We're So Down For Their Candid Talk About Asexuality | Tell My Story, Blind Date
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- It’s certainly easier to make assumptions about people than it is to spend time getting to know someone. We wanted to put assumptions to the test to see what we're missing out on because we're so busy assuming we already "know" a person. Join us as we discover why you should never judge a book by it’s cover in our series 'Tell My Story, Blind Date.'
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When she said “picky as in terrified” ... I felt that
They* oops
If they identify as both nb and woman, I think they would go by more than one pronoun.
I can relate,when you're terrified on something you're not really that I to trying things easily.
Yeah, I felt exposed by it
Accuracy at its finest
everyone's talking about 'ayyye' and 'cool', but we're all forgetting about 'noice'
That's a brooklyn 99 ref for sure
Yess!!
cool cool cool cool cool
NINE-NINE! ❤️❤️
Ok, but why do words match our sexualities so well? I'm Ace Aro and I use all those words all the time. Even the specific pronunciation of noice
"You wanna marry me?"
"Ayyyyye!"
"Oh, cool."
"ayyyy" is officially asexual culture
suddenly we´re not asexual, we´re ayyysexual
ayyyy
yeah its law now
Ayyyyy
No, it's officially Canadian culture
The ace representation is off the charts
-ayy
-cool
-noice
-high fives
-awkward as hell but trying to have a good time
amazing.
Five* sorry but pretty much yeah
Didn't know this was considered an ace thing, but I'm ace and...wow I say all three of those on a regular basis xD
Not everyone who is ace is like this though, that's just the stereotype I feel (I'm ace myself haha)
Ok, but so true for me....
CoolPikachu RIGHT 😂😂
official Aye count: 13
official Cool count: 50
U ju uh guy you uh uh
I didn't think I needed to know that information... grateful that I know now! ayeee
the lords work
Ayeeee!
Wow you waste your time for masterpiece.
No one:
Me:
Them: “Eyyyy”. “Oh Cool”
I hated it
Grace Trask okay
thanks, i hate it
Why do their names together sound like an expensive clothing brand in New York? Heather & Bethany Collection.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oh my god hahah :D
It doesn’t...........
Omg I thought the same 😍
😂😂 It does!
I edited this comment so you wont know why it has so many likes
😂 thank you for making my day
Ayyyye
Ayyyyyee
ayyyyyy
UGH!!! soOo clever ^ :-p luv the super clever comments the most
Both: "I would date you"
Both also: high five
I found that so cool
Ace culture
Still waiting for the day when they guess someone’s name right
R. H. If they would guess Mine I would be so creeped out
I’M the only one in the world with my name
Tivian Engel that’s cool
Tivian Engel thats not right. 7 people in the world have your name. And a company is named tivian.
Get two Tibetans there, there’s like 90% that the name is “Tenzin” or “Tsering” 😂
@@tivianengel7789 I would also be surprised to find someone with the same name as me, my name is Ivyann and if I do find one(I did, my old math teachers niece but it's was with an e and was hyphenated) I would expect it to be hyphenated, my parents litterelly just smashed two names together cus they couldn't decide
As an asexual I can confirm that I do in fact say “cool”, “noice”, and “ayy” quite regularly
Carolyn H. I guess we are all different, I stay quiet all day and I don’t say cool or noice
Carolyn H same here 😔
You must hate your life...
Yass same
I go for the classic "niiiice"
She actually does kind of look like a "Lavender."
THE GREATEST STORY EVER TOLD IS AVATAR THE LAST AIRBENDER SHE'S SO RIGHT
Heeeeellllll yeah
Crocoshark oh my god I said Yes out loud too and clapped lol
YAS
Ayyyy
FORREAL
I dont think Heather's little "ayes" would be as awkward if Bethany didnt imitate her lol
she's not imitating, she's echoing. Ayys are meant to be parroted back 😔
@@JeanPaulBeaubier oh! I guess I didn't know. And I didnt think she was doing it to be mean or anything - it just made it more awkward because it called out how many times she said it in the one interview. Either way I think they're adorable 🤷🏻♀️
No, I think it makes it soooo much less awkward. I think it was really cute that they did the same thing
that plus the death stare bethany gives when repeating it back lmao
Maybe it's an American thing bc I thought it was really awkward too?
Even if they didn't go out I think they'd be really good friends
Am I dreaming? They're representing us "asexuals" 😍.
I'm so here for it!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼♠️
Right!?!😭😭
I literally thought the same thing ❤
Me tooooo!!! Join the ace groups on fb. All exist. Amaze
Finally
Cool. Cool. Ayyyyy. Cool. Ayyyyy.
Cool.
Ayyyyy.
So cool
cool
noice
Ayyyy
ITS MEEEEE IM ASEXUAL. MY PEOPLE. MY COMMUNITY. I’m happy we are being shown. Thank you so much
IKR
Yesss much love
I love how awkward their chemistry was. Heheh. Two awkward people coming together 😂 ACE representation! Yayay! ♠🏳🌈
“Yeah I get like *feelings*”
“That’s valid”
Ok but saying that they want their cat to play them is very in character for someone who would cosplay Luna
Yessssss
Ikr
I've never felt so seen as an ace person who is romantically attracted to multiple genders *and* has a really complicated relationship with religion. I love seeing their energy together lol
same tho
this is coming from a bisexual Christian: any “Christian” who treats anybody as less than them or does horrible things to someone because of who they are or says terrible things about people for the simplest things, THEY ARE NOT PORTRAYING GOD!!! I cannot stress this enough!! God says to treat your neighbor as you would treat yourself, treat everybody with love and kindness and to never judge anybody. Just know no matter who you are, whether you’re gay, white, transgender, atheist, whatever, then there is literally nothing you can do to make God love you any more or any less. He loves everyone equally and he loves everyone as much as he can. God bless💛
Aww youre a good religious peolle we need more christians like you, but we just have a bunch of assholes who bully otherz who claim to be christians
Thank you! This means so much to so many people, keep bringing good to the world.
Lol "white" isn't looked down on by Christians
Joy Pomeroy Same that threw me off. I was like “aww... how swe- wait what?”
This was the most awkward thing I’ve ever watched but I didn’t stop watching it
aw they are both so sweeet! the way they carry themselves is cute.
I’ve never seen so many facial expressions in one video
Michelle Solano it was all over the board with them 🤓😳🙄
😂😂😂😂
They’re super cute but I cringe when they say “aye”....
I cringed so hard lol
Me too.. me too..
They our both nervous 😂 it happens lol
Yeah, I wanted them to stop that immediately. It was so awkward. 😩😂
welcome to aces
Dianne from Bojack Horseman is also a Vietnamese ghost writer
I was gonna say!!!
Thats what I was thinking!!!
Exactly what I thought!!
yes yes yes!
And BoJack Horseman also has ace representation. Im seing a pattern
Thank you so much for asexuality visibility on this channel 🖤
Their reactions to each other talking is like... idk unsettling but cute cute
Like the other will just completely shut down or have dramatic reactions
drinking game:
every time heather say “ayyeee”, “cool”, or when she clearly doesn’t know something but tries to understand and continue the conversation anyways. love them both, so sweet and awkward and geeky, but such great conversations. i think they had some of the best “tell my story” conversations.
"picky as in terrified" lol same here girl
Heather: Ayy
Bethany: Ayy
Me: Aww
Ayyy
@@shotaaizawa1320 Ayyy
Noice
"Why'd you say yes?"
"Because aaaaaye!"
I love how dorky they both are. They are like a weird accidental match made in heaven.
Good job soul pancake for putting them together
How Bethany goes from laughing to an absolutely straight face kind of scares me ngl
That can happen because of anxiety or nervousness and wanting to keep up with the conversation. It's happened to me, like I can feel it happening and know it looks weird but it can be hard to stop it.
lauren I do it constantly and it’s definitely anxiety.
When she said the greatest story ever told was avatar the last airbender I felt that 😭
It was awkward but still cute
Other than the “eyy” and “cool” every five seconds, I enjoyed the asexuality chat and felt really seen.
Heather is insanely beautiful and seems so sweet and cool!
Oh cool!!
cool.
Eyyyy
Noice
Heheheh
They seem so geeky I want to hang with them 😍😍😍
SAME
Bethany is my best friend from college and I can confirm that she’s the best. Most supportive friend.
Take a shot every AYE
I’m down I’ll tell you how it goes
Liver failure.
I was down until about 15:05. Don’t wanna die cus I have to feed my cat
I aint tryna get alcohol poisoning
No because I value my life
I absolutely adored this. It was so lovely to see ace representation, and both two such beautiful human beings. This was the best one yet, desperate for an update!
No hate genuine question- how can somebody be a non binary woman? I thought the whole point of being NB was that you don’t identify with either gender.. feel free to explain tho I’d love to understand!
i guess she is maybe connected to her physical body that is (genetically) female, so non-binary (gender) woman (sex) is something that she connects with too? i'm agender (falls under non-binary), so it's just my take on it.
Nejem ahh interesting perspective
I think she’s just confused 🤷🏻♀️ we can safely say she’s biologically a woman.
It's in the realm of "demigirl" if you're familiar with that term. I know people who identify as nonbinary women and to them it's either that they partially identify as a girl and partially not, or that they identify as agender but align themselves with womanhood. It depends on the person, but I know a lot of people who identify this way would technically describe themselves as "woman-aligned" but saying "i'm a woman-aligned nonbinary person" is quite the mouthful so people often default to "nonbinary woman." I know a lot of lesbians who consider themselves nonbinary women or "woman-aligned" because the complexities of being a lesbian in a society with a very rigid view of what a woman is creates this strong sense of alienation, and saying you're a "nonbinary woman" is a simpler way to make sense of that for yourself and also for others.
Nonbinary is an umbrella term, and while some people do identify as nonbinary, plain and simple, it's still an umbrella term in that a lot of different identities and experiences fall under it. It's not just a third gender, it's a term to encompass the large amount of complexities that exist. "Agender" (on its own) is a common term used when you don't identify with men or women.
Hope this helped! If you have more questions lmk :)
I'm a trans man but a lot of my world view was shaped by my social experiences as a woman. I think a lot of non binary men and women like to hold on to that part of the identity that has shaped them even though they don't feel particularly that specific gender
It's nice to see two aces working in the entertainment industry. It's such a sexualised industry and as an actor myself it's nice to see.
“I’m from San Jose”
Rest of the video- “Ayyyy cool”. Yup, definitely from the Bay lol.
LMAO! i was scrolling trying to figure out if anyone else was gonna realize the “ayyyye” thing is cause Bay Area [most likely]. hahaha love it. i felt seen.
Fosho!
I'm asexual and my favorite movie is also "Howl's Moving Castle"!
Doctor Who? 👀
They are awkwardly cute ☺️❤️
Their chemistry!! This was one of the most wholesome videos I've ever seen; I hope this plays out well for the two of them.
i’m 5 minutes in and i already want them married
This was so wholesome such lovely ace representation.
Hahah i loved all the moments when the right woman said „ayyy“ and then the other person responded „ayyy“
I'm confused about how the "does size matter" question is relevant in this scenario.
Dildos?
Saff Ashworth theyre asexual tho
@@abirdbrain9109 ... good point
One said they do enjoy sex though?
Saff Ashworth You can have, and enjoy, sex without having sexual attraction. Asexuality is defined as not having sexual attraction. An ace may look at someone and find them aestheticlly attractive and be appreciative of their looks, but the thought of having sex with them doesn't enter they're mind. What asexuality is not defined as abstaining from sex, that's just abstainence. Some asexual people are sex-positive (it's not necessarily that they like sex, but may enjoy making their partner feel good) some sex-nuetral (they may not really have an opinion or it may vary) some sex-repulsed (wouldn't consider ever having sex, or it grosses them out). The point though, is that sex doesn't always have to do with sexuality. An example is the scenario where a gay man marries a staight woman, they raise a family together and years later he comes out as gay, he was still a gay man their entire marriage, even when conceiving their children through heterosexual acts. So he may not have found her sexual attractive, but he was still able to have sex with her, asexuality is like that, but with no sexual attraction to any sex or gender. I hope this may have cleared up some things, but if you have any questions, you can ask.
I made a comment replying to someone in this thread, and I think it might answer your confusion.
no one:
me:SHE SAID THE LAST AIRBENDER OML YASSSS IM IN LOVE OKAY HELP ME AHHHH
Khushi Dodhia ME TOO
Same
When she talked about avatar I’m like “hi I’ve been summoned.”
Yes that was the best answer 😃
I was more excited when heather replied with howl's moving castle.
im scrolling through the comments and waiting for people to realize the “ayyyee”s aren’t an asexual thing, they’re a bay area thing-
The gay energy they create together is so much, love it! this is exactly how awkward i am when i first talk to a girl I'd possibly go on a date with, so I just feel it all
This is cute, i always get anxious when i watch these though because im kinda socially awkward and i get worried that they will be awkward too. It is a little awkward cause its a unique situation but they handled it really well
Gracie same😂 i feel so awkward now that I watch the video
The blond one looks like that woman from parent trap
Meredith Blake?😂
It's the teeth
My thought exactly!!
hell in That is the woman from “Parent Trap.” 😒😒
Rachel Edinger Was joking !
I was like "oh, asexual representation, cool, let's watch". Then "aaaa nonbinary ❤️" and then "aaaaaa grey-ace ❤️❤️❤️".
And then even more, they have such a nice conversation and watching them connect and share their experiencies was so cool.
Lovely.
They both have such a good sense of aesetics and style, they seem so fun and interesting! I would love to be friends with these two.
They are so adorably awkward, love it
These two are the cutest yet.
they sound so fake to be honest.
THEYRE ACE WRITERS IM AN ACE WRITER AAYY
[REDACTED] Sameeee!
I’m so glad they’re actually even discussing us on a platform like this. Kudos SP
heather is like valentine’s day personified
Can we please get an update video on their relationship? Too sweet!
Thanks for the ace representation and Vietnamese girl (forget her name) is cute!
I am officially so old that these kids don’t even associate the “ghostwriter” reference with the PBS show...
What's pbs
I know, right??
I loved that show
That purple slime guy!
Let's go, Viewers Like You
wow i talk almost exactly like Heather... i need to stop saying "ayy" if these comments are anything to judge by.
I love how Heather kept saying "ayyy" omg I thought I was the only one who does that
I feel like I'm watching me trying date myself
StatisticallyUnnatural bro- i love the roman pfp
@@maybe_sansperry OMG :DDDDDD
StatisticallyUnnatural :D !!!
I feel like they both were such good active listeners! They both look at one another with full engagement!
They're so cute. Also as a Grey-Ace I love that Asexual Persons are being represented more in media. These two seem to vibe, please tell me they're either dating or best friends.
I know this was 2 years ago, but I could totally see them in an open QPR. They were adorable together and really seemed to vibe.
I do not understand any of these pop culture references.
😂
avatar: the last airbender is the best story ever told
I love it.. And I watched it for the first time as an adult... I kept telling my nephew to shut up cause I was watching!
"eyyyy cool"
Bethany's obsession with Avatar resonates with me on a spiritual level!
I really loved this!
Scrolling through comments and watching the video made feel valid as an asexual which I have longed for quite some time.
It's funny to see how people view their talking session as awkward because the ayyys and cools but I personally think it's their way of adapting to each others ways of talking and by doing so having a good time.
All in all I hope people watched more closely on the people's body talk and actions in general. This conversation gave me the feeling of understanding mutual respect and not being feared to tell more about the wounds they have had or are having.
Maybe I'm way too in tune with their talking because they act so much like I do and I don't have these kind of vibes with other videos with the similar idea but not having aces as the blind daters.
New game: drink everytime one of them says "Aye" or "cool" 😂
Tbh I would date both of them. Or just be friends with them and name the group chat "ayyy cool"...
Them: Ayyyyeeeee!
Me a Canadian: Ayyyyeeee indeed!
feels great having ace representation from two beautiful people ♥️
“I’m a lesbian”
“I date girls and guys”
That’s not what being a lesbian is lmao
Also,,, non-binary woman..?
@@peachplease3221 Nonbinary is literally everything in between and outside of man and woman when it comes to identity. Its incredibly diverse. Some people identify as partially male, or partially female, hence terms like Demiboy/Demigirl, and Nonbinary-woman and Nonbinary-man.
@@johnnybestjojo7789 so how can one be inside the binary and also non-binary at the same time? Im just trying to understand. If youre between being male/female or something entirely different, how do you simultaneously identify with being a woman?
Peach Please well it’s sorta like a sliding scale in between male and females in this case. Most nonbinary people skew to one side a little more, like I skew feminine more than I skew masculine, but not the point where I identify as partially a woman. Some people might be a lot closer to one side or the other, and as such might choose to label themselves as partially male or female. It’s a little more complex than that, but that’s the more simple version.
@@johnnybestjojo7789 thanks! Its easier to understand it when you put it that way, gender is still something Ive yet to wrap my head around. But when it comes to the original comment im still confused
They were so nervous and the ayyyye and cools were so annoying but so cute. Their vibe is so sweet.
They give off such a positive vibe! I would love to be friends with both of them :)
first off I'm loving the ace representation here but also THEY'RE BOTH SO CUTE OH MY GOD I CAN'T
I seriously blushed watching this
omg they're so cute
They're cute, they're gorgeous, they're intelligent and they're adorable! Hoping something sparks! Keep us updated xxx
This was so painfully awkward that I could not stop watching
These two are just the cutest ever. Hope they end up in a relationship together :)
“Cool”, “Okay cool”
Omg when they opened their eyes you could tell they would like each other.
I don't want to hear "Aye" and "Cool" again now.
This is exactly how women talk to each other this is soooo sweet and real thank you so much for posting this !
Fellow Supercorp fan!
@@anumitachakrabarty1 YAsssss!!
@@girlproject5536 Slay Queen!!
@@girlproject5536 on a side note, CW can go eff itself with all the William and Kara romance😫
@@anumitachakrabarty1 its unfortunate that they think drama and abuse is "love" it is NOT. Love and compassion is and it is fun to watch when there is chemistry! If supercorp ever happens i hope they make them kind and work together well like in the previous seasons.
I love how the thumbnail is mega accurate. AYYYYYE
as an asexual person this was so nice to watch, also they're both beautiful
They are both so cute and awkward in the most endearing way
Where are all my awesome aces? 🖤
Here!!!
EYYYYYYYYYYY
AYYYYce
🙋
Here!
Dude they're literally both me I'm even half Asian and European😂😂🌈