Story No.1 - I went to bus station to get a bus ticket, while queuing an uncle came to me told me that he just came out from jail and not enough money to get a ticket to see his family at hometown so he is asking whether can i give him some money to help out. I did lend a helping hand and felt so pity to look at that uncle. After 1 month i went to the same place again to queue for ticket, saw the same uncle saying the same thing to me and i ask him after 1 month still not back to hometown yet? He ran away. Story No.2 - One day, while i walking to a LRT station to catch a train, an aunty came to me saying that she need some money to take a ride to hospital to visit her son. Without any hesitation, i took out my wallet and hand her some money. I felt so pity to see her. But after a week later, saw her again telling me the same things so i ask her why go to hospital again, she told me this time to visit my second son in hospital. I did give her some money again. After awhile saw her again but this time i walked away without helping. Sorry No.3 - While i walking down the street, an uncle came to me saying that he is very hungry and see whether can i give him some money for him to get some foods. Without saying anything, i took out my wallet and hand him RM2 but he told me “only RM2? Not even can get a chicken rice”. I was like WHAT? Finally i told him i only have this much, if u don’t want i can take it back then he walked away. Story No.4 - I saw this blind uncle standing at the roadside trying to cross the road, many walk by him but nobody help. I always help him by holding his hand to guide him cross the road. Story No.5 - i am a parent too and i did helped other parents but not everyone will appreciate and some will took advantage on me. There are some very nice parents in the group too. I have so many stories to share. Hahaaa. For me, helping others within my ability i will still do. Am i a stupid Malaysian?
When I was a kid, I asked my dad why he donate or help others, he told me it's a blessing that he have been given such capability to do so. Now I told my son the same.
Every time I order food through Grab Food, when the food riders come to deliver the food, I will give them extra money, like a few ringgit more or to the extent of RM10, as they really risk their lives to send us the food & some people said if the food riders are hard working, they can earn up to RM3000-RM4000 per month but we must remember they risk their lives to deliver food to us as they always on the road, rain or shine, if we can afford, why not to make them happy to show our appreciation of their work!
I met that same lady selling some Nyonya cakes in Damansara Uptown. I bought some, a little pricier than normal, but that was OK. I hope it helped her a little.
First off, I should say that I only understand what Google translates as your subtitle (which many times don't make sense to me) so I don't have the full picture of the discussion between you and your wife. In my opinion, being helpful is certainly a reflection of one's upbringing. In school, we are also taught the virtues of kindness, patience, helpfulness, etc as found in the world's major religions which are practiced in Malaysia. When we go about our day in society, we see people doing good, so the children have these positive examples to follow. When we think we would like to ease foreigners like yourselves into our society and daily lives, that's why your former colleague and the mother at your son's school give you information and other tips. In other situations, it doesn't mean we aren't cautious. Of course we are. Sometimes, I have thought twice before giving any money to little old ladies or pitiful young children as I'm wary whether they're genuinely in need. Then, helping or not helping will depend on the gut feeling. I hope more positive experiences will outweigh those negative ones in your "reborn" journey here.
thank you for tolerating the poor translation watching our video and leaving us such a long message. We moved to this amazing country and are embraced by this diversified culture and everywhere kindness. We will memorize and practise and spread them. We are learning Malayu and hope some day we can be friends with more Malaysian people. Have a lovely day a head!
Malaysians are generally very kind and helpful…..and most don’t expect anything in return. That’s not “stupid”. That’s called morally and emotionally intelligent! Stupid are the ones who are selfish, unkind, uncaring and takes advantage of people’s kindness
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Story No.1 - I went to bus station to get a bus ticket, while queuing an uncle came to me told me that he just came out from jail and not enough money to get a ticket to see his family at hometown so he is asking whether can i give him some money to help out. I did lend a helping hand and felt so pity to look at that uncle. After 1 month i went to the same place again to queue for ticket, saw the same uncle saying the same thing to me and i ask him after 1 month still not back to hometown yet? He ran away.
Story No.2 - One day, while i walking to a LRT station to catch a train, an aunty came to me saying that she need some money to take a ride to hospital to visit her son. Without any hesitation, i took out my wallet and hand her some money. I felt so pity to see her. But after a week later, saw her again telling me the same things so i ask her why go to hospital again, she told me this time to visit my second son in hospital. I did give her some money again. After awhile saw her again but this time i walked away without helping.
Sorry No.3 - While i walking down the street, an uncle came to me saying that he is very hungry and see whether can i give him some money for him to get some foods. Without saying anything, i took out my wallet and hand him RM2 but he told me “only RM2? Not even can get a chicken rice”. I was like WHAT? Finally i told him i only have this much, if u don’t want i can take it back then he walked away.
Story No.4 - I saw this blind uncle standing at the roadside trying to cross the road, many walk by him but nobody help. I always help him by holding his hand to guide him cross the road.
Story No.5 - i am a parent too and i did helped other parents but not everyone will appreciate and some will took advantage on me. There are some very nice parents in the group too.
I have so many stories to share. Hahaaa.
For me, helping others within my ability i will still do.
Am i a stupid Malaysian?
With capabilities and kindness, you may do it. Thank you for what you have been doing. We can have a call for those stories
No. You are not.
就是一句话 ： 施比受更为有福 😊
做善事的人不求回报是件很舒服的事！所以恭喜你俩有个,心善的兒子！
谢谢您
施比受更为有福气
兄弟..刚发现你丰富教育性的频道就立马订阅了....非常欢迎你们来大马定居.....大马一直以来都是被外国人低估的国家,..但....它总会给人有种情人眼里出西施的感觉.....它不会像新加坡有那一见钟情的感触.....但...如果你有那份勇敢勇气自信一直陪伴着它 ...也许某年某月某日你会情不自禁的爱上它....
您好！Kian 但提前警告哦 太好为人师是我烦毛病 我正在努力改进 方法就是忠诚地面对自己 手段是自媒体 欢迎👏
耶稣就是教导我们要爱人如己。只做造就人的事，不做绊倒人的事。
非常欣赏你们兩夫妻的對話！
谢谢您的鼓励 我们其实一直吵吵闹闹 最近打算公开我们的心路历程
大马人傻也许是因为，
1. 衣食无忧， 独立几十年也没遇到饥荒或什么巨大的灾难。天气也算稳定。没有台风没有地震，大家心里都是很安定，不会饿死不会遭遇什么超乎想象的祸事。 大家不用太过担心我帮了人，钱少了物少了，自己存得不够以后会很困难 。一般，你有困难总能找到援助的。所以行有余力，大家才不会吝啬。
2. 东南亚诸国里也算是政治稳定，体制健全。
3. 物产丰富，地广人稀。 物质比较充裕， 福利也还行。人和人之间不会太拥挤， 心态放松。 屋前种点果树， 收获吃都吃不完，当然乐意分享。
4. 大部分人都有信仰， 不一定是很虔诚那种， 但是都是信举头三尺有神明， 有能力还是要捐献助人。
一直很羡慕大马人对于物质的松弛，收入高有自己的活法，工薪阶层和自得其乐，自己少有我们大陆人的一山望着一山高的的不知足和不忿
不爱（不需要）攀比是因为,
1. 华人在异国打拼一直都知道要保持低调。广东，福建，潮汕地区的移民在中国就知道枪打出头鸟了，何况来到外国。低调生活，岁岁平安。
2 早期先贤发家不易， 发家后帮助同乡发展教育， 一路都是不容易， 没人会去炫耀（苦过来的）, 后代也是如此。
3. 这里多元文化， 你会看到马来人也是乐于助人的多， 我们也是从各族身上学到很多。西式的教育也是强调开放平等。
你的生活好和我有什么关系呢？ 我不觉得这样你就高我一等， 我也没靠你养。 遇到这种人，我都是离得远远的。这种人在这里会被翻白眼的。
4. 教育，机会这些都是平等的，当然社会就会平和很多。 没有什么二代三代的， 大家都有出头的机会， 竞争没这么激烈。当竞争过于激烈， 你取得的成功付出了全部的精力毅力努力，你当然会想炫耀不炫耀就太对不起自己，一人如此，就人人如此，当然就攀比成风。这是环境造成的不安全感，不自信和匮乏的感觉，让人觉得自己只有现在成功的一条路可以走。 其实这里只是让你看见人生的路其实有很多种，没必要攀比，没必要过度消耗自己。
When I was a kid, I asked my dad why he donate or help others, he told me it's a blessing that he have been given such capability to do so. Now I told my son the same.
May the spirit pass down
Every time I order food through Grab Food, when the food riders come to deliver the food, I will give them extra money, like a few ringgit more or to the extent of RM10, as they really risk their lives to send us the food & some people said if the food riders are hard working, they can earn up to RM3000-RM4000 per month but we must remember they risk their lives to deliver food to us as they always on the road, rain or shine, if we can afford, why not to make them happy to show our appreciation of their work!
全世界都有好与坏的人,大马也不例外,但如果以好的心態去面對,應該也就坏不到那里去的.😂😅
心态好，哪里都是我的马来西亚
最重要的，做了好事，不求回报。
马来西亚人的善良，宗教的影响其实也占了很大的因素!再加上马来西亚的最高元首与皇族也非常关心马来西亚子民，会以身作则，所以马来西亚的多元种族社会很多时候的氛围都是一遍祥和!
你们可以观察到并欣赏和尝试融入大马文化是值得高兴的，大马欢迎你们。
有个故事和主题没有什么关系的。我是大马人，有时还是会猜疑一些在夜市和我要钱的人。有一次在夜市有位残疾的乞丐边唱歌边要钱，我有点麻木无动于衷，但在我前面的孟加拉外劳直接掏钱去给了。时至今天我依然很震撼。一位工资比不上我们的外劳在外国竟然捐款给了本国乞丐。从此我对外劳另眼相看了，他们不但给我们提供劳力，还比我善良。
事过境迁您依然记着此事，亦说明善良是您心中的底色啊！
从小我们的教育大多数是这样的故事，小明（华人）阿里（马来人）和木都（印度人）的故事。多数都是教我们种族的不同，要怎么做对然后做什么事会冒犯和不冒犯。所以从小学的都是这些呵呵。。。马来西亚人大多数都会称别人“bro"男的，”sis"女的。我们大多数抱着”无功不受禄“当然小礼物o'k. 像我和我邻居好好笑，你送我我又回礼。送马来人就尽量不送吃的，吃的要halal或水果o'k.当然大马也有坏人，马来西亚没什么大案件，小偷小抢还是蛮多的呵呵。谢谢你们喜欢马来西亚。。。祝福你们一家人开开心心，健健康康
我有点偏题哦：怪不得有个餐厅叫Ali, Muthu & Ah Hock
真的？那么可爱的餐厅名字？那老板一定很爱马来西亚，那么注重三大名族呵和@@Reborn_in_Malaysia
还是连锁店咧 开好多家呢！
我觉得傻有两种，一种真的智商不高，但是就是跟着父母，老师的道德教育，跟着做，这种通常是傻人有傻福，往往不理解复杂的事情才能让自己更纯粹，更单纯，更开心。。。而另一种是高智商的傻，这种是大智若愚，知道越计较越损失，而且是明白一个道理，施比受更有福，往往得到的比失去的更多。。。
嗯！而小聪明可能长远来看，是“大于弱智” ;P
马来西亚人的傻主要是从小培养吧。各个种族的宗教信仰多数都是教人多做好事、存好心、相信因果报应的，再加上我们小学时都有上道德课而形成的习惯吧。（不好意思，我不知道中国的学校有没有道德科目🙏）
因此在马来西亚你会看到两个人不小心撞到时，双方都会傻傻的互相say sorry，买东西给钱时买卖双方都会互相say thank you这样傻傻的画面 😊
大陆也有思想品德课 都是爱党爱国之类的 哎。近几年司法判例还有年轻人扶摔倒的老人反被倒打一耙污蔑是年轻人有错在先撞倒老人，这样一来，好心人都心凉了
最近网上有看到一个大马人在机场遇到一群中国人骗说她的钱包掉了，然后要100元说要打车去KL，他本来想给，后来又来2个，分别又要，引起他的注意，觉得是咋骗，因为他们怂恿他去提款机提给他们。。。☹️我觉得大马人的热心被利用，这样会导致大马人越来越冷漠的。
这可真是害群之马啊！！
"If this is called being stupid, I'm happy to be stupid here for the rest of my life." Well said, sir!
7:30 这个习惯从小到大 群里总有个人会提醒欸❤️❤️班级黑板上有个角落就是写这些备忘 明天要格外带什么穿什么衣也会再提醒😂😂不然大家集体忘记哈哈哈哈哈哈
傻就傻吧 傻人有傻福😂开心就好
马来西亚的政府中学是三大种族一起上课，因为在象牙塔，大家都比较纯朴。所以大多数马来西亚人都能互相包容与了解，也比较团结!
善良的夫妻👍👍👍
谢谢您。
讲真的，没有人是真傻，只是没那么计较而已。
这境界，可不是那么容易达到的啊。尤其在这充满功利的社会。
当然，真傻的还是有的。厚道的人能做的是：不去占他的便宜。
另，马来西亚三大民族虽然说是都是马来西亚人，但还是有各自独特的民族性。你们住久了，就会知道的。忒有趣的说。慢慢研究啊~
好的 讲得好 慢慢研究 另外 您能赐教更好啊
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia 和谐社会 和谐社会 我们心照就好 坏话不多说 好话不怕多说。😁
另，坏人的额头上没印“我是坏人”这四个字。😁
本着 “害人之心不可有，防人之心不可无” 的心态最安全。
非常感人的幾個小故事。我也是這樣的人。我也是非常喜歡聽故事的人😂。
大马人 有精明的，有傻气的，我倒希望我孩子们是傻的那种，所谓傻人有傻福，我想因为你不斤斤计较，你会比较开心
已是老頭子啦！ 記得小學曾有“ 日行一善” 的教導😊❤😊.
善良比聪明更可贵…..
助人为快乐之本。同时也牢记"害人之心不可2有，防人之心不可无"。
感谢提醒。
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia 不敢提醒你，是说我们从小就听到惯的话。😉
I met that same lady selling some Nyonya cakes in Damansara Uptown. I bought some, a little pricier than normal, but that was OK. I hope it helped her a little.
Return to the innocence. follow your heart 👍
我的其中一个傻事就是
我太太之前是在银行工作的，住在登州，然后有天，她sarawak公司有个客户想带他的女儿来登州读大学. 因为是老人家也没来过这里所以找他认识的人帮忙. 所以找到了我太太. 是说要去机场接他们去他们租的hotel... 剩下的就让他们自己搞定就可以了.
结果从他们到机场到回去机场一个星期里，我全职变成他们的司机，还请他们吃早午晚三餐，结果到要回去的时候，他们竟然暗示我们说我们一点有企图才会那么招待他们，如果不是女儿来读书像登州这种鸟不生蛋，狗不拉屎的地方他才不会来.
真的整个人无语，但是我也不怪他，反正我行个方便给老人家，他要怎么想就不关我事了.
您好 您30年前遇见过的事 我在20多年前也经历过 我还记得我那时在路上遇见了一个20几岁的人说他的钱包不见了 他要搭车回家 于是向我借RM10 他还说会还我 约我几个小时后在那附近的麦当劳见 其实我身上也没有多少钱 因为当时的我是半工半读 可是我还是给了他RM10 我心里是有一个数的滴 知道拿不回这钱了 可是几个小时后 我还是抱着好奇心到了麦当劳那等他 等了一个小时多吧！他没出现哦！
到了现在吧！我只有看到老人家或残障人士出来讨钱才会给他们。我也有教导孩子们要帮助那些需要帮助的人
其实这世界上每一个国家都有好人也有坏人 。我觉得您的儿子那个举动真的很 14:18 棒 希望他一直保持着这种善良。加油😊
谢谢您以及您的分享。我也希望他做一些力所能及的事情，有绵长的热情最好，不要一时兴起。
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia 一定会的 只要父母以身作则 孩子会看在眼里 自然会影响他的为人处世。我们大家一起加油灌输正能量及正面的观念给下一代 希望未来的世界是和平共处的。🙏🙏🙏
助人为快乐之本。
忠字 = 心口如一，直指口心不做二想，意喻思想正直，仁者之风范。
这个拆解好！谢谢！
应该是用憨（han)。（ 敢于从心之义 ）
之义是指 天真，純樸：
如：「憨直」、「憨厚」、「憨態」、「憨狀可掬」
是古汉语词，保留在南方方言里，如闽南歌曲的 “天公疼憨人”
憨山大师(1546年-1623年），法名德清，明代“四大高僧”之一，且为中国近代禅宗最大的成就者。
能做到就帮，不要伤害自己就好了
请问这是您家的阳台吗？外头风景好漂亮，一片绿地伴着一些植物，开阔无遮挡，让人心旷神怡❤！
是的呢 谢谢
哈哈哈，我们的老师教我们：傻人才有傻福气❤
我太太小时候的老师教他们，你读书不好、考不过别人，你就是扫垃圾的社会底层。高下立现。
在建筑和修电方面，华人师傅比较靠谱。我的马来同事的洋房也是请华人师傅建。技术和经验很重要。
要幫就幫，無條的件幫忙才會有今天的你呀😓
First off, I should say that I only understand what Google translates as your subtitle (which many times don't make sense to me) so I don't have the full picture of the discussion between you and your wife.
In my opinion, being helpful is certainly a reflection of one's upbringing. In school, we are also taught the virtues of kindness, patience, helpfulness, etc as found in the world's major religions which are practiced in Malaysia. When we go about our day in society, we see people doing good, so the children have these positive examples to follow. When we think we would like to ease foreigners like yourselves into our society and daily lives, that's why your former colleague and the mother at your son's school give you information and other tips. In other situations, it doesn't mean we aren't cautious. Of course we are. Sometimes, I have thought twice before giving any money to little old ladies or pitiful young children as I'm wary whether they're genuinely in need. Then, helping or not helping will depend on the gut feeling.
I hope more positive experiences will outweigh those negative ones in your "reborn" journey here.
thank you for tolerating the poor translation watching our video and leaving us such a long message. We moved to this amazing country and are embraced by this diversified culture and everywhere kindness. We will memorize and practise and spread them. We are learning Malayu and hope some day we can be friends with more Malaysian people. Have a lovely day a head!
在神的眼中记下了是善良的灵魂❤
郑板桥有句名言，难得糊涂，吃亏是福
己所不欲，勿施于人
己之所欲，先善于人
大智慧！谢谢您
再做到极致就是陶渊明的《桃花源》了。🤭
多好的境界。
马来西亚的社会是没有收红包与礼物的文化!
红包与礼物只在佳节才会存在，红包是给未婚男女与小孩，或老板给员工，是一种对平安的祝福!
礼物是佳节送给客户，或给任何你想去拜年的人。
現在的我不會donate錢給路邊不認識需要錢的人因為有騙子的存在。我大部份的捐款主要都是經過本地報館而且是收據是可以扣稅的（慈善團體有tax exemption的批涵）。
都是做善事，给您点赞！
现在情况好多了，还记得20年前，我们听到中国大陆口音的人都非常警惕，当时很多人到大马来从事非法的工作。当时你们看不到这么傻的我们。
很冒昧地想问您一下，不知当时我们的同胞在哪些方面冒犯到了大家呢？
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia我一個老人家親戚在wet market 被迷魂黨搞到把老本的saving 從銀行裡全提出來,去報警被通知很多這樣的案子，受害者都是本地華人，都是無意識下或迷迷胡胡把錢奉送。以前也有很多來自中國的乞丐集團在夜市討錢，之前也有在銀行前遇到坐在地上討錢的中國人。
哎！！这是有组织有目的的犯罪啊！
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia没什么冒犯，我不清楚为何他会警惕😂虽然很多中国人来从事非法工作，但是也没做大坏事(除了一些小群害群之马诈骗之类)
不外乎诈骗和娼妓@@Reborn_in_Malaysia
精明真是痛苦來源之一
对于你们在大马体验的浓浓人情味，我们本地人并不觉得是什么，我认为是我们已经是觉得那些都是理所当然的，不值得一提的。
我们有幸可以在四十岁体会到不一样的人情味，心怀感恩。
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia 没事，你们的反馈也让我们很感动！
如果文言文不晕头转向，晕头转向的就是我😧
前面那个“晕头转向”是使动用法 😄
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia 只是个比喻，形容对文言文不敢恭维，百思不得其解🤤
大部分大马人对外国人都会比较友善的～尤其是中国人。原因就是我们都是龙的传人。
我这一代跟中国是没什么关系了～所以我们是大马华裔，但我们的根源是来自中国。。。所以还是有息息相关的亲切感包容在内的😊😊
有能力大马华裔一直都比较向往海外，因为社会种族歧视和不平打压。。。华人的话语权是很低的，甚至是乞求也能用上了😢尤其是在大学名额方面。顶级优等生连进大学的空位。。。没有！！笑死人啦～
还有种种原因～所以很多生意，福利，华人是得不到的～
没事～绝处逢生是华人血统里有的基因😂～
就这样多年下去了…我也对马来西亚没有任何期望～
但近年来网络的发达，稍微改变了一些，渐渐中国的崛起。说真的哦感谢中国的崛起！！让大马的华人有了底气～在政治上有了极大的改变～尤其是你们中国外交部长好像是叫李国强？也开声说希望看到大马的公平选举～这可是强心剂啊～终于那年推翻了掌控长达5x年腐败的政府❤
中国没放弃海外华人的死亡～我们渐渐的找回大马华人的底气和尊严。这是不用质疑的！
所以这也是我们马来西亚华人对你们中国人会那么特友善的原因之一～再说大马华人还是挺有义气的～袖手旁观绝对做不到～面前救不了你背后一定有一双援手💪💪
在大马遇到问题了别担心～我们都在～其他种族的朋友也是挺仗义的～大可放心～
孩子在小的时候大多都会比较质朴，而我们只是把这份质朴强化了而已，以前我朋友的2岁的孩子在去佛堂亲近出家人的时候，只要经过福田箱都一定要dong 钱进去，所以导致每次去佛堂都dong了好几次的钱😂😂，我问了小朋友，她说dong 钱的时候很开心，所以就去做了咯😂😂😂
我的儿子也一样。这次去关公庙捐功德也很开心。
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia 嗯，我们大多数教小孩都是说不管以后长大做什么，都要对得起自己的良心，不要做伤害别人的事。
纵然外面的世界有危险的地方，但是人的性格一旦形成，成长后是不会相差太多的哦。
在小孩成长的过程中，学习如何做人（人品）才是最重要的
Malaysians are generally very kind and helpful…..and most don’t expect anything in return. That’s not “stupid”. That’s called morally and emotionally intelligent!
Stupid are the ones who are selfish, unkind, uncaring and takes advantage of people’s kindness
thank you for this wise summary. You made our day!
马来西亚人是看实力和能力，不看背景。
这肯定不是在说政府部门？😄
@@Reborn_in_Malaysia也不是每個馬來人都能當公務員。本地印裔同胞在政府機關工作的人數會比華人高（個人看到的）.還有可以觀察/留意一下本地銀行（maybank,Cimb,Rhb &Bsn)門面員工，為什麼有印裔但是沒有華人（包括officer)？ 還有雪州的TNB,Telekom,水務局，稅務局也是一樣只會看到印裔沒有華人。我的一個公立大學教授親戚的下屬都是馬來講師,他時常被大學派去外國和其他國家大學交流。
其实你们探讨马来西亚人的一股傻劲。归根到底也是宗教信仰的影响。这是福气。
William 老板，其实你们所遇到的陌生人就只是在进一个地主（在地人）之谊的义务。罢了！😁😁😅还有帮忙付账是表示要（想）交你这个朋友。的意思。😁😅