I needed this. I’m 32, married 5 years with 4 kids. My entire family and I became Orthodox beginning of the year. Wife stays at home raising the kids. I’m overwhelmed with the responsibilities of manhood, of carrying the load. I complain, I whine, I expose my wife to my stress. For the sake of my wife and children I must do better. May Christ strengthen me as a man, father, and husband. May my Patron Saint Moses the Ethiopian pray for me! Thank you, Fr. Please keep these coming!
I just became Orthodox months ago, still a catechumen. My sons just turned 18 and 19. I failed to be a priest for them all those years because I was a selfish boy, not a Godly man. You’re positioned to be a provider, protector, and priest as Father said. Please don’t make the mistakes I did.
1. Physically soft men are also mentally soft: Physical hard work makes you tenacious. When your body tell you not to do something because it’s painful, or it’s exhausting, or you could fail, your mind has to take over the inclination, the words, and the groaning of the body and the mind has tell your body what it’s going to do in no uncertain terms. This builds a mental, emotional fortitude so that when things don’t go your way, when things are stacked against you, when problems happen, when uncertainty hits you, you have that switch in your mind, and you’re used to turning it on. That switch to turn it on and say “adversity? No problem. I’m gonna get after it, I’m gonna plow through it, I’m going to attack it.” Physical hardness comes from enduring challenges and fighting through them and your mind telling your body it’s going to submit to its will. 2. Cussing: Every time I hear a man cuss, I know that’s a mentally weak man. Why? Because when somebody cusses they’re expecting you to carry the burden of their fragility. They’re upset. They’re angry. They’re reacting in an emotionally exaggerated way. And the only way for them to cope with that is to let off all of these swear words and kind of dump it on you. This isn’t normal. This isn’t stability. Men should not be talking about things that bother them too much. Men should not be getting frustrated too often. Even I hear myself getting frustrated sometimes I say “that is weakness.” That is me seeing something that is out of my control and being a victim to it and allowing it rock my stability. 3. Smiling too much: There’s a saying in Russia “If you see a person smiling in the streets, they’re either mentally defective or they’re American. In American culture it’s all about being happy all the time. Smiling. Putting off this air that you’re happy with everything in life. That’s not reality. There’s a time and a place to be sober, to be sober minded, and that’s most of life. My wife used to talk to me. I would finish serving the Divine Liturgy, and I would come out of the alter, and she would say “You look almost like you’re angry.” And I’m like “I’m not angry, but I’ve just spent two hours interceding before God for the people, calling on his mercy.” That’s sobriety. That’s soberness. That’s firmness of character. That isn’t laddie dah, smiling all the time. Life is serious. Salvation is serious. We should have a serious disposition. Does that mean that we smile? Absolutely. Does it mean we tell jokes? Absolutely. Can we be light hearted at times? Sure. But going around and being light hearted all the time, is not befitting a man. A man has to be dialed in and focused on his salvation, saving the Jesus Prayer, being in a state of repentance, keeping himself emotionally grounded, being focused on eternity and then he had times where he can let loose. This is also why a man needs to make eye contact. When you make eye contact you’re allowing other people to look into you, and when you look into them, you should not be afraid of them looking back into you. You should have a resolve and an understanding, and acceptance for who you are as a person that’s not afraid of what other people’s judgements thoughts or cares are for you. 4. Not having a schedule: Not knowing what you’re doing each day. It’s not a problem to do some video games. It’s not a problem to watch a show or a movie on Netflix. It’s not a problem to sit down with a book. The problem becomes when it’s out of balance, and it’s not pre-arranged. It’s not scheduled. And when it’s bingeing, when it’s escapism. When it’s just too much. A man should have a set of tasks that he knows he needs to accomplish everyday. Ideally, a man has a time he goes to bed. A man has a time he wakes up. He knows when he’s going to eat. He eats on a scheduled time. He has everything dialed in and in an orderly fashion. To me, a monastery is the pinnacle of when everything is controllable and right how it should look. Whenever you go to a monasteries, there’s always a common theme-it’s all very orderly. They have a daily, weekly, and monthly schedule-everything is laid out in advanced. A man needs to know what he’s doing when he’s doing it. The worst thing in the world is for a man to wake up and not know what he’s supposed to be doing or where he’s supposed to be going, or what he’s supposed to be accomplishing. Everyman should be waking up knowing, number one, I have allocated a enough time to pray and my number one job is to pray, and number two, at the end of the day, I have allocated enough time to pray, and I know what time I need to pray and what time I need to accomplish these things. 5. Not being vulnerable: You have to have a means of opening yourself up to somebody else. Now, does this have to be everybody? Absolutely not. That would be both unwise and potentially dangerous to share your thoughts with everyone, but you need to have at least one person in your life that you can share everything with. I remember when I was on my mid 20s and I really began to realize how juvenile I was as a person, and one of the things I read in the Saint’s lives was this idea of revealing your thoughts. They said “reveal your thoughts, your daily thoughts, to somebody-from an older, more experienced person, so that they can give you feedback on how you’re thinking and approaching life. You have to find somebody that you can tell on yourself too. You can say “hey I’m having these crazy thoughts or these crazy feelings, or I’m processing this and it’s giving me a lot of anguish, help me out. Tell me what to do.” Winners find a solution in life, and you gotta surround yourself with people who can should you how to win at life. They’ve got good marriages. They’ve got good children. They’ve got good careers. They’ve a good work ethic. They’re servants. They pray. They’re at church. They’re in the service. Maybe they’re your priest also. All of those factors you wanna glean and grab from them, so you have to open yourself to their direction.
This is what we all need. A christian, masculine, focused father that teaches how to be strong again. What it means to be a man. Through God. Thank you.
Step one is to stop digging, put the phone down and go do what were meant to do today. Don't worry about about step 2 for now, it will come by itself if you maintain composure.
Yep. The 1st one is all you need. Go do what needs to be done and don’t stop until it’s done. It’s something David Goggins often says. “I don’t stop until the job is done” A very helpful viewpoint for healthy manhood. God bless.
I'm a retired maternity nurse. One day, I was taking care of a Russian patient. Her husband said to me, "You have Russian heritage(I do.), but your definitely American. " I said, "Oh really? How can you tell?" and he simply said, "because...you smile. " I'll never forget that. It's funny that my grandpa usually had a scowl, his permanent expression, even when he was smiling. Lol!
Hahaha, and even cultural, regional differences in the US. Like Midwesterners smiling at *strangers* even more on the street even, versus where I am now. I'm in a big city, but not in the Midwest, and I smiled at someone while crossing the street because I belatedly almost thought I recognized them.... ... Well, they had the same thought, and they too thought it had to be me, especially because only Midwesterners smile at (near) or possible strangers on the street here. LOL. So, though we both passed in that quick, unexpected moment while crossing traffic, they found me online later & it *was* an old friend from the Midwest & we reconnected. We were able to meet up while they were in town. A providencial meeting, prompted by an unexpected sighting, and smile, ;) lol, (which sold the deal!) while crossing traffic, when neither of us expecting to see the other there. 😊
This is a good message. I would add at the top of the list- Alcohol, drugs, tobacco use. Signs of extreme weakness. Eat right, consume things that make you stronger and healthier. Stay away from the things that anesthetize you and make you weaker.
I love men who smile! When you’re full of the joy of the Lord, it is going to appear to be “too much”. Smiling due to people pleasing or to excessive emotions isn’t the same as pleasantly smiling due to this gift of the Holy Spirit
@@DivineLogos We can see it on the contemporary Saints. They indeed smile, but not in the way to please people. But because they have genuine joy. And this smile is rare. We tend to make fake smiles
@@DivineLogosi told my earthly father dad since i became christian i dont smile as much anymore and he said because the holy spirit makes you more genuine now when you smile you really smile
I just turned 19 and am pursuing manhood and greater relationship with God. I started watching your videos a couple of months ago and they have changed my life. God bless you and please continue to make videos.
Father Moses I'm a Hindu From India I've listened to many spiritual gurus of almost all faiths but this is the first time someone is giving actual actionable steps to become a man and be closer to god. Thanks
number 4 really hit home as a 21-year-old who constantly stays up too late and jeopardizes morning and sometimes prayers. Thank you for this sobering message and valuable wisdom Fr. Moses!
Thank you, Father Moses. Your videos have completely opened my eyes like no other. I come from a very protestant background but never really felt God’s presence in their services. Currently, I am planning on relocating near your parish. With no strong patriarchal figure growing up and in a house with a woman at the head of it, I have no idea how to be a man now. I’m 25 and realize the necessity for a strong spiritual brotherhood. Thank you, Father Moses. Praying for you!
This is such good advice. Caring for my daughter has taught me the value of a schedule, and what it feels like to truly smile from joy, not falsely smile to conceal my turmoil and misery.
Hello Father Moses. I really appreciate your videos. I lost my father just before I turned 21, and ive had to figure things out on my own for the most part. Im in my late 20s now, and have recently discovered the Orthodox Church. Your advice has been really illuminating during my Catechism, and I hope it will help me become the man Christ wants me to be. God bless.
Finding a solution. That’s the main one. There are so many people who don’t find solutions. They stop 3 feet before the door, decide it looks locked, and don’t even try the knob.
As someone from Russia living abroad, this is the saying that I tell them whenever they ask why I never smile on the street or at school. All jokes aside, I think self improvement is a great protocol (especially if you’re just starting out). I’m the type of person who never found balance. I was always on either extreme. Now that I’ve been on self improvement for nearly 2 years, I realized that it gets harder and harder without faith in God. Finding this spiritual balance by becoming more open about my faith, I feel much happier and am making much more progress. I thank God for recommending me Christian channels such as this one to help my faith improve. God bless
21 years old and for some reason I feel like I’m 40 and I’ve wasted it all, I also feel like im meant to be a lot farther in my life journey than where I am now, and yet I still praise and thank our amazing God for who I am and who I will be ✝️🙏
When you have the holy spirit in you, everything may be going to shambles but you find yourself just full of Joy. that’s okay! smile and enjoy the beauty of it.
In my mid 20s right now and currently deeply understand that mental anguish you described. I knew I needed a father figure but can't/don't know where to look for someone to be able to tell on myself to. Also I'm aware I need to pray, get organized and have a set schedule that i need to know what it is i have to accomplish when I wake up. This was very much a very good and helpful video
Try jiu jitsu. A lot of guys in there trying to become the best version of themselves for their families. You can definitely meet some solid role models there that will push you to do better in life.
Thank you for these great advice! My 15 years old shared your video with me! I pray to God that my son’s heart will grasp these 5 principles. So much wisdom and truth!
I don’t have a spiritual father in the real world, so having you here on this platform provides guidance in my walk with manhood and Christ. Thank you for what you do brother.
I was born and raised in Canada but my ethnicity is Serbian. Finding the right balance between not showing emotion and showing emotion is a common challenge. Contrary to popular belief as we are Slavs, Serbs are actually quite emotional (especially when showing joy and anger) and it is actually kind of expected and respected. In the Western world however, we are expected to be more stoic and showing emotions is looked at as weak. I find being an Orthodox Christian gives me the right balance in this dilemma.
Thank you, father. To be honest, I kinda haven’t been wanting to watch your videos as much recently because I feel like I’m getting something out of them, but then I just end up feeling bad about myself if I don’t have actionable steps that I can see how to apply in my life. For that reason, I wanted to thank you for this video which is focused on helping me not just see my shortcomings but to actually tackle them.
thank you Father Moses. I’m turning 20 in a month and I see the writing on the wall. There is no place for this kind of behavior, and while I won’t eliminate it all at once, I HAVE been trending in this direction. I am more composed, I keep to myself, I’m giving my energy toward focusing on my goals. Keeping sober. Thank yoy
Thank you Father Moses. These are things I have prayed about consistently. As a relatively young man (32) with a wife and kids, these are thoughts I have on a daily basis. The more I pray and realize my own sin, the more I feel the urge for this same orderliness and inner strength--not for my sake, but to serve my family and, above all, Christ.
At 16 I started to really change. I started hitting the gym. I live in the US with all the smiling and I agree, reality is not worth always smiling. I can always tell someone is lying when you ask how they are and they smile while saying “it’s good”. Multiple times people have pulled me to the side to ask if I am depressed or angry, even though I just have sober face. Cussing has never been a problem for me, I was not raised in an environment where people used it so I grew up not needing to. I love these videos it helps to show my flaws, such as with my reactions to things outside my control and bad habit of not planning out my days.
Thanks Father Moses. I always thought that I shouldn't care about physical hardness from a religious perspective, but you are right, it develops willpower, which I lack a lot. I will use this as a workout motivation.
For sure, one of the best decisions I made last week was to subscribe to this channel. As a man that had quitted God and religion, to be listening to you, Father, sounds like a spot of life has hitted me right in a manner it has never happened before, and it has made me come back to the Light. Thanks for blessing us with your speech. I hope I can use some of your insights on my future videos (correctly translated to brazilian Portuguese) to make this message hit more and more people around the world. God bless you.
I agree with the physical culture part of this. In the same breath I fail miserably with the cussing. I cuss far too much. And my dislike of Goggins and being lumped in with him by you has me really taking stock of this habit haha. In all seriousness. God bless and thank you for the word, father Gospodi pomiluj. ☦️☦️☦️
Thank you for this, Fr. Moses. Your videos have been tremendously helpful and very practical. Number two is especially a problem for me. Jesus Christ, son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.
Thank you so much for posting these videos, father Moses. Your way of explaining things reacheas a man very easily and in a strong way! Much love from Romania! God Bless!
I'm rewatching this and once again thank you, your wisdom is a blessing on this earth. And i cracked up in laughter at "There's only room for one wife" and that Russian saying on laughter. Please keep making more videos. You're steering men into their truth. Ill be making sure to allocate time for prayer each morning and evening!
Father, I am as excited as someone could get when you upload. Your wisdom really helped me to understand dialy matters both spiritual and phisycal under a new perspective. Might the lord have mercy on our souls✝️☦️
This was great. The smiling too much part hit me. Ive found myself guilty of this the last few years. In interactions Ill catch myself smiling like, what the heck im just listening to someone talk chill… maybe from past traumas of people pleasing or something
Father Moses, thank you for this video. I'm sure you know many young men are struggling today. I noticed your videos have been focused towards men and it's helping us a lot. Thank you.
Wonderful talk Fr. Moses. I send your talks to my 17 year old son. It is so hard for young men these days to find a good manly figure to model themselves after. We appreciate you! Thank you🙏☦️
Thank you Fr. for you advices! May I just add one thing for the young man who isn't yet married or has decided to lay it all before the Lord in a religious vocation, in addition to those things mentioned I think that volunteering or doing some kind of charity work goes a long stretch, I remember you mentioning in one of your previous videos that the role of the husband in a family is to make the life of the wife a better reality, excuse me I'm paraphrasing here but that speaks volumes, since we live in this world that focuses more on materialism and individualism, the way we beat it is not through affirming our own passions but to acknowledge the needs of others, that coupled with detachment, ascetism and discipline I think can change our inner world and in that way the world around us, by God's grace and mercy as we strive to grow in holiness and virtue. Love your videos Father, may God bless you and your family, from a Catholic brother! ✝☦
I thought this was pretty sound advice here fr Moses. A few points I'd add is: - #1 excellent point. Testosterone is a gift from God & necessary for a man to feel content, confident, resilient etc. Of course like many things, but to a degree - Write your daily/weekly/extended goals & "to do" list ideally on physical paper, especially if you struggle with smartphone/internet addiction - Many elder men are not as helpful or trustworthy as they should be for younger men nowadays, making finding them quite difficult & challenging. Same applies to young women finding virtuous elder Titus 2 women mentors or role models also - While maybe you got too emotional with your wife buying three pairs of shoes, your wife should also know vanity & shopaholicism is a common problem for women that needs to be acknowledged in humility & that you have authority over her under God as well. And I'm by no means am I calling you or your wife out. I'm only mentioning this because you didn't elaborate on how that problem was resolved & because this is an issue common to a lot of married men I've personally known & worked with over the years 👍
1,000% on your point about elderly men. The vast majority of them refuse to see the struggles they've often created or contributed to for younger generations and they're poisonous people. Like my dad had me in his 40s and he was so hard on me when I was learning how to drive. He told me to just read the book. At one point he said that he doesn't understand why I haven't read it because it should only be like 16 pages. The book is over 90 pages. He was so hard on me all that time because he was just completely out of touch with what I was struggling with. Now imagine that but with friendships, dating, family relationships, finding employment, investment buying a house, school ect, ect. Like my dad fussed at me so much for not taking a notebook to college because he refused to acknowledge that the work is done on computers so I didn't need notes at all. That's how dealing with a lot of elders are like, but most of the time, there's no page number you can show them to change their mind and teach them how things have changed. Also his wife is still his wife so I'd assume or at least hope that issue has long since dead.
@@youcantbeatk7006 Yeah it's difficult. Many baby boomers were raised I'm a completely different environment & don't understand the incredible degree to which technology has advanced & been incorporated within all areas of life. I think taking a rest from internet/smart phone usage is important but in today's world, your employer will often want you "connected" 24/7 & oftentimes will want direct access to your public social media accounts. It's like man has almost merged with machine though human dignity & what makes us humans can never be extracted or discarded It can be tough to not get frustrated at my father sometimes too because his advice in some areas is pretty bad lol. I still love him & talk to him often & I know I'm not perfect or omniscient myself so I try to remain patient. The lack of wise elder Titus 2 men who actually can offer sound advice to young men is unfortunately quite low. I put my trust in the Lord to get me where I need to be
Thanks, I learning a lot from you, please keep uploading this videos, I am a 29 years old man who does not know how to be a real man, you help be what I should be.
"There's only room in a marriage for 1 wife" 🥇
Then where are the children?
@@siegeheavenly3601Children are wives???
This spoke to me. Thanks be to God the Father, God the Son, and the Holy Spirit for strengthening me as the head of my home, amen.
That also spoke to me
@@jirislavicek9954guess he’s a pedo
I needed this. I’m 32, married 5 years with 4 kids. My entire family and I became Orthodox beginning of the year. Wife stays at home raising the kids. I’m overwhelmed with the responsibilities of manhood, of carrying the load. I complain, I whine, I expose my wife to my stress. For the sake of my wife and children I must do better. May Christ strengthen me as a man, father, and husband. May my Patron Saint Moses the Ethiopian pray for me! Thank you, Fr. Please keep these coming!
May God bless you and your family.
@@orthoclipsICXC thank you my friend. God bless you’
God bless you sir ❤
May God bless you and give you good strength.
I just became Orthodox months ago, still a catechumen. My sons just turned 18 and 19. I failed to be a priest for them all those years because I was a selfish boy, not a Godly man. You’re positioned to be a provider, protector, and priest as Father said. Please don’t make the mistakes I did.
1. Physically soft men are also mentally soft: Physical hard work makes you tenacious. When your body tell you not to do something because it’s painful, or it’s exhausting, or you could fail, your mind has to take over the inclination, the words, and the groaning of the body and the mind has tell your body what it’s going to do in no uncertain terms. This builds a mental, emotional fortitude so that when things don’t go your way, when things are stacked against you, when problems happen, when uncertainty hits you, you have that switch in your mind, and you’re used to turning it on. That switch to turn it on and say “adversity? No problem. I’m gonna get after it, I’m gonna plow through it, I’m going to attack it.” Physical hardness comes from enduring challenges and fighting through them and your mind telling your body it’s going to submit to its will.
2. Cussing: Every time I hear a man cuss, I know that’s a mentally weak man. Why? Because when somebody cusses they’re expecting you to carry the burden of their fragility. They’re upset. They’re angry. They’re reacting in an emotionally exaggerated way. And the only way for them to cope with that is to let off all of these swear words and kind of dump it on you. This isn’t normal. This isn’t stability. Men should not be talking about things that bother them too much. Men should not be getting frustrated too often. Even I hear myself getting frustrated sometimes I say “that is weakness.” That is me seeing something that is out of my control and being a victim to it and allowing it rock my stability.
3. Smiling too much: There’s a saying in Russia “If you see a person smiling in the streets, they’re either mentally defective or they’re American. In American culture it’s all about being happy all the time. Smiling. Putting off this air that you’re happy with everything in life. That’s not reality. There’s a time and a place to be sober, to be sober minded, and that’s most of life. My wife used to talk to me. I would finish serving the Divine Liturgy, and I would come out of the alter, and she would say “You look almost like you’re angry.” And I’m like “I’m not angry, but I’ve just spent two hours interceding before God for the people, calling on his mercy.” That’s sobriety. That’s soberness. That’s firmness of character. That isn’t laddie dah, smiling all the time. Life is serious. Salvation is serious. We should have a serious disposition. Does that mean that we smile? Absolutely. Does it mean we tell jokes? Absolutely. Can we be light hearted at times? Sure. But going around and being light hearted all the time, is not befitting a man. A man has to be dialed in and focused on his salvation, saving the Jesus Prayer, being in a state of repentance, keeping himself emotionally grounded, being focused on eternity and then he had times where he can let loose. This is also why a man needs to make eye contact. When you make eye contact you’re allowing other people to look into you, and when you look into them, you should not be afraid of them looking back into you. You should have a resolve and an understanding, and acceptance for who you are as a person that’s not afraid of what other people’s judgements thoughts or cares are for you.
4. Not having a schedule: Not knowing what you’re doing each day. It’s not a problem to do some video games. It’s not a problem to watch a show or a movie on Netflix. It’s not a problem to sit down with a book. The problem becomes when it’s out of balance, and it’s not pre-arranged. It’s not scheduled. And when it’s bingeing, when it’s escapism. When it’s just too much. A man should have a set of tasks that he knows he needs to accomplish everyday. Ideally, a man has a time he goes to bed. A man has a time he wakes up. He knows when he’s going to eat. He eats on a scheduled time. He has everything dialed in and in an orderly fashion. To me, a monastery is the pinnacle of when everything is controllable and right how it should look. Whenever you go to a monasteries, there’s always a common theme-it’s all very orderly. They have a daily, weekly, and monthly schedule-everything is laid out in advanced. A man needs to know what he’s doing when he’s doing it. The worst thing in the world is for a man to wake up and not know what he’s supposed to be doing or where he’s supposed to be going, or what he’s supposed to be accomplishing. Everyman should be waking up knowing, number one, I have allocated a enough time to pray and my number one job is to pray, and number two, at the end of the day, I have allocated enough time to pray, and I know what time I need to pray and what time I need to accomplish these things.
5. Not being vulnerable: You have to have a means of opening yourself up to somebody else. Now, does this have to be everybody? Absolutely not. That would be both unwise and potentially dangerous to share your thoughts with everyone, but you need to have at least one person in your life that you can share everything with. I remember when I was on my mid 20s and I really began to realize how juvenile I was as a person, and one of the things I read in the Saint’s lives was this idea of revealing your thoughts. They said “reveal your thoughts, your daily thoughts, to somebody-from an older, more experienced person, so that they can give you feedback on how you’re thinking and approaching life. You have to find somebody that you can tell on yourself too. You can say “hey I’m having these crazy thoughts or these crazy feelings, or I’m processing this and it’s giving me a lot of anguish, help me out. Tell me what to do.” Winners find a solution in life, and you gotta surround yourself with people who can should you how to win at life. They’ve got good marriages. They’ve got good children. They’ve got good careers. They’ve a good work ethic. They’re servants. They pray. They’re at church. They’re in the service. Maybe they’re your priest also. All of those factors you wanna glean and grab from them, so you have to open yourself to their direction.
Thanks man! I was looking for this comment, hope it gets pinned 📌
Thank you for this ☦️☦️
Thanks brother
So dumb that RUclips doesn't let you copy/paste😭
@@tecnitrongames1472 3. Doesn't joy counter that? What does having joy look like?
This is what we all need. A christian, masculine, focused father that teaches how to be strong again. What it means to be a man. Through God. Thank you.
This is the real manhood. Not the Andrew Tate kind of it.
Step one is to stop digging, put the phone down and go do what were meant to do today. Don't worry about about step 2 for now, it will come by itself if you maintain composure.
Yep. The 1st one is all you need.
Go do what needs to be done and don’t stop until it’s done.
It’s something David Goggins often says. “I don’t stop until the job is done”
A very helpful viewpoint for healthy manhood.
God bless.
I needed this reminder
thanks brothers. I forgot this important principle
I'm a retired maternity nurse. One day, I was taking care of a Russian patient. Her husband said to me, "You have Russian heritage(I do.), but your definitely American. " I said, "Oh really? How can you tell?" and he simply said, "because...you smile. " I'll never forget that. It's funny that my grandpa usually had a scowl, his permanent expression, even when he was smiling. Lol!
Hahaha, and even cultural, regional differences in the US.
Like Midwesterners smiling at *strangers* even more on the street even, versus where I am now.
I'm in a big city, but not in the Midwest, and I smiled at someone while crossing the street because I belatedly almost thought I recognized them....
... Well, they had the same thought, and they too thought it had to be me, especially because only Midwesterners smile at (near) or possible strangers on the street here. LOL.
So, though we both passed in that quick, unexpected moment while crossing traffic, they found me online later & it *was* an old friend from the Midwest & we reconnected.
We were able to meet up while they were in town.
A providencial meeting, prompted by an unexpected sighting, and smile, ;) lol, (which sold the deal!) while crossing traffic, when neither of us expecting to see the other there. 😊
Smiling is awesome
I must detract and rebuke
Yeah I don’t know about this “smiling too much is bad” nonsense. Feels like he’s projecting something here
I have my work cut out for me. I am not where I want to be but, by the grace of God, I am no longer where I once was. Lord have mercy on me.
Amen!
Amen
This is a good message. I would add at the top of the list- Alcohol, drugs, tobacco use. Signs of extreme weakness. Eat right, consume things that make you stronger and healthier. Stay away from the things that anesthetize you and make you weaker.
I’m a 40 year old man. I didn’t have much male guidance growing up. You help me immensely. Thank you. Godbless you.
I love men who smile! When you’re full of the joy of the Lord, it is going to appear to be “too much”. Smiling due to people pleasing or to excessive emotions isn’t the same as pleasantly smiling due to this gift of the Holy Spirit
Truth.
Getting closer to god makes a man more stoic. Not more smiley.
If a man is fast to smile he is usually also fast to cry.
@@DivineLogos We can see it on the contemporary Saints. They indeed smile, but not in the way to please people. But because they have genuine joy. And this smile is rare. We tend to make fake smiles
@@DivineLogosi told my earthly father dad since i became christian i dont smile as much anymore and he said because the holy spirit makes you more genuine now when you smile you really smile
@@painistrueforyouandforme Klopt. Wijze vader.
I just turned 19 and am pursuing manhood and greater relationship with God. I started watching your videos a couple of months ago and they have changed my life. God bless you and please continue to make videos.
Father Moses I'm a Hindu From India I've listened to many spiritual gurus of almost all faiths but this is the first time someone is giving actual actionable steps to become a man and be closer to god. Thanks
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Doamne ajută!
Ar fi de folos și pentru femei sfaturi de acest fel.
number 4 really hit home as a 21-year-old who constantly stays up too late and jeopardizes morning and sometimes prayers. Thank you for this sobering message and valuable wisdom Fr. Moses!
I am glad I found your channel Father. Thanks for your videos. We need them.
Thank you, Father Moses. Your videos have completely opened my eyes like no other. I come from a very protestant background but never really felt God’s presence in their services. Currently, I am planning on relocating near your parish. With no strong patriarchal figure growing up and in a house with a woman at the head of it, I have no idea how to be a man now. I’m 25 and realize the necessity for a strong spiritual brotherhood. Thank you, Father Moses. Praying for you!
This video is much more useful than many personal development videos I've watched on RUclips. Thank you, Moses.
This is such good advice. Caring for my daughter has taught me the value of a schedule, and what it feels like to truly smile from joy, not falsely smile to conceal my turmoil and misery.
Hello Father Moses. I really appreciate your videos. I lost my father just before I turned 21, and ive had to figure things out on my own for the most part. Im in my late 20s now, and have recently discovered the Orthodox Church. Your advice has been really illuminating during my Catechism, and I hope it will help me become the man Christ wants me to be. God bless.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference🙏🏼 Amen
Finding a solution. That’s the main one. There are so many people who don’t find solutions. They stop 3 feet before the door, decide it looks locked, and don’t even try the knob.
As someone from Russia living abroad, this is the saying that I tell them whenever they ask why I never smile on the street or at school.
All jokes aside, I think self improvement is a great protocol (especially if you’re just starting out). I’m the type of person who never found balance. I was always on either extreme. Now that I’ve been on self improvement for nearly 2 years, I realized that it gets harder and harder without faith in God. Finding this spiritual balance by becoming more open about my faith, I feel much happier and am making much more progress. I thank God for recommending me Christian channels such as this one to help my faith improve. God bless
21 years old and for some reason I feel like I’m 40 and I’ve wasted it all, I also feel like im meant to be a lot farther in my life journey than where I am now, and yet I still praise and thank our amazing God for who I am and who I will be ✝️🙏
When you have the holy spirit in you, everything may be going to shambles but you find yourself just full of Joy. that’s okay! smile and enjoy the beauty of it.
In my mid 20s right now and currently deeply understand that mental anguish you described. I knew I needed a father figure but can't/don't know where to look for someone to be able to tell on myself to. Also I'm aware I need to pray, get organized and have a set schedule that i need to know what it is i have to accomplish when I wake up. This was very much a very good and helpful video
Try jiu jitsu. A lot of guys in there trying to become the best version of themselves for their families. You can definitely meet some solid role models there that will push you to do better in life.
Thank you for these great advice! My 15 years old shared your video with me! I pray to God that my son’s heart will grasp these 5 principles. So much wisdom and truth!
One of my favourite channels right now. Please continue!
Last point about exposing your thoughts to a more mature man is golden advice.
Lot's of gems in this video, God bless 🙏
This insight is gold Father! It will truly enhance the life of anyone who heeds this wisdom! ☦
I don’t have a spiritual father in the real world, so having you here on this platform provides guidance in my walk with manhood and Christ. Thank you for what you do brother.
I was born and raised in Canada but my ethnicity is Serbian. Finding the right balance between not showing emotion and showing emotion is a common challenge. Contrary to popular belief as we are Slavs, Serbs are actually quite emotional (especially when showing joy and anger) and it is actually kind of expected and respected. In the Western world however, we are expected to be more stoic and showing emotions is looked at as weak. I find being an Orthodox Christian gives me the right balance in this dilemma.
@@djuradjvujcic Поздрав брате.
@@MeninoPecador Отпоздрав, Србине!
I am with you about cursing for sure. Shows a complete lack of control.
Thank you, father. To be honest, I kinda haven’t been wanting to watch your videos as much recently because I feel like I’m getting something out of them, but then I just end up feeling bad about myself if I don’t have actionable steps that I can see how to apply in my life. For that reason, I wanted to thank you for this video which is focused on helping me not just see my shortcomings but to actually tackle them.
thank you Father Moses. I’m turning 20 in a month and I see the writing on the wall. There is no place for this kind of behavior, and while I won’t eliminate it all at once, I HAVE been trending in this direction. I am more composed, I keep to myself, I’m giving my energy toward focusing on my goals. Keeping sober. Thank yoy
Praying for your strength 💕🙏🏼
Need to post your workout routine Father.
Can see that you are a powerful man
Thank you Father Moses. These are things I have prayed about consistently. As a relatively young man (32) with a wife and kids, these are thoughts I have on a daily basis. The more I pray and realize my own sin, the more I feel the urge for this same orderliness and inner strength--not for my sake, but to serve my family and, above all, Christ.
At 16 I started to really change. I started hitting the gym. I live in the US with all the smiling and I agree, reality is not worth always smiling. I can always tell someone is lying when you ask how they are and they smile while saying “it’s good”. Multiple times people have pulled me to the side to ask if I am depressed or angry, even though I just have sober face. Cussing has never been a problem for me, I was not raised in an environment where people used it so I grew up not needing to. I love these videos it helps to show my flaws, such as with my reactions to things outside my control and bad habit of not planning out my days.
Thanks Father Moses. I always thought that I shouldn't care about physical hardness from a religious perspective, but you are right, it develops willpower, which I lack a lot. I will use this as a workout motivation.
For sure, one of the best decisions I made last week was to subscribe to this channel. As a man that had quitted God and religion, to be listening to you, Father, sounds like a spot of life has hitted me right in a manner it has never happened before, and it has made me come back to the Light. Thanks for blessing us with your speech. I hope I can use some of your insights on my future videos (correctly translated to brazilian Portuguese) to make this message hit more and more people around the world. God bless you.
I agree with the physical culture part of this. In the same breath I fail miserably with the cussing. I cuss far too much. And my dislike of Goggins and being lumped in with him by you has me really taking stock of this habit haha. In all seriousness. God bless and thank you for the word, father
Gospodi pomiluj. ☦️☦️☦️
Krist je kralj!
"carry the burden of your fragility"... thank you for this =)
Always be full of joy in the Lord
glad you uploaded when you did
Excellent insight! I wish I heard wisdom and encouragement of this caliber from my Catholic priests. I’ve become a regular listener.
Thank you Father, for sharing your wisdom with us and reviving true Christian masculity.
Приятно наблюдать за вашей миссией заграницей, Отец Моисей. Божьей помощи!
Thank you for this, Fr. Moses. Your videos have been tremendously helpful and very practical. Number two is especially a problem for me. Jesus Christ, son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.
Thank you Father, your guidance is invaluable
Just stumbled upon your channel. I love your content Fr. Moses ❤✝️
Thank you so much for posting these videos, father Moses. Your way of explaining things reacheas a man very easily and in a strong way!
Much love from Romania!
God Bless!
Love Romania!
Thank you Father Moses.
Thank you Father, bless
God bless from Serbia and thanks for the videos. You are a real men , brother.
Thank you, Father Moses, for these gems of information.
Yes, one wife. That caught my attention. Your teaching is Golden 👍🏾👍🏾
You are a legend
Thank you father
"Having someone you can tell on yourself to..." Gold!
Thank you Father Moses, this is far more edifying than boastful masculine influencers.
May God protect you.
I'm rewatching this and once again thank you, your wisdom is a blessing on this earth. And i cracked up in laughter at "There's only room for one wife" and that Russian saying on laughter. Please keep making more videos. You're steering men into their truth. Ill be making sure to allocate time for prayer each morning and evening!
Thank you brother in Christ I needed this I was just arguing with my wife and instead of continuing to argue I just left it alone
a very good reminder... Thank you Fr.Moses God bless you and your Family!
Father, I am as excited as someone could get when you upload. Your wisdom really helped me to understand dialy matters both spiritual and phisycal under a new perspective.
Might the lord have mercy on our souls✝️☦️
God bless you brother
Thank you! I had to share this with my 3 sons as they start making their own way in this world as Orthodox Christians. ☦
What a great video god bless you in Jesus name Amen.
Thank you, father Moses! We miss you!
Thank you, Fr. Moses. The best video I've seen from you so far. Much needed.
This was great. The smiling too much part hit me. Ive found myself guilty of this the last few years. In interactions Ill catch myself smiling like, what the heck im just listening to someone talk chill… maybe from past traumas of people pleasing or something
Also find ill feel anxious after a while of it. Like the fake smile signals to the body somethings off, if that makes sense
Thank you for this Father.
Father Moses, thank you for this video. I'm sure you know many young men are struggling today. I noticed your videos have been focused towards men and it's helping us a lot. Thank you.
Thank you Father Moses for this, it is hard having to reflect on my ways but it was needed.
I like this a lot Fr. Moses, but one thing about 5:55 is that people think I’m scary when I make eye contact, so I try not to do it! 😅
I need more videos like this honestly. Thanks for the advice!
Thank you father!
These videos are really helping me out! Thank you and God bless you 🙏
We want to see more workouts!!!! 🙏🏻✝️💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
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Bless you father
thanks father. 35 y.o with 3 kids here greetings from Romania
I’m gonna write these things down and refer to them often.
Great reflection on a very important topic Father!
Great video. Absolutely agree on Goggins.
Wonderful talk Fr. Moses. I send your talks to my 17 year old son. It is so hard for young men these days to find a good manly figure to model themselves after. We appreciate you! Thank you🙏☦️
This video is awesome Father. Thanks for the wisdom
Thank you Fr. for you advices! May I just add one thing for the young man who isn't yet married or has decided to lay it all before the Lord in a religious vocation, in addition to those things mentioned I think that volunteering or doing some kind of charity work goes a long stretch, I remember you mentioning in one of your previous videos that the role of the husband in a family is to make the life of the wife a better reality, excuse me I'm paraphrasing here but that speaks volumes, since we live in this world that focuses more on materialism and individualism, the way we beat it is not through affirming our own passions but to acknowledge the needs of others, that coupled with detachment, ascetism and discipline I think can change our inner world and in that way the world around us, by God's grace and mercy as we strive to grow in holiness and virtue. Love your videos Father, may God bless you and your family, from a Catholic brother! ✝☦
God bless, Father Moses
I feel you've came to me in a time where I really needed it in my life. Thank you and God Bless you.
You are so real. I'm truly weak
Thanks for the Advice, love from 🇩🇪
I thought this was pretty sound advice here fr Moses. A few points I'd add is:
- #1 excellent point. Testosterone is a gift from God & necessary for a man to feel content, confident, resilient etc. Of course like many things, but to a degree
- Write your daily/weekly/extended goals & "to do" list ideally on physical paper, especially if you struggle with smartphone/internet addiction
- Many elder men are not as helpful or trustworthy as they should be for younger men nowadays, making finding them quite difficult & challenging. Same applies to young women finding virtuous elder Titus 2 women mentors or role models also
- While maybe you got too emotional with your wife buying three pairs of shoes, your wife should also know vanity & shopaholicism is a common problem for women that needs to be acknowledged in humility & that you have authority over her under God as well. And I'm by no means am I calling you or your wife out. I'm only mentioning this because you didn't elaborate on how that problem was resolved & because this is an issue common to a lot of married men I've personally known & worked with over the years 👍
1,000% on your point about elderly men. The vast majority of them refuse to see the struggles they've often created or contributed to for younger generations and they're poisonous people. Like my dad had me in his 40s and he was so hard on me when I was learning how to drive. He told me to just read the book. At one point he said that he doesn't understand why I haven't read it because it should only be like 16 pages. The book is over 90 pages. He was so hard on me all that time because he was just completely out of touch with what I was struggling with. Now imagine that but with friendships, dating, family relationships, finding employment, investment buying a house, school ect, ect. Like my dad fussed at me so much for not taking a notebook to college because he refused to acknowledge that the work is done on computers so I didn't need notes at all. That's how dealing with a lot of elders are like, but most of the time, there's no page number you can show them to change their mind and teach them how things have changed.
Also his wife is still his wife so I'd assume or at least hope that issue has long since dead.
@@youcantbeatk7006 Yeah it's difficult. Many baby boomers were raised I'm a completely different environment & don't understand the incredible degree to which technology has advanced & been incorporated within all areas of life. I think taking a rest from internet/smart phone usage is important but in today's world, your employer will often want you "connected" 24/7 & oftentimes will want direct access to your public social media accounts. It's like man has almost merged with machine though human dignity & what makes us humans can never be extracted or discarded
It can be tough to not get frustrated at my father sometimes too because his advice in some areas is pretty bad lol. I still love him & talk to him often & I know I'm not perfect or omniscient myself so I try to remain patient. The lack of wise elder Titus 2 men who actually can offer sound advice to young men is unfortunately quite low. I put my trust in the Lord to get me where I need to be
Thanks, I learning a lot from you, please keep uploading this videos, I am a 29 years old man who does not know how to be a real man, you help be what I should be.
I truly enjoy your insights. You're a very wise person. Thank.
Thank you 🙏🏼 I’ve rewatched this a few times over the last day to really soak in the wisdom.
I'm a baptist, but all your videos are really helpful. Not much spiritual leaders are saying these things
@@Miguelxcool come home!
Awesome video! Thank you Father.
Thank you for this video
Viewing in Pakistan
doing Gods work out here
Excellent, excellent, excellent! Great content, thank you!