Response to Manosphere MDH
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- Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024
- A week ago, I uploaded an unedited, unscripted video that I didn’t even watch back before uploading. There was a huge response to it and Manosphere Daily Highlights featured it on his satirical RUclips channel. That video was about being 30+, muslim and single.
Many people requested a response from me to that video and to the comments so here it is!
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It's truly commendable that you chose to share your personal experiences and challenges as a Muslim woman navigating the complexities of marriage in a Western society. Opening up about such topics, especially in a world that often misunderstands or overlooks these nuanced perspectives, takes immense courage and strength.
Remember, your voice is valuable and your story is important. It's not easy to face criticism, especially from those who might not fully understand or respect your cultural and personal context. But know that your honesty and authenticity are exactly what make your content impactful and meaningful to so many who may feel the same way but don't have the platform or courage to speak up.
As a PhD scholar, your perspective is unique and deeply informed, and it adds a crucial layer to the broader conversations about identity, faith, and societal expectations. Not everyone will see eye to eye, but your willingness to stand firm in your truth is powerful. Keep sharing your journey, your insights, and your truth; you are inspiring others to be brave and true to themselves. Stay strong, and remember that your work and your words have the power to resonate with and support those who truly understand and appreciate your message.
@@machine1st827 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
@@Sunnysundas Hello, sister. You could collaborate with Mohammed Hijab. He did a podcast with JustPearlyThings a few months ago, addressing feminism and the Red Pill Movement. Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh.
How can you expect to find a husband when you have been married to your education and career for 10 years? Deep down you now that you can return to your country of origin, stay for 6 months amongst suitors with the same religious discipline as you and find a good man in that time. But your lifestyle and career is more important.
My bro the problem is that as a result of her education her expectations of the kind of man she wants to marry has also GONE UP📈. She needs to realise that because of her age chances of getting married to that level of men is is very low. Shee needs to compromise. Do NOT compromise on deen. 👍
@@AfterTheGame nope
Honestly, you got to look it from her point of view. For women, marrying is like working a single corporate job the rest of their lives. Suppose you came to this country, from a poverty stricken country. Then you worked your way up to where you are now. You have a Ph.D. But all the jobs (men) are janitorial positions. Would you want to do that? You would much rather work at Google or any of the fortune 10s. Hell, you'd rather go on social benefits / welfare (crying on the internet for attention)
To add insult to injury, you are underqualified for the janitorial role due to your age. Are you, a ph.d who struggled all her life to become this degree, going to put up with cleaning the floor? Listening to your manager / "superior"? The modern janitors (men) know this. So even if she accepted and "settled", the janitor would most likely not want her. They'll hire the younger version of her self. A version, that can be trained and assimilated into the corporation known as a "family".
Its sunk cost fallacy. I feel bad for women. Even when they "win", they lose. The most peak years of her life, spent on a "degree".. and now she can't find a man who wants her back.
Only God and Women can create life. Yet the supreme irony is, women forgo their god blessed ability to bring life into this amazing world, for a silly paper "degree". For some empty title that will never fulfill her. Truly a modern day tragedy.
@@Sunnysundas You are delusional
Dude, that ship has saled a long time ago. Save your breath. This kind of women are disgusted by the average man. She just hit the wall from now on we will see how that will go interesting times
May Allah SWT bless you and make your Dua's come true and bless you with a good husband.
@@mfnazir Ameen, jazakAllah khair 🤲
Honestly, I'm finding this entire exchange rather fascinating. I've looked at the manosphere world for awhile now, not because I agree with it, but rather because I disagree with several elements of it, and I see the influence it is now having on my students. I've tried to see the underlying tensions that lead young men to find this messaging compelling in a world that is changing at a breathtaking rate.
You specifically coming into contact with it is an interesting inflection as you disrupt the standard "manosphere narrative". That is, modern women are going against traditional dating patterns by focusing on their education and career first before finding a "high value man" to marry. Because of this the women have missed their major window of opportunity in finding a high value man in their early twenties when women are at their "peak attraction". Due to the fact that they now have an education and career and are "hypergamous" they have drastically reduced their chances at finding a high value man because their own sense of self worth is now higher than the average man. At this point the woman is in their late twenties or early thirties, the biological clock is ticking, but they are running the risk of not finding a man that meets their standards, and thus is condemned to a single life taking care of pets to assuage the maternal instincts.
FURTHER, throughout this entire process, it is assumed in the manosphere that the woman has had a great deal of casual sex or short term relationships with "Chad/Tyrone" who is tall, handsome, sexually virile, but doesn't treat the woman well. This despoils the woman, giving her a high "body count" in sexual relations, and psychologically programming her to be unable to truly find the average man, who is not Chad/Tyrone, to truly satisfy her sexually. And thus at best she settles for an average man in her 30s or 40s, and robbing from the great pool of men in the world, having an average man get a beautiful woman in her youthful prime and allow the man to lead her in their marriage.
This narrative is repeated across many, many, many different channels in a variety of ways, but the primary method is to take women's videos where they complain about relationship issues and then provide commentary on what the woman says, framing what the woman says somewhere within the above narrative. It's a drum beat that has been getting beaten for many years now.
I will say that MDH's channel is one of the better ones. He isn't as egregious in his framing. He does try to make longer and more pointed arguments and doesn't try to aim for outright shaming and fanning resentment as many other manosphere channels typically do.
Among the many challenges I have with the manosphere is that there is very little call to action beyond either shaming women, or telling men to ignore women and live their life without them. It is very reductionistic, demonizes women, and is fueled by some mixture of shame, insecurity, and fear. There are underlying social challenges that have emerged for boys and men, see the work of Richard Reeves for a coherent analysis of the issues here www.amazon.com/Boys-Men-Modern-Struggling-Matters/dp/0815740662/
Beyond the women shaming, "men going their own way (MGTOW)", or "Passport Bro" where western men go overseas to marry more traditional women, there is no social action. The odd thing is that the individualism that is seen as an infection in women with the manosphere is also the answer for men. Isolate yourself from women either emotionally, or culturally. It's never about listening and understanding women. It's always reactionary and a grumbling immature response of resentment or aggrievement.
And so then you come along and get swept up in the discourse. You are thoughtful, listen, thorough, and speak in good faith in the conversation. Further, with your observation of Haram you don't fit with a core part of the narrative around sexual relations. In addition, with your faith and practice I imagine that there are deferential practices towards the husband in Islam, which also has some alignment with the manosphere narrative around a more traditional relationship where the man leads. Thus, you don't line up well with the template, which of course is the ultimate point. The narrative is just that, a story that is repeated again and again to the point that people take any situation and then wrap the story around it, rather than stopping to listen and appreciate that our lives are far more complex than a simplistic story.
@@bakeliteperformance now this would've made the perfect video script! Thank you ever so much for taking the time to share your detailed and accurate review. Voices of reason like yours are much needed in this debate to challenge the narrative that clearly does not apply to all. I will try to keep this topic alive by making further videos and encourage others to do the same
Being from Pakistani Kashmir; we have a Bro-Code, "If you are diciplined and hard working with consistancy, never accept proposal of your relative Girls from abroad. Specially from EU, North America, Australia & New Zealand.
Because they are mostly raised for those aiming for Hell".
HOPE PICTURE IS CLEAR NOW AS NOBLE WOMAN OF OVER 40 IS OKAY FOR US. BUT,........
I wish you all the happiness and success in your life. The most important thing is to live in a way that brings you comfort and fulfillment. Happiness comes when we live for ourselves, not to please others.
@@3okkol thank you very much 🙏
Regarding the Hijab issue I don't think you're taking your Deen that seriously because what you said about research and not following what the people say without thinking sounds good but you have to implement that and I saw that you like the idea that there is "different islamic opinions" regarding different subjects and that may become a way to further misguide you by being more comfortable in your wrong ways.
I'm an Arab and I can certainly say that the Hijab is mentioned in both the Quran and the Sunnah and you can find many videos online explaining the meaning of the verses and their Arabic words and so on, and also there is a Hadeeth where the prophet says that his Ummah doesn't come together on falsehood and also seek the people of knowledge if you don't know that's why there is a thing in Fiqh (islamic science) called الإجماع "consensus" which is an important metric in islamic legislation.
May Allah guide us all and may you succeed in this life and the next.
Just came across your video.
You’re such an inspiration…very well spoken. Please keep posting!
What country are you based in?
Thanks so much! I’m from the UK 🙏
A very mature and wise response! May God will bless you with a wonderful husband
@@882517 thank you so much!
Thank you again for sharing your videos and thoughts. Nice to listen to you🙏
Thanks for listening as always! 🤩
@@Sunnysundas 😍😍🥰😍🥰😍Continue your videos, love your informative videos and your smile.
You are very brave for sharing your story. It's a massive challenge you are facing but it is not unique,
THE THING IS SUNDAS
both men and women are suffering cause of the recent changes that happened in the last 100 years..
Everything has become destabilized..
I am not a sub of either of you but i can understand what both of you are trying to say at the core
Its just a messed up world we are living in and its not going to get fixed anytime soon..
Hello Sundas, I am a regular MHD viewer, and I agree with him on what he has said in that video. But many of the points he mentions are general patterns he has observed and is not a commentary aimed at only you. It's not possible as he, or I, don't know you personally to make a highly specific analysis. But I am happier listening to the response you gave, it was a normal, wise, balanced and correct response. Many women cant take critique, cant understand the message and give a bitter response. You are a good quality woman. All the best to you. Bye.
Seem like a really lovely lady. This topic though is close to my heart though, as a man with 2 sisters who are still not married. My heart bleeds for them (though at times I envy the non married times & think how the troubles & difficulties or marriage that they currently don’t contend with, and I think; maybe once married they’ll regret it?).
Thing is though, how to find women like you (or my sisters)? Maybe everyone just needs to start RUclips channels where they speak as themselves like you. Maybe that’s a way to attract the right person?
I don’t know. Just some thoughts
@@QuranicIslam Thank you for commenting. I understand your frustration. Are there any good single men in your circle or at any community events who you could introduce to them? I am on a mission with my channel for a purpose greater than myself. But I do believe that when you are authentically yourself, good things come your way. I think that you will like my next video 😊
I think its very hard to satisfy everyone. People can "extract" all kind of meaning to whatever suits them. Only people close to you are worth caring.
@@sherafgan1 true! 🙏
sorry but I have arabic background, you are humble person. I know people change during the life. Ask Allah to give us to be Faith and doing good deed and have patience and sense of justice. About hijab historically woman at the Age of the Messanger of Allah "Sall Allah alaihwsalam" wearing It. And when ayah Number 31 of Surat al Noor sent. This Aya contained the verse about also to wearing hijab and other stuff with more accuracy to cover body part. the meaning of the word بخمرهن sound " BKhumurihin" it's desinence of "Khimar" indicate something cover you from top of head to chest. It's not obligatory the face but need to use something cover the top to head to the chest, this something can be not only in one piece but you can use plus of object distint. I wish you all best , Allah Bless you!
His video of you is protected under 'fair use'.
You are allowed to use a reasonable amount of copyright material, without permission, for the purposes of research and study.
@@razer0072073 👍
Please try to not be bothered by the comments from toxic men, these guys are just as bad as the extreme feminist women they complain about. They're the male version of them and don't even realize it.
You seem very sweet and kind, in addition to being intelligent and well-mannered. I don't see why a quality man wouldn't want to marry you. I'm not Muslim but I don't see why Muslim men wouldn't be interested. You've got the traits men look for in a wife, I wish you the best. I believe you would be married within the next 2 years.
@@Zuzu-go1ve thank you so much; your message and kind thoughts mean a lot to me. I hope that the person I marry can see me in a positive light, the way that you described. I believe that like attracts like so I am hopeful.
Yes I agree and feel that both extreme groups mirror each other yet it has been eye opening as I hadn’t had much exposure to the man agenda promoting side before except through Andrew Tate’s videos.
Wish you get married this year I am a non Muslim but hope you find your soul mate soon there are so many haters in this world especially as a guy I can understand your feelings❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏@@Sunnysundas
I am not judging but I just want to correct you that all the mainstream schools of Islam believe hijab is mandatory and some believe Niqab is mandatory. But on Hijab everyone agrees. Not judging you or anyone but just wanted to clarify.
Oh, so the criterion for us is what mainstream schools of Sunni or Shia Islam agree on? Not the Quran as prescribed by The Almighty.
Which mainstream schools? Arab ones? Taliban ones?
@@sa2417Are you insinuating that the schools of Islam are disconnected from the Qur'an (and Sunnah) and that you know Qur'an more than the scholars?
@@Big-gp9biThe Holy Prophet (saw) was an Arab, so when you mock "Arab ones", you're disregarding not just the scholars, Ahlul Bayt (ra) and the Companions (ra) but the Holy Prophet (saw) himself.
@@salahudin720 Using the Quran as my criterion, yes to the first part of your sentence and Allah knows best to the second part of your sentence.
Nouman ali Khan is pretty good theologian and explains some difficult topics regarding islam
Assalaam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu sister, i will say that we should be basing our understanding of Fiqh based on Quran, Hadith, Tafsir, and from that the fatawa of the reputable scholars from our history, and not just the hearsay of layman Muslims. The overwhelming evidence from all those sources points towards hijab being a draped garment that covers everything except the face, hands, and feet. We can see this with the Hanafi, Maliki, and Shafi’i madhaahib. In the Fiqh of the Hanbali madhaab, the niqab (face veil) is considered fardh, take a look at SheikulIslam Ibn Taymiyyah(RA)’s statement on niqab. There’s very little evidence if any of reputable scholars during the time of the salaf or generally before the modern period who disagreed with the above understanding of hijab. Just look at the ahadith talking about how the wives and daughters of RasulAllah(ﷺ) dressed. Wa Allahu Alam. May Allah(ﷻ) guide us all, Ameen.
She didn’t like your comment dude because she’s repulsed by allah and Mohammad. I’m making a video about so called Muslim women like her.
First of all, I commend you for staying steadfast on your deen, May Allah help you. To clarify for you and the audience, there is no "controversy" about the ruling of Hijab in Islam. There are two valid differences of opinions; about whether the face cover is part of Hijab for women or not. Face cover also becomes mandatory in certain cases, which scholars have consensus on. There is no doubt about covering the hair and chest, wearing clothes the are not revealing etc. No doubt because it is a direct Hukm (Decree) in the Qur'an.
"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity, and not to reveal their adornments except what normally appears. Let them draw their veils (headcovers) over their chests, and not reveal their ˹hidden˺ adornments except to their husbands, their fathers, their fathers-in-law, their sons, their stepsons, their brothers, their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, their fellow women, those ˹bondwomen˺ in their possession, male attendants with no desire, or children who are still unaware of women's nakedness. Let them not stomp their feet, drawing attention to their hidden adornments. Turn to Allah in repentance all together, O believers, so that you may be successful." (24:31)
The controversy is over the translation of the word covering or head covering as modern translators like to translate it
@@Sunnysundasyou have to understand religion based on Arabic not on translation. You have to refer to Muslim scholars from the first centuries, they mastered the right Arabic meanings according to the meanings of first Arabs.
@@Sunnysundas The ruling is not defined based on the translation though. The difference of opinion is on face cover, not the head cover. The arabic word "Khumur" mentioned in the Ayah literally means headcover in Arabic. There is no difference of opinion on that.
The Ayah mentions "let them draw their head covers over their bosoms. The difference of opinion is whether this "drawing over" includes face. This obviously a very brief explanation.
By the way, I am just stating the fact. I am not suggesting that therefore you are in the wrong. I am really inspired by your steadfastness on your deed. Please make dua for this stranger as well.
You Are Great Sister Best Wishes For you And Agree with your opinion
Thank you so much 🙏
Great video, barak Allah feeki and we appreciate all the great content.
@@UmicomFoundation thank you 🤩
@@Sunnysundas You are welcome and I dropped you a message.
You are better, sometimes silence is a much better response than speaking, you are smart intellectual, no need to get drawn into someone critical analysis on your thing shows how pathetic and sad some have become, the fact they made time and actual done a response, phew, you can never satisfy everyone so even bother in trying, everyone claim they have a right to an opinion but yet alone have do not have the intellectual or power ability over the body and mind as everything is the creation from our lords, belongs to our lord, our organs our body our minds are designed to try to best fulfil his commands to reach the destination he promised us, wish you well, don’t destroy yourself
Good video, it's an understandable clear up as the "manospehere" can get out of control and cringey at times. Although, It's nearly impossible to copyright claim unless the person using your video plays the video on their channel without any commentary or speech in it. Unfortunaley, the video is in a public space and therefore anyone can respond to it.
Culture is really bad regarding dating and marriage, especially on western front i can say this much as an eastern european revert. Women wants too much, men can offer too little.
I see.
You're impromptu video has been noticed. I would say it's a good thing.
Generally, two demographics & communities; females making solo/specific videos for a female audience, males making generalized videos for a male community audience. Both may seem detached from one another, but there are overlapping talking points, situations & issues. If these communities could be bridged or converge, there would be less animosity for one another.
Communication is important.
The people near you, whoever they are, can be upset all they like, but YT rules has a fair use policy, in regards to YT copyright strikes etc. As long as they're not using the video as a whole unedited & without any commentary/imput. It must be a video of a transformative nature from the original. I believe in this case, it does. The dmca, with the issue of music, that's a whole another story.
Good job. An even handed approach, to the new attention.
Keep it up, lets see what else you have to show.
Agree with your feedback thanks for sharing. Hmmm, I read that permission should still be requested and that the intent of use doesn’t matter. But I will ask YT directly to clarify as I’ve seen their policies change before
@@Sunnysundas I can't speak to any specifics of YT user agreements or the legality in the UK, but on a cultural level, not just with YT but basically every other major social media site on the internet there is an assumption that using video of others for commentary is simply how it is done. With YT coming from the US, the doctrine of fair use has also a very long history. I don't know how much that differs from UK culture.
I came here ready to argue and even waited until 10:30 to do so. But after hearing those verses, I don’t have anything to say against you anymore... I’m also a bit scared now. Quoting from the Quran? That’s not fair! 😅 My mom used to do the same-she’d bring up Quran verses or Hadith in the middle of a conversation. 😅
I’ve debated with many women about this topic at work and really enjoyed it, but that’s not going to happen here-not when someone is quoting those verses. I think I’ll just concede the debate this time.
The instinct to start a family at 30 is extremely strong.
@@CplusplusCoder it's strong much younger too
@@Sunnysundas Clearly not strong enough. because alot of women are prioritising education over starting families.
@@justanavanoobz4867 Muslims believe that Allah grants children to whom He wills. He says “Be and it is”. He has given many older mothers children as well so this shouldn’t be a concern for women. Examples are in the Qur’an too. The greater concern is finding the right man to have those children with. Education is an asset not a liability
@Sunnysundas education is an asset so as long as it doesn't impede on the ability to start a family with a good husband. The probability of finding a decent DESIRABLE husband drops as a woman gets older, which can happen from prioritising education. Not impossible ofcourse but less probable. May Allah help all sisters, old and young, to find good husbands they're content with
@@Sunnysundas when a woman enters the work force she serves a boss. She has forsaken her youth the time when she should be having children the design of God intended birth between 18 to 28 that's the optimal age range in terms of biology. Your serve a boss then later on in life he dumps you and you are left without a family. And life without a family is not a comfortable life. If you had served a husband you would have been happier. I see many single women non Muslims included who have been brainwashed by feminism that a woman in the workplace is superior but only in later life when work becomes hard and her God given instincts to develop her nest becomes too powerful and overwhelming whilst she was younger it was easier to do and now older life becomes unbearable. You can say God can do anything He likes and I agree but you must understand that life has to be practically lived and don't expect miracles just like that. You need to understand the rules of life around you and societal pressures that want more women in the workforce to feed the greedy elite through taxation.
Having education to a husband is useless. Statistics show that educated women are more prone to divorce. Understand that God has designed a man to be looking for a feminine submissive wife. This may annoy you but this is the design of God.
Sunny, I watched MHD and found you from there but I truly admire your authenticity and kind demeanor. You don't need the fancy lights, microphone and fancy music in the background 😂. You didn't fight and you even responded with scriptures in your religion. This shows impeccable character! Well done. In my religion we follow the bible which has many of the same principles you quoted from the Quran. "Return evil for evil to no one. Take into consideration what is fine from the viewpoint of all men. If possible, as far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men." Romans 12:17, 28 ❤❤❤ Keep shinning Sunny. God will be the one who answers for you.
@@nicoobrowner thank you so much, that means a lot to me. God bless you
If you want to do collaboration with people with similar views to Manosphere MDH, Adam Lane Smith and Dr Orion Taraban are better alternative. Manosphere MDH, I don't know his expertise, but his views could be second hand knowledge. go to the source.
Masha allah❤
You are lovely!
walaikumsalam..stay blessed
Out of curiosity, what are your thoughts on polygyny?
@@CH-eg5rd It’s allowed only in exceptional circumstances, where men can marry the mothers of orphans, not in the way that muslim men practise it today
@@Sunnysundas thank you for the response. I was curious about your thoughts, so I'm confused by your reply. I'm not sure how every Muslim man is practicing monogamy or polygyny. In some parts of the world it is illegal, so there may be men who don't practice it all because of their government's ruling.
@@CH-eg5rd some muslim men believe that they can marry whoever they want as second, third and fourth wives. They may also believe that they can marry them whenever they want. Both beliefs are not upheld by the Qur’an. I can make a video on this topic to explain it better
@@Sunnysundas thank you. Are you comfortable sharing your opinion on this as it relates to you? I apologize if I wasn't clear in my previous question. I'm familiar with the various opinions. What is actually like to know if if you yourself would enter a polygynous marriage.
@@CH-eg5rd I wouldn’t enter such a marriage because I believe I am not eligible as an additional wife. I don’t meet the criteria of being a widow and having a child already to bring to that marriage
Too many losers on the internet. No need to explain yourself. Many of us could relate to your original video both male and female.
Thank you very much 🙏
On the topic of Hijab... when you are in Rome.
Respecting the diversity of choices and practices-whether it’s wearing a hijab or not, observing certain traditions, or adapting them in new ways-is crucial. It reflects the idea that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to living one's faith, especially in a globalized world where many people live at the intersection of multiple cultures.
It's important to recognize that Islam, like many other faiths, is diverse, and its followers express their faith in various ways. Muslims have different views on whether hijab is mandatory or not. Some scholars argue that hijab is a required aspect of modesty in Islam, while others believe that modesty can be expressed in different forms and that the requirement may not apply in the same way across all contexts, especially in societies where the social and cultural norms differ significantly from those in predominantly Muslim countries.
For a Muslim woman living and working in a Western society, the decision around hijab might involve balancing personal faith, safety, professional requirements, and cultural integration. This can lead to varying practices and interpretations, all of which should be respected as part of individual freedom and personal choice.
Ultimately, what matters most is that a person feels true to their own beliefs and values while respecting others' right to do the same. It's commendable when someone takes a thoughtful approach to their faith, considers their personal circumstances, and makes decisions that align with their understanding of Islam. It's a reflection of the broader principle of personal agency and the diversity within the Muslim community. Respecting each person's journey and choices is key to fostering understanding and unity, both within the Muslim community and in the broader society.
When in Rome do as Romans do
Kafirs always respect muslim lifestyle and law of the land whenever they visit UAE saudi iran Pakistan or Afghanistan
But somehow muslims will insist on carrying their culture into kafir countries
You will never see woman in mini skirt in Tehran but will find hijab and burqa in every corner of London or newyork
@@machine1st827 wow, you are a gem and both of your comments are equally incredible… thank you so much for watching and commenting. I hope to hear more of your invaluable insights on future videos 🤩
I would like a video from "Sundas", "Myra West", "Oh Stephco", "Text Ghost Love" explaining why their female friends who are married or in relationships with men are NOT introducing them to the husband's or boyfriend's single male friends, brothers, work colleagues, etc
This is how things used to be. Do they not want their friends help? (i am aware Sundas has asked family/friends for a resource)
Are the coupled-up friends not introducing potential suitors? Do none of the friend's partners have single male friends? Not one? If they are being introduced then why do these content creators not mention this?
If doing a video about this topic would be "throwing your friends under the bus" then i understand the reluctance to do it. But at the same time maybe a creator (who hasn't found the one but often speaks of romantic relationships) needs to broach this delicate subject in order to broaden the discussion around the difficulty of people getting into relationships in an increasingly atomistic society.
@@vanitasmonkeybutt7080 Great points! Thank you for commenting. In my personal experience, I think this depends on your personality, social conditioning and social circle. If I were married, I would take a proactive role to introduce any single friends of my spouse to any single friends. Just recently, I recommended two people to two contacts, respectively and I’ve done it before a few times too. I helped a friend get married. My friends are mostly introverts, shy and those that would try to help seem to have much higher standards for me than I have for myself so don’t introduce me to anyone 😂 A part of the problem now also is that their spouses probably have very few single friends.
@@Sunnysundas Thank you. And thank you for enlightening me on this topic.
I suppose your friends having "higher standards" is a compliment but also pretty frustrating.🥲
And good for you for doing the very thing that society seems to no longer do for each other.
Just get a cat...
I love cats but have plants instead 😂
@@Sunnysundas why not both?
Your story is very common btw, I have family members with law degrees and unmarried...all miserable and bitter of married woman. You don't seem that way though.
@@PAKIJIMI getting bitter is a waste of energy. Life is too short and the world needs every bit of good and humanity that it can get
@@Sunnysundas❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Would you like to marry someone who is "22" "23" years old & financially independent? Just a hypothetical question for you... I would like to hear love your insights. Like positives & negatives
Are you describing yourself here? 😂
@@Sunnysundas You haven't answered my question yet.. Also stop Ad hominem attacks 😂
@CricketFan634 😂😂😂
@@Sunnysundas I'm waiting