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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- (sorry I had to re-upload this!)
my first couple weeks in Copenhagen:
thrift shopping, theme park, job interview, pub with friends, hungover kitchen discussions, hairdye...
= vlog & podcast in 1 lol
sorry I dissapeared for a week - so this is delayed
another video is prepped for next week :)
subscribe if you wanna keep up with the gap year thrills and doubts x
always spamming my socials too
(instagram and TikTok linked in profile bio)
#vlog #copenhagen #copenhagenlife #fashion #vintageshopping #tivoli #hangover #podcast #thoughts
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@lilacswithtea
I had to reupload my video but your comments mean a lot to me so couldn’t let it go to waste ahah i've added it back in along with my reply.
from @lilacswithtea:
I feel you on the thrift store blindness, I definitely think that’s an environment where I get inexplicably eager and unflatteringly loosen my interpretation of myself and have to remind myself when I get home that my personality has enough personality as it is and I’m much more satisfied when I dress in more of a simple, warm, muted moodiness clothing-clothing here perhaps playing a similar role to the ‘content in the background’ you spoke of, to make a bit of an oblique connection!
“You don’t know it’s a good time in the moment”
So true! And related to that, Chopin has a quote about writing music that I think about a lot:
“When one writes it, it seems good, otherwise nothing could be written. Only afterwards reflection comes and rejects or accepts it. Time is the best censor and patience the best teacher.”
And as I understand it, that perspective from later is literally what our brains need to abstract the pattern/type/flavour of emotional reward (what’s being rewarded and why) from the literal events it’s associated with.
To me, the understanding that I appreciate something because it’s soothing or invigorating or grounding or rewarding in some particular way(s) is what makes those moments tangible and satisfying (including and especially with what you talked about with liking a physiological version of one’s self, and ESPECIALLY related to connecting with and sharing those direct physical sensations with another person either generally sharing vibes or more intimately, because otherwise it feels to me like “literally WHAT are we doing??”)
And maybe that clarifying, elucidating effect perspective has is why it’s so fun reflecting on your reflections in these comments-i can be a second viewpoint right now and watch the nice thoughts and abstractions emerge immediately!✨
The poetry would be amazing and I would love to share thoughts/interpretations of that as well! I don’t have TikTok though (because it’s so noisy and doesn’t seem worth it to take the time to find the nice, quiet spots) so it’s up to you whether you like the idea of sharing your writing here :)
Sidenote: waffles are still delicious!🧇😌
from @KlaraLemvigAllan
Yes, I suppose we should be wearing the clothes rather than the clothes wearing us!
Thanks for sharing the quote, its an interesting perspective that kind of reassures me about not having everything figured out or knowing how it will end up - just starting or doing what I want (and like) in the moment is all I can do! (The judgement you spoke about that comes after is therefore always out of my hands anyway)
I suppose the importance of connecting your mind and body is like appreciating both and accepting all corners :)
I don’t blame you for not having tiktok! It can definitely get a bit overwhelming and negative. Do you have instagram? I would love to keep in touch🫶🏼
but otherwise I am hopefully going to include some poetry in the next couple videos anyway x
thank you for taking the effort! our conversation means a lot to me, too🫶🏻
and i've heard 'connecting one's mind and body' before, of course, and not batted an eye, but in the context of this conversation something really bothered me and it took a while to put my finger on it, but i think it's finally settled and worth sharing:
to me, 'mind' and 'body' seem to be referring to static 'things' rather than the dynamic systems which they are. we talked before about greek philosophers naively going directly to the object and to static geometric shapes to understand 'beauty,' thereby simply and completely bypassing the part where one makes meaningful associations and patterns relevant to the observer - the person - and i feel the effect of using the terms 'mind/body' is the same.
the implication for 'body,' therefore, i think is clear in that one should make an effort to reference one's understandings of one's own sensations and ask what was expected to be felt as, visually or haptically, one observes themself or others,
and as far as 'mind,' our modern understanding is that the brain is discretely and literally wired and there is NOT a magical, spiritual space where all parts and all functions mix freely together-so if one wants the sensations directly from one's body into their brainstem to connect with their systems of emotional reward and with their models of understanding of relationships, social systems, etc, then that person would have to consciously recall and associate those understandings until their brain figures out how to overlap them in a way that informs each other nicely and leads to emergence of new understanding and function.
therefore, i think the idea of a "mind" that just "is" clearly undermines the "self" - the conscious agent that needs to be motivated to piece all parts of us together in an interpretive process where there ARE wrong answers - by providing magical thinking that the effort is not needed because some other entity beside the self does it.
and since these self-orienting, self-developing, and self-maintaining systems (through which an individual might feel securely connected and which one can reference, update, and use to inform decisions) can be so easily washed away by fantasies of convenience that externally defined tangibility might be a suitable replacement-
i'm thinking that while i do have instagram, it would be nice to shelter our burgeoning abstractions and models of understandings until this point feels stable, and i feel that poetry just might lead us toward that robust self-containment! :)
i hope you agree and appreciate the quibble, but even if not, as always, i'm grateful for the opportunity to share these kinds of thoughts at all! 🤍
@@lilacswithtea ahh I knew when I said that cliche term that it wasn’t quite what I was going for (the issue with words thrown about in our society and how they can be twisted from psychology or biology etc and probably misused! E.g talks of the ‘subconscious’ and ‘unconscious’ mind)- I suppose I was looking for something to describe the simple goal of looking after both your physical health and mental health since they are so intertwined.
Of course I understand! No worries, happy with whatever👍🏻