girl, stand up. how to actually love yourself

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  • Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
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  • @jaylexxx
    @jaylexxx Год назад +390

    “when you instill those routines and self practices in yourself it gets a lot easier to expect less from the other person because you’re still fulfilling that part of yourself that you want to be fulfilling” A SPOKEN WORDDD

    • @BubbleBazooka3
      @BubbleBazooka3 Год назад +1

      Imagine a girl on her period going to the rage room 😂😂😂💀

  • @NeirinN
    @NeirinN Год назад +1027

    I feel like I'll actually listen if it's vereena talking

  • @luvusm111
    @luvusm111 Год назад +370

    Shes like a big sister i never had and such a inspirational person love her

  • @CjAlly
    @CjAlly Год назад +102

    22:41 This reminds me of what I learned in Psychology. We learned about the healthy human development routine and in that routine figuring out your identity comes before being in a relationship because if you get into a relationship before figuring out who you are, then that person - whether it's intentionally or not - that person is going to shape you into how they want you to be. Then, you'll be left thinking "who am I?" because you don't feel like yourself in that relationship.

  • @oliviahasdimples
    @oliviahasdimples Год назад +109

    Recently, I have been feeling the most confident I have ever been. I stopped thinking about everyone else's opinions, and it's weird because I also Recently have had friends come up to me and tell me like "my friend says your weird" and I literally got told I dont take anything seriously. But honestly if your lame enough to talk about someone as slay as me, maybe your the problem💅💅💅no but fr to anyone reading this, stop overthinking everything. It's not gonna get you anywhere. Those people are responsible for what they said or did, you decide how your gonna respond, and the best response is just to not care.

  • @juliettealora2265
    @juliettealora2265 Год назад +14

    listening to my childhood youtuber all grown up talking about the same struggles im dealing with has me crying. so proud of all of us

  • @ellensofiaa
    @ellensofiaa Год назад +146

    I really can’t wait for your podcast!! One of the first videos I watched on your channel, you were painting and talking about life and giving advises while also attempting to figure it out yourself. I’m so proud to be in this journey of self improvement/self love and watching one of my favorite RUclips go through it too makes me so happy. 💖✨
    NOT MANGO 🐈 biting your arm upppp, I’m watching the video while typing this hahaaa

  • @emsfofems
    @emsfofems Год назад +8

    Cater to your inner child has been something I’m practising a lot lately, planning a Disney movie marathon when I get home, blasting Disney music in my ears whilst working, starting to think about selling art as a side hustle like the dream job I had a a a kid

  • @ComfySunday
    @ComfySunday Год назад +3

    5 mins into this vidoe and im already taking notes, love this style of video so much vereena

  • @nedelline
    @nedelline Год назад +41

    Vereena got me through so much. I grow as a person every time I watch her videos. There’s always something new I learn from her. Ve, if you are seeing this; I luv u sm ♡ ♡ ♡!

  • @rach5300
    @rach5300 Год назад +14

    only 8 minutes in and i don’t usually comment but wow! you’re so emotionally mature, i’m the same age as you and i’ve already learnt so much. thank you

  • @abbyrodriguez1038
    @abbyrodriguez1038 Год назад +11

    I got off work and am eating Chinese food while watching this. It’s so chill, I feel like I’m on FaceTime with a friend. Preach bestie!

  • @alexherrera4408
    @alexherrera4408 Год назад +29

    i would love to see you make a podcast just for motivational talks like this you’re so well spoken

  • @alisonspence4284
    @alisonspence4284 Год назад +5

    Dude and I relate so heavily rn to the room part because we just ransacked my depression room for a surprise cat I’m taking care of and as mentally tasking as it was while cleaning it and as scrambled as I felt the first week, I feel like I can really breathe and think better. It amazing how much more I want to take care of myself now that I can take care of my room as well.

  • @venustots
    @venustots Год назад +37

    this genuinely felt like we were on ft, just having a conversation. i need to hear a lot of what was touched on, thank you vereena! you are deeply loved and appreciate

  • @pinkcat1847
    @pinkcat1847 Год назад +5

    Vereena is a rare breed, I never feel like she views herself above her subscribers ♥️

  • @six-ys5pk
    @six-ys5pk Год назад +17

    This acc hit home about learning to live by ourselves (like being single ect) bc my relationships always last about 1 year which as a teen is so long and when we break up it hurts so much especially when u have attachment issued bc ur used to seeinb them talking to them etc everyday and now it's just no one. It was weird. I learnt to get a hobby and focus on my own with no friends and I was happy. I then realised I should start dating again after 7 months of getting broken up with and now I'm with a guy for 14 months now and I need to learn back on how to be happy on my own because I realise relationships don't always last and I can't go into the same state I was before. Relationships are hard but make you so happy😂

  • @esmeraldaflores3675
    @esmeraldaflores3675 Год назад +10

    I love these topics on this video. I needed this. I’ve been asked out on a date with someone who is genuinely interested recently but my insecurities and anxiety about myself are stopping me from going or even just to hang out. This is where another self love act comes into play because I know it can’t go anywhere because I can’t give the love or affection that he may desire in the future. Or anyone for that matter. It’s been racking my brain because I realized I need to offer that love for myself first. As corny as it may sound but that’s what I’m starting to believe. I just want to be mentally and emotionally available for people that come into my life but most importantly for myself.

  • @lillywantsheranchovypizza107
    @lillywantsheranchovypizza107 Год назад +2

    SHE PREACHING. I kind of hate when people buy shit for me cause 9/10 they throw it back in your face, but I genuinely buy people stuff and wont hold it over their heads

  • @sophieisfr9078
    @sophieisfr9078 Год назад +7

    this girl literally always makes my day better yall have no idea

  • @bre9538
    @bre9538 Год назад +112

    you never fail to bring me such a motivation for life even when shit gets so hard, i always leave your vids feeling like i deserve good things too and that feeling is hard to come by for me. thank you!!

  • @chrys8991
    @chrys8991 Год назад +5

    I recently realized that for some time I've been treating my friends as my "partners", in terms of expectations. I think that I was doing that because I really long for a relationship and someone who deeply cares about me, as a romantic partner would do. I realized that the expectations that I had for my friends were unfair to them and I had to "learn" that we're all adults who have so many things to keep up with. So I decided that if I ever need attention and love I would provide for that myself, without putting any pressure on my friends, who are just trying to do their best with what they have.
    We shouldn't have too much high expectations for people, I agree, and I think that she should only to that with ourselves. Our wellbeing should always come first and if others won't love us as we expect them to, we can leave, or love ourselves and care for ourselves the way we want and deserve to (which is probably very legitimate!).

  • @ellamayo3851
    @ellamayo3851 Год назад +2

    i needed to hear this so bad rn. like i just finished bawling my eyes out over some dude and i opened my laptop n saw this in my watch later and im so glad i watched it. ive been in a really bad place because i realized i had to cut someone out of my life and i dont really have a support group so hearing all the things you and ur nail tech said helped so much. i never comment on stuff but i genuinely had to say thank you because ur videos always make me feel so much better.

  • @malayka9032
    @malayka9032 Год назад +5

    12:07 doing things for yourself that little you would have wanted. this made me feel warm inside. little me was obsessed with fashion, iused to draw little dress designs everyday and keep them in this huge binder that was overflowing and everyone was always like Malayka's gonna be a fashion designer and shes gonna have her own boutique. fast forward to now growing up i forgot all about that and its not like a main thing i wanna pursue now however i still love fashion, my fits and makeup is how i express myself and i do A level photography now. i can actually sew and my mum has a sewing machine. i really wanna incorporate fashion in my photography work, maybe make some designs and photograph models wearing my designs cause i just know little me would absolutely adore that and would be so happy. :)

  • @Tinkerbella2
    @Tinkerbella2 Год назад +6

    I needed this. I struggle with mental health, depression and anxiety. Just a year ago and this year, I started to let toxic ppl who weren’t worth my mental health and now I’m a loner. But hot girls love their selfs and watch Vereena 💗💗she keeps me strong I always thought I needed someone by my side to push me for the better but once you let go of whatever is holding you back, you realize ppl do come and go but you always should come first. Fuck ppl who don’t support you and infect your daily life. Love yourself before you decide to love anyone else. Like our queen said 💗

  • @K1ttyLoverxMSP
    @K1ttyLoverxMSP Год назад +16

    I came to this video because I was intrigued by the title and missed seeing Vereena talk and do her makeup, and I felt like I and my friends can relate to things that were spoken about, like we’re not alone struggling with these things. thank you V for this it was something I never knew I needed and I hope u do more content like this in the future 🤍

  • @jenna3601
    @jenna3601 Год назад +2

    Been going through a breakup from a toxic relationship that I haven’t really been dealing with for the past 2 months and didn’t realize how much I needed to hear a lot of these things until now. Love your nail techs input! ❤

  • @andihope5075
    @andihope5075 Год назад +7

    finally got out of a 3 year toxic relationship and i have been feeling much better and learning to fully love myself so thankyou for the video its like i actually have a friend lol.

    • @raes6546
      @raes6546 Год назад

      wow, im in the same boat as you with 3 1/2 year toxic relationship. congrats on getting out of there and doing better ❤️

  • @ruesalomone4383
    @ruesalomone4383 Год назад +5

    this video brought up so many emotions. i admire your mindset so much and i’m so happy you won’t accept less than you deserve. i related to alot of the things you said because i’m heartbroken atm. i’m so glad you speak on topics like this

  • @iman..
    @iman.. Год назад +24

    it’s so hard not feeling kinda worthless when you’ve been single for literally all your life (i’m 24) but i am working on self love

    • @gabrielar4966
      @gabrielar4966 Год назад +2

      Ive been single my whole life too! Just letting you know cause it feels like a lonely struggle a lot of the time.. Hope you have a good day and good luck on your self love journey

    • @Amrfx3
      @Amrfx3 Год назад +1

      Same, I’m 26😭 I feel you girl

  • @lillywantsheranchovypizza107
    @lillywantsheranchovypizza107 Год назад +1

    Honestly not all the way through the video thank you for this video. This lesson is so important. Not only for yourself to know, but being able to have self love and not be codependent is important for your relationships too. I think I have to cut off a friend because she’s way too dependent on me. This realization only came about because my priorities have changed at this time, not at all that I don’t care or ever stopped caring about her and they took it that way. I’ve been on both sides of the coin, dealing with some codependency. It takes time to learn to be able to stand alone and genuinely liking it. So anyone wanting to start this journey please start now, you’ll be happy with your growth down the line. I started this journey back in 2019 when I was 19 and now I’ll be 23 soon. Healing isn’t always linear but healing is healing and there’s better days than others.

  • @Марципановыйстранник

    Thank you for giving us so much love like i can fisically see how youtube is important to you and how much you give us
    This feels like a real bond

  • @destinyh6146
    @destinyh6146 Год назад +13

    I love that I’ve literally grown up with you and to see you grow so much helps keep me grounded and inspired to gtfu ilysm thank you for existing 🤍✨🥺

  • @hobintvgaming9777
    @hobintvgaming9777 Год назад +8

    I’ve been watching ur videos through the best parts of my life along with the hardest. Your like a friend that’s always by my side no matter what, love you❤

  • @spirituallifeteacher
    @spirituallifeteacher Год назад +40

    Girl, I just want you to know that I literally haven't gotten out of bed in days and just didnt have any motivation too but I genuinely wanted too and watching this video has really inspired me so now im gonna be disciplined and get shit done and just do everything that I need to do for the day! thank you for being an inspiration seriously!!

  • @f.4iry
    @f.4iry Год назад +1

    9:45 this. Real life example is that my mom asks me what I want for Christmas, we go get it, I wrap it for myself (I love gift wrapping), and I'm not longing for it anymore because I know I'll get it. It's the same thing with feelings and your future. If you know you'r going to get something because you're working to get it then it isn't something you dwell on with that little pang in your heart. Even if you're still in high school or middle school and you have that dream job you're just imaging and wanting so bad, if you put in that effort then it's basically already yours. It's such a beautiful thing that you're more than capable of

  • @mj2062
    @mj2062 Год назад +6

    I needed this so baddd and you completely changed the way I think about my relationships with other people and myself thank you💗💗

  • @pinkstrwberry8
    @pinkstrwberry8 Год назад +3

    on the forgive and forget part,,, FR. I've never related more. im like I forgive you (kind of, sort-of ish) but my ass is NOT forgetting. and what I learned in my past relationship is that if I cannot look at you the same after its best we go separate ways. I thought I was over something that happened in FEB. and it was still bothering me up until this month. It made me resent him and hold a grudge.

  • @marciediazz
    @marciediazz Год назад +2

    stop bc I literally NEEDED this rn

  • @4bbyafterhours4
    @4bbyafterhours4 Год назад +2

    i needed this tysm i really let my situationship ruin my self image

  • @toni-2
    @toni-2 Год назад +1

    im like 1 year older than you but i view you as such a role model. i still have such a long way to go with loving myself but watching your videos has really been helping me

  • @emmalinebrown
    @emmalinebrown Год назад +1

    This is the exact video that I needed rn and I’m so thankful to have found this. It really helped me so much while going through a hard time

  • @zocha8573
    @zocha8573 Год назад +1

    The cat is The Real main character lmaoooo

  • @Sage16_27
    @Sage16_27 Год назад +1

    I’ve been watching Vereena for years, but I’ve got to say this video has got to be my favorite.

  • @vicc044
    @vicc044 Год назад +7

    I love these types of videos from you!

  • @anastasiasmolinski
    @anastasiasmolinski Год назад

    What really helps self love is manifest and crystals really helps !

  • @averybrusa2337
    @averybrusa2337 Год назад +2

    this is my advice: youll stop seeking out relationships when youre ready. its a really hard step to take because youre confronting your loneliness. probably the most painful transition in your life. its transformative and its difficult, but it will happen when youre ready. the fact that you already want to stop seeking out lovers is progress in its self. give yourself some credit and praise the baby steps. yall are strong ❤

  • @cloudyhugs9871
    @cloudyhugs9871 Год назад

    LOLLL, when her cat bit her and she as like "no, were beefing right now, we arent friends" 14:29

  • @kamyrahbrown5994
    @kamyrahbrown5994 11 месяцев назад +1

    U getting attacked by mango was the funniest thing ever 😂

  • @nia5128
    @nia5128 Год назад

    It’s called a love bite but also if he’s vocal constantly he’s trying to tell you something 🐈

  • @_hanifatanveer___tanveer5949
    @_hanifatanveer___tanveer5949 Год назад

    you have really given me a big reality check and im so thankful for watching this video i havent watched u in a long time and needed a distraction of some sort but yiu really just made me reaise how much alike people are, made me realise and appreciate things and life i feel like il watch this video when i need to be reminded of things. thankyou you are amazing i adore you

  • @earthtolaika.
    @earthtolaika. Год назад +3

    just yesterday I was feeling insecure and I bump into your video .. thank you sm and ily ❣❣

  • @mswickberry784
    @mswickberry784 Год назад

    wished i could hug u girl :,))) tysm for this vid

  • @annielisabeth8084
    @annielisabeth8084 Год назад +3

    I love you and your videos so much. I love the energy you radiate and aspire to be a person like you💕💕💕💕

  • @rachelcaroline2335
    @rachelcaroline2335 Год назад +1

    mango wants to play by biting and crying like that! teach him not to bite you because if he breaks the skin it can get very dangerous - like RUN to ER! (been there) BUT regardless i LOVE this vid!! Just left my abusive ex in Nov/dec (slow exit) and am trying to do self love :)

  • @SummerBaby4208
    @SummerBaby4208 Год назад +1

    I really loved this video😢!! And mango is so funny in the back😂

  • @tink6225
    @tink6225 Год назад +2

    I thought I was tripping everytime the camera angle changed 💀

  • @esmeorendain
    @esmeorendain Год назад +1

    so glad you kept in when Mango randomly attacked you, my cat can’t make up his mind on whether or not he wants attention or to attack me LMAOO

  • @ameliehale180
    @ameliehale180 Год назад

    I literally love how you talk. Like how structured you think. You should soooo do a podcast

  • @SamSam-jo3bw
    @SamSam-jo3bw Год назад +1

    Mango meows like an actual kid 💀

  • @brisvidz9201
    @brisvidz9201 Год назад +3

    wish i had more friends like you

  • @essyyya
    @essyyya Год назад

    Mango’s cutoff meows are sending me 😭😭😭🤣

  • @jlynn4746
    @jlynn4746 Год назад

    I LOVED this vid V!!! You should do a video on spirituality and how you started your journey and all that! I could listen to you talk for hours ❤️

  • @mora-lee1612
    @mora-lee1612 Год назад

    these are my favorite kind of videos from you pleaseee I love makeup and chatting vereena

  • @alexisferdinand1261
    @alexisferdinand1261 Год назад

    Girl you look like Christina Vidal (Maddie) from Freaky Friday!!! Like her doppelgänger ! You should dress up as her character for Halloween omg 🥺💕

  • @Acebooya
    @Acebooya Год назад +2

    So before I watched this video I went out right I got home and you were on my recomendation well my phone read my mind cause I’m completely lost in my life I love hearing you talk I’m only 9 something minutes in the video and thanks for opening up what really is self love I just wish growing up I was a child then rushing to become a teenage girl

  • @Taylor.reneerowe
    @Taylor.reneerowe Год назад +4

    Baby I’ve missed you 😭😭❤️

  • @msmiabobia
    @msmiabobia Год назад +1

    LMAOOO UR CAT FUCKING U UP IS SO FUNNY TO ME IM SO SORRT

  • @dabebasings
    @dabebasings Год назад

    thx so much for making this positive and inspirational content I have been a fan of urs for sooo long and its cool that you always have and continue to be someone always looking to better themselves and therefore the people around them thank you

    • @dabebasings
      @dabebasings Год назад

      V they tryna scam me😭😂

  • @heloisdreaming
    @heloisdreaming Год назад

    maybe you already read it but you should read the four agreements! one of the agreement is : don't make assumptions, and this book really helped me!

  • @laylahussein5327
    @laylahussein5327 Год назад +1

    Why the fuck she jus told me everything I needed to hear in one sitting 😂😭

  • @jocelynkim4027
    @jocelynkim4027 Год назад

    i never needed this more than right now in my life!

  • @Kellie_FROST
    @Kellie_FROST Год назад

    Your cat is sooo cute and sooo happy to have you around lol he was loving all up on you !!!

  • @Zuqiro
    @Zuqiro Год назад

    "It's ok to cry about it for a few days it's ok to sorrow and rot in your bed for a couple days but like get the fuck up after that, life keeps moving"

  • @gioscurse5520
    @gioscurse5520 Год назад +2

    from the title alone, i know this is meant for me 💀 been downbad for a lil minute

  • @MRSDRIFTERR
    @MRSDRIFTERR Год назад +2

    ilysm vereena. thank u for this, i needed it.

  • @Queen-nf2ii
    @Queen-nf2ii Год назад +1

    not ur cat having the biggest mood change

  • @neorealmanny626
    @neorealmanny626 Год назад

    This type of content is so important

  • @kassandrakayrodriguezsalazar
    @kassandrakayrodriguezsalazar Год назад

    Its crazy When I want someone to luv me show me luv I always take it out on ppl and my mom most of the times

  • @michellelee9805
    @michellelee9805 Год назад +1

    Mango might be bored and wants to play if he acts randomly aggressive!

  • @FideliaTuray-ff5lx
    @FideliaTuray-ff5lx Год назад

    Vereena is a person posting their life on RUclips not a person living to post on RUclips and I love her for it

  • @whatwasthat6666
    @whatwasthat6666 Год назад

    VEREENA POSTED ON MY BIRTHDAY???? PERIODT

  • @pizza1544
    @pizza1544 Год назад

    this was honestly so helpful. shoutout deja she was awesome

  • @sheilagonzalez5398
    @sheilagonzalez5398 Год назад

    mango trying to be the star of the show is sending me

  • @flow3rsindecember
    @flow3rsindecember Год назад

    thank you vereena and deja 🤍

  • @carolinycarol4393
    @carolinycarol4393 Год назад

    You're my inspiration Vereena, thank you for doing these videos you help me a lot ❤️❤️ love u

  • @gxueli
    @gxueli Год назад

    the cat biting u omg 😭😭😭

  • @Urmumluvsme
    @Urmumluvsme Год назад

    I couldn’t finish watching the video bc of Mango 😭💜, my cat was in the room and kept hearing him so I got worried and had to stop 💔💔💔

  • @aviannamachado
    @aviannamachado Год назад

    😭😭😭 your cat has me so weak ,

  • @sarahbouchmal6429
    @sarahbouchmal6429 Год назад

    You radiate the same energy as Bruna Marquinez

  • @jaya2500
    @jaya2500 Год назад

    mango wants to play, he’s an only kitty so he needs more one on one play time it’s super important!!!

  • @adorableackles2044
    @adorableackles2044 Год назад +1

    you posted this at the perfect time 😅

  • @Sketchriv
    @Sketchriv Год назад

    Happy New Years everyone, God bless

  • @mybaelam
    @mybaelam Год назад

    I LOVE YOU SO MUCH VEREENA THANK YOU SO MUCH

  • @irisln893
    @irisln893 Год назад +1

    Love the cat💗

  • @Ranasabia420
    @Ranasabia420 Год назад

    For me is that my parents don’t want me to go college and I text nobody other then my one bestie and all I do is stay in my room and that’s it I have nothing else to do with my life and also I can’t get a job because am too weak like I can literally faint over doing some chores(btw this felt like am your bestie and we just having them long hour talks)❤

  • @SavvyPennies
    @SavvyPennies Год назад

    That cat said “Hello”.😻

  • @ambarb9060
    @ambarb9060 Год назад

    I loved listening to your perspective on the 50 50 thing I honestly think it depends sometimes that person is gonna get used to you just lying all the time to the point where they won’t even bother on trying to pay I feel like 50 50 is more than splitting the bill it can be like well let’s go to the movies i buy the pop corn and you buy the tickets IDK

  • @Ranasabia420
    @Ranasabia420 Год назад

    Mango killed me the cat is so funny

  • @danifestit
    @danifestit Год назад

    this vid helped me sm thank u babes!!