This is why you get the truth out first so they can't spin the narrative. OP ISNT her sister's, niece's keeper. Oh well, let THEM be full time Nannies. Go no contact with them all and live your life. You made a life for YOURSELF, Keep doing JUST THAT. THEY coddled her let THEM suffer from their decisions. I would have told them don't threaten me with a good time, happy life because I will thoroughly enjoy it..... Isn't it amazing how generous people are with your time and money.
The parents wanted to retire to Florida and dump that kid on OP. Amy can move to Florida with them. Then, THEY can raise Lily. Amy shouldn't have had a kid.
Is Lily's father paying child support. Amy can go to a shelter and she can apply for low income housing and SNAP. Kudos for not letting your family use you.
Op. Just tell your niece the dang truth. At least in a way she understands. It is the fault of your mom and grandparents.and let her know that they made very bad choices and there are consequences. Let her know that you love her. If you buy her anything,take off the tags so your sister can't return them. Do little things that she would appreciate.
I hate selfish people who gaslight their victims by calling them selfish when they refuse to be doormats. Saying "no" to insane demands is not selfishness.
"put family first"? Is OP family to them? When did they ever put her first? I owe my children affection, care, love and protection; they are my children, not my servants. As adults,; I wanted them, they did not ask to be born. While I will always want them in my life, they have autonomy, and if they are unable to live their own lives then I have failed them as a father. I ask things of them, and they of me, but none of us makes demands. How would such a family react to "Okay, I will adopt Lily, but since you are toxic I will never allow you or Amy to communicate with her after that."?
Oh, hell no! You are not responsible to be your sister’s unpaid nanny! Your sister can move to Florida with them ! You don’t owe them they were responsible to raise you! Your sister and her baby daddy can raise their own child if your parents don’t want to raise the child! Do not cave in when they come crying to you about their misfortune! You are better off on your own!Amy can be taken care of by the parents! Just no! Absolutely no! You are not Amy’s ATM or her support animal! You need to expose your parents and Amy to the entire family since they’ve called in the flying monkeys! Since they put the family on you with false information, I suppose it’s only right for you to tell them the truth. Unfortunately, sometimes children do suffer for their parents bad decisions that doesn’t mean it’s everyone else’s responsibility to raise the child.
This is why you get the truth out first so they can't spin the narrative. OP ISNT her sister's, niece's keeper. Oh well, let THEM be full time Nannies. Go no contact with them all and live your life. You made a life for YOURSELF, Keep doing JUST THAT. THEY coddled her let THEM suffer from their decisions. I would have told them don't threaten me with a good time, happy life because I will thoroughly enjoy it..... Isn't it amazing how generous people are with your time and money.
The parents wanted to retire to Florida and dump that kid on OP. Amy can move to Florida with them. Then, THEY can raise Lily. Amy shouldn't have had a kid.
Is Lily's father paying child support. Amy can go to a shelter and she can apply for low income housing and SNAP. Kudos for not letting your family use you.
At what point do you block them? JC, you know their reaching out is not altruistic
Amy should have gotten an Abortion.
Or given up Lily for Adoption.
And Prostitution is the worlds oldest Profession.
Op. Just tell your niece the dang truth. At least in a way she understands. It is the fault of your mom and grandparents.and let her know that they made very bad choices and there are consequences. Let her know that you love her. If you buy her anything,take off the tags so your sister can't return them. Do little things that she would appreciate.
Why didn’t she drop a dime to CPS?
No guessing who the Golden Child is.
I hate selfish people who say they are family
I hate selfish people who gaslight their victims by calling them selfish when they refuse to be doormats. Saying "no" to insane demands is not selfishness.
"put family first"? Is OP family to them? When did they ever put her first? I owe my children affection, care, love and protection; they are my children, not my servants. As adults,; I wanted them, they did not ask to be born. While I will always want them in my life, they have autonomy, and if they are unable to live their own lives then I have failed them as a father. I ask things of them, and they of me, but none of us makes demands.
How would such a family react to "Okay, I will adopt Lily, but since you are toxic I will never allow you or Amy to communicate with her after that."?
Oh, hell no! You are not responsible to be your sister’s unpaid nanny! Your sister can move to Florida with them ! You don’t owe them they were responsible to raise you! Your sister and her baby daddy can raise their own child if your parents don’t want to raise the child! Do not cave in when they come crying to you about their misfortune! You are better off on your own!Amy can be taken care of by the parents! Just no! Absolutely no! You are not Amy’s ATM or her support animal! You need to expose your parents and Amy to the entire family since they’ve called in the flying monkeys! Since they put the family on you with false information, I suppose it’s only right for you to tell them the truth. Unfortunately, sometimes children do suffer for their parents bad decisions that doesn’t mean it’s everyone else’s responsibility to raise the child.