How to Leave Law Enforcement
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- Опубликовано: 3 авг 2024
- Leaving law enforcement was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I imagine, if you're thinking about it, it will be for you as well. It truly took me months of deep thinking and planning in order to finally work up the courage to walk away.
I've attempted to boil down the months of my deep thoughts into four actionable steps on how to leave law enforcement.
If you need anything from me, don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you.
There will always be people looking for law enforcement careers or law enforcement jobs, the world doesn't rest on your shoulders - and you shouldn't sacrifice your mental well being or life.
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About Ryan Ingram:
I believe the meaning of life is to become the best version of yourself for the benefit of all those around you.
Over the past 3 years, I have made drastic improvements to my life. Mainly, because my wife and I had our son; it was very important for us that she be a stay at home mom.
Unfortunately, on my salary in law enforcement, I couldn't make that happen.
I questioned my abilities as a provider, and for a brief time, even as a man.
I dedicated myself to read one book per day until I learned how to solve this problem.
3 years later, we have a few businesses and over 60 rental properties.
We made sacrifices along the way, but I learned the power of mentorship. I know the importance of finding someone willing to help and guide you, even if they are just a few steps ahead.
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Just retired after 40 years plus 4 in the military. Police work has turned into a terrible career. Young people should avoid police work
What happened?
why? tell me why because i am not aware of something that everyone is talking about it but im not seeing it. i am currently trying to join law enforcement
@@y25151956I retired in ‘97 after 30 yrs, three on duty shootings and there’s zero support for today’s cops. You could find yourself facing criminal prosecution for doing your job, and there’s so much cop hate on the internet it’s just not worth the risk anymore. My greatest fear in my last few years was being forced into another deadly confrontation and the media destroying me & my family. Think long and hard before taking this major step.
I have been serving and working in law enforcement on road patrol, for almost 2 years. I am 23 & a young woman. It has been difficult being a woman in law enforcement. I have felt little to no support from public as well as my department. i have been extremely unhappy, financially unstable, and feeling burn out. I am putting in my notice tomorrow. I am scared of the change, and I am worried naturally im making the wrong decision. However, I have prayed hard and thought for a few months about my decision. I worked with dogs prior to BLET. I absolutely love animals and caring for them. I feel as if that is my true passion. I would love to have my own dog grooming business, and i have the unique opportunity to have one. I feel i am young enough to leave and start over because I deserve it. Thank you for your video.
I just got sworn in as a deputy sheriff I just completed the academy 2 weeks ago and I tbh I don’t think it’s for me
This video couldn't have come at a better time. 17 more shifts and I'm done. I will concentrate on my other endeavors and the things that are important to me. Thank you!
Thanks Big Rig! I appreciate it, and congrats on having the ability to walk away. Let me know if you need anything along the way, happy to help!
2 years in at THE big city department (you all know which), and I’m feeling so burnt out and unfulfilled. A perp is home while you’re still doing paperwork for arresting him, and it’s all in vain. There’s nothing like watching a grown man piss and shit on the floor, throwing a tantrum, only for you to be paid McDonald’s wages to handle it. Not to mention endless mandatory overtime. All of your wasted intelligence and potential, any decent cop is bound to have the epiphany “I can’t do this for 23 more years”. So, I’m planning my exit. Thanks for this video.
I left corrections 2 months ago and I feel like I have my life back almost feel like a free inmate! After 12 years of trying to help and encourage people to change their ways while slowly dying inside I resigned..We only get this one life and I'm not wasting it on another person who throws their bodily fluids on you with no REAL consequences!! I'll always keep my law enforcement family in my prayers I just couldn't do it anymore ❤️
@@jaymichelle5496 Congrats, really happy to hear that. I had a bunch of friends in corrections leave because they were so miserable and could barely maintain normal lives. I just left PD too. I work in tech now and I'm never looking back.
Wow exactly how I feel 💯🙏🏾
Same. Reference my comment above.
A public servant through and through, once as a policeman and now as an educator
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I was active duty in the military for 4 years, did 3 years with corrections, and 45 years police patrol. With mandatory retirement in 3 months, I would stay if they let me. My most favorite assignment was running a midnight-basketball clinic with inner-city kids for 2 years. Was invited to many graduations and wedding afterwards. I was a cop for 24 yrs, sgt for 12 yrs, Lt for 8, and captain for 1. Wish I could stay for 10 more.
Thank you for this genuine and straight take on an issue in many minds
I hear you brother. Be safe,
Great information! Very informative video. Thanks so much.
Thank you!
Awesome video bro, thank you
Thank you! I appreciate you, don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.
This video is great. Thank you so much for all the information!
Thanks Matthew! I appreciate the support 💪😎
Love your mindset
Thank you!
Great video, thank you. I have 19 years in and plan on leaving at 20. I was gonna do another 5 in the drop but because of the way things are going I've changed my mind. I've subscribed and will check out your other videos.
Thank you Ralph! Hope everything is going well for you, and I hope you've been able to leave!
Leaving is just a math problem. I never looked at it like that. Thanks for the video.
Great video brother...keep them coming...
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You’re the man!
Dude me too. I'm with you 100000000000%. almost completely out. I'm at a slow department right now trying to make a new career happen. Thanks
Amazing video!! I’ve got over 20 years in and ready to go. I can’t wait to watch more of your videos. Thank you so much.
Thanks Gray! I appreciate the support! And thanks for your service! Better things lie ahead! 💪😎
20 years here too brother. Trying to figure out how to get out within 6 months to a year.
I am far past my time to leave (26 yrs in and 49 years old). I have stopped giving my agency 100%, it in the lazy way, just old enough to realize it didn’t pay off. You may love your agency, but it won’t always love you back. Now I am in it for selfish reasons and keep track of our pension fund, which is 100% funded and one of the few in the country that is. Thanks for your information.
Hey Paul Mood. Happy to hear that your pension is 100% funded! That is incredible. Thanks for your service and don't hesitate to reach out if you ever need anything. Happy to help.
I’m leaving a deputy position after 11 years of service. It stings but this video eases my mind on my decision.
I just left after 12. We got this.
You've got this...congrats on the big move! A great friend of mine just put in his 2 weeks notice. Life is better outside of LE....
Dude, I'm a PO and u are so right about the pension system!!!!!! They control everything... I am in the process of getting financially responsible and getting my ducks in a line about passive income. Your channel is excellent and I'm passing it on to alot of others... Thanks bro
Hey man, thanks! Let me know if you ever need anything, happy to help!
Thank you for your video 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 have been contemplating leaving my correctional job for the past nearly 13 years but it definitely doesn’t serve me anymore and am taking control of my self and evolving my small business 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm a bit biased...but I definitely think you should leave! Life is a lot better outside of law enforcement. I know some people are called to serve in this capacity, and I'm beyond grateful for those people...but I know just as many that feel stuck...and that is no way to live.
@@RyanIngram thank you 🙏🏽 I resigned a couple of months ago and it’s been the best decision even thow I miss that check hitting in the bank now I have time and room to grow my
Businesses 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
20 yrs as AF Security Forces, 6.5 yrs as Deputy Sheriff. Decided to drop the career and do something else. 15 days left.
Godspeed, sir. Thanks for your service and looking forward to hearing of your successes!
Ryan, thanks! I decided to retire early and all I hear is what Im giving up and all I can think about is what I am gaining. A truck driver taught me this- know your worth. Are you really getting paid for your knowledge, experience, skillset... ?
30 years and retired. We need good police officers out in the field. Life is tough and there are no free meals when it comes to law enforcement. You have to have that grunt mentality to work as a police officer. Everything was hard working as a police officer but I took it one day at a time. I now have a full pension with supplement attached. I have full health benefits as well. You keep God in your life and he will protect you. We need to promote the good and not the bad. Without police we will live in a lawless society. Due to the shortages around the country in law enforcement we are getting closer to that. There will come a day when everyone with a gun will take the law into their own hands because no one wants to go into l aw enforcement.
How do you turn it off? What I mean is, people tell me that I'm really intense and some find me intimidating (part of the job sometimes). I don't have many friends because when I'm off, I only want to go home and not be out anywhere. I don't know how to NOT conduct myself in that manner after doing it so long.
Thanks, I had the same concern as well. And honestly, after about a year it all faded away.
As your familiar, while in uniform, your presence is the first force on that continuum. But, once I left and was just a little ol insurance salesman, I really started to notice that my presence really didn’t have the same effect anymore. For whatever reason, I stopped giving off such harsh, “I’m a cop” vibes.
After a decent amount of time of not having the same effect AND not responding to calls or being put in similar situations for so long...it stopped being a big deal. Also, in social situations, people started seeing me as an insurance salesman, and stopped asking me about the craziest things I’ve ever seen, or vent to me about their political views on law enforcement.
Of course, I still have above average situational awareness...I still have a few quirks, but...as far as being jaded, not wanting to be around people, all of that is gone.
Similar to what you’re saying, I used to live out in the country on 17 acres...and as soon as I was off work, I tried to see as few people as possible. I now live in the city and my office is right in downtown...no issues.
I don’t think you’re broken or have anything wrong with you, I think anyone that is put in sucky situations day after day would feel that way. And once you stop being put in those situations, it’ll start to fade....that’s my experience at least.
Happy to talk more if you’d like.
Hey brother.
On turning it off, it doesnt really "turn off" so much as you come to certain realizations.
- Dont hang out explicitly with cops. "Normal People" let you see different aspects of the world, different angles, and they remind you that youre "just like everyone else". I would suggest a hobby that is social. I grew up doing martial arts (Judo, BJJ, Escrima, Boxing, Kickboxing), and I keep tried and true to it and it puts the focus on the task at hand, blows off steam and its not just a gym but a tight knit community. It works for me and a few of my guys. Plus if you roll/practice/spar/grapple before a shift you're always mellow, cool and calm.
- "Whats a cool story?!" They want an action story where you and your guys are the heroes. Have 2 or 3 just on standby. A pursuit or just a really awesome act of humanity, bravery, or kindness shown by another human being.
- "Whats the worst thing you've ever seen?" look dude. Most people dont think to go deep and dark. They're expecting car crashes and shootings, action movie kind of crap. I just tell them that the worst thing I ever saw was when I saw "Meet the Spartans" when I was stone cold sober. It was pretty awful. Still have nightmares about it to this day.
I do more crisis response stuff rather than door kicking and hookin and bookin. Check this out brother. The old way of dealing with pain was that you are this canvas, and the blot is the pain or trauma. Spray that canvas with the waters of time and eventually that pain washes away. I actually am a fan of a more modern method of thinking. Think of yourself as real estate. The pain and trauma occupy an area, a significant area. But as time goes, you grow. The pain may stay the same but the emotional real estate that is you is growing and growing where the PERCENTAGE of space occupied by the pain becomes less and less.
Also read Marcus Aurilius. Stoicism really is a mindset we should be adopting. No its not about cold hearted calculations, but it really is about love and growth. We LOVE life, and those around us that we have decided to take up the responsibility to take ownership of ourselves- our lives, feelings, emotions, thoughts, mindsets, and we move with a purpose.
You recognize the issue. You recognize that it is an issue and it is a detriment to your life and well being. That means you are aware of it, and in time you will be on it.
Another one I like is this. Your mindset, your "go to" place in your head is like a path. You want your mind to think a certain way, so you actively have to put your head in that space. Think of a destination. You want to get to that destination, but you have the jungle in your way. You have to cut your way through the jungle, in time the pathway to the destination is cleared. The more you consciously put your head in that desired space, the more a path forms. Eventually that foot path becomes a walk way, a sidewalk, a road way, and eventually a freeway- you default to the desired mindset. It just takes a lot of work and a little bit of time. Good luck to you
Please make a video of careers cops with no degree can get into on the civilian side.
Interesting
I try to be.
This video is amazing!! How can I contact you? I've been I police officer for 6 years & just became a dad. The thought of leaving is scary
Don’t be scared, lol. If law enforcement isn’t your calling, life is significantly easier and better on the other side. My email is ryan@seekwisdom.us
Looking forward to chatting
Almost 16 years in and things have gotten ridiculous. Burnt out and doing the work of 3 cops. Understaffed and underpaid. Not worth it anymore.
This could totally be applied to anything that one isn't satisfied with in their life.
I completely agree!
Hey Ryan thank you for the awesome content. After five years of LE I’ve been making plans to get out and your videos are a huge value. I have some questions for you. Can I get your email to pick your brain?
Absolutely! Looking forward to speaking with you
Hi I'm not a cop , I work as an accountant in a company but i feel the same way, i wan to put my efforts to be able to provide and live a successful life so i can relate.
Thanks Jorge, I completely agree with you!
I’m on my 7th year in law enforcement and I’m ready to get out. I been doing a lot of thinking and praying. I’m ready for a new career. If anyone knows of any opportunities please let me know. Thank you for the video and I can definitely relate.
Following. I'm 8 years on. I can't take it anymore. It's literally eating me alive, destroyed my 4.5 year relationship. I just don't have anything to fall back on. Basically entry-level jobs making shit money. About a 3x pay cut id take going back to the civilian side, which is why I haven't left yet. I'm making 100k/yr as a basic street cop. Hard to give that up for a $17/hr part-time job.
Trucking , and railroad . Can make 100k plus in either or just do you're homework before you just sign anywhere
Everyone is an expert in law enforcement, except the men and women who actually do the job.. I would never encourage the youth of today to become a member of the US military or law enforcement.. What a shame.
Been in the local S.O. for about 6 years now and keep looking to walk away. The local county commissioners and the sheriff can't keep up with the current pay and times. We just got a large Amazon Warehouse in Appling Ga. Most Deputies are only making $20 an hour, and Amazon is paying people starting at $15 and up. Why risk your life for $5 more an hour? It's time to hang up the boots, just having a hard time finding the right thing for me. Tired of security/law enforcement/military work. Love technology and building computers but difficult to find a start without capital. Built computers since I was 9 years old.
Hope you find your way out. It sounds like it’s about time.
I could retire today. I just don't have a plan. 54 years old, 23 years into my current agency. I need a life coach.
I have 101 days left. 20 years keep health insurance and a pension. Insurance becomes secondary payor when Medicare kicks in. They will not get one more day of my time. I have things to do. I have been planning and saving for a long time.
I'm just in it for the pension and thank God it's only 12hr shift 14 days a month.
I am ready to get out after 20 years, however NC has a 30 years retirement. I have PTSD and I am trying to figure out what I can do. I struggle being around crowds or groups of people when I am not on duty. I am trying to figure out how to fix my issues and will be seeking counseling. This is something I have never had to do my entire life. I already told my Chief if treatment does not help I will be getting out of it within 6 months. Any suggestions for someone like me? I do like wood working. I will watch more videos but any suggestions will help. I only know I have many crime scenes that visit my thoughts often and dealing with that is a big issue at this time. Any NC Officers that know about how our system works please reach out.
I was a cop in a major city with an extremely high crime rate. Went to multiple shootings a day. Chased bad guys kicked butt you know the deal. The agency policies changed to where our hands were tied. I was very proactive and good at getting the right people locked up. The hiring standards lowered command staff began calling themselves managers and the list goes on. I left after 10 years back in 2014. Financially I've well exceeded what I made as a cop and honestly I was with one of the higher paying agencies in the country. But with all that being said I have many flashbacks both good and bad. I keep it out my mind for a while then it all comes back. I do miss it alot. Some days I want to go back other days I say keep doing what iam doing. However iam board out of my mind. Now things are expensive and iam raising a family so there is some obligation to stay for the moment. My attitude when I left wasn't the best and now I see that. Perhaps a change of scenery is good for you a different area to work or different unit. Try and find something outside of work to keep you're mind busy. But the thoughts and flashbacks I don't think go away you just have to deal with them and try to look forward not backwards.
@williamwatt6334 I retired as of last April with 21 years of service. I'll never look back and I have ZERO regrets. Lol
@@justacommenter4361 I thought that when I left but like I said I go back and forth on it. One day super glad to be done the other I want that rush again. Make too much money now so it makes it harder to go back even with another agency
I don't associate with cops off duty. I don't shoot guns. I don't do anything related to cop work when I'm off. I even got rid of all my social media with cops added. I disassociated myself completely from LE. I hang out with civilians now. Do civilian acts of 'fun'. Let's just say that. This career is eating me up and I'm on the fence of saying dueces. I would not recommend any become a cop. 8 years on saying this.
What’s your email sir ? Not to RUclips savvy if you’ve posted it, thank you.
No worries! Ryan@seekwisdom.us
I can't leave because of the pay.
I’ve never heard that before, lol…
@@RyanIngram I make more here than I would in the private sector (no college, no other experience, and only 10 years left)
This is so sad, we need you all to keep going, but I understand why police officers are quitting! I wish society would stop attacking police officers, it's a disgrace, especially this shitty state of Colorado, they should be ashamed!
Thank you so much for making these videos and giving of your time for so many of us who need guidance to change our lives. I am not very tech savvy and I don’t know where to find your email address, please share here.
I dug through other comments and found your email, please read my email.