Is New York Too Romanticized? Our Setbacks & Successes in NYC | AsianBossGirl Ep 271
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2024
- Mel’s settling into New York now, but before that, she sat down with Janet to talk about her expectations for the big move. Frequent listeners will know that Janet’s bounced around a lot, and at one point, NYC was a place she really hoped to live. Unfortunately, though the city is easy to romanticize, setting down roots there has its own unique set of challenges. Mel talks about how she prepared for the move, from creating Excel spreadsheets to researching all the different boroughs. Janet shares several attempts to try and make things work in New York, including a time where she booked a place to stay on Craigslist… but it turned out to be a brick wall! New York is the city of opportunity and inspiration, but what happens if your dreams don’t work out the way you expect?
00:00 Intro
00:59 Dreams of Living in NY
10:36 Mel’s Preparations for the Move
16:41 Janet’s NYC Experience
31:38 New York Boroughs
34:31 Building Community
38:25 How did Janet leave NY?
45:54 Changing Dreams
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As an East Coaster, I romanticize moving to sunny California, haha. It would be interesting to see a discussion between Asian Americans who grew up on the East Coast vs. West Coast!
having moved in LA without knowing anyone and then again 5 years later to portland not knowing anyone.. ive learned to live by this question: "what scares you more: the idea of failing or the idea of knowing that you never tried?" my curiosity for chasing a dream overstepped my fear of experiencing immense loneliness, depression, and isolation (which i did feel), but i have never ever regretted the experience. wherever you go, there you are.
While I did have a romanticized version of NYC before I moved here, I don't think that affected my experience one bit. I came here because I knew the job opportunities were better and I knew I needed to get out of my comfort zone, my bubble. I was getting too complacent with my life in SF. I felt like I wasn't growing as a person. Even after 7 years of both loving and hating this city concurrently (what NYer isn't?), I still feel like it was the right decision for me. I grew tremendously as a person. Took more risks. Met more (interesting) people. Expanded my horizons and am even more open-minded. I suppose you have to move to a new city for the right reasons or else it'll never work out
2 years ago, I moved from CA to NYC for my dream job-and still went through all the phases you’ve both described. I recently just moved back to CA and it’s definitely been a transition; I miss NY dearly but not the rent! 😂
Looking forward to seeing what unfolds in this next chapter!
Thank you for creating this channel! A lot of Asian American female channels have fallen off the map like lack of new ideas or modern things to say and are basically daily vlogs/family vlogs, and some of the newer Asian women channels are purely for the younger gen z and young entertainment. It's so nice to see a channel like this, like for the grown women topics. ☺️
Shout out Brooklyn! Loved my time in Williamsburg. Hope you have the best of times in nyc, it’s gonna be life changing!
I want to move back but Im scared watching the news makes NYC look so dangerous
In my opinion, NYC is in major decline right now. It is starting to revert back to the scary days of NYC of the late 80's. It is very sad and painful to see and experience.
I agree 100% I wouldn't even go or live in Manhattan, and the subway is just awful now. Very scary and I grew up and went to school here so I would take it daily. Although I do have my share of bad experiences, it was never as bad as it is now.
@@samia6888 Yes, the subways are getting increasingly dangerous (again, it is starting to remind me of the late 80's). I fear that NYC is in a death-spiral--the situation is driving away those with the financial means to live elsewhere which will lead to a decreasing tax base, which will lead to even less public services, less funding for schools, policing, etc. I hope that the situation can be saved, but it is getting late in the game, and I don't see any hope on the horizon.
in 2018, I moved from Canada to Hong Kong for a job, and I had one of the best years of my life there! in 2023, I moved again from Canada to Singapore, and although I haven't met as many people as I did from my time in HK, I'm still really enjoying my time here! be open and step out of your comfort zone, because it will bring new perspectives to your life (:
would also love to hear an ep where you ladies touch on how moving away from home affects your relationship with your family and friends, like the filial piety aspect!
As a native New Yorker, I still romanticize it. 😍 The city and your experience is really what you make of it. One doesn’t need to live in the city to live like the movies. That’s what the subway is for! So you can still have brunch at that cute cafe in West Village, and you can still take a stroll and go on dates in Central Park. Just hop on a train!
My New York tip though, never fully expect the subway to be running its regular route, especially on weekends. Always be ready to hop on a different train. 😉
As for general moving tip: Nothing can’t be undone. If an opportunity presents itself to live in a new city you’re interested in, do it. And if it doesn’t work out, you can always move back. Nothing is permanent.
So Mel, I just love your whole attitude about your move and I wish you all the best. 🙂
And Janet, you give off such New York vibes, hearing that you once pursued a career in NY made so much sense. I can totally see it and see you thriving here. I’m sorry it didn’t work out at the time. I’d be curious to know 1) what area of media and advertising were you pursuing at the time? And 2) would you ever want to give New York another try?
It’s like the Paris syndrome. It’s romanticized because of the media and everyone says it’s so great but once you go there, it’s dirty stinky with tons of rats and the people are rude. At least nyc has good food. Paris was eh lol
I've never lived in Paris so I can't speak on it as a resident but as a visitor I haven't yet encountered anything too terrible. Then again, I have spent the past 7 years living in NYC so as long as Paris isn't worse than NYC, there's really nothing to compare. Actually, I found Paris much cleaner than NYC. It felt dirtier once you got closer to the periphery. Which is funny because I feel like US cities are cleaner the further away you are from the city center...
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is it just me? or as someone whose first language is not English, Mel's English is sometimes really hard to understand.. :(
Hi it's Mel! It's not just you~ My natural habit is to talk really fast and I've been like this since I was really young. I'm told my mom and I are the same. I can try to slow down, but if you're trying to improve your English, I may not be the choice to listen to haha.
I think Melody might be Taiwanese. Taiwanese people tend to speak more softly, not enunciating the beginning/ end of words as much.
Love you girls but I’m so bored of hearing about Mel’s move… like we get it! It’s an exciting new chapter but let’s move on 🙃🙃 are we running out of topicss??
I agree. It's like what does she expect when moving to NYC? It's another metropolitan city...
lol I don’t disagree with this comment. I will say, at the time of this recording, I was getting more messages on the topic of the move, so we expanded on it to share Janet’s story. But new topics are coming!
burning the guy who got you the gig in nyc is such a selfish and weak thing to do lol