Thank you! I tend to get anxious and over share or just talk too much. About to go to a party to meet folks in our new town and so nervous. Trying to remember to keep quiet and ask questions that start with or include the word “you”. To review what they say out loud on my own words to see if I understand them fully… etc.
I want to be heard more so then to get advice. I had a friend that never interrupted or tried giving advice when I would want to vent about something. I sure do miss her, she passed away Dec 17, 2019. My dad always listened to, he never gave advice, he to passed away Jan 1, 2015. It's hard to find or have a good listener to listen to you. Not many people can do that. I'm one that's at fault. I always try to give advice and I need to stop doing that. I want to fix everyone. I know I shouldn't do that. It's not a good habit. Im often told by my significant other "I don't want any feedback on what I'm telling you". I need to stop doing that but I forget a lot of times to just keep listening.
I hear you Tina- and I agree if you're wanting to be more active in the conversation it's hard to refrain from giving advice. Hopefully the validation I explained will give you another way to be helpful :) Thanks for watching!
Ditto, and I want to be heard. I want advice if it's actually helpful/ realistic. Thank you so much for this! Learning that being silent in conversations might trigger a childhood pain of not being heard - wow! I'm going to remember that and have compassion for myself if it happens in the future. Might there be a way to work through being triggered in this way? Thank you again! 🙌🏿💕🌿
Thank you! I tend to get anxious and over share or just talk too much. About to go to a party to meet folks in our new town and so nervous. Trying to remember to keep quiet and ask questions that start with or include the word “you”. To review what they say out loud on my own words to see if I understand them fully… etc.
Creating a mantra to stay to yourself silently can be helpful too - like I can handle this, it’s okay to be quiet, etc.
Yes I need to be heard. If I want advise I will ask for it.
Yes! And it’s totally okay to say that so the other person knows what you need. 😄
I want to be heard more so then to get advice. I had a friend that never interrupted or tried giving advice when I would want to vent about something. I sure do miss her, she passed away Dec 17, 2019. My dad always listened to, he never gave advice, he to passed away Jan 1, 2015. It's hard to find or have a good listener to listen to you. Not many people can do that. I'm one that's at fault. I always try to give advice and I need to stop doing that. I want to fix everyone. I know I shouldn't do that. It's not a good habit. Im often told by my significant other "I don't want any feedback on what I'm telling you". I need to stop doing that but I forget a lot of times to just keep listening.
I hear you Tina- and I agree if you're wanting to be more active in the conversation it's hard to refrain from giving advice. Hopefully the validation I explained will give you another way to be helpful :) Thanks for watching!
@@MichelleFarrismft Thank you I'm going to work on it.
@@tinaencinas8830 That's great Tina!!
Thank you
This should be training in many places let's start an empire
@@Ali76564 thank you!
Excellent information 👌
Thanks Steve! I really appreciate that!
Ditto, and I want to be heard. I want advice if it's actually helpful/ realistic. Thank you so much for this! Learning that being silent in conversations might trigger a childhood pain of not being heard - wow! I'm going to remember that and have compassion for myself if it happens in the future. Might there be a way to work through being triggered in this way? Thank you again! 🙌🏿💕🌿
Thanks so much for watching. I think this video will help :) ruclips.net/video/3bIFA7agF9A/видео.html
How to communicate with my avoidant partner effectively can you make a video about this?
This one might help 7 Do's and Don'ts for Loving Someone with Anxiety
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Thank you for the suggestion - I’ll definitely keep this in mind.
@@MichelleFarrismft I'll w8🥰
Id rather be heard but i also want people to speak the truth in love when its needed but i don't like it when people are trying to fix me
Yep, most people do not like being fixed. That’s exactly why I created this video 😀
I am going to use the eye contact..... I don't like looking people in the eyes..
Yeah you can do that that sparingly 😀 hope that helps!
I want to be heard
Yep! I’m with you! Thanks Ann!