Men, PROTECT YOUR WIVES! (Devin Schadt)
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
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Devin Schadt and Matt Fradd talk about husbands protecting their wives from their own insecurities and wounds.
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I wasn't able to, she passed away right after the delivery of our first child, now I'm alone in this vastness of the universe, sad and trying to heal.
Please offer a mass for her,
Her name is Richell Miras Moreno.
@@masterjohnpax6294 offering a Hail Mary for her now brother. God bless
We are Eternal, not immortal.
Im so sorry for your profound loss. Will be praying for you, your wife and your child.
Sounds odd to hear, but if she died and lost her life to save her child she would be in Heaven. No greater love has a man than to lay down your life for another --Christ Our Lord. Your wife is in my prayers today. Try and be happy for her.
I don't have any kids, so I'm one to talk, that being said, please don't abandon your child! Don't leave him to suffer alone! He or She will need you. Please don't cop out on them out of grief! I beg you!!!
"What women want to be protected from the most is us." I don't often exclaim praise out loud but I was amazed at the simplicity of that. That is exactly what Christ means when he says we are commanded to deny our flesh! We sacrifice our self-pity, our laziness, our passivity to provide a protector that our wives can trust! Fantastic quote.
I can’t tell you how healing it was to hear this conversation between two men. Society will change overnight if men take this to heart.
We are called to bear each other's burdens not to bear our wives burdens alone.
My husband has been a good leader and helped me learn how to be good at letting him lead. ❤
with this thumbnail and title i was practically forced to click
edit: the thumbnail got changed. at first it was just not text with Matt Fradd angry with clenched fists and the title was "PROTECT YOUR WIFE" lol
@LukeBowman08 same!
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Same lol
Like Devin said in this interview, men need to embody the virtue of magnanimity. They need to have the desire to do great things, to show great courage and strength of will, not for their own pride or self-worth, but for the good of their wives and children.
Amen!
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For those looking for the sacrifice they are talking about, it’s not getting yourself killed on crusade in their honor, it’s small daily stuff.
Packing a lunch so you can respect the family budget, working hard to provide for your kids. Driving an older car to save for the future, emptying the dishwasher even if you had a super long day. Putting your phone down and engaging with your kids so she can finically take a shower. The sacrifices your wife is looking for aren’t dramatic, they are part of being a rock she can count on.
Women don't respect that. You will never get a wife by being dutiful and dependable. Look at who women are marrying today. It's always been the bad boys.
2 Kings 5: 13 explains this very well. Basically saying "If you were told to do something extraordinary you'd have done it, but now that you're told to do this little thing you refuse?". If we can't make the little sacrifices how will we be able to be ready for the larger ones?
Yes!!! At the end of the day, men just want to be someone's hero. We want to sacrifice for our wives. The weaker part of us might hesitate, but its what we were made for.
Another issue is that the majority of people up until recently worked on a farm so dad was there with the family, being an example to the family, working with his kids. In the city or the suburbs, dad is out of the home and you see him on the weekends or the evenings. Nowadays mom isn't around either a lot of the time. It has been one of my hopes that the whole work from home thing might help people have stronger relationships with their kids.
Something I adore in my husband is that he takes the responsibility of leadership so seriously - he makes the major final decisions, and I can confidently say that he has deeply considered my preferences/ desires, my individual long term well being, and our family's shared long term well being in each of those decisions. He also bears the burden of knowing that he is responsible if he makes the wrong choice, and he answers not only to me but ultimately to God for how he leads us.
My heart aches so badly when I hear this......finally it's hearing TRUTH. It's so affirming. Finally I feel heard and understood. Thank-you for this Matt! Where do you go with the shattered heart that again and again has to endure this. It's great you're getting the message out there. Our men need to hear this. But some just can't. Can we have a guest speaker that tells us women how to carry this when it never gets better, despite years of prayer. Who want to keep their commitment to marriage but hurt so badly. For me I go to Christ with my wounded heart, The Real Man, to help me keep going. Please help my wounds from childhood led me to this and now I'm trapped in a pattern. Is there such a thing as an emotional martyr? I'm not giving up on my marriage ever but how do I carry this?
Thank you God that men like you are speaking Truth 🔥🔥🔥
This channel’s healing men. Thank you, Matt and team.
So incredibly true, insightful, and just wonderful!
Question... I know that a man is supposed to provide and protect his wife and I agree... But when Matt said that a wife holding her husband is disordered... I don't know if it's smth in me that finds that off or if I'm hearing it wrong.
I'm hearing it as a man isn't ever supposed to be tenderly held by his wife or else he's weak and it's disordered.
If it is disordered how does s man get comfort and support when he's anxious and doesn't have any strength to go on.
Can someone please explain to me why a woman can want a man who will lead and protect her but a man can't want a woman who will hold and cherish him?
Thank you for this- I’m a woman and only now, many years after my marriage failed, do I understand what was happening. I was not protected and took on all spiritual responsibilities and became resentful towards him and bitchy. I long for a man like you describe and aspire to be. Jesus, help us all!
Such a good video. This explains so much.
Loved this! So true.
gosh this was such an encouragement!!!!
Would love to hear Cameron’s take on your statements and also on the wife’s complementary role. Probably already exists and I just haven’t gotten there yet.
When I was young, at my grandmother's funeral, the men stood around complaining that women use too much toilet paper.
I lost ALL respect for the men in my family at that point.
Oversensitive
@@kosiekoos9408it was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
As a woman, aMEN to that! And watching only the first few seconds and he totally nailed it. We all have massive father wounds because we are two or three generations coming from broken homes, absent fathers and a lack of spiritual development. We can’t trust God and so we don’t trust each other as men and women
12:13 I am not okay and I don't know how to resolve it. I want to be comforted by a woman so badly. I'm painfully single and depressed about it. I want to lead my eventual wife but I can't stand alone. I want to be comforted, to be told everything will turn out okay, I'm fine with doing the work to make it so but I can't always see the vision to put everything right. You also mentioned that the man should want to hold her and not the other way around but every night I go to bed, wanting some woman to come by and hold me tight, to love me. I want to take a leader role but I'm in no position to do so now. I'm just so lonely.
I hear you, man. I'm in a similar situation right now.
You're not alone dude.. especially if you're younger. Most guys are in your same position.
Continually humble yourself before God and ask for His comfort and certainty in His plan for your life. You crave a material certainty and comfort that can only be filled spiritually.
That being said, you’re not alone in this.
I don't think that's disordered, I think you're normal. It's normal for a man to yearn for woman. And I think it's normal for a wife to be tender towards her husband, hug him, and encourage him. You're not ungodly to want a companion. You're very Adam for that, very human.
It's a cross to bear, brother. This world and it's people aren't worth protecting. It's through the love of God that we continue to live. When we understand, truly, how much God loves us, it's joy. We no longer have to worry about the opinions of others. We only have to care for God's love, and not the love of others who will drag us down to Hell.
So don't be emotionally stunted or traumatized in such a way that you communicate your pain but also dont be so emotionally stunted that you fail to express your emotions? Matt I love you but that doesn't make sense. Thats the same kafka trap many vicious women lay out for men.
I agree thatca husband is his wifes shield from a very hard and nasty world. And a wife is supposed to provide respite and consolation to her weary husband as he does so. Be heroic sacrificial and hard as a man, be tender and nurturing as a woman. Thats not "daddy" or "mommy" issues. That is biblical and Catholic marriage. If your wife doesnt console you I'm sorry, but that lack of tenderness for her husband is not rightly ordered either.
Exactly
True. When my husband defended my honor it was the hottest thing he ever did!
Amazing video!
Perfect explanation of my relationship with my ex-boyfriend, he wouldn't lead when I needed a leader
Where must he lead you to? Water?😂
Not married myself, but I see/hear how money concerns can be a huge issue. For women, it's a security issue; for men, often a prestige and control issue. Seems as if money, as a singular token of patriarchal resource distribution, is about men taking care of stuff TOGETHER, as the secure provider of the whole community. Male leaders are supposed to make sure that the families are successful by organizing the men for mutual success, not for greed and grandstanding.
This video is so on point👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽. Married 10 years and I found myself shouting yes that’s what we want! Sacrifice without bragging and complaining. Strong without using the wife as a stepping stone to get there alll the time
What?
This is awesome
POWERFUL!
My husband last night with my RUclips algorithm on the TV "Who is Matt Fradd?!" 😂❤ Me, " Oh he does "Pints With Aquinas""
With the thumbnail, I thought it was a new Deuterocomical video popping up in my feed.
Read jornals from the medieval era, specifically around the black death. In some, you will see fathers inconsolably weeping and shrieking with sadness for WEEKS!!
Now, look at how women react to a man crying today.
Were humans better at family in the past or today?
If men in the past were allowed/expected to show their emotions, and women currently can't/won't handle mens emotions, maybe the problem is in the mindset of women when it comes to men?
Maybe it’s both plus a lot of more things. You got a point but also but video has one. Most problems with humanity are product of a lot of stuff so they require different approaches to be solved. God wants us to love him but also act, that why he gave us a body and virtues.
Sorry but for once I have to disagree. I don't see why all of that is incompatible with a husband telling his problems to his wife. The heart of a solid marriage is truth. Hopefully I can also rely on my wife when I face a terrible issue.
I’ve said it before and ill say it again, if the Catholic Church especially its laypeople rose up to form groups to address the male loneliness epidemic the magnitude of impact it would have on this world would be immeasurable. It doesn’t need to be and shouldn’t be for just catholic men, we as Catholics are called to help our fellow man regardless of their faith. Plus we all know that many of them would find their way to the faith
Write a lettter to your local parish and to the vatican to address this on-going issue. I will be soon and I think a national task force needs to be fully considered to tackle on leadership in this issue.
It's essentially an spiritual problem. You don't fix the problem by addressing the symptom.
@The devils seed is sown in despair. We as Christians are called to Joy and to spread Joy. The Catholic Church taking an active role in addressing the isolation and confusion our society has created is addressing the root of the problem not the symptoms. Sometimes first you have to create space for people to come to or return to the lord. The Catholic Church is lacking in its community while we have a beautiful spiritual practice that feeds the soul in the mass and the Eucharist we also need more community
@@thomasle3418 I’ve been posting this idea in different comment sections that address male issues. I see I finally found someone else with a similar idea. If we both keep leaving comments like yours and mine promoting the idea the Catholic Church can address this problem and getting people to write the Vatican and asking other people to do so as well we could get something rolling. Might even be a good idea to set something set up an automatic letter somewhere for people to sign and send
@@thomasle3418 I’ve been posting this idea in different comment sections that address male issues. I see I finally found someone else with a similar idea. If we both keep leaving comments like yours and mine promoting the idea the Catholic Church can address this problem and getting people to write the Vatican and asking other people to do so as well we could get something rolling. Might even be a good idea to set something set up an automatic letter somewhere for people to sign and send
I think we should be careful with what women say, but rather watch what they do.
“All the women at the Damascus conference want the man who average looking and sacrifices”. Of course those women do it’s one of the most traditional catholic environments in the USA for young people. In reality women are by and large choosing the men who are strong and wealthy.
Further, the wealthy and strong man has sacrificed something to gain his wealth. He isn’t a static entity. What does the average man have to sacrifice for the woman that the strong/wealthy man can’t do ?
It’s the man’s job to delegate and lead not to do everything in the relationship out of mere sacrifice.
Women ultimately select for wealth, attractiveness, and qualities where they feel the man is “better” than them. Having a desire to sacrifice for a woman is free. Having the means to provide for a woman exorbitantly and lead her takes actual sacrifice to acquire those resources and skills.
Ok but why should I care about the opinion of a woman who's not a traditional catholic?
Men must be stand up and lead protect the future with the Holy Spirit. It’s beautiful and a blessing to have a wife. Great video
That got my attention! 😁
Can't believe Matt hasn't at least heard about Keith Nester. Come on Matt!
I agree on the flintstones. I remember that. Flintstones, jetsons, bewitched, I dream of Jeanie, Mr. Ed - there were so many serials about unmanliness back then
Genuine question: how can the husband be the spiritual leader of the family if the wife doesn’t agree with the husband’s spiritual direction? We are caught up in the whole “men are returning to Catholicism/Orthodoxy” and we disagree deeply.
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Tim and Steph Gordon might have something to say about this…
Please can someone show me where in the Holy Bible I can read concerning purgatory?
PROTECT YOUR WIFE
The Damascus women's response does not line up with reality. Is that because they are a minority conservative view, or is there something else going on? Marriage rates are still plummeting.
i am not married.
This is all completely true, and difficult for people to hear.
It’s not masculine to talk about women being a problem? So it’s not masculine to address actual issues? For what fear of being viewed as not masculine? That’s the least masculine thing I’ve ever heard. One huge aspect that you’re missing is if the woman doesn’t have God in her life. Even if she has a man with all of these qualities, society will either tell her that he’s weak and desperate and/or that can’t be trusted and he will move on the moment, something better comes along
Are you not seeing how this all stemmed from men though?? Do women with strong loving fathers become angry feminists?? I’d argue the women becomes a feminist, not after a bad marriage, but in childhood, where there was a lack of a strong Godly father.
@@AA-gu4mw Why was there a lack of a strong Godly father? Who chose the father?
It might seem revolutionary to some of you but both men and women can be and often are problems, simultaneously.
@ why would that be revolutionary to me?
@@JCslittleone Not necessarily to you, but many don’t seem to understand that the gender wars we have today are multifaceted and can be neither blamed on only men or women.
Glory to GOD, ALL THE TIME!!!
A jailed husband can't do much...
I get the point but I disagree. A man’s primary role is to please God.
In fact an alternate rendering of ‘work it and keep it’ from Genesis is to ‘worship and obey’ in the Hebrew. So Adam’s primary function is to worship and obey God.
When Adam trusts the serpent and accepts the fruit from Eve, he not only disobeys God he worships the creation instead of the Creator (Rom 1).
For to side with Satan and Eve was an act of worship, as it sacrificed Adam’s connection to God to elevate the ideas and actions of Satan and Eve. Textbook definition of worship.
Sacrifice one thing to elevate another.
When men find their identity in pleasing their wives instead of walking with God they recommit the sin of Adam. Putting Eve ahead of God. We should self sacrificially love our wives, yes. But God is first. For God is the ultimate definer of a man, not women.
Please God by serving your wine and children
@@hopefull61256 AKA, do everything wifey says or your not a man of God.
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It has to go both ways, it’s such a beta move to blame Adam for everything.
Men have certain roles that were given by God. Women also have roles but they are different. Yes the worth of both men and women are equal but we have very different roles we also have very different strengths and weaknesses which is how God created us to be. God originally went looking for Adam not Eve because he was her covering.
Yes men and women have different roles obviously. Both are accountable. It’s not a one-sided answer.
This mentality of men leading is very antithetical to our current culture and modern norms. When women relied on men to support them, this would have been the norm. Now the tables have flipped completely where most women are out-earning men, at least among younger demographics. More women are attending college and university than men, and also graduating at higher rates. Many men are being left behind and dropping out of society. Women want to be provided for and protected.. just like they said in this video, EVEN the Radical Feminists want the guys with money and muscles. It's very difficult for men to be seen as any sort of Leader when the woman is the one running the show and supporting the family. I know this isn't the case for all families, but it's true for the vast majority. Women almost always adopt a more dominant role in the household if she feels like she is the one providing.
@ This is very true. Even trad women who want a good husband and lots of kids end up getting a bachelor or masters degree. So by the time they really focus on trying to find "the one" it's well into their late 20s and early 30s. Most people nowadays get married in their early 30s and have fewer kids... Where I live, in order to afford just a nice little bungalow home, both parents have to work. Thankfully I married a beautiful Filipina; she's calm, gentle, and submissive, and is not controlling and usually always listens. Obviously I take her advice sometimes cause I want to know her opinion, but man, North American born women are a different breed.
The fall did not happen after Eve bit from the apple. It happened after Adam did. He was in charge and failed. This is basic Catholic teaching. You should also know it’s a defect in men to take the blame off themselves like Adam did. He got in trouble and went Straight to blaming Eve. Society is never going to heal until men start admitting this.
Would you than say that the only way to know what it means to be a woman is how they treat men?
Biblically we are compliments of one another. Masculinity and femininity are two sides of Gods image. So, we only know who are as women through man and vice versa.
Betty and Wilma were not bitchy at all! Now Wilma's mom ....
I DON'T HAVE A WIFE, MATT!
Some guys are just lucky
I love most of the guests on this show and I think this guest produced some potentially dangerous content to women, especially around the 5 minute mark. A woman should never make her higher power her partner. Once she does, she is in a state of codependency and puts the man in a greater likelihood for dominance & control. I think that men can have the role of discernment (leadership) and women offering nurting, widsom and ideas (intuition) for a man to discern (in a very traditional relationship). If a women views a man as Jesus Christ, why would Jesus Christ discreen anything that she says if he is all knowing/all powerful?
Yeah, as a man, I too not want to be like Jesus Christ to her.
A Deliverance Prayer
By the power of the Precious Blood, by the Name of Jesus and by the intercession of Blessed Virgin Mary, St. Joseph, St. Michael the Archangel, all Holy Angels and Saints. I command the demon of (state the problem youre having) to stop afflicting me, my ancestor, my family, my cherished loved ones, my descendants, and all members of the Catholic Church, and go to the foot of the cross to receive your sentence. Amen
Our Lady of Guadalupe, pray for us
Thank you.
I strongly disagree that it is disordered for women to propose marriage.
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This is where the Red Pill movement misses the mark - also so coincidental that this popped in my feed as I was just discussing with my wife that I think a lot of Atheists have Daddy issues - specifically the ones whose sticking point is “Why would God allow suffering” because they lack the trust in Fatherly Love - they don’t have faith that it could be for their and the World’s ultimate Salvation
I cannot for the life of me fathom this enduring unscriptural obsession with infantilizing women. These men, along with a vast number of pastors in the US, seem to think God was an idiot and had a fast one pulled over on him, when Eve responded to God’s question of what happened by saying she was deceived into eating the fruit. Instead of blaming the whole thing on Adam, which is what God SHOULD have done (according to them), He ignorantly held them both accountable for their own actions. I roll my eyes.
Wha ???
This is totally against the law guys.
All in all good. A little cringy, women are not all that weak that need men to hover over at every moment. I see some simping masquerading as the masculine man. Again some points were generically good
Agree indeed. But when you protect your woman she said you are a Toxicman. Lol 😆
I stop listening when I hear "if you want to be a real man".
You asked women what they want? 😂😂😂. Who is going to them? It is well documented when it comes to this topic, they say one thing and do the other?
For those looking for the sacrifice they are talking about, it’s not getting yourself killed on crusade in their honor, it’s small daily stuff.
Packing a lunch so you can respect the family budget, working hard to provide for your kids. Driving an older car to save for the future, emptying the dishwasher even if you had a super long day. Putting your phone down and engaging with your kids so she can finically take a shower. The sacrifices your wife is looking for aren’t dramatic, they are part of being a rock she can count on.