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My last trip to the philippines, I usually greet the locals with a "good day" or "hi/hello". I've made it a habit to avoid physical contact since the philippines is so serious about covid restrictions. I greet everyone I come across since it's still a new world that I thoroughly enjoy. I hope to befriend many filipinos there someday but I hope they don't view me as someone that can financially help them, there's only 1 person I'm able to financially help and thats my lady. She's my top priority in the philippines for many reasons including taking care of me while I'm there, watching my back wherever she goes with me, she picks out the food she wants us to eat out or at home and I buy it for us, she translates everything for me since I don't understand tagalog yet and she's very protective and possessive of me, not in a bad way of course, I welcome everything she does for me and I trust in her. For those reasons, I do my best to take care of her and help every chance I get, sometimes I pick her up and carry her when she gets tired (it embarrasses her but she also loves it, she always says PDA is not a big thing there), I also tend to walk in front of her to keep the crowd from walking into her and she'll tell me where to go or turn by touching my hand. We have a very unique way of bonding with each other and we never once fought or argued, I always do my best to keep everything I do positive for her and I'm always supportive of her. We both go above and beyond for each other and we are pretty much mirrors of each other despite me being her polar opposite, because of that we are pretty much cemented into each others lives.
Many Filipinos are naturally friendly and curious. People talk to me from all walks of life without obviously expecting something in return. We are interested in people and their stories. We like good vibes. Many of us are just shy or wary of strangers. Some people take time to warm up to locals or foreigners. I personally find it awkward to greet people I pass on the street. I do not know people who do that. But I will engage in small talk with someone who initiates it. I am personally curious about the increasing number of foreigners in my community. The ones I talked to were usually the ones who initiated our conversations. Many of us are insecure about our English-speaking skills, although most can probably understand you. Foreigners who stay longer time than the usual tourists will find friends.
Pea, One other thing. When I was there with my wife, I learned if her family manipulated me, I would talk with her about it, never talk directly to them. She is my filter. She is bicultural and understands how to interpret western ideas into Philippino. I love her so deeply for doing this. Guys, your Filipina, if she has any understanding about western culture, is the person to vent with, NOT at, when it comes to certain situations, particularly with family. I am exceptionally blessed to be her husband.
@@brentbackman2911 Well there you go breaking rule #3. No complaining. Just kidding. I love to complain which is not the same as whining. As a wise man once said: “Some people aren’t happy unless they are not happy”.
I’m an Amer-kano who has lived here in the Philippines since 2007 with my wife of 49 years. I’m not planning on EVER leaving the Philippines, so I definitely avoid doing things that would get the attention of people at places like the Bureau of Immigration, etc., etc. For you foreigners plannjng on visiting the Pnilippines, please pay attention to this young lady’s advice. It will help you have a nice stay here in this beautiful country.
I am Ross from Brisbane . Australia . I agree with all your comments . Respect is paramount . When you go to another country, you have to adopt the customs . In Thailand, you cannot point your foot at someone .
I'd follow those rules all over Southeast Asia. The cultures are different, but morally the countries are pretty similar. ❤ God bless everyone stay happy healthy and safe 🙏🙏🙏
It was a couple towns south, of Vigan city, coming into a township, it mentioned the people ahead lived under the rule of , "No Lazy People , No Gossiping, No Smoking(many towns, actually), I was quite surprized! Esp. , gossiping is a filipina staple!!
Beyond not "dating" married women, you might not want to date women with "exs" in government, law enforcement, legal (ie lawyers), or anyone else that could mess with you just for fun cause you are with their ex. It's a good general rule no matter where you live.
Grow a pair, big man. Yours is bigger than his. Yours have more hair. Your exotic coconuts are more desirable than his local coconuts. If her ex gives you issues, simply take his girlfriend from him, his next one, and the next one. Change your middle name to creampie 😉💯👊
Not many guys are going to be doing that as these Filipina’s generally date Filipino’s and of a similar age …most Filipina’s that have dated or married to civic Filipino’s know that generally dating outside a relationship is simply no no.
I am sitting in Bangkok waiting for my flight to Siem Reap, Cambodia. While listening to Pea talk about the Philippines. Gotta love S. E. ASIA... AND I DO!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I was planning to retire back ‘home’ after being away from the Philippines for more than 40 years. Your Vlog just reminded me the reasons why I couldn’t wait to leave Philippines in the first place when I was young. 😊Thank you. Well done. I owe you one.
Sounds a bit one sided for the Philippines in my opinion. I guess everyone has their own customs. I think I'll stay right here in the good old USA. (Smile) We may not be perfect, but after hearing this... We are headof the curve. LOL! Stay safe and healthy. Peace
@@redzone1019 its not about being "one sided" its about giving information when your going to another country with another culture. I mean its just make sense "when in Rome, do what the Romans do".
Well pea now I know that you actually got my donation I will be sending you more because you and your videos are worth a lot more to me in my eyes and since I am looking for a wife to marry over there I may just be traveling over there and if and when I do it would be a pleasure to meet you I am sucking up all your videos now to my brain so I will be well informed when I do get there soon I hope
Very informative Pea. I already lived for 2 years in your country and I know that a humble attitude and being polite and respectful under all circumstances take you a long way.
Fair enough for foreigners as guests in the Philippines...but not challenging those in power is precisely what's keeping corrupt police and politicians from being held accountable. .
Yes, but it can also get you and your family killed. To really change things, you need strength in numbers. But that often starts with a few brave individuals.
They just voted a corrupt family into the presidency! But we shouldn't complain because America voted for the Trump mobster family. Corruption doesn't recognize any national borders. If it's not your country keep all opinions to yourself and you'll be much safer.
A lot of that is basic politeness that people should be doing wherever they are in the world. Your weird is one of the reasons you're so lovely Pea! Take care, we need you to mind our manners 😊❤🥰
@@TheFilipinaPea Hey Pea....do you know what "Ps and Qs" mean? It's an old Navy term that means "pints and quarts" and the sailors had beer rations and you had to "mind them" so not to go over your limit, lest you get into trouble!
Lots of useful and relevant advice here, thanks Pea. It’s easy to appear impolite or rude, just by acting the way that is customary in your own country and not realising it’s offensive. Understanding the culture and customs will go a long way to ensuring an enjoyable and problem free experience. Another great topic.
Pea, If there are only 12 things not to do, it's easy ;) Although I might disagree with no. 11 - karaoke bars are best for meeting friendliest Filipinos in the world - some might not know how to sing, but be sure you will be offered free beer and will make friends very easily there! :) Even though it might not be some university professors singing there, but construction workers, seamen and other normal people like that - again it depends how you treat people, if you treat them as your equal and don't judge them based on their social status, they will be friendly back to you! And usually this are the best, the friendliest and the most generous people you can meet!!!
Thank you Pea ! I enjoyed adding all of these to my "preparing to leave for heaven(Philippines)" list ! In a single breath I recap and try to memorize: No Politics, Pointing or comPLaining, no shoes no elder disrespecting no heated argument, no rejecting food, handshakes, dating married woman, public drunkenness or getting into a brawl and, most importantly, No singing My Way from Sinatra and no taking the last piece of food!
1. Stay out of politics. 2. Pointing at someone. 3. Complaining 4. Wearing shoes in a house. 5. Don't disrespect elders. 6. Don't get in a heated argument. 7. Don't reject food. 8. No firm handshakes. 9. Don't date married women - even if separated. 10. Don't get drunk in public. 11. Don't sing "My Way". 12. Don't eat the last piece of food on a plate.
And Don't buy a Vehicle and Bring it back to a Filipino. Forget it and FIX it. I bought a second Vehicle for P160,000. I had to put P40,000 Into it. And Don't lend it to FILIPINO. They don't even purchase Gas. Lol
Philippine Cultural Specialist Pea: You are very thoughtful to educate us about this. Especially now since the country is opening up and Americans and other foreigners are traveling to the Philippines. All twelve (12) make great understanding for me. I believe Americans and other foreigners will find that the Philippines and Filipino people are really gracious and understanding. They try to help you so much in my opinion from living there in the past. Always enjoy the Police skit so much and I thank you for educating us so much. Paradise in the Philippines is wonderful.
True, but keep in mind that many are friendly and helpful because they are setting to up for the future that could be a big load they never intend to repay, getting you to by house in there name etc. There are many cases of foreigners ending up on the streets with nothing. Yes there are many good Filipinos but be very careful.
It's always wise to know what not to do in a new environment. From my own travels, I was taught to remember that I'm a guest when in someone else's country. So this advice is well received. I plan to visit in September if all goes well. This was a very informative video Pea.
You continue to be a trusted source of good information. I have been in the Philippines for slightly more than a month, and you still guide me in my journey.
You'd better stop those drunken walks home in dark alleys with that married girl singing "My Way", now. Still, it was a good month while it lasted, right?
@@TheFilipinaPea it is going very well. My GF has a good family that accepts me, and I am being pampered. I do hope, however, the apron strings get loosened a little bit soon because I really CAN cut up my own meat like a big boy! Lol
One more comment, having been in the military and visiting the Philippines in the past along with many other places. I understand the importance of observing the culture of where you are. Many things are different from here in the states. My girlfriend and I talk a lot about when I come there. She wants me to try many foods. I have told her some may be off my menu.
I think respecting your elders is common knowledge everywhere in the world it should be. I always respect my elders. Older people I pay special attention to to help them in their time of need whether they are stranger or not
Great advice for avoiding the cultural mine field. I will always treat people with respect but just because I'm the foreigner in a country, doesn't mean that I will ignore blatant hostility or disrespect. If I am left alone, I'm as easy going as the next person. Verbal abuse runs off my back like water. Hostile physical contact will result in one or both of us being in the hospital or worse. I've even been in situations where a police officer or judge has become verbally disrespectful and then discover that no further conversation is possible as I will not verbally acknowledge them anymore. Take care Pea.
i agree 100 % the phil is cool but it is NOT the only country that is nice to visit on planet earth . they should be as grateful for me to be here as i am grateful to them for being able to be here . I am a nice guy but dont bother me with non sense about your culture ... how crazy is it for people to be offended at a foreinger being disrespectful to a filipino when most of the homeless people who are treated like garbage in this country ore elderly pinoy people ... and that does not even cover the way babies and kids are treated . No fines or penealties for parents who carry their babies in their lap when driving or riding a motor bike ... kids begging on the street 24 hours a day 7 days a week ... .they need to focus on fixing themselves before they worry about foreigners .
"I will not verbally acknowledge them anymore" "will result in one or both of us being in the hospital or worse." I see that police and even JUDGES tremble before you! Oh My, KAREN Shar, you are one dangerous Bad A**. Are you going to "Speak To The Manager" LOL LOLOLOL
@@rogerdevero8726 from a guy with a cute kitten as his profile pic…😂. It sounds like the sense of entitlement that has become rampant in western society. One of the reasons I enjoy being in the Philippines is you don’t see much of a sense of entitlement.
Hi "Sweet Pea"...All your words in this video are "Words of wisdom". Interesting enough they also apply in most Countries with a large Latino presence like, Spain, Puerto Rico, Santo Domingo, Cuba, Mexico, Central & South America. These places, like the Philipines, were highly Influenced in passed Times by the Spaniard culture, to the point that when commiting one of the offenses you just mentioned, the "Perp" might find themselves slapped on the face with a Leather glove and "invited" to a Duel. ( wich were Outlawed all over the world long time ago and still happens). I learned looong time ago that Politics are only addressed In Voting Poll Lines by Voting. Religion is a No Trespass Zone for most humans. Family is, Do Not cross that Line, EVER.( specially with "Abu"San, & "PapaSan"). Have a Sunny day..!
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True, but in the Philippines, you have the added SE Asian culture to deal with. Similar to Thailand. At least, with Latinos, you are still talking to Western people, but in the PH, you also have to mind that East- West cultural gap.
@TheFilipinaPea I really enjoy your videos, I am watching them daily. Even though I have been to the Philippines multiple times (all through the military, only once personally), I am shocked hearing what a lot of foreigners are doing or thinking. All I can say is if your not a duck and allow the water to roll off your back, do not bother going to the Philippines. They do not own or control the Philippines, they are guests. I have the highest respect for the Philippine and the citizens of the Philippines. I recently met my future Filipina wife on a dating site, and she is currently working a work contract. When she completed the contract, we both will be moving to the Philippines. I had never learned what true love is, until I met her. I have met a few Filipinas over the years, but I know she is golden. I am excited to start our adventures together. Back to your videos, you have really gave me a great learning experience, and really enjoy hearing your thoughts and information. Thank you again for such a goldmine of information.
Many of the things you mention would apply to many other countries as well. I would say about 80% of what you mentioned would apply to the Caribbean. I just love officer Pea. 👍🌴
Ive never been to the filipines. The more i watch of your content the more i want to go. To me it sounds like a polite, traditional, respectful, society. The rules and expectations sound very reasonable to me.
That's a lot of good advice for anyone that travels anywhere. In the beginning you mentioned politics. There's nothing I hate worse than people coming to America and complaining about our way of life. Most of these people came here for more freedom and better way of life. Within a month many of them are taking advantage of that freedom and are out protesting on the streets about how terrible it is here. America is one of the most generous and accepting countries in the world. I like the idea that the Philippines will boot your butt out and not allow you back. I'll have to remember about shaking hands there. In our culture, shaking hands is a sign of personal respect and welcome. It is also a sign of a person's Bond or Word. That's why videos like yours are very important. It would be terrible to unknowingly disrespect someone. I would love to visit the Philippines one day. You have a beautiful country with so many wonderful things to see. My personal experience with Filipinos here in America has always been very positive. They always seem to be happy and in good spirits and caring of others. I have subscribed and will continue to watch your videos. ~ Stay healthy, happy, and safe ~
Most of these apply to the whole of SE Asia (e.g Thai 'wai' greeting and hierarchy) and a few - like shoes off - apply in the west too. I always ask, especially in a fancy house. Slippers were 'house shoes' traditionally in the UK, and country houses/farms often have 'boot rooms' where all outside muddy boots and shoes are left. City dwellers with pavements and hard floors don't really bother so much...😁
Over in America, those are called 'mud rooms' much the same it for people out in the country not so much the city folk. Though, less people wear house shoes/slippers in America than i am comfortable with. I always got weird looks for the first thing I would do when entering a house is take my shoes off.
As usual … you’re the best. Another “no no” I learned years ago in the Philippines is to never call a Filipino over by curling your index finger. Instead turn your hand upside down and use all your fingers.
You are not weird as you claim. You are an honest and real woman who is intelligent and is trying to help others with useful information about her culture for anyone who wants to live in your beautiful country. America has been a depressing, hopeless nightmare because of the people for many years now. I am leaving it for the Philippines as soon as I have saved up enough. (I'm not a retiree...I'm younger than that.) Thank you, "Pea", you have given me some hope again for happiness, warmth, love and friendship after I have had no reasons to have any hope at all for such a long time.
Well, it depends on what aspect of the culture your are talking about. Is some cultures they have child brides. I do not respect that aspect. Others have female circumcision, which in my opinion is barbaric. I do not respect that. I'm NOT saying that is in the Philippines but in other parts of the world. No I do not respect every aspect of EVERY culture.
@@laserbeam002 as a guest it’s not your place to lecture people in their home country. That “American” mentality could be personally dangerous pontificating on locals in their homeland. Get back home and get on a megaphone, you can have freedom of speech but you’re not immune to the consequences.
@@laserbeam002 Some cultures even have male circumcision, which some people consider barbaric. Then some places allow the casual carrying of guns in public, whereas others would consider that a no-no. Anything others do that we do not do is barbaric, but if in Rome then do as the Romans do (for, to the Romans, we too would have been barbarians, unless you are a Roman).
Respect attacking openly LGBT people here in PH is okay? One example of many, perhaps you meant to say understood, but respected no. I am in PH now, not my first rodeo, but having underage prostitutes all over too, I dare not respect that, understand it, but not respect. Not trying to be antagonistic, so sorry if it comes off that way.
Hi Pea, in most of the Asian countries people don't enter houses with shoes on. It is a practice in India too. It is also advisable to a visitor not to meddle in the politics of the host country. One foreign RUclipsr got his visa extension rejected for participating in a demonstration against the local government. Good content.
Yeah, really was looking forward to visiting the country but some of those things sound kind of over the top. Glad she's so honest about it, I guess? Well, I mean, you could probably say similar things about nearly every other country and the probability of one of those things actually happening to you may be close to zero but still...
Regardless of your status as a foreigner (retired or working, single or dating/married to a Filipina, etc.) always think of yourself as a guest at someone's house and act accordingly.
@@joshduncan1216 what he meant is be aware of the culture and act accordingly. Learn to adjust and behave and as much as possible be cool and friendly esp. u r a forreigner bec Filipinos are used to the friendly Americans in there not a rude foreigner.
“When you’re in Rome…”! I.e. When you’re in Paris say “Bon hour!” when you enter a shop and do not ignore the shopkeeper. It’s simple and will make life much easier. Do not talk loudly on the Metro, buses or other public places. Don’t get upset when served a cold drink without ice. You won’t lose your life over any of this but it’s the same principle.
I would fit right in with Asian/Filipino culture, especially in the area of shoes. Every time I come home I always take my shoes off. The no finger pointing is going to be very hard though.
There is one way to look at it ! As you point one finger 3 come back to you, I try to use my whole hand to point with the palm up but after being married to a Filipina for many years I do use my lips to point in the Philippines.
I spent the day watching different videos and being informed by you the pros and cons and behaviors to be aware of. You are very bright and entertaining while being believable and the truth you speak is very recognizable. If I was looking for a Filipina I would want you or a clone exactly like you. You have a beautiful spirit and truly want to help others and that is like gold. Keep up the good work and keep smiling, you're very lovely.
Amazingly I've sang My Way many times in the Philippines, and I got a little too tipsy there as well, but your gracious people took care of me and made sure that I got back to my hotel safely. Here in the States, I would have been robbed or worse.
That's based on isolated incidents that morphed into a local morbid inside joke about tempting fate. The dudes who were killed got into fights with fellow Filipinos because they felt insulted when other guys laughed at or criticized their singing. It's a "face" thing. These incidents happened in seedy bars that even locals with good sense avoid. Avoid seedy bars especially if alone.
You had me wanting me to go to the Philippines from watching all of your videos, but after this one, I'm actually wondering if I should show up. I have this bad habit of answering questions bluntly if asked, but at least I give them the "do you really want to know" warning first.
Incredibly helpful video....keeps you from learning the hard way...teaching respect and cultural difference can make the difference between an enjoyable experience or a disaster.....great info video Pea!!!.....I'm sure you have saved some expats a lot of misery
Pea, this is another great video as always but I feel Filipinos are really good people. I think your advice is good but I haven't really had a bad experience (yet) in the Philippines and was there twice on 2022. My Filipina's friends and family are really nice and the karaoke bar we went to was amazing. I don't act like the "typical" American so maybe that helped? I don't know...
Another great video, Pea. There are a few things on this list that i was unaware of, which is somewhat surprising considering that I've been married to my Filipina wife for 23 years. She hasn't lived there for about 30 years, so she might learn a new thing or two herself. 😆
The taking the last piece of food happened to me. I think they set me up though, they all told me to take it if I really wanted it and I did, their reaction was shock and teasing haha 😂 I won't soon forget that lesson learned
So true I used to cook for up to 10 Filipino kids staying at our house these were teenagers and at the end of the meal when there was always a little something left I always said hey you know finish it up I don't want it to go to waste because what happens is that last little bit gets put in a little bowl stuck in the refrigerator and either thrown out later or fed to the dog which I guess isn't wasting it but I didn't realize that that's why everybody left something on the serving plate but not on their own plate.
Living overseas since 1988 and what u said could apply to dozens of counties. Learn about the foreign culture and be culturally sensitive. Never cause locals, especially powerful locals to lose face. Just remember you are a visitor, not a citizen. Be very low key till you understand what not to do. That can take years sometimes.
All of these are so true!! A few extras might be... - Always get seconds or risk insulting your host that their food isn't good. - Don't use "Kuya" or "Ate" if the person is younger than you. If you're unsure it's better to use "Pare" or "Mare" - First names are seldom used, but every Filipino has a nickname(s) that they are commonly referred too, especially in the province. So don't be surprised when your girl starts answering to names you're not familiar with. - Assume that everyone around you can understand what you're saying in English, because they can. Don't think you're not being listened too just because none of the locals are speaking any English. - If you speak Tagalog to a girl you just met, be prepared for 20 questions about how you learned those words. She will suspect another girl is responsible. 🤣🤣🤣
The rule about elders bodes well for me. I'm 54 and I have no kids. Years ago, when I knew nothing about the Philippines other than that my dad was stationed at Subic Bay during his first years in the Navy, a traditionalist asked me who would take care of me when I was old. I replied "A Filipina nurse, of course!!" Now I see that it doesn't have to be a nurse or even a woman. America isn't nearly as altruistic.
Interesting I am also 54 but I have 4 kids My answer to "who would take care of me when I am old" is myself. It is not my children's responsibility to take care of me, I didn't have children so I could put the burden on them to care for me. If I cannot take care of myself I would not want to continue in this world. Not saying others should feel the same way just my perspective
Having children as your 401K plan isn't "altruistic". Especially, when there many kids born into poverty in the hopes one will provide for them all. Peace.
The Culture there has never really been in that mindset, I believe a large part is media and movies and other factors. But you cant really say its bad because another culture is a way you like, just means its different
I have visited the Philippines many times and always have a lot of respect for the locals. The only trouble I ever witnessed was started by some drunk foreigners.
Thank you SO MUCH for explaining these "don't do" points, Pea! I once had an online friendship with a Filipina who I tried to wrestle out her marital status...for months! I never understood her answers, it seemed that we just kept talking in circles. I assumed it was my failure to translate tagalog properly or ask the right questions. I never did get a direct answer.🤔
Even a direct answer can be misleading... Some Filipinas will say SINGLE or "not married" if they are estranged from the husband. Do they know it's not true?... Sure, but somehow they don't see it as a lie despite the difference between "Western single" (divorced) culture and the Filipino forever married culture. Not getting a straight answer is FAR more than a red flag.😂 If you are single and she wants you, she'll jump through hoops to assure you that she is legally available. Get a CENOMAR. It's cheap and it's the only way of knowing for sure. Getting it out of the way early keeps you from wasting time, breaking up after bonding emotionally, AND offending a Filipina who thinks the relationship is "beyond" trust issues.
The last part of the video was really funny. This was another great video. I truly appreciate the details. From my prospective, common curtesy goes a long way. I appreciate the tips on the things that are more than common curtesy.
Shoes indoors...I grew up in NY where it's very cold most of the year. Shoes always on to stay warm. Now I live in AZ where it's very hot and it's very normal for bare feet. Flooring also changes with climate. In nY carpet is very common. In AZ tile and concrete floors are common which are cooler on bare feet.
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@@TheFilipinaPea i discovered this channel yesterday and i have already watched 10 videos . great job . i´m interested in your country and i want to visit one day so these tips are very helpful , although lots of them are just common sense - i myself as an european guy am embarrassed to see loud american or european tourists with bad manners (sometimes they just don´t realize it) and they give us all a bad name . i try to respect the culture of a country i want to visit and also it helps to get along with locals and avoid troubles .
Just came across this channel apart from your great advice and really good diction I'm enchanted by your personality are you single be in Philippines soon be amazing to meet you...
A good rule of thumb is to remember when you’re in a foreign country, you have NO RIGHTS! Getting in trouble is paramount to the authorities throwing you in a cell and tossing the key. Always research that country’s culture and abide by it no matter how rediculous you think it is.
I think it's not correct to use the expression "rights" here. Of course you have rights like everyone everywhere. It's about rules, derived directly from local culture. Learn them, preferably in advance.
@@microsoftbighard A lot depends on what part of the country you're at. My late wife and I hailed from a barrio and town not too far north from Clark AFB, and the province she came from was decidedly pro-American and socially conservative. A lot of my wife's friends and family members gave me a lot of leeway knowing I was American and was in some ways obtuse to the cultural differences between me and them. I only ran into trouble once, and that was in the area of politics. It was 1985, at our house in the barrio, we had a few people over, a couple dudes had had one too many, and began to berate my American self for no reason other than Reagan was the president, who extended some undeserved support for Ferdinand Marcos. These dudes were demanding that I explain myself, for no other reason than I was American and therefore by default supported Marcos and totalitarianism in the Philippines. Turns out that while Pangasinan was generally a pro-US province, our barrio sat literally within feet of the border with Tarlac -- a province that was decidedly ANTI-American, ANTI-Marcos, pro-Communist, and was the de facto HQ for the NPA (New People's Army). The local barrio captain was embarrassed over my treatment by these two dudes, but what could they do? There's factionalism in the PI just as much as the US - and they take it personally. So I would suggest that even if provoked, do not go down that rabbit hole -- especially in Mindanao. That can get you killed.
As as new subscriber, I am amazed of your knowledge of certain vernacular and euphemisms of the western language. Very impressive delivery and explanations of "west meets Asia". Please continue the great videos.
@@TheFilipinaPea another book I bought was called: 'introduction to Philippine law'. You could always buy it at National Bookstore with a blue cover. Just to have a good overview about rules!!
I bought that book 20+ years ago before meeting my future wife. It was a great help! Since our "Sweet Pea" wasn't around then with all her good advice and information, it was sooooo helpful then. I learned about manapo and many other cultural customs that allowed me to gain the approval of the Filinos I came into contact with from the very start. Most concise advice from this episode, "don"t be a douche!". Good advice anywhere and at all times. Thanks Pea!
Really good video, Pea. I especially appreciate the points about keeping one’s cool and being aware of the dangers of “loss of face.” That’s sound advice for pretty much everywhere I’ve been in Asia. Subbed! 😃
Here’s some things I’ve learned not to do in the Philippines from my own transgressions. Don’t accept an offer to be a judge at a local beauty contest. Those ladies take it serious and make football hooligans look like wimps. I call it the Filipina NFL. They play rough. No blood no foul. I have seen Filipinas crushed for life by a negative response from the audience. A wrong pick and you could end up as lechon. Don’t make jokes about their religion. For example my Filipinas first name is Esther. When I was introduced to her by name I quipped “Esther? Funny…you don’t look Jewish.”. That went over like a lead doughnut. Don’t ever, ever, ever tell your Filipina her sister is a better kisser. You will die! When dating a Filipina wear blinders. Cause if you accidentally look at another Filipina, and god help you if she’s a pretty one, you may be speaking as a soprano for a long time to come. Don’t get confused when doing mannapo and offer your hand to an elder for a blessing instead of the other way around. Not a way to get off to a good start. If you’re taking a shower with your Filipina and the water is abruptly cut off and she says Ay! Walang Tubig…don’t tell her friends she thinks you have a big banana. Never tell a Filipina she’s just like her Nanay. Never compliment your Filipinas hair when she’s having a bad hair day. This one is particularly difficult as you’ll have no idea, based on her appearance, that she’s having a bad hair day!
Hahaha!! The "Ay! Walang Tubig" thing happened with us! Of course, I didn't tell her friends, but I did laugh my ass off and spent the next 5 minutes trying to explain the "joke" that only I understood... What are the chances of seeing that here? 😂
Hello Pea good content as usual, I did want to ask about the activity from one of the volcanoes there in the Philippines I heard about. Are things ok, or look concerning. Always worried about you and the people
Pea, I watch your channel because I like to learn about the differences/similarities of Thai and Filipino culture and how they both differ from the US. 1. Politics - same here in Thailand. Immigration has a lot of discretion about who they will let in the country. Don’t piss them off. Thailand also has a lese majeste law where criticism of the monarchy will land you a lengthy prison term whether you are a foreigner or a Thai. 2. Pointing - same in Thailand 3. Complaining - what you described seems more like making sure you don’t cause someone to lose face. There are good and bad ways to negotiate something that displeases you. 4. In Thailand - no shoes in the house and no shoes in temples. In the US we wear shoes indoors and consequently don’t sit on the floor. 5. Elders - same in Thailand. The bonus for older expats in SE Asia is that we aren’t as invisible here as at home. 6. Fighting - never fight with a Thai. Never. You won’t win. 7. Food offered to you - same in Thailand. A least try everything. You don’t have to finish what is in front of you. In some cases expats are concerned about the sanitary conditions the food was cooked in. Listen. Locals get sick too. The food is probably OK. 8. Thai don’t shake hands. They 🙏 . I love this. Also a great way to greet people during a pandemic. 9. Here is a big difference! Thailand has divorce. Also if the woman was married in a village ceremony but not registered with the government then she is not really married. A much better situation here. 10. Too much 🍺. See # 6 11. Weird. You can sing what you want in a Thai karaoke bar (I think . . . ) 12. Last piece of food? I don’t know 🤷♂️
Everything in Thailand is way much better Can not compare The food in Thailand is top of the world Hotels are better and cheaper / cleaner Savety is fantastic in Thailand No armed guards needed The Philippines has a long way to go to reach half way of Thailand
10 was about getting drunk. I see foreigners getting drunk alone. No one bothered them. They get in trouble if they become belligerent or rude. Someone might even try to rob them. It's great advice even for locals.11 and 12 are a bit tongue-in-cheek. I've sung "My Way" off-key a few times and survived. The few who were killed were locals who got into fights with other locals who disliked their off-key singing. Those usually happened in seedy bars not visited by most locals. Lesson is to avoid seedy places. Sing all you want. I also ate the last pieces of food whenever no one wanted them. I do not like wasting food. Foreigners will not get in trouble for these. Just be respectful of people and you'll do fine. Foreigners get the benefit of the doubt in most cases.
Excellent video as always Pea...You know most of the guys on here suffer from Walter Mitty syndrome....they dream of living or retiring in the Philippines with a beautiful young Filipina...but sadly most are afraid to get on a plane and actually go....Your video's Pea gives them a glimpse of real life in the Philippines. While I'm not an expert on the PI...I know Thailand pretty well as I have lived there and visited it for 28 years....dang I'm getting old...but keep up the good work :)
@@TheFilipinaPea If you like spicy food thats delicious Thailand is the place for you. I love Thailand in a way it's more modern then any American city and still has the charm of the rural countryside in most of the country....Very little crime. I think you'd love it Pea...go for a month...you can get a B&B condo very cheaply...much better then a hotel for long term stays. :)
Thank you Pea. Always appreciate your videos here. Learnt something today. I always understood why leftovers are taken back home… secretly I always order more knowing that it appreciated back home. Missing Ph. Can’t wait to visit again soon.
The Filipina Pea is very good at what she does here in her videos, she is undoubtedly very talented, her presentation is brilliant, her speaking voice, her intonation, her pronunciation accent with the English language is certainly amongst the top 20% of native English languages speakers in the USA and the UK, not to mention the others English speaking countries around the world, I am writing this comment on the hope that someone with the right connections in the English speaking world, will realize that Pea is a person that should, initially, be helped to do much greater things in her professional life, be it in acting, live or cinema, which by what we see she seems very good at, but there must be many more roles, as a, say, reporter, interviewer on TV, news anchor and commentator any role where speaking and presentation skills are paramount, Pea should and I am sure would fulfill those roles brilliantly and professionally impeccably! and therefore helping her employer and bosses to get out of her in financial rewards much more than what it would cost them to employ her! There must be out there in the USA, UK, Australia, someone that if only would see Pea in action, so to speak, would indeed be very impressed and realize what an asset she can be to the company! I am only writing this comment on the hope that someone capable of helping will read it and take notice, I am only saying this because of what I see on her videos, I don't personally know Pea, I most probably will never meet her, it is just that I think it has to be said!
I think the best thing mentioned in this list was don't be a douche - definitely worth applying regardless of where you are in the world. The shoe thing I'm familiar with from visiting Thailand, you have to always remove your shoes when visiting a temple. I remember particularly Tiger Cave Temple near Krabi - it's quite a climb to reach the temple up around 1400 steps and then you arrive and take your shoes off before going onto the temple area at the top - the funny thing is the floor is tiled and had been baking in the sun all day (mid 30's celcius) so I ended up moving quickly between the shadows to stop burning my feet 😂
Learning all I can about PI, on my bucket list so planning to go for vacation 2-3 weeks at the most. Lot what you said I already know accept the touching or handshake. I am half Filipino from dad who migrated back in the late 1920s from Tarlac to Hawaii, he never went back ever or talked about it much, but I think he ran away. So Tarlac is where I will be going just to see where dad is from.
Hey Pea. I'd like to address the issue about respecting the elderly in the Philippines. I've heard about that many times over and for many years. And I've seen time and time again where perfectly healthy young people use the seniors line at the grocery store and their kids with their faces glued to the phone sitting in the seats provided for the elderly. I've seen the elderly get pushed and shoved out of the way at every single jeepnee terminal I've seen. Old people cast out onto the street because of what ever reason. People just totally and completely ignoring the elderly at any kind of a line and just bumping their way in front of them . In truth Pea; I really doubt that the Philippines is much more different than other countries. Now I've seen respect for the elderly in a family setting , but outside of that situation , respect for the elderly is very very lacking .
This is true I know this from experience in the town that I was living in I've seen old people that were tossed into the street and neglected by there grown up children but their excuse was that the parents had treated them poorly when they were young. I have also known people to neglect an elderly person that had a lot of money literally not taking good care of them until they died so that they could get a hold of their four million peso house. So you're exactly right although Filipinos when you first meet them are quite accepting and gracious and loving after you have lived around them for 20 years you will learn that they are just like everyone else in the world there are good and bad people everywhere.
yes, there are some incidents, especially in the big cities that the elders are maltreated and neglected, but majority (especially in the province or rural areas) still respects and takes care of the elders and the disabled.
Dear Ms Pea! ❤️ I commend you for using the correct expression "anyway", instead of the sloppy version "anyways", which is so common now. I really tells a lot about the level of refinement in a person. Keep up the miniskirt! 💋
Learning so much from a well informed person in you , your English is exellent Thanks for the heads up what not to do Michael from Australia ,just for the record I'm usually well behaved
I have had one question that has puzzled me for a long time. Why do many Filipinas have such a hard time when the person they like or love give them a compliment. It is almost as if they need affirmation of the original compliment to ensure you really mean it. So many Filipinas when talking with me point out what they perceive as personal flaws. The most notably is Morena skin tone. Many Filipinas are using whitening cream when most foreigners find a Morena to be exotic and sexy. I do understand from my many Thai friends that many in Thailand laugh at foreigners with darker skinned women as they think they are inferior. Here where I live with many women from the Caribbean and Latin America we appreciate that lovely tan glistening.
I don't know, it's common all over Asia. The theory usually quoted is that if you're poor, you're working in the sun getting dark. If you're wealthy, you're inside not working, getting white.
In the case of Koreans, they also want to appear as Western as possible. For instance, some undergo surgery to make their epicanthic fold visible. Filipinos want to appear different by having fairer skin. In the same way, white people want to appear different by having tanned skin. White people sit around tables under the sun to get a tan, whereas we Filipinos look for a shaded area to sit.
The "saving face" aspect always makes me scratch my head. It is okay to lie, steal, and cheat but do not cause a liar, thief, or cheater to lose face. I attribute it to the Spaniards. Maraming maraming salamat for the videos!
Huh that is so true I've learned this from extensive experience. When I first moved into my village I took pity on everyone and since I had a lot of money I loaned those who asked for help and then years later when I was hurting and could no longer afford to I became the source of chismis you know what chismis is. They assumed that I was just greedy or stingy. When for years I had hired literally a dozen of the men in the village too help on projects that I had and they had even talked about me like I was some kind of Angel because if I hadn't been there they would all be starving because they had no job. It's it's neat how your kindness can be held against you.
Thats a rule there kindness is seen as weakness. Whatever you do for these people will never be appreciated. They are very greedy and will always ask for more. Once the spend all of your money they will abandon you in a heartbeat and you will be wandering around eating out of garbage cans. They are very adept at smiling to your face and backstabbing you once you leave. They only want the foreigner's money and secretly don't like foreigners. @@drewmurdaugh6264
That is a GREAT point, the one about complaining. Yeah, I've been here in the Philippines for over a decade and complacency gets me VERY angry at times, particularly when it comes to hiring workers to do any kind of meticulous labor requiring a degree of acceptable skill. I often find people asking for rather high labor costs for everything but even when I accept, the quality of work I get is more often than not.. pure GARBAGE! Then I get on my complaining tirade that lasts across many days and many issues. It is like a cancer and constant complaining reduces quality of life and everything just negatively suffers because of it. I have to be particularly careful about it because I'm a rather big guy, 6'2 and about 230lbs (105 kg) and I have a loud deep voice. So, when I get upset and speak with even a minor elevation to my voice, EVERYONE is looking at me and it causes an uncomfortable bit of attention that could easily make things worse. So, as much as I want to beat the f**k out of some people, it is best I just bite down and accept it and learn how to navigate AROUND any future situations of similarity.
@@tomriddle6968 It ought to, but more often than not, it sure as hell DOESN'T! I've never seen an entire nation proud to the gills of simple mediocrity, before now.
Damn. I'm so glad I'm reading all this now. No way I'm going there and living the way Pea says. That's not living to me. All your ways can be seen as aggressive just being upset and raising your voice? Nah man I'll pass on that.
Hiring contractors and workers is hit or miss, even for locals. The good ones are usually employed or too busy. It’s harder to find talent in the provinces. Building standards are much lower. You need to specify what you need to be done. You might even have to train them if you know how. I wonder if the TESDA-trained workers are better.
We have a lot of new people moving to Texas from other states. We Texans offer advice as well: Don't have a meltdown when you see people with a pistol on their hip. It's normal. Don't tell us how great the state you left was. Why did you leave if it was so great? Don't be offended by spanish speaking Texans. We love them. Be nice when driving. If you have a fender bender it's more likely than not the other driver is armed. You moved to a "red" conservative state. If we wanted to be a blue liberal state you wouldn't have come here. Don't stoke hate and discontent. We all pretty much get along and did so before you came. We speak slowly and clearly because we want to be understood: not because we rode the "little bus" to skool (snicker). We already know it's hot and humid here. No need to tell us that every 20 minutes.
@John Grigg Of course we do John. Texans have a long memory and don't accept cowardice. The cops who were yellow will carry that shame wherever they end up at. On the school security it's not a simple solution. Killer was a mentally ill dope fiend who somehow came up with $5000.00 for the weapons,ammo,spare magazines,etc. He hasn't worked in at least 2 years and was an 18 year old high school dropout. Too many questions unanswered to formulate a workable plan forward.The school was supposed to be locked and secured during class hours. It wasn't. The school district has armed school resourse officers on duty:ineffective and cowardly.The killer was a mentally ill dope fiend and his tool of choice was an AR. Maybe fix mental illness and rampant drug use?There is no simple solution.
Question! If a few guys attempt to rob me by force and try to break my nose, am I allowed to defend myself? I'm not the kind of guy that would willingly give up any money to robbers. That's just the way I am. Believe me, I don't like to fight, I hate fighting, but I would feel compelled to defend myself.
Yes, of course. It's rare for a foreigner to robbed by force especially if he's big. They like to prey on vulnerable people unless they have a gun. If they do, I suggest you do as what many locals will do. The horror stories are mainly about theft and scams. We also have pickpockets in public places and transport. Bring small pocket money if you plan to walk around in notorious districts. Avoid going to places locals don't go especially at night.
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Glad you cleared that up Pea! I thought you were trying to kiss me! LOL😜
Can you use a open palm to gesture in their way? I know that is acceptable in some other places?
Pea, if a beautiful police woman, wearing short shorts, approached me; ... I would try very hard to get detained by her. 😉
Drinking alone until 2 AM and staggering home with your arm around a married woman while singing My Way…what could could possibly go wrong?
It might rain! 😁😁😁
And don’t forget to trip the old lady with a cane 😂
Too funny. I lmfao
I will be OK so... just staying on a uninhabited island and going fishing! 😁😁😁
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My last trip to the philippines, I usually greet the locals with a "good day" or "hi/hello". I've made it a habit to avoid physical contact since the philippines is so serious about covid restrictions. I greet everyone I come across since it's still a new world that I thoroughly enjoy. I hope to befriend many filipinos there someday but I hope they don't view me as someone that can financially help them, there's only 1 person I'm able to financially help and thats my lady. She's my top priority in the philippines for many reasons including taking care of me while I'm there, watching my back wherever she goes with me, she picks out the food she wants us to eat out or at home and I buy it for us, she translates everything for me since I don't understand tagalog yet and she's very protective and possessive of me, not in a bad way of course, I welcome everything she does for me and I trust in her. For those reasons, I do my best to take care of her and help every chance I get, sometimes I pick her up and carry her when she gets tired (it embarrasses her but she also loves it, she always says PDA is not a big thing there), I also tend to walk in front of her to keep the crowd from walking into her and she'll tell me where to go or turn by touching my hand. We have a very unique way of bonding with each other and we never once fought or argued, I always do my best to keep everything I do positive for her and I'm always supportive of her. We both go above and beyond for each other and we are pretty much mirrors of each other despite me being her polar opposite, because of that we are pretty much cemented into each others lives.
Many Filipinos are naturally friendly and curious. People talk to me from all walks of life without obviously expecting something in return. We are interested in people and their stories. We like good vibes. Many of us are just shy or wary of strangers. Some people take time to warm up to locals or foreigners. I personally find it awkward to greet people I pass on the street. I do not know people who do that. But I will engage in small talk with someone who initiates it. I am personally curious about the increasing number of foreigners in my community. The ones I talked to were usually the ones who initiated our conversations. Many of us are insecure about our English-speaking skills, although most can probably understand you. Foreigners who stay longer time than the usual tourists will find friends.
Glad someone felt free to make a statement that wasn't "over the top" or accusatory! Thank you!
That sounds like a friendship and love to me.
Pea,
One other thing. When I was there with my wife, I learned if her family manipulated me, I would talk with her about it, never talk directly to them. She is my filter. She is bicultural and understands how to interpret western ideas into Philippino. I love her so deeply for doing this. Guys, your Filipina, if she has any understanding about western culture, is the person to vent with, NOT at, when it comes to certain situations, particularly with family. I am exceptionally blessed to be her husband.
And she's blessed to have YOU. Don't forget that.
simplify it with this spelling:
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@@DarkR0ze I HATE autocorrect!!!!!!! I didn't even know this stupid computer did that until I looked at my response just now 😐 😒......
@@brentbackman2911 Well there you go breaking rule #3. No complaining. Just kidding. I love to complain which is not the same as whining.
As a wise man once said: “Some people aren’t happy unless they are not happy”.
I’m an Amer-kano who has lived here in the Philippines since 2007 with my wife of 49 years. I’m not planning on EVER leaving the Philippines, so I definitely avoid doing things that would get the attention of people at places like the Bureau of Immigration, etc., etc. For you foreigners plannjng on visiting the Pnilippines, please pay attention to this young lady’s advice. It will help you have a nice stay here in this beautiful country.
I never travel to 3rd world countries
I am Ross from Brisbane . Australia . I agree with all your comments . Respect is paramount . When you go to another country, you have to adopt the customs . In Thailand, you cannot point your foot at someone .
I'd follow those rules all over Southeast Asia. The cultures are different, but morally the countries are pretty similar. ❤
God bless everyone stay happy healthy and safe 🙏🙏🙏
Living in Thailand at the moment and I concur dr.
It was a couple towns south, of Vigan city, coming into a township, it mentioned the people ahead lived under the rule of , "No Lazy People , No Gossiping, No Smoking(many towns, actually), I was quite surprized! Esp. , gossiping is a filipina staple!!
Beyond not "dating" married women, you might not want to date women with "exs" in government, law enforcement, legal (ie lawyers), or anyone else that could mess with you just for fun cause you are with their ex. It's a good general rule no matter where you live.
Grow a pair, big man. Yours is bigger than his. Yours have more hair. Your exotic coconuts are more desirable than his local coconuts.
If her ex gives you issues, simply take his girlfriend from him, his next one, and the next one.
Change your middle name to creampie 😉💯👊
Very true you need to do your "homework"....
Good point 👍😊
So, any woman who ever was with such a person in any kind of relationship is to live in celibacy.
Not many guys are going to be doing that as these Filipina’s generally date Filipino’s and of a similar age …most Filipina’s that have dated or married to civic Filipino’s know that generally dating outside a relationship is simply no no.
I am sitting in Bangkok waiting for my flight to Siem Reap, Cambodia. While listening to Pea talk about the Philippines.
Gotta love S. E. ASIA... AND I DO!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I was planning to retire back ‘home’ after being away from the Philippines for more than 40 years. Your Vlog just reminded me the reasons why I couldn’t wait to leave Philippines in the first place when I was young. 😊Thank you. Well done. I owe you one.
Ha ha priceless Teresa
Sounds a bit one sided for the Philippines in
my opinion. I guess everyone has their own
customs.
I think I'll stay right here in the good old USA. (Smile)
We may not be perfect, but after hearing this...
We are headof the curve. LOL!
Stay safe and healthy.
Peace
@@redzone1019 its not about being "one sided" its about giving information when your going to another country with another culture. I mean its just make sense "when in Rome, do what the Romans do".
Who the hell turns down lechon?
From the sound of it I would be in a fight before I left the airport.
What a big different in culture of Filipino and western world. Really interesting to know it. Thanks Pea.
Thanks!
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Well pea now I know that you actually got my donation I will be sending you more because you and your videos are worth a lot more to me in my eyes and since I am looking for a wife to marry over there I may just be traveling over there and if and when I do it would be a pleasure to meet you I am sucking up all your videos now to my brain so I will be well informed when I do get there soon I hope
Now if I can remember how to donate to you again we will be in good shape hahaha
Very informative Pea. I already lived for 2 years in your country and I know that a humble attitude and being polite and respectful under all circumstances take you a long way.
As with visiting anywhere, it's always a good idea to adapt to the culture. It really does save a lot of hassles.
Fair enough for foreigners as guests in the Philippines...but not challenging those in power is precisely what's keeping corrupt police and politicians from being held accountable. .
Yes, but it can also get you and your family killed. To really change things, you need strength in numbers. But that often starts with a few brave individuals.
They just voted a corrupt family into the presidency! But we shouldn't complain because America voted for the Trump mobster family. Corruption doesn't recognize any national borders. If it's not your country keep all opinions to yourself and you'll be much safer.
Good righteous point sir and just so welcome. I think she is giving tips to “foreigners “ on how to behave
Tips on how to survive…. Thank you Pea
True
A lot of that is basic politeness that people should be doing wherever they are in the world. Your weird is one of the reasons you're so lovely Pea! Take care, we need you to mind our manners 😊❤🥰
I live in Canada which is considered to be a polite country. However, I do respect cultures that are considered to be more frank.
I’ll mind you Pea’s and Q’s for you 😂
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@@TheFilipinaPea Hey Pea....do you know what "Ps and Qs" mean?
It's an old Navy term that means "pints and quarts" and the sailors had beer rations and you had to "mind them" so not to go over your limit, lest you get into trouble!
@@someguy861 lol not anymore with Trudeau 😂🤣
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Lots of useful and relevant advice here, thanks Pea. It’s easy to appear impolite or rude, just by acting the way that is customary in your own country and not realising it’s offensive. Understanding the culture and customs will go a long way to ensuring an enjoyable and problem free experience. Another great topic.
Respectfully Sir, I would think just being respectful to everyone and open to a new culture and your not an arrogant jerk off; you will be fine
You're very smart miss Pea
Pea, If there are only 12 things not to do, it's easy ;) Although I might disagree with no. 11 - karaoke bars are best for meeting friendliest Filipinos in the world - some might not know how to sing, but be sure you will be offered free beer and will make friends very easily there! :) Even though it might not be some university professors singing there, but construction workers, seamen and other normal people like that - again it depends how you treat people, if you treat them as your equal and don't judge them based on their social status, they will be friendly back to you! And usually this are the best, the friendliest and the most generous people you can meet!!!
Thank you Pea ! I enjoyed adding all of these to my "preparing to leave for heaven(Philippines)" list ! In a single breath I recap and try to memorize: No Politics, Pointing or comPLaining, no shoes no elder disrespecting no heated argument, no rejecting food, handshakes, dating married woman, public drunkenness or getting into a brawl and, most importantly, No singing My Way from Sinatra and no taking the last piece of food!
Can’t wait…..
You’ve got it, Mat 😂👍
Good advice all
I found no need to worry about the last piece of food as their was never any left!
"Don't be a douche, Mat "
1. Stay out of politics.
2. Pointing at someone.
3. Complaining
4. Wearing shoes in a house.
5. Don't disrespect elders.
6. Don't get in a heated argument.
7. Don't reject food.
8. No firm handshakes.
9. Don't date married women - even if separated.
10. Don't get drunk in public.
11. Don't sing "My Way".
12. Don't eat the last piece of food on a plate.
@@ppumpkin3282 You have to eat whatever is offered but can't eat the last chicken wing.
Better do not go to the Philippines 😂😂😂 and keep your normal life 😂
@@Justwantahoverit's like don't take last cigarette from the other person pack in jail....
And Don't buy a Vehicle and Bring it back to a Filipino. Forget it and FIX it. I bought a second Vehicle for P160,000. I had to put P40,000 Into it. And Don't lend it to FILIPINO. They don't even purchase Gas. Lol
Philippine Cultural Specialist Pea: You are very thoughtful to educate us about this. Especially now since the country is opening up and Americans and other foreigners are traveling to the Philippines. All twelve (12) make great understanding for me. I believe Americans and other foreigners will find that the Philippines and Filipino people are really gracious and understanding. They try to help you so much in my opinion from living there in the past. Always enjoy the Police skit so much and I thank you for educating us so much. Paradise in the Philippines is wonderful.
True, but keep in mind that many are friendly and helpful because they are setting to up for the future that could be a big load they never intend to repay, getting you to by house in there name etc. There are many cases of foreigners ending up on the streets with nothing. Yes there are many good Filipinos but be very careful.
It's always wise to know what not to do in a new environment. From my own travels, I was taught to remember that I'm a guest when in someone else's country. So this advice is well received. I plan to visit in September if all goes well. This was a very informative video Pea.
I’m glad that it helped 👍😊❤️
You are the right person for this job, very informative and well-mannered person.
You continue to be a trusted source of good information. I have been in the Philippines for slightly more than a month, and you still guide me in my journey.
You'd better stop those drunken walks home in dark alleys with that married girl singing "My Way", now. Still, it was a good month while it lasted, right?
How’s it going so far? 😊
@@TheFilipinaPea it is going very well. My GF has a good family that accepts me, and I am being pampered. I do hope, however, the apron strings get loosened a little bit soon because I really CAN cut up my own meat like a big boy! Lol
@@xpusostomos ha ha nice one!
One more comment, having been in the military and visiting the Philippines in the past along with many other places. I understand the importance of observing the culture of where you are. Many things are different from here in the states. My girlfriend and I talk a lot about when I come there. She wants me to try many foods. I have told her some may be off my menu.
I think respecting your elders is common knowledge everywhere in the world it should be. I always respect my elders. Older people I pay special attention to to help them in their time of need whether they are stranger or not
Great advice for avoiding the cultural mine field. I will always treat people with respect but just because I'm the foreigner in a country, doesn't mean that I will ignore blatant hostility or disrespect. If I am left alone, I'm as easy going as the next person. Verbal abuse runs off my back like water. Hostile physical contact will result in one or both of us being in the hospital or worse. I've even been in situations where a police officer or judge has become verbally disrespectful and then discover that no further conversation is possible as I will not verbally acknowledge them anymore. Take care Pea.
i agree 100 % the phil is cool but it is NOT the only country that is nice to visit on planet earth . they should be as grateful for me to be here as i am grateful to them for being able to be here . I am a nice guy but dont bother me with non sense about your culture ... how crazy is it for people to be offended at a foreinger being disrespectful to a filipino when most of the homeless people who are treated like garbage in this country ore elderly pinoy people ... and that does not even cover the way babies and kids are treated . No fines or penealties for parents who carry their babies in their lap when driving or riding a motor bike ... kids begging on the street 24 hours a day 7 days a week ... .they need to focus on fixing themselves before they worry about foreigners .
Noel (whose real name is KAREN) do us all a favor and go back to Berkley
"I will not verbally acknowledge them anymore"
"will result in one or both of us being in the hospital or worse."
I see that police and even JUDGES tremble before you!
Oh My, KAREN Shar, you are one dangerous Bad A**. Are you going to "Speak To The Manager" LOL LOLOLOL
@@rogerdevero8726 from a guy with a cute kitten as his profile pic…😂. It sounds like the sense of entitlement that has become rampant in western society. One of the reasons I enjoy being in the Philippines is you don’t see much of a sense of entitlement.
Hi "Sweet Pea"...All your words in this video are "Words of wisdom". Interesting enough they also apply in most Countries with a large Latino presence like, Spain, Puerto Rico, Santo Domingo, Cuba, Mexico, Central & South America. These places, like the Philipines, were highly Influenced in passed Times by the Spaniard culture, to the point that when commiting one of the offenses you just mentioned, the "Perp" might find themselves slapped on the face with a Leather glove and "invited" to a Duel. ( wich were Outlawed all over the world long time ago and still happens). I learned looong time ago that Politics are only addressed In Voting Poll Lines by Voting. Religion is a No Trespass Zone for most humans. Family is, Do Not cross that Line, EVER.( specially with "Abu"San, & "PapaSan"). Have a Sunny day..!
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True, but in the Philippines, you have the added SE Asian culture to deal with. Similar to Thailand. At least, with Latinos, you are still talking to Western people, but in the PH, you also have to mind that East- West cultural gap.
@@martinmomu9141 What does this have to do with Filipino culture?
@TheFilipinaPea I really enjoy your videos, I am watching them daily. Even though I have been to the Philippines multiple times (all through the military, only once personally), I am shocked hearing what a lot of foreigners are doing or thinking. All I can say is if your not a duck and allow the water to roll off your back, do not bother going to the Philippines. They do not own or control the Philippines, they are guests. I have the highest respect for the Philippine and the citizens of the Philippines. I recently met my future Filipina wife on a dating site, and she is currently working a work contract. When she completed the contract, we both will be moving to the Philippines. I had never learned what true love is, until I met her. I have met a few Filipinas over the years, but I know she is golden. I am excited to start our adventures together. Back to your videos, you have really gave me a great learning experience, and really enjoy hearing your thoughts and information. Thank you again for such a goldmine of information.
Many of the things you mention would apply to many other countries as well. I would say about 80% of what you mentioned would apply to the Caribbean. I just love officer Pea. 👍🌴
You're very educational thank you for your videos 😊
Ive never been to the filipines. The more i watch of your content the more i want to go. To me it sounds like a polite, traditional, respectful, society. The rules and expectations sound very reasonable to me.
That's a lot of good advice for anyone that travels anywhere.
In the beginning you mentioned politics. There's nothing I hate worse than people coming to America and complaining about our way of life. Most of these people came here for more freedom and better way of life. Within a month many of them are taking advantage of that freedom and are out protesting on the streets about how terrible it is here.
America is one of the most generous and accepting countries in the world.
I like the idea that the Philippines will boot your butt out and not allow you back.
I'll have to remember about shaking hands there. In our culture, shaking hands is a sign of personal respect and welcome. It is also a sign of a person's Bond or Word. That's why videos like yours are very important. It would be terrible to unknowingly disrespect someone.
I would love to visit the Philippines one day. You have a beautiful country with so many wonderful things to see. My personal experience with Filipinos here in America has always been very positive. They always seem to be happy and in good spirits and caring of others.
I have subscribed and will continue to watch your videos.
~ Stay healthy, happy, and safe ~
Most of these apply to the whole of SE Asia (e.g Thai 'wai' greeting and hierarchy) and a few - like shoes off - apply in the west too. I always ask, especially in a fancy house.
Slippers were 'house shoes' traditionally in the UK, and country houses/farms often have 'boot rooms' where all outside muddy boots and shoes are left. City dwellers with pavements and hard floors don't really bother so much...😁
Over in America, those are called 'mud rooms' much the same it for people out in the country not so much the city folk. Though, less people wear house shoes/slippers in America than i am comfortable with. I always got weird looks for the first thing I would do when entering a house is take my shoes off.
Not in America
All of it sounds like good advice and a lot of it is not specific to your country but true for many Asian countries. Thank you for a good channel.
As usual … you’re the best. Another “no no” I learned years ago in the Philippines is to never call a Filipino over by curling your index finger. Instead turn your hand upside down and use all your fingers.
Good one Travis. Reading your comment caused me to spit out my morning coffee. That was a difficult habit for me to break but I caught on.
That's true everywhere in Asia.
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Oh… I forgot …. When you do the full hand call you need to add … “Psssst Psssst Psssst”
@@OsideTEM Why is it bad to use your finger ? I don't understand.
In the United States at least, a doggy bag just means you're taking food home; usually a person will eat it. It's just an expression
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You are not weird as you claim. You are an honest and real woman who is intelligent and is trying to help others with useful information about her culture for anyone who wants to live in your beautiful country. America has been a depressing, hopeless nightmare because of the people for many years now. I am leaving it for the Philippines as soon as I have saved up enough. (I'm not a retiree...I'm younger than that.) Thank you, "Pea", you have given me some hope again for happiness, warmth, love and friendship after I have had no reasons to have any hope at all for such a long time.
More great advice for those going to the Phillipines.
Thanks Lou - it’s what I do 😂👍
@@TheFilipinaPea And you do it so well. That's why we watch your videos and rely on your advice Pea. Thank you.
Every culture needs to be respected. As a visitor it’s good to be aware of these things.
Well, it depends on what aspect of the culture your are talking about. Is some cultures they have child brides. I do not respect that aspect. Others have female circumcision, which in my opinion is barbaric. I do not respect that. I'm NOT saying that is in the Philippines but in other parts of the world. No I do not respect every aspect of EVERY culture.
@@laserbeam002 as a guest it’s not your place to lecture people in their home country. That “American” mentality could be personally dangerous pontificating on locals in their homeland. Get back home and get on a megaphone, you can have freedom of speech but you’re not immune to the consequences.
@@laserbeam002 Some cultures even have male circumcision, which some people consider barbaric.
Then some places allow the casual carrying of guns in public, whereas others would consider that a no-no.
Anything others do that we do not do is barbaric, but if in Rome then do as the Romans do (for, to the Romans, we too would have been barbarians, unless you are a Roman).
Respect attacking openly LGBT people here in PH is okay? One example of many, perhaps you meant to say understood, but respected no. I am in PH now, not my first rodeo, but having underage prostitutes all over too, I dare not respect that, understand it, but not respect. Not trying to be antagonistic, so sorry if it comes off that way.
No not all cultures deserve respect...i mean when you're there be smart about it and fake it
Thanks! Good tips, I will keep them on my list!!
15:53 I suppose this could be spoken where ever you go and its basic politeness. Pea is more candid than usual in this particular video, love it. lol
Thanks, DB - this was one of my casual ‘off the cuff’ chats. If people like the style better, I sure won’t waste 20 hours a week on writing scripts 😂👍
@@TheFilipinaPea Casual notes are fine.
@@TheFilipinaPea I like it and its funny too lol
Hi Pea, in most of the Asian countries people don't enter houses with shoes on. It is a practice in India too. It is also advisable to a visitor not to meddle in the politics of the host country. One foreign RUclipsr got his visa extension rejected for participating in a demonstration against the local government. Good content.
India Southeast Asia😃
It is rude in Canada as well.
@@GusgusA1 Chad is right. At the very least you should ask before entering.
Rude in most African countries too.
In Canada we take our shoes off too. I think it’s an American thing keeping your shoes on.
Wow thank you so much , such valuable advise . I’m so glad you. Are educating us . Such valuable information !
Well... these "things" just made me change my mind of ever visiting Philippines ... Thank you !!!
It’s sad but true, but you’ll only ever be regarded as a walking ATM machine…….
The Beatles liked their stay there. I mean was it too much of an ask to put on a free concert for first lady Imelda?
Yeah, really was looking forward to visiting the country but some of those things sound kind of over the top. Glad she's so honest about it, I guess?
Well, I mean, you could probably say similar things about nearly every other country and the probability of one of those things actually happening to you may be close to zero but still...
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Regardless of your status as a foreigner (retired or working, single or dating/married to a Filipina, etc.) always think of yourself as a guest at someone's house and act accordingly.
If you think of yourself as a guest then how can you ever feel at home?
@@joshduncan1216 what he meant is be aware of the culture and act accordingly. Learn to adjust and behave and as much as possible be cool and friendly esp. u r a forreigner bec Filipinos are used to the friendly Americans in there not a rude foreigner.
“When you’re in Rome…”!
I.e. When you’re in Paris say “Bon hour!” when you enter a shop and do not ignore the shopkeeper. It’s simple and will make life much easier. Do not talk loudly on the Metro, buses or other public places. Don’t get upset when served a cold drink without ice. You won’t lose your life over any of this but it’s the same principle.
that's a shitty way of putting it. If you were a guest - you wouldn't be paying money to stay there....
Thank you for all the information you give. You are very wise.
Pea, you did another awesome job. Thank you for putting so much effort into your videos.
You’re so welcome, Chris 👍😊
I would fit right in with Asian/Filipino culture, especially in the area of shoes. Every time I come home I always take my shoes off. The no finger pointing is going to be very hard though.
You’ll probably point without thinking about it. No big deal, we know you do it 😊
There is one way to look at it ! As you point one finger 3 come back to you, I try to use my whole hand to point with the palm up but after being married to a Filipina for many years I do use my lips to point in the Philippines.
@@TheFilipinaPea Just be careful which finger you use to point with.
I was raised here in Canada to always take our shoes off indoors.
@@donskuse2194 I always wondered what was wrong with Canuks ,, now i know :) TEASING mate :)
I spent the day watching different videos and being informed by you the pros and cons and behaviors to be aware of. You are very bright and entertaining while being believable and the truth you speak is very recognizable. If I was looking for a Filipina I would want you or a clone exactly like you. You have a beautiful spirit and truly want to help others and that is like gold. Keep up the good work and keep smiling, you're very lovely.
Amazingly I've sang My Way many times in the Philippines, and I got a little too tipsy there as well, but your gracious people took care of me and made sure that I got back to my hotel safely. Here in the States, I would have been robbed or worse.
Me, gosh I never knew about this My way story. Hope I was in tune. Ha ha
LOL, back in 82 I spent 9 months in the military and was black out drunk many times and was never robbed.
That's based on isolated incidents that morphed into a local morbid inside joke about tempting fate. The dudes who were killed got into fights with fellow Filipinos because they felt insulted when other guys laughed at or criticized their singing. It's a "face" thing. These incidents happened in seedy bars that even locals with good sense avoid. Avoid seedy bars especially if alone.
You had me wanting me to go to the Philippines from watching all of your videos, but after this one, I'm actually wondering if I should show up. I have this bad habit of answering questions bluntly if asked, but at least I give them the "do you really want to know" warning first.
You don 't have a bad habit , you have bad manners. How hard is it to be positive and polite?
You're an adult. I'm sure you can adjust.
Thanks for sharing, I had no idea some of those things. Thank you
Incredibly helpful video....keeps you from learning the hard way...teaching respect and cultural difference can make the difference between an enjoyable experience or a disaster.....great info video Pea!!!.....I'm sure you have saved some expats a lot of misery
If I just saved one, from a merciless ass-kicking 😂
Pea, this is another great video as always but I feel Filipinos are really good people.
I think your advice is good but I haven't really had a bad experience (yet) in the Philippines and was there twice on 2022.
My Filipina's friends and family are really nice and the karaoke bar we went to was amazing. I don't act like the "typical" American so maybe that helped?
I don't know...
Handcuffs and everything 🤪..I did scroll over adds.. but I didn't realize it would get me a full cavity search 😳🤣🤣
Great video Pea ❤️
Another great video, Pea. There are a few things on this list that i was unaware of, which is somewhat surprising considering that I've been married to my Filipina wife for 23 years. She hasn't lived there for about 30 years, so she might learn a new thing or two herself. 😆
The taking the last piece of food happened to me. I think they set me up though, they all told me to take it if I really wanted it and I did, their reaction was shock and teasing haha 😂 I won't soon forget that lesson learned
So true I used to cook for up to 10 Filipino kids staying at our house these were teenagers and at the end of the meal when there was always a little something left I always said hey you know finish it up I don't want it to go to waste because what happens is that last little bit gets put in a little bowl stuck in the refrigerator and either thrown out later or fed to the dog which I guess isn't wasting it but I didn't realize that that's why everybody left something on the serving plate but not on their own plate.
LOL, your outtakes are quite funny!👍
Living overseas since 1988 and what u said could apply to dozens of counties. Learn about the foreign culture and be culturally sensitive. Never cause locals, especially powerful locals to lose face. Just remember you are a visitor, not a citizen. Be very low key till you understand what not to do. That can take years sometimes.
All of these are so true!! A few extras might be...
- Always get seconds or risk insulting your host that their food isn't good.
- Don't use "Kuya" or "Ate" if the person is younger than you. If you're unsure it's better to use "Pare" or "Mare"
- First names are seldom used, but every Filipino has a nickname(s) that they are commonly referred too, especially in the province. So don't be surprised when your girl starts answering to names you're not familiar with.
- Assume that everyone around you can understand what you're saying in English, because they can. Don't think you're not being listened too just because none of the locals are speaking any English.
- If you speak Tagalog to a girl you just met, be prepared for 20 questions about how you learned those words. She will suspect another girl is responsible. 🤣🤣🤣
Hahahahaha
Your last point is SO true 😂😂😂
Thank you for your material . It has kind of helping me to understand my filipino cousins
The rule about elders bodes well for me. I'm 54 and I have no kids. Years ago, when I knew nothing about the Philippines other than that my dad was stationed at Subic Bay during his first years in the Navy, a traditionalist asked me who would take care of me when I was old. I replied "A Filipina nurse, of course!!" Now I see that it doesn't have to be a nurse or even a woman. America isn't nearly as altruistic.
Interesting I am also 54 but I have 4 kids
My answer to "who would take care of me when I am old" is myself. It is not my children's responsibility to take care of me, I didn't have children so I could put the burden on them to care for me. If I cannot take care of myself I would not want to continue in this world. Not saying others should feel the same way just my perspective
Having children as your 401K plan isn't "altruistic". Especially, when there many kids born into poverty in the hopes one will provide for them all. Peace.
The Culture there has never really been in that mindset, I believe a large part is media and movies and other factors. But you cant really say its bad because another culture is a way you like, just means its different
@@mrhallman64 that easy to say at 54…
It’s strange. I’m Filipino and I find America and Americans quite altruistic and charitable among all peoples of the world.
I have visited the Philippines many times and always have a lot of respect for the locals. The only trouble I ever witnessed was started by some drunk foreigners.
So true its rare for filipinos to start fights
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Thank you SO MUCH for explaining these "don't do" points, Pea! I once had an online friendship with a Filipina who I tried to wrestle out her marital status...for months! I never understood her answers, it seemed that we just kept talking in circles. I assumed it was my failure to translate tagalog properly or ask the right questions. I never did get a direct answer.🤔
If you don’t get an immediate answer, it’s time to move on 👍
Even a direct answer can be misleading... Some Filipinas will say SINGLE or "not married" if they are estranged from the husband. Do they know it's not true?... Sure, but somehow they don't see it as a lie despite the difference between "Western single" (divorced) culture and the Filipino forever married culture.
Not getting a straight answer is FAR more than a red flag.😂 If you are single and she wants you, she'll jump through hoops to assure you that she is legally available. Get a CENOMAR. It's cheap and it's the only way of knowing for sure.
Getting it out of the way early keeps you from wasting time, breaking up after bonding emotionally, AND offending a Filipina who thinks the relationship is "beyond" trust issues.
Get a cenomar
In any culture I know of, no answer gives you your answer.
@@_Common_Logic_ what’s a CENOMAR?
The last part of the video was really funny. This was another great video. I truly appreciate the details. From my prospective, common curtesy goes a long way. I appreciate the tips on the things that are more than common curtesy.
So true Pea. Even in our culture (not Filipino) pointing at anyone with ur finger will land u in trouble too😎
Shoes indoors...I grew up in NY where it's very cold most of the year. Shoes always on to stay warm. Now I live in AZ where it's very hot and it's very normal for bare feet. Flooring also changes with climate. In nY carpet is very common. In AZ tile and concrete floors are common which are cooler on bare feet.
Our floors are often … plywood 😂
Useful advice. Thank you.
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@@TheFilipinaPea i discovered this channel yesterday and i have already watched 10 videos . great job .
i´m interested in your country and i want to visit one day so these tips are very helpful , although lots of them are just common sense -
i myself as an european guy am embarrassed to see loud american or european tourists with bad manners (sometimes they just don´t realize it)
and they give us all a bad name . i try to respect the culture of a country i want to visit and also it helps to get along with locals and avoid troubles .
Just came across this channel apart from your great advice and really good diction I'm enchanted by your personality are you single be in Philippines soon be amazing to meet you...
A good rule of thumb is to remember when you’re in a foreign country, you have NO RIGHTS! Getting in trouble is paramount to the authorities throwing you in a cell and tossing the key. Always research that country’s culture and abide by it no matter how rediculous you think it is.
Ermmm you do have rights. Just different ones than you may be used to.
I think it's not correct to use the expression "rights" here. Of course you have rights like everyone everywhere. It's about rules, derived directly from local culture. Learn them, preferably in advance.
I hear all this stuff, all these rules and all sounding tense. But it wasn’t anything like that while actually visiting there.
The floating shit we are currently receiving in the U.K. from France seems to have many rights.
@@microsoftbighard A lot depends on what part of the country you're at. My late wife and I hailed from a barrio and town not too far north from Clark AFB, and the province she came from was decidedly pro-American and socially conservative. A lot of my wife's friends and family members gave me a lot of leeway knowing I was American and was in some ways obtuse to the cultural differences between me and them.
I only ran into trouble once, and that was in the area of politics. It was 1985, at our house in the barrio, we had a few people over, a couple dudes had had one too many, and began to berate my American self for no reason other than Reagan was the president, who extended some undeserved support for Ferdinand Marcos. These dudes were demanding that I explain myself, for no other reason than I was American and therefore by default supported Marcos and totalitarianism in the Philippines.
Turns out that while Pangasinan was generally a pro-US province, our barrio sat literally within feet of the border with Tarlac -- a province that was decidedly ANTI-American, ANTI-Marcos, pro-Communist, and was the de facto HQ for the NPA (New People's Army). The local barrio captain was embarrassed over my treatment by these two dudes, but what could they do? There's factionalism in the PI just as much as the US - and they take it personally. So I would suggest that even if provoked, do not go down that rabbit hole -- especially in Mindanao. That can get you killed.
As as new subscriber, I am amazed of your knowledge of certain vernacular and euphemisms of the western language. Very impressive delivery and explanations of "west meets Asia". Please continue the great videos.
For people from abroad a good book will be:
'CultureShock Philippines'. Bought this almost thirty years ago but is still around and for sale!
Well thanks! I’ve never heard of that 👍
@@TheFilipinaPea another book I bought was called: 'introduction to Philippine law'. You could always buy it at National Bookstore with a blue cover. Just to have a good overview about rules!!
I bought that book 20+ years ago before meeting my future wife. It was a great help! Since our "Sweet Pea" wasn't around then with all her good advice and information, it was sooooo helpful then. I learned about manapo and many other cultural customs that allowed me to gain the approval of the Filinos I came into contact with from the very start. Most concise advice from this episode, "don"t be a douche!". Good advice anywhere and at all times. Thanks Pea!
I, too, bought that book exactly thirty years ago, before my first visit to The Philippines. I highly recommend it.
Well lots of people from the preinternet era.
“Don’t be a douche”. An excellent life strategy, Pea!
Hahahahaha
It’s my ‘golden rule’ 😂
Really good video, Pea. I especially appreciate the points about keeping one’s cool and being aware of the dangers of “loss of face.” That’s sound advice for pretty much everywhere I’ve been in Asia.
Subbed! 😃
Here’s some things I’ve learned not to do in the Philippines from my own transgressions.
Don’t accept an offer to be a judge at a local beauty contest. Those ladies take it serious and make football hooligans look like wimps. I call it the Filipina NFL. They play rough. No blood no foul. I have seen Filipinas crushed for life by a negative response from the audience. A wrong pick and you could end up as lechon.
Don’t make jokes about their religion. For example my Filipinas first name is Esther. When I was introduced to her by name I quipped “Esther? Funny…you don’t look Jewish.”. That went over like a lead doughnut.
Don’t ever, ever, ever tell your Filipina her sister is a better kisser. You will die!
When dating a Filipina wear blinders. Cause if you accidentally look at another Filipina, and god help you if she’s a pretty one, you may be speaking as a soprano for a long time to come.
Don’t get confused when doing mannapo and offer your hand to an elder for a blessing instead of the other way around. Not a way to get off to a good start.
If you’re taking a shower with your Filipina and the water is abruptly cut off and she says Ay! Walang Tubig…don’t tell her friends she thinks you have a big banana.
Never tell a Filipina she’s just like her Nanay.
Never compliment your Filipinas hair when she’s having a bad hair day. This one is particularly difficult as you’ll have no idea, based on her appearance, that she’s having a bad hair day!
This rule works everywhere in the world: don't make fun of people's names.
Hahaha!! The "Ay! Walang Tubig" thing happened with us! Of course, I didn't tell her friends, but I did laugh my ass off and spent the next 5 minutes trying to explain the "joke" that only I understood... What are the chances of seeing that here? 😂
You have to from the Philippines with that sense of humour.I couldn't stop laughing.
Lol, good to know. Funny and informative
Very funny stuff. 🤣🤣
Hello Pea good content as usual, I did want to ask about the activity from one of the volcanoes there in the Philippines I heard about. Are things ok, or look concerning. Always worried about you and the people
Thanks Wayne! Everything’s okay down here 👍😊
This is actually an extremely informative channel. New sub for sure. I like how you rely your information
I’m SO happy to hear that, Timbo! Happy to have you here 👍😊👍
Pea, I watch your channel because I like to learn about the differences/similarities of Thai and Filipino culture and how they both differ from the US.
1. Politics - same here in Thailand. Immigration has a lot of discretion about who they will let in the country. Don’t piss them off. Thailand also has a lese majeste law where criticism of the monarchy will land you a lengthy prison term whether you are a foreigner or a Thai.
2. Pointing - same in Thailand
3. Complaining - what you described seems more like making sure you don’t cause someone to lose face. There are good and bad ways to negotiate something that displeases you.
4. In Thailand - no shoes in the house and no shoes in temples. In the US we wear shoes indoors and consequently don’t sit on the floor.
5. Elders - same in Thailand. The bonus for older expats in SE Asia is that we aren’t as invisible here as at home.
6. Fighting - never fight with a Thai. Never. You won’t win.
7. Food offered to you - same in Thailand. A least try everything. You don’t have to finish what is in front of you. In some cases expats are concerned about the sanitary conditions the food was cooked in. Listen. Locals get sick too. The food is probably OK.
8. Thai don’t shake hands. They 🙏 . I love this. Also a great way to greet people during a pandemic.
9. Here is a big difference! Thailand has divorce. Also if the woman was married in a village ceremony but not registered with the government then she is not really married. A much better situation here.
10. Too much 🍺. See # 6
11. Weird. You can sing what you want in a Thai karaoke bar (I think . . . )
12. Last piece of food? I don’t know 🤷♂️
Everything in Thailand is way much better
Can not compare
The food in Thailand is top of the world
Hotels are better and cheaper / cleaner
Savety is fantastic in Thailand
No armed guards needed
The Philippines has a long way to go to reach half way of Thailand
10 was about getting drunk. I see foreigners getting drunk alone. No one bothered them. They get in trouble if they become belligerent or rude. Someone might even try to rob them. It's great advice even for locals.11 and 12 are a bit tongue-in-cheek. I've sung "My Way" off-key a few times and survived. The few who were killed were locals who got into fights with other locals who disliked their off-key singing. Those usually happened in seedy bars not visited by most locals. Lesson is to avoid seedy places. Sing all you want. I also ate the last pieces of food whenever no one wanted them. I do not like wasting food. Foreigners will not get in trouble for these. Just be respectful of people and you'll do fine. Foreigners get the benefit of the doubt in most cases.
Excellent video as always Pea...You know most of the guys on here suffer from Walter Mitty syndrome....they dream of living or retiring in the Philippines with a beautiful young Filipina...but sadly most are afraid to get on a plane and actually go....Your video's Pea gives them a glimpse of real life in the Philippines. While I'm not an expert on the PI...I know Thailand pretty well as I have lived there and visited it for 28 years....dang I'm getting old...but keep up the good work :)
You must enjoy Thailand, Rob - I’d like to go back there, and look around. I’ve even thought about visiting longterm 😊
@@TheFilipinaPea If you like spicy food thats delicious Thailand is the place for you. I love Thailand in a way it's more modern then any American city and still has the charm of the rural countryside in most of the country....Very little crime. I think you'd love it Pea...go for a month...you can get a B&B condo very cheaply...much better then a hotel for long term stays. :)
Thank you Pea. Always appreciate your videos here. Learnt something today. I always understood why leftovers are taken back home… secretly I always order more knowing that it appreciated back home. Missing Ph. Can’t wait to visit again soon.
The Filipina Pea is very good at what she does here in her videos, she is undoubtedly very talented, her presentation is brilliant, her speaking voice, her intonation, her pronunciation accent with the English language is certainly amongst the top 20% of native English languages speakers in the USA and the UK, not to mention the others English speaking countries around the world, I am writing this comment on the hope that someone with the right connections in the English speaking world, will realize that Pea is a person that should, initially, be helped to do much greater things in her professional life, be it in acting, live or cinema, which by what we see she seems very good at, but there must be many more roles, as a, say, reporter, interviewer on TV, news anchor and commentator any role where speaking and presentation skills are paramount, Pea should and I am sure would fulfill those roles brilliantly and professionally impeccably! and therefore helping her employer and bosses to get out of her in financial rewards much more than what it would cost them to employ her!
There must be out there in the USA, UK, Australia, someone that if only would see Pea in action, so to speak, would indeed be very impressed and realize what an asset she can be to the company! I am only writing this comment on the hope that someone capable of helping will read it and take notice, I am only saying this because of what I see on her videos, I don't personally know Pea, I most probably will never meet her, it is just that I think it has to be said!
agree 100 %
you said: "be helped to do much greater things in her professional life". omg nooo, i still need her advice so much, nothing else she should ever do.
I think the best thing mentioned in this list was don't be a douche - definitely worth applying regardless of where you are in the world. The shoe thing I'm familiar with from visiting Thailand, you have to always remove your shoes when visiting a temple. I remember particularly Tiger Cave Temple near Krabi - it's quite a climb to reach the temple up around 1400 steps and then you arrive and take your shoes off before going onto the temple area at the top - the funny thing is the floor is tiled and had been baking in the sun all day (mid 30's celcius) so I ended up moving quickly between the shadows to stop burning my feet 😂
Hahahahaha
Well if you ever visit my house, you can keep ‘em on 👍😂
If you're a douche, you don't listen to advice like "don't be a douche".
Learning all I can about PI, on my bucket list so planning to go for vacation 2-3 weeks at the most. Lot what you said I already know accept the touching or handshake. I am half Filipino from dad who migrated back in the late 1920s from Tarlac to Hawaii, he never went back ever or talked about it much, but I think he ran away. So Tarlac is where I will be going just to see where dad is from.
Hey Pea. I'd like to address the issue about respecting the elderly in the Philippines. I've heard about that many times over and for many years. And I've seen time and time again where perfectly healthy young people use the seniors line at the grocery store and their kids with their faces glued to the phone sitting in the seats provided for the elderly. I've seen the elderly get pushed and shoved out of the way at every single jeepnee terminal I've seen. Old people cast out onto the street because of what ever reason. People just totally and completely ignoring the elderly at any kind of a line and just bumping their way in front of them . In truth Pea; I really doubt that the Philippines is much more different than other countries. Now I've seen respect for the elderly in a family setting , but outside of that situation , respect for the elderly is very very lacking .
This is true I know this from experience in the town that I was living in I've seen old people that were tossed into the street and neglected by there grown up children but their excuse was that the parents had treated them poorly when they were young. I have also known people to neglect an elderly person that had a lot of money literally not taking good care of them until they died so that they could get a hold of their four million peso house. So you're exactly right although Filipinos when you first meet them are quite accepting and gracious and loving after you have lived around them for 20 years you will learn that they are just like everyone else in the world there are good and bad people everywhere.
Yes but just to notice this is being guilty of criticism and a potential date with an ice pick.
yes, there are some incidents, especially in the big cities that the elders are maltreated and neglected, but majority (especially in the province or rural areas) still respects and takes care of the elders and the disabled.
Dear Ms Pea! ❤️
I commend you for using the correct expression "anyway", instead of the sloppy version "anyways", which is so common now.
I really tells a lot about the level of refinement in a person.
Keep up the miniskirt! 💋
lmao what an aut grammar nazi thing to say
I do try to learn the proper versions, but I admit there’s a lot to learn 👍😊
Lol look at your grammar 😂🤣😂🤣
Yes! Quite annoying as is using adjectives in the place of adverbs just stick a "ly" on the end
@@ericbown1551 Meaning?🤔
Learning so much from a well informed person in you , your English is exellent
Thanks for the heads up what not to do
Michael from Australia ,just for the record I'm usually well behaved
To one sided pea I'm from Australia I wear shoes in my house and in the Filipinos house in Australia unless I've been walking in mud etc.
"Don't date married women"... that rules out 95% of the "unattached" women.
Because of their ancient “divorce” laws. Expensive, and very time consuming, what, 6 years and $5,000.00 American?
Haha .that's probably about right .and most pinay over 20 have at least one pinoy kid
I have had one question that has puzzled me for a long time. Why do many Filipinas have such a hard time when the person they like or love give them a compliment. It is almost as if they need affirmation of the original compliment to ensure you really mean it. So many Filipinas when talking with me point out what they perceive as personal flaws. The most notably is Morena skin tone. Many Filipinas are using whitening cream when most foreigners find a Morena to be exotic and sexy. I do understand from my many Thai friends that many in Thailand laugh at foreigners with darker skinned women as they think they are inferior. Here where I live with many women from the Caribbean and Latin America we appreciate that lovely tan glistening.
I don't know, it's common all over Asia. The theory usually quoted is that if you're poor, you're working in the sun getting dark. If you're wealthy, you're inside not working, getting white.
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it's due to colonial mentality
So Filipinas with Morena skin tone are racist against themselves?
In the case of Koreans, they also want to appear as Western as possible. For instance, some undergo surgery to make their epicanthic fold visible. Filipinos want to appear different by having fairer skin. In the same way, white people want to appear different by having tanned skin. White people sit around tables under the sun to get a tan, whereas we Filipinos look for a shaded area to sit.
I have been watching your videos to educate myself before coming to Cebu in a few months. Thank you for great advice Miss Pea.
The "saving face" aspect always makes me scratch my head. It is okay to lie, steal, and cheat but do not cause a liar, thief, or cheater to lose face. I attribute it to the Spaniards. Maraming maraming salamat for the videos!
Huh that is so true I've learned this from extensive experience. When I first moved into my village I took pity on everyone and since I had a lot of money I loaned those who asked for help and then years later when I was hurting and could no longer afford to I became the source of chismis you know what chismis is. They assumed that I was just greedy or stingy. When for years I had hired literally a dozen of the men in the village too help on projects that I had and they had even talked about me like I was some kind of Angel because if I hadn't been there they would all be starving because they had no job. It's it's neat how your kindness can be held against you.
The Spanish have a lot to answer for in the Philippines. Not the best colonial patriarchs of the bunch. I can say no more.
Thats a rule there kindness is seen as weakness. Whatever you do for these people will never be appreciated. They are very greedy and will always ask for more. Once the spend all of your money they will abandon you in a heartbeat and you will be wandering around eating out of garbage cans. They are very adept at smiling to your face and backstabbing you once you leave. They only want the foreigner's money and secretly don't like foreigners. @@drewmurdaugh6264
That is a GREAT point, the one about complaining. Yeah, I've been here in the Philippines for over a decade and complacency gets me VERY angry at times, particularly when it comes to hiring workers to do any kind of meticulous labor requiring a degree of acceptable skill. I often find people asking for rather high labor costs for everything but even when I accept, the quality of work I get is more often than not.. pure GARBAGE! Then I get on my complaining tirade that lasts across many days and many issues. It is like a cancer and constant complaining reduces quality of life and everything just negatively suffers because of it. I have to be particularly careful about it because I'm a rather big guy, 6'2 and about 230lbs (105 kg) and I have a loud deep voice. So, when I get upset and speak with even a minor elevation to my voice, EVERYONE is looking at me and it causes an uncomfortable bit of attention that could easily make things worse. So, as much as I want to beat the f**k out of some people, it is best I just bite down and accept it and learn how to navigate AROUND any future situations of similarity.
The pride they have ought to spill over onto their work.
@@tomriddle6968 It ought to, but more often than not, it sure as hell DOESN'T! I've never seen an entire nation proud to the gills of simple mediocrity, before now.
What's the answer?
Damn. I'm so glad I'm reading all this now. No way I'm going there and living the way Pea says. That's not living to me. All your ways can be seen as aggressive just being upset and raising your voice? Nah man I'll pass on that.
Hiring contractors and workers is hit or miss, even for locals. The good ones are usually employed or too busy. It’s harder to find talent in the provinces. Building standards are much lower. You need to specify what you need to be done. You might even have to train them if you know how. I wonder if the TESDA-trained workers are better.
Man ohhhhhh man! 🤪
That super loooooooong black hair... that silky smooth, perfect mocha skin...
Ms. Pea is a real life dreamboat!
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We have a lot of new people moving to Texas from other states. We Texans offer advice as well:
Don't have a meltdown when you see people with a pistol on their hip. It's normal.
Don't tell us how great the state you left was. Why did you leave if it was so great?
Don't be offended by spanish speaking Texans. We love them.
Be nice when driving. If you have a fender bender it's more likely than not the other driver is armed.
You moved to a "red" conservative state. If we wanted to be a blue liberal state you wouldn't have come here.
Don't stoke hate and discontent. We all pretty much get along and did so before you came.
We speak slowly and clearly because we want to be understood: not because we rode the "little bus" to skool (snicker).
We already know it's hot and humid here. No need to tell us that every 20 minutes.
@John Grigg Of course we do John. Texans have a long memory and don't accept cowardice. The cops who were yellow will carry that shame wherever they end up at. On the school security it's not a simple solution. Killer was a mentally ill dope fiend who somehow came up with $5000.00 for the weapons,ammo,spare magazines,etc. He hasn't worked in at least 2 years and was an 18 year old high school dropout.
Too many questions unanswered to formulate a workable plan forward.The school was supposed to be locked and secured during class hours. It wasn't. The school district has armed school resourse officers on duty:ineffective and cowardly.The killer was a mentally ill dope fiend and his tool of choice was an AR. Maybe fix mental illness and rampant drug use?There is no simple solution.
Someone told me the blue states are trying to overrun you 😳😔
@John Grigg Of course. You can complain
@@TheFilipinaPea "trying" is the key word lol.
Question! If a few guys attempt to rob me by force and try to break my nose, am I allowed to defend myself? I'm not the kind of guy that would willingly give up any money to robbers. That's just the way I am. Believe me, I don't like to fight, I hate fighting, but I would feel compelled to defend myself.
Yes, of course. It's rare for a foreigner to robbed by force especially if he's big. They like to prey on vulnerable people unless they have a gun. If they do, I suggest you do as what many locals will do. The horror stories are mainly about theft and scams. We also have pickpockets in public places and transport. Bring small pocket money if you plan to walk around in notorious districts. Avoid going to places locals don't go especially at night.
I have been in Ph for over 5 years. This is a very useful video....