I agree. I lost my Mom last spring, and years ago, my sister and my Dad passed away within three months of each other. Do I forbid people to talk about them in my presence? On the contrary! I enjoy reminiscing about all three of them and all the good times we had together. It helps me cope with the loss.
@@citizenken7069 I am also sorry for your loss and I am with you on enjoying reminiscing about my family members who have passed on as well. Both of my parents are gone as well as both of my siblings and these memories bring smiles to my face reminding me they live on in my heart
@@citizenken7069 I lost my dad back in 2014, my mom in 2017, and my brother in 2020. I have 5 children, 2 girls and 3 boys. Hmm, because I lost my mom, do I tell my kids not to have their mom around? Do I tell all 5 of my children that they are not allowed to include a brother in gatherings? Some people are too freaking entitled, and that family sits on the edge of absolute insanity.
I'm sorry for your loss. My mom died pretty recently and I find it's comforting to spend time around moms and hearing about others moms. Seems to me not being around or speaking of them just makes the sorrow deeper. I wish you well!
Story 1. When I got pregnant with my first child my mother asked me to give my child to my oldest sister because she had cancer and had to have a hysterectomy so she could not have children. In the past my family had always taken things from me and giving it to another family member so at this point I became very concerned that that was going to happen with my daughter. I told her no and went to my husband and he made sure we kept our baby.
Definitely need to set an ultimatum here. Let them know that your property is your property and any further attempts to gift it to another without your permission is theft and will be treated as such. Secondly, your child is a human being and not some object that can be passed around like a hand me down. Any attempt to take the child away will be met with a criminal charge of kidnapping and any family members involved will immediately be cut off from any access to the child if they haven't already been thrown in prison for the attempt. Any arguments to these boundaries should be met with a firm statement that if they don't feel like complying, then you're perfectly fine with cutting them out of your life right now because you don't need that kind of toxicity.
Well, if the grandparents and aunt are so eager to pretend the kid doesn't exist, I see no reason to keep contact with them. If the aunt isn't able to get over it or get therapy, just go no contact with all these insane people.
OP's parents and relatives are inappropriate and completely unreasonable. Cut ties with them and if they want you and your child in their life it will be on your terms. If they don't reach out to you then good riddance.
Julie needs to get over this. Don’t think I am not sympathetic to her loss, my wife had three miscarriages in 1990. In 1992 my wife gave birth to a daughter that I had to give permission to die at eight days. So yes it is hard. That said we have birthday cake for our daughter. I have met a woman that had three miscarriages before she had a live birth. All that said our daughter was and is a blessing. Thirteen years ago I was on a church assignment and got sick and was sent home 240 miles. We stopped at a rest area to eat lunch and before we got out of the car another family pulled in beside us. They had four girls six down to toddler. I was looking at them and thinking about my daughter. I told the father about our daughter and he said, “That is tough”. I responded, “Without death we cannot enjoy eternal life.” The father said, “I have never heard such doctrine. What church do you belong to? I’m on the way to my great aunt’s funeral.” Therefore my sorrow was this man’s “Balm of Gilead.”
Story 2: OP definitely isn't the A-hole. Her sister is just being completely overboard and it's definitely concerning that most of the family seems fine with just pretending children don't exist to placate her.
Does this woman not see anything wrong with telling the whole family that no one can bring around or talk about babies in her presence? Does she never go in public where people take their kids? Her behavior is way out of hand. She can't even stand to see her own sister pregnant or with her child and be happy for her. She needs help, and the parents and others who enable her need to stop.
My friend had something like that happen with her family. Her college-age cousin went through a messy break-up so a rule for Christmas was "No significant others allowed at Christmas unless married." She was living with her fiancé for 5 years and they had a kid together. He came anyway, dramatic meltdown ensued.
Well, if they are so eager to pretend he doesn't exist, I see no reason to keep contact with them. Just go no contact with all these insane people, talking to them will cause him no good.
The parents are even worse than the sister. You can clearly tell they're picking favorites. What happens if the sister drives by a school? Does the school have to close all doors and windows and hide all the children? Do other people have to keep their own children indoors because poor wittle sister can't bear to see them? This is ridiculous.
Exactly! Here’s what the “ poor wittle sister “ is doing whenever she sees happy children elsewhere that aren’t hers: Julie ( the Golden Child baby ): MOMMY!!! DADDY!!! There are CHILDREN running around! Tell them to vanish from existence so I don’t CRY LIKE A BABY!
I would tell OPs mum n dad so cause u don't want to see my son now till he's 6i have decided I don't want u to see him until he decides to maybe see u unless u want to change
"The parents are even worse than the sister. You can clearly tell they're picking favorites." Well yeah. This is exactly how people turn out like her. Because the parents allow (encourage) them to act that way.
I'd post everywhere about their behavior and excommunicate them. You don't want to be a part of the grandkids life fine, you never will be. Oh no, it's not changing once he's over 3 years old, you don't get to go back, it's either all his life or none bitch.
Last story: I’m a total bear in the morning. I would’ve lost it on that entitled mom the moment she touched my bacon or other breakfast food. She would’ve been bouncing to her car faster than she can blink.
I feel shitty for thinking that cause that's so messed up, but I would believe it if she just didn't want Op's son around them cause she can't have kids and is jealous. Edit: I would believe she lied for that reason
Story 2. Definitely NOT the A-hole. Years ago, I had a miscarriage. The very next day (literally), my SIL announced she was pregnant. Did it hurt? Yes. Was I angry? Only about how and where she chose to announce it. I WAS NOT angry that she was pregnant. I didn't avoid her or avoid anything to do with the baby. Loved buying things for the baby shower, which I attended. I even was asked (and accepted) to be the second family member allowed in the delivery suite; the child's father obviously being the other person present. And because SIL was so tired after the birth and bro was worried about his wife, I was the first person besides the hospital staff who got to hold my niece. It was a wonderful experience! My niece and I are still very close. And if I was like OP's sister, I would have missed out on so many years of joy.
Story 2: What happens when she sees a kid in public? That's completely over the top insane. She's not grieving, she's trying to punish others and make them feel bad. The parents are even worse.
She probably goes off on random parents for random things, in retaliation for them DARING to have children. I understand that it's difficult to have problems having a baby. But that's unfortunately a thing that happens. And while it's sad, it's not an excuse to dictate what everyone else does.
Last story: I would have lost it the moment I found someone missing with my stuff. I would have already read everything that is the the paperwork given to students when getting a dorm room. She would have been asked to leave and called campus security when she did not leave.
Yep, and her parents are horrible enablers! I'd be going n/c with all 3 of them, and my kid wouldn't be meeting them any time in the foreseeable future.
I've had more than one miscarriage. I NEVER denied people their not in their pregnancies and children. That sister needs serious therapy as does any person in that family that backs her! I found more healing in welcoming and loving every friend's pregnancies & babies than in hiding them away. What a crock of $#¡t. 🙄
We believed for the 15 years we been together that my wife was sterile. We went to see several doctors and specialist. We even had a couple of embryos implanted only for them to miscarry. 10 years trying and absolutely nothing to come of it. Do you know what we didn’t do the shit in this story. My wife loves kids and she decided that we should adopt since we could have our own. And if your wondering why I say we believed her to be sterile. Well she’s 8 months pregnant with our first biological child.
My wife and I are unable to have kids, but I've never considered shutting other people's kids out of my life because of it. On the contrary, spending time with their kids is a nice compensation.
If I gave birth to every child I'd been pregnant with, I would have like 12 kids now instead of 3 (who took some serious science in order to bring into this world). I would never.. COULD never... Deny any other mother the joy of announcing their pregnancy or introducing their baby to the world. Miscarriage SUCKS... Infertility SUCKS... But come on! The idea of denying the existence of new life is absolutely ludicrous IMO
I was a bouncer in a popular but kind of rough bar and later owned my own bar, I was the typical Cop owning a bar and many officers I worked with hung out there. I remember throwing out people for the dumbest reasons, people who are drunk get mad over literally nothing but I always got very amused when one or two guys would get in my face to start a fight and I got to see the look on their face when they turn around and see multiple guys showing their badges.
Story 2: Miscarriages suck, but this is not how you handle it. This is how family relationships can fall apart. And the fact that almost everyone sided with her despite how outrageous Julie's behavior is and constantly making out OP to be absolutely disrespectful pretty much indicates that they are dying on that hill
Exactly! I get it, it stinks to have a miscarriage, but you shouldn’t force someone, or even someone else’s child, to cater to your every demand. I feel sorry for Op for sure! Julie needs to get over herself!!
If the family's at all religious, I'd mention how Julie not wanting babies even mentioned around Julie is only giving her "bad vibes" about trying for a baby in the future. Can't help but wonder about her spouse, too...
I agree. Sometimes Americans are far too polite (is it because of the guns?) If EM had tried that in an English dorm, she'd have been in a world of hurt. And that first breakfast? If it was made from my food I'd take it away, eat it myself, and insincerely thank EM "for cooking us breakfast *before leaving".*
Yep, as soon as I saw that she'd used food that was mine without asking, I'd have snatched back anything of it that I could, told her she had no business taking other people's food, and to get the hell out before I reported her for staying there, unauthorized, and stealing food belonging to other residents. I definitely can't see myself putting up with this woman for as long as OP and the other residents did. I also have to wonder how they got their hands on OP's gaming equipment and movies, too. Do these folks not even have a lock on their bedroom doors in this kind of a dorm setup? If they don't, that's crazy. Who wants to move into a section with a bunch of strangers who can just walk in and take their stuff without permission? I mean, this time it was gaming equipment and at least it was only used, not stolen. Next time it might be cash or other valuables and disappear, or prescription medications that might be difficult and expensive to try to replace.
@@annalieff-saxby568 nothing to do with guns. If anything, it's the respect for elders drilled in our heads. But as an american...yea...I'd make a stink and demand money for it, and then report her. If I came home and saw she had gone through my stuff, I'd be calling the police. You're not MY mother, you have no right to MY stuff or to tell ME what to do! By her own logic, of course...
@@annalieff-saxby568 less about the guns and more so about the adverse attitude towards calling cops or similar authorities. Always seems like those who should be calling police never do, because of all the Karens' who abuse 911 make them feel like they'd be wasting police time or escalating the situation needlessly.
Story 6: All this because one guy had too much alcohol and had to be sent home for his drunken behavior. I don't know what is wrong with Karen and why she took offense to Enzo being sent home, but there really was no reason for her to be involved
Seeing as he was getting drunker by the minute, she probably thought she had a chance of getting laid. She should have crawled into the taxi with him. 😂
On the last story I would have made the mother pay you all back for the food she took out of the fridge and the cabinets. They should have brought their own food to make and everything.
Story #6: OP handled Enzo _really_ well. And despite Enzo saying some inappropriate things, after coffee he did apologize and was totally not resisting as OP tried to help him go home. Sure sounds like he had a really bad day that he wanted to drown in alcohol. So I have some sympathy with Enzo, hopefully he bounced back from his bad day. Especially since OP said Enzo was usually a very nice guy. So, hats off to OP. Also for pressing charges!
Story 2: "Julie's" entitlement issues aside... The worst actors in this drama are the parents... It beggars belief that they insist on enabling this woman's behaviour... It was probably part of a pattern that started when their daughters were young but to continue to do it into her adulthood and make the rest of the family responsible for her "boundaries" and entitlement issues just screams toxicity. If anything it's the parents that need to take a long, hard look at the golden child monster they created and really question their own issues in allowing how she came to be that way.
That requires introspection and acknowledging the truth. Most likely they’ll pretend they don’t know how she got that way and keep pointing fingers at anyone but themselves, like my parents did with my brother. They’re footing the bill now.
Story 2: If I was OP, I would cut off contact with their sister and parents. Julie clearly doesn't want to see her nephew until he's at least 3 years old, and the parents seem okay with doing that too. So to me, that means they don't want to be a part of the kid's life. And to rub more salt into the wound, Julie is apparently attending every family event so OP'S son can't. If she can't,(like the baby shower for example, and probably the nephew's first 3 birthdays, from the rate this entitlement is going) then it should be canceled.
Story 4: after hearing the makeup excuse, I would've excused myself real quick to grab an umbrella from my apartment, show it to the Karen and say, "ta-da!! Problem solved! Now here, take it. You need it more."
2nd story: OP's aunt, the one whose house OP was visiting and the one who the birthday party was FOR, wanted to see OP's son. That, to me, seems like reason enough for OP to bring him along, and the sister can either get over it or get out.
Story 1: the reason the sister didn't want OP to bring her baby is because she wouldn't be the center of attention there. Too bad if she "couldn't" come if the baby did. And the parents - OMG. No words. Trying to oppress one sister because the other one would be sad. They are Looney Tunes.
Did you mean Story #2? Story #1 is the Subway story. Anyways, agree with your sentiments. Edit: My sister in law had several miscarriages. Yet she never acted the same. My brother asked me respectfully to just never mention her pregnancy and her miscarriage, but that is all. And she's still very loving to others' babies & children, though I can tell she was secretly crying inside. But she's now at peace with her lot in life.
Funniest thing I've heard in a drive through When Kareen is behind you ordering and being rude At the first window Say I want to pay for the car behind you order Now at the next window Show both receipts Take both orders and drive off
The first story, the exact opposite thing happened to me. This was in ‘07 -, ‘08 maybe. I was working at Walmart on graveyard shift when on my first break I decided to get a snack. It was a Yoohoo chocolate drink and a honey bun. No I’ll never forget it. This lady was behind me kind of acting weird, but I paid it no mind. Then some guy walked in and they see each other and started giggling. That’s when I knew “okay, she’s drunk or something”. I finally get to the cashier then I hear, “I’ll pay for you Yoohoo”! I turned around kind surprised and was like “what”?! in confusion. She was serious and wouldn’t take no for answer. In the end she bought my snack, coworkers saw it and joked about for a few days after that.
I love seeing Karen's get the boot makes my day. I used to work with a guy who used to steal things from my Workstation, things like cigarettes or snacks that I would bring one time I even found my utility knife on his desk. Like dude all you got to do is ask but if you steal shit from me you ain't getting shit ever again. Long story short I set him up and ended up getting him fired but not before I got my revenge. I took a Hershey's chocolate bar wrapper and wrapped it around a bar of laxatives he took the bait and thought he was eating a Hershey's chocolate bar. He was absent from work for about 3 days after that and his first day back I set him up and got him fired. Wonder if he ever learned his lesson... probably not.
After working a job where I am surrounded by entitled people… I choose to unwind by listening to stories about MORE ENTITLED PEOPLE! Make that make sense, lol.
my sister once had her stuff paid by a complete stranger. she works at a nursing home as I believe recreational director (or something), one summer day she went to the store and a bunch of ice cream to bring the residents. im sure she was asked why so much ice cream and she said why. then a guy paid paid for her purchase.
When someone *offers* to pay, or does it unasked... is a gift they decided to give. It's nice, but not something anyone should ever expect. If I ever get it, I give a good thank you, but never expect it to happen the next time... as I'm not entitled. Doing it when you have money is always a good feeling too.
As a poor person, once when my food stamps weren't on my card when they should be, I apologized to the clerk and said to cancel my order that I would come back tomorrow, and a lady behind me bought my $15 of stuff for sandwiches. I cried with joy, and tried telling her she didn't have to, but she insisted. Still makes me tear up. 😥😊 I wouldn't have ever asked anyone to buy my items though.
yeah I have been in your boat. food stamps not in for some reason or credit card being rejected (that turned out to be something on my end that I wasnt aware of) but no one stepped up. dont expect a stranger to pay for my food but have seen it happen before. at a cvs. saw a guy pay for a woman's items and left. asked her if she knew him and she said no
So, story one yeah, I had this happen once. The lady didn't even LOOK at me before telling the cashier I was going to pay for her and I immediately responded with the firmest, coldest sounding "Excuse me, no the F I'm not." At this point she actually turned around and looked at what she was dealing with. A large, fully black clad goth Native American draped in spikes and chains with skulls on his headband and a wolf tooth necklace. She seemed a bit shocked at who was behind her and I just started again "no, I am not f'ing paying for you. Pay for your own s**t and get lost" she looked incensed, but at the same time I could tell she was faced with someone she was too scared of to try and fight her case. This was proven when she scurried off right after.
Story 2. Julie doesn't have boundaries. Boundaries are about what she is and isn't willing to do or accept. Julie has rules that she expects people to obey. Not the same thing at all. She's unreasonable and needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her and if other people having babies is sooo triggering to her, she needs to do the hard work to heal by going to therapy
Ok, I have to speak up here. I wanted a baby from the time I was a toddler, i put books aside I loved so I could read them to my kids, favourite toys, all of it. But I found out I have a disease that would transfer to a child & it would cause the baby pain & physical difficulties. I cried seeing commercials, refused to watch the last season of Friends- & my long term man told me I needed to go to therapy & deal with this grief because it was out of hand. My sister got pregnant weeks later. I waited until I could be calm about it and called and congratulated her. It hurt, god it was like eating glass, but I LOVE my sister, and I love the son she had. I would NEVER take away from her joy because I am having issues. That this poor woman’s whole family ghosted her for having a child is just… disgusting. Wow. They don’t deserve to know her baby. They don’t deserve her.
Op's childless sister needs to face reality and accept her nephew. She could possibly become his favorite aunt. My two older sisters had two kids apiece and my twin adopted a boy (who is now 23). I'm close to him because I lived with them off and on. I helped raise him. So even though I never had kids of my own I was always happy to see them and be apart of their lives!
When entitled mom went "maybe ask before assuming you're in charge", that's when all semblance of courtesy would disappear for me. Maybe ask before going through people's things, and stealing their food?
My sister had similar issues with having children. When I was pregnant she was nothing but happy for us. She loves my daughter and wouldn’t miss a birthday for anything. She now has children of her own which was an ordeal in itself. I give my sister kudos for going through what she went to and remained strong.
Last story you bill the karen kid and mom and drop the dime to the school. Make sure karen pays the full price so she feels the burn for a while to come, if not bounce the kid out of the school back home to mom.
Yeah, I'm calling it. If the sister in story 2 does decide to get pregnant again and carry to term, that baby will be treated as the golden miracle child by her and everyone else. That's really sad, but it's how it will happen, all because the parents of the sister have fed into her complex instead of helping her to grieve in a healthy way.
This kind of things never happen in my country cause if you steal someone parking spot, park in someone driveway or block someone driveway then your car is gonna suffer some sort of unfortunate and very costly accident or you can end up without a car.
The last one... the moment of using all my food then using my electronics... would have been a big issue. The staying for several days... would have been the end of the road and would have contacted the person managing it. 2 weeks would not have gone by before I did something.
Story 7: I would have been so angry at that mom and daughter. I would have probably gotten into a physical fight with her over touching my things, and the daughter would have been high up on my sh*t list lol
Julie and her dead fetus can stop being the main character in everyone else's lives. My younger sister has had 5 miscarriages. She and her husband stopped trying to get pregnant. I've had several kids. At no time did she or her husband get into a tizzy whenever I was pregnant or carrying a baby around. She went to baby showers, baptisms, birthday parties and was genuinely happy for friends and family.
I have a couple friends who both had multiple miscarriages, and they would never deny someone else’s baby. I had one of my kids two weeks after one friend’s miscarriage and she was just thrilled to hold my baby. It was therapeutic to her
Second Story: No Baby... Your aunt invited you to her birthday party. She also invited your husband and your baby. Frankly, I don't see a problem. Julie is being entirely too self-absorbed and is pushing the rest of the family away from her with her "sensitivity." Go to your aunt's party; take the family; enjoy yourselves.
First story: The woman who miscarried needs therapy ASAP. If she doesn't, the anger and grief will fester and possibly erupt into violence. It wasn't said whether she was entitled prior to this issue, but her behavior is telling. How do I know? I always wanted a large family. I went through 3 miscarriages (1 second trimester) before carrying my first child to term. Then 9 years, and 2 more miscarriages before my second baby. That's a LOT of heartache. Yes, at times it was very hard to deal with, but life goes on. I had some therapy and did a lot of reading on the subject. I hope she gets the help she needs.
I've miscaried 5 times and i would never ever asked annyone to do what this family's doing it's so intitled... i have 2 kids so it's water under the bridge.
As someone that might not be able to have kids, I would NEVER demand people not have their kids around me, in fact, I found out when I was 5 I might not be able to have kids, AND BABY SAT MY FRIEND'S CHILD when she was like a year old, while both of us were barely 18. I took that kiddo to the park (close enough to walk, and I'd carry her if she got tired) and enjoyed the time I had with her. I might not be able to have kids, but this lady who demands no one bring kids around her, needs to get into some psychiatric help to help her through her feelings, instead of stuffing them down and demanding no one have their kids around her. Other people's kids are actually much nicer to deal with than your own, cause at least they go BACK to their parents and you only have to deal with them for a short bit. I wouldn't want to know the kids she'd raise being THAT entitled.
@@kissit012 Not necessarily wasted. If they were decent food and/or OTC "pharmacy" items, they could have been donated to a homeless shelter, a food kitchen, a battered women & children's shelter, a church that has an outreach program, department of social services, etc. All kinds of ways hey could have been put to good use.
OP & woman who wants him to pay for her stuff at the store: There are many times that I went to the store & came up short. Never, not once, did I ask anyone to pay the difference & never, not once, did anyone offer to pay the difference.
Regarding Story 2: I spent 17 years unable to have children, and I NEVER behaved this way… my best friend had to have a hysterectomy super early in life due to complicated medical issues and has been devastated by the fact she won’t have kids. When I found out about my miracle baby, I told her first and gave her a chance to process and be involved in the knowledge before I announced it publicly out of an abundance of respect for her. Guess what? She was HAPPY for me and is now my sons God-Mama. I’m sure she has had a few moments of sadness or even twinges of jealousy- hell, I had them for 10+ years of my own struggle and could hardly watch a pregnancy test ad on tv- but neither of us would EVER behave like this crazy woman. What the actual hell??
dorm story: I would have grabbed all the food and said thanks for making us breakfast, after all it's our food and invoiced them for it and told on mom first day by the authorities to get out!
The sister requesting that children not be around because she can't have children is utterly ridiculous. I myself had 10 miscarriages and never once required or requested that my family not bring their children around, I loved seeing them
The moment I saw MY Electronics strewn around the room, I'd have quietly left the room (so they can't hear what I'm doing) and called the Police to have Karen Arrested for Theft (of the food), Unlawful Entry and Trespass (going through MY bow of electronics) as well as what ever Crime it is to use said electronics without my permission... Karen wouldn't be staying for 2 weeks because if she didn't IMMEDIATELY pay for the stolen food, pack her shit and leave of her own Free Will, I'd make sure she was removed Under Arrest, in Cuffs... 😄😁😆😅😂🤣
Second story: It's the aunt's birthday and if SHE wants OP's son there then OP needs to bring her son. It's not Julie's place to dictate who the aunt can and cannot come to HER birthday party. It's also nobody's place to tell OP whether or not she should have a baby shower.
Please DO NOT EVER tell a woman to "just endure it" when someone is harassing her! I don't care if he's normally a nice guy. That kind of behavior should be STOPPED immediately.
I absolutely love listening to you reading your stories. I cannot say enough positive things about it. Starting with the tone, pitch, tenor of your voice, the timing, and how clear you speak. The selection and content of your stories is a plus.
OP & SisterJulie: If this is how Julie acts while childless, can you imagine how she will act if she does have children? Maybe The Almighty is doing 'right' by not allowing Julie to have children???
My friend had a few miscarriages. And didn't think she would ever have any kids.(medical issues) she took every opertunity to babysit another friend's kids.
When our baby passed away at birth from a cord accident, we were devastated. A couple months later we went to visit a friend who had just given birth. She specifically asked me to hold her daughter. I stared into her eyes mesmerized. It was as if I could see Heaven. It felt as if the baby was promising I would have more children. Two years later, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy. When a woman loses a child, it is beneficial to hold something in your arms, another child, pet…etc
I had to have a hysterectomy after we got married so couldn't have children. Two days after the operation I had a meltdown in the ward. The senior nurse went to the obstetrics ward, borrowed a newborn baby from one of the very understanding mothers and allowed me to hold him. The comfort I got from just holding that precious baby was unbelievable! It helped me so much to accept I couldn't have my own child.
Story 7: taking the food would have been the first and last straw for me. Did she think the college kids all had an unlimited food budget or did she just not care?! I’m guessing it was the latter.
Story #1 - I was thinking through the whole thing, buy it, bag it, take it all home. Thank You, come again! 12:30 Excuse Me? What, you never heard of an UMBRELLA or BUMBERSHOOT??? F OFF!
Story #2: Does Julie go out in public, to go shopping or go to a restaurant? She is bound to see kids of all ages. Does she whine, cringe or yell at THEIR parents? Time for her to 'cowgirl up' and face life as an adult.
I have terrible trouble with my weight due to medical conditions, but I don't disallow slim people from turning up to events that I'm at, just because I have difficulty losing weight. She needs to get a grip.
The sister story, if the family likes willing to not let OP's baby be around because it might upset her sister, let each of them know then they will not be allowed any contact and when that child gets older, she will make sure to let that child know that those relatives didn't want her to bring that child around them because of that sister. They don;'t need to cuddle her, they need to fix her and if they are willing to exclude other relatives because of her, then so be it.
Story #2: Yeah.. OP's family is insane. I know it hurts when you want kids and can't habe some but that's no excuse to say everyone else around you should not celebrate talk or bring their own kids! Wow.. Insanity at a new high! And! No, don't block her! Just post everything you want to! And if Julie don't want to see it, SHE can block you! I think of Julie had called me I would have said: "hu? Oh.. Yeah we have a sitter. Our son is not going to be there" and then she either has to live with the fact that the baby is there or leave.
When my daughter was born my mother in law explained she had raised her children and don't expect her to babysit ours, so we complied. After four years she asked why she only saw the granddaughter when we visited?
story 2: after my grandmother miscarried her kid she adopted my dad and his brother and babysat/raised her grandkids. sadly one, my father, lost his battle to cancer and his brother despite knowing that his mama is in remission never called to ask if she needed him to do something around the house. it's all been me that helped. she's really been worried that her cancer is going to ruin the holidays but who can really predict getting sick?
Story 2: It actually sounds like Julie hates kids. I had an aunt that was infertile, and her nieces and nephews were always welcome at her home, and she would take little ones and babies for an evening if parents needed a date night. She took us to plays, museums, and movies. And provided emotional time and support that our busy parents had in short supply. Some of my most memorable experiences were with her, and I cannot imagine how much my life would be different without her.
1. If anybody is being hurtful and selfish, it's her narcissistic sister, Julie! My daughter suffered 7 niscarriages and was always 100% on board with her pregnant friends, organizing showers at her home, etc. She got her miranle child on her 8th pregnancy!
What's really bad about story 4 is her guests will have to pay tow bills for something they have no clue wasn't permitted to begin with. Hope they sue her.
When I lost my mother at age 10, I didn’t demand that nobody mention their mother, or refuse to go anywhere where someone’s mom might be.
I agree. I lost my Mom last spring, and years ago, my sister and my Dad passed away within three months of each other. Do I forbid people to talk about them in my presence? On the contrary! I enjoy reminiscing about all three of them and all the good times we had together. It helps me cope with the loss.
I am so sorry for your loss and your attitude is one your Mom would be proud of!
@@citizenken7069 I am also sorry for your loss and I am with you on enjoying reminiscing about my family members who have passed on as well. Both of my parents are gone as well as both of my siblings and these memories bring smiles to my face reminding me they live on in my heart
@@citizenken7069 I lost my dad back in 2014, my mom in 2017, and my brother in 2020. I have 5 children, 2 girls and 3 boys. Hmm, because I lost my mom, do I tell my kids not to have their mom around? Do I tell all 5 of my children that they are not allowed to include a brother in gatherings? Some people are too freaking entitled, and that family sits on the edge of absolute insanity.
I'm sorry for your loss. My mom died pretty recently and I find it's comforting to spend time around moms and hearing about others moms. Seems to me not being around or speaking of them just makes the sorrow deeper. I wish you well!
Story 1. When I got pregnant with my first child my mother asked me to give my child to my oldest sister because she had cancer and had to have a hysterectomy so she could not have children. In the past my family had always taken things from me and giving it to another family member so at this point I became very concerned that that was going to happen with my daughter. I told her no and went to my husband and he made sure we kept our baby.
Definitely need to set an ultimatum here. Let them know that your property is your property and any further attempts to gift it to another without your permission is theft and will be treated as such. Secondly, your child is a human being and not some object that can be passed around like a hand me down. Any attempt to take the child away will be met with a criminal charge of kidnapping and any family members involved will immediately be cut off from any access to the child if they haven't already been thrown in prison for the attempt. Any arguments to these boundaries should be met with a firm statement that if they don't feel like complying, then you're perfectly fine with cutting them out of your life right now because you don't need that kind of toxicity.
wow. I hope your mother isn't permitted to babysit or have unsupervised time with your child...
That's Story 2, not Story 1.
There are *loads* of children desperate for adoptive parents.
Batshit crazy relatives treating your children like property = Cut off time
NTA in Story 2. Op shouldn’t *HAVE* to cater to this woman’s every whims! Op is right, their child exists! *GET OVER IT*
Yep, she has no right to dictate other people's lives.
Well, if the grandparents and aunt are so eager to pretend the kid doesn't exist, I see no reason to keep contact with them. If the aunt isn't able to get over it or get therapy, just go no contact with all these insane people.
OP's parents and relatives are inappropriate and completely unreasonable. Cut ties with them and if they want you and your child in their life it will be on your terms. If they don't reach out to you then good riddance.
It's not hard to figure out who the golden child of the family is in the second story.
Julie needs to get over this. Don’t think I am not sympathetic to her loss, my wife had three miscarriages in 1990. In 1992 my wife gave birth to a daughter that I had to give permission to die at eight days. So yes it is hard.
That said we have birthday cake for our daughter.
I have met a woman that had three miscarriages before she had a live birth.
All that said our daughter was and is a blessing. Thirteen years ago I was on a church assignment and got sick and was sent home 240 miles. We stopped at a rest area to eat lunch and before we got out of the car another family pulled in beside us. They had four girls six down to toddler. I was looking at them and thinking about my daughter.
I told the father about our daughter and he said, “That is tough”. I responded, “Without death we cannot enjoy eternal life.”
The father said, “I have never heard such doctrine. What church do you belong to? I’m on the way to my great aunt’s funeral.”
Therefore my sorrow was this man’s “Balm of Gilead.”
Story 2: OP definitely isn't the A-hole. Her sister is just being completely overboard and it's definitely concerning that most of the family seems fine with just pretending children don't exist to placate her.
1 million% agree OP isn't the A-hole.
Does this woman not see anything wrong with telling the whole family that no one can bring around or talk about babies in her presence? Does she never go in public where people take their kids? Her behavior is way out of hand. She can't even stand to see her own sister pregnant or with her child and be happy for her. She needs help, and the parents and others who enable her need to stop.
My friend had something like that happen with her family. Her college-age cousin went through a messy break-up so a rule for Christmas was "No significant others allowed at Christmas unless married." She was living with her fiancé for 5 years and they had a kid together. He came anyway, dramatic meltdown ensued.
The fact that so many are just going along with it makes everything so much worse & so bizarre. Who thinks this way? ! 😳
To top it off. The family is not helping at all. This behaviour will only make it worse for Julie not better. 🤦🏼♀️
Story 2: what kind of complex will that kid have when he’s old enough to realize his aunt and grandparents want to pretend he doesn’t exist?
Supposedly he can start seeing his aunt at 4, but still terrible
Hearing that makes me hope OP's 70yr old aunt disowned those a**holes who act like OPs son doesn't exist
Well, if they are so eager to pretend he doesn't exist, I see no reason to keep contact with them. Just go no contact with all these insane people, talking to them will cause him no good.
I would tell them since u don't want to see my son now I decided that I don't want u to see him ever until he wants to unless u change
The karen sister can solve the problem easily by adopting or setting herself on fire
The parents are even worse than the sister. You can clearly tell they're picking favorites.
What happens if the sister drives by a school? Does the school have to close all doors and windows and hide all the children? Do other people have to keep their own children indoors because poor wittle sister can't bear to see them? This is ridiculous.
Exactly! Here’s what the “ poor wittle sister “ is doing whenever she sees happy children elsewhere that aren’t hers:
Julie ( the Golden Child baby ): MOMMY!!! DADDY!!! There are CHILDREN running around! Tell them to vanish from existence so I don’t CRY LIKE A BABY!
I would tell OPs mum n dad so cause u don't want to see my son now till he's 6i have decided I don't want u to see him until he decides to maybe see u unless u want to change
She should go non-contact with her nparents.
"The parents are even worse than the sister. You can clearly tell they're picking favorites."
Well yeah. This is exactly how people turn out like her. Because the parents allow (encourage) them to act that way.
I'd post everywhere about their behavior and excommunicate them. You don't want to be a part of the grandkids life fine, you never will be. Oh no, it's not changing once he's over 3 years old, you don't get to go back, it's either all his life or none bitch.
Last story: I’m a total bear in the morning. I would’ve lost it on that entitled mom the moment she touched my bacon or other breakfast food. She would’ve been bouncing to her car faster than she can blink.
Especially since she didn't cover any of the cost
Story 2: Are we even sure "Julie" miscarried or did she invent the story to get sympathy?
I feel shitty for thinking that cause that's so messed up, but I would believe it if she just didn't want Op's son around them cause she can't have kids and is jealous.
Edit: I would believe she lied for that reason
Story 2. Definitely NOT the A-hole.
Years ago, I had a miscarriage. The very next day (literally), my SIL announced she was pregnant. Did it hurt? Yes. Was I angry? Only about how and where she chose to announce it. I WAS NOT angry that she was pregnant. I didn't avoid her or avoid anything to do with the baby. Loved buying things for the baby shower, which I attended. I even was asked (and accepted) to be the second family member allowed in the delivery suite; the child's father obviously being the other person present. And because SIL was so tired after the birth and bro was worried about his wife, I was the first person besides the hospital staff who got to hold my niece.
It was a wonderful experience! My niece and I are still very close. And if I was like OP's sister, I would have missed out on so many years of joy.
Did your sister know that you had miscarriaged? If so she should've waited some days for annauncing her pregnancy.
@@flamenmartialis6839 - Yes, she did. But she was young and still very "me" -focused at the time.
@@audrag.4756 At least you were able to forgive her. And be so close to her during the process and be such a great aunt for your niece.
Story 2: What happens when she sees a kid in public? That's completely over the top insane. She's not grieving, she's trying to punish others and make them feel bad. The parents are even worse.
I half believe she wasn't even trying to get pregnant. She just liked controlling everyone around her.
Yup. She needs a lot of counseling.
She probably goes off on random parents for random things, in retaliation for them DARING to have children.
I understand that it's difficult to have problems having a baby. But that's unfortunately a thing that happens. And while it's sad, it's not an excuse to dictate what everyone else does.
Yup enabling her delusions isn't helping her grieve; it's keeping her held back from helping.
With her immaturity, I pity any child she EVER has.
Just another Karunt.
Last story:
I would have lost it the moment I found someone missing with my stuff. I would have already read everything that is the the paperwork given to students when getting a dorm room. She would have been asked to leave and called campus security when she did not leave.
The sister is showing that she would be a terrible mother
Yep, and her parents are horrible enablers! I'd be going n/c with all 3 of them, and my kid wouldn't be meeting them any time in the foreseeable future.
@@Kati_P same!
Her fetus took the easy way out...
How the heck does the sister deal when she goes to the stores and restaurants there are children and babies there??
@@gaylenewood7707 right? A lot of women miscarry and we don't go all Karen on people
I've had more than one miscarriage. I NEVER denied people their not in their pregnancies and children. That sister needs serious therapy as does any person in that family that backs her! I found more healing in welcoming and loving every friend's pregnancies & babies than in hiding them away. What a crock of $#¡t. 🙄
I'm sorry about your miscarriages.
We believed for the 15 years we been together that my wife was sterile. We went to see several doctors and specialist. We even had a couple of embryos implanted only for them to miscarry. 10 years trying and absolutely nothing to come of it. Do you know what we didn’t do the shit in this story. My wife loves kids and she decided that we should adopt since we could have our own.
And if your wondering why I say we believed her to be sterile. Well she’s 8 months pregnant with our first biological child.
@@rjgaynor8 Congrats! I wish you, your wife and your stb littl'un all the very best for the future.
My wife and I are unable to have kids, but I've never considered shutting other people's kids out of my life because of it. On the contrary, spending time with their kids is a nice compensation.
If I gave birth to every child I'd been pregnant with, I would have like 12 kids now instead of 3 (who took some serious science in order to bring into this world).
I would never.. COULD never... Deny any other mother the joy of announcing their pregnancy or introducing their baby to the world. Miscarriage SUCKS... Infertility SUCKS... But come on! The idea of denying the existence of new life is absolutely ludicrous IMO
I was a bouncer in a popular but kind of rough bar and later owned my own bar, I was the typical Cop owning a bar and many officers I worked with hung out there. I remember throwing out people for the dumbest reasons, people who are drunk get mad over literally nothing but I always got very amused when one or two guys would get in my face to start a fight and I got to see the look on their face when they turn around and see multiple guys showing their badges.
LOL... one day you should send your choicest stories to Fluff 😂
Bruh that's fucking gold xD Drunk ppl lose all common sense
Story 2: Miscarriages suck, but this is not how you handle it. This is how family relationships can fall apart.
And the fact that almost everyone sided with her despite how outrageous Julie's behavior is and constantly making out OP to be absolutely disrespectful pretty much indicates that they are dying on that hill
Julie is clearly the golden child of the family. I feel bad for OP
Exactly! I get it, it stinks to have a miscarriage, but you shouldn’t force someone, or even someone else’s child, to cater to your every demand. I feel sorry for Op for sure! Julie needs to get over herself!!
@@gilded_lady good thing op is not having twins, or I bet her parents would tell her to share one of the babies with her sister
If the family's at all religious, I'd mention how Julie not wanting babies even mentioned around Julie is only giving her "bad vibes" about trying for a baby in the future.
Can't help but wonder about her spouse, too...
@@Jerseybytes2 I'm kind of surpised they didnt demand the baby anyway.
The dorm story, I would have called the police the minute she didn't leave after getting her shit set up.
I agree. Sometimes Americans are far too polite (is it because of the guns?) If EM had tried that in an English dorm, she'd have been in a world of hurt. And that first breakfast? If it was made from my food I'd take it away, eat it myself, and insincerely thank EM "for cooking us breakfast *before leaving".*
Yep, as soon as I saw that she'd used food that was mine without asking, I'd have snatched back anything of it that I could, told her she had no business taking other people's food, and to get the hell out before I reported her for staying there, unauthorized, and stealing food belonging to other residents. I definitely can't see myself putting up with this woman for as long as OP and the other residents did.
I also have to wonder how they got their hands on OP's gaming equipment and movies, too. Do these folks not even have a lock on their bedroom doors in this kind of a dorm setup? If they don't, that's crazy. Who wants to move into a section with a bunch of strangers who can just walk in and take their stuff without permission? I mean, this time it was gaming equipment and at least it was only used, not stolen. Next time it might be cash or other valuables and disappear, or prescription medications that might be difficult and expensive to try to replace.
@@annalieff-saxby568 nothing to do with guns. If anything, it's the respect for elders drilled in our heads. But as an american...yea...I'd make a stink and demand money for it, and then report her. If I came home and saw she had gone through my stuff, I'd be calling the police. You're not MY mother, you have no right to MY stuff or to tell ME what to do! By her own logic, of course...
@@annalieff-saxby568 less about the guns and more so about the adverse attitude towards calling cops or similar authorities. Always seems like those who should be calling police never do, because of all the Karens' who abuse 911 make them feel like they'd be wasting police time or escalating the situation needlessly.
@@annalieff-saxby568 I'm an American and if someone took my food I'd be throwing hands
Karen:"My make-up will be ruined by the rain!"
Me:"You don't need to worry. Witches melt when hit by water so make-up will be least of your worries."
Why doesn’t she just take an umbrella, wear a coat with a hood or just put her makeup on in the car?
😂😂😂😂😂😂❤
@@EditorOfSL The problem with any of those are they are based on *logical* thought. Karen's lack that ability.
Story 6: All this because one guy had too much alcohol and had to be sent home for his drunken behavior. I don't know what is wrong with Karen and why she took offense to Enzo being sent home, but there really was no reason for her to be involved
Seeing as he was getting drunker by the minute, she probably thought she had a chance of getting laid. She should have crawled into the taxi with him. 😂
Especially since even Enzo agreed he was just being a butthole and out of line...and left willingly and quietly, after apologizing.
@@nearlyocd yeah, sounds like a classic get the drunk to do you for blackmail scheme
On the last story I would have made the mother pay you all back for the food she took out of the fridge and the cabinets. They should have brought their own food to make and everything.
Story #6: OP handled Enzo _really_ well. And despite Enzo saying some inappropriate things, after coffee he did apologize and was totally not resisting as OP tried to help him go home. Sure sounds like he had a really bad day that he wanted to drown in alcohol. So I have some sympathy with Enzo, hopefully he bounced back from his bad day. Especially since OP said Enzo was usually a very nice guy.
So, hats off to OP. Also for pressing charges!
As for Karen, maybe _she_ had one too many.
Story 2: "Julie's" entitlement issues aside... The worst actors in this drama are the parents... It beggars belief that they insist on enabling this woman's behaviour... It was probably part of a pattern that started when their daughters were young but to continue to do it into her adulthood and make the rest of the family responsible for her "boundaries" and entitlement issues just screams toxicity. If anything it's the parents that need to take a long, hard look at the golden child monster they created and really question their own issues in allowing how she came to be that way.
That requires introspection and acknowledging the truth. Most likely they’ll pretend they don’t know how she got that way and keep pointing fingers at anyone but themselves, like my parents did with my brother. They’re footing the bill now.
Story 2: If I was OP, I would cut off contact with their sister and parents. Julie clearly doesn't want to see her nephew until he's at least 3 years old, and the parents seem okay with doing that too. So to me, that means they don't want to be a part of the kid's life.
And to rub more salt into the wound, Julie is apparently attending every family event so OP'S son can't. If she can't,(like the baby shower for example, and probably the nephew's first 3 birthdays, from the rate this entitlement is going) then it should be canceled.
the sad thing is for one person to take over the whole family. any family that does this is in the wrong. all should be equal.
My mom.
Story 4: after hearing the makeup excuse, I would've excused myself real quick to grab an umbrella from my apartment, show it to the Karen and say, "ta-da!! Problem solved! Now here, take it. You need it more."
Story 5.
@@JV-pu8kx was it story 5? My bad
2nd story: OP's aunt, the one whose house OP was visiting and the one who the birthday party was FOR, wanted to see OP's son. That, to me, seems like reason enough for OP to bring him along, and the sister can either get over it or get out.
Story 1: the reason the sister didn't want OP to bring her baby is because she wouldn't be the center of attention there. Too bad if she "couldn't" come if the baby did. And the parents - OMG. No words. Trying to oppress one sister because the other one would be sad. They are Looney Tunes.
Did you mean Story #2? Story #1 is the Subway story.
Anyways, agree with your sentiments.
Edit: My sister in law had several miscarriages. Yet she never acted the same. My brother asked me respectfully to just never mention her pregnancy and her miscarriage, but that is all. And she's still very loving to others' babies & children, though I can tell she was secretly crying inside. But she's now at peace with her lot in life.
@@PanduPoluanSafeway.
This is where the medical system needs an update. Automatic referral to therapy for when such a life event happens.
I'm sure someone has actually been entitled enough to kick a grandma off the stairs.
There was a sister who kicked her PREGNANT sister down the stairs.
Pretty sure you are right. OTOH, I have met a few grannies who deserve to be kicked off stairs.
I didn't even doubt it when Fluff said it, that's how bad the Karens are.
There was a 26 year old woman in New York who pushed an 87 year old woman and killed her earlier in the year
Yup...wild Karens exist so it could happen.
My daily dark fluff therapy?! YES PLEASE!
Same!!
GIVE HIM COOKIES THEN!
Story #4: If OP towed Karen's car that often, OP should cut a deal with the towing company for a percentage of the penalty 😂
Make sure to give stevo some water for his hard work
He has a water trough and barn access during rainstorms.
Pretty sure he also gets more then enough hay
Funniest thing I've heard in a drive through
When Kareen is behind you ordering and being rude
At the first window
Say I want to pay for the car behind you order
Now at the next window
Show both receipts
Take both orders and drive off
The first story, the exact opposite thing happened to me. This was in ‘07 -, ‘08 maybe. I was working at Walmart on graveyard shift when on my first break I decided to get a snack. It was a Yoohoo chocolate drink and a honey bun. No I’ll never forget it. This lady was behind me kind of acting weird, but I paid it no mind. Then some guy walked in and they see each other and started giggling. That’s when I knew “okay, she’s drunk or something”. I finally get to the cashier then I hear, “I’ll pay for you Yoohoo”! I turned around kind surprised and was like “what”?! in confusion. She was serious and wouldn’t take no for answer. In the end she bought my snack, coworkers saw it and joked about for a few days after that.
I love seeing Karen's get the boot makes my day. I used to work with a guy who used to steal things from my Workstation, things like cigarettes or snacks that I would bring one time I even found my utility knife on his desk. Like dude all you got to do is ask but if you steal shit from me you ain't getting shit ever again. Long story short I set him up and ended up getting him fired but not before I got my revenge. I took a Hershey's chocolate bar wrapper and wrapped it around a bar of laxatives he took the bait and thought he was eating a Hershey's chocolate bar. He was absent from work for about 3 days after that and his first day back I set him up and got him fired. Wonder if he ever learned his lesson... probably not.
After working a job where I am surrounded by entitled people… I choose to unwind by listening to stories about MORE ENTITLED PEOPLE! Make that make sense, lol.
Because here you almost always hear the entitled people getting their come-uppance 😉
my sister once had her stuff paid by a complete stranger. she works at a nursing home as I believe recreational director (or something), one summer day she went to the store and a bunch of ice cream to bring the residents. im sure she was asked why so much ice cream and she said why. then a guy paid paid for her purchase.
When someone *offers* to pay, or does it unasked... is a gift they decided to give. It's nice, but not something anyone should ever expect. If I ever get it, I give a good thank you, but never expect it to happen the next time... as I'm not entitled. Doing it when you have money is always a good feeling too.
As a poor person, once when my food stamps weren't on my card when they should be, I apologized to the clerk and said to cancel my order that I would come back tomorrow, and a lady behind me bought my $15 of stuff for sandwiches. I cried with joy, and tried telling her she didn't have to, but she insisted. Still makes me tear up. 😥😊
I wouldn't have ever asked anyone to buy my items though.
yeah I have been in your boat. food stamps not in for some reason or credit card being rejected (that turned out to be something on my end that I wasnt aware of) but no one stepped up. dont expect a stranger to pay for my food but have seen it happen before. at a cvs. saw a guy pay for a woman's items and left. asked her if she knew him and she said no
So, story one yeah, I had this happen once. The lady didn't even LOOK at me before telling the cashier I was going to pay for her and I immediately responded with the firmest, coldest sounding "Excuse me, no the F I'm not." At this point she actually turned around and looked at what she was dealing with. A large, fully black clad goth Native American draped in spikes and chains with skulls on his headband and a wolf tooth necklace. She seemed a bit shocked at who was behind her and I just started again "no, I am not f'ing paying for you. Pay for your own s**t and get lost" she looked incensed, but at the same time I could tell she was faced with someone she was too scared of to try and fight her case. This was proven when she scurried off right after.
Story 2. Julie doesn't have boundaries. Boundaries are about what she is and isn't willing to do or accept. Julie has rules that she expects people to obey. Not the same thing at all. She's unreasonable and needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her and if other people having babies is sooo triggering to her, she needs to do the hard work to heal by going to therapy
Story 2:
Two important words: NO CONTACT. Good luck to you and may God bless and protect you, your husband and little guy!
Ok, I have to speak up here. I wanted a baby from the time I was a toddler, i put books aside I loved so I could read them to my kids, favourite toys, all of it. But I found out I have a disease that would transfer to a child & it would cause the baby pain & physical difficulties. I cried seeing commercials, refused to watch the last season of Friends- & my long term man told me I needed to go to therapy & deal with this grief because it was out of hand. My sister got pregnant weeks later. I waited until I could be calm about it and called and congratulated her. It hurt, god it was like eating glass, but I LOVE my sister, and I love the son she had. I would NEVER take away from her joy because I am having issues.
That this poor woman’s whole family ghosted her for having a child is just… disgusting. Wow. They don’t deserve to know her baby. They don’t deserve her.
This is the perfect way to start the day! Thank you so much!!!
Op's childless sister needs to face reality and accept her nephew. She could possibly become his favorite aunt.
My two older sisters had two kids apiece and my twin adopted a boy (who is now 23). I'm close to him because I lived with them off and on. I helped raise him. So even though I never had kids of my own I was always happy to see them and be apart of their lives!
When entitled mom went "maybe ask before assuming you're in charge", that's when all semblance of courtesy would disappear for me. Maybe ask before going through people's things, and stealing their food?
I can't have kids but I love kids and enjoy my nieces and nephews. She's cold hearted.
My sister had similar issues with having children. When I was pregnant she was nothing but happy for us. She loves my daughter and wouldn’t miss a birthday for anything. She now has children of her own which was an ordeal in itself. I give my sister kudos for going through what she went to and remained strong.
Last story you bill the karen kid and mom and drop the dime to the school. Make sure karen pays the full price so she feels the burn for a while to come, if not bounce the kid out of the school back home to mom.
Granddad used to say "Give some people an inch, and they think they're a ruler."
Yeah, I'm calling it. If the sister in story 2 does decide to get pregnant again and carry to term, that baby will be treated as the golden miracle child by her and everyone else. That's really sad, but it's how it will happen, all because the parents of the sister have fed into her complex instead of helping her to grieve in a healthy way.
This kind of things never happen in my country cause if you steal someone parking spot, park in someone driveway or block someone driveway then your car is gonna suffer some sort of unfortunate and very costly accident or you can end up without a car.
The last one... the moment of using all my food then using my electronics... would have been a big issue. The staying for several days... would have been the end of the road and would have contacted the person managing it. 2 weeks would not have gone by before I did something.
That sister needs counseling, STAT! If she feels so assaulted by the mere mention or sight of a child, then she had way too many unresolved issues.’
Story 7: I would have been so angry at that mom and daughter. I would have probably gotten into a physical fight with her over touching my things, and the daughter would have been high up on my sh*t list lol
Story 7: I would have sent the EM a bill for all the food that wasn't hers to cook
I originally thought she made them all breakfast but I was wrong. I would have said something.
Julie and her dead fetus can stop being the main character in everyone else's lives. My younger sister has had 5 miscarriages. She and her husband stopped trying to get pregnant. I've had several kids. At no time did she or her husband get into a tizzy whenever I was pregnant or carrying a baby around. She went to baby showers, baptisms, birthday parties and was genuinely happy for friends and family.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have a couple friends who both had multiple miscarriages, and they would never deny someone else’s baby. I had one of my kids two weeks after one friend’s miscarriage and she was just thrilled to hold my baby. It was therapeutic to her
I would have asked them to make sure they got cameras on the outside of the bar if they did to get the footage of Karen assaulting me.
The third story--the neighbor exhibits ARGNORANCE: the perfect wedding betwixt arrogance and ignorance.
Second Story: No Baby...
Your aunt invited you to her birthday party. She also invited your husband and your baby. Frankly, I don't see a problem. Julie is being entirely too self-absorbed and is pushing the rest of the family away from her with her "sensitivity." Go to your aunt's party; take the family; enjoy yourselves.
First story: The woman who miscarried needs therapy ASAP. If she doesn't, the anger and grief will fester and possibly erupt into violence. It wasn't said whether she was entitled prior to this issue, but her behavior is telling.
How do I know? I always wanted a large family. I went through 3 miscarriages (1 second trimester) before carrying my first child to term. Then 9 years, and 2 more miscarriages before my second baby. That's a LOT of heartache. Yes, at times it was very hard to deal with, but life goes on. I had some therapy and did a lot of reading on the subject.
I hope she gets the help she needs.
I've miscaried 5 times and i would never ever asked annyone to do what this family's doing it's so intitled... i have 2 kids so it's water under the bridge.
Exactly!
The first time I get yelled at for shoveling snow is the last time I shovel snow.
Karens are literally the worst of humanity…
Terrorists? I believe those are actually the worst
Karens aren't quite human. 😡
As someone that might not be able to have kids, I would NEVER demand people not have their kids around me, in fact, I found out when I was 5 I might not be able to have kids, AND BABY SAT MY FRIEND'S CHILD when she was like a year old, while both of us were barely 18. I took that kiddo to the park (close enough to walk, and I'd carry her if she got tired) and enjoyed the time I had with her. I might not be able to have kids, but this lady who demands no one bring kids around her, needs to get into some psychiatric help to help her through her feelings, instead of stuffing them down and demanding no one have their kids around her. Other people's kids are actually much nicer to deal with than your own, cause at least they go BACK to their parents and you only have to deal with them for a short bit. I wouldn't want to know the kids she'd raise being THAT entitled.
With the first Karen I would have offered to purchase and take her items
Agreed, I bought 'em, they are MINE! 😆
@@lancerevell5979 Seems only fair. 😆
I'd have told her I would pay for her items, but she'd have to earn it first. Give her a disgusting grin. Bet that'd shut her up.
Wasting money doesn’t prove any point
@@kissit012 Not necessarily wasted. If they were decent food and/or OTC "pharmacy" items, they could have been donated to a homeless shelter, a food kitchen, a battered women & children's shelter, a church that has an outreach program, department of social services, etc. All kinds of ways hey could have been put to good use.
It is illegal for a bartender to serve someone who is already wasted.
OP & woman who wants him to pay for her stuff at the store:
There are many times that I went to the store & came up short. Never, not once, did I ask anyone to pay the difference & never, not once, did anyone offer to pay the difference.
Story 2: It's time to go NC with the fam. That's beyond ridiculous.
Why would the RA wait 2 weeks to tell freshmen students what the rules of the residence are?
Regarding Story 2: I spent 17 years unable to have children, and I NEVER behaved this way… my best friend had to have a hysterectomy super early in life due to complicated medical issues and has been devastated by the fact she won’t have kids. When I found out about my miracle baby, I told her first and gave her a chance to process and be involved in the knowledge before I announced it publicly out of an abundance of respect for her. Guess what? She was HAPPY for me and is now my sons God-Mama.
I’m sure she has had a few moments of sadness or even twinges of jealousy- hell, I had them for 10+ years of my own struggle and could hardly watch a pregnancy test ad on tv- but neither of us would EVER behave like this crazy woman. What the actual hell??
dorm story: I would have grabbed all the food and said thanks for making us breakfast, after all it's our food and invoiced them for it and told on mom first day by the authorities to get out!
The sister requesting that children not be around because she can't have children is utterly ridiculous. I myself had 10 miscarriages and never once required or requested that my family not bring their children around, I loved seeing them
Wow, like if I couldn’t have kids, I’d still love to see other peoples’ babies/kids!
The driveway story. I hope that OP has 'Private Property, No Parking' signs up.
The moment I saw MY Electronics strewn around the room, I'd have quietly left the room (so they can't hear what I'm doing) and called the Police to have Karen Arrested for Theft (of the food), Unlawful Entry and Trespass (going through MY bow of electronics) as well as what ever Crime it is to use said electronics without my permission...
Karen wouldn't be staying for 2 weeks because if she didn't IMMEDIATELY pay for the stolen food, pack her shit and leave of her own Free Will, I'd make sure she was removed Under Arrest, in Cuffs...
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Second story: It's the aunt's birthday and if SHE wants OP's son there then OP needs to bring her son. It's not Julie's place to dictate who the aunt can and cannot come to HER birthday party. It's also nobody's place to tell OP whether or not she should have a baby shower.
I want an update on story 4 when her friends visit!
Please DO NOT EVER tell a woman to "just endure it" when someone is harassing her! I don't care if he's normally a nice guy. That kind of behavior should be STOPPED immediately.
I absolutely love listening to you reading your stories. I cannot say enough positive things about it. Starting with the tone, pitch, tenor of your voice, the timing, and how clear you speak. The selection and content of your stories is a plus.
If Karen's guests knew about that letter, about using your driveway they'd be embarrassed. They wouldn't park there.
OP & SisterJulie: If this is how Julie acts while childless, can you imagine how she will act if she does have children? Maybe The Almighty is doing 'right' by not allowing Julie to have children???
My friend had a few miscarriages. And didn't think she would ever have any kids.(medical issues) she took every opertunity to babysit another friend's kids.
When our baby passed away at birth from a cord accident, we were devastated. A couple months later we went to visit a friend who had just given birth. She specifically asked me to hold her daughter. I stared into her eyes mesmerized. It was as if I could see Heaven. It felt as if the baby was promising I would have more children. Two years later, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy. When a woman loses a child, it is beneficial to hold something in your arms, another child, pet…etc
I had to have a hysterectomy after we got married so couldn't have children. Two days after the operation I had a meltdown in the ward. The senior nurse went to the obstetrics ward, borrowed a newborn baby from one of the very understanding mothers and allowed me to hold him. The comfort I got from just holding that precious baby was unbelievable! It helped me so much to accept I couldn't have my own child.
"I _need_ that parking space because my make-up will run ..."
Buy an umbrella.
Story 7: taking the food would have been the first and last straw for me. Did she think the college kids all had an unlimited food budget or did she just not care?! I’m guessing it was the latter.
Story #1 - I was thinking through the whole thing, buy it, bag it, take it all home. Thank You, come again!
12:30 Excuse Me? What, you never heard of an UMBRELLA or BUMBERSHOOT??? F OFF!
Story 1: I had an unpleasant woman try to pull that crap with me once. I asked her what was in it for me? The look on her face! Priceless
"Do I get repaid in the back seat of your car?"
Story #2: Does Julie go out in public, to go shopping or go to a restaurant? She is bound to see kids of all ages. Does she whine, cringe or yell at THEIR parents?
Time for her to 'cowgirl up' and face life as an adult.
Another day, another Karen... Time to break out the snacks.
Hot cocoa ☕️ and cookies 🍪 anyone?
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I would have reported Karen to my RA in college the morning I woke up and found she had stolen my food!!
I have terrible trouble with my weight due to medical conditions, but I don't disallow slim people from turning up to events that I'm at, just because I have difficulty losing weight. She needs to get a grip.
The sister story, if the family likes willing to not let OP's baby be around because it might upset her sister, let each of them know then they will not be allowed any contact and when that child gets older, she will make sure to let that child know that those relatives didn't want her to bring that child around them because of that sister. They don;'t need to cuddle her, they need to fix her and if they are willing to exclude other relatives because of her, then so be it.
You have to love it when people expect you to understand that everything is all about them.
Story #2: Yeah.. OP's family is insane. I know it hurts when you want kids and can't habe some but that's no excuse to say everyone else around you should not celebrate talk or bring their own kids! Wow.. Insanity at a new high!
And! No, don't block her! Just post everything you want to! And if Julie don't want to see it, SHE can block you!
I think of Julie had called me I would have said: "hu? Oh.. Yeah we have a sitter. Our son is not going to be there" and then she either has to live with the fact that the baby is there or leave.
When my daughter was born my mother in law explained she had raised her children and don't expect her to babysit ours, so we complied. After four years she asked why she only saw the granddaughter when we visited?
story 2: after my grandmother miscarried her kid she adopted my dad and his brother and babysat/raised her grandkids. sadly one, my father, lost his battle to cancer and his brother despite knowing that his mama is in remission never called to ask if she needed him to do something around the house. it's all been me that helped. she's really been worried that her cancer is going to ruin the holidays but who can really predict getting sick?
Story 2: It actually sounds like Julie hates kids. I had an aunt that was infertile, and her nieces and nephews were always welcome at her home, and she would take little ones and babies for an evening if parents needed a date night. She took us to plays, museums, and movies. And provided emotional time and support that our busy parents had in short supply. Some of my most memorable experiences were with her, and I cannot imagine how much my life would be different without her.
1. If anybody is being hurtful and selfish, it's her narcissistic sister, Julie! My daughter suffered 7 niscarriages and was always 100% on board with her pregnant friends, organizing showers at her home, etc. She got her miranle child on her 8th pregnancy!
Story 5: The Karen needs to use an umbrella or a rain hat to keep her face dry.
An umbrella is a lot cheaper than a tow!😂
In the last story, I would have quietly gone and told someone that the mother has taken over the common space and gotten her kicked out.
"Give him an inch, he'll think he's a ruler."
What's really bad about story 4 is her guests will have to pay tow bills for something they have no clue wasn't permitted to begin with. Hope they sue her.