My mother spent her entire life rescuing her sisters and her parents, and in return they would abuse her horribly. She never told the to kick rocks and her husband and children suffered for it. Nobody hurts you like family.
Story 1: Honestly, if she's saying this is consistent behavior, I'd leave. Especially with how he seems, to not really care about his wife at all. Or the family's finances. I agree with Kandi. Is that how you spell her name?
Story 3: OP’s wife totally set him up. She knew that it would look bad to her friends and thought the social pressure would force him to just say yes. I have combined finances with my husband and neither one of us would ever just say “Yes” to an offer from friends to go on a trip. Our standard answer is “let me check finances and talk to spouse about the dates etc then I’ll get back to you”. Most of my married/long time committed friends all do the same. It’s just common courtesy.
This is the best way, love. Asking my partner is not a form of his control. It's because we have shared goals as a family, and sometimes he sees the bigger picture even if I can't or vice versa.
So for the husband who loves Doritos more than his wife I want her to divorce him. BUT I have advice for anyone other than him who also struggles with money planning. Take cash out for your weekly allowance. Cash is psychologically harder to spend because we can see the effects in our hands. The card should be reserved for emergency use and planned household expenses. Cash is your “fun money” anyway I hope this helps someone who needs it
You know I have heard about men not eating until every member of his family had a enough to eat, including seconds and he would eat the leftovers and then there’s this guy brozo with the no share food
30:18 pointing out that maybe the 5y/o kid is autistic.. excuse me, but even with autism you can still teach your kids good manners.. excusing bad behavior with having autism gives them just all the more reason to behave badly..
4:49 there is way more going on here than just this. He doesn’t want to solve this or even care. OP will have to at some point decide if she wants to continue trying to getting him to see what’s wrong or give up.
Story 3 - I would have her work with national debt relief (or something similar) to work through her debt. You don't learn to stay out of debt by having it wiped clean. Her credit would suffer but there wouldn't be these sticky terms between them.
Story 3: wow. That wife is an AH. He paid her debt off by selling his assets! She lost nothing, he did! I’d have a very hard time getting past that viper pit attack.
The birthday story with the 15 year old, wow life sucks for him. That 5 year old is old enough to know what he did was wrong. He is also old enough to understand, now not only are you going to apologize, you won’t be at the next birthday party. Destroy his birthday cake and he get to see no one gives a shit, he would never pull something like that again. Cannot stand people like this, because we have to end up dealing with a 5 year old that grows up to be a 5 year old with adult powers. Scary and annoying for the rest of the world that has to encounter that awful child.
He obviously has no idea of money and financial management . My hubby the same.. 61 and never learnt. Cos he doesn’t want to. Tbh at the hard part. He Doesn’t Want to!
Story 3 brings to mind two thing's Dusty has talked about before: People who try to look like they're rising by pushing others down, and people who want a handout not a hand up. OP's wife seems like both. Story 4: Blame both, honestly. His parents said they'd take responsibility, yes, but, unless we're missing something, his brother is raising this child. What is he doing to make sure that this kid isn't like this for life? OP is the only one who didn't drop the ball in this story.
Wife in debt: she should not have even asked him. She knows she’s in debt. She knows she cannot afford it. She’s playing games being manipulative. Divorce. 😂
First story: if you don't have the money to eat out, then don't eat out. But you do not stipulate what your husband can have( shrimp dinner, soda). You chose not to eat so get over it. As far as the freaking Doritos, that's the most stupid thing I've ever heard. Instead of eating a meal in the restaurant, you chose to be childish by not eating at all, then, pitching a fit because he asked you not to eat all the chips. You chose junk over a meal.
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My mother spent her entire life rescuing her sisters and her parents, and in return they would abuse her horribly. She never told the to kick rocks and her husband and children suffered for it. Nobody hurts you like family.
Story 1: Honestly, if she's saying this is consistent behavior, I'd leave. Especially with how he seems, to not really care about his wife at all. Or the family's finances.
I agree with Kandi. Is that how you spell her name?
Story 3: OP’s wife totally set him up. She knew that it would look bad to her friends and thought the social pressure would force him to just say yes.
I have combined finances with my husband and neither one of us would ever just say “Yes” to an offer from friends to go on a trip. Our standard answer is “let me check finances and talk to spouse about the dates etc then I’ll get back to you”. Most of my married/long time committed friends all do the same. It’s just common courtesy.
This is the best way, love. Asking my partner is not a form of his control. It's because we have shared goals as a family, and sometimes he sees the bigger picture even if I can't or vice versa.
Story 2... are you kidding me? While she had a new baby after a c section?????? NTA. Sis needs a reality check.
So for the husband who loves Doritos more than his wife I want her to divorce him. BUT I have advice for anyone other than him who also struggles with money planning. Take cash out for your weekly allowance. Cash is psychologically harder to spend because we can see the effects in our hands. The card should be reserved for emergency use and planned household expenses. Cash is your “fun money” anyway I hope this helps someone who needs it
You know a person is THE asshole when Candy Thunder gets angry.
You know I have heard about men not eating until every member of his family had a enough to eat, including seconds and he would eat the leftovers and then there’s this guy brozo with the no share food
30:18 pointing out that maybe the 5y/o kid is autistic.. excuse me, but even with autism you can still teach your kids good manners.. excusing bad behavior with having autism gives them just all the more reason to behave badly..
4:49 there is way more going on here than just this. He doesn’t want to solve this or even care. OP will have to at some point decide if she wants to continue trying to getting him to see what’s wrong or give up.
Story 3 - I would have her work with national debt relief (or something similar) to work through her debt. You don't learn to stay out of debt by having it wiped clean. Her credit would suffer but there wouldn't be these sticky terms between them.
Story 3: wow. That wife is an AH. He paid her debt off by selling his assets! She lost nothing, he did! I’d have a very hard time getting past that viper pit attack.
The wife asked him infront of her friends on purpose to make him look bad and force him to say yes . This is her fault 100% .
The birthday story with the 15 year old, wow life sucks for him. That 5 year old is old enough to know what he did was wrong. He is also old enough to understand, now not only are you going to apologize, you won’t be at the next birthday party. Destroy his birthday cake and he get to see no one gives a shit, he would never pull something like that again. Cannot stand people like this, because we have to end up dealing with a 5 year old that grows up to be a 5 year old with adult powers. Scary and annoying for the rest of the world that has to encounter that awful child.
I wonder if the wife was texting John while driving.
He obviously has no idea of money and financial management . My hubby the same.. 61 and never learnt. Cos he doesn’t want to. Tbh at the hard part. He Doesn’t Want to!
Story 3 brings to mind two thing's Dusty has talked about before: People who try to look like they're rising by pushing others down, and people who want a handout not a hand up. OP's wife seems like both.
Story 4: Blame both, honestly. His parents said they'd take responsibility, yes, but, unless we're missing something, his brother is raising this child. What is he doing to make sure that this kid isn't like this for life? OP is the only one who didn't drop the ball in this story.
She needs to be I. Co trip of the money. Hard, because he gets his own money. She needs to get an allowance from Jo. And separate accounts
Wife in debt: she should not have even asked him. She knows she’s in debt. She knows she cannot afford it. She’s playing games being manipulative. Divorce. 😂
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First story: if you don't have the money to eat out, then don't eat out. But you do not stipulate what your husband can have( shrimp dinner, soda). You chose not to eat so get over it. As far as the freaking Doritos, that's the most stupid thing I've ever heard. Instead of eating a meal in the restaurant, you chose to be childish by not eating at all, then, pitching a fit because he asked you not to eat all the chips. You chose junk over a meal.
Are you the husband??!! 👀 😂😂😂😂😂😂