relate that the younger brother ua neej rov qaab lawm. Bringing up the past to your present life is a big impact ruin family relationship, even spouse relationship too. I’m sure this come from a bloodline somewhere with parents or ancestors. It’s not too late to stop brother, or you will pass down to your kids. Holding grudges doesn’t bring you peace.
It’s not about the bullying in the past, the older brother is using it as an excuse. after our dad passed away he graduated college, took his mom out to eat and didn’t own up to his role. Took his younger bro to court over a petty bill. The same old bully tactic.The past was just a friendly reminder of who he really is and hasn’t change a bit. Me on the other hand is just bringing out our dramas. Am I wrong to stand up for myself? No
Kawm ntawv tag qub siab tsis muaj hauj lwm ua tsis muaj poj niam yuav . Wow xyov tus older brother no puas zoo tiag as. No good No good 😌 😊😊
To the older brother you abuse your role as an older brother whose parents aren’t home. Your parents place you in charge when they’re not home but koj yeej tsis zoo thiab txawj coj thiab. You are the bully. This is not your brother’s fault because you abused him from a vey young age. Apologize to your brother and start fresh. See from your brother’s point of view, feel his pains and sorrow. As an older brother you lead by example not by bullying and use your role as a first born son to put the younger siblings in their place even if you’re wrong. Good luck
Kuv xav mas koj twb ypg tus hlob yog koj coj zoo koj tus kwv yeej tsi saib koj yog yeeb ncuab li os
Dude, that's a lie. If someone blocks your number, that person can still make phone calls to you.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
@@YoucantbeheremanWhich sibling are you?
It’s your parent’s fault. Jealously between siblings is created when parents do not love all the kids equally. The toxicity was created from the parents to begin with and manifested to the kids. No wonder the kids don’t love the parents the same too.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Cas zoo mloog koj cov lus mas zoo li mob hlub kawg li os, rov qab mus sib foob dua hauv court xwb thiaj paub Tias Tus twg yog Tus yeej xwb, yus tus kwv es yus xam maj muab foob txog hauv court lawm CES tsis tas ua kwv ua tij lawm koj yuav dag npaum li Cas los Neeg yeej paub kawg
We need the mom, sisters, and other brothers side of the story. Both of these brothers are bad.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Kuv xav tias koj yeej tsis zoo npaum cas thiab koj tus kwv thiaj tsis muaj kev zam txim rau koj. Kuv tsis ntseeg tias koj yuav zoo npaum li koj cov lus koj hais.
Hoyo.. Who is telling the truth? You and your brother need to have a real talk. Don't hold grudges against each other. I believe your side more.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
There Are Jealous Siblings & Sometimes We Don't Know Why ... As A Mom, I Can't Just Love One Kid Unless They Mean ... But, If I Have Millions Of $, Everyone Would Get One Same Thing!!
Kuv tsis ntseeg tus Tijlaug. Cov lus tsis make sense make excuses xwb
I think you the older brother think you have more rights and use your power over your younger brothers.
And your younger brother is jealous and doesn’t want to obey it. That’s the problems. You both need to be humble, love and forgiveness.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
wow tau mloog kiag #1 lawm os tos ntsoov koj li dab neeg xwb os sister jenny ❤❤❤❤
Bruh he didn't come out and defend himself against how he try to change the beneficial to him on his brother insurance policy. That's pretty big that he left that out.
how did you know this? I was the owner of HIS life insurance policy. he said he'll change the PGE account owner to his name AFTER i gave him his life insurance. Had he kept 1 promise, I wowuldnt even have to take him to court. Our dad didnt trust Neng with his own life insurance, that's why I had it. Neng owed me 6 months of premium.
@@Chewiebakaagain making excuse after excuses. You were paying for it cuz it was still under your ownership. I only started paying for it after u legally transferred it over to me. Also u didn’t even bought and pay for it since we were little. It was mom and dad that bought it, they just had ur name on it cuz they favor you more. Grow up narcissist. Mom bought you your own life policy. The main thing was you forged my signature to change ownership without my consent but at the end u didn’t get what you want. You’re mad, everything had to go your way we get it, you’re a narcissist
@@enyang1907 you realized how stupid this statement is? You just confirmed everything I said.
@@Chewiebakawhy would I pay for something that you still have ownership of? Also that pge account was in your moms name and yours. You’re on the computer 24/7 why not just change it urself? You’re mad at mistakes u made
@@enyang1907you’re not very smart you just proved chues statement right lol. You’re just mad that you have to work as a stinky security guard and only get paid 13$ an hour. While your other siblings are getting paid double. That’s why Lou has to work under the table bc you’re broke hahaha. So sad for your family.
Need part #3 from leej niam coj los qhia
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
A few things to say after hearing both sides.
Youger brother did talked a lot of favoritism and his rants are based on jealousy. There are some things he was hiding about his bad side. Younger brother should have granted his dad's wish about the money. Your mom had the right to decided, not u. Maybe you know your mom wont be capable to use those money so for sure youre gonna ask for some little by little. All ur other brother's made the right decision., so dont be mad about it cause u made urself the bad brother. About the disappearance of your mom, yes, you must have done something horrible to her to make her ask ur other brothers to come get her. And the gym stuff, who cares you work so buy a new set yourself. Also younger brother, you dont have to make ur mom pay you for helping her getting her ssi money. You are the reason y she have you for. She's your mom not your client. She trained you well enough to get ur a** out there and make your own money. Also younger brother said your mom doesnt know your kids, why dont you bring ur kids around ur mom? Who's fault is that?
Older brother, you are as bad as your younger brother. U knew not to get urself into it with ur little brother but yet cant show no love. Ur lil brother may be insecure about something or holding onto some grudge against you. As an older brother urself, no one is gonna teach you as you teach yourself how to love and forgive your little brothers. Youre smart and got a good degree. U didnt waste anytime on that but the brother bonding u did. Maybe when your little brother needed someone to protect and look up to, u pushed him away.
To both of you
Hopefully big brother would step up and bond with the younger brother. It's never too late to say sorry for the things yall done. U two should have each other's back. Your parents did what they could already. They couldn't fix ya two. Now sit down and talk about the things yall need to work on. Dont argue about something that's already in the past. yall were both stupid. Plan a family gathering once a week. Go enjoy things together, we only live so long enough before we say our goodbyes. Wishing yall the best. Just know that every family isnt perfect. Ty for sharing yall stories.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Mloog mas koj phem tshaj
Neb 2 kwv tij ko ces nyias nyob nyias kom deb deb xwb zoo dua. Koj yog tus hlob koj tsis txawj coj koj thiaj ua rau koj tus kwv muaj qhov chim cib nyeej rau koj lawm. Vim nws yog tus yau kiag ntawm koj ces koj ua dab tsi los koj ua kom khib khib nws. 2 tug kwv yau mas nkawd yau neb ntau lawm ces nkawd tseem me koj thiaj tsis ua rau nkawd es nkawd thiaj li haum nrog koj xwb. Tsuas hais raws li tau mloog neb cov lus tham peb hnov no xwb.
Tik laug hais Yog lawm
This is a he said he said...all hearsay...very irrelevant and no solid substantial truth - just pointing fingers.
You both are brothers. Life is too short. Both of you need to humble yourselves and work it out. Humbleness, love, and forgiveness is so important that you both can give to one another while still alive.
Btw, I chuckled at your irrelevant perspective of your niece's name MIA. Definitely not Missing In Action. Mia is a beautiful name from Hebrew name Miryam.
Mia doesn’t mean missing in action you are right about that. But when second brother made his FB post holding his daughter he said “Mia when you grow up I want you to know what your name means… how all your dads side of the family is missing in action.” He’s volatile enough to make his daughter’s name mean that to him. Second brother doesn’t take accountability of everything he’s done to the family. There’s a reason why all the siblings are on good terms and still talk to each other and have cut off the second brother.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Neng os Neng, zaum no ces koj lub qe tsw lwj tawg lawm. Both of you are wrong and equally bad.
Tijlaug cov lug tsis txau ntseeg
Good job Janey
The oldest son is always the favored one in our culture. No bs. Our generation forward has to change that old way of thinking. Hmong people always say "I'm the oldest, you have to listen to me." Thats some bs if you are wrong nobody's listening to u, period. Hope this family can forgive each other and rebuild the relationship.
Both of you brothers are equally bad. No one is good out of the both of you. All I heard is blaming game. You guys are grown now, so learn to forgive and let go.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
All these issues are so small and not even worth fighting over. It’s a shame you guys can’t even get along. I agree with your ending about bad parenting now that you’re adults you two need to grow up. You guys attend church too? Let go of your egos and apologize/forgive each other and move on.
Two hot headed brothers. How sad.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Ib cov tij yeej Tsis txawj ua tij. Yus Tsis txawj ua tij ces lawm kuj tsis txawj ua kwv xwb mas. Koj yog ib tus tij coj Tsis zoo lawm Thiab os. To me this story is about jealousy only. If I was the younger brother, I will not forgive my family . He is ur guys brother and u guys even have the nerve to call the cops on ur own brother/son when he went to clam himself down.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
I see that you just wanted to twist the story that your younger told. I don’t believe you. I believe your brother more. I’m the oldest and I never treat my sisters and brothers like that. For your brother acting like is because you are not a good rule model.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Cas nej niam thiab txiv yuav yug tau ib pab niag tub lwj liam npaum li no es tseem tsis mus khwv los pub yus niam yus txiv noj es tseem mus txeeb niam thiab txiv li noj na ntuj aws
After listening to both stories i think it’s all about jealousy who gets the most attention and who gets the most love and money from their parents. Your mom is old now just love her and cherish the time she has left with you guys. As for your brother let it be.
We are trying to, but it’s hard when the second brother does things like this. This is not the first time he has made lies about the family to get support from strangers online. He’s so sad and won’t own up to his own mistakes in life so he blames the oldest brother. All of the family and siblings are doing better without the second brother in our lives. Hopefully it can stay that way forever.
I'd be content if Neng just stop slandering our family to strangers on the internet. He should go live his golden life and stop bothering us every few months. We dont even mention him, the only time we bring him up is when he pulls this kind of shit.
Muab mloog mas nej pab kwv tij sib txeeb nyiaj xwb npav noj niam txiv tug ces thaum kawg nej yuav sib ntxub mus txog qhov kawg
There are so much misunderstanding among siblings because siblings see their own views only. This story clearly demonstrates the point. The other brother made himself sound great and honestly you too made yourself sound great🤔. Your brother is a victim of your bully so he'll always feel insecure. I hope the siblings learn to love each other and work through your issues.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Nah, I believe the younger brother's side. This bro is just making excuses for his bad behavior, making himself out to be the good guy instead of owning up to what he did.
His younger brother seem to just envy him. He need to respect his older brother. Being older brother ain’t easy.
@luemas2766 respect is earned, not given. This older brother hasn't done anything to earn respect, not saying the younger one deserves it either
@@Unic0rnsfurso you don’t respect your siblings, they have to earn it?! Idk what kind of world you live in but respect should be everyone’s priority. If you don’t respect people, how do live in piece. Smh
@@luemas2766It's rather difficult to respect a bully, regardless if it's family or not. The younger has resentment towards the older, and all I hear are excuses from the older. It's easy for a bully to just tell his victim to let go of the past, but the truth is that the victim cannot let go of his hurt without actual acknowledgement and genuine apology from the bully.
@luemas2766 lmao respect doesn't equal peace. Those who hand out respect even to those who don't deserve it are called "people pleasers." Now, that doesn't mean that you go out of your way to disrespect someone either just because you don't respect them. That's called being "cordial." I don't know what world you're living in, but you're in for a rude awakening, thinking everyone is going to respect you.
Thaub koj yeej phem koj yog tus hlob koj tsis hlub cov yau koj tseem muaj plhus tuaj hais koj zaj thiab koj yog tus tij koj coj zoo ces cov yau yeej hlub koj lawm mas tos nws ntxub koj los koj yeej Liam koj tseem ntshai tsam neeg paub txog koj lub egg tsw lwj thiab nas
cov niam txiv es yug menyuam coob li no yeej sib2 khib li os kuv pom los cov sib hlub ces tsawg 2 xwb os
Og parents always favorite the 1st born, and the last. Those in between/middle children are the forgotten ones! I believe Neng side. You are full of excuses.
Big brother is crap..also the younger brother...both have small heart. Especially the bigger brother because he's suppose to be bigger 😅😂😂
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
I believe your brother and I know you played victim and think you had power over your younger siblings. You took advantage of your parents love and bully your brother. You did not know how to be the older brother. This is what happen when parents play favorite between their kids. You instead of being a role model you were a mean brother. If you said all that about your brother, I hope you better take good care of your mom and don't use her also. Your mom is getting old, so you better marry someone who will accept her.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Listening to this story and the other brother story gives me a headache 🤕 I, for sure did not learn anything from this story besides not to be like the parents who favor one over the other. Waste of time listening. Good thing I fell asleep through half way, off and on.
Sib khib sib txeeb luag tug xwb tsis Xav khwv tsis Xav kom vam meej txog thaum kawg nej lub qe tsw lwj thiaj tawm rau teb chaws nrog nej mloog li no
Nej pab kwv tij mas thiaj tsis tsim nyog tuaj nyob rau lub teb chaws vam meej los nej yeej tsis vam meej li kawg nej twb tsis tau mus noj mov rau tej chaws noj mov zoo zoo li nej cov tub ces yeej liam ib yam nkaus
Kwv tij koom niam txiv yug tej teeb meem me me tseem ua plaub mus txog xam mas yeej yog nkhaus sib xws
I knew your brother just seeking for attention because I listened to the first story. I don't believe him he's a brat. Being the eldest it's not easy
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Oldest brother behaves like a tyrant.
Parents enable older brothers behavior.
Younger son saw the inequality and the division starts there.
Nobody wants to change or compromise because everyone has their pride.
Everybody is messed up in this family.
There was no division from the family to begin with. The oldest brother and second brother rivalry did not happen at all. The Second brother is just a crybaby who blamed his sad life on the oldest brother because its easier to do than admit the second brother was a bad person. Everyone in the family does not act this way and has cut off the second brother for a reason. To say the whole family is messed up is just showing how ignorant you really are. Please look yourself in the mirror and do better because when you say these things on dramas you don't know it shows how ignorant you are. Don't act like the stereotypical Hmong OG and do better.
As the youngest child myself of 6 older brothers. There almost no such thing as standing up for yourself in a Hmong house but only to forgive and respect your oldest. Sad to say at the end. No one would listen to you and your opinion, unless it’s with money.
I agree it is sad when that happens, but in this case there was no bullying. The second brother is a narcissist who thinks his problems that he created himself is all because of the oldest brother. The second brother doesn’t want to admit to it but he’s a 30 year old man who can’t maintain a good life so he blames others instead of himself. Everything that has happened is because of himself and not the oldest brother. All of the siblings love and are on good terms with one another except the second brother because he’s the problem child in the family.
@@Youcantbehereman Honestly we just looking for a good role model. But if we see you’re not someone we see as growing up to be. Than don’t expect us to be as what expected. When we not even allowed to learn the bad habits we see everyday.
As a big brother. Why you beat up your little brother, called police on him, and take him to court. Glad I have a big brother take care of me like a dad.
Did you not listen to the story.
This kind of conflict happen in almost every family with a lot kids even in my own family, but I believe that if you both really wanted to fix your relationship. Now is the time you need to talk to each other as growing men instead of continuing to take revenge on each other while your mom is still alive and continue to bring back the past into your every day' life. It's too overwhelming. Some of our Hmong families even my own, we aren't practiced enough to say sorry and thank you but we need to. Seems like you both are very intelligent men. Instead of sending your story to air on youtube, why don't you both use this time to talk to each other as man to man and say sorry?
Wishing both of you the very best of luck and hope you will find a solution to your conflict before your mom passes. What our parents wanted to see is for their kids to love and respect each before they take their last breath.
When their dad died that was everyone agreed to drop any hard feelings for each other and change because they realized that’s the only family they have. Neng was the one who ended up going back to his evil ways when he realized he could try and manipulate the family into doing what he wanted. Ex: taking mom’s money and forcing her to pay for HIS own expenses. Neng has been given multiple chances to change and be better son/brother. All he has done is try and hurt the family for his own personal gain. Neng has been cut off from the family bc of this. The 6 siblings all get along and have good relationships.
@@Peach-gd2gy I guess every family has an evil brother or sister. In my own is my brother. It's very sad...
@@saivang-provenzano518 yes it’s sad and unfortunate, but they have decided to cut him off. He is the one who continues to try and tell the family issues online.
IMO, i feel that it is neither the younger son or the older son who are the big issue. It's really starts with the parents and their parenting. They gave him authority and turn a blind eye when he is in the wrong; therefore, he became abusive and arrogant with his power. Giving authority to an older sibling is fine, but teaching them to be humble/grounded with their authority and correcting when them when they are becoming abusive/tyrannical with it should be what every parent should do. Also, just because your kids cater to you does not make them in the right, listening and analyzing all your kids action and point of view will give you a better understanding of what happened and what is right or wrong.
That's in most Hmong family.
The parents give all the power to the oldest *son.*
I said *son.* Because even the oldest daughter, even if she's the oldest in the family don't get the same power as the oldest *son.*
By doing this, the oldest son becomes prideful and narcissistic, knowing he can do no wrong.
And then starts abusing that power by mistreating the younger ones. It creates division in the end.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for his bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who didn’t fit in with the family because he was toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Phem tib yam xwb os. Tus twg los yeej txhaum, tsis kam lees nyias txoj kev phem li
Kuv xav mas yog tim niam thiab txiv thiab yog tus older brother
Tim neb 2 leeg tib si tej laus yeej hlub 1 yam nkaus xwb thov neb sib zam txim os 2 tug me tub rov los sib hlub nawb
koom kj nawb❤❤❤
Your parents yeej ua tsis yog lawm...siblings may have rivalry jealousy but your parents kws y koj.txawm yog koj txhaum ki no tsis fair
Wow, I was confused for a minute. Oh, so this is the “narcissistic” brother’s side of the story. Here’s a solution; don’t ever have kids.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
I suppose there is always two sides to a story.....
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
U kids r so evil 😈. What some evil kids. Koj niam & txiv tshaw nyiaj xb g lo nyob qhuab qhia nij Kom txim txiaj.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Uali cas koj tus brother los hais tias koj yog tus bad one. Koj hi hais tias koj tus brother yog tus baf one. Tsis understand li lawm lau. Kom koj niam thiab koj civ brothers sisters tuaj hais seb yog tus twg tiag lau.
Agree 👍
niam Vam Choj haig yog kawg lawm. tsw txhob tuaj swb2 tshuav thij txaj muag xwb
Ho tiam 21 no los heev hee hos los yog tij los yeej pem thiab
Nej cov kwvtij ko peb tsis qhuas ib tus twg li os, phem sib xwv li.
I read this story on fb and it’s wild!
Do u remember the post? I would love to read the fb version of it. Lol.
Wow people! I guess you people don’t remember how little time we have on this earth!
Sad life you’re living 😰😰
Nej cov kwv tij Cas niam txiv hlub ua luaj nej coj li ko. Kuv ntseeg tus kwv vim tus tij nej hnub ua computer but licensed ho poob
เป็นพี่ควรเป็นแบบอย่างที่ดีให้น้องเห็น ไม่ใช่ทำให้น้องมีปมด้อยเสียใจทั้งชีวิต เหมือนแก้ตัวนะคนเป็นน้องคงสุดทนถึงได้ออกมาระบาย
Did you get your master degree or not like Neng said?
Never have i seen a story where many of the family members from the story or related to the story come out to comment on youtube here. Lol.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
I know. Like I’m speechless. If u are the good one y r u commenting right? Idk this family has major issues.
@@MsPajrose Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Even though we all have our own lives to live, we all still love each other very much and try to stay apart of each other's lives. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
@@MsPajroseI can’t comment because I’m the good one? Did you get dropped as a baby. Please go back to school, you are making Hmong people look bad.
Neng married to hmong plooj gold digger hahaha
Yes she is. That’s why she continue to force Neng to send $500 a month to her family when he can barely afford his rent or his wife and daughter here in the states
Ntseeg tsi taus leej twg li tab sis ib cov niam txiv yeej tsi hlub me tub me nyuam ib yam leej twg txawj dag ces tus ntawm yeej yog tas li xwb
Like to hear your mom side of the story.
She's at fault. She will be biased. She should have not shown favortism. (Watch both brothers come together to defend their parents )
I didn’t know the name Mia means “missing in action”. 😂😂 And you said you haven’t seen or been able contact your mom in 6 months, that shows how much you love her too. You’re not a good older brother either.
Hello, and thank you for your comment on our family problems. Sadly what you heard by the second brother is mostly false. A lot of information was twisted by the second brother to gather support for the bad life that he has now. He is a troubled child who doesn’t fit in with the family because he is toxic and a narcissist. After our father passed, we all came together and apologized for how we were. We know we aren’t perfect but what other families are? We wanted a fresh start and made it a purpose to get together for major events and holidays. Neng (the second brother) was the one who turned on the family and started acting against this. Often because he went broke again for some reason and started abusing our mom. This was when everyone finally disowned Neng and for that, neng blames our oldest brother. neng can never own up to his mistakes and he points it at our oldest brother every chance he gets. The rest of the family loves one another except for Neng because he’s the problem in the family. We’ve given him many chances and he’s always managed to destroy them. This isn’t the first time he’s aired out our family problems to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this and we are actively trying to get rid of Neng from our lives.
Yog kawg 😂I don’t know that Mia means missing either😊
Yog tus tij laug txawj coj ces cov yau yeej txawj nyoo cov tij thiab tej zaum tus tij nyaum ces cov yau thiaj tu tu siab li no
There are a lot of unresolved issues. Anger, hurt, and resentment. The parents should have nip this in the butt. They did something to enable these behaviors. Family therapy is what you guys need. Lots of it!
It’s sad because after our dad passed away, we all actually came together and apologized for all the bad we’ve done. We made it a purpose to be there and start fresh, for which we did. We have family get together on holidays and such big events. It’s the second brother who went against this and went back to his toxic ways. The second brother is the problem in this family and that’s why he’s came to RUclips to gather support for his bad life. This isn’t the first time he’s done this and aired out our family problem to the public and it won’t be the last. Thank you for listening to our family problems but take things lightly from the second brothers story because all of it is falsely spoken.
@Youcantbehereman hopefully your brother can find peace within himself, but mostly find forgiveness. I wish you guys the best 🙏