Things People Say to Introverts
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- Stuff people say to introverts
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Any other stuff I forgot?
You forgot your manners
“You look like you’re about to cry”
“Oh hey! I didn’t even notice you!”
“why do you look so sad?” even though im perfectly fine and thats just my thinking face
''you talk less, have a headache?..I got Paracetamol...''
People saying "you've changed" once you finally start sharing your opinions is so accurate 😂
Yes 😭 I lose a lot of new friends because they didn’t realize I had a personality
Omg yes!!
That’s so relatable! T^T
Wow, you've changed. You used to be NICE, lmao
@@shannonglaser2506 i can feel it
What's wrong?
Nothing, I'm fine.
It's okay, you can tell me.
No, like seriously I'm okay.
* looks hurt because I won't open up about why I'm sad even though I was literally just thinking about how it's illegal to kill a Canada goose so that's why they cross the street so often *
That is super interesting! I love when I learn cool stuff like that 😆
Haha right?! It's a law in Canada, at least.
@giishaw Nice! I'm from Hawaii, so here's a little bit of info for you... It is also illegal here to kill our native goose called the Nene bird because it is our state bird and there's not many of them left
Where I live, it's illegal to have more than six cats without a permit. . . I don't know why I know that
I literally had a profesor like that in college. It was so annoying.
This just makes me realise extroverts talk to us like children...except they have no idea how to talk to kids 🥲
Can relate 🙂
My sister is more of a child person than me
But i'm not really that bothered about them
Don't get me wrong there cute and all but i'm
Really just not a kid person, but even so they all
Love me and don't want anything to do with my sister.
Members of my family would come over, uncles, aunts, cousins,
And so on. I could be outside minding my own buisness trying to
Think, and out of nowhere about 8 children from ages 5-7 all come
At me like a heard of cattel. And they'd ask me why I amin't inside like
Everyone else, or why I want them to go away and play something like tag
And my sister would just watch me as if I had grown an arm or something.
She'd come up to me and say something like "Wow, you really don't know how to
Talk to children. Just go play with them or something" so I did because there
Was a chance that they wouldn't talk as much crap. We decided to play football,.....
With a basket ball. I will say that this was not my idea but ehhh guess that kids don't
Like to listen. So, when I kicked the ball, it HIT my 5 yo cousin. She ran inside crying and I
Just died on the spot. I said sorry obiously and I did try to calm her down but I guess i'm
Bad at comforting people.
I'm in highschool but everyone treats me like I'm five grades below them
They treat me more into baby that will fall asleep then children
me
tho
*Extroverts, seeing an introvert*
“Hey, he’s minding his own business! GET HIM!!”
“Extrovert“ used Small Talk!
@@kadorin7037 Critical hit!
@@ireneashamoses4209
"Introvert" used 'Sorry, I'm going on vacation for six months!'
Introvert gained full social meter!
Hey, that sounds like Psychostick's "Introvert Party Time"!
@A Slutty 9S Unit.. It is.. 😂👍
Things people do to persecute introverts:
Small talk+Stereotype them+Forcing them to behave more ''social''..
I heard someone once describe it as The Tyranny of the Extroverts...
It's one of my pet peeves, especially from my peers and parents.
Your comment seems to be the plot of many a show or movie. It's never extroverts being called upon to be quiet and thoughtful or realizing there are benefits to the same.
Small talks aren't so bad, the silence that goes after you cant keep up the conversation is
Biggest problem with small talk is that you have 15-30 second to turn in into meaningful conversation or it'll became awkward and interesting.
FUN FACT: introverts may not complain but when they speak their minds, they/we are badass
I speak my mind and everyone rolls over me
Sometimes we don't even need to speak to be badass to someone... 😎
When I do speak my mind
I'm considered rude
@@ebubedikedi1165 yep
I defeated everyone in my mind
How is it that “you’re so quiet” is a totally acceptable remark, but “Jesus you’re loud and obnoxious” is a faux pas?
"You are so quiet" is more used as an observation. "You are so loud" is more used as complaint. And do you really find it strange when you call the person who just called you quiet that he is loud and "obnoxious"?
@@palmagius how is you're so quiet not a complaint man? I've literally had it said to me as a fucking exigence to be social and suffered social punishments for my absolute denial
@@palmagius you found the joke.
@@EthosO76 exception to the rule and not the rule. idk what you experienced but the majority of people who ask why you are quiet do so out of worry. in their eyes, quiet people are always sad because when they themselves get sad, that is the only time when THEY are quiet. so when they observe you are quiet, they show care to see if something is wrong. can get annoying i know but they mean well. its a minority that actually mean it as a complaint
@@BridgetCappel now i only need to find the laughter but alas that is nowhere to be found
“Your lack of enthusiasm for the things I enjoy makes me insecure”
God that’s gold
Too true!
lol
i thought he was flesh and bones, but i guess it makes sense, he is worth a lot to some people
My family, every time I'm forced into something I generally do not enjoy.
I'm sure this is how i make people feel but it's really not on purpose
The assuming we don’t have thoughts or opinions. Nailed it.
Could you told me why don't you talk to extrovert.,it's because you have different interests?
Plz answer
Painfully true
Actually I have way too much thoughts and opinions that i never share to anybody because I never have someone to talk to-
@@user-dh2fn4ou3g if youre asking why introverts dont talk to extroverts its because we dont want to be in a conversation and would rather stay in our little corner doing absolutely nothing. Or just because their loud and try to make us talk when i absolutely hate when people get me to talk depending on who it is-
Edit: idk why but my comment looks messed up on my screen
@@ElliottTheIdiott I can understand everything easily try to have friends like you introverts, do you that extrovert are happier than introvert, human are social we need interaction even you (but in your way) I'm an introvert to when I was child I used to write a paper and show it to my classmates to understand me I didn't talk but everytime I stay alone I feel lonely 😭😭😭 it's depressing 😂😂 I wish I had social intelligence so that I could shift to extrovert for 1 hour and then 23 hours alone that pretty good and satisfying to me rather then being alonly 24/7😭
People assuming that introversion = not having _fun_ is pathetic 😪.
That's my issue. My former co workers assume I'm not fun. It's so annoying.
They can't imagine anyone would LOVE to be alone, if you are by yourself it must be the result of you failed desperately to fit in with others, poor child😇
@@clairechen8615 i mean sometimes it IS social trauma, but yeah, being alone makes it so much fucking easier for me to laugh about stuff. Why can't people just text man
@@EthosO76 I understand that's true for some people, but instantly assume that's the case for everybody was a bit biased, people are different. Some people likes to scoialize, but only with people who understand them. Some people doesn't care about how other people thinks and says about them, because they just likes to talk, it doesn't matter how the others respond. Some people just enjoy solo activities more than chatting with others. As long as they are happy, it's fine. But I guess some people can't tell if some one is happy or not, lol.
@@clairechen8615 yeah, but in their defense they're ignorants. And just like we can easily be happy with ourselves they're happy being ignorant. Them being annoying is just a byproduct that we can't avoid.
"I thought maybe you didn't speak English." 98% guarantee that the introverts that hear that are far more literate than the person saying that.
As a black woman I was furious when someone said this to me. I had no idea until today that it might have been because of my introversion and not race.
@@dreamtheory5658 It's both. I'm also a BW and there's always this strange disappointment that I'm not like the super over the top, loud, outgoing BW they see in the media. 🙄
There’s times I’ve wished I could speak another language so I could pretend I didn’t understand them.
@Cap Paq true, we have our own struggles, but sometimes even us bilinguals, don't want to talk.
Yes. And I find that the people saying that will also make assumptions about what language you DO speak. I am Russian, but have spoken fluent English my entire life, but I find that a lot of people assume that I'm Serbian and once was asked to translate. People are frustrating.
“Why are you so quiet?” Don’t you just get annoyed when asked this presumptuous question?
I tend to roast them back by saying, “Why are you so noisy?” ;)
every single time
I hate this question. It has probably the opposite effect of what that person was aiming for.
Every single f time
Every single time
My personal favorite is when people accuse me of being rude and arrogant. Since when does being quiet equal being arrogant? Isn't it MORE arrogant and rude to constantly interrupt people and talk about yourself all the time? I just don't get extroverts.
Honestly! My mom gets mad when I don't make conversation. My mom's paternal family would always tell her when I was a kid that I was rude, that I didn't talk much, and that's the exact reason that I rarely talk to them these days. May seem petty, but lots of resentment got started when my mom always took their side over me just because I was quiet. It sucks that extroverts are the majority (Although Frank's channel says otherwise lmao)
I used to get that all the time - people thought I was a snob and that I thought I was too good for them because I wouldn't talk. No... I just didn't have anything to say.
Another thing is people expect you to be friends and don't seem to realise some people just don't click. So there's nothing in common and thus nothing to talk about and all that's left is to be polite and graciously move on. But some seem to want to fight it out.
@@G0dspeed101 well here is the place where us introverts feel safe. For example this is tge best channel that suits me as an infj and believe me I did checks dozens of channels that had to do with mbti, introversion/extroversion, but I did not personally like the people that were presenting there. But I feel like I feel totally good with the vibes Frank gives, so I stick to this channel. I like his way of presenting things and I also can relate like on an insane level. That is awesome and amazing. So of course I would stick to this channel. He is also an Infj and an inspiration to me
@@quirogatnonerrat3214 That is very true, I find Frank’s fans/followers to be very chill and I can relate quite a lot to them.
"Are you sad? Angry? Horribly depressed? On the verge of a psychotic breakdown?"
Well yes, but thats not why I'm quiet.
🤣🤣🤣
😂😂
This. So much.... XD
I- I thought this exact line while watching
We are linked closer than this world could ever comprehend. Let us bring suffering to these pitiful mortals and annihilate the past, present, and future
Soo accurate
"What are you thinking about" and "You must not talk much" are the two that I constantly hear.
Yes
Wow, people care? lol nobody talks to me
Hey do introvert and extrovert really exist or it's just another bullshit
@@AnmolMishra946 I don’t understand what you mean but I am an introvert with extroverted tendencies when around close friends. Don’t use “Introvert” and “extrovert” as a labels for yourself. Use it to better understand. Introvert-de stress generally being alone. Extrovert-de stress generally being around other people. By that you can see which one you lean closer to
@@thecreaturescorner539 I like both that's why it's difficult for me to understand this concept of introvert, extrovert. If people lack social skills that doesn't make them introvert they need to improve that skill. So what introverts like being alone reading books, video gaming? Extroverts like partying, clubbing,hanging out with people? Like both are fun. In most cases I guess they cannot socialize with people in partying etc. So they prefer the introvert sided things to do which is again bad as they have to work on it everyday by getting into uncomfortable situations.
“Why are you so quiet?”
“Why are you so shy?”
“We didn’t invite you because you’re too quiet.”
“She is cold, stuck up, conceited”...
All of these have caused me to not even try any more.
Same here!
It’s funny because an introvert would not go up to an extrovert and say ‘why are you so loud?’ As that would be rude! But somehow asking why an introvert is so quiet is fine and not rude..confuses me everytime they say it!
@@kawaiikitty4569 I feel the exact same way! When I told my mom that I was annoyed when someone asked why I was quiet and why I didn’t talk to them, she said “They were just asking”, so... If I ask an extrovert why they talk so much or if they can even hear their own thoughts would I just be asking??
Also these stuffs-
Why's your mood OFF?!
Are you sad or something??
Hey! Can you ever stay away from your bestie?! (They think my bestie is my iPad which is true)
@@kawaiikitty4569 actually extrovert get that to hear a lot. "you are too loud" "you are too much"...
I hate that people just assume there’s something wrong when I’m quiet!!! But also on the flip side I hate that people call so much attention when I do speak!! AGHHHHH
Ditto! Damned if we do. Damned if we don't.
The quickest way to ensure an introvert will never speak again? Make a big deal when we DO speak!
"Wow. I didn't know you could talk."
"Well I didn't know you forgot how humans communicate."
"Hmm. Guess you an asswhole as well."
"Sure stranger."😑😑
@@luckied7542 EXACTLY THIS!!! People call attention to it all the time so Im just like what do I even do?!
@@Kdrive23 this is literally why I have not talked to a single person at a previous work place the entire time because I was called out during a meeting for speaking up and people kept making a big deal. You best believe I never spoke in a meeting ever again
"Are you a serial killer?"
Continue asking questions and you'll be the first of my list
LMAOO
"If you continue this way I will"
Well, I didn't think I was, but keep talking to me like that and I might consider being a mono-killer.
Lol. I like that. No one has not asked me that yet but when I was in high school, a football player accused me of being a sex freak because I was quiet and wrote in my journals all day. I was so offended because I was a virgin at the time and then a few days later, I threw water on his dress shirt in our cooking class.
I am gonna take this and say it to someone who annoys me😂👍🏻
"You're so quiet, are you shy? You should speak more often."
Me: "No, I don't think I will."
I understood that reference
I'll take WHEN I have something I want to say
That just make me shut up more just to be spiteful
John Wick reference
Lol. Exactly
"Why don't you smile?" That one really makes me not want to smile.
Right?! Add to that, "You should smile more," after actually expressing a genuine smile. Or, for the win, "You would look prettier (nicer / more handsome) if you smiled." * head > desk *
Just say, "when you get cuter, I will."
Especially when it comes from a middle-aged man 😑
Why should we smile anyway. Besides, I look fucking demented whenever I smile. Like, I high key look like pennywise
@@jesusssugarbabyuwu78yearsa63 I was saying something similar to my family.
I don't smile often because I look like some kind of psycho when I do.
Although they've kind of adapted to my blank expression at this point.
When you’re quiet and you finally say something and they’re like “okay, okay, calm down, no need to be rude.” When you said that green was your favorite color
It's because introverts can't connect to the group consciousness.
I literally got hated by like 60% of my class cause (introvetism) and like all of them are amibvert/extroverts.
I know right. I have some people in my family who are very confrontational. I would ignore their snide and nasty comments for weeks at a time and then when I finally had enough and say something back, they would say, "Alright that's enough now." One night I said, " You've been provoking this for weeks and this is what you wanted and now take it like a man or woman." Lol
you forgot " DON'T WORRY I'll make you come out of your shell "
As if we're broken and they're here to save us lmao
Oh I hate that, people think I need charity to get a social life
I hate this one the most
I really don't get this one. Why would I wanna come out of shell? I can see everything just fine from here, and there's pizza rolls and bacon in here
What's out there? People?
A damaging thing to do to a clam.
Once a teacher kept saying it to me like it was some kind of mission he had in his mind
It's frustrating that being quiet is viewed as something wrong. You can't hardly get a job unless you trick the interviewer into thinking your "outgoing."
And the one about thoughts and opinions is too real.
Parents: "Why are you so quiet at family gatherings? You're so rude. You should try harder to fit in with your family!"
Me: *the only person at family gathering to have pursued education at a graduate level and travel outside the US extensively, sees the world very differently from everyone else--but ventures to give my honest opinion on the topic anyway*
Family: 😱 How dare you!
Me: *goes back to silence*
I hate that all jobs available out there are looking for people who are outgoing and social and energetic and what not 😩 It's tough for someone like me...
Tell the family "And then you wonder why I don't talk to you! Next time you want my opinion, don't get all mad when I give it!"
Sounds about right
Unfortunately empty babbling about uninteresting bs is considered as necessary in most social events and groups. And if the group consists of closed minded people where you are forced to have the only correct opinion and personality it is like 10th circle of hell. I know this from my last job - even though there was endless talking and "sharing" and a huge pressure to be part of it, there was no actual discussion. It was just endless nodding, brownnosing and parroting of what others said. It was almost painful for me :D So many words and so little content.
And even though I was constantly reminded how I should talk more, share more and why I am so weird and blah blah blah, when I actually started to talk and had different opinion they were suddenly shocked and offended, lol. If it was not tragic it would be funny.
@@denisemayosky1955 Yup. Been there, done that. Kind of satisfying that it shut them all up mighty fast. (Grimly satisfied look. I wrote it 'cause I don't think there's an appropriate emoji for that kind of expression, heh, heh)
As a fellow introvert, I've actually heard all of these and it's almost cringe because of how accurate it is
same bro
I know, the “are you okay” one is my least favorite
“What are you thinking?”
Me thinking: Why must I share my inner thoughts with YOU?
I think I'll start using this whenever someone asks me "WhAt ArE yOu ThInKiNg AbOuT" for the 20th time
I love this one. None of your damn business what I'm thinking. If I wanted you to know, I would tell you.
Am in the only one who unfortunately forgets what he/she was thinking because of the interruption ?
Just throw at him a very complex problem like big bang theory or general relativity or any other shit that they dont understand,they will eventually leave you alone and never bother you again.
Approved by experience
@@alvarez85yearsand81 didn't work with me..they asked, "what's you opinion on it?"
"You're a good listener"
...no, it's either I just don't care or getting lost in my own thought
Not really. I’m listening to my own inner dialogue.
Sorry what did you say? I didn’t hear you
ya, when I graduated a school we had to make nice statements about everyone in our class. most of the statements I got were either saying I'm creative, good listener or both.
Eh, some of us are actually good listeners. But it's true that assuming that just based on someone being quiet can be misguided.
I like that one. I do try to listen but some people harp on about rubbish. So my listening skills are for friends and business.
Them: “Why don’t you talk more?”
Me: “trust me you don’t want me too, I’ll either tell you something you don’t need or want to know then go back to saying nothing or you’ll never get me to shut up. So thanks but no thanks”
What do you mean
Plz clarify
Do you mean you have different interests than most of the people
@@user-dh2fn4ou3g you are a extrovert
@@apersonwhoexists._.5579 I love to be most of the time alone but at the same time I want to talk to my friends but I don't know how 😭😭😭
Breaking news: Serial killers list of victims is all the people who asked them "why are you so quiet?"
We need to inform the extroverts of this.
So they will stop asking.
Or die. :)
@@jessjess3073 yeah , yeah...
@@jessjess3073 E-X-C-E-L-L-E-N-T 😈😈😉
Extrovert : oh crap...
Ahh... Please feel free to bring this up at the next meeting.
It's done telepathically and the next one 14 years from now, since the last on was only 6 years ago.
Another thing is school reports/ parent-teacher talks where they say how you were a good kid but you needed to participate in class more etc. things along those lines. That's all I ever heard in high school 😪
Every.single.goddamn.time
My grades used to suffer because of that. I did everything that was required, I just didn’t ‘participate.’
ya i also heard it a lot
so i talk in class occasionally
i talk when teachers write smth wrong in the board and doesnt realizes or if i kno the ans of smth i sometimes stand up to tell the ans if i feel like it
my end of year principle and teacher letter for the past 7yrs.
My professor told me I need to talk more in class because I have important things to say, this was the only time it actually motivated me to contribute more
Person: “Do you have any secrets?” “Are you a psycho?”
Me who weren’t paying attention: “yes”
😂
People always tell me what I'm feeling, even if they're wrong. They look at me and are like "Oh, you're so nervous! It's ok" And I wasn't even nervous.
Or that you look like you’ve been crying, when you are just fed up of them. What the heck.
@@xz3024 lel that's just the natural state of my eyes when i'm outside, waaaaay too fucking bright
that's something that annoys me the most
Stop forcing feelings or thoughts on me ._.
@@radishfam382 YES! It's so annoying
Like it’s not even just extroverts. People in general just try to force words into my mouth and tell me what I feel.
I hate when someone tells me to speak more...it's equivalent to telling an extrovert to shut up
This.
I relate
As an introvert I would like to say to extrovert:
'Hey... I just don't wanna waste my time talking about something I don't want to'
I’d love to be more social if people wanted to talk about things that I’m interested in. Not just small talk.
when they think being quiet is similar to being shy
Man it's kinda annoying actually.
" I'm not shy bro I'm just quite or better yet I have nothing worth to talk to u about. "
Also when they take "I'm just thinking " face as the death stare...
"Bro my brain hasn't even realized that I'm subconsciously staring at your face while it's going on its daily rounds of future possibilities or past fuck ups"
Why do I relate to this so much?
Yup!
Well I’m quiet and shy so it’s an adventure every time I have to meet someone new
This is so relateble
Singing my life with these words.
You're bored right?
- No not at all
Then why don't you talk?
- I'm just listening.
Ugh you are so hard to please.
I get that to
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Same but they usually ask me “Are you sad?” .-.
@@armandosilva9699 Then all of a sudden you question yourself: AM I?🤔😂
@@alevsozer7924 😔👊
I get this question so often: ARE YOU DEPRESSED...? When i'm literally the happiest i've ever been and i have a whole Universe inside me, it's like i'm constantly talking to myself in my head)))))))
I know right!
Totally! I get this "Are you all right? You look so sad" all the time...
@@lauraingalls6657 Lol, exactly) Some people just don't believe that everything is ok)))
To me: "Why are you so quiet, you look sad, are you okay?"
Me: "Nope this is just my face, and I had nothing I felt was worth saying/I was just listening."
I just go *zone out* mode until they're done being so concerned about me 😂
I literally get that all the time and say the same exact thing
"Why are you alone? Don't you have friends?"
Me: I just like spending some time alone, but it doesn't mean that I have no friends 😐
"Why are you so shy?"
Me: I'm not shy, I'm introverted
"Why didn't you attend the party? You missed the fun."
Me: because I have other things to do and your definition of fun is different from mine 😑
Preach
Exactly
What is your definition of fun
@LEAGUE OF Yu-Gi-Oh not that man, your talking as if you don't need it, human are socials even introverts
@@user-dh2fn4ou3g We feel like we can only be social with people that understand us and thats hard to find. We don't like to talk much in general tho, especially if you have social anxiety
That's really sad. My whole life I've been told that I'm quit and need to speak more etc. But when I speak up and tell my opinions then it seems like people wish I would shut up instead...
Sums up my history with my family pretty much 😃
Is that behaviour in human DNA or something? Because everyone say shit like that when introvert tries to speak
Because they wanted you to quit?
I just realized that i never get bored of doing nothing, instead i get bored when i'm doing something i don't like- (i'm an infp)
Doing nothing is my favorite pass time, I get frustrated when I don’t have room for doing nothing in my weekly agenda
Yeah. As a fellow INFP, the most boring thing is being stuck in a social situation I don't like or being stuck doing something tedious that I have to give my full attention to (i.e., no mind wandering). If I'm free, especially mentally, then I'm not bored.
Dang, same! I've never been able to put words to it before!
INTJ and i relate alot. I get bored by doing something that i dont find interest to invest on it,i do eventually the work but its not the same quality as when i do something that i particularlt find interesting and worth the study.
@@alvarez85yearsand81 yeah exactly
“Why don’t you talk?”
“Wow you can talk!”
Uugghh 😩
Angery mode activatated madafaca *proceeds to never speak to that person again*
These lines end up making me feel subconscious for who I was, at least back then I wanted to make an effort to be social, but some people have no filter and said stuff like this. Now I only speak to strangers if I'm spoken to.
What I've seen is when you're quiet and they proceed to joke "Hey! Quit making so much noise back there!"😏
Oh wow I never get this many likes lol
@@EthosO76 yep it just makes me want to talk to them less haha
When people accuse me of changing when I finally open up is just the worst.
The worst are "why do you hate me?"/"why do you refuse to talk to me?"/"did I offend you?" people who assume it MUST be something personal you have against them.
What I absolutely hate is when I don't smile because either I'm deep in thought or there's nothing much to smile about since I'm feeling really neutral, but then teachers or people in general (mainly teachers) try so hard to get you to smile, like it's a challenge for them or something that they're trying to conquer. I end up frowning and getting pissed because it's like they're treating me like a child when I'm just chilling and minding my business, but this hasn't happened since high school thank god. I wanted to punch them in the face so bad.
Wut?Who cares?
true
@@frostbite2119 lmao yeah. I just maintain a neutral expression like 90% of the time. I usually act around other people when they make jokes even though I don't find it funny at all. I laugh for like 2 seconds and then go back to a neutral face
I'm like that. I'm just careful because I don't want to accidentally upset someone
others: “why do you look so sad/angry?”
me: ...”I’m just concentrating/thinking”
My parents always, do that, they say I look sad but actualy I'm contemplating the meaning of life or some such
Me: Huh ? (Here we go again... Wait, i just forgot what i was thinking about. Again !)
I was waiting at a bus stop and started to zone out waiting for the bus.
Moments later a woman parked her car in front of me to give me $20 because she thought I was depressed and told me to cheer up before driving off.
@@sherlockjiki9092 Hey! You scored $20! Now you can go get a coffee and find a nice quiet spot to veg out to your heart's content!
@@sherlockjiki9092 hmm maybe you can make a business out of this 🤔
"Why are you so quiet?"
"'I'm watching Shrek in my head."
:D
wha-- LOL
"I have the ADHD accompanying condition known as Jukebox Brain, and am trying not to cry because One More Light by Linkin Park is playing on repeat in my head"
My report card had that behavior thing "Good but too quiet in class." then when i got comfortable with my classmates so the next one said "talks to seatmate even when teacher is talking." - i thought you wanted me to talk, so i did.
That's because that kind of teacher is a control freak, so no matter what you do, they are never happy.
Yeah..😅
My teacher once asked me why my parents didn't assist to the annual meeting with the teachers because she wanted to talk about how quiet I am and my lack of confidence .
THANKS GOD THEY DIDN'T ASSIST cz they already knew I'm a good student
LOL. I regularly had "works well on her own, but is easily distracted" 🙄 I'm a social introvert 😂
My teachers would always say that exact same line. I'm pretty selective with who I would feel comfortable talking to, it would depend on a connection that would only happen with a few people, and when it happened the teachers would move me far away from basically the only person I'd feel comfortable talking to. Worst part is, even with that person I wouldn't speak much to respect the fact that there's a teacher giving class.
it's interesting to me how a lot of people would automatically assume you're boring and/or not smart enough if you're the quiet one.🙄
maroon/burgundy suits you really well!
Interesting. Either I get that or some ppl seem to think that I am the smartest one in class cuz i don't talk 🤷♂️
@@Calebeqz Yeah, same
I swear they used to talk to me like I was stupid, like as if I was a child who didn't understand anything. It was just the tone of their voice, maybe it was a mockery thing. Or because they could sense my nervousness they felt they needed to talk like that for some reason. But one time one of them asked me if I read a lot and I said no, and she genuinely seemed so confused and just said "oh. I thought you were a nerd or something"?? When we didn't even have any lessons together and I'm not even that smart lol
Sometimes the quiet one is the wisest out of all of them. You don’t have to be smart to be able to be wise.
In my experience, it's generally how you present yourself that leads to people assuming you're either really smart or really stupid when you're quiet. (although I've also found there is no in between) I present myself as really cold/aloof but prepared and put together. (except when people go up and talk to me which is when I get nervous) People always assume I'm the smartest in the class unless there is someone who is loudly smart, but if you're the quiet kid stereotype, people assume you're stupid. (and by the quiet kid stereotype, I mean the baggy clothes, slumping posture, hood up, always on your phone, etc.) Being conventionally attractive also plays a huge role in this.
"your lack of enthusiasm for the things I enjoy makes me insecure" omfg this. We make people so uncomfortable because we're QUIET.
“You know, if you’re going for the ‘meek and quiet girl’ look, men don’t actually find that attractive.”
As an introverted woman, give me their names, I just wanna talk. 🔪
@@Sahdirah ... are you a serial killer?
Well good for them
@@Sahdirah mind if I join? 🔪🔪
Well, some men do. Some of us certainly prefer it to "pushy and loud"... :p
As a physically and disabled introvert, "I didn't invite you because I didn't think you'd come" is the biggest slap in the face you can imagine. Yeah, I'm not gonna go hiking with the rest of you, but can you at least pretend you want me there? Thanks
That is a valid point.
Happened with me -.- with people who are close
My very favorite thing is when People think introverts have no sense of humor but that is very far from true also when people confuse introverted with shyness
I'm both.
As an introvert,, I’m the funniest person; I make myself laugh all the time
@@Vanarian lol
I really love how outgoing people insist on wanting everyone around them to be like them, no bro, I'm not thinking of killing you ... or maybe.
🤣🤣🤣
Thinking on how to kill the conversation, eh ?
i regret nothing but i'll see myself out nonetheless.
Who gets bored when Netflix, books, games, and the internet exist
I get bored of all those things, at least during this pandemic
@@brisingr7253 then my friend , you don't know about riveting movies and games because the world is repleted with infinite amount of entrainment
Is there a 50/50 option? I can be the life of the party and center of attention. I work in sales, I have taught partner dance classes as a hobby and have been on stage, however because of the pandemic and because I work with my elderly parents and want to keep them safe I have spent almost a year not partner dancing and with the internet and books I have been exactly 0% bored. I am working in myself and when I want to relax there is so much entertainment that it is impossible to consume it all!
@@aquaphoenixx "Ambivert"
I sure as heck don't, netflix over social interaction anytime!
Me: Being quiet
My friends: Talking about something random
Them: Hey why don’t you talk more, do you have any opionions on stuff?
Me: uhh I don’t know
Me in my head: yeah I just don’t really care about what you were saying and wasn’t even listening lmao
Anyone else just zone out while a person is talking. Then ”uh-huh” and ”Really?” when said person pauses.
And people just assume you're a good listener but in reality, you just know how to read social clues?
Just me?
Yeah I do it without realising xD and then as they continue talking I again don't listen because I'm thinking, "oh shoot I wasn't listening what are they talking about?" whilst smiling and nodding to their ongoing words
Yeah...
Not sure i do... Mainly because when someone is talking directly to me, my thought process stops and won't start again until i'm not bothered. And that's irritating.
But i guess it can happen when the person talking to me pauses and i notice in the middle of their next dialogue that i stopped paying attention to what they were saying.
I drive my husband up the wall cuz I try to pay attention, mind starts to wander and I say "Yeah" when he says something, then I have to go back and say "What?" when I realize I wasn't paying attention, lol!😂
Yeah i also have that too. Its like you care for what they say but you actually dont give a shit
“We didn’t invite you cause we didn’t think you’d go” OMG THIS. So. Fricking. Accurate. I hate it.
I would not always consider it rude. If they asked multiple times before and got turned down, I would not always hold it against them if they decided to follow that trend.
I mean its true ..
This one hit me hard.
Introvert people, we Don't wanna go to the party but we still want to be invited
All of these are so accurate. People always asume i'm angry or sad just because i'm not smiling at every single thing they say.
“I don’t recognize you anymore” (when you suddenly feel the need to stand for yourself). Also “why can’t you be more like x? She/he is such a joy to be around, while you are just like rude” - said million times by parents while growing up.
"i don't recognize you anymore" really hurt me when my mom said it to me. I basically was standing for my ideas and she thought that I became so "arrogant" due to my boyfriend. This really hurt me because she was surely thinking he's manipulative or something similar. While he basically gives me confidence in all I do.
Why can't you be more like x parents. They make tons more money than you
Usually i just stop hanging out with the people who kept asking, "Why are you so quiet?".
Sometimes I just read my book and mind my own business. Instead of leaving me alone, people keep asking "ArE yOu mAd???"
Like come on, I Iook like that all the time... just let me read my book...
“You’ve changed.” 😆🤣
“No, we’ve been friends long enough that I now say whatever’s on my mind. There’s no turning back now.”
Aka extroverts projecting their feelings onto introverts 😂
"Why aren't you more like me?"
"I'm not going to tell you why I'm asking until you answer..." Omg that killed me 🤣
it was horrifying😰 ... I really hope it doesn't happen to me 😂😂
@@divishatewari7612 it is! People do it all the time, it's terrible!
“Oh what book are you reading?”
Me: Uhhhhh
very relatable.
Yep. Everytime
I just show them the cover, and resume reading.
And everyone takes turns asking that
Hylius The only person who takes that as an answer is my dad. Everybody else look at me, waiting for me to tell them
are you a serial killer? a psycho? ME: yes, and I pick my victims based on how many questions they ask me.
Holy shit gonna write this down.
People : look at this guy he's definitely a boring person I bet he doesn't even know what fun is
My brain : they don't know....they'll never know
Good thing about introverts is I think girls like a guy who don't talk that much
@@samuri1887 well...It gotta have some usefulness I guess
@@samuri1887 nah, they don't
@@samuri1887 maybe if you're handsome brutal man that don't speak
@@SirusStarTV naw that was me 2 months ago u right
My dad did something like this in a sweet way, he was like "I worry that you don't have many opportunities to voice your opinions" when in reality I've been questioning what things I think of have a need to be said. Like, I'll let you know when I want to buy a stuffed penguin, but I don't think you want to hear about how easy bake ovens were discontinued because lightbulbs became too energy-efficient and don't produce sufficient heat. You ask, I'll answer, but in terms of me starting a conversation, your chances aren't that high.
Really that's so sad I loved my easy bake oven. I only got to use it once though
I never had one. So sad that it's a thing of the past, now I have to use a big, ugly, hard bake oven
@Rose MWM Thank you so much! :D My mom says I write well, but hearing it from a "passersby" of sorts is very heartwarming. My dad is wonderful and he is very purposeful about building up my confidence and letting me know it's good to speak up. I admire him a lot.
Ikr, no one actually wants to hear what you have to say 😔
"On the verge of a psychotic meltdown?"
If you keep it up I will be.
That was my thought too!
yup
Also we can’t forget
“You need more social interaction” then getting mad at us for telling a story.
When someone asks why I'm being so quiet, I just say that I'm helping the planet from unnecessary noise pollution, and perhaps they should too.
Lol. Good one
"why are you so quiet?" triggers my fight or flight response
I once heard someone say "are you really introverted or did you just get ignored when you tried to talk and now prefer to be quiet?"
Both is me..
¿POR QUE NO LOS DOS?
*Then you start to answer and cut off for the tenth time*
Yeah, that kinda happened, and still does... so I just laugh at my own inside jokes
Neither. I just find it a waste of time and energy to talk to people like you.
“We didn’t invite you because we didn’t think you’d go” 😡
But even worse is, “Smile!” When I was just sitting there peacefully minding my own business. 🤬
My answer for "Smile!" is:
"Say something funny and I will gladly smile."
'It's not only about what people say. It's more about how they stare.'
Lol
Pretty pfp!
@@hazelquart thanksie
the most recent thing i was told was "why do you stay in your room all the time? why don't you love yourself?"
i enjoy doing solitary activities because i actually do enjoy my own company, why don't you love yourself enough to be fine with being alone with your thoughts smh
I like how a lot of the angles is a standing person talking to someone who is sitting down and minding their own business. That made everything that much more relatable for me!
😂 Every. Single. One. The latest was when I told my coworkers I’m retiring. Instead of the correct response of Congratulations 🎉 I got the following...
“Aren’t you going to be bored? I’d be so bored”.
I refrained from saying, “Really? Going to work every day is ALL you can think of doing? That’s boring. And sad.”
😬
Lol love this comment!
Congratulations by the way! 🎉🎊🍾
Congrats on your retirement! Enjoy the peace and quiet! 😃🎈🎉
Yes! Congratulations is the correct response! Thank you!
Congratulations! 🎉😊 I don't understand how people can get bored either!
I got that, too! I assumed that it was just special torture for me.
Extrovert : Do you ever get bored being by yourself ? I'd get bored.
Me : Yeah right you're so boring that even your own self will bore you 😂.
People: Why are you so scary
Me: im literally sitting and keeping to myself
People: so scary and unapproachable you must be a killer
Me: bruh 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
@ That's sad. Don't mind ppl like that. They're not worth your worry. Only polite cold indifference.
Serial killers are oftentimes VERY charismatic, which is why they are able to get to so many people. Why don't people get that the tiny girl who's too scared to even make eye contact is most likely not plotting to burn people at the stake.
@ sadly, I don't have to imagine that one. I'm living it with you.
Introvert: *breathes*
Extrovert: "omg it lives"
*"Are you okay?"*
Not as in "how are you feeling", but as in "you got mental issues?"
I really hope some of those people look back at those moments and cringe, but more likely they've forgotten or actually think they were in the right to treat a person that way.
My friends: why have you become so quiet suddenly
Me: Nothing, I m just listening to your conversations
Inner me: Because my time of social interactions is up and i need to recharge myself
How many friends do you have
Plz tell me
@@user-dh2fn4ou3g I have zero friends lol
@@nixosgoddess saldy
I literally often just like to observe others in conversations. Why don't people get that?
@@Charlotte8591 EXACTLY.
Suddenly I find everyone looking at me sayin(why do u always take a corner and stop talking?)
"It's the quiet ones you gotta watch out for" then they stare at you suspiciously or they have a smug look on their face like they are the first one ever to make that joke.
"Are you a serial killer?"
Me: Are you a cop?.......Jerk....... :D
Warning: Doesn't work with actual cops.
@@osastor3158 Thanks for the heads up! Thankfully, I've been a good girl and have managed to stay out of trouble.....mostly. :D
If im really annoyed ill be saying
"Yes and im planning to cut your tongue of yours so have fun for the moment"
"For a long time, I thought you were stuck up/angry/hated me."
I got called "stuck-up" more than once just cuz I wasn't talkative around new friends or co-workers. Then once I finally started opening up, those same people would say "Oh we thought you didn't talk to us at first cuz you thought you were better than us." Harsh! I didn't think my behavior was conveying that sort of message. But also, perhaps their assumptions really speak to their own insecurities. 🤔
@@wendyg.2664 I mean, you shouldn’t think less of a person just because they have insecurities.
I definitely heard this a lot. I am not at all sure what they saw that led to that conclusion.
Lolz!!! I HAVE said this to people after we finally clicked. The answer has always been - “Oh know - if I hated you, you wouldn’t have ‘thought’ - you would have *known* “ 🤣
Yes, people all too often confuse shyness and introversion for being "stuck up." It's frustrating.
In my class theres two introverts. Me and some other dude. And some extrovert goes up to him and says "hey, whatcha thinking about?" And he simply replies "Nothing. I'm simply observing whats going on around me"
The only thing i wanted to hear was
"Will you be my best friend forever."
but nobody ever tells us this.
We're best friends with ourselves bud
Same. :-(
@@nameleswarrior4450 but for how long. This world is filled with fake friends.
Since this world is full of fake friends, maybe it's for the best
INFP?
A fun one I heard recently: "Do you really mean to be so socially awkward?"
ha ha...now that's peak comedy, thank you for pointing out my insecurities ig
Jeez who MEANS to be socially awkward thats a bit rude of whoever said that
Some people are just so senseless, they lack common sense about what to say to others, when to say it and how to say it. Smfh
"Do you really mean to be noisy loud jerk?"
Need to point out that they aren't the thing that normal person should be
That fricking ash hole
Socially awkward would be someone who'd ask another person that question.
I would always dazzle all of the people at school with some deep, well thought out crap, and they all were so intimidated, they just avoid me. It was great.
-INTJ
Them: "Come to the bar on Thursday!"
Me: "Love to, but I have plans."
Them:"Ooooh! What plans??"
Me: "Watch Survivor and eat chicken"
Them: "Those aren't plans!"
Yes, you can never tell them the truth, as much as you may want to.. They only know there own truth, if it isn't on their list, it is dismissed.
Sound like great plans to me!!
Best plans ever.
Ikr, reading a book, or listening to music with your headphones on, are not considered activities. They're like an open invitation for anyone to come and try to talk to you.
"why are you so quiet" aaah probably the phrase I hear the most
This video gives me new hope that people like me exist.. ☺️
Trust me we introverted people who don't like socializing exist. We just keep a low profile
Yeah, same here
*minding my own business*
"Are you okay?"
I'm fine.
"Are you sure? You look angry."
...This is the face I'm born with.
"Calm down!"
I am...calm?
"Don't be angry!"
For the love of God, I am calm until you tell me to calm down.
"The quiet ones are the ones you have to look out for."
When he said "do you ever get bored being by yourself so much", I felt it.
I've heard "how can you keep being at home so much? I feel like I'm dying if I don't go out one day!" many times and I reply "because I'd rather be alone than being with dumbasses and faking it. like how they act as if they're honest and talk behind you and I hear everything they say and know what they think but just don't argue with them cause they're not worth wasting my time"
I’ve always talked sarcastically to people if they talked like that. Then they’d be stunned and prob talk shit behind my back, calling me “bitchy” or “rude”. It’s a horrid habit of mine, but they’ll leave me alone ;)
same, probably why so many people hate me
@@yan4505 but we hardly mind, don’t we? We’re too busy to focus on our own problems.
Politeness is overrated anyway.
I'd take lessons from you
@@AnnaIsHere yep, please
"you're so shy"
"you're so sweet and innocent"
guys to me: "i like it that you are not lengthy. you always seem to understand without words."
yours i hear every day of my life. yay.
"sweet and innocent" this is so accurate, leave me alone
One of my friends always tells me this: "Are you not bored of yourself? You're nkt even going out" and I'm always like: "not really".
*Me, an extrovert, who came here for some answers, because adopted a brand new introverts*
Oh, yeah, yeah... Yep, that's me... Oh, that too... I got it. Gosh, I guess i've been treated them really badly all the time...
Just the fact that you care about how we felt is more that we ever get. So there's that.
Btw, we _do_ like it when others talk to us. A lot. And we will reply graciously.
We just don't like it when others poke us relentlessly on why we are not starting conversations all the time. It gives us war flashbacks on school teachers ranting about lack of participation and family gatherings on our supposed rudeness and the sinking feeling when you realize your mere listening presence will never be enough.... ugh. You get it. When the thing is that we're simply quiet because we literally don't have anything _useful_ to say at the moment.
thanks for understanding, you are a good human