In life, I've realised there are people who don't want peace and thrive in chaos. You cannot intentionally hurt someone for the sake of spicing things up. that is mental torture and no matter how one can justify it, it ain't normal. The breakdown of this was spot on.
Very true. For some people they have never experienced peace in their life and lead theur lives as such. If the partner is cool and calm they feel odd in the relationships like why is it so nice here 😂😂
Love never hurts. There is something wrong when you feel that you need to have your partner walk on eggshells around you. They can never feel secure with you.
@@deotio2768 lol.. You wish she is, but she is very much happy. You allowed this cheap vlogging but this boomboclat vlogger to clout ur judgement. Trudy and Maya are both happy. Stop vibrating on negative energy. I blame this fool of a vlogger for this nonsense. Doesn't he have issues in his relationship? Is it because he speak good English so we should accept any analytical nonsense hook, line and sinker. Evil souls
I love the way you broke all of this down! ❤ My heart broke for her, I can see the hurt all of his nonsensical rejection is causing her, it's all in her eyes, and I have been there...of course she should have never made it known publicly that he was not her type, most men would be ego hurt by that, but he needs to see that now she clearly loves him and recognize the damage that is happening 💔
I never imagined that Wode Maya was this immature. "lean in & out just to test me ? Sheer nonsense 😮. Trudy I pray for you, my heart can't take in all these.
Stop testing people. It gets messy. You can be happy all the time. What is spicy about fighting and draining another person emotionally? I have dealt with a person like this. It's emotionally exhausting.
I’m sorry but this is horrible the mind games are manipulative and toxic. He’s probably the type that won’t give her a compliment after she has had her hair done just to humble her
Let me guess …Probably doesn’t even pay for her hair!…Can’t even look after his woman !!Y’all were warned about these West African men !!(Particularly Ghana 🇬🇭)coz Nigerian 🇳🇬 men take care of their women despite being womanizers .
Great assessment of both characters. Trudy is matured and well balanced emotionally whereas maya needs to work on himself. Hes not confident, not sure of his self worth. Some of his behaviours are not healthy for a man whose supposed to lead the family. So the question is how long will trudy endure these behaviours?
Stop referring to men as the lead. To be a leader comes with responsibilities.every man isn't created to be a leader or a husband. Society has program us wrongly.leadership doesn't have a gender. Stop putting pressure on men who ain't created to be leaders.
@sharonanthonique1255 Husbands are suppose to lead not men. We are our individual strength. That's why the Word said Women, submit unto your husband as you will unto God. Why that statement? Cos that curse of women being under men is broken by the finished work of Jesus Christ. To bring santity to the family, hence that statement.
I noticed this in their relationship. He's a classic low self esteem man. People miss the serious toxicity going here because of his jovial demeanor. She looks so uncomfortable and diminshed. Prayers for Trudy!
I find that a lot of men are great professionals, successful at what they do but lack emotional security and have failed relationships. I don’t understand this. This is in my experience though
Because we were programmed to provide and from teenage we realized the same women judging us for not having emotional security will First judge us based on Financial security. So we had to focus on that first.
@@brianndege5331 Trudy also makes her money via SM and travels but she’s not as emotionally immature. They’re probably on the same level financially more or less. As an adult you have to work on your spiritual/ emotional development too
@@thinkforyourself1116shame on you. No empathy, just blabbering. You're no better than that wode Maya. Infact you're worse. You think coz you know some psychology jargon and can put letters together, that you've actually said something. Meanwhile you're just spewing word vomit. Definition of an educated idiot
You asked her to meet you in Singapore and let her pay the ticket to Singapore. 😅😅😅😅😅😅I wouldn't leave my house to Singapore if you didn't send a ticket with the invitation. I will consider you unserious. Veeeery unserious.
Just meet me in Singapore tomorrow and whether you can afford it or not I don't care. And again they didn't realize they are for each other but casually said we made it official
@@TORIMONGER he said very clearly that he doesn't believe in spending money on women like that, and weirdly enough she agreed with him. 🤦🏾♀️ He's only generous to strangers, total red flag 🤷🏾♀️
@kandisphere8828 Then this is not marriage. God created men to lead, provide and protect their families. How can a man do these things if he doesn't have a family that depends on him.
EVERY WOMAN NO MATTER HOW WEALTHY THEY ARE THEY WANT TO CHOP THEIR HUSBANDS, MONEY, TRUDY IS MARRIED BUT SHE IS STILL TAKING CARE OF HER OWN BILLS. TRUDY NEEDS SOMEONE WHO CAN LOVE HER FOR WHO SHE IS, SOMEONE WHO VALUES HERS AND NOT SOMEONE WHO ITS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF HER NAIVITY AND HER LOW SELF-ESTEEM
@@johnkalulukalulu9521it’s never 50/50. That means the woman is helping the man fulfill his ONLY role. Is the man doing 50/50 with chores? Will the man do 50/50 with pregnancy and child rearing? If a woman does 50/50 with finances, than when everything else is calculated, the relationship will end up 80/20 with her being a caretaker, nurturer AND provider. Men who think this way are vampires.
This one of the most stupid response I have ever read. Miss knew who Maya was before she accepted to marry him and she is who she is greatly by Maya’s help. Do you want him to stop doing what he does because he got married? And will you him ? Some Ghanaians and stupidity. Build your own relationship and stop this nonsense
I have been noticing this behavior. Wo de maya normally ignores his wife. The girl tries to show him love, even while shooting videos, but the guy sometimes ignores, and this always got me wonder why this guy does this to his wife!! I just didn't want to comment negatively. I think Miss Trudy is emotionally abused, and that's very dangerous. Sorry if we see things the opposite way!
I’ve noticed in many videos when Trudy tries to get close to him he sort of ignores or steps away. My conclusion is that these two are RUclips colleagues and not inlove they were just supposed to leave it at that! Work!
The interview was so disgusting, and to know that Trudy family was in Ghana at the time. Wodemaya behaves like a man-child. I was surprised when they were returning to Africa from the Caribbean and he left her alone in miami. What kind of husband leaves his wife thousands of miles away all by herself. He is just into himself and only cares about his family. He is not kind to her either.
THE MOST WICKED PERSON IS THAT PERSON WHO WILL LURE YOU INTO LOVING THEM AND WHEN YOU DO, THE PERSON DECIDES TO WITHDRAW... THOSE ARE EVIL TOXIC PEOPLE PLAYING GAMES WITH OTHER PEOPLE IMOTIONS... TRUDY HAS SUFFERED IN HIS HANDS, AND WODE IS PROUD OF SAYING THIS WHAT A SHAME
If Miss Trudy watches this... it may open her eyes. She is beautiful, young and have her life in front of her, she should not waste her precious time.😊
Have experienced this growing up from a parent. Like when you are at peace, they find something to say that changes the atmosphere for worst. Say you are watching TV and they come and talk about how lazy you are, go clean up the kitchen. Like classic negativity
What kind of normal human doesn't love perfection yet we work towards perfection.he doesn't care about her feelings,he looks for trouble coz he doesn't appreciate her,he also thinks he knows it all.trudy is going thru a lot.but silent.
I support both of them but I am surprised of this myself. I think a divorce now is best rather than dealing with this for a few more months/years to be divorced later on. She will always remember these games of wanting to upset her and to put it on social media. Let him get another wife and see how that other woman deal with it. May God change things around for then quick and fast. They both need individual therapy to heal the early hurt they clearly sustained as a child. Wow! If I didn't see this interview, I would not believe it.
Now I see why she starting to suffer in marriage he was not healthy or healed while dating. He play games and she seem to be healthy and happy and his toxicity draining her. Her marriage is not what she thought it will be definitely disappointed. Hope they work it out
Wode isnt attractive and that is his core insecurity. This is what drove his content of 'we are all African and Africa is great' He doesnt realise that women with maturity know that character and behaviour are what make a man.
@@paulinakonadu2274 Common Paulina! Wode is lucky to have a woman like Trudy, she is definitely attractive. Wode is not exactly handsome and that is my humble opinion.
HATERS HATERS HATERS... LOSERS WITH GULLIBLE BRAINS... SHUN THE HATE AND GET LIFE... HUMAN BEINGS WOULD FIND A WAY TO HATE YOU FOR REAL WITHOUT ANY TANGIBLE REASON... ALL THE COMMENTS I SEE HERE GETS ME LAUGHING OUT LOUD AND THEY REALLY SPEAK VOLUME HOW HUMANS CAN BE YOUR ENEMY ALL BECAUSE YOU'RE BEYOND A STAR, A GEM, AN ICON... YOU HATE HIM BECAUSE: 1. HE AIN'T FROM YOUR COUNTRY 2. HE AIN'T FROM YOUR TRIBE OR 3. HE AIN'T FROM YOUR RACE WODEMAYA IS WODEMAYA.. YOU CAN HATE HIM FOR ALL YOUR USELESS SELVES CAN CARE, HE'S FAR GONE GET LIFE AND STOP FOOLING, TYPICAL AFRICANS, TYPICAL BLACK BLACK PEOPLE I'M SURE YOU JONS ARE KENYANS... STOP DISGRACING YOURSELVES AND GET LIFE
As a Kenyan woman! I will tell WM, that Kenyan women are a head of time, our cultural foundations are based on independent women who aren’t defined by men to be strong and lead their own destiny! Many wars in Kenya have refined us on how we operate generally! So playing micky mouse with immaturity will not fly! in any relationship! If WM was not ready for marriage! He should say so! So that they both can be free! Life is not limited!
Your spot on i realized there is a big problem between them psychologically speaking and i can tell Trudy is not happy in that marriage and she isn't vibrant like she was before
The game playing by him is showing on her, it is wearing her down. I pray someone gives this man some wise counsel, because this is not a healthy marriage. He is not mature or care about well being. He is not a safe place unfortunately
I remember when youtuber was saying the family didn't love Trudy that she can't cook Ghanaian food and she doesn't how to cook they want maya to marry rheir own tribe.
I feel so sorry for her, it's so difficult and emotionally draining to put up with someone like wode maya. I pray they work it out. I can't forget her father's tears on her wedding day
Attachment styles aside, Trudy is a city girl (those from Nairobi will understand better) while Maya is a typical village boy. These factors must be navigated carefully if the union is to survive. I watched the interview with the older Ghanaian media personality and I was left feeling so uncomfortable. Without compromise, this will sadly be short-lived. I pray for you!
Because he doesn't like her and she's not his dream girl. He is trying to tell her that with his actions but it's only making her more desperate to be with him
HATER HATER HATER... HOW MUCH DO YOU KNOW HIM THAT HE'S TOXIC... STOP FOOLING AND GET LIFE... THIS IS 2024 YOU HATE HIM FOR NO REASON... OFUI... GET LIFE
Ms Trudy seems unhappy and tired. Wode Maya needs to prioritise his relationship with his wife, not everything is RUclips content. Maybe has a good heart & helps a lot of people BUT at detrimental cost to his wife. Testing her for what exactly? She’s loyal and you’re MARRIED sir.
The fact that she’s not talking much verbally but you can see it in her nonverbal body language 😬! Go heal my brother. Peaceful, loving and happy relationships exist and you’re deserving of that.
Not that deep, the marriage was doomed from the start because he saw it as a business partnership, while she was in love with him. He's hinted several times that he thought it a good idea because she was a content creator, hard working etc. And he's pretty stingy.
My mouth fell open waaaaaaaay too many times during this video. And maybe it's because I'm an "over all that nonsense" 41yr old, who's seen enough to feel really sorry for this young woman. It feels like he's revelling in the coddling & enabling behaviour - precisely because he's famous. He seems to get multiple "get out of jail free" cards & I'm left wondering about all the things that we *don't* know about what happens in their marriage, because their relationship is essentially a "brand" that brings in money. Ayi...I'm exhausted for her. Hopefully they come right 😔
They could have been better as friends and support one another growth without romantically involved. Anyway they can still make it work better, if they can make one or two adjustments. May God help and preserve them
I'm surprised that he is this immature. I thought that he was a bit better than this but I shouldn't be surprised he had a very nice sweet Chinese girlfriend before Mrs. Trudy and he didn't seem to treat her very well either. When people kept asking what ever happened to her back in the day he either wouldn't respond or he would make jokes.
I am not surprised.I have always known that about him and that’s the reason why I haven’t watched any of his videos in a very very long time.He has always been CHILDISH and UNCOUTH!
I felt it for her !!…Did not even pay proper bride price for his wife and the African wedding ceremony was so bland …He wanted to give her a ring that someone else had bought PLUS when he sat her down to tell her that he wants to travel without her 🚩🚩🚩. Did y’all see the way he was behaving towards her in their video while traveling from Jamaica 🇯🇲???..🚩🚩🚩🚩. A lonely married woman is a recipe for future disaster!!Plus she can’t really say anything..She’s basically trapped !!
Nah, waste of time and degrading of you as a person to let someone to drag you to their level. It's like cheating back when someone cheats on you. Only degrading your own body, soul and spirit and abandoning your morals. Eventually, you will still have to do the hardwork you should have done in the first place: actually sitting down and asking yourself who this other person thinks they are to make you feel this way Abt yourself, to actually steal your joy and why you are sitting there tolerating it then you'll have to bite the bullet and leave as you should've done and go to therapy and pray and heal and love yourself back to being you.
What I love about their relationship is how he helped her grow her RUclips channel. When I watch her videos there are so many guys who seem attracted to her so if he doesn’t want to treat her right, she won’t have a problem finding another guy. It’s going to be Wode Maya’s loss. Marriage is very difficult but they will find their way.
in swahili we say kiburi, pride is the right word for the behaviour of this guy. He sees himself as a trophy and only the strong and brave will win "HIM". Man's got to act as an ALPHA MALE and not an immature boy
Trudy needs lots of confidence in herself to stand up to this nonsense. I am a Ghanaian and his behaviour is not "Ghanaian" as he Maya put it.. @misstrudy run as far as your little legs can carry you before its too late. All the best.
he ask her to meet him in Singapore,that means he supposed to pay for her ticket .if she was the one deciding to go meet him okay then he can pay half of the ticket price.for her smiling to much doesn’t mean she is okay .hummm listening to Wode he believes he know a lot about relationship but trust me you have a lot to learn
Exactly my thoughts, he was supposed to be a gentleman and pay that ticket and as for Trudy she shown signs of being desperate by paying her own ticket and that’s how he never valued her from there
WM enjoys rocking the boat in calm waters,. It sounds like he prefers turbulence to peace in a relationship & that will definitely come with a price . Trudy’s body language says it all she isn’t happy .
This is not a nice thing to do to someone. How can you say you think someone is smiling too much and what are they happy about so you do something to try to make them angry? How is the person going to be themselves around you? I always thought people breaking down their relationship was BS, but now, I see some of these things happen to me in my current relationship as a woman. It's the worse to be with someone who tries to manipulate you. It's controlling, it's uncomfortable, and you end up losing yourself by not being yourself anymore.
Classic example of coercive control - DV without visible signs of violence. Always sensed this whenever I see them together. You can see it in her eyes. She deserves better.
I’m from Ghana where he comes from, watched one or twoof their videos together and always said in my mind that there isn’t any compatibility noooo, this guy is a child, he’s very immature, so I don’t watch his videos because I get so embarrassed when he’s interviewing people, but I’m happy he’s prospering.
As a woman it’s a shame they are married, if I were Trudy I would have left because it’s abusive. Testing your partner is a form of abusive. I wouldn’t be surprised if his behavior changed dramatically after they married hence trapping her. Trudy looks sad.
The "you can't travel with me anymore" is a clear sign that he changed (she spoke Abt it in an interview). He basically wants a trad wife who is barefoot and preggoz while he goes galavanting round the planet. Mind you, he's stingy as hell and has her stranded in Ghana with no friends and family and then no income, yikes. That's the future if Trudy doesn't leave. Meanwhile, he will use this moment to manipulate her into pregnancy as a way to console him and ensure he's trapped her completely. It's actually scary but the signs are there
@@rwm1885 she gets some income from her Airbnb in Nairobi. Plus I hope the few videos she uploads brings in something. Anyway yesterday she recorded a video defending their marriage and him. you should check it out.
This interview gives us an insight into who Wode Maya is that we didn't pay attention to. Imagine if he became the head of a State with lots of power and money 💵. How different would he be from the usual African dictators he criticises??😮😢😢
so he makes her apologize for what he did so they can have sex? How long can he sustain this without her leaving him? Not only is he avoidant but also a narcissists. Poor gal. I doubted this relationship from the beginning.
How does he even let the drama go to an extent of her apologising whilst he knows he is playing her mind games, play do whatever stupid things to poke me but throwing washed clothes that are nicely packed down I wont allow that. I have been in this kind of a manipulative relationship and i loved the guy but im grateful we broke up
Am I missing something? The way he was laughing and carrying on its almost performative. 1. He was lucky he was playing those games with a lady who is nice......other women would have shown him flames, hellfire and brimstone 🤭 2. He's insecure to pick fights thinking its going to cause a good makeup, that will get old. He's so insecure by her ability to be content and happy. 3. I feel for this lady, she's looking utterly uncomfortable. I'm glad they are waiting before they start having children. 4. He's a man who's only kind to strangers that's a red flag. 5. She's got male influence in her life through her dad and brothers she needs to lean on them for their opinion.
They know their victims. They like the "doormat" type of ladies. Someone they can step on and kick around. They like the quiet, ambitious, beautiful, and respectful ladies. Trust me, they do. You ain't gonna know his true colours cos he'll hide it from you. He's gonna pressure you into a relationship and / or marriage.
Never seen any chemistry between them. I thought it's been all transactional. Wodemaya doesn't look like he is ready to settle down yet. Trudy seems hungry for wealth and fame. She seems to have themm now, and is looking for a deeper connection with Wodemaya. Unfortunately, Wodemaya is still on a flighty mode😢
What makes me happy is that Trudy is a very wise woman....she didn't rush getting pregnant for him....thank you Lord for protecting our gal from the jaws of this Hyena
Your assessment of those interviews is 💯. If you looked closely in their interactions, you could see from a mile away that the young man is nowhere near ready for marriage. He said so many concerning things on camera and if only she had had the courage to leave while she could because marriage is a different ball game. You can only tolerate some things for so long unless you are truly willing to die in silence like most wives do. Otherwise something has to give. Trudy does look defeated already.
If you are in a relationship with someone like that, run, run, run.
In life, I've realised there are people who don't want peace and thrive in chaos. You cannot intentionally hurt someone for the sake of spicing things up. that is mental torture and no matter how one can justify it, it ain't normal.
The breakdown of this was spot on.
Right 😢 his the problem.
Very true. For some people they have never experienced peace in their life and lead theur lives as such. If the partner is cool and calm they feel odd in the relationships like why is it so nice here 😂😂
It's very cruel and cold. It's making me look at Wode maya in a certain way.
Love never hurts. There is something wrong when you feel that you need to have your partner walk on eggshells around you. They can never feel secure with you.
So disappointed in him, can’t believe he is saying this and he appears to be enjoying what he is saying.
She's dying of emotional abuse
I noticed that. She needs to think of herself
I was so disgusted watching this
He is emotionally abusing her
She was never his type. Now that he has become successful he's like what marriage?
She is sad, hurt, depressed and deeply disappointed in her relationship 😢This is not what she expected
She's real hurting but she can't see her life without Maya.
Marriage is for strong people stay strong baby girl 😊 ❣️❣️❣️😊
@@deotio2768 lol.. You wish she is, but she is very much happy. You allowed this cheap vlogging but this boomboclat vlogger to clout ur judgement. Trudy and Maya are both happy. Stop vibrating on negative energy. I blame this fool of a vlogger for this nonsense. Doesn't he have issues in his relationship? Is it because he speak good English so we should accept any analytical nonsense hook, line and sinker.
Evil souls
How can she know if she never saw any relationship from her parents
Trudy looks sooooo fed up and edgy.
You are very good with your analysis and I have seen some similarities with myself and Wode Maya - I need to evaluate and course correct.
They've gone through alot
Awesome insight. Congrats!!!
That’s amazing that you can look in the mirror and make positive changes.
Best comment. Hope you work on yourself.
That's really great that you are self aware
I cant even lie at first i was skeptical about this video but you're on point with the analysis. She deserves better.
Same. I thought it was just click bait. But he’s spot on.
So basically this guy is actually admitting to abusing this woman emotionally and they are just laughing
I love the way you broke all of this down! ❤ My heart broke for her, I can see the hurt all of his nonsensical rejection is causing her, it's all in her eyes, and I have been there...of course she should have never made it known publicly that he was not her type, most men would be ego hurt by that, but he needs to see that now she clearly loves him and recognize the damage that is happening 💔
I never imagined that Wode Maya was this immature. "lean in & out just to test me ? Sheer nonsense 😮. Trudy I pray for you, my heart can't take in all these.
Prayers to Miss Trudy. She made a poor choice and deserves better.
He’s insecure. He knows she is too fine for him. Not at all funny.
He is a child he married too early
He is also very manipulative and arrogant in a passive way.
Stop testing people. It gets messy. You can be happy all the time. What is spicy about fighting and draining another person emotionally? I have dealt with a person like this. It's emotionally exhausting.
I’m sorry but this is horrible the mind games are manipulative and toxic. He’s probably the type that won’t give her a compliment after she has had her hair done just to humble her
He normally compliment her say something else
@@Oliviabuonji😂😂😂 or say nothing.
But will give his mother..... the problem with mama boys
Let me guess …Probably doesn’t even pay for her hair!…Can’t even look after his woman !!Y’all were warned about these West African men !!(Particularly Ghana 🇬🇭)coz Nigerian 🇳🇬 men take care of their women despite being womanizers .
Really really horrible
Great assessment of both characters. Trudy is matured and well balanced emotionally whereas maya needs to work on himself. Hes not confident, not sure of his self worth. Some of his behaviours are not healthy for a man whose supposed to lead the family. So the question is how long will trudy endure these behaviours?
Stop referring to men as the lead. To be a leader comes with responsibilities.every man isn't created to be a leader or a husband. Society has program us wrongly.leadership doesn't have a gender. Stop putting pressure on men who ain't created to be leaders.
Men are supposed to lead even God said so
@sharonanthonique1255 Husbands are suppose to lead not men. We are our individual strength. That's why the Word said Women, submit unto your husband as you will unto God. Why that statement? Cos that curse of women being under men is broken by the finished work of Jesus Christ. To bring santity to the family, hence that statement.
The Hamashiach did not come to brake any of His father law but to fulfill them.
@@hebreux8629 curse is not law.
That deliberate messing up of her clothes is crazy. This marriage will trigger mental health problems for this young lady.
She already had mental health issues, was depressed before meeting Wode and success of her RUclips . Which is why Wodes treatment of her is so cruel.
@@Bibirallieso sorry she went through this
I believe she has lost herself since being married to mama.
Maya
Truddy you've tried don't cry anymore....trust in God....
Its tough 😪 you are a great analyst ❤ i can't believe 😢 Wade. They were laughing, its NOT funny. Trudy is being emotionally destroyed and abused.
I noticed this in their relationship. He's a classic low self esteem man. People miss the serious toxicity going here because of his jovial demeanor. She looks so uncomfortable and diminshed. Prayers for Trudy!
You ladies are full of it.😂😂😂
She is not even his type
@@NileGoddess How do you know?
It was obvious she went in for his wealth and ytube class status.
@FreeTraderFREEMAN It was obvious from the beginning of the relationship. I never saw love in them. He's immature, and she's the serious type.
I find that a lot of men are great professionals, successful at what they do but lack emotional security and have failed relationships. I don’t understand this. This is in my experience though
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So true,the regular men are the same too
I agree
Because we were programmed to provide and from teenage we realized the same women judging us for not having emotional security will First judge us based on Financial security.
So we had to focus on that first.
@@brianndege5331 Trudy also makes her money via SM and travels but she’s not as emotionally immature. They’re probably on the same level financially more or less. As an adult you have to work on your spiritual/ emotional development too
He is giving narc vibes and is straight up gaslighting her at times
I think he is just insecure
@@thinkforyourself1116 Her mom passed away
@@thinkforyourself1116YOU'RE MEAN
My exact thoughts. Def displays some narcissistic traits.
@@thinkforyourself1116shame on you. No empathy, just blabbering. You're no better than that wode Maya. Infact you're worse. You think coz you know some psychology jargon and can put letters together, that you've actually said something. Meanwhile you're just spewing word vomit. Definition of an educated idiot
You asked her to meet you in Singapore and let her pay the ticket to Singapore. 😅😅😅😅😅😅I wouldn't leave my house to Singapore if you didn't send a ticket with the invitation. I will consider you unserious. Veeeery unserious.
😂😂😂
EXACTLY...DOING THAT HE SHOWED HER HE WAS NOT INVESTED IN HER
WODE FOR GOD'S SAKE YOU DON'T CAUSE TROUBLE TO SPICE UP SOMETHING PLEEEAAAASSSEEE!!!!
Just meet me in Singapore tomorrow and whether you can afford it or not I don't care. And again they didn't realize they are for each other but casually said we made it official
@@TORIMONGER he said very clearly that he doesn't believe in spending money on women like that, and weirdly enough she agreed with him. 🤦🏾♀️ He's only generous to strangers, total red flag 🤷🏾♀️
This channel has taught me how self awareness is truly a valuable asset.
The first blunder Trudy made was paying for that flight to Singapore, that was the first test, I agree Wode Maya is a fearful avoidant
The second one playing miss independent in marriage.
@@paulysutsiey649 100%
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏100%
@kandisphere8828 Then this is not marriage. God created men to lead, provide and protect their families. How can a man do these things if he doesn't have a family that depends on him.
Stop putting makeup on his bad behavior with fancy names. He is manipulative asshole.
Pride goes before a fall ,there are massive cracks in this relationship.
EVERY WOMAN NO MATTER HOW WEALTHY THEY ARE THEY WANT TO CHOP THEIR HUSBANDS, MONEY, TRUDY IS MARRIED BUT SHE IS STILL TAKING CARE OF HER OWN BILLS. TRUDY NEEDS SOMEONE WHO CAN LOVE HER FOR WHO SHE IS, SOMEONE WHO VALUES HERS AND NOT SOMEONE WHO ITS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF HER NAIVITY AND HER LOW SELF-ESTEEM
It’s 50 % 50 % with bills . It’s age of equality not 70’s . Both parties contribute money for necessities. 😊
@@johnkalulukalulu9521it’s never 50/50. That means the woman is helping the man fulfill his ONLY role. Is the man doing 50/50 with chores? Will the man do 50/50 with pregnancy and child rearing? If a woman does 50/50 with finances, than when everything else is calculated, the relationship will end up 80/20 with her being a caretaker, nurturer AND provider. Men who think this way are vampires.
I'd tell Trudy to leave while she still has time and not tied down by a baby. Her mental health is not worth an immature narssisistic husband.
She deserves better. He will only get worse.
@@Bibirallie She should this immature, egostic, stingy, arrogant,narcissitic,and abusive immature little ghanan boy.
This one of the most stupid response I have ever read. Miss knew who Maya was before she accepted to marry him and she is who she is greatly by Maya’s help. Do you want him to stop doing what he does because he got married? And will you him ? Some Ghanaians and stupidity. Build your own relationship and stop this nonsense
Miss Trudy, hold on and try to sort out things❤
@@Chesto42 Funny enough, the same people(ladies) pushing Trudy to file for divorce really wish they were married to Maya.
93% of communication is nonverbal. Body language speaks volumes and shows the reality of the situation.
I have been noticing this behavior. Wo de maya normally ignores his wife. The girl tries to show him love, even while shooting videos, but the guy sometimes ignores, and this always got me wonder why this guy does this to his wife!! I just didn't want to comment negatively. I think Miss Trudy is emotionally abused, and that's very dangerous. Sorry if we see things the opposite way!
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I’ve noticed in many videos when Trudy tries to get close to him he sort of ignores or steps away. My conclusion is that these two are RUclips colleagues and not inlove they were just supposed to leave it at that! Work!
You are not wrong.
The interview was so disgusting, and to know that Trudy family was in Ghana at the time. Wodemaya behaves like a man-child. I was surprised when they were returning to Africa from the Caribbean and he left her alone in miami. What kind of husband leaves his wife thousands of miles away all by herself. He is just into himself and only cares about his family. He is not kind to her either.
Oh no. This poor girl.
No that’s not true.
Maybe he’s working as they both do the same job.
@shoshannanina5359 WOW🤨
@shoshannanina5359 You talk too much. Go focus on your life and stop projecting your failed relationships on others. Some of you need to heal.
This is sad
THE MOST WICKED PERSON IS THAT PERSON WHO WILL LURE YOU INTO LOVING THEM AND WHEN YOU DO, THE PERSON DECIDES TO WITHDRAW... THOSE ARE EVIL TOXIC PEOPLE PLAYING GAMES WITH OTHER PEOPLE IMOTIONS... TRUDY HAS SUFFERED IN HIS HANDS, AND WODE IS PROUD OF SAYING THIS WHAT A SHAME
THIS IS SO SAD, I CAN'T BELIEVE HE WOULD DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT.
Majority of Men.
Manipulation
If Miss Trudy watches this... it may open her eyes.
She is beautiful, young and have her life in front of her, she should not waste her precious time.😊
It's people like you who destroy other peoples marriages... and after the women leave they realise that they've made a mistake listening to you.
Have experienced this growing up from a parent. Like when you are at peace, they find something to say that changes the atmosphere for worst. Say you are watching TV and they come and talk about how lazy you are, go clean up the kitchen. Like classic negativity
PART 2 WE GONE discuss this
Note how Trudy and her MIL struggled to bond. He's a momas boy with Narc tendencies.
From when he said “I hate to see everything perfect” I knew he hates her and himself!
😂😂😂
What kind of normal human doesn't love perfection yet we work towards perfection.he doesn't care about her feelings,he looks for trouble coz he doesn't appreciate her,he also thinks he knows it all.trudy is going thru a lot.but silent.
lol y’all taking this serious 🤣🤣🤣 I don’t know about the hate but hey who knows
HE DELIBERATELY SCATTERED THINGS ON THE FLOOR AND EXPECTS HER TO TIDY IT UP?!! WOW!! MAYA, YOU HAVE SURPRISED SOME OF US.
I support both of them but I am surprised of this myself. I think a divorce now is best rather than dealing with this for a few more months/years to be divorced later on. She will always remember these games of wanting to upset her and to put it on social media. Let him get another wife and see how that other woman deal with it. May God change things around for then quick and fast. They both need individual therapy to heal the early hurt they clearly sustained as a child. Wow! If I didn't see this interview, I would not believe it.
Maya needs therapy for what?@@princessalexander1669
He is such a bush man
Abuse at its besy😢
So disappointed in him, can’t believe he is saying this and he appears to be enjoying what he is saying. I can’t believe what I am hearing from him.
That is the most disturbing part. He will continue testing her because he thinks it is normal.
It is very sad indeed.
He’s very childish
Now I see why she starting to suffer in marriage he was not healthy or healed while dating. He play games and she seem to be healthy and happy and his toxicity draining her. Her marriage is not what she thought it will be definitely disappointed. Hope they work it out
There’s nothing to work out with an abusive person
Wode isnt attractive and that is his core insecurity. This is what drove his content of 'we are all African and Africa is great' He doesnt realise that women with maturity know that character and behaviour are what make a man.
Is Miss Trudy attractive....😂😂😂😂😂...my dear stop it there ...she is not miss Kenyan or miss world...
🙄🙄🙄🙄
@@paulinakonadu2274she's very attractive
@paulinakonadu2274 she is better than him by a mile in looks. Nothing wrong with that, it happens all the time. Women don't always prioritise looks.
@@paulinakonadu2274 Common Paulina! Wode is lucky to have a woman like Trudy, she is definitely attractive.
Wode is not exactly handsome and that is my humble opinion.
I have never like wode maya despite being soo good in business.The man is full of pride.
Not even handsome.
@@bettyauma349 Haha get your own handsome
Exactly
HATERS HATERS HATERS... LOSERS WITH GULLIBLE BRAINS... SHUN THE HATE AND GET LIFE... HUMAN BEINGS WOULD FIND A WAY TO HATE YOU FOR REAL WITHOUT ANY TANGIBLE REASON... ALL THE COMMENTS I SEE HERE GETS ME LAUGHING OUT LOUD AND THEY REALLY SPEAK VOLUME HOW HUMANS CAN BE YOUR ENEMY ALL BECAUSE YOU'RE BEYOND A STAR, A GEM, AN ICON... YOU HATE HIM BECAUSE:
1. HE AIN'T FROM YOUR COUNTRY
2. HE AIN'T FROM YOUR TRIBE OR
3. HE AIN'T FROM YOUR RACE
WODEMAYA IS WODEMAYA.. YOU CAN HATE HIM FOR ALL YOUR USELESS SELVES CAN CARE, HE'S FAR GONE
GET LIFE AND STOP FOOLING, TYPICAL AFRICANS, TYPICAL BLACK BLACK PEOPLE
I'M SURE YOU JONS ARE KENYANS... STOP DISGRACING YOURSELVES AND GET LIFE
His not proud. He is insecure. Thus his behavior. All that comes from childhood trauma.
As a Kenyan woman! I will tell WM, that Kenyan women are a head of time, our cultural foundations are based on independent women who aren’t defined by men to be strong and lead their own destiny! Many wars in Kenya have refined us on how we operate generally! So playing micky mouse with immaturity will not fly! in any relationship!
If WM was not ready for marriage! He should say so! So that they both can be free! Life is not limited!
Which wars please! God forbid! A war is destructive and shouldn't be used carelessly. I am a Kenyan
@@liliannjau5585 go learn your history!
The word "war" is figuratively used in this context and not literal @@liliannjau5585
@1729 Kenya tibim !!!
@@liliannjau5585 read ur history una kaa mjinga kama hujui vita vya kitambo na kura times vita ama wewe ulizaliwa 2019😂
He certainly has his Ghanian wife. This Kenyan classic queen will leave that villager soon
😂😂😂Ghanaians😢😢😢😢
No he doesn't have another Ghanaian 😂😂....some of u and gossip...she is his only wife..sighh!!
Mercy!
No he doesn't, Wode is just immature
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you are so funny
She is clearly not happy in the marriage, sharing her marital issue indicates lack of communication between them
Put more pressure on her????? A married man????? Nooooooo it doesn't work like that!!!!
Trudy we love you kenya loves you!we can see you are not happy come home if you feel alone and lonely.its okay to come home.
Your spot on i realized there is a big problem between them psychologically speaking and i can tell Trudy is not happy in that marriage and she isn't vibrant like she was before
The game playing by him is showing on her, it is wearing her down. I pray someone gives this man some wise counsel, because this is not a healthy marriage. He is not mature or care about well being. He is not a safe place unfortunately
I think it should be the other way arround. Someone should talk some sense into her smh
@@lf3554if that's the brain you use to cross the road, your days are numbered...
His looks tells it all.This girl deserves better
Trudy needs a real man and not a man-child. Trudy is more mature and Wode is just childish, he is still a mama's boy as well
I remember when youtuber was saying the family didn't love Trudy that she can't cook
Ghanaian food and she doesn't how to cook they want maya to marry rheir own tribe.
It seems his mother is not in support of the marriage.
Marry someone from own tribe?@@bettyauma349
I feel so sorry for her, it's so difficult and emotionally draining to put up with someone like wode maya. I pray they work it out. I can't forget her father's tears on her wedding day
He said he was going stop traveling. Now he is here in Canada.
Yup!😮
Attachment styles aside, Trudy is a city girl (those from Nairobi will understand better) while Maya is a typical village boy. These factors must be navigated carefully if the union is to survive. I watched the interview with the older Ghanaian media personality and I was left feeling so uncomfortable. Without compromise, this will sadly be short-lived. I pray for you!
very true,there is a big problem there
He comes across as a stingy man towards her but generous to everyone else.
Narsist traits.
He loves his mother more than her
Because he doesn't like her and she's not his dream girl. He is trying to tell her that with his actions but it's only making her more desperate to be with him
@fisf.2148, but why do men do this? Why even marry her like it's weird
That's how man from Ghana are like they will please everyone and give money to everyone while their own children don't even have shoes to wear.
Well said... You just earned a subscriber... Bless your heart 🙏💯
He is Toxic!!!!!
....and he doesn't know it. He thinks it's cute.
Very
I fear for Trudy
How
HATER HATER HATER... HOW MUCH DO YOU KNOW HIM THAT HE'S TOXIC... STOP FOOLING AND GET LIFE... THIS IS 2024
YOU HATE HIM FOR NO REASON... OFUI... GET LIFE
Ms Trudy seems unhappy and tired. Wode Maya needs to prioritise his relationship with his wife, not everything is RUclips content. Maybe has a good heart & helps a lot of people BUT at detrimental cost to his wife. Testing her for what exactly? She’s loyal and you’re MARRIED sir.
What!!! I'd be gone since. I don't like the tests
The fact that she’s not talking much verbally but you can see it in her nonverbal body language 😬! Go heal my brother. Peaceful, loving and happy relationships exist and you’re deserving of that.
The comment about smiling to much is so deep…deep trauma
Deep deep!!
Trudy you can get a good husband who treats you with respect,run run
You think she live in the West ?
@@FarmMakeAfricaGreatdoes it matter?
I hope Trudy see this video, cause she does not look happy in this marriage.
Not that deep, the marriage was doomed from the start because he saw it as a business partnership, while she was in love with him. He's hinted several times that he thought it a good idea because she was a content creator, hard working etc. And he's pretty stingy.
FACTS 100% 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
This guy is not good at all for her
Go and take her fool.
My goodness I’ve dealt with such a character, I lost it😢
He is very toxic. I have experienced the exhaustion of this first hand. Yes, it does not end well.
That guy is childish! and you can even tell Trudy is stressed by him.
My mouth fell open waaaaaaaay too many times during this video. And maybe it's because I'm an "over all that nonsense" 41yr old, who's seen enough to feel really sorry for this young woman. It feels like he's revelling in the coddling & enabling behaviour - precisely because he's famous. He seems to get multiple "get out of jail free" cards & I'm left wondering about all the things that we *don't* know about what happens in their marriage, because their relationship is essentially a "brand" that brings in money.
Ayi...I'm exhausted for her. Hopefully they come right 😔
Red flags 🚩 everywhere
They could have been better as friends and support one another growth without romantically involved. Anyway they can still make it work better, if they can make one or two adjustments. May God help and preserve them
I'm surprised that he is this immature. I thought that he was a bit better than this but I shouldn't be surprised he had a very nice sweet Chinese girlfriend before Mrs. Trudy and he didn't seem to treat her very well either. When people kept asking what ever happened to her back in the day he either wouldn't respond or he would make jokes.
I am not surprised.I have always known that about him and that’s the reason why I haven’t watched any of his videos in a very very long time.He has always been CHILDISH and UNCOUTH!
He hates seeing her happy? Yhoo!!!
You don't go about provoking your partner. I agree, it is not cute.
I felt it for her !!…Did not even pay proper bride price for his wife and the African wedding ceremony was so bland …He wanted to give her a ring that someone else had bought PLUS when he sat her down to tell her that he wants to travel without her 🚩🚩🚩.
Did y’all see the way he was behaving towards her in their video while traveling from Jamaica 🇯🇲???..🚩🚩🚩🚩.
A lonely married woman is a recipe for future disaster!!Plus she can’t really say anything..She’s basically trapped !!
The red flags were there before the wedding
Where’s that video on which channel please I want to watch
This is actually not funny, I’m quite disappointed in Wode Maya with his commentary. If he doesn’t take care she will leave
Men with $ don't care. If she leaves.he will get another girl lol $$$$$ talks
@@africaafrican8931Trudy too has money 😂
She SHOULD leave!!!!
@@jdoe9987 Yes but is not the same for a men with $.
He's actually sounding childish on this matter.
It's like playing hide and seek.
Well maybe she need to flip the script and test him.
Exactly and he won't be able to take it
Yep! She should stop eing so needy & do her own thing. She's beautiful, there's no shortage of men who would want to give her some attention.
Nah, waste of time and degrading of you as a person to let someone to drag you to their level. It's like cheating back when someone cheats on you. Only degrading your own body, soul and spirit and abandoning your morals. Eventually, you will still have to do the hardwork you should have done in the first place: actually sitting down and asking yourself who this other person thinks they are to make you feel this way Abt yourself, to actually steal your joy and why you are sitting there tolerating it then you'll have to bite the bullet and leave as you should've done and go to therapy and pray and heal and love yourself back to being you.
@@rwm1885 test him by leaving.
I think it’s too late to test him. It seems as if he has already failed by even administering these childish tests.
What I love about their relationship is how he helped her grow her RUclips channel. When I watch her videos there are so many guys who seem attracted to her so if he doesn’t want to treat her right, she won’t have a problem finding another guy. It’s going to be Wode Maya’s loss. Marriage is very difficult but they will find their way.
in swahili we say kiburi, pride is the right word for the behaviour of this guy. He sees himself as a trophy and only the strong and brave will win "HIM". Man's got to act as an ALPHA MALE and not an immature boy
Atakoma kacha wakenya kamfwata mtu mfupi kama kimba la asubuhi 😂😂😂
@@Mina.15 Is Trudy herself tall?I guess Wode can easily pull way better than her.
@@Mina.15🤣
@@alan.imangue I don’t think he can pull better than Trudy to be honest. He can get a girl that’ll use him but not someone as genuine as Miss Trudy
I just typed exact words, that I sense pride in his voice too pride and that’s a big red flag 🚩 ,
This was a fantastic breakdown!
Trudy needs lots of confidence in herself to stand up to this nonsense. I am a Ghanaian and his behaviour is not "Ghanaian" as he Maya put it.. @misstrudy run as far as your little legs can carry you before its too late. All the best.
It is very common in 🇬🇭
@@Sandra-cz2lhthe comment I was looking for..have an ex from ghana and this is what I experienced on top of lies.
@@Sandra-cz2lhsaid it!
Unfortunately, many African men do this... which is called the Playa Game
Some men are immature. They want their spouses to pick up from what their mothers let it.
he ask her to meet him in Singapore,that means he supposed to pay for her ticket .if she was the one deciding to go meet him okay then he can pay half of the ticket price.for her smiling to much doesn’t mean she is okay .hummm listening to Wode he believes he know a lot about relationship but trust me you have a lot to learn
Exactly my thoughts, he was supposed to be a gentleman and pay that ticket and as for Trudy she shown signs of being desperate by paying her own ticket and that’s how he never valued her from there
TRUDY, you are still young and strong. PLEASE LEAVE NOW🙏🏾
WM enjoys rocking the boat in calm waters,. It sounds like he prefers turbulence to peace in a relationship & that will definitely come with a price . Trudy’s body language says it all she isn’t happy .
You're correct brother seen all this before and it didn't end well
This is not a nice thing to do to someone. How can you say you think someone is smiling too much and what are they happy about so you do something to try to make them angry? How is the person going to be themselves around you? I always thought people breaking down their relationship was BS, but now, I see some of these things happen to me in my current relationship as a woman. It's the worse to be with someone who tries to manipulate you. It's controlling, it's uncomfortable, and you end up losing yourself by not being yourself anymore.
Make notes and if this current behaviour keeps happening and seem to enjoy making you feel unhappy & they are picking on you, please leave.
He sounds just like my x
Classic example of coercive control - DV without visible signs of violence. Always sensed this whenever I see them together. You can see it in her eyes. She deserves better.
I noticed something was off, now I know my thoughts were valid. 💔
I’m from Ghana where he comes from, watched one or twoof their videos together and always said in my mind that there isn’t any compatibility noooo, this guy is a child, he’s very immature, so I don’t watch his videos because I get so embarrassed when he’s interviewing people, but I’m happy he’s prospering.
Pure hate
@@benardnkansah4751 I swear. Some women. Hm!
You are a hater and sound jealous
As a woman it’s a shame they are married, if I were Trudy I would have left because it’s abusive. Testing your partner is a form of abusive. I wouldn’t be surprised if his behavior changed dramatically after they married hence trapping her. Trudy looks sad.
I wish she were more assertive, it might help
People like this don't change. He is abusive because of issues from his childhood. She better leave him before they have a child together.
The "you can't travel with me anymore" is a clear sign that he changed (she spoke Abt it in an interview). He basically wants a trad wife who is barefoot and preggoz while he goes galavanting round the planet. Mind you, he's stingy as hell and has her stranded in Ghana with no friends and family and then no income, yikes. That's the future if Trudy doesn't leave. Meanwhile, he will use this moment to manipulate her into pregnancy as a way to console him and ensure he's trapped her completely. It's actually scary but the signs are there
@@rwm1885 she gets some income from her Airbnb in Nairobi. Plus I hope the few videos she uploads brings in something. Anyway yesterday she recorded a video defending their marriage and him. you should check it out.
@@rwm1885why did he suddenly stop traveling with her? She didn’t say why. I’d love to know what his excuse was.
Oh you are good LBB 🙌🏾 Excellent analysis
I am in my 50s and I just learned so much about myself from this video. Fearful Avoidant 😬
This interview gives us an insight into who Wode Maya is that we didn't pay attention to. Imagine if he became the head of a State with lots of power and money 💵. How different would he be from the usual African dictators he criticises??😮😢😢
He would be no different, unfortunately
Hmmm… good point. It reminds me of the back and forth he had with African Tigress. I was so puzzled at why he was in that drama.
so he makes her apologize for what he did so they can have sex? How long can he sustain this without her leaving him? Not only is he avoidant but also a narcissists. Poor gal. I doubted this relationship from the beginning.
They were NEVER a good match. She's not happy...
Thank you for breaking down this - You were so spot on .
I really hope Trudy sees this... She needs to wake up faster...
How does he even let the drama go to an extent of her apologising whilst he knows he is playing her mind games, play do whatever stupid things to poke me but throwing washed clothes that are nicely packed down I wont allow that. I have been in this kind of a manipulative relationship and i loved the guy but im grateful we broke up
A narcissist. He traumabonded and gaslight her. Now his true self is showing.
Don't test anyone with evil. Is develish.
His laughter caused me a lot of pain when he described how he deliberately messes up the well organized Towels.
Really strange behavior
@@bellaolum9768 something is definitely wrong there. He actually needs help except that he might not be aware. Sad my dear.
Am I missing something? The way he was laughing and carrying on its almost performative.
1. He was lucky he was playing those games with a lady who is nice......other women would have shown him flames, hellfire and brimstone 🤭
2. He's insecure to pick fights thinking its going to cause a good makeup, that will get old. He's so insecure by her ability to be content and happy.
3. I feel for this lady, she's looking utterly uncomfortable. I'm glad they are waiting before they start having children.
4. He's a man who's only kind to strangers that's a red flag.
5. She's got male influence in her life through her dad and brothers she needs to lean on them for their opinion.
They know their victims. They like the "doormat" type of ladies. Someone they can step on and kick around. They like the quiet, ambitious, beautiful, and respectful ladies. Trust me, they do.
You ain't gonna know his true colours cos he'll hide it from you. He's gonna pressure you into a relationship and / or marriage.
After reading these comments he may try to hurry and get her pregnant. 😢
Never seen any chemistry between them. I thought it's been all transactional.
Wodemaya doesn't look like he is ready to settle down yet.
Trudy seems hungry for wealth and fame. She seems to have themm now, and is looking for a deeper connection with Wodemaya.
Unfortunately, Wodemaya is still on a flighty mode😢
What makes me happy is that Trudy is a very wise woman....she didn't rush getting pregnant for him....thank you Lord for protecting our gal from the jaws of this Hyena
They're not divorced yet
I’m sure she wants to. But How will she get pregnant when the guy is always traveling .
Let's pray for Miss Trudy everyone she needs our prayers 🙏🏿
Your assessment of those interviews is 💯.
If you looked closely in their interactions, you could see from a mile away that the young man is nowhere near ready for marriage. He said so many concerning things on camera and if only she had had the courage to leave while she could because marriage is a different ball game. You can only tolerate some things for so long unless you are truly willing to die in silence like most wives do. Otherwise something has to give.
Trudy does look defeated already.
Omg he really played with her heart ♥ and emotions. Wode Maya fix up. Possibly therapy. Maybe Trudy doesn't even know that she's being abused.
This woman clearly tolerated it because she love him. The audacity and pride though of Wode though. 😒🙄. The guy needs relationship counselling