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- Опубликовано: 7 окт 2022
- Channel 9′s Scott Wickersham spoke to a family who lost their 19-year-old son to suicide in 2021. They are now sharing a message with other parents and children about their son’s struggle. READ MORE: bit.ly/3ehWDEU
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"People don't fake depression, they fake being okay. Remember that. Be kind" - Robin Williams
I agree
except if you’re one of those pathetic tiktokers 💀
So very true.
Robin Williams --- what. ?
@@Fat12219it was his quote dummy
Not all people who commit suicide are mentally ill. Some realize they’re in a situation that can’t be corrected, or have a terminal painful illness.
Thank you for saying that. Because it's 100% true. So many people automatically assume that all others have friends, family, some kind of support system and IF they have poor health, have others to rely on to help them manage it. That is NOT the case for many.
I agree with this
But this is not the case
100% Fact I am proof.
@@kurtdowney1489 You're proof that not all people who commit suicide are mentally ill?
So, like, did Jesus bring you back from the dead like Lazarus? Or because it's the 'day of the dead' today are you speaking to us from beyond the grave? 🤔😂
My 16 year old tried to commit suicide and he was diagnosed with a severe mood disorder.. He has always been a happy kid and this attempt came out of nowhere!! Lord knows we are trying everything we can to keep him alive ❤
Hopefully you succeed. Someone will need to say this to you, but the fact that your child is even considering such a thing in the first place means that people in their immediate interaction are dropping the ball somewhere. Your priority is to find the root of the cause and resolve it ASAP
@@yamchayaku thank you ❤️
I hope he can get through his struggles ❤️
@@mnspnklb9889 ❤️
As a person who suffers from depression I want to say that my thoughts are with you for the best positive outcome for your son. I will pray for all of you.
I feel for this family!!! I lost my sister to suicide in December 2021. It hurts like hell!!!!
I’m so sorry.
We lost our son in 2019.
@@adrip1315 Thank you!! ❤️
@@deekang6244 I'm sorry to hear this 😔 Praying 🙏 for you and your loved ones!!
I'm happy for your sister. She's at eternal peace. Good for her. Yeah I know it really sucks for those left behind. But you can't expect someone to endure daily mental anguish.
Tim your sister is now in peace. I am sorry for your pain 😢
April 26 marks 4 years since our son committed suicide. Ryan was 39. I’m so sorry to hear about this young man too…
I am sorry for the loss of your son. 😔 Bless you for even being able to share that sensitive information with RUclips. ❤
As someone who failed in a recent attempt (then stuck in the ward for many days) I feel like I'm the walking dead right now. Just biding my time. Your son was probably VERY smart and/or aware and knew the futility of it all. A person like that can't live in this world. It sucks that those left behind have to be hurt by it. For that we are very sorry it has to be that way (but you have to understand the mental anguish endured every day).
Few will tell you this, but many envy your son. He's at eternal peace. Very much looking forward to that myself. You guys have fun being old. I have no interest in it. Most of my days in this world have been not wanting to be in it. Sorry, that's just how some people are. Maybe if people and society were different/better we'd feel differently, but it isn't.
@@EmeraldView Father, I ask that you protect this person. With the blood of Jesus, I ask u to rebuke this anguish this person is feeling. You are Almighty, the Beginning and the End, the Alpha and the Omega, and nothing is impossible for you. Father God, please protect this young man/woman. In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, Amen
Rip Ryan 🙏❤🌹❤Sincere condoglianze
@@chrisc1896 Amen. We rebuke the deceptive spirits of suicide, anguish, depression, helplessness in Jesus name! Draw them from the pit by your power, Holy Spirit. Let your impenetrable peace that transcends understanding envelope him/her in Jesus' name.
Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my 19 yo son, Jon on Oct. 11, 2018. He told us that he was suicidal and he fought it. We were rescheduled with 2 psychiatrists after waiting 3 months for an apt. The ER couldn't help us and I know that he felt helpless.
Hearing your story helps me know that I am not alone. You have a beautiful family. My heart goes out to you. Our hearts will be broken for the rest of our lives.
So sorry for your loss. 💔
I’m so sorry for your loss.
We also lost our son, 2019.
The father is right ...pills dont help ..I have lost a brother nephews never easy....
Im so sorry for your loss.😔
😔🙏🏽✝️🛐
I lost my fifteen year old brother to suicide in November of 2018. This story really hit home. I don’t think I will fully heal from it, it is truly one of the most traumatic things that can happen to someone. I hope this family is able to continue to find some kind of peace. They deserve it and I wish I could 💚
Praying you do.🤍
Brigid, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear Brother. I can't imagine how you must feel. Can you tell me what do you feel might have helped him.
@@sylviacarlson3561 honestly it’s hard to say. I think his environment was the biggest problem living with my mom was toxic for him. He was in therapy and had been in inpatient care a month before then. I ran through all the what ifs of what I could have done differently. I made it clear he could always come to my apartment when he needed to but I was also only 18 so there was only so much I could do. I wish I would have advocated for him to my mom better.
You need the Lord Jesus Christ. He is the only healer.
@@samniumspyder
🙄
He was so beautiful…💔💔
It's so hard as a parent when we know our children are in pain. We just want to make it all ok for them like when they were little. I weep for these losses.
I have a family friend only 10 years old going through it and the mother isn't taking it seriously. She does NOT want a counselor involved. There's only so much I can do and I feel helpless.
@@ChildrensRightsFirst947 contact CPS stat.
@@ChildrensRightsFirst947 Same here, this dad overheard his son saying he wanted to kill himself. The dad keeps calling his son names and favours his other son because the son that he is abusing has a disability(Asperger) The father ran down the stairs and yelled as loudly as he could "GO KILL YO(URSELF" That son has a social worker and he lied to the social worker saying that his son threatened to kill himself over not getting to watch a the movie he wanted when it was really due to name-calling and favourtism of the other son. He also "forgot" to mention that he yelled "GO KILL YOURSELF loudly as he came down the stairs. The son was afraid to tell the real reason that he wanted to kill himself. Then he took a whole bottle of painkillers. and he died. The father thought that this was the funniest thing in the world that his son killed himself. Until I told the real reason that my friend wanted to kill himself, It was because the father was always calling him names, the mum was no better. The whole family ganged up on him because of his disability. The father gave me dirty looks because I told them the truth in front of everyone. The father was crying in court. I forget what charge he was facing, but the judge yelled at him and said that he was crying not for his son but for himself, because he is facing charges. That if he really cared about his son he would not have encouraged him to kill himself, or hidden the note explaining why he did it. He also hid the note and they said that mean that the father knew exactly what he was doing, that and the fact that he did not tell the worker that he screamed go kill yourself at the top of his lungs.. He claimed he did not know this was verbal abuse and could cause this, but him hiding evidence and lying proves this.
Comes to destroy , steal , killed 😮
My grandfather committed suicide in 1977 and my mum still hasn’t healed from it. It changed all of our lives forever. My whole family suffers from depression. Thank god these days people are understanding that depression is real. I use to be ashamed to say I have depression but these days I try to use it as a learning tool to educate people who don’t understand it. What a beautiful family and I am so sorry for your loss.🙏🏻🙏🏻
There is absolutely NO shame in having a medical condition. NONE!
I have physical health issues. Severe ones. Sometimes, it makes me late for appointments, even medical ones. When I get chastised by the low level staff for my tardiness (which might be only 5 or 10 minutes), I actually LOVE to tell them why I was late and what I go though daily. Their usual response to my graphicness is 'I really didn't need to hear that!' I DELIGHT in replying 'oh YES you DID! Because you were accusatory and under the impression it was a deliberate fault of mine. Now that you know the actual reason, you can thank God in your prayers that YOU are healthy and perhaps next time you'll be a little more empathetic towards others who aren't.'
My daughter has Graves Disease she was diagnosed at the age of 14, she has suffered so much in the past 16 years. A receptionist said to her “I wish I had it at least I wouldn’t feel cold anymore” I hit the roof when I heard this, so my daughter said “you can have it with the other 30 symptoms that I have to deal with on a daily basis!” I just don’t understand what goes on in people’s minds. No common sense@@retroguy9494
Condolences to you. I learned in therapy that depression comes from prior frustration. Due to stroke/brain damage, I've coped with that shit for 30 years and it's never easy. Courage and God bless.
The EXACT same thing happened to my 17 year old Daughter after our 4 months hard lockdown in South Africa, with no friends, no school, isolation, loneliness. Her self-harm was worse than ever. She had 3 mental breakdowns, relapsed with anorexia & the 3rd time we got her into a Psychiatric Clinic for help. Her last year of school in 2021 was most stressful. I was on edge all year that she would Break. Fortunately, she didn't. She has now been out of school for 15 months & studying to be a Clinical Psychologist, as she has her own experiences to draw from.
BULLSH1T!! ALL her friends were 100% AVAILABLE online, EVERY DAY. 24x7!!!!!!!
I lost one of my best friends in high school in 1997. He and his g/f committed suicide together so it was a double loss. 😭 it was the first funeral I ever attended. Since then, I’ve had two clients from the same small town commit suicide as well. It’s such a profound loss 😥
The question is why do people do it in certain countries and in other countries they have zero suicides
I fear that my generation is doomed...it causes terrible anxiety...do you think it will get better for them?
my friend commited suicide after two years of graduation.
There was a made for TV movie back in the '80's which depicted exactly what you described. It starred Zach Galligan (from 'Gremlins') and Molly Ringwald.
I'm curious. Why did they do it?
My son was 17 and in the same situation.He was a very happy child ,an outstanding person but taking such a step just devastated us.
I feel v helpless my son was my soul
Please don't. Parents can't stop the pain.
@@munix9351 it's v painful
@@sanahasan9846 I understand. Set yourself free. It wasn't your fault. Our minds are so complex. He made the choice. Be free and release the burden from your shoulders. He is free now. So I need you to be free x
@@munix9351 He didn't want to hurt you, but sometimes a person (often very smart and aware people) cannot endure the travesty that is existence in this world. He's at peace. The best peace there is. Be happy for that even though you're sad that you can no longer enjoy his presence here.
I am sorry for your lost, for your pain
Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my 21yo son on 19.06.2015 after being bullied by his ex-girlfriend. I tried everything I knew with Nathaniel, had him at doctors, was placed on an emergency mental health plan, spoke to a psychologist that same day. She said she would call him and book him in, she never called and 2 days later he took his own life. It was another slap in the face that no-one cared. Even his friends said that he was back to his old self the day before, but I think his state of mind had already resolved itself that everyone would be better off without him. Of course this is not true and the grieving never stops, I struggle with this everyday and the smallest thing can set me off. All the what if's.....what would he be doing today...... Thank you for sharing your story, it gives some solace that others are not alone in the terrible tragedy.
Chris, take a hard look in the mirror.
The ex-gf is just the last pit stop in a long train ride of abuse (emotional, physical etc). She’s not the reason this happened.
Bullied by an ex-girlfriend? You raised a REAL WIMP!!!!
@@traybern Go fuck yourself you inhumane arse hole. You do not know me and you definitely never met my son, you do not know what the situation was nor what was happening in his life at the time. You have no reason to comment.
YOU have obviously never suffered with mental health issues, but then again your comment proves just how unstable you are!!!!!!! or had a family member that has suffered with mental health issues.
I hope this comes back on you ten fold, so you can have just one smidgen of what it feels like. Or better yet that you lose a child to suicide. You are nothing but a dick, and maybe next time before you open your mouth, please put your brain into gear. (OH SHIT SORRY YOU DON'T HAVE ONE) think about what you are saying.
@@traybern you understand the harm that a single comment can make to a person who goes through this? Hell probably exists because people like you
There are male therapists specializing in Men’s issues, this is so important for young men. My heart goes out to all of you. ♥️
I will always have an unimaginable amount of respect for people who experience, my goodness the worst things in the world, and still choose to be kind and do good for others, it's amazing
Incredibly devastating. Teen boys can be extremely hard to get through to.
Tell me about it. I've made an effort to. Nowadays if you try , not even all that hard, but with some mild persistency, you may just find the cops at your door telling you to STOP trying to get through to them or you'll be arrested for harassment. (I guess the cops are hoping for the excitement of a school shooting here some day).
@@EmeraldView stop.
@@stumack9755 Stop what?
My son became depressed in his mid twenties. It progresses to where we were afraid for him. The hardest thing I’ve ever dealt with was the lack of help in a crises. If I called for him to be seen, it was three or four weeks. With mental health, that just doesn’t work. My heart goes out to this family. Just know you did everything you could. Sometimes we just aren’t enough. The mental health profession has to make it easier for our children to be seen and treated. God Bless You.
Listen, I am just trying to help here, because I know people can be better and healed, I am an homeopath student, for years, and I have seen many many cases, being healed, or if not at least a great progress, find one in your area, if you need help write me here. Blessings !
I took my 19 yo son to ER for a suicidal episode, it changed everything, he went in patient for 1 week in a psychiatric hospital. He now has therapy every week, visits with a psychiatrist and his medication is now being managed by the psychiatrist. Regular MD’s are ill equipped to handle suicidal teenagers. Period.
@@bgipper4109 Yes, he will be managed, but he wont be Healed, period.
@@silviabetran1417 i believe
Try diet, vit b12 methyl
So very sad. No words. It’s an unseen disease. It’s not selfish; it’s an act of utter despair.
I graduated 1985. Strangely, this student, like so many others, did so much better than me in everything as a teen. This student was suma cum Lada, and a great hockey player.....I barely got accepted to college and I sucked at all team sports. I believe that students expect way too much of themselves today. Way too much.
I would agree with that.
And he was handsome and had a girlfriend!! He literally was the whole package, like why?!?
@@mothership9234 Depression doesn’t discriminate. There’s no rhyme or reason as to who it afflicts.
@@joycenesselhauf1220 yeah, it's just like asking ,"Why cancer?" Or "Why the accident .... that kills an innocent person." Ultimately those questions can't be answered, ( unless you believe that the universe is run by a God.) For me there's no " answer." You can only try to make good come out of it, if possible.
@@mothership9234 maybe bcs their parents didn't tell/taught their kids to be always grateful.
What a beautiful young man, I'm deeply sorry for you loss.
Lost my brother in suicide, its just the worse..we had so many questions because he didnt say anything about his depression, we didnt noticed it was so bad, we all were left with so much grief and also I got angry because he never said a word about it so we couldnt help him, he also left his daughter behind, just horrible!
We praying to you and your family! ❤
So sorry for their loss. Seemed like a fantastic young man.
My sister took her life --- she never coped with the feeling of despair in the end---- it took me along time to except her death but I know she's out of pain and she's at peace now---- you can either beat your self up over it or use the experience to help others that are mentally declining in some way---- it's sad it happens alot these days but we must never blame any one as ones mind set can change at any moment---- my heart ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 is with any one out there that has lost some one to suicide--- remember they did love us but ones mind set is all that it takes ----
Unfortunately sometimes nothing helps. My husband has tried every medication, electric shock, ketamine infusion and therapy all to no avail. Every day is a struggle for him and it's difficult to watch.
It is very difficult to see how our love one struggling everyday…
I cannot imagine how these parents must feel. It is so devastating. All my prayers to everyone in this situation. ☹
Life is brutal. We should all be kinder to each other
The most devastating news. He was gorgeous!🥲🥲🥲
Hello…. As a 55 year old from the U.K., who has also struggled with depression, social anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts for many years, I would encourage any young person going through similar challenges as this young man, to listen to those final thoughts of this young man’s mother… it is ok to not be ok… people will listen, and support… to any parent concerned or worried, you are also or alone… sadly mental health support here in the U.K., has not always been great, due to funding issues within the NHS.
God bless us all!
Please, seek for a good homeopath , there are plenty in UK, go and see for yourself , You Can be Cured !
Is it worth living? It is pain and suffer all the time. Even beeing alone
Finding community groups with similar values helps with loneliness too. I'm so glad thatnim doing better because last year I almost wanted to dissappear as well.
The sad realization is, He was Already getting help when this happened..
It's so hard to understand someone who was like your son..wonderful child, smart, athletic.... Great family and loved... How does one think they are better off gone .. It is so so sad. My heart goes out to every family that has lost a family member in this way. Good help this family to feel your presence... Heal their hearts.
He litterally anthony bourdianed himself. Poeple just think differently. Or some poeple are just way too greedy they think why isnt this experience maxed out. Also he might be a magnet for the most toxic gf, and so those girls probably did a number on him.
Im sorry for your loss. I also lost my 24yr niece to suicide. She was such a beautiful young girl who never gave us a sign of how deep her depression was.
What a handsome young man. I wish he could’ve gotten the help he needed in time.
I would love to see more mental health in this country! Taking it as seriously as cancer!
LET me see YOU volunteer to GIVE UP 40% of YOUR paycheck FIRST!!!!
Depression is a REAL emergency especially since Covid!!! My 16 year old Granddaughter is struggling with depression! My Mom had depression, then me and my Sister and next my Granddaughters!!! It's a horrible thing to deal with!!! Prayers to all with this horrible condition!!! ❤❤❤
Yes depression can be devastating. You must present your loved one in the emergency room as an imminent threat to themselves otherwise they will discharge him/her prematurely. Donna LeComte Leone, RN 😢❤
We lost our son to suicide. We will never recover. I feel your pain
Same, it's like you downgrade your life to be utilitarian rather than have any goals. Well it's still early days for us.
There are no words on this Earth, to express my sorrow to this family. There are no words.
I would say that the immediate family failed the child for being unable to prevent it. In fact, most people don't care about the individual until AFTER the action has been done. That is FACT
@@yamchayaku I would say there is something wrong with you. You think this family didn't care about their son until after he died? Something is seriously wrong with you. That is FACT
@@localman12 That doesn't make me wrong though. If they actually gave a shit, that person wouldn't have considered suicide as an option. The fact that you don't realize or even refuse to accept this fact is the reason people commit suicide in the first place.
@@yamchayaku Again...there is something wrong with YOU. So every person who kills themselves had parents who didn't give a shit about them? Really?Think about how foolish you sound. You seem to think you have facts, and also they do it because people like me refuse to accept YOUR FACTS? which is it? the parents or people like me? You are very ignorant..
@@yamchayaku I totally agree with David. Yamcha, You don't know and you are probably projecting. The mother said that they begged Matias to give them time. That is such a wreck less self-centered comment Yamcha. I hope you feel better.
I hate to say this but sometimes we are so broken that nothing and no one can help us. Don't blame yourselves .
Broken. Or.. aware.
Ignorance is in fact bliss. I know too much to EVER be happy in this world.
@@auggiedogg718Please don't say that. Forget about everything and everyone. Think only of yourself. Gift yourself with today. One day at a time. As broken as I have always been never once have I wanted to end it all. Stay strong.
@@bleuskye8124 Strangely I've taken comfort in realizing there likely aren't many days left. Not just for me but all of humanity.
If I expected there to be decades to come I'd be even less desirous of sticking around.
@@EmeraldView I wish there was something I could say to change the way you're thinking and feeling. In spite of all I've been through I wish I could turn back the clock so I could have more time. As I get older it makes me sad to think my time on earth is limited. I can't stand the thought of leaving my kids and my dog.
With God all things are possible!!!
I am so sorry you lost your son. May he rest in eternal peace.🙏🌹
My friend lost his only two brothers and a friend to suicide, back-to-back days. The lockdown took a huge toll on all three of them.
Omg
It’s taking listening to family’s talk about the impact of their loved ones suicide to help hold me back from putting this burden on them. It’s so sad. Stories so heartbreaking it makes me cry. To think I have moments where I could make one decision and inflict this pain on my family is what keeps me here. I hope anyone going through it reaches out!! We are so loved beyond measure!
ThatLongToenail, Just lost my 23 year old grandson 6 weeks ago. The pain left behind for family is heartbreaking. But the agony one leaves in the heart of a mother can destroy her world. People have no idea the pain, devastation and agony doesn't go away it stays for a lifetime. 😭
Please get help if needed. It got save your life ,you are worthy
Please reach out to me if you need. My email is my name at Gmail. I suffer from depression as well, but I’m happy to help if you need someone.
I work in mental health and with a lot of hurting and angry children. The father is so right. They admit them for a few days, put them on medication and send them home That is it. It breaks my heart to see them getting no help because although medication can help, it isn't the only answer by a long shot. May God be with these families who have lost their children.
Deadbeat mothers are the problem, not the health system. The heath system did not bring him up, did not mould his psyche, did not teach him to self-loathe and self-harm… parents did that whether they accept it or not.
Suicide is not a mystery. It is well studied, it is predictable.
From what I hear and read, the reason for that is the damn big corporate insurance companies who won't pay for necessary extended stays where these young people can get properly evaluated, observed and get their medicine doses regulated while at the same time getting in patient therapy.
It's all about money and greed.
Such a tragedy because these kids had their whole life ahead of them!! Just wonder how they can be so depressed when you’re so young, full of life, and full of hope and opportunity ahead.
Wish I could say something, but I couldn't even begin to imagine how you feel.
There was absolutely NO reason to shut down school for a year+. Ridiculous. 😡
u r wrong!
I lost one of my brothers to suicide, in May 2002. He was in his early 40s, seemed to be doing fine so it seemed to come out of nowhere. He lived in another state and was not good about staying in touch so I wouldn't have known of any issues. His wife & teenage kids were in another part of the house when he did it (shot himself). It's still hard to believe and the resulting fallout has caused estrangement between his family and ours. I feel for these families that lose their young children.
Sorry for your loss , suicide is definitely the hardest thing to deal with especially in those circumstances. My younger brother took his own life after the death of his twin brother, have lost both parents and four siblings but my brothers still bothers me. ❤
Sorry for your loss, heartbreaking story. ❤
So very sorry for your loss. You are extremely brave to help others. He looked like such a beautiful young man and you look like wonderful parents. 💕
I know a women who lost two of her children to suacide , same depression played a big role in their deaths, we need to let people know it is ok to ask for help ! There is so much stigma around mental health and there should not be ! It is ok to ask for help !
I have battled, fought, cried and I don't know that there's a cure for depression
There is a cure. Life has a purpose. To worship God almighty alone. May I invite you to Islam?
When you going through hard times, remember someone out there is going through far worse. Not knowing what your next meal will be, marriage, a home is a dream within another dream. Yet they are clinging on to life.
Jesus only helped me and set me free from years long battle with depression and suicidal thoughts as well as self harm and alcohol abuse.. I experienced real spritual encounter with God and from then i am free from all the weight, sadness, emptyness and hopelesness. I feel pure love and peace with Jesus in my life, true happiness. Know that depression is spirit and can't be fought by physical medications, meds only numb you but don't cure you and they make you slave for lifetime if you rely on them. Please know that you are loved by God and precious in His eyes. Just seek out Jesus in prayer, open your heart to Him and i promise you your prayer will be answered. I wish you the best, may God bless you. If you need someone to talk to i am also here for you, i also can pray for you just know you matter ❤
Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and life. Search for Fulton Sheen videos on depression. Return to God and His commandments of love.
There is help, start with your Dr. Talk about your struggles.
February 17 2021 our son completed suicide. He would have been turning 34 he was a corporal in military. He fought depression anxiety but he was tired and had to rest. Understand the traumatic pain….and 10 months after our son, my husband of 42 years died of sudden heart attack in my arms and I laid him down on our living room floor. I understand
I'm so sorry you went through all this. I hope you feel supported by friends/family.
My heart breaks for Mathias' family and all parents and family of young people who are unable to carry on in this life. Bless you all
My son committed suicide in Oct 2020. He was 22. He had fought his ODD and mental health issues since age 13. He was doing seemingly very well but then we noticed he deleted his socials and it spiraled From there. Would turn off his phone, very reclusive. They didn’t have to tell me what he did, I felt it in my soul, he was gone. He had been in therapy and in and out of group homes bc of his behavior when he was a teenager. He was on antidepressants but decided he wanted to go into the national guard. He had to stop his meds to do it. This world is so twisted. The military has one of the highest rates of suicide in the US.
Prayers to anyone who is suffering and peace to their families ❤
I am so sorry for your loss, He couldn’t take anti depressants before enlisting in the national guard? Wow. I had no idea. That’s so wrong of the military.
Very sad. He was indeed a handsome young man and had all to experience. Hugs and strenght to the Rosado Family. May you find comfort through the organization you started to save lives in the name of Matias.💔🙏
My heart goes out to this couple and all on here that have lost someone to suicide.
The pain they left behind will be ours to carry. R.I.P. Nick, my son. Much love
I would like to say sorry to the parents for their loss, he was such a nice young man. My sun started struggling in 2021 after the Covid year at the age of 20. During exam time he expressed very often that he struggled with life, that life was bad, that he wasn't able to do noting and that it would be better to end it. Fortunately he talked to us about his emotional state, I searched immediately for a doctor but it took 3 months until my son decided by himself to join the doctor. Since then he goes there once a week and feels better without pills. But it is a long way....
My daughter was suicidal because she was being cyber bullied and bullied in person at school. We moved. It saved her life. Drastic but therapy wasn’t working. Nothing was working and she was cutting.
I’d move as well. I have a 14 yr old son, watching him closely as he has ADHD & anxiety.
I am glad you moved, because many teens have killed themselves due to bullying. It’s best to put ourselves in better situations if we can instead of fighting shit ones.
What awesome parents you are!!!
@Toni Styles thank you
@@HeartNDagger18I hate to say this but bullies only have as much power as the person being bullied gives them if it’s not a physical bully people need to say I don’t care what the bully thinks and truly not care. Because bullies don’t matter. Also if it’s cyber bullying get off social media.
my son has tried suicide 3 times and he self harms if things get out of control. he hasnt tried anything for 3 years im so proud of him. rip to your son. its not that easy for people to talk if they are in a dark place....please remember that parents.
Thank you Scott W for this vitally important piece. My deepest & heartfelt condolences to this family who lost their beloved Son.
I am so Very Sorry for your Son loss. 💔. SAD.
HE MATTERED IN THIS WORLD.
HUGS.
I’m deeply sorry for the loss this family suffered. I can’t wrap my brain around how much pain this tragedy has caused them. May God bless them with strength, wisdom and courage to live on with the best of memories of their son 🙏🏾
I wish I could do something... Gosh, this is terrible. I feel so bad for these parents.
From a person who has struggled with suicidal thoughts for YEARS, I would add these pointers:
- Tell them they are needed in your life.
- Call and text just to say hello….more than once every three months.
- Telling someone who feels worthless that they “can contact you anytime they need help” has an opposite effect. We almost always feel like we need some type of help, so we rationalize why we should not bother others; they don’t want to have me waste their time.
Also, if you are interested in helping a friend that seems isolated, why would you require the person who truly needs help to be the one to contact you?
- Reach out when they come to mind by sending a text or writing a message to say how important they are.
The depressed mind works like waves, sometimes you can bask and relax in them but other times the white caps are knocking you all over the place. So don’t stand on the shoreline and watch the person struggle, instead, jump in and rescue them by pulling them out of the turbulent waters or bounce there with them with a listening ear and NOT advice! Yes, it’s a risk, but you have the necessary emotional tools to pull them back to the shore and to safety.
Very well said, and appreciated by a person who has suffered from depression for over 4 decades, and has had it intensify in the last 5. Resources are harder to find, and when you do have an actual breakdown; that’s when you really find out who your true friends are!
So true...absolutely..help is needed when u are in need and not afterwards
What would be your advice be to a person who doesn't have anyone in their lives willing to do those things?
What can you do if a person you love just says that they are sick of everyone (apparently including you) and that they do not want to see anyone. You can do nothing. You know that kind of behaviour is not healthy, but you cannot impose yourself.
@@s-6019 Yes, you CAN. That is a sign of severe depression. There are numerous resources available. Talk with your family doctor to start. Keep an eye on them at all times. There are various call centers with resources that can provide help.
If the person is a minor, you can take them to a psychologist for an evaluation. Sometimes they will refer the person to a psychiatrist for medicine. If a doctor or therapist deems the child a threat to themselves, this is generally sufficient to have them admitted to the psych ward in a hospital for evaluation. If the danger is immediate in the worst case scenario, you can take them to an emergency room and they may get admitted immediately.
My 19 year old nephew took his life in Sept of 2022. There is too much stress on our kids.
I’m so very sorry for your devastating loss. 😔
An old classmate of mine just lost a brother this past week to this illness. May they ask rest in peace ❤
From the moment your child starts talking, teach them to be expressive with their emotions with you. Teach them to find comfort in expressing their feelings with you. Let them know that nothing they do could make you love them less. While it's important that your children see you as a parent and authority figure, that they also see you as a fixer. Someone they can truly rely on. This way, if they start having mental health struggles or are getting bullied, they are open and honest with everything they are feeling and thinking. Too many parents say they had no idea their kid was struggling. And it's because their kid didn't have that natural yearning to un-burden themselves on their parents.
As someone who's been on the suicidal end, all I have to say "Amen" to this.
This is such a good advice and I concur. My oldest son (now 20) is always emotional and soft even at a young age. I’ve been drilling into this mind it is not a shame to tell me his feelings and hardships. It is still prevalent in society to expect men to be strong. I’ve witness a woman soccer coach to emotional bullied a 11 years old boy when he cried (not sure the reason of his crying).
We need to arm our kids to prepare for hardships (emotionally) and ride it out. And it is healthy to air it out with someone who loves them.
My son still calls me whenever he encounters frustration and anxiety from his dorm.
You are so right. I always expressed my love to my kids and told them that I will always love them no matter what. My kids have always known that they could discuss anything with us no matter the subject. However, every single person is different and no matter what reassurances we think we make to our children, their own personalities will determine if they open up to us in times of difficulty and struggles. It’s really up to parents to know their child’s personality and recognise if there is a change in behaviour. When people say they had no idea their child was struggling is because they ignored the change in behaviour or simply thought they would ‘grow out of it”. My eldest child’s behaviour changed when he started high school. Partly it was him going through puberty (which we incorrectly thought was the whole cause) and part was bullying (which we had no idea about). He had always openly discussed anything with us previously but he refused to open up to us about the bullying. His psychologist at the time made us feel it was our fault he was struggling mentally and failed to have our son tell him he was being bullied. It wasn’t until a year later when he saw a different psychologist that our son finally opened up and got the professional help he needed. My point is that sometimes kids won’t unburden themselves despite parents or even to professionals trying to help. It was because we knew our son’s personality that we did everything we could to help him with his struggles. I also have a dear friend whose son took his own life despite every effort on her part to get him help. Sometimes despite the best efforts, parents just aren’t able to help and no parent should be made to feel a failure.
Or if they don't confide in you and they find a caring adult that is willing to spend time with them, and listen to them, don't allow your indoctrinated "woke" teen daughters to convince her male cousin (who's talked about suicide) and his pals (who border on sociopathy - one threatened to take a knife to school to deal with some bullies) that that adult is "grooming" them. #1 buzzword of the day.
YES I speak from experience, and the boys who I'd gotten close to (via my nephew), but who after 2 years quickly distanced themselves from me after this horrid girl insisted that's what I was doing (and even gave them a slick handy-dandy 'grooming' chart presumably from her indoctrination camp. I was already on Step 2 of the 5 step "easy process to being raped" chart. Step 1 is an adult taking an interest in you and being nice and friendly to you. Step 2 is the adult buying you things (I'd agree to buying digital items for them occasionally in a video game we all played together). So clearly she had me pegged, in her and now their eyes.
I spoke with this teen girl (who's mother is the same I understand), and she was adamant, she didn't CARE what my relationships to the boys was, she said that it always (ALWAYS) turns abusive. Is that the sick twisted garbage that is being put into teenagers heads these days? It's little wonder they are so mentally strained these days. Adults want nothing to do with them because if there's even the slightest hint or whiff that anything intimate could potentially happen they are immediately accused of being a pedophile (which isn't even the correct word for adult/adolescent relationships anyway but is the absolute worst thing anyone can call another person these days - its practically a license to kill). Teachers can't even show simple affection toward an emotionally distraught student. Fear that an accusation will cost them their very career.
Happy ladies? You wanted your kid to forever cling to you, to ONLY ever confide in you, despite the fact that they can't because that's not the relationship they have with a parent and they want and need to break free from the parent. But god forbid another adult should be involved with them, it *could* become sexual, and we all know that teens HATE sex, but should they actually find an interest in it with someone older be sure to SHAME them for it and make them feel abused, actually unloved, and simply taken advantage of, and try to assuage their guilt for the legal destruction you'll cause their older friend.
Our society is doomed.
One will never know ones pain …. Doesn’t matter how great of family .. strong support system they might have its just not enough …. As a mom w/ 11 yr old son going through this …. All I can say is love , never give up & keep fighting …. Yes therapy is there but until you’ve walked in those shoes though …. It’s a continued struggle … prayers for all lost & going through this 🙏🏽💐🥺🙏🏽❤️
Indeed. We have started therapy sessions for our son but seeing him so unhappy from times to times is very hard. It seems everything you say has to be very careful because he can take it in a wrong way. It is very exhausting to go through this daily.
May this poor guy REST IN PEACE 😢💐💔
Cute kid. My bf committed suicide in front of me years ago. I still have PTSD and trauma. Suicide is the worst they don't suffer we suffer
Oh God imagine how difficult it must be to help someone that wants to die.
Parents are not doing enough to balance being parents, and I am not talking about just kicking your kids in the pants or judging them harshly for things they need to improve on. Find the balance of parenting, and do what works. These kids don't live in the 1980s and 90s they are in a far more dark world, and parents need to do more to balance the scales.
I am so sorry to hear of this tragedy. I genuinely hope that he is in peace. I also wish peace and as much healing as possible to his family and friends and everyone else who loved him.
I was like this at 17, it has been very hard life for me. I hung on, started to read the Gospels of Jesus and he save me. Im 52 now.
poor kid..:( praying for his family and friends.
I’m so sorry for your loss my most sincere condolences to your family and all of Matia’s loved ones. Thank you for sharing his and your story. I hope there is more done about mental health in our future. I myself was 51/50 ‘d 5 times.
It can be a chemical imbalance. Medication does work for some, but not everyone. You cant really know how it feels unless you go through it. It's not something where you can just pull yourself up by your bootstraps. It's horrible!
It truly is. My son is going thru something similar. A lot of ups and downs. Very draining to see his drastic emotions. He’s good at expressing his feelings but it’s a lot to absorb from times to times.
What of regret or things that can't be changed, inability to adapt or make peace with it. Can chemical imbalance come from psyche itself?
My heart breaks for these parents, I have chills, I too have a son who suffers with severe medication resistant depression. These parents where aware and where there for their son. They did EVERYTHING right, but their son just couldn’t stay here. I am so aware of how this can happen to me as well. I feel their pain...I hope they find comfort in knowing that they are helping other parents.
My heart breaks for Mátias and his loved ones. I'm so, so sorry for their loss. Depression is hell on the sufferer and their loved ones. I was diagnosed as a teenager and like Mátias' parents, my parents did everything they could to help me. Psychiatrists, therapists, medication, love, support. But nothing helped, nothing stopped the pain. I just hurt all the time. I wanted to sleep to stop the pain, but I didn't want to sleep because it meant I'd have to wake up. I felt hopeless and trapped, I was simultaneously terrified and exhausted by the thought of having a future of constant pain. I didn't want to hurt my family, but when it became unbearable I tried to take my own life. Afterwards, my little brother made me promise to never try again. And I kept that promise. It was horrible beyond belief, knowing I was trapped alive and believing there was no hope of ever feeling better. But I still kept that promise. And slowly, over about 5 years, I did improve. I'm grateful to my parents and my little brother. They kept me alive against all odds, and I am actually happy to be alive. I'm sorry Mátias couldn't hold on any longer, maybe he would've improved too. But I know his parents did everything they could and I do understand the hopelessness that took him to that point. All my love to his parents and siblings. RIP Mátias
He’s free and at peace!!!❤❤❤❤
I wish that was true but God's truth won't change just to make people feel better. We are not masters of our own lives and to end them it's great sin..
As long as there are no Regrets, All will be HOME. We Judge Ourselves based on our point of view of our actions, God doesn't Judge us.
@@standingfortruth4043 Do you also believe that a talking snake tempted a woman to eat from a tree of good and evil? That's in the Bible, too. Lol please go away with your judgments unless you've got PROOF.
@@standingfortruth4043 he’s resting peacefully now. What a sickening thing to say!
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Cause self righteous people always love to judge.poor wretch doesn’t know Jesus paid the price cause we are all sinners and he knew that ahead of time
This young man was bright, rest his soul 🙏 condolences to the family 👪
this is so awful, i am so sorry...looking at this family it is hard to imagine such an event, they look so happy. my heart breaks and may they find peace.
RIP. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I can understand just how they feel.
I was 20 when my dad took his life at 52 Oct. 1st. 1992.
He had tried before in the past. And then right after he was released from the Hospital ( he was there because of severe depression) he took his life the next day at home.
Both my mom and I were at home at the time and it came as a complete shock to us.
We knew he was depressed
but we did not know he was still wanting to die.
Its been 30 years and I still break down crying if I get thinking about my dad, even all these years later.
I'm 51 now and I don't think I will ever fully recover from losing my dad the way we did.
My older sister who was 24 at the time of his death has had a hard time recovering as well.
This one hit home. I went to UNC. We lost 8 people to suicide in the 5 years I was there. The school would always bury it and class would go on the next day. Broke my heart
My 19 year old son took his life in June 2021😞😢❤️🙏 My prayers go out to everyone going through this 🙏🙏🙏
كاميرا
Praise be to God for the blessing of the Islamic religion. We, as Muslims, and praise be to God, are very necessary cases of self-sacrifice, no matter how sad we may be. We believe in God Almighty. Our book, the Qur’an, gives us strength, and our religion gives us strength in the greatest export. I invite you to get to know the Islamic religion, for it is the true religion, and all other religions are human, human creation. , Please try reading the Holy Qur’an. May God help you with psychological comfort from the book of the true Creator
He look so young handsome and happy in all pics
Rest in peace Brother
Thank you for sharing and starting foundation.
Physical wounds are can be seen and heal fast. Spiritual and emotional wounds fester on and are invisible. This young man may have battled with so much internal pain that all he saw as the exit is to end his life. So sad.
It sounds like this family did do much, what else could have been done? I’m so heartbroken for this family!
🙏🏾 🥺 Beautiful child. 💐🕯
I am soooooo sorry. He had mental health issues like me. It's just terrible. My heart and prayers are with you and your family🙏
Rest In Peace Matias 🌹
I have 3 wonderful bois and pray 🙏🏽 to GOD they don't ever attempt or try this 1 my son battle with depression severely I couldn't live with this pain
No person, esp. a teen shouldn't have to "fight" suicidal depression. If a parent is aware of this, don't WAIT for help. Spend the money to get help right away.
my son took his li.fe only 9months ago it took my will to live away jimi was 28 it took away my everything. i had 3 children jimi was my baby.i spend most of my time in my room.thank god for music.jimi shot himself.he was here the day before. he was himself. i dont understand how i could not felt the darkness,i think about what he looked like when i got to the hospital. no mama should have to see their child like that.he was brain dead when i got there he was on life suport,his heart his liver and his kidneys gave someone else life.i miss him more each day, i will never be ok
Thank you 🙏
He looks so good, happy and smily kid he must have gone through some terrible situations as a kid / in school
I wish the world and people were kinder it's just sad
This is sad! So many young people are taking their life. Isolation from friends and family didn’t help during Covid.
I agree with this father’s comment on the pills. I lost my best friend of 32 years just 6 years ago. Six years this September. My friend was never thinking of taking his life that myself or his family ever knew of. I found him. It wasn’t pretty. It was horrific. I was in the hospital 30 minutes after I found him. Again, 8 months later. Ptsd was hard. When I went to my first therapist, they put in a group with basically a bunch of addicts, which was ridiculous to me. I’m trying to heal from trauma with people actively suffering drug addiction? Then after that session I saw the psychiatrist and he prescribed 2 different meds. Within 3 days of those meds I couldn’t function and everything was worse. I quit them, found a trauma therapist who didn’t prescribe drugs, and put in the work to heal my ptsd and grief. EMDR therapy helped and I urge parents to try that before any drugs. I stayed with my therapist for 4 years and still go to this day. I send him my journal writings and we make a session to talk about what I wrote. It’s the best thing anyone can do to keep themselves in check. I was never 5uicidal. Some might find that important to know. I also go to a support group for 5uicide loss. Best thing ever. If I had to pick one it would probably be support group. Being with others sharing the same loss is so healing. Nobody is trying to fix you, nobody is saying his pain is gone now. What pain? I have no idea why he did this but I’ve come up with a million little things to answer the never answered why question. I get the pandemic was hard for people but it’s an excuse our government likes and our medical professionals. These drugs for mental health should be a last resort. Some might need them but my experience was I didn’t want to do anything. I didn’t want to anything because I literally couldn’t function. Push back on these narratives but educate yourself first. The amount of parents showing up to my group now is insane. The numbers are growing too fast. The pandemic is never what parents are talking about either. It’s pressure. They can’t just be kids anymore. We are creating mental health issues ourselves. Especially, for the children. This young man seems to have suffered a serious clinical depression which is different. I do have to question if the drugs helped or hurt??? I am so sad for this family and their loss. I can imagine everything they feel because I’ve been their too. Your son was too young to die.
Your story makes me wonder if there couldn't be a screening process to determine what type of therapy is more likely to help? It sounds like the addiction group was not something you related to. Some people who quit therapy that doesn't help them give up and don't look further.