I feel your pain. My son moved out for University this Sunday, and the last few weeks have been the hardest in my life. So many thoughts, so many memories and so many questions like "Did I love him enough" or worse "Why did I do this or that?" I pray to God for strenght and I trust in His promise that He will be there with me and through this valley. Keep on loving eachother and have hope for the future and trust in the Lord. Be blessed ♥
Thank you for your comment. I have a 12 year old son, and I have found myself being somewhat strict and stern with him. However, ive not asked myself “did I love him enough?”. I don’t want to regret not loving my boy enough over the few years I have left with him. Thank you so much for reminding me I must be gentle with him as well.
I’m glad God can use my dark moments for good, He truly is a redeemer ❤ Focus on being gentle, that is the best approach I believe. My love for my son was always there in my heart, I am just not sure if he knew that it was so, since I didn’t focus on showing it all the time. I was a young mother and I tried really hard, so my focus was more toward discipline rather than love in many cases. Also a big part in all of this was that I wasn’t a Christian back then. I came to faith in Christ just a few years ago and I am now seeing things in a different light. I praise God that He gave me these last couple of years with my son to be a stay at home mom, for that I am truly grateful. 🙏 God bless you and enjoy motherhood to the fullest! ❤
I am going through a lot of changes and something you said really resonated with me and brought some relief: "Sometimes we need to just let go and stop trying to figure everything out. And there's a freedom that comes with that.". Thank you for sharing with us, Nikki. 💛
Just enjoy what time you have left with him. I had to let my oldest son go forever on his 25th birthday when a drunk driver gir his car killing him instantly 4yrs ago & I'm having a very hard time letting him go. I have 2 other sons that are 26yrs old & 24yrs old. My youngest son now has a 6mo old son, so now I'm in a new phase of life. It isn't easy but the Lord is helping me through it all & my husband has also helped me through it as well.❤❤
Gods love and healing to your soul❤ The pain is impossible to describe with words. Only our Father in Heaven can truly comfort us in our sorrow and grief... He, who also lost His Son in such a brutal way... In Him we have the hope of resurrection and seeing our loved ones again❤ But oh, how we miss them...Also daily thinking of and missing my youngest who went Home to Heaven for 2,5 years ago. I cherish every moment we could spend together. Daily I have to give all my thoughts and emotions, all my regrets I might be reminded of, in to Gods hands to be able to go on. Lords blessing and love over your life❤
My youngest daughter moved several states away in August. It has been hard for me as a widow. I always thought my 3 daughters would be close by. Much prayer has helped me adjust. Life has many seasons and adjusting goes with them. You will be in my prayers for peace as you go through this time. I am working on downsizing from my home we built in 1983..41 years ago. I know God will be with me every step of the way. I love your content. It is comforting. ❤❤😊
You’re so right. Letting go is difficult, but rewards come from it. I’m almost 80 and still have to experience this. I truly find your videos meaningful🌸
Hi, Just a text to say my kids left home when I was 40 & 44 years old. I’m now in my sixties and am a grandmother of 5. Becoming a grandmother has been the most special time of my life. A second golden age with young children. Have faith that motherhood never ends and move on toward that second golden era. ❤️❤️❤️
It is very hard to parent young adult children because there is a fine line you have to walk to let them learn how to make their own wise decision. Letting go of an only son is very hard. It was for me. They struggle with being independent and still needing their mom. Keep communication open. Just when you least expect it they will come back home with all the energy and enthusiasm they have for life because they still need you. He will always need you.
My husband suddenly passed away in 2014. All three of my children have moved out. They are all close in age so it seems it all happened in the same season. Like all moms, I have regrets. I wish I could go back. But like you said we can't. However, in prayer some time ago, I felt that the Lord showed me that our children need us and our prayers in every stage of their lives. So we live in the moment and use that regret to motivate us to be better in whatever way they need us in their current stage of life. In time, our children will call us on the phone to tell us that they are beginning to realize that we were the best mothers to them, they love us and are so thankful for how they were raised. I got that phone call a few months ago, and also to let me know that I will be a grandmother in October. In this transition, I pray that God will give me the strength to show love and grace while functioning within healthy boundaries. Praying for you also.
Hi Nikki! This weekend my husband and I moved out of our house in Illinois. We have living there for 35 years. Let me tell you it was so hard. It was brutal emptying our basement., giving away furniture and finally signing papers to finalize the sale of our property. I have felt that sadness you are feeling now. I think we mother know in our hearts that letting go is part of being a mother. We give our children wings to fly. We give our sons to the world to be men. We give our daughters to the world tone women. There is no such thing as a perfect mother. ❤ We did our best. Moving forward now one step at a time with God’s help.
I had 3 sons who are all grown now! It was hardest by far when the eldest left first for college and even more so when he studied in Argentina and Spain. It will never be the same but you will learn to treasure those times you spend with each other! I had been a stay at home Mother but suffered Empty nest and got a part time job in our little village post office in Lancaster County which I kept for about 6 years when I was better able to deal with my feelings! A phone call means so much! He will be the man you have raised him to be and will appreciate all you have done for him! Now that I am in my Seventies and they are in their 30’s and forties with their own adult children ,they watch over me and do so much for me! You are a wonderful Mother and will be blessed in the years ahead! ❤
Hi! It has been some time since I don't go by your house like I call it when I watch your videos. I love the mural at the living room! I can't believe your son is 18! I used to watch since you were at your other house! They were all little! It is a time of transition for you, and for your whole family. He is trying his wings! One great thing is that he has the courage to do it! You both have done a great job! Your hubby is also letting go of his little man! Just keep in touch and share as many moments as possible. You are still part of his new adventure! He will need encouragement as he flies! I know you will be there for him! New wonderful experiences are coming for all of you! Keep the faith and trust in God! Blessings!
I can completely relate. My oldest just turned 19 in April. He graduated in May. We have had a really rough time with our relationship. He moved out a few weeks ago. It has been extremely difficult for me. There are so many times I’ve questioned if k did enough. This mixed with the feeling of being displaced somehow. It is a strange feeling. I am trying to give this to God. I have 3 other children ages 16,17, and 18. They all need me to be my best person right now so I have to push through. Regardless, God is good and HE know exactly how to take care of my son even though he’s no longer under my wing or protection.
I so understand what you're feeling! This year has changed everything for me. I went through severe work burnout that resulted in an early retirement for the sake of my mental and physical health, moving to a new home, and then both of my children getting an apartment together for a few months until my baby gets married. My world has been turned upside-down. What has sustained me through this time is the God who promised to never leave me, as well as the knowledge that I spent the best years of my life giving everything I had to the job of mothering. Our family is close-knit, and I hope to continue that as we add a son-in-law in a little over a month. My role as mother has already changed, as I learn to respect the adults my children have become. But I have to be honest - Sometimes it's hard on a mom's heart. And I think that's normal.
Life gives us many seasons. Sometimes, it's bittersweet to move into a new season. But know that a new season has its own joys and opportunities. God bless you as you change into this new season ❤ and miss your son.
It’s been about 4 years since my son moved to Arizona( we are in Georgia) and my daughter went to college. I had a very hard time with this big change. Our house is so quiet now. We don’t get to see our son as much since he is so far, but we do call and FaceTime. We get to see our daughter about once a month. She graduates this year and will starting her career as a teacher. We are so proud of our kids, but miss them so.I know how it hurts. We pour so much of ourselves into our children as mothers. You are right about having your husband for strength. I don’t know what I would do without mine. I’ll be praying for you.
That's what we raise our children to do....to stand on their own two feet?with anticipation for the life they will create for themselves. There's a quote that says "There are two gifts we give our children. One is roots,the other is wings-author unknown"
I really understand you, as my son is in the last year of High School. One of my best friends, who is older than me and went through this time before, told me a beautiful advice: “Don’t focuse on the past, on those sweet days of childhood. Enjoy and share new moments. They are different, but special as well. Sending you tons of hugs 💕💕
Hello the situation with your son. I’ve been there 3 times, with 2 adults left at home. It is a process and we have to realize that they are with us for a time then they grow wings and need to fly on their own. Thank God that he has a praying mom. And btw I used to watch you channel way back when before you moved into your current home. You have transformed that home and have made it so bright and airy! It looks fabulous. Keep trusting in God for all of your plans, He will direct your path and will open doors that no man can shut. Stay blessed
My 18 year old just went off to college, I’m keeping myself very busy cleaning out closets etc. I feel like I don’t want to allow my mind too much quiet because the sadness will take over.
I understand what you are going through. I have 4 adult children now. It was hard when they first left home. My daughter who is in college was back this summer and I realized that it was probably the last time she would live with us. A wonderful thing about it all has been that I have new relationships with my adult children as they have become my friends. I have also felt proud of them for their accomplishments on the adult world. This has been my reward! I wish you the best in this transition.
My friend. I am so sorry for what you are going through. My one and only child left the home and my former spouse has passed and two of my closest friends are passed away and I feel so alone. It has been extremely difficult. My heart goes out to you. It will take some time but you will get to a better frame of mind. Prayer definitely helps and you are in my prayers. We are all here for you , my friend. Blessings - Judith 🎭🎤
Oh my, my only child just left for her second year. Last year was, well, terrible. This year was a bit easier to let her go back to school. There are some wonderful parts of parenting young adults. I enjoy letting many things go and being the friend more than in the past. Just know that what you are feeling is normal ❤️
Oh Nikki, it does get easier. My oldest son is now a junior in college. My second child (daughter) graduates this year. The hardest day was actually when I came home from dropping him off and looked at his empty room. I miss my son everyday he’s away at school, but we text and FaceTime and he talks and talks which is such a wonderful gift as a mom. Big hugs! 💕💕
I understand so well, Nikki. We have three, now grown, kids. On the same weekend our newly-married daughter and her husband moved out of state for graduate school and one of our sons moved away to college. Again, the same weekend! My husband, younger son and I stood on the driveway numb, not knowing what to do next. It was to be our new normal. Beautiful blessings awaited, but it was a season of adjustment. We are now empty nesters with seven grandchildren and love our season of life. God’s grace provides in each season. God bless you!
I think I will revisit this video on those hard parenting days. I have a 2 year old. Time passes by so fast and so slow at the same time for me some days. I’ll be more mindful about cherishing it.
Hello Nikki l really feel your pain it is incredibly hard when our first child leaves home. I had 3 children all married now , and 5 Grandchildren. It bought it all back as you were talking about it , so very hard to let them go. The Lord will help help you, l will be praying for you. Loved little Lady snuggling up to you, she loves you so much. Take care Nikki.❤❤
Aww, this brought back so many memories for me. I remember when my oldest son was getting ready to leave for college and I started to cry as I hugged him goodbye. Then my daughter moved out as soon as she turned 18 even before graduating from High School, that broke my heart. But she did graduate, and we have a good relationship today. It's funny my youngest son had to move back for a while, and we were ready to have an empty nest when he was able to afford to move back out. Our mama hearts go through so much. I pray so much for my kids and now grandkids! And I agree it's wonderful to have the support of your husband, and that he is a godly man.
I resonate so deeply with you. Children growing up and moving on is so difficult. I feel my 40’s were a constant struggle to let go of my children as they grew up and graduated from high school, moving onto college. I struggle still, my purpose has changed, my life has changed. I pray each day that God would show me what His purpose is now for my life. My daughter is 21 and just got married this year, my son is 23 and will be me moving out of the state soon. I struggle every day. Thank you for addressing this and sharing. Such a sensitive time, praying for you ❤
Rest assured that the love and lessons you shared with your son will be with him always. He will always be your son. Having been through this when my son went to college I can say that our relationship grew with this change. I was blessed to witness him grow into an incredible human being and experience the joy of a relationship on a new level which is still just awesome as the one we had when he lived in our home. Give yourself Grace at this time and know that God has you, your son and that special relationship in His hands always.🙏
he will be back but it is ok to let one of the girls have his room but just let him know he is welcome home ...make home FUN like you always do 😊 ... Sunday meals😊 and game night... Meals bring boys HOME😂😅😂
a garage "tiny" apartment "might" work. Just an idea...many goooood things will happen ...he will ❤appreciate you MORE for for the 😊Clean/LOVING home the😊 warm 😊delicious meals the clean😊 SMELLS you provided 😊 Food and supplies/t-paper and so on always being avalible😊HUGS!!! and many many many more things... yes pray and give thanks 😊
Hello Nikki ❤. This brings me right back to the video you made using my poem, Silence. I just had a conversation with my first born today regarding this season of life. I told her there is so much on “what to expect when you are expecting,” but no real talk about this season of life. Which I am now referring to the Lost Years…. Because I find myself lost most days as to what I should be doing. Having a purpose each day is harder for me to find. Number one piece of advice I can give to women who are a wife/mother is don’t let the titles take away from who you are at your core. On day you have to meet “her” again. She will play a vital role in keeping you together. ❤hugs
Hello Nikki, What a milestone in your parenting journey. Our first child left our home when she married at almost 24; our second daughter is engaged now at 28. With 7 children total, we probably won’t be empty nesters until about 67 or 68. The Lord has an individual plan for each of us; we must hear His promptings minute by minute and obey.
It's hard I'm sure to see your son move out on his own. As you have said you and Jorge have raised him in the love of the Lord. I pray God's love peace and blessings for you and your family.
This made me cry...I have a 16 and 20 year old boy at home still and I'm going to love them more and appreciate them more...time flies and soon they will be moving on with life❤
I can relate to all the emotion I hear in your voice. I felt unsettled for so long after my eldest two moved out. My third is living overseas and will be moving back, but I know much will have shifted during her time of independence. Prayer is my lifeline with these adult children. I semi-joke that there should be fewer parenting the younger years books and more parenting teens and young adults. My best advice, don't hold in the emotions. Feel the feels and release them. It is a new season for everyone. God bless your journey.
Going through the motions until you realize the scenery around you has changed. And you realize you have been moving forward all along - heartache and all. Blessings to you in this phase of motherhood.
I kind of went through a hard year last year ... Our oldest turned 18, our second turned 16, my cat passed unexpectedly, etc etc and so on.... But then I reached a point where I had to let go of my sadness and embrace the sweet joy. And the boy, drawing near to 19, still lives here at home, he is happy and content to stay and I am enjoying his choice more than I even imagined. I don't think his sister who is going to be 17 has any plans to leave either. You are so right, the best gift you can give your children is parents who love each other. Love the idea of repurposing the little house! We have a shed that is for house overflow storage as we renovated our house, and I often think how adorable it would be to make a little corner of that space a retreat. Love your dress! The door painted a darker color than the wall is "chef's kiss!" It really finishes the space in that shot.
I understand your pain Nikki. I have been in your shoes, ive had my 4 children leave the next. Im now 70 and there is still a little hole in my heart when i enter the empty tidy rooms. I now treasure their phone calls, and texts, get so excited when they visit, and plan activities for myself to cheer me up when they go again. You have a wonderful husband and you are still so young. ❤
Oh Nikki...❤ That empty space can be so hard to get used to. The chair by the dinner table, the hook in the bathroom where he used to have his towel, the room that no longer has his belongings, places where he used to leave his things... all reminding you that life has changed and his place is now somewhere else. A painful but necessary part of life... and at the same time so beautiful and joyous to see them grow as it is meant to be. It is so good to be close to our Heavenly Fathers heart in these times when our emotions can be unbearable. Hugs and blessings, dear Nikki❤
I felt the ache of your mama heart and it brought back the feelings of when my son, also first born, left for college. We also have one daughter, who unfortunately for her lol, we heaped all our love and attention on after our son left. I missed him so much but I can tell you, you will adjust to the new normal. Boys love their mamas and I had to be so brave and never let him see me cry when he came home for a visit and had to leave because I didn’t want him to worry about me. He’s now 33, married with 6 year old triplets and still calls me at least 3 times a week. I’m sorry this is so long but the pain in your voice was so evident I wanted you to know you’re not alone in these feelings. Keep praying for him and yourself. God bless you.
I have 3 kids, my son and my 2 daughters. I'm an empty nester. God is good. I have been embracing this time. It was hard at first. But...that's what we do...train up a child in the way....❤. Love and prayers for ALL of you❤
Motherhood brings us so many hills, valleys, curves and straight paths from the conception of our children to watching them begin their journeys of life separate from us. The stages of growth we go through raising our children is emotionally rewarding yet difficult. You, and every mother here have an inner strength you forget about at times, but you will get through them, find the joy in those leaving the nest though it’s one of the saddest aspects of our journey with them. God is with us and with them as we all grow from this new stage.
Your video is so beautiful and my words will not honour your video. We have to remember that each day is precious and each day have a purpose with our loves one. My dauthers are 13 and 11, but I already feel this urgence to share each time with them. And to provide good advices in order to help to makes the right choices. You make me cry.
Nikki, I can relate. My daughter is nearly 18 and it's been a challenging year for sure. I completely agree how hard it is to let go, and how it just feels like I have no idea what I am doing. I too, greatly lean on the strength and wisdom of my husband. I can hear your pain in your voice. You are not alone in this struggle.
Thank you for sharing this vulnerable part of your life, Nikki. I have much younger kids than you but am also going through that phase of change and seeing them grow older as my 4 year old will be going to preschool this year. It’s SUCH an emotional time! Praying that you have peace and comfort as you adjust to the new, older years with your son!
I really felt the emotions in this video. My kids are young (8, 6, 1) but pray that I'm preparing them for the day they no longer rely on me. At the same time I'm holding on to each sweet milestone. Thanks for sharing your parenting journey.
I hear the pain in your voice Nikki. The sound of a mothers cried out voice, it makes me want to cry because my babies are growing up so fast and I realize my time at home with them is so short!😭 My hard this summer was loosing my sweet father to Pancan. He was only 56 and I held his hand till he took Jesus’s hand, my heart is broken that my children ages 9 and 6 won’t get to make more memories with him. 😢 life on this side of heaven is just sad! Oh we long for the day when we are finally home, all is well at last! 🫂
I remember when my first born moved out, it's what we as parents guide our children to do,move on. To me it is growing pains,they are growing and need to fly from the nest. She is now 40,my other daughter is 37. Both are married and have children,which makes us grandparents,new season. God bless you in all the seasons of life
Oh Nikki, I feel your heart and all the emotions that come with letting go of our children. It's a huge life transition. It takes a lot of time to digest all the things. And I have learned, that we never really stop digesting the passing of time and the deep love of being a mother. I am a mom of a 34 year old daughter and a 30 year old married son. They are happy and healthy and living good lives. This makes me so happy, but the longing for them is always there. There are many days that I wonder who I am without them. That's a mother's heart and deep love. I press forward like you are doing and that is healthy. Please know you are not alone. I am here. Sending all my love. Darby
This is tough! I have a junior in college and a senior in HS. When my oldest left for college, I cried when we left her dorm room after getting her all moved in. I cried myself to sleep that night, in the airport coming home and for days after. Seeing her empty room and her not being there was the hardest for me. My youngest went BTS this past Monday and I was pretty emotional about it. I'm definitely worried when she leaves for college this summer. As a SAHM of 20 years, this chapter is about to close and I'm already feeling lost. I think if I had a career and more of a purpose going forward, that would help. I joined a FB group for Empty Nesters. I find that supportive. I'm taking this school year to get my ducks in a row so that I'm not left feeling lost. Chin up Erica. Our feelings are normal and valid. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the space to grieve. It really is a loss. Thanks for being vulnerable. X's, Leslie
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! I am in the early stages of this process. I am already feeling the pains of the change that is coming. I love that you said, I hope it was enough. That was such a comfort to me. I often look back and wish I could do better or different but enough is all we need from each other. God is faithful to provide for our needs perfectly. You have encouraged me to keep praying for my children!
Nikki, I wish I could give you a big hug! Our youngest just left for college last week. I do think the oldest is the hardest because it is such a drastic change from the Family unit you were used to. I remember feeling a sort of grief/sadness when she left. She went to a military Academy so it was even harder because we couldn’t talk to her. I do want to tell you, though as they leave, your relationship will grow and develop, and as it was for my daughter, we have developed a deepening friendship that was not possible when I was parenting her when she lived at home. Sending you big hugs and prayers to feel better.
Already 1:18 in and already tears welling up! I have a senior in high school. I know in my head that this is the season of life but try telling my heart this… we want our children to go off and fly but yikes it’s sooo hard! I love my sons so much and it is very hard to go through this season in life. I am praying for your Mommas heart!
Oh Nikkie, I have two boys of my own and this makes my heart beam and ache all at the same time. My oldest is starting JK next week, so we are on opposite ends of the spectrum. But I know in a few blinks of an eye I will be in your shoes. May God bless your boy as he begins this next chapter and may your heart be protected from worry and anxious thoughts.
Nikki, I sympathize with you so much. One year ago, my only son left us in France to return to Canada to study. It has been a difficult year, but we are fortunate to have computers to let us chat and see each other. My dad immigrated to Canada, and in those days, even phone was too expensive to use regularly. My thoughts and prayers are with you, one mum to another. Big hugs!
Your children are not your children. They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For thir souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness. For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable. Khalil Gibran
As your son finishes school mine is just beginning! He turned 5 this year and just started Kindergarten this week. ❤ His excitement and joy about school is giving me all the love and happiness. My daughter also started 3rd grade this year which is also so crazy to me, they’re both in school together now. I kept telling my son before school started that it’s his last few days of early childhood ever and it makes me sad to see those years gone by already but so excited for what’s to come! Much love to you during this transition time. ❤❤
You are going to make me cry I’m almost 20 weeks pregnant with my third son my other two are six and eight and I cherish all this time I get with them and I’m aware of how fleeting this time is💙💙💙 thinking of you during this change 💙
Nikki, thank you for this special chat. I am so inspired by you as a wife and mother. My daughter has started high school this year. I am surprised at how I am struggling with this. I know she will encounter many new situations and I pray that her Dad and I have equipped her with wisdom. I know it's not the same as going to college, but I do know that these four years will go by so quickly. I will keep you and your family in my prayers as you enter this new chapter.
Dear Nikki, I can almost not fathom God’s Goodness in delivering this message to me today! His Love never fails to amaze me. Thank you for this video/message today as I quit my job this morning at 9:00 after working there for 3 and a 1/2 years. I know it was the right decision because immediately my peace returned. I am so thankful for my husband’s support & love. We are both thrilled I have returned home to my most important and God-given role. Letting go and entering a new stage is a little scary but also kind of exciting. I will include you in my prayers as I pray about all this. I believe it will be even important right now to lean into Him, our loving Father, and His Word. God bless.💕☺️~S
Dearest Nikki❤ I feel your pain - my oldest daughter moved out 4 years ago and I have one more at home and I so cherish her and hope she Will stay 2 years more..... thankfully I speak on the phone with my eldest many times a week. Your sweet little pup looks sooo eager for some salad ❤❤ so adorable - thank you for sharing❤❤
I watched this out of curiosity. I have 2 sons age 6 & 8 years old. I love them with all of my heart. I also have a special needs daughter who will never leave us, & I do wish she had the opportunities to grow up & find a fulfilling life outside of us. But of course we will do all that we can to provide the best life for her possible. I know the days will come when I have to let my boys “go” into the world to create their own stories. I hope I will have taught them enough that they are prepared. But it will be heartbreaking to let go of my babies.. I will definitely pray for your son & your mama heart in this new chapter! Thank you for sharing your heart 💜
I can feel the pain in your voice. I do not have children but I was a pivotal role in helping to raise my siblings. It was so hard for me to move out and start my own life when I was 19, but I knew I had to. So that if one day they needed me again I could be there to help them, once more as an adult. I never knew what those feelings were until watching this video. I’m 34 now but all that hard work has paid off. It is hard now but it will get easier over time. The worry never quite goes away but you will learn to manage your feelings better over time. I’m sure if God had blessed me with my own children I would be a mess too. Wishing you all the best and God bless.❤
The empty nest beginnings was hard on me too. It does get better with time though. Our children always need us and still love us even when they don't live with us. Thankfully we have cute little puppies to snuggle us through the day and to give us someone to nurture. I hope that you will be feeling more back to yourself very soon. ♥
I lost my best friend and same time going throuh pre meno pause so it’s been a different summer for me too but i have 5 wonderful children to live for and other friends plus above all my God. He will sustain us . Sending my love and will keep you in my prayers. Thank you for all your videos. Your personality has really touch my heart ❤
This video was beautiful honey, from beginning to end. In a time where so many young women with kids are so self absorbed, your love for your family shines. You work hard for your family, and you love the Lord ♡ Thank you for sharing your vulnerability as a mother with us .
I recently experienced overwhelming feelings of loss from having to let go. Part of it felt like fear. Some parts felt like sadness. What has helped me is getting into nature. For me that is sailing but I also find peace in forested areas , lakes, and mountains. You may try getting out into nature for a few hours to see if this works for you. I wish you peace. It will come.
So I’ve never commented on one of your videos, but I just have to comment on this video because I could feel your emotions through the video. Absolutely!I also had my son move out this year actually he graduated early so right before he turned 18 he moved to TX. Three weeks after he turned 18 he got married. I’ve never went through anything like it in my life. It’s just such an, emotional raw feeling and absolutely the best thing you can do is be on your knees. I pray that the Lord will comfort you through and through during this time. For me during my process of letting go I clung to Abba with everything and he comforted me so much and answered many prayers during the marriage process. 🙏😭
I understand, dearest Nikki. My first child, I felt so distraught as I did with my 3 others. It’s a wonderful season to cling to the Lord, for He truly understands❤
Nikki, everything you feel is normal ♡ Just know that it gets easier with time. We keep growing, just like our kids do. Aren't you glad your little Lady is there to cheer you with her sweet little ways? (The past 18 months have seen every "rug" in my life pulled out from under me. But it's not my first rodeo, so I know to just keep plodding along, trying to trust that God has a plan for me.) 🕊
We have twins so the pain when they leave for college one day is going to be doubled. My hope is, when the time comes, that I raised two good mens who can take care of themselves.
My son started pre K and each passing year I feel like I'm letting go. The constant pull of grief and joy is ever present. A beautiful video. Thinking of you during this time. No doubt you're sending an honorable and wonderful man into a world that needs more. ❤
(HUGS) After having all four of our children grow up and leave, I feel for you. I cried and mourned each leaving. They don't teach us much about this phase of children growing up. I feel that having adult children is harder than toddlers!!
Praise the Lord! You have glorified God in loving your husband and raising your son. I relate to your pain as I have gone through this twice. Our third son will turn 18 next month and we have three daughters after him. Letting go is very hard. “The pain I feel now was the happiness I had before. That’s the deal.” C.S. Lewis
I’m in the early season of parenthood. My eldest is 4 and my mind keeps racing to all the things we will go thru,. I pray to be more intentional every day and not become so overwhelmed in what will be but on what is.
It was my son's first day of kindergarten today and I felt surprisingly devastated. He is our oldest and I homeschooled for preschool so it's the first time we haven't all been together and it felt like a piece of me was missing all day. I can't seem to stop crying 😭
Nikki, I pray you embrace Gods strength and comfort and knowing that God will guide and lead your son. It will be an adjustment and lots of emotions so very understandable what you are feeling. I’m so glad you have a wonderful Christ following family to be supportive. We have lost our beautiful Lucy Pup 🐶 ❤ although she wasn’t a pup that’s what we have always called her. She was 19 years of and we have had her for 17-1/2 years and it had been extremely emotional here at our home.
Hi Nikki, Beautiful & peaceful video as always Nikki. With my Father's rescent passing, there is a lot we don't know until we are in the moment. Brings comfort to know that God knows our future and equips us accordingly. Your golden nugget was praying too when you were speaking about praying for your Son. Lady is a gift. It made my day and made me laugh. You are good Mom Nikki. God bless.
Thanks for the encouragement. My son is only 6 and his birthday is this week. I started homeschooling him this week and for some reason it seems overwhelming but I am remembering to enjoy while he’s this little even through the growing pains. Also reminding me to get dressed and face the day! ❤
My son (the youngest of our six children) turned 18, graduated high school, and moved out within a two week period of time. It was so hard. All of the children moving was hard, but his leaving made me feel like I lost my role as mother. The adjustment took some time. I wish I could give you a hug.
Nikki, a hug to you, one mama to another. My two eldest are off to university again, and our baby is a senior this year. Transitioning from full time mama and care giver, to the creative, vibrant, individual I also am, has been emotional and rewarding. It's like going back to a me I knew before my children, but all the love, wisdom, and character life has given me. Remember to stop and praise yourself for raising a child to adulthood! Ti's no small feat!😊
Our fourth and last child has started college. My husband or son makes the 45 to an hour drive to take her to the campus. She has been identified with autism level 1, but she has a goal and determination. Yes, I, too, felt the same with all four children. Two are now married and have children of their own. Although they have their own lives, I still celebrate and mourn with them. They will always have my heart and my prayers. Beautifully stated, Nikki!
I loved raising my children, loved each age. I guess I am different than most as I felt excitement and anticipation when my children went on to college. Yes, I missed them, but I wanted to see how they would grow, who they finally became. My children are now 40 and 38, families of their own. I love who my children are, crazy about my grandchildren and we are in each other’s lives. A rich family.
I feel your pain. You guys have done a great job and your son Is now in the world making his mark. No perfection here from any sides and there will be errors. But we must remember this is all part of growing. You will see him and will be part of his adventures. How fun!
I feel your pain. My son moved out for University this Sunday, and the last few weeks have been the hardest in my life. So many thoughts, so many memories and so many questions like "Did I love him enough" or worse "Why did I do this or that?" I pray to God for strenght and I trust in His promise that He will be there with me and through this valley. Keep on loving eachother and have hope for the future and trust in the Lord. Be blessed ♥
Thank you for your comment. I have a 12 year old son, and I have found myself being somewhat strict and stern with him. However, ive not asked myself “did I love him enough?”. I don’t want to regret not loving my boy enough over the few years I have left with him. Thank you so much for reminding me I must be gentle with him as well.
I’m glad God can use my dark moments for good, He truly is a redeemer ❤ Focus on being gentle, that is the best approach I believe.
My love for my son was always there in my heart, I am just not sure if he knew that it was so, since I didn’t focus on showing it all the time. I was a young mother and I tried really hard, so my focus was more toward discipline rather than love in many cases.
Also a big part in all of this was that I wasn’t a Christian back then. I came to faith in Christ just a few years ago and I am now seeing things in a different light. I praise God that He gave me these last couple of years with my son to be a stay at home mom, for that I am truly grateful. 🙏 God bless you and enjoy motherhood to the fullest! ❤
I am going through a lot of changes and something you said really resonated with me and brought some relief: "Sometimes we need to just let go and stop trying to figure everything out. And there's a freedom that comes with that.". Thank you for sharing with us, Nikki. 💛
Just enjoy what time you have left with him. I had to let my oldest son go forever on his 25th birthday when a drunk driver gir his car killing him instantly 4yrs ago & I'm having a very hard time letting him go. I have 2 other sons that are 26yrs old & 24yrs old. My youngest son now has a 6mo old son, so now I'm in a new phase of life. It isn't easy but the Lord is helping me through it all & my husband has also helped me through it as well.❤❤
Gods love and healing to your soul❤ The pain is impossible to describe with words. Only our Father in Heaven can truly comfort us in our sorrow and grief... He, who also lost His Son in such a brutal way... In Him we have the hope of resurrection and seeing our loved ones again❤ But oh, how we miss them...Also daily thinking of and missing my youngest who went Home to Heaven for 2,5 years ago. I cherish every moment we could spend together. Daily I have to give all my thoughts and emotions, all my regrets I might be reminded of, in to Gods hands to be able to go on. Lords blessing and love over your life❤
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You and Jorge have raised a man. Adding another good one to the world. Well done. ❤
My youngest daughter moved several states away in August. It has been hard for me as a widow. I always thought my 3 daughters would be close by. Much prayer has helped me adjust. Life has many seasons and adjusting goes with them. You will be in my prayers for peace as you go through this time. I am working on downsizing from my home we built in 1983..41 years ago. I know God will be with me every step of the way. I love your content. It is comforting. ❤❤😊
I felt this to my core. Prayers for peace and comfort for you! 🥰
You’re so right. Letting go is difficult, but rewards come from it. I’m almost 80 and still have to experience this. I truly find your videos meaningful🌸
Wow, thats amazing, to be almost 80 and still enjoying biblical womanhood content from our dearest Nikki. That alone is inspiring
Hi,
Just a text to say my kids left home when I was 40 & 44 years old. I’m now in my sixties and am a grandmother of 5.
Becoming a grandmother has been the most special time of my life. A second golden age with young children. Have faith that motherhood never ends and move on toward that second golden era.
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That’s lovely! 🥰
It is very hard to parent young adult children because there is a fine line you have to walk to let them learn how to make their own wise decision. Letting go of an only son is very hard. It was for me. They struggle with being independent and still needing their mom. Keep communication open. Just when you least expect it they will come back home with all the energy and enthusiasm they have for life because they still need you. He will always need you.
My husband suddenly passed away in 2014. All three of my children have moved out. They are all close in age so it seems it all happened in the same season. Like all moms, I have regrets. I wish I could go back. But like you said we can't. However, in prayer some time ago, I felt that the Lord showed me that our children need us and our prayers in every stage of their lives. So we live in the moment and use that regret to motivate us to be better in whatever way they need us in their current stage of life. In time, our children will call us on the phone to tell us that they are beginning to realize that we were the best mothers to them, they love us and are so thankful for how they were raised. I got that phone call a few months ago, and also to let me know that I will be a grandmother in October. In this transition, I pray that God will give me the strength to show love and grace while functioning within healthy boundaries. Praying for you also.
Hi Nikki! This weekend my husband and I moved out of our house in Illinois. We have living there for 35 years. Let me tell you it was so hard. It was brutal emptying our basement., giving away furniture and finally signing papers to finalize the sale of our property. I have felt that sadness you are feeling now. I think we mother know in our hearts that letting go is part of being a mother. We give our children wings to fly. We give our sons to the world to be men. We give our daughters to the world tone women. There is no such thing as a perfect mother. ❤ We did our best. Moving forward now one step at a time with God’s help.
I had 3 sons who are all grown now! It was hardest by far when the eldest left first for college and even more so when he studied in Argentina and Spain. It will never be the same but you will learn to treasure those times you spend with each other! I had been a stay at home Mother but suffered Empty nest and got a part time job in our little village post office in Lancaster County which I kept for about 6 years when I was better able to deal with my feelings! A phone call means so much! He will be the man you have raised him to be and will appreciate all you have done for him! Now that I am in my Seventies and they are in their 30’s and forties with their own adult children ,they watch over me and do so much for me! You are a wonderful Mother and will be blessed in the years ahead! ❤
Aww...so beautiful and full of hope❤
Hi!
It has been some time since I don't go by your house like I call it when I watch your videos. I love the mural at the living room! I can't believe your son is 18! I used to watch since you were at your other house! They were all little! It is a time of transition for you, and for your whole family. He is trying his wings! One great thing is that he has the courage to do it! You both have done a great job! Your hubby is also letting go of his little man! Just keep in touch and share as many moments as possible. You are still part of his new adventure! He will need encouragement as he flies! I know you will be there for him! New wonderful experiences are coming for all of you! Keep the faith and trust in God! Blessings!
I can completely relate. My oldest just turned 19 in April. He graduated in May. We have had a really rough time with our relationship. He moved out a few weeks ago. It has been extremely difficult for me. There are so many times I’ve questioned if k did enough. This mixed with the feeling of being displaced somehow. It is a strange feeling. I am trying to give this to God. I have 3 other children ages 16,17, and 18. They all need me to be my best person right now so I have to push through. Regardless, God is good and HE know exactly how to take care of my son even though he’s no longer under my wing or protection.
I so understand what you're feeling! This year has changed everything for me. I went through severe work burnout that resulted in an early retirement for the sake of my mental and physical health, moving to a new home, and then both of my children getting an apartment together for a few months until my baby gets married. My world has been turned upside-down.
What has sustained me through this time is the God who promised to never leave me, as well as the knowledge that I spent the best years of my life giving everything I had to the job of mothering. Our family is close-knit, and I hope to continue that as we add a son-in-law in a little over a month. My role as mother has already changed, as I learn to respect the adults my children have become.
But I have to be honest - Sometimes it's hard on a mom's heart. And I think that's normal.
Nikki, this was the most poignant, bittersweet, and thought-provoking video you have ever done. Thank you.
I remember someone told me something wise….. The best thing a man can do for his children is to love their mother . A quote from Abraham Lincoln
Life gives us many seasons. Sometimes, it's bittersweet to move into a new season. But know that a new season has its own joys and opportunities. God bless you as you change into this new season ❤ and miss your son.
It’s been about 4 years since my son moved to Arizona( we are in Georgia) and my daughter went to college. I had a very hard time with this big change. Our house is so quiet now. We don’t get to see our son as much since he is so far, but we do call and FaceTime. We get to see our daughter about once a month. She graduates this year and will starting her career as a teacher. We are so proud of our kids, but miss them so.I know how it hurts. We pour so much of ourselves into our children as mothers. You are right about having your husband for strength. I don’t know what I would do without mine. I’ll be praying for you.
That's what we raise our children to do....to stand on their own two feet?with anticipation for the life they will create for themselves.
There's a quote that says "There are two gifts we give our children. One is roots,the other is wings-author unknown"
I really understand you, as my son is in the last year of High School.
One of my best friends, who is older than me and went through this time before, told me a beautiful advice: “Don’t focuse on the past, on those sweet days of childhood. Enjoy and share new moments. They are different, but special as well.
Sending you tons of hugs 💕💕
Hello the situation with your son. I’ve been there 3 times, with 2 adults left at home. It is a process and we have to realize that they are with us for a time then they grow wings and need to fly on their own. Thank God that he has a praying mom. And btw I used to watch you channel way back when before you moved into your current home. You have transformed that home and have made it so bright and airy! It looks fabulous.
Keep trusting in God for all of your plans, He will direct your path and will open doors that no man can shut. Stay blessed
My 18 year old just went off to college, I’m keeping myself very busy cleaning out closets etc. I feel like I don’t want to allow my mind too much quiet because the sadness will take over.
I understand what you are going through. I have 4 adult children now. It was hard when they first left home. My daughter who is in college was back this summer and I realized that it was probably the last time she would live with us. A wonderful thing about it all has been that I have new relationships with my adult children as they have become my friends. I have also felt proud of them for their accomplishments on the adult world. This has been my reward! I wish you the best in this transition.
May your heart feel lighter.
My friend. I am so sorry for what you are going through. My one and only child left the home and my former spouse has passed and two of my closest friends are passed away and I feel so alone. It has been extremely difficult. My heart goes out to you. It will take some time but you will get to a better frame of mind. Prayer definitely helps and you are in my prayers. We are all here for you , my friend. Blessings - Judith 🎭🎤
Oh my, my only child just left for her second year. Last year was, well, terrible. This year was a bit easier to let her go back to school. There are some wonderful parts of parenting young adults. I enjoy letting many things go and being the friend more than in the past. Just know that what you are feeling is normal ❤️
Oh Nikki, it does get easier. My oldest son is now a junior in college. My second child (daughter) graduates this year. The hardest day was actually when I came home from dropping him off and looked at his empty room. I miss my son everyday he’s away at school, but we text and FaceTime and he talks and talks which is such a wonderful gift as a mom. Big hugs! 💕💕
I understand so well, Nikki. We have three, now grown, kids. On the same weekend our newly-married daughter and her husband moved out of state for graduate school and one of our sons moved away to college. Again, the same weekend! My husband, younger son and I stood on the driveway numb, not knowing what to do next. It was to be our new normal. Beautiful blessings awaited, but it was a season of adjustment. We are now empty nesters with seven grandchildren and love our season of life. God’s grace provides in each season. God bless you!
I think I will revisit this video on those hard parenting days. I have a 2 year old. Time passes by so fast and so slow at the same time for me some days. I’ll be more mindful about cherishing it.
Hello Nikki l really feel your pain it is incredibly hard when our first child leaves home. I had 3 children all married now , and 5 Grandchildren. It bought it all back as you were talking about it , so very hard to let them go. The Lord will help help you, l will be praying for you. Loved little Lady snuggling up to you, she loves you so much. Take care Nikki.❤❤
Aww, this brought back so many memories for me. I remember when my oldest son was getting ready to leave for college and I started to cry as I hugged him goodbye. Then my daughter moved out as soon as she turned 18 even before graduating from High School, that broke my heart. But she did graduate, and we have a good relationship today. It's funny my youngest son had to move back for a while, and we were ready to have an empty nest when he was able to afford to move back out. Our mama hearts go through so much. I pray so much for my kids and now grandkids! And I agree it's wonderful to have the support of your husband, and that he is a godly man.
I resonate so deeply with you. Children growing up and moving on is so difficult. I feel my 40’s were a constant struggle to let go of my children as they grew up and graduated from high school, moving onto college. I struggle still, my purpose has changed, my life has changed. I pray each day that God would show me what His purpose is now for my life. My daughter is 21 and just got married this year, my son is 23 and will be me moving out of the state soon. I struggle every day. Thank you for addressing this and sharing. Such a sensitive time, praying for you ❤
Rest assured that the love and lessons you shared with your son will be with him always. He will always be your son. Having been through this when my son went to college I can say that our relationship grew with this change. I was blessed to witness him grow into an incredible human being and experience the joy of a relationship on a new level which is still just awesome as the one we had when he lived in our home. Give yourself Grace at this time and know that God has you, your son and that special relationship in His hands always.🙏
Don't give his room away. He'll be back. Moving out at 18 isn't usually permanent.
AMEN! So true!
he will be back but it is ok to let one of the girls have his room but just let him know he is welcome home ...make home FUN like you always do 😊 ... Sunday meals😊 and game night... Meals bring boys HOME😂😅😂
a garage "tiny" apartment "might" work. Just an idea...many goooood things will happen ...he will ❤appreciate you MORE for
for the 😊Clean/LOVING home
the😊 warm 😊delicious meals
the clean😊 SMELLS you provided 😊 Food and supplies/t-paper and so on always being avalible😊HUGS!!! and many many many more things...
yes pray and give thanks 😊
Hello Nikki ❤. This brings me right back to the video you made using my poem, Silence. I just had a conversation with my first born today regarding this season of life. I told her there is so much on “what to expect when you are expecting,” but no real talk about this season of life. Which I am now referring to the Lost Years…. Because I find myself lost most days as to what I should be doing. Having a purpose each day is harder for me to find.
Number one piece of advice I can give to women who are a wife/mother is don’t let the titles take away from who you are at your core. On day you have to meet “her” again. She will play a vital role in keeping you together.
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Hello Nikki, What a milestone in your parenting journey. Our first child left our home when she married at almost 24; our second daughter is engaged now at 28. With 7 children total, we probably won’t be empty nesters until about 67 or 68.
The Lord has an individual plan for each of us; we must hear His promptings minute by minute and obey.
Our kids growing up is bittersweet
We just moved our youngest into his dorm at college. 😢 Such a bittersweet time. Onto a new phase now of being empty nesters. 😊
It's hard I'm sure to see your son move out on his own. As you have said you and Jorge have raised him in the love of the Lord. I pray God's love peace and blessings for you and your family.
This made me cry...I have a 16 and 20 year old boy at home still and I'm going to love them more and appreciate them more...time flies and soon they will be moving on with life❤
I can relate to all the emotion I hear in your voice. I felt unsettled for so long after my eldest two moved out. My third is living overseas and will be moving back, but I know much will have shifted during her time of independence. Prayer is my lifeline with these adult children. I semi-joke that there should be fewer parenting the younger years books and more parenting teens and young adults. My best advice, don't hold in the emotions. Feel the feels and release them. It is a new season for everyone. God bless your journey.
I agree. So many are uncomfortable with simply feeling feelings 🌹
Going through the motions until you realize the scenery around you has changed. And you realize you have been moving forward all along - heartache and all. Blessings to you in this phase of motherhood.
I kind of went through a hard year last year ... Our oldest turned 18, our second turned 16, my cat passed unexpectedly, etc etc and so on....
But then I reached a point where I had to let go of my sadness and embrace the sweet joy. And the boy, drawing near to 19, still lives here at home, he is happy and content to stay and I am enjoying his choice more than I even imagined. I don't think his sister who is going to be 17 has any plans to leave either.
You are so right, the best gift you can give your children is parents who love each other.
Love the idea of repurposing the little house! We have a shed that is for house overflow storage as we renovated our house, and I often think how adorable it would be to make a little corner of that space a retreat.
Love your dress! The door painted a darker color than the wall is "chef's kiss!" It really finishes the space in that shot.
I understand your pain Nikki. I have been in your shoes, ive had my 4 children leave the next. Im now 70 and there is still a little hole in my heart when i enter the empty tidy rooms. I now treasure their phone calls, and texts, get so excited when they visit, and plan activities for myself to cheer me up when they go again. You have a wonderful husband and you are still so young. ❤
Hey!
I haven't watched you in a while, but I'm glad this popped up!
Praying for you and your family!
Oh Nikki...❤ That empty space can be so hard to get used to. The chair by the dinner table, the hook in the bathroom where he used to have his towel, the room that no longer has his belongings, places where he used to leave his things... all reminding you that life has changed and his place is now somewhere else. A painful but necessary part of life... and at the same time so beautiful and joyous to see them grow as it is meant to be. It is so good to be close to our Heavenly Fathers heart in these times when our emotions can be unbearable. Hugs and blessings, dear Nikki❤
I felt the ache of your mama heart and it brought back the feelings of when my son, also first born, left for college. We also have one daughter, who unfortunately for her lol, we heaped all our love and attention on after our son left. I missed him so much but I can tell you, you will adjust to the new normal. Boys love their mamas and I had to be so brave and never let him see me cry when he came home for a visit and had to leave because I didn’t want him to worry about me. He’s now 33, married with 6 year old triplets and still calls me at least 3 times a week. I’m sorry this is so long but the pain in your voice was so evident I wanted you to know you’re not alone in these feelings. Keep praying for him and yourself. God bless you.
I have 3 kids, my son and my 2 daughters. I'm an empty nester. God is good. I have been embracing this time. It was hard at first. But...that's what we do...train up a child in the way....❤. Love and prayers for ALL of you❤
Motherhood brings us so many hills, valleys, curves and straight paths from the conception of our children to watching them begin their journeys of life separate from us. The stages of growth we go through raising our children is emotionally rewarding yet difficult. You, and every mother here have an inner strength you forget about at times, but you will get through them, find the joy in those leaving the nest though it’s one of the saddest aspects of our journey with them. God is with us and with them as we all grow from this new stage.
Your video is so beautiful and my words will not honour your video. We have to remember that each day is precious and each day have a purpose with our loves one. My dauthers are 13 and 11, but I already feel this urgence to share each time with them. And to provide good advices in order to help to makes the right choices. You make me cry.
Nikki, I can relate. My daughter is nearly 18 and it's been a challenging year for sure. I completely agree how hard it is to let go, and how it just feels like I have no idea what I am doing. I too, greatly lean on the strength and wisdom of my husband. I can hear your pain in your voice. You are not alone in this struggle.
Thank you for sharing this vulnerable part of your life, Nikki. I have much younger kids than you but am also going through that phase of change and seeing them grow older as my 4 year old will be going to preschool this year. It’s SUCH an emotional time! Praying that you have peace and comfort as you adjust to the new, older years with your son!
I really felt the emotions in this video. My kids are young (8, 6, 1) but pray that I'm preparing them for the day they no longer rely on me. At the same time I'm holding on to each sweet milestone. Thanks for sharing your parenting journey.
I hear the pain in your voice Nikki. The sound of a mothers cried out voice, it makes me want to cry because my babies are growing up so fast and I realize my time at home with them is so short!😭
My hard this summer was loosing my sweet father to Pancan. He was only 56 and I held his hand till he took Jesus’s hand, my heart is broken that my children ages 9 and 6 won’t get to make more memories with him. 😢 life on this side of heaven is just sad! Oh we long for the day when we are finally home, all is well at last! 🫂
I remember when my first born moved out, it's what we as parents guide our children to do,move on. To me it is growing pains,they are growing and need to fly from the nest. She is now 40,my other daughter is 37. Both are married and have children,which makes us grandparents,new season. God bless you in all the seasons of life
Oh Nikki, I feel your heart and all the emotions that come with letting go of our children. It's a huge life transition. It takes a lot of time to digest all the things. And I have learned, that we never really stop digesting the passing of time and the deep love of being a mother. I am a mom of a 34 year old daughter and a 30 year old married son. They are happy and healthy and living good lives. This makes me so happy, but the longing for them is always there. There are many days that I wonder who I am without them. That's a mother's heart and deep love. I press forward like you are doing and that is healthy. Please know you are not alone. I am here. Sending all my love. Darby
This is tough! I have a junior in college and a senior in HS. When my oldest left for college, I cried when we left her dorm room after getting her all moved in. I cried myself to sleep that night, in the airport coming home and for days after. Seeing her empty room and her not being there was the hardest for me. My youngest went BTS this past Monday and I was pretty emotional about it. I'm definitely worried when she leaves for college this summer. As a SAHM of 20 years, this chapter is about to close and I'm already feeling lost. I think if I had a career and more of a purpose going forward, that would help. I joined a FB group for Empty Nesters. I find that supportive. I'm taking this school year to get my ducks in a row so that I'm not left feeling lost. Chin up Erica. Our feelings are normal and valid. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the space to grieve. It really is a loss. Thanks for being vulnerable. X's, Leslie
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! I am in the early stages of this process. I am already feeling the pains of the change that is coming. I love that you said, I hope it was enough. That was such a comfort to me. I often look back and wish I could do better or different but enough is all we need from each other. God is faithful to provide for our needs perfectly. You have encouraged me to keep praying for my children!
Nikki, I wish I could give you a big hug! Our youngest just left for college last week. I do think the oldest is the hardest because it is such a drastic change from the Family unit you were used to. I remember feeling a sort of grief/sadness when she left. She went to a military Academy so it was even harder because we couldn’t talk to her. I do want to tell you, though as they leave, your relationship will grow and develop, and as it was for my daughter, we have developed a deepening friendship that was not possible when I was parenting her when she lived at home. Sending you big hugs and prayers to feel better.
Thank you for this video. This adjustment of a firstborn son going away to college is very painful. I am feeling and thinking all these same things!
Already 1:18 in and already tears welling up! I have a senior in high school. I know in my head that this is the season of life but try telling my heart this… we want our children to go off and fly but yikes it’s sooo hard! I love my sons so much and it is very hard to go through this season in life. I am praying for your Mommas heart!
Oh Nikkie, I have two boys of my own and this makes my heart beam and ache all at the same time. My oldest is starting JK next week, so we are on opposite ends of the spectrum. But I know in a few blinks of an eye I will be in your shoes.
May God bless your boy as he begins this next chapter and may your heart be protected from worry and anxious thoughts.
Nikki, I sympathize with you so much. One year ago, my only son left us in France to return to Canada to study. It has been a difficult year, but we are fortunate to have computers to let us chat and see each other. My dad immigrated to Canada, and in those days, even phone was too expensive to use regularly. My thoughts and prayers are with you, one mum to another. Big hugs!
Your children are not your children.
They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For thir souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness.
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.
Khalil Gibran
Beautiful ❤
Thank you for sharing 😢❤
As your son finishes school mine is just beginning! He turned 5 this year and just started Kindergarten this week. ❤ His excitement and joy about school is giving me all the love and happiness. My daughter also started 3rd grade this year which is also so crazy to me, they’re both in school together now. I kept telling my son before school started that it’s his last few days of early childhood ever and it makes me sad to see those years gone by already but so excited for what’s to come! Much love to you during this transition time. ❤❤
You are going to make me cry I’m almost 20 weeks pregnant with my third son my other two are six and eight and I cherish all this time I get with them and I’m aware of how fleeting this time is💙💙💙 thinking of you during this change 💙
Nikki, thank you for this special chat. I am so inspired by you as a wife and mother. My daughter has started high school this year. I am surprised at how I am struggling with this. I know she will encounter many new situations and I pray that her Dad and I have equipped her with wisdom. I know it's not the same as going to college, but I do know that these four years will go by so quickly. I will keep you and your family in my prayers as you enter this new chapter.
Dear Nikki, I can almost not fathom God’s Goodness in delivering this message to me today! His Love never fails to amaze me. Thank you for this video/message today as I quit my job this morning at 9:00 after working there for 3 and a 1/2 years. I know it was the right decision because immediately my peace returned. I am so thankful for my husband’s support & love. We are both thrilled I have returned home to my most important and God-given role. Letting go and entering a new stage is a little scary but also kind of exciting. I will include you in my prayers as I pray about all this. I believe it will be even important right now to lean into Him, our loving Father, and His Word. God bless.💕☺️~S
Dearest Nikki❤ I feel your pain - my oldest daughter moved out 4 years ago and I have one more at home and I so cherish her and hope she Will stay 2 years more..... thankfully I speak on the phone with my eldest many times a week. Your sweet little pup looks sooo eager for some salad ❤❤ so adorable - thank you for sharing❤❤
Praying for the Lord to comfort your spirit, Nikki❤🙏🏻🕊
My heart hurts for you. Thank you for all that you have shared with us over the years Will be praying for you and your family. ❤
I watched this out of curiosity. I have 2 sons age 6 & 8 years old. I love them with all of my heart. I also have a special needs daughter who will never leave us, & I do wish she had the opportunities to grow up & find a fulfilling life outside of us. But of course we will do all that we can to provide the best life for her possible. I know the days will come when I have to let my boys “go” into the world to create their own stories. I hope I will have taught them enough that they are prepared. But it will be heartbreaking to let go of my babies.. I will definitely pray for your son & your mama heart in this new chapter! Thank you for sharing your heart 💜
I can feel the pain in your voice. I do not have children but I was a pivotal role in helping to raise my siblings. It was so hard for me to move out and start my own life when I was 19, but I knew I had to. So that if one day they needed me again I could be there to help them, once more as an adult. I never knew what those feelings were until watching this video. I’m 34 now but all that hard work has paid off. It is hard now but it will get easier over time. The worry never quite goes away but you will learn to manage your feelings better over time. I’m sure if God had blessed me with my own children I would be a mess too. Wishing you all the best and God bless.❤
The empty nest beginnings was hard on me too. It does get better with time though. Our children always need us and still love us even when they don't live with us. Thankfully we have cute little puppies to snuggle us through the day and to give us someone to nurture. I hope that you will be feeling more back to yourself very soon. ♥
I lost my best friend and same time going throuh pre meno pause so it’s been a different summer for me too but i have 5 wonderful children to live for and other friends plus above all my God. He will sustain us . Sending my love and will keep you in my prayers. Thank you for all your videos. Your personality has really touch my heart ❤
This video was beautiful honey, from beginning to end. In a time where so many young women with kids are so self absorbed, your love for your family shines. You work hard for your family, and you love the Lord ♡ Thank you for sharing your vulnerability as a mother with us .
I recently experienced overwhelming feelings of loss from having to let go. Part of it felt like fear. Some parts felt like sadness. What has helped me is getting into nature. For me that is sailing but I also find peace in forested areas , lakes, and mountains. You may try getting out into nature for a few hours to see if this works for you. I wish you peace. It will come.
So I’ve never commented on one of your videos, but I just have to comment on this video because I could feel your emotions through the video. Absolutely!I also had my son move out this year actually he graduated early so right before he turned 18 he moved to TX. Three weeks after he turned 18 he got married. I’ve never went through anything like it in my life. It’s just such an, emotional raw feeling and absolutely the best thing you can do is be on your knees. I pray that the Lord will comfort you through and through during this time. For me during my process of letting go I clung to Abba with everything and he comforted me so much and answered many prayers during the marriage process. 🙏😭
I understand, dearest Nikki. My first child, I felt so distraught as I did with my 3 others. It’s a wonderful season to cling to the Lord, for He truly understands❤
Nikki, everything you feel is normal ♡ Just know that it gets easier with time. We keep growing, just like our kids do. Aren't you glad your little Lady is there to cheer you with her sweet little ways? (The past 18 months have seen every "rug" in my life pulled out from under me. But it's not my first rodeo, so I know to just keep plodding along, trying to trust that God has a plan for me.) 🕊
We have twins so the pain when they leave for college one day is going to be doubled. My hope is, when the time comes, that I raised two good mens who can take care of themselves.
I don’t have twins but we are blended and both of my sons just turned freshman. So I share your sentiment. Double the pain.
My son started pre K and each passing year I feel like I'm letting go. The constant pull of grief and joy is ever present. A beautiful video. Thinking of you during this time. No doubt you're sending an honorable and wonderful man into a world that needs more. ❤
Yes, parents loving each other is the greatest they can give to their children. ❤
❤❤❤ I’m right there with you Nikki 🙏🏼 praying we feel better 💐 soon. I’m sure we did our best with God always by our side 🥹
(HUGS) After having all four of our children grow up and leave, I feel for you. I cried and mourned each leaving. They don't teach us much about this phase of children growing up. I feel that having adult children is harder than toddlers!!
Praise the Lord! You have glorified God in loving your husband and raising your son. I relate to your pain as I have gone through this twice. Our third son will turn 18 next month and we have three daughters after him. Letting go is very hard. “The pain I feel now was the happiness I had before. That’s the deal.” C.S. Lewis
What an amazing quote. Thank you.
I’m in the early season of parenthood. My eldest is 4 and my mind keeps racing to all the things we will go thru,. I pray to be more intentional every day and not become so overwhelmed in what will be but on what is.
It was my son's first day of kindergarten today and I felt surprisingly devastated. He is our oldest and I homeschooled for preschool so it's the first time we haven't all been together and it felt like a piece of me was missing all day. I can't seem to stop crying 😭
Nikki, I pray you embrace Gods strength and comfort and knowing that God will guide and lead your son. It will be an adjustment and lots of emotions so very understandable what you are feeling. I’m so glad you have a wonderful Christ following family to be supportive.
We have lost our beautiful Lucy Pup 🐶 ❤ although she wasn’t a pup that’s what we have always called her. She was 19 years of and we have had her for 17-1/2 years and it had been extremely emotional here at our home.
Been through the season of college, graduating from college, moving away. It’s so hard to let your bird leave the nest. 💕
Hi Nikki,
Beautiful & peaceful video as always Nikki. With my Father's rescent passing, there is a lot we don't know until we are in the moment. Brings comfort to know that God knows our future and equips us accordingly. Your golden nugget was praying too when you were speaking about praying for your Son. Lady is a gift. It made my day and made me laugh. You are good Mom Nikki. God bless.
Thanks for the encouragement. My son is only 6 and his birthday is this week. I started homeschooling him this week and for some reason it seems overwhelming but I am remembering to enjoy while he’s this little even through the growing pains. Also reminding me to get dressed and face the day! ❤
My son (the youngest of our six children) turned 18, graduated high school, and moved out within a two week period of time. It was so hard. All of the children moving was hard, but his leaving made me feel like I lost my role as mother. The adjustment took some time. I wish I could give you a hug.
Nikki, a hug to you, one mama to another. My two eldest are off to university again, and our baby is a senior this year. Transitioning from full time mama and care giver, to the creative, vibrant, individual I also am, has been emotional and rewarding. It's like going back to a me I knew before my children, but all the love, wisdom, and character life has given me.
Remember to stop and praise yourself for raising a child to adulthood! Ti's no small feat!😊
Hugs and prayers for you, Nikki. It's going to be okay. You'll see. ♥
Our fourth and last child has started college. My husband or son makes the 45 to an hour drive to take her to the campus. She has been identified with autism level 1, but she has a goal and determination. Yes, I, too, felt the same with all four children. Two are now married and have children of their own. Although they have their own lives, I still celebrate and mourn with them. They will always have my heart and my prayers. Beautifully stated, Nikki!
Oh darling, I really want to give you a big hug. I will be praying for you and your son
I loved raising my children, loved each age. I guess I am different than most as I felt excitement and anticipation when my children went on to college. Yes, I missed them, but I wanted to see how they would grow, who they finally became. My children are now 40 and 38, families of their own. I love who my children are, crazy about my grandchildren and we are in each other’s lives. A rich family.
Prayers for you Nikki.
I feel your pain. You guys have done a great job and your son Is now in the world making his mark. No perfection here from any sides and there will be errors. But we must remember this is all part of growing. You will see him and will be part of his adventures. How fun!