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Episode 16 - The Ultimatum: Queer Love's Tiff Der Tells All

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  • Опубликовано: 14 авг 2024
  • Deepti and Natalie are back, this time with The Ultimatum: Queer Love's Tiff Deer! Tiff gets real talking about their relationship with Mildred, the behind-the-scenes tea, and what they really wanted to say at the reunion. The ladies also talk about their trips to NYC and Seattle, Natalie's experience at the Chicago Blackhawk's Draft party, and their thoughts on dating younger men.

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  • @rosierayyy
    @rosierayyy Год назад +64

    I honestly loved that Tiff and Sam helped eachother grow without a romantic component tbh. Would say it’s better that way instead of just being temporarily distracted by the new and shiny

    • @CreativeC13
      @CreativeC13 Год назад +2

      Reminded me of the French ultimatum! All the couples were like that!

  • @robynzedd1886
    @robynzedd1886 Год назад +10

    After The Ultimatum: Queer Love I was having nightmares about Mildred because she mirrored some of my past abusive relationships and Tiff, you are so eloquent and open about your experience. You made me feel seen and you're such a wonderful person. You didn't have to use your energy to do this and to use your influence to make people like me feel less alone is nothing short of brave. And Out of the Pods thank you so much for giving them a platform. This is truly one of my favorite podcasts; you show that people can learn and grow and really highlight what is important. I'm so grateful for all of you.

  • @joannep222
    @joannep222 Год назад +22

    I love when y’all chat at the beginning and give us updates!! Y’all should do a Q&A episode ❤❤

  • @spookymicah3131
    @spookymicah3131 Год назад +15

    Tiff is really insightful! Thanks for having them on!

    • @AllyMack23
      @AllyMack23 Год назад

      Tiff's pronouns are they/them :)

    • @Freee479
      @Freee479 Год назад

      @@AllyMack23they/them? What does that even Mean? Is tiff not a lesbian female? I’m so lost

    • @sydneyhadfield807
      @sydneyhadfield807 Год назад +1

      @@Freee479Tiff is attracted to women but identifies as non-binary.

    • @AllyMack23
      @AllyMack23 Год назад +3

      @@Freee479 Oh, easy. Tiff would like for you to use they/them pronouns when referring to them. That is all. Oftentimes those that prefer they/them pronouns identify as non-binary (not male/female), but not always.

    • @Freee479
      @Freee479 Год назад

      @@AllyMack23 lol pls how does this make any sense? God created MALE and FEMALE. Humans created Non binary and to me that is like challenging God!!!! Tiff is a biological female and she should be addressed as such. I understand and respect people’s sexuality but pronouns? Nah

  • @sarahbeth1997
    @sarahbeth1997 Год назад +12

    @tiff
    I can honestly say thank you. Thank you for giving someone who grew up w a “broken home” the benefit of the doubt. Thank you for thinking of her first because what she’s been through. That truly shows how empathetic and caring you are. But you should always take a step back and see how these actions are affecting you.
    You’re a beautiful soul. And I am sorry your soul was taken advantage of.
    You’re beautiful inside and out.
    I’m so sorry you were taken advantage of to a certain degree. I really respect you and love your energy.
    Keep being open minded and working on yourself ultimately
    Slay bby ❤️

  • @kristinasue5083
    @kristinasue5083 Год назад +12

    Great podcast! I would like to have Tiff back and hear them do a summary with you guys about a LIB episode.

    • @AllyMack23
      @AllyMack23 Год назад

      Tiff's pronouns are they/them :)

    • @kristinasue5083
      @kristinasue5083 Год назад +1

      @@AllyMack23 Thank you :) I have put the proper pronouns in my comment.

  • @fatimaiqbal3452
    @fatimaiqbal3452 Год назад +10

    something i just thought about was the hypocrisy of Mildred and Tiff vs Jackelina and Marshall. Jackie was allowed to not come on the reunion because she felt unsafe. I think everyone should have to join the reunion and as far as we saw and know Marshall or anyone else on the cast never put her in danger.
    They allowed that to happen and took such good care of Jackie because she felt unsafe. allowed her to still tell her side on her time. but then allowed a domestic abuser to join, get so so so much time, verbally assault and harass her victim to the point where Tiff left and that was it. CRAZY. I agree with Tiff’s comment on masculinity and feminity. Jackie was protected cause Marshall is a man. Mildred was protected because Tiff is more masculine presenting. Why should masculinity and feminity matter when the feminine is a domestic abuser. that reunion was so so so fucked up.

  • @dianacatalinapintilie3924
    @dianacatalinapintilie3924 Год назад +16

    Oh I was so waiting for this. I love Tiff so much ❤

    • @outofthepods
      @outofthepods  Год назад +6

      they’re the best!!! ❤

    • @Freee479
      @Freee479 Год назад

      @@outofthepodsthey? Who’s they?

    • @annarox393
      @annarox393 9 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@Freee479Tiff uses they/them pronouns.

  • @piagaspar2727
    @piagaspar2727 Год назад +7

    Thank you for this! Great interview, I live Tiff so much ❤

  • @EricaNicoleAcoustic
    @EricaNicoleAcoustic Год назад +7

    I need somebody to address “AR-capella.”

  • @lizzien5846
    @lizzien5846 Год назад +12

    I met my husband when he was 25 and I was 33. We have 2 kids and have been married for 16 years now. I guess he didn’t seem like the right one on paper at first, but it turns out my mind was changed! Haha

  • @hongkongatton
    @hongkongatton Год назад +4

    I need a Deepti Tell All 💙

  • @Studentdoc_tash
    @Studentdoc_tash Год назад +3

    I had a good chuckle when Natalie said she’s always wanted to date a doctor and being in med school myself dating another med student, I think this is why a lot of doctors marry doctors 😂 It’s nice to have a break from medicine & be around someone who understands your pain lol

  • @ashstone9879
    @ashstone9879 9 месяцев назад +1

    🎶Sneeze on the phone and the mate got sicker🎶 lol

  • @jessiesong9721
    @jessiesong9721 Год назад +2

    Loving the podcast and interviews!! 😍

  • @shelsyvaloy7752
    @shelsyvaloy7752 Год назад +6

    I really want you guys to do an episode on season 3. I am dying to know your opinion on certain people/couples.

  • @villyroxx
    @villyroxx Год назад

    Tiff deserves all the happiness and love 💛 thank you for sharing and for this interview 🙌🏽 ps, their CAT 😻😻😻😻

  • @herecomesthesun21
    @herecomesthesun21 Год назад +4

    I just binge watched the whole season and it was very interesting to watch, but I do think these formats are based on preying on people's vulnerabilities and traumas. I wish they would make the programs in a more ethical way.

  • @robertabailey8830
    @robertabailey8830 Год назад +2

    Honestly, I think it depends on if the guy has done actual self discovery or not. I had been engaged twice and a 21 year old strolled into my life (I was 28). I thought… no way, absolutely not. But his constant work on himself and GOING TO THERAPY we realized we were a perfect fit. Age does matter, but i think what self work you have done matters more.

  • @tiggytaylor4607
    @tiggytaylor4607 Год назад +1

    Ugh I missed you guys 😢💕

  • @zannaambia7270
    @zannaambia7270 Год назад +7

    I felt so bad for tiff during the reunion Mildred went in on her
    She loved playing the victim but she’s just as responsible as tiff but tiff owns up to her mistakes
    I pray they both heal so they can be better partners in the future

    • @AllyMack23
      @AllyMack23 Год назад +3

      Tiff's pronouns are they/them :)

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 Год назад +3

      I don't think Tiff is just as responsible since she's not the one getting physically violent.

    • @zannaambia7270
      @zannaambia7270 Год назад +1

      @@AllyMack23 yes thank you

    • @zannaambia7270
      @zannaambia7270 Год назад

      @@joanna0988 in a relationship both can be held responsible for their actions
      Remember we didn’t see or hear everything that happened in their relationship

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 Год назад +4

      @@zannaambia7270 I don't agree, unless they're both physically fighting (which Mildred didn't say to police or on the reunion) I would never blame someone for getting a heavy gate thrown at them. Sorry that is crossing the line and actually terrifying to me that a child with autism witnesses that level of anger.

  • @avabliss9452
    @avabliss9452 Год назад +3

    cover LIB Brazil and Japan!

  • @ChristineWoodington
    @ChristineWoodington Год назад

    My now husband is 3 years younger, and he was 25 when I was 28. He was mature and looked much older than me, and still does. No one could tell.

  • @BagLadyy_
    @BagLadyy_ Год назад +2

    Cat feature had to be the best relief🫶🏾

  • @mariaalejandrabrachonavas9172
    @mariaalejandrabrachonavas9172 Год назад

    I looooove Tiff ❤😍

  • @8437yari
    @8437yari Год назад

    I never dated someone younger than me (32) and I am getting married to my fiance (26) in May 2024 and I couldn't be happier!

  • @moninnamccarthy1408
    @moninnamccarthy1408 Год назад

    l miss you tiff der l love tiff der ❤

  • @atreju305
    @atreju305 Год назад +2

    I returned to 42:28 at least 10 or rather … 20 times … 😍

  • @joannaweber8284
    @joannaweber8284 Год назад

    Get Vanessa on!!!! Would live to know her side!

  • @skyetranqille9534
    @skyetranqille9534 Год назад

    YASSSSSS

  • @sarahbeth1997
    @sarahbeth1997 Год назад

    The question is
    Where are my scorpios at?

  • @ugottahavefun1
    @ugottahavefun1 5 месяцев назад

    "Im attracted to broken people but hate when they act broken" like you shouldve stayed in your lane rather than get with someone you "pitied" 🙄

  • @MB-gb2zp
    @MB-gb2zp Год назад +8

    Tiffs pronouns are they/them for all yall misgendering them in the comments

    • @Freee479
      @Freee479 Год назад +4

      What does that even mean pls? They/them??? She’s a lesbian female is she not? What’s they/them?? Y’ll are turning this world into smt else smh.

    • @MB-gb2zp
      @MB-gb2zp Год назад +2

      @@Freee479 it's a gender neutral prnoun that existed long before she/her or he/him were ever used as pronouns

    • @Freee479
      @Freee479 Год назад

      @@MB-gb2zp God created 2 genders. MALE and FEMALE! They was no such things like they them or any other confusing terms like the ones you’re mentioning and it is what it is

    • @thesearemyfaces
      @thesearemyfaces Год назад +4

      ​@free8957 if you're having difficulties figuring out how to use they/them as a pronoun for a person, just think, for example, of finding a cellphone in a room that someone has left. You'd say "oh, someone left THEIR cellphone!" if you don't know whose it is. Simple as that.

  • @Asdfghj12345h
    @Asdfghj12345h Год назад

    I wish you guys did this podcasts live in a studio or something because this FaceTime looking style is just not it

  • @moninnamccarthy1408
    @moninnamccarthy1408 Год назад

    You boyfriend me tiff der

  • @nataliedavis2316
    @nataliedavis2316 Год назад +6

    Not a fan of the profiling of Mel from Tiffany. Giving Karen vibes

    • @BagLadyy_
      @BagLadyy_ Год назад +1

      I didnt get too much Karen vibes from it but just being transparent about the perspective Tiff had about Mal, may be rooted in other things but it definitely brings up a deeper conversation. At the end of the day we all naturally hold stereotypes within us to protect ourselves from the unknown, its how we act upon it that matters!