You are one strong woman, Susan. Sometimes I wonder if a man and a woman are really meant to spend their lives together, or if it should just be encounters and seasons you can be together, so maybe there will not be so much heartache..... Love Desi! Such a sweet dog! Happy birthday!
I believe we are not meant to live together.we do it for our kids and family and mostly will tolerate.i am divorced but in a great close friendship with my 2nd husband and we really enjoy eachother company as long as we dont live together.i have many friends who are married though some content and some not . There is not a time comes that they positively comment they wish they were in my situation or if they could go back to younger days, they would have not marry their husband.
The Bible says we are meant to marry and not just enjoy the fringe benefits outside of marriage. God gave Adam Eve so we would not be alone. Marriage is hard work that most aren't willing to put into it.
You are such a great woman. i learned so much from you and realized you are so much like me, and so many similar memories and experiences(except i dont have kids, came from big family & have cat) that i got hooked & have to watch you.Grateful that you exist and i know its not for big money that you present yourself every week.when i read your followers notes, it shows they apreciate you and they hear and feel you.Thank you and keep up the good work.... don´t ever give up.Happy Birthday to dear Desi.
After 42 years together, I divorced him. He was the love of my life. I was nothing more than the maid. Took care of everything and he was the wage earner for the family. Now at 70, I am alone, but never lonely. I developed my own style, got a dog, and I truly enjoy my way of life now. I put everyone before me, and took care of every thing and every one but myself. I do not look back because God does not want me to live in the past. Happy Birthday Desi. I have a Dixie Grace, a one year old female doberman. Only you can make yourself content and happy. Took me a while to learn that lesson.
I completely understand you and agree with you. There comes a time when you realize enough is enough and it’s time to live life and enjoy it for yourself. God bless you and wishing you all the best!
You are so strong. I’m so glad you got out after such a long mariage. I feel your words because I’m in the same situation “ im nothing but the maid”. One dag ( soon) i will be free. Enjoy life. You are an inspiration❤.
When a man cheats, it’s over. Cannot work through it, never trust again. Rather be alone, than with someone that you cannot trust. It does not matter if they want to make it up to you. One time is all anyone gets. Edited to add that I have been married 30 years to a wonderful man.
@@cf9399 been married 30 years. I am a no nonsense no messups person. My kids went to one high school, one college, one grad school. Those were the ground rules. They received their masters at 21. My husband would never cheat, because I would not tolerate it. I would never cheat, because I have a wonderful husband. There are too many important places to go and bucket lists to accomplish in our lifetime. Why waste time with another person?
We were in the eye of the storm. House damage, large trees down, no water, no power, no internet and no phone service for a week, but praise the Lord noone was hurt. The storm happened on my husband's 90th birthday. He and I had several wonderful talks, at night in the dark. It was so dark, we couldn't even see each other..love your channel..love and blessigs to you and Desi. 🦋 HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLESSINGS TO DESI.🎂🎉
That storm although horrifying was a blessing, you properly said things that you normally wouldn’t discuss. Things deep in your hearts. What a strange blessing. I live in Fl and there were constant tornado alarms around us . All day long . Less than a few miles from us an EF3 took out 100 homes or damaged them in a newer development of young families … 10 miles up the road another tornado took out more homes in another development. Glad that we you and your husband are safe.. l have been saying prayers for the victims of these horrific storms.
I’m an Asheville, NC girl living in Charleston, SC for 9 years. Helene menaced us in Charleston. We huddled in our closet for 3 hours starting at 3am with back-to-back tornado warnings, but nothing happened, thank God. She flew by on her black wings that night like a 70 mph freight train on her way to destroy my hometown and region in Asheville. The devastation is mind boggling and my heart is with my people there. But, Somehow God spared the lives of all my family and friends. I’m so proud of my people, Susan. No power, no water, no cell, no internet and yet when the storm passed everyone I know came out if their houses and started helping their neighbors and still are. Please pray for Western North Carolina. There’s a long long way to go, but I am safe. ❤ Happy birthday, Desi🎉
Susan, how in the world did you train Desi to sing like an opera star? My beloved yellow cat, Toby, just looks at me when I try to get him to sing along. He slow-blinks his eyes and gives me kitty kisses that way but refuses to utter a purr! 🐱😮
Wow what a scarey situation. Im glad you and your loved ones came through it safe. People are good and truly want good for one another. Thats our true nature. Still sending blessings🙏🩷
What a terrible thing you in Ashville are going through even after the hurricane. It is so shocking to see the devastation and my prayers are with you and everyone there.
My late husband always loved and treated me so kindly. My heart was always so warm in his presence. We mutually adored each other, and we were very affectionate. We were so close, loving and connected. I never found another relationship like that. I wish that loving experience for everyone.
That will never happen in my life. It hurts my heart to know that others were given the kind of relationship you had with your husband and I was not. What was there about me that I did not receive tender, gentle love from the man I married ? Constant rudeness, criticism , and coarse speech has ruined my love for this man. 45 years is how long I have tried to accept that he is broken and doesn’t want to be repaired. In his mind , he is fine. We did not have children. Now, he is sick. I resent that I am his caregiver. We have some good days, fun days even. But, he has never ever loved me. I think maybe he is a narcissist.
I had a marriage like yours for 38 years. He died 2 years ago and my life has never been the same. It's different and as much as I loved him, I've accepted a future I never wanted. I "am" happy and enjoy life. I've gone to France with my youngest daughter and granddaughter and have carved a different way of going forward. I will never date and just the thought makes me cringe. I would compare constantly and it wouldn't be fair to the other person. My husband was one in a million and I'm so grateful I met him over 41 years ago.
Susan, I enjoyed every aspect of your video but there was one part that really hit home with me and that was when you spoke of men not giving or showing affection toward their spouse. I am 79 years old, my husband is 81 and we have been married for 56 years. He tells me EVERY day that he loves me, he tells me I look nice or that I'm pretty and he tells me that he is proud of me! When I went back to work full time at the age of 50 after being a stay at home mom he did the food shopping and cooked the evening meal because not only was I working but also going to graduate school at night! And what did I now realize?? I have been taking all this affection for granted but after this video Not Any More!!! I am sitting here thanking God for him and the love we share. I have two sons who I witness showing warmth and affection toward their wives so they had a good role model. My daughter, sadly, is not so lucky. Love spending Sunday morning with you and Desi!
Ya..I married a carpenter…very masculine…sexy men can dance! My man could dance…he could grill..he was personable…he was fun…thoughtful…strong. 52 years of that… I made a bad mistake when I was 18..married and divorced within 18 months..no children..second marriage bingo! Love until, death did part us. Two beautiful children… I am nearing 75 with 4 beautiful grandchildren and memories to cherish forever
I smiled so big reading your words! I could feel the love...I could see your husband grilling and being thankful you were his wife...what a lovey vision you have given me! Happy fall my friend, much love, Susan & Desi
I married a foreign man I met while in the Army. He pursued me and I would always joke he needed a green card Lol. He was average looking, but I luved the sound of his voice and sense of humor. I wanted the divorce he didn't. He's remarried per face book thru my friend. I have no children by choice. Definitely the voice and humor are key for me. Having lost my dog almost 3 yrs ago, this is what I miss most. Turning 70 the end of Oct. I'm looking to volunteer at my local animal shelter for now. My sister wants to know how many I adopt. Ha ha! You are the first you tuber I subscribed to, enjoy the videos.
Thank you Susan and Happy birthday to sweet Desi I so love him he's so adorable and sings so sweet and Susan every week you inspire me I wished I had a sm home and a life like you I know I'd be so much better off just because your married doesn't mean anything when their nit with you really with you Happy Friday and wishing you a blessed week from my heart to yours Nanyang blessings 🙌 ❤🌹🤗
Dearest Hoper , Could you please give us an update a year from now ? I would love to know how many dogs 🐕 you will have . Honestly, l would not stop at one 🥰Sending blessings 🥰
If I could tell my younger self something at 65, it would be when they show you who they are, believe them. My second husband was abusive. He gave me signs along the way that I ignored. I suffered 26 years with him because he told me I couldn't do it without me. I'm wiser now.
We women just want to believe they will change. Our love can heal them. It can take a long time to come out of that fantasy we carry in our heart. The main thing is we learn!
Made me cry when u said u dont feel so alone because of us! Thats the way we ( at least I) feel about you! I know ive told you this before..but so many times your videos have helped me not feel so alone about growing older..
Hi Linda, right you are. I always say "If it's any consolation, you are not alone in your loneliness. There's so many of us out there. Hang in. Keep busy. Be good to yourself. Hugs, sj
We love you cause you're real. You feel, love, and share your life openly. I'll be 73 tomorrow, I'm alone also. But never lonely. God is good and life is always an adventure.
I used to have 3 dogs and as of 3 weeks ago, now I have none. I really enjoyed Desi singing. At some point I will get another dog,but not right now. My cat is 17 years old and my dogs lived until 17,19 and unknown but at least 18. I am 70, soon to be 71 and I don’t think I was cheated on (except one guy in high school). I thought Yul Brenner was the sexiest most attractive man ever! My husband died 17 years ago and I have had one serious relationship since then, but honestly I am content with my own company and the company of friends. I really enjoy our weekly visits and reading the comments as well. I also think Hal is a good guy. Thanks for all you do and Happy Birthday to Desi!
Sandy, sending heartfelt condolences and virtual hugs . So sorry to hear that your elderly souls crossed the rainbow bridge. The pain is real and hoping you will feel better soon.❤
@@SandiRemedios1 I know, I like Hal, too! I also agree with you about Yul Brenner! Smouldering! I would have loved to have been the one he danced with in 'The King and I.'
East Tennessee girl here. I am in a county surrounded by devastation. My tiny town was spared. Most of the areas struck were places of my childhood, hurting my heart. But oh the sights of seeing people coming together are just too wonderful and amazing. Please keep us in your prayers 🙏 ❤.
I certainly will pray for you Karen. I can emphasize with you and all who have been impacted by these hurricanes. I lost my home with “Andrew, “ damages from “Wilma” and “Irma”, be strong, you will recover with the help of God and kindness of the people He sends your way🙏🙏
@karenashby3132 You will be in my prayers 🙏 My Granddaughter lives in Mountain City ....Take care and know it will take time and it is a blessing seeing people helping people ✨️
LP: The opening celebrating Desi's 11th birdthday is absolutely your best opener yet! His sweet little face radiated the love and joy he was experiencing at that very moment. Doesn't get any better than that.❤
Dear Susan and Desi, HAPPY BIRTHDAY you very handsome boy! I think you grooming and giving him a massage was one of the sweetest things I've seen. I'm so happy you found him and gave him this wonderful life. Many more birthdays to the king of the backyard. Love, Hilah
I asked God to give me a husband that loved Him more than anything else. Because I knew then that he would love me rightly. And after 15 years of waiting God sent my precious man of God. He loves Jesus more than anything and says he loves me next. God is so faithful. Now 20 years later he still loves God and loves me next. Hallelujah to the One I love.
I had two requirements of a husband- 1) he had to be a man of faith and 2) a non smoker.. l got both, and knew that he was the one the Lord wanted for me! 41 years later and he's 'still the one!'
There is never such a sad lonely feeling than when you realize the person you love can make you feel so very alone. I haven’t heard even a “good night “ in years. Actually knowing all you are is nothing more than that piece of furniture I’m sitting on…that is me. Happy Birthday Sweet Boy Desi ❤️ I had to come back and just say I would move on but I have a chronic illness and no family. Loneliness is so prevalent now, probably always has been, I find that so sad.
@BlueBirdsSong Hi there...I was in yr place 6 yrs ago ! I'm disabled, and I was going to leave my Husband, but God took him! My Family has basically all passed away, although I do have a Son that lives across the Country...also my 80 yr old Brother that lives in TX ....I have felt very lonely, especially around the holidays, so you will be in my prayers 🙏 And if I had anything to say to you, It would be to, MAKE THE MOST OF IT, DO SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR SOMEONE ELSE, even for yr Husband, perhaps, I know perhaps yr heart is not in it, but try giving him what you need ! It could be an open door for you, sweetheart 😘
@@carolestone1079 Thank you so much, I cried through this reply to my comment. I wish I could talk to him, he won’t talk to me at all. His whole family is this way. He is abusive too. I have tried so hard, I get nowhere. My life is spent in severe pain 24/7, but I have always been very strong and just push through. The happiest I ever was , was when I had my children. He took that away too. He is not my husband, he’s my boyfriend, which sounds ridiculous saying at my age. He wasn’t always like this. When I got sick it started, he can’t stand sick people in his life, doesn’t want to deal with it. I just wish I had friends but he even took that away. I try to reach out to people, but somehow he puts an end to that. Anyway, thank you for very very kind words, they will stay with me . Thank you so so much. ❤️ If you are ever lonely you can reach out to me, loneliness is horrible. I’m here if you need someone to talk to.
@@carolestone1079 I left a message to you but it’s gone. I have given so much of myself to him that I’ve lost myself. We are not married, he is my boyfriend, which like I said in my message I left for you, sounds silly to me at my age. I love helping others, but I can’t due to severe pain. He will never change. He has isolated me from everyone, he doesn’t like having to deal with sickness, including his own family. My friends disappeared when I got sick and could no longer do all the things I used to, I guess they really weren’t friends at all. Your message touched me deeply, I cried through it and after it. I don’t want you to feel lonely or alone. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here. Susan is the loveliest person, and so are you. Thank you for your kinds words and thoughts, you are a very sweet Lady. ❤️
@@carolestone1079 I don’t know why but I have left you 2 replies to your kind comment but they both are not being posted. Just know it meant so much to me. There is so much more I want to say but for some reason they won’t post, this has never happened to me before.
Expecting 500 at florida shelters but 1700 came!!! Bus loads came during the night with dogs. No one turned away. I had a grade school desk I used and met like 5 gals alone too and we had fun talking. Two different handsome cops would take turns as they walked by and whisper in my ear!! Ofcourse I giggled and flirted right back!! One whispered " did ya get that report done yet or must I go after you??" I said " hey baby bring it on!!" We then giggle. It kept my mind off storm by banter with them. My new pals said " omg they are cute" it was like a huge pj party with strangers who were so nice. My home had very minor issues. Thank God
My first husband cheated on me. I was 24 yrs old he was 30. We married in Oct and I found out he was cheating in Feb. He had been cheating with this married women he met at his job while we were planning our wedding. I never felt pain like that . I cried for months. Couldn’t work . Lost 20 lbs. It was devastating . I didn’t want him back. He wanted to try to work things out but there was no way I could forgive him. We had this big church wedding. I was so humiliated by what he did. I can say it has made me a stronger person. If I got through that I could do anything. I just couldn’t believe someone could hurt another human being like that. I am 70 yrs old now and still think back once and awhile about it. I have had a great life without him. He moved away and I never saw him again. He did reach out and sent me a letter out of the blue about 4 yrs later. I couldn’t believe it. I think just to ease his gilt. I wrote back the nastiest letter back. I wasn’t going to let him off the hook. No regrets!
You make me laugh...I am a Widow and sometimes I enjoy being alone....About 5 minutes per month I miss being with a man, at about 3 minutes I get goose bumps, but than I start thinking about cleaning the bathroom, cooking what he wants for dinner, laundry etc...I know that sounds selfish, but you last Husband was a narcissist.....my Son lives in TN, WHERE the storm went through and they are fine.. My Granddaughter lives 30 mins away and her town lost bridges also electricity for a week, and now she is fine, Thank God! ❤
After 38 years the same man, six years of infertility, but having a miracle and having twins that are now almost 30 years old, I found out six years ago, my “ husband”, was having an affair with a coworker, 20 years younger, just because he could. And during those two years, he belittled me, and took advantaged of my love and devotion, and literally broke my spirit at the age of 57. This one episode of yours , has put so many of my feelings, into words. Thank you. Years of therapy, and your wisdom tonight has helped me tremendously.
YOu have me in tears...nobody knows our pain unless you have had a man break your soul...Happy is the woman who gets it back! Much love to you, you are so beautiful to share this with me! xo Susan & Dez
Decades more birthdays to you dear Desi. You bring so much joy and happiness to others. You were so blessed to have Susan to love you. You deserve it little one, for all you have been through. Susan you are truly one in a billion.
I believe because you are genuine and you share your heart; you are honest and it lets each one of us relate to so much of what you share. Women don't visit, have coffee, talk about their marriage their kids, lift up and support one another. So many women work, are running their kids to sports, practices and events, so younger women don't have that woman to woman support and encouragement. I am 79 and I find most women my age are just surviving and have little interest or knowledge outside of their immediate family. Also, I have a high maintenance husband (a lot due to his health & a lot due to his PTSD) and most of my energy, both physical and emotional is spent taking care of him and doing all the work to maintain my home and yard. I really don't have the energy to spend on friendship. So, I grab a few minutes to share with you each week. And thank you for loving Desi so well. He's such a sweetie.
I never even questioned your motive. You're an open book. A warm, genuine and honest woman who has helped me more than I can say. 💖 Happy birthday to the sweetest little boy Desi 🎂🎉 Love you both.
I begged when I was seven months pregnant, didn’t do any good. Spilt anyway but quickly asked me back. I should have said no, he only got meaner. After 3 boys & 13 years, I couldn’t take his abuse anymore. I thought I could show my love and it would magically fix my marriage. It made him meaner & I started hating myself. I am old now, alone & ok. God bless you & yours
Janice I completely understand I fell madly in love with my husband married he went off to Vietnam and I had our girl daughter 55 yrs later still married many separations I just wished I was stronger I didn't have options not like now a days I knew better definitely wanted better had options with other men deep down inside I loved this knucklehead were so different 💔 I'm 72 yes I dream of starting over enough of me woman don't settle! Best to you 😅
Hi Janice, so sorry for your woes. I'm happy you emerged from it ok. Enjoy your self now even if it means only to take a walk, an extra slice of pie, or spending time with a close friend. Blessings to you. SJ
I found out my fiancé had been cheating on me a month before our wedding. We stayed together and then, 10 days before the wedding, he called and told me he couldn't go through with the wedding. I was sad I wasn't getting married, but I had such peace. I married 2 years later and have been happily married to the same man for 40 years. My former fiancé? He married the girl he cheated on me with and they got divorced a few years after that...
Grass is never greener. I will never understand what men will risk for sex/cheap thrill. It's like they do not understand the l life they are living is real.
What I don’t care about anymore? I’m very tall 6ft 3” and 70. The cruel comments have been legion. But I decided I could either hate myself all my life or learn to not care about the looks, comments, cruelty, rejection and hostility. I’m glad I decided that when I was young or my life would have been truly awful.
Sarasota FL here. We evacuated about 10 miles east. We were fine. It was a big scary storm, I was literally shaking and couldn't eat for a few days before the storm hit. Our house was fine, electric came on today. The neighborhood looks like a bomb hit it.
I spent 62 years in FL. Could never plan a birthday party because odds were there would be a hurricane on September 10th. Trust me, your neighborhood will rebuild. Important thing is that you are safe and have power...
Desi looks so Gorgeous today ❤ his pampering has really worked Happy Birthday 🎈🎂 Desi Pets are so easy to Love and they give back so much Love too For me Kindness is the most Attractive thing about a Man
What a beautiful video as always but this one was super special being Desi’s birthday. Happy birthday sweet baby boy!! I so much love your singing 🎵 aloha from Arizona
Susan you are so inspiring to me. My x husband of 45 yrs cheated the last 10 yrs of our marriage. I was devestatd but he taught me through all that hearbreak that I am strong and now I am remaried to a wonderful, kind man who loves me. I love hearing about your life and seeing you each week here . thank you for being you and sharing your life with me. I am 64 and my life atared over at 59. I am grateful for all the Lord has blessed me with. Two beautiful daughters and 4 wonderful gradchildren. and now I get to spend the rest of my liife with my husband of a year and a half and my family.
My hubby bought me a gold charm bracelet the first year we were married. It had a scorpion and a virgin for our astrological signs. It also had a typewriter. I was a secretary. It had a comical bird with the words "worry bird" written on its base. As the years went by he added 2 gold spheres (1 when my son was born and one for my daughter). Then came a small gold globe, and a computer (all miniatures, of course). I recently gave it to my granddaughter. The other one got my engagement ring and my daughter got my 25th Anniversary diamond.
A tall, strong kind man who can fix and build things and cook is my turn on. I agree with you, going down that path of past hurts is best left alone. I learned from it and not going there no more. Happy birthday sweet Desi! You really belted it out today. ❤❤❤
My first love cheated and left me for my best friend at the time. :( Changed my world and not for the best. But then I met my life partner and have felt secure and loved and protected for the last almost 50 years.
Oh my goodness… the last few seconds are priceless… please EVERYONE, make sure you watch to the very, very, very end of the video! You’ll be thrilled you did😂❤ Happy Birthday Desi❤️🐾❤️ thank you Susan xxx
It warms my heart every week when I get to see you and Desi singing.. btw you did an excellent job on his haircut. Can’t tell it wasn’t professional. He’s a handsome guy. In answer to one of the questions, I had my heart broken by my husband many years ago when he left me for a much younger woman. He had 2 children with her. We had none. One day many years later, he called out of the blue to tell say he always loved me. Of course, you guessed it, she left him with the children and I guess he thought I’d come running back. He was wrong. It did sadden my heart when I found out he passed away in 2022. Some of the old feelings came flooding back for a moment.
Happy Birthday Desi !!❤ Thank you for sharing your videos with all of us ! We so look forward to our Saturday's with the both of you. Your an amazing woman !! Hugs & Love 💕
I think you are a very talented, caring and helpful woman. I've been watching your channel for 2 years now. I have learnt a lot about skin care and use some of the products that you have shared. I don't wear makeup, but you are a makeup artist. You do it beautifully. I have learnt about artist and stories behind some of the most notable paintings. You have shared your gift of music, which I love! Music is like the air I breathe. I can't live without it. You have shared fashion which I have purchased some of the things you showed. I have your Sweet Potato Bread recipe in my recipe binder. It is yummy! You have been very open about your life to help women and men. Your videos are so creative! I truly enjoy them and LOVE seeing you and Desi at the end. You always make me smile and that is priceless! I appreciate all that you do in your work! Thank you! ❤
You do a great job with ur videos! Thanks for sharing ur feelings and experiences with us. It makes all of us feel less alone. Happy Birthday Desi, the best singer on youtube! ❤
First….Happy Birthday Desi!❤🎉 Susan this video was so beautiful. When you were sharing about special moments in your life I could really see your deep feelings through your eyes. I’m divorced, he left me for another woman. I was devastated but survived. It really helps to be part of a community meaning your RUclips channel. Oh how long for someone to really love me, but for now, I must breathe and carry on alone. I’m not really alone. I have my furry kid. My dog Tessa. And of course, my grandchildren bring me such joy and are a blessing from the marriage that didn’t work out.
Happy Birthday to Desi. I love a confident, intelligent, kind man with a good sense of humor. I'm also attracted to the Carpenter type.😊 Hope you have a wonderful week.
I agree with everything you shared about men and relationships. Especially learning that we have value and deserve to be treated with respect. Now, at 72, I no longer desire to be in a relationship, it's too exhausting. I do believe each relationship/marriage I have been through has taught me so much about myself. I just wish I had known "me" better all those years ago. Thank you for sharing your views, and Happy Birthday 🎉 little Desi!!
Happy Birthday Desi, you are such a sweet little boy, I look forward to seeing you every week, love you. I think to me the sexiest man was Elvis Presley he had it all.
Hi, Susan, before I go any further I wanted to let you know my name is Rosemary and not Carl. LOL For some reason RUclips is using my husband’s name and not mine. I thank you for praying for Florida. I live on the east central coast of Florida and we were told that we would have 80 mph winds. By the Grace of God we didn’t get the high winds that were expected where I live. However, the Tampa area was severely hit with devastating high winds and flooding. Several tornadoes hit the state and destroyed many homes and businesses. On a brighter side… HAPPY BIRTHDAY DESI AND MANY MORE! Love to you and Desi ❤
Hello dear Susan!! Happy birthday to your precious Desi!! I hope he enjoys his special day!! I’m not married & never have been cheated on, and at my age, I feel like I’m better off by myself!! I hurt deeply for any woman who has been cheated on!! Thank you for sharing your story with us!! I’m with you in prayer for all those who have been affected by the recent hurricanes!! I pray that you and your family are safe & well!! Have a blessed week ahead!! Lots of love and prayers to you and yours!!😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏🎂🎂🎂
Oh , this is one of the cutest videos of Desi! I smiled the entire time. Thank you for another great video. I’m mostly alone in my house. My partner of almost 18 years has his own place in a town 40 miles away. Only comes on a weekend but I can’t complain because he helps with yard work and other things that need fixing. There is no affection ; really nothing , but I’m grateful for his help. I miss being with someone who would hold me and say the things you mentioned in your video . At my age, (78), I now have given up on ever finding love again. He isn’t able to be affectionate in any way and thinks it’s just fine of how we get along😢. He has said many times that he can’t give me what I’m looking for . He knows that I have always been a very loving person. I continue to stay with him . At least we have each other on weekends to go out to eat and once in a while take a day trip somewhere, but it feels so lonely to have a partner who really is not part of my life every day. 18 years of this is a very long time. I keep busy with my flower garden , and much else . When you have a house , there is always work to be done. Your videos are always the highlight of my week. Love to you and Desi. ❤️❤️
I really and truly hate to tell you this, but it’s only fair to just say it. Your partner probably has more than one woman in his life. My dear, don’t you see that a little lawn work and an occasional meal out is not enough to qualify as a partnership? He told you quite clearly that physical affection will never be part of the relationship. Perhaps he would feel like he was cheating on his other woman if he offered you even a hug, hand holding, a peck on the cheek?. My dear Aunt maintained a relationship with a man whose wife had been dead for many years. She was 83 and he was 87. They would travel and have separate rooms , because he said he would never “ sleep” with another woman. He took that old euphemism for sex literally. It’s almost laughable now that they are both gone. My point for you is this, when something doesn’t seem quite right, maybe that’s because it isn’t. Have you ever visited his home? Has he found excuses why it wouldn’t be convenient?
I read your comment. Yes, I have been to his place . The reason he will not change is because he wants to live near his family and grandkids. They all live within a 2-3 mile range. He is happy living alone and is set in his old ways. Affection is not part of his personality but helping me is something he enjoys. It’s a very confusing and weird kind of relationship and I never thought that at my age , I would always be alone, except on weekends.
@@jfdrie The important thing , in the end, is that you must choose what you want out of the rest of your life. You do not sound satisfied, much less happy. My impression after reading your comment was one of feeling trapped in a dead end relationship that is not all that much fun.
Hello Susan, you are 100% correct about relationships, communication, and affection. Wish it could be put in a bottle and given to every man who never learned or has chosen to have a wife without being a husband. Just a little bit of consideration, respect and sincere affection makes a HUGE difference. We tire of giving in, making sacrifices and letting things slide because they lack the ability to be kind, thoughtful, and loving and taking the time to give a kiss before bedtime. Intimacy starts outside of the bed and no woman should wait all day to be shown appreciation and affection. Thanks for sharing ❤😊
Do men mirror their own fathers? I don’t know. What I do know is that husbands who use you as an outlet for sexual needs, a housekeeper, cook, laundry doer, who also is self supporting, in charge of arranging all appointments, repairs to house, manages 99% of all aspects of children’s needs it causes a fracture in the relationship.
Aww, love Desi and you. Happy 11th birthday to Desi! I've spent the last 2 weeks dealing with the east TN and western NC devastation. We collected well over $300,000 for supplies (food, water, generators, fuel, etc., plus donated clothing) - and the donations keep coming in! Most of the donation dollars have been spent and delivered at this point but this is not over. It's going to take a long time to recover for these folks. The questions were thought provoking and I enjoyed your answers. I'll have to ponder on mine and perhaps I'll get back to you.
I love that you mentioned men's strong forearms as being attractive. I have always thought that, and thought to myself, does anyone feel the same way? Do glad to know you do too! 😅 I am single and have lived alone for a very long time. I am happy and content. Peaceful. However...a Miracle Man is on the way...I feel it. If not, living in your own space, and living in peace is Nirvana to me!❤
Happy Birthday Desi! 🐶 🙋♀️Thank you for your kind thoughts! I’m born and raised in Miami and currently live in Fort Pierce Fl. Believe me it was very scary, alls good tho! 😇
The trees with the orange leaves are gorgeous! I miss living in the North! Tennessee won’t have this color for another month and I never have seen them so vibrant as I have in the North….Happy Birthday Desi!!🎉
Thank you Susan and Desi for brightening up my life. Adore Desi, so cute. The quality I look for in a man is kindness, acceptance and honesty. After an infaithful husband I am fortunate enough to have that exact man in my 67th year. How lucky I am to have someone that loves me just the way I am.
You are one strong woman, Susan. Sometimes I wonder if a man and a woman are really meant to spend their lives together, or if it should just be encounters and seasons you can be together, so maybe there will not be so much heartache.....
Love Desi! Such a sweet dog! Happy birthday!
There are times I wonder about that too...I always wondered why I never had a happy ending with Bill...but then again...I had moments...
Anytime you 'invest' in a person and fall in love, whether married or not, there will be heartbreak when you break it off..
I believe we are not meant to live together.we do it for our kids and family and mostly will tolerate.i am divorced but in a great close friendship with my 2nd husband and we really enjoy eachother company as long as we dont live together.i have many friends who are married though some content and some not . There is not a time comes that they positively comment they wish they were in my situation or if they could go back to younger days, they would have not marry their husband.
The Bible says we are meant to marry and not just enjoy the fringe benefits outside of marriage. God gave Adam Eve so we would not be alone. Marriage is hard work that most aren't willing to put into it.
You are such a great woman. i learned so much from you and realized you are so much like me, and so many similar memories and experiences(except i dont have kids, came from big family & have cat) that i got hooked & have to watch you.Grateful that you exist and i know its not for big money that you present yourself every week.when i read your followers notes, it shows they apreciate you and they hear and feel you.Thank you and keep up the good work.... don´t ever give up.Happy Birthday to dear Desi.
After 42 years together, I divorced him. He was the love of my life. I was nothing more than the maid. Took care of everything and he was the wage earner for the family. Now at 70, I am alone, but never lonely. I developed my own style, got a dog, and I truly enjoy my way of life now. I put everyone before me, and took care of every thing and every one but myself. I do not look back because God does not want me to live in the past. Happy Birthday Desi. I have a Dixie Grace, a one year old female doberman. Only you can make yourself content and happy. Took me a while to learn that lesson.
I completely understand you and agree with you. There comes a time when you realize enough is enough and it’s time to live life and enjoy it for yourself. God bless you and wishing you all the best!
Happy birthday Desi! 🦴🦴🐾🐾
You are so strong. I’m so glad you got out after such a long mariage. I feel your words because I’m in the same situation “ im nothing but the maid”. One dag ( soon) i will be free. Enjoy life. You are an inspiration❤.
You are my new hero!
@@jmar665 that was my marriage of 37-44 years (extra 5 years of dating, him finishing college, me footing the bill). I feel you.
Tampa girl here. I made it thru the rain❤
God bless🕊️
Wonderful 🙏🏻
Oh good. Thank you
Thank you for adopting Desi and giving him the best life a sweet pup like him could ever have. 💕
Thank you so much! I love him beyond words and we make a loving fun team....thank you for caring about him!
Absolutely !!!🐕
When a man cheats, it’s over. Cannot work through it, never trust again. Rather be alone, than with someone that you cannot trust. It does not matter if they want to make it up to you. One time is all anyone gets. Edited to add that I have been married 30 years to a wonderful man.
Couldn’t say it better.
You nailed it here!
You were way smarter than me. I gave the creep another chance and he did it again. Then bye-bye.
I tried to tell him before we got married 😀 only thing I will not work with is a cheater😉
@@cf9399 been married 30 years. I am a no nonsense no messups person. My kids went to one high school, one college, one grad school. Those were the ground rules. They received their masters at 21. My husband would never cheat, because I would not tolerate it. I would never cheat, because I have a wonderful husband. There are too many important places to go and bucket lists to accomplish in our lifetime. Why waste time with another person?
Desi is the man of the hour! Handsome, loyal, sweet! What more could a woman want?
We were in the eye of the storm. House damage, large trees down, no water, no power, no internet and no phone service for a week, but praise the Lord noone was hurt. The storm happened on my husband's 90th birthday. He and I had several wonderful talks, at night in the dark. It was so dark, we couldn't even see each other..love your channel..love and blessigs to you and Desi. 🦋 HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLESSINGS TO DESI.🎂🎉
I am so grateful you are safe!!!
How wonderful that you had such great talks in the dark ❤
I am so happy you and your hubby are safe 🤗
That storm although horrifying was a blessing, you properly said things that you normally wouldn’t discuss. Things deep in your hearts. What a strange blessing. I live in Fl and there were constant tornado alarms around us . All day long . Less than a few miles from us an EF3 took out 100 homes or damaged them in a newer development of young families … 10 miles up the road another tornado took out more homes in another development. Glad that we you and your husband are safe.. l have been saying prayers for the victims of these horrific storms.
@@d.l.n.7133how sad for those people and devastating..to have to start over..i hope theybwere all safe.
Do not ever change your ending. It would never be the same without it it makes me happy.
Oh YES❣I just adore your duets. So sweet and funny and dear and darling❤❤❤
I’m an Asheville, NC girl living in Charleston, SC for 9 years.
Helene menaced us in Charleston. We huddled in our closet for 3 hours starting at 3am with back-to-back tornado warnings, but nothing happened, thank God.
She flew by on her black wings that night like a 70 mph freight train on her way to destroy my hometown and region in Asheville.
The devastation is mind boggling and my heart is with my people there. But, Somehow God spared the lives of all my family and friends. I’m so proud of my people, Susan. No power, no water, no cell, no internet and yet when the storm passed everyone I know came out if their houses and started helping their neighbors and still are.
Please pray for Western North Carolina. There’s a long long way to go, but I am safe. ❤
Happy birthday, Desi🎉
Happy birthday,
Desi. So happy you adopted Desi. He is adorable. God bless you and Desi. ❤🎉🎂🥳🙏
Did she mention it or not?
Susan, how in the world did you train Desi to sing like an opera star? My beloved yellow cat, Toby, just looks at me when I try to get him to sing along. He slow-blinks his eyes and gives me kitty kisses that way but refuses to utter a purr! 🐱😮
Wow what a scarey situation. Im glad you and your loved ones came through it safe. People are good and truly want good for one another. Thats our true nature. Still sending blessings🙏🩷
What a terrible thing you in Ashville are going through even after the hurricane. It is so shocking to see the devastation and my prayers are with you and everyone there.
My late husband always loved and treated me so kindly. My heart was always so warm in his presence. We mutually adored each other, and we were very affectionate. We were so close, loving and connected. I never found another relationship like that. I wish that loving experience for everyone.
That will never happen in my life. It hurts my heart to know that others were given the kind of relationship you had with your husband and I was not. What was there about me that I did not receive tender, gentle love from the man I married ? Constant rudeness, criticism , and coarse speech has ruined my love for this man. 45 years is how long I have tried to accept that he is broken and doesn’t want to be repaired. In his mind , he is fine. We did not have children. Now, he is sick. I resent that I am his caregiver. We have some good days, fun days even. But, he has never ever loved me. I think maybe he is a narcissist.
I had a marriage like yours for 38 years. He died 2 years ago and my life has never been the same. It's different and as much as I loved him, I've accepted a future I never wanted. I "am" happy and enjoy life. I've gone to France with my youngest daughter and granddaughter and have carved a different way of going forward. I will never date and just the thought makes me cringe. I would compare constantly and it wouldn't be fair to the other person. My husband was one in a million and I'm so grateful I met him over 41 years ago.
You were very blessed. 🌹 it is the kind of relationship we all strive and hope for. Ty you for sharing.
You were one of the blessed people.
That’s incredibly rare. Probably only 10% of people ever experienced that.
Happy Birthday Desi ~ You are one special boy! ❤🐕🦺
Susan, I enjoyed every aspect of your video but there was one part that really hit home with me and that was when you spoke of men not giving or showing affection toward their spouse. I am 79 years old, my husband is 81 and we have been married for 56 years. He tells me EVERY day that he loves me, he tells me I look nice or that I'm pretty and he tells me that he is proud of me! When I went back to work full time at the age of 50 after being a stay at home mom he did the food shopping and cooked the evening meal because not only was I working but also going to graduate school at night! And what did I now realize?? I have been taking all this affection for granted but after this video Not Any More!!! I am sitting here thanking God for him and the love we share. I have two sons who I witness showing warmth and affection toward their wives so they had a good role model. My daughter, sadly, is not so lucky. Love spending Sunday morning with you and Desi!
You were truly blessed.not everyone is so lucky.
Susan sharing has helped you to realize what a good man you have so you can show him how much you care.
Ya..I married a carpenter…very masculine…sexy men can dance! My man could dance…he could grill..he was personable…he was fun…thoughtful…strong. 52 years of that…
I made a bad mistake when I was 18..married and divorced within 18 months..no children..second marriage bingo! Love until, death did part us. Two beautiful children… I am nearing 75 with 4 beautiful grandchildren and memories to cherish forever
I smiled so big reading your words! I could feel the love...I could see your husband grilling and being thankful you were his wife...what a lovey vision you have given me! Happy fall my friend, much love, Susan & Desi
I married a foreign man I met while in the Army. He pursued me and I would always joke he needed a green card Lol. He was average looking, but I luved the sound of his voice and sense of humor. I wanted the divorce he didn't. He's remarried per face book thru my friend. I have no children by choice. Definitely the voice and humor are key for me. Having lost my dog almost 3 yrs ago, this is what I miss most. Turning 70 the end of Oct. I'm looking to volunteer at my local animal shelter for now. My sister wants to know how many I adopt. Ha ha! You are the first you tuber I subscribed to, enjoy the videos.
Happy birthday 11 year old, Desi!
Thank you Susan and Happy birthday to sweet Desi I so love him he's so adorable and sings so sweet and Susan every week you inspire me I wished I had a sm home and a life like you I know I'd be so much better off just because your married doesn't mean anything when their nit with you really with you Happy Friday and wishing you a blessed week from my heart to yours Nanyang blessings 🙌 ❤🌹🤗
Dearest Hoper , Could you please give us an update a year from now ? I would love to know how many dogs 🐕 you will have . Honestly, l would not stop at one 🥰Sending blessings 🥰
If I could tell my younger self something at 65, it would be when they show you who they are, believe them. My second husband was abusive. He gave me signs along the way that I ignored. I suffered 26 years with him because he told me I couldn't do it without me. I'm wiser now.
+1😔
We women just want to believe they will change. Our love can heal them. It can take a long time to come out of that fantasy we carry in our heart. The main thing is we learn!
Happy Birthday you little handsome doggie. You look quite debonair on you special day !!!!😁😁
Made me cry when u said u dont feel so alone because of us! Thats the way we ( at least I) feel about you! I know ive told you this before..but so many times your videos have helped me not feel so alone about growing older..
Hi Linda, right you are. I always say "If it's any consolation, you are not alone in your loneliness. There's so many of us out there. Hang in. Keep busy. Be good to yourself. Hugs, sj
Same here.
We love you cause you're real. You feel, love, and share your life openly. I'll be 73 tomorrow, I'm alone also. But never lonely. God is good and life is always an adventure.
You are so sweet Mary! I appreciate you so much! Happy Fall!!!
@LittlePoet Happy Birthday Mary.Its also my granddaughters birthday 31 today.
Have a great birthday 🎂
‘When a woman feels appreciated and seen she will give you her life!’ This is so true Susan! You communicate so beautifully, I love your videos 😘
We women are so protective of what we love...men I just don't think get that!!!
Thank you very much for praying for us in Florida. ❤ Made it through ok with no damage.
I used to have 3 dogs and as of 3 weeks ago, now I have none. I really enjoyed Desi singing. At some point I will get another dog,but not right now. My cat is 17 years old and my dogs lived until 17,19 and unknown but at least 18. I am 70, soon to be 71 and I don’t think I was cheated on (except one guy in high school). I thought Yul Brenner was the sexiest most attractive man ever! My husband died 17 years ago and I have had one serious relationship since then, but honestly I am content with my own company and the company of friends. I really enjoy our weekly visits and reading the comments as well. I also think Hal is a good guy. Thanks for all you do and Happy Birthday to Desi!
Sandy, sending heartfelt condolences and virtual hugs . So sorry to hear that your elderly souls crossed the rainbow bridge. The pain is real and hoping you will feel better soon.❤
@@SandiRemedios1 I know, I like Hal, too! I also agree with you about Yul Brenner! Smouldering! I would have loved to have been the one he danced with in 'The King and I.'
East Tennessee girl here. I am in a county surrounded by devastation. My tiny town was spared. Most of the areas struck were places of my childhood, hurting my heart. But oh the sights of seeing people coming together are just too wonderful and amazing. Please keep us in your prayers 🙏 ❤.
I certainly will pray for you Karen. I can emphasize with you and all who have been impacted by these hurricanes. I lost my home with “Andrew, “
damages from “Wilma” and “Irma”, be strong, you will recover with the help of God and kindness of the people He sends your way🙏🙏
@karenashby3132 You will be in my prayers 🙏 My Granddaughter lives in Mountain City
....Take care and know it will take time and it is a blessing seeing people helping people ✨️
LP: The opening celebrating Desi's 11th birdthday is absolutely your best opener yet! His sweet little face radiated the love and joy he was experiencing at that very moment. Doesn't get any better than that.❤
To heck with relationships. Dogs are best buddies. ❤️
Dear Susan and Desi, HAPPY BIRTHDAY you very handsome boy! I think you grooming and giving him a massage was one of the sweetest things I've seen. I'm so happy you found him and gave him this wonderful life. Many more birthdays to the king of the backyard. Love, Hilah
I asked God to give me a husband that loved Him more than anything else. Because I knew then that he would love me rightly. And after 15 years of waiting God sent my precious man of God. He loves Jesus more than anything and says he loves me next. God is so faithful. Now 20 years later he still loves God and loves me next. Hallelujah to the One I love.
I had two requirements of a husband- 1) he had to be a man of faith and 2) a non smoker.. l got both, and knew that he was the one the Lord wanted for me! 41 years later and he's 'still the one!'
There is never such a sad lonely feeling than when you realize the person you love can make you feel so very alone. I haven’t heard even a “good night “ in years. Actually knowing all you are is nothing more than that piece of furniture I’m sitting on…that is me. Happy Birthday Sweet Boy Desi ❤️
I had to come back and just say I would move on but I have a chronic illness and no family. Loneliness is so prevalent now, probably always has been, I find that so sad.
Well said
@BlueBirdsSong Hi there...I was in yr place 6 yrs ago ! I'm disabled, and I was going to leave my Husband, but God took him! My Family has basically all passed away, although I do have a Son that lives across the Country...also my 80 yr old Brother that lives in TX
....I have felt very lonely, especially around the holidays, so you will be in my prayers 🙏 And if I had anything to say to you, It would be to, MAKE THE MOST OF IT, DO SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR SOMEONE ELSE, even for yr Husband, perhaps, I know perhaps yr heart is not in it, but try giving him what you need ! It could be an open door for you, sweetheart 😘
@@carolestone1079 Thank you so much, I cried through this reply to my comment. I wish I could talk to him, he won’t talk to me at all. His whole family is this way. He is abusive too. I have tried so hard, I get nowhere. My life is spent in severe pain 24/7, but I have always been very strong and just push through. The happiest I ever was , was when I had my children. He took that away too. He is not my husband, he’s my boyfriend, which sounds ridiculous saying at my age. He wasn’t always like this. When I got sick it started, he can’t stand sick people in his life, doesn’t want to deal with it. I just wish I had friends but he even took that away. I try to reach out to people, but somehow he puts an end to that. Anyway, thank you for very very kind words, they will stay with me . Thank you so so much. ❤️ If you are ever lonely you can reach out to me, loneliness is horrible. I’m here if you need someone to talk to.
@@carolestone1079 I left a message to you but it’s gone. I have given so much of myself to him that I’ve lost myself. We are not married, he is my boyfriend, which like I said in my message I left for you, sounds silly to me at my age. I love helping others, but I can’t due to severe pain. He will never change. He has isolated me from everyone, he doesn’t like having to deal with sickness, including his own family. My friends disappeared when I got sick and could no longer do all the things I used to, I guess they really weren’t friends at all. Your message touched me deeply, I cried through it and after it. I don’t want you to feel lonely or alone. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here. Susan is the loveliest person, and so are you. Thank you for your kinds words and thoughts, you are a very sweet Lady. ❤️
@@carolestone1079 I don’t know why but I have left you 2 replies to your kind comment but they both are not being posted. Just know it meant so much to me. There is so much more I want to say but for some reason they won’t post, this has never happened to me before.
Expecting 500 at florida shelters but 1700 came!!! Bus loads came during the night with dogs. No one turned away. I had a grade school desk I used and met like 5 gals alone too and we had fun talking. Two different handsome cops would take turns as they walked by and whisper in my ear!! Ofcourse I giggled and flirted right back!! One whispered " did ya get that report done yet or must I go after you??" I said " hey baby bring it on!!" We then giggle. It kept my mind off storm by banter with them. My new pals said " omg they are cute" it was like a huge pj party with strangers who were so nice. My home had very minor issues. Thank God
My first husband cheated on me. I was 24 yrs old he was 30. We married in Oct and I found out he was cheating in Feb. He had been cheating with this married women he met at his job while we were planning our wedding. I never felt pain like that . I cried for months. Couldn’t work
. Lost 20 lbs. It was devastating . I didn’t want him back. He wanted to try to work things out but there was no way I could forgive him. We had this big church wedding. I was so humiliated by what he did. I can say it has made me a stronger person. If I got through that I could do anything. I just couldn’t believe someone could hurt another human being like that. I am 70 yrs old now and still think back once and awhile about it. I have had a great life without him. He moved away and I never saw him again. He did reach out and sent me a letter out of the blue about 4 yrs later. I couldn’t believe it. I think just to ease his gilt. I wrote back the nastiest letter back. I wasn’t going to let him off the hook. No regrets!
You make me laugh...I am a Widow and sometimes I enjoy being alone....About 5 minutes per month I miss being with a man, at about 3 minutes I get goose bumps, but than I start thinking about cleaning the bathroom, cooking what he wants for dinner, laundry etc...I know that sounds selfish, but
you last Husband was a narcissist.....my Son lives in TN, WHERE the storm went through and they are fine..
My Granddaughter lives 30 mins away and her town lost bridges also electricity for a week, and now she is fine, Thank God! ❤
Glad you and your family safe, My heart and prays for everyone of you who had to go threw that storms.
@@carolestone1079 Glad to hear they are safe. Watching from Canada keeping all in thought and prayer 🙏🙏
Ah, there is truth in what you say.
@@patriciacorpe6228 TY KINDLY!
@@LindaGillespie-v4j TY KINDLY!
Happy Birthday Desi! Sweet little boy! 🐾💕🥳
Smooch that pooch! Happy, happy birthday, Desi, you gangsta, you!🎉
❤️
After 38 years the same man, six years of infertility, but having a miracle and having twins that are now almost 30 years old, I found out six years ago, my “ husband”, was having an affair with a coworker, 20 years younger, just because he could. And during those two years, he belittled me, and took advantaged of my love and devotion, and literally broke my spirit at the age of 57.
This one episode of yours , has put so many of my feelings, into words. Thank you. Years of therapy, and your wisdom tonight has helped me tremendously.
YOu have me in tears...nobody knows our pain unless you have had a man break your soul...Happy is the woman who gets it back! Much love to you, you are so beautiful to share this with me! xo Susan & Dez
Decades more birthdays to you dear Desi. You bring so much joy and happiness to others. You were so blessed to have Susan to love you. You deserve it little one, for all you have been through. Susan you are truly one in a billion.
I believe because you are genuine and you share your heart; you are honest and it lets each one of us relate to so much of what you share. Women don't visit, have coffee, talk about their marriage their kids, lift up and support one another. So many women work, are running their kids to sports, practices and events, so younger women don't have that woman to woman support and encouragement. I am 79 and I find most women my age are just surviving and have little interest or knowledge outside of their immediate family. Also, I have a high maintenance husband (a lot due to his health & a lot due to his PTSD) and most of my energy, both physical and emotional is spent taking care of him and doing all the work to maintain my home and yard. I really don't have the energy to spend on friendship. So, I grab a few minutes to share with you each week. And thank you for loving Desi so well. He's such a sweetie.
Everyone on this channel is your friend. We are here if you ever need us
Happy Birthday to the most handsome guy on RUclips, sweet Desi!!! 💙💙💙💙💙
Desi is not corny. He is so precious. Happy birthday Desi🦴❤ This was a great video. Thanks Susan.❤
Happy Birthday Desi! I LOVE your singing at the end of the videos.
I never even questioned your motive. You're an open book. A warm, genuine and honest woman who has helped me more than I can say. 💖 Happy birthday to the sweetest little boy Desi 🎂🎉 Love you both.
Each week you look more beautiful and your light shines brighter! 💜
I begged when I was seven months pregnant, didn’t do any good. Spilt anyway but quickly asked me back. I should have said no, he only got meaner. After 3 boys & 13 years, I couldn’t take his abuse anymore. I thought I could show my love and it would magically fix my marriage. It made him meaner & I started hating myself. I am old now, alone & ok. God bless you & yours
Janice I completely understand I fell madly in love with my husband married he went off to Vietnam and I had our girl daughter 55 yrs later still married many separations I just wished I was stronger I didn't have options not like now a days I knew better definitely wanted better had options with other men deep down inside I loved this knucklehead were so different 💔 I'm 72 yes I dream of starting over enough of me woman don't settle! Best to you 😅
Hi Janice, so sorry for your woes. I'm happy you emerged from it ok. Enjoy your self now even if it means only to take a walk, an extra slice of pie, or spending time with a close friend. Blessings to you. SJ
@@stellajohnson5301❤
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY to precious Desi that I adore SO much!
I'm 63 live alone, but I like it. I've learned so much about my self. I love your videos. I love men's arms to
No one, can sing Happy Birthday as sweet as Desi. Happy Birthday Desi !!
That little Desi singing gets me EVERY SINGLE TIME! Happy Birthday little man! Thank you for spending time with us today Susan! God bless you both :)
Yappy Birthday, to our goodest boy, Desi! Love, treats, long walks, good sniffs and warm snuggles! Blessings of joy to you also, Susan.🐕💓
I found out my fiancé had been cheating on me a month before our wedding. We stayed together and then, 10 days before the wedding, he called and told me he couldn't go through with the wedding. I was sad I wasn't getting married, but I had such peace. I married 2 years later and have been happily married to the same man for 40 years. My former fiancé? He married the girl he cheated on me with and they got divorced a few years after that...
Karma
Karma!!!
Cheaters always cheat on who they were cheating with.
Grass is never greener. I will never understand what men will risk for sex/cheap thrill. It's like they do not understand the l life they are living is real.
What goes around comes around.
You're such a beautiful woman - inside and out. Thank you for your channel!
THE BEST part of your videos are you and precious Desi saying so long for now!❤❤❤❤❤
Happy birthday
I love your channel. Also, your photography and music selection always resonates with
my heart. Happy birthday, Desi!❤️
I live in SC and I'm okay! Happy Birthday Desi! 🎂🎈🎉
What I don’t care about anymore? I’m very tall 6ft 3” and 70. The cruel comments have been legion. But I decided I could either hate myself all my life or learn to not care about the looks, comments, cruelty, rejection and hostility. I’m glad I decided that when I was young or my life would have been truly awful.
Blessings to you Nina Johnson. Your Little Poet sister, Stella Johnson
Happy Birthday, Desi! Love you.
Sarasota FL here. We evacuated about 10 miles east. We were fine. It was a big scary storm, I was literally shaking and couldn't eat for a few days before the storm hit. Our house was fine, electric came on today. The neighborhood looks like a bomb hit it.
I spent 62 years in FL. Could never plan a birthday party because odds were there would be a hurricane on September 10th. Trust me, your neighborhood will rebuild. Important thing is that you are safe and have power...
@@Mikejamiew Yes, thank you. I know I'm in shock, or something similar. I have to remember just what you said.
I adoooore Desi's singing! Makes me laugh and smile. Thank you to the birthday boy and his Mum. 😃😍
Thank you so much!!! Much Love, Susan & Desi
Desi looks so Gorgeous today ❤ his pampering has really worked Happy Birthday 🎈🎂 Desi Pets are so easy to Love and they give back so much Love too For me Kindness is the most Attractive thing about a Man
What a beautiful video as always but this one was super special being Desi’s birthday. Happy birthday sweet baby boy!! I so much love your singing 🎵 aloha from Arizona
Susan you are so inspiring to me. My x husband of 45 yrs cheated the last 10 yrs of our marriage. I was devestatd but he taught me through all that hearbreak that I am strong and now I am remaried to a wonderful, kind man who loves me. I love hearing about your life and seeing you each week here . thank you for being you and sharing your life with me. I am 64 and my life atared over at 59. I am grateful for all the Lord has blessed me with. Two beautiful daughters and 4 wonderful gradchildren. and now I get to spend the rest of my liife with my husband of a year and a half and my family.
My hubby bought me a gold charm bracelet the first year we were married. It had a scorpion and a virgin for our astrological signs. It also had a typewriter. I was a secretary. It had a comical bird with the words "worry bird" written on its base. As the years went by he added 2 gold spheres (1 when my son was born and one for my daughter). Then came a small gold globe, and a computer (all miniatures, of course). I recently gave it to my granddaughter. The other one got my engagement ring and my daughter got my 25th Anniversary diamond.
Happy birthday Desi! I just love that little dog. They don’t come any cuter!❤
Happy Birthday Desi 🎉 Love you so much !! You are so lucky to have Susan as your mom. ❤
A tall, strong kind man who can fix and build things and cook is my turn on. I agree with you, going down that path of past hurts is best left alone. I learned from it and not going there no more. Happy birthday sweet Desi! You really belted it out today. ❤❤❤
You are so right! My first husband couldn't change the oil in a car - my second husband could build one. Sooo sexy...
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Happy birthday,Desi. After divorcing I get a dog a Chow Chow puppy. I get unconditional love.
What you create is beautiful! Admirable!
My first love cheated and left me for my best friend at the time. :( Changed my world and not for the best. But then I met my life partner and have felt secure and loved and protected for the last almost 50 years.
Oh my goodness… the last few seconds are priceless… please EVERYONE, make sure you watch to the very, very, very end of the video! You’ll be thrilled you did😂❤ Happy Birthday Desi❤️🐾❤️ thank you Susan xxx
Happy Birthday Desi. 🐶 We love you.
It warms my heart every week when I get to see you and Desi singing.. btw you did an excellent job on his haircut. Can’t tell it wasn’t professional. He’s a handsome guy. In answer to one of the questions, I had my heart broken by my husband many years ago when he left me for a much younger woman. He had 2 children with her. We had none. One day many years later, he called out of the blue to tell say he always loved me. Of course, you guessed it, she left him with the children and I guess he thought I’d come running back. He was wrong. It did sadden my heart when I found out he passed away in 2022. Some of the old feelings came flooding back for a moment.
Thank you so much!!! Much Love, Susan & Desi
Happy Birthday Desi !!❤ Thank you for sharing your videos with all of us ! We so look forward to our Saturday's with the both of you. Your an amazing woman !! Hugs & Love 💕
I think you are a very talented, caring and helpful woman. I've been watching your channel for 2 years now. I have learnt a lot about skin care and use some of the products that you have shared. I don't wear makeup, but you are a makeup artist. You do it beautifully. I have learnt about artist and stories behind some of the most notable paintings. You have shared your gift of music, which I love! Music is like the air I breathe. I can't live without it. You have shared fashion which I have purchased some of the things you showed. I have your Sweet Potato Bread recipe in my recipe binder. It is yummy! You have been very open about your life to help women and men. Your videos are so creative! I truly enjoy them and LOVE seeing you and Desi at the end. You always make me smile and that is priceless! I appreciate all that you do in your work! Thank you! ❤
Totally agree! And Happy Birthday to Desi. I laugh out loud every single time he sings. It never gets old!
Happy Birthday, Desi! You look so handsome. Hugs and kisses!
I am in LOVE with Desi....one of the cutest dogs I have ever seen
You do a great job with ur videos! Thanks for sharing ur feelings and experiences with us. It makes all of us feel less alone. Happy Birthday Desi, the best singer on youtube! ❤
PS. I thought u were an Aquarian. My bday is Jan 30.
@@kimlubrano9695 Please do not change. Don't you think she makes our friend village happy.
First….Happy Birthday Desi!❤🎉 Susan this video was so beautiful. When you were sharing about special moments in your life I could really see your deep feelings through your eyes. I’m divorced, he left me for another woman. I was devastated but survived. It really helps to be part of a community meaning your RUclips channel. Oh how long for someone to really love me, but for now, I must breathe and carry on alone. I’m not really alone. I have my furry kid. My dog Tessa. And of course, my grandchildren bring me such joy and are a blessing from the marriage that didn’t work out.
Happy birthday, adorable Desi! Let's hope for many more to come.❤❤❤
Happy Birthday Desi, you're so sweet!! looking dapper today ! love your channel like sitting with a friend.
Happy Birthday to Desi. I love a confident, intelligent, kind man with a good sense of humor. I'm also attracted to the Carpenter type.😊 Hope you have a wonderful week.
Susan, we are both turning 70 in January. You the 29th and mine is the 31st. Im divorced and also live alone.
We have alot in common!
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I agree with everything you shared about men and relationships. Especially learning that we have value and deserve to be treated with respect. Now, at 72, I no longer desire to be in a relationship, it's too exhausting. I do believe each relationship/marriage I have been through has taught me so much about myself. I just wish I had known "me" better all those years ago. Thank you for sharing your views, and Happy Birthday 🎉 little Desi!!
Susan, you are such a blessing to so many!! Happy Birthday to precious Desi❤️. I always look forward to your podcast! Thank you!
Oh happy birthday, dear Desi! This ending is just the best!❤🐶 🎉🎂🥳
Happy Birthday Desi, you are such a sweet little boy, I look forward to seeing you every week, love you. I think to me the sexiest man was Elvis Presley he had it all.
I agree! I thought so too and I'm way younger than him..
I highly recommend a trip to Graceland! My friend and I dragged our husbands with us and they loved it too!
🥳 Happy Birthday Dearest Desi ! 🦴🦴🦴
You’re such a sweet and pure soul. You did a great job with Desi’s haircut. He’s more handsome than ever.
Happy birthday, beautiful desi. Susan wishing you many blessings!
Susan, I look forward to your videos every week and seeing you and Desi. 😊 He's so lucky to have you spoil him every day. Happy 11th Birthday, Desi! 💗
You did a great job on Desi's haircut and massage ! Happy Birthday again !
Hi, Susan, before I go any further I wanted to let you know my name is Rosemary and not Carl. LOL For some reason RUclips is using my husband’s name and not mine. I thank you for praying for Florida. I live on the east central coast of Florida and we were told that we would have 80 mph winds. By the Grace of God we didn’t get the high winds that were expected where I live. However, the Tampa area was severely hit with devastating high winds and flooding. Several tornadoes hit the state and destroyed many homes and businesses.
On a brighter side… HAPPY BIRTHDAY DESI AND MANY MORE!
Love to you and Desi ❤
Happy Birthday Desi!!! 🎉🎉 we love seeing you and Susan every week!!!🎂🍖🐶
Hello dear Susan!! Happy birthday to your precious Desi!! I hope he enjoys his special day!! I’m not married & never have been cheated on, and at my age, I feel like I’m better off by myself!! I hurt deeply for any woman who has been cheated on!! Thank you for sharing your story with us!! I’m with you in prayer for all those who have been affected by the recent hurricanes!! I pray that you and your family are safe & well!! Have a blessed week ahead!! Lots of love and prayers to you and yours!!😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏🎂🎂🎂
Every Saturday is special as I watch your videos. Just love your Desi - such sweet boy. Love and hugs.😊
Oh , this is one of the cutest videos of Desi! I smiled the entire time. Thank you for another great video.
I’m mostly alone in my house. My partner of almost 18 years has his own place in a town 40 miles away. Only comes on a weekend but I can’t complain because he helps with yard work and other things that need fixing. There is no affection ; really nothing , but I’m grateful for his help. I miss being with someone who would hold me and say the things you mentioned in your video . At my age, (78), I now have given up on ever finding love again. He isn’t able to be affectionate in any way and thinks it’s just fine of how we get along😢. He has said many times that he can’t give me what I’m looking for . He knows that I have always been a very loving person. I continue to stay with him . At least we have each other on weekends to go out to eat and once in a while take a day trip somewhere, but it feels so lonely to have a partner who really is not part of my life every day. 18 years of this is a very long time. I keep busy with my flower garden , and much else . When you have a house , there is always work to be done. Your videos are always the highlight of my week. Love to you and Desi. ❤️❤️
I really and truly hate to tell you this, but it’s only fair to just say it. Your partner probably has more than one woman in his life. My dear, don’t you see that a little lawn work and an occasional meal out is not enough to qualify as a partnership? He told you quite clearly that physical affection will never be part of the relationship. Perhaps he would feel like he was cheating on his other woman if he offered you even a hug, hand holding, a peck on the cheek?. My dear Aunt maintained a relationship with a man whose wife had been dead for many years. She was 83 and he was 87. They would travel and have separate rooms , because he said he would never “ sleep” with another woman. He took that old euphemism for sex literally. It’s almost laughable now that they are both gone. My point for you is this, when something doesn’t seem quite right, maybe that’s because it isn’t. Have you ever visited his home? Has he found excuses why it wouldn’t be convenient?
I read your comment. Yes, I have been to his place . The reason he will not change is because he wants to live near his family and grandkids. They all live within a 2-3 mile range. He is happy living alone and is set in his old ways. Affection is not part of his personality but helping me is something he enjoys. It’s a very confusing and weird kind of relationship and I never thought that at my age , I would always be alone, except on weekends.
@@jfdrie The important thing , in the end, is that you must choose what you want out of the rest of your life. You do not sound satisfied, much less happy. My impression after reading your comment was one of feeling trapped in a dead end relationship that is not all that much fun.
Hello Susan, you are 100% correct about relationships, communication, and affection. Wish it could be put in a bottle and given to every man who never learned or has chosen to have a wife without being a husband. Just a little bit of consideration, respect and sincere affection makes a HUGE difference. We tire of giving in, making sacrifices and letting things slide because they lack the ability to be kind, thoughtful, and loving and taking the time to give a kiss before bedtime. Intimacy starts outside of the bed and no woman should wait all day to be shown appreciation and affection. Thanks for sharing ❤😊
Do men mirror their own fathers? I don’t know. What I do know is that husbands who use you as an outlet for sexual needs, a housekeeper, cook, laundry doer, who also is self supporting, in charge of arranging all appointments, repairs to house, manages 99% of all aspects of children’s needs it causes a fracture in the relationship.
Happy Birthday to a sweet and adorable dog!!
Aww,Desi ,such a little character, just love him,happy birthday . His haircut looked professional, bless him ❤
Aww, love Desi and you. Happy 11th birthday to Desi!
I've spent the last 2 weeks dealing with the east TN and western NC devastation. We collected well over $300,000 for supplies (food, water, generators, fuel, etc., plus donated clothing) - and the donations keep coming in! Most of the donation dollars have been spent and delivered at this point but this is not over. It's going to take a long time to recover for these folks.
The questions were thought provoking and I enjoyed your answers. I'll have to ponder on mine and perhaps I'll get back to you.
I love that you mentioned men's strong forearms as being attractive. I have always thought that, and thought to myself, does anyone feel the same way? Do glad to know you do too! 😅 I am single and have lived alone for a very long time. I am happy and content. Peaceful. However...a Miracle Man is on the way...I feel it. If not, living in your own space, and living in peace is Nirvana to me!❤
Happy Birthday Desi! 🐶
🙋♀️Thank you for your kind thoughts! I’m born and raised in Miami and currently live in Fort Pierce Fl. Believe me it was very scary, alls good tho! 😇
Happy birthday, sweet, adorable Desi ❤ And, Susan, I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS! I look forward to seeing the weekly videos. I couldn't do what you do. 15:39
I’m so thankful for you, Susan. I look so forward to your Saturday night video. Happy birthday Desi!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you so much!!
Happy Birthday, Desi! Hugs & kisses!
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The trees with the orange leaves are gorgeous! I miss living in the North! Tennessee won’t have this color for another month and I never have seen them so vibrant as I have in the North….Happy Birthday Desi!!🎉
You could do a talk show and take Desi on the road! Happy birthday, dear Desi. Today was my Maggie’s 8th birthday. You are never alone with a dog!
Thank you Susan and Desi for brightening up my life. Adore Desi, so cute.
The quality I look for in a man is kindness, acceptance and honesty. After an infaithful husband I am fortunate enough to have that exact man in my 67th year. How lucky I am to have someone that loves me just the way I am.