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Do not be financially dependent on anyone in old age. Thats the message. Plan your retirement, have your own money till the day you die
im 62 married 33 years and this man tells no lie👍🙏
41 years old and I hear this loud and clear!!!
I am 71 I knew this wss going to happen and prepared my finance plan and I am still highly respected
This is 100% true. I saw this very situation happen to my late dad. It's my prayer that I will never be at the mercy of any of my children or anyone as I grow older in Jesus mighty name
Amen 🙏 😊
Very true , they invite their mothers to their homes and pamper her while you are left home to watch after the livestock/chicken at home if you aren't careful 😂😂😂if she coughs a doctor is called but for you they advice you to take warm water😂😂😂.Men love yourselves.
i love my father to death.. he s 97 now and we all adore him. none of us his children is relying on inheritance. Parents should plan their lives well in order not to rely solely on their chilren at old age but my prayer is for all my independent children to be greater than me. As a parent, my prayer is to leave this world before my children (may we not mourn/weep over our children)- agreed wt u, parents MUST PLAN for their retirement.
Another angle is, is the father there for them at their growing stage. They might be closer to the mother because she is the one that is always there for them.
Their father might have been selflessly busy digging trenches and crushing stones for the family to survive, and, as is in many cases, their mother might be unfortunately withholding that truth from them, very often selfishly so, making them only believe what they see in front of them. This is what has unfortunately befallen many selflessly responsible fathers. The role of the father is very often "forgotten". Man, take care of yourself, because you could become a doormat, or be seen as a burden.
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I wish I could copy paste this comment of yours bro 😅 🙏
Call it sad. Call it annoying. Call it a tragedy. Just make sure you call it a fact too.
This is very very true. Men take this seriously , manage your time well
I am 40 now and this is the best advice i have ever had all my life. Thank you sir
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I'm 37 and I see this as a sign too
I'm 40 now, this is what we call a hurting truth. I came to know about this recently and I have started to prepare for my retirement.
My husband is 65 and I promise you that nothing will change in our household and I will forever love, respect, honour, cherish and support my husband. We come a long way.God is our source of life.
Amen oooh.
You are a wife, yur dimension of seeing it is biased;it's meant for man
@@ExsonMatambudza-xx5xj I am a wife I agree but believe you me I have seen this happening to my uncle and I always tell my children that my husband now comes first because they no longer depend on me. I am left with my husband, they will be living their lives with their families and I knew this man before them. I am still praying that I stay that way.
This comment reflects the reality of normal functioning families that have values which fostered deep love care and respect for one another- as opposed to this proud selfishness depicted in this video. Unless the good Dr is trying to sell a book, don’t buy is counsel.
Isn’t it normal that as people grow older they become independent? How comes some families remain close knit regardless of these changes? I know rich lonely people that still need familial love and care. If you don’t build deep lasting relationships with your people, you can have all the money in the world and still be poor.
@@anotherintrospekt6596 😂😂😂😂. We get old too quickly and wise too late. Time is an impartial judge. Put your ears to the ground, interview old men privately. Take it as a research project and get back to me.
This man is saying the truth. Not in all marriages, but you stand a higher risk if you don’t plan for your old age in the family.
Build a relationship that's based on natural respect,not fear
@@sophon238Do men without money or providing for the family gets respected?
@@Michaelbrume9 no. A man has to work hard for his family.
"They are thinking you'll die before them."Sir, I am 25 years old and these words scare me!
@Namanda425 😮😂 you're the one who gave me the big laugh!!! @25??? You're just starting your life journey 😅😅😅😅!!!
@@user-ho2qt1qh5v I was just kidding,😂😂😂.And yes,in Islam one's life starts at 10. A girl's life starts as soon as her menses begin.
They are 100% true, those girls you see telling you "love love", they become snakes later when you age. Never put any wealth in a woman.
This is an eye & mind opener to me @30. May God give you Dr. Charles Apoki more knowledge, understanding and wisdom.
Sound advice devoid of sentiments and emotion...most times love and respect shown to a man are a consequence of his financial stability and independence. Nothing is unconditional.
This is super true and sad we dont learn this until we get older. My uncle was 72 and had a construction business. He fell off a roof and was in the hospital. He was in a coma and then came out the coma recovering. His 3 daughters found out and came to the hospital saying he has documents saying he doesnt want to be resuscitated. While my uncle was recovering and talking and asking when can he get out the hospital, the daughters told the nurses not to share his information with any other family but them. They then took him off life support and he died 3 days later because he had no food or water through the tube any more. The daughters said he lived his life, and that when they were kids he never married their mom and brought up bad things he did. Even though my uncle took care of all three daughters financially and their kids. Buying school clothes and baby sitting. It meant nothing to them what he did in present time. For over 20 years they held a grudge against him and no one knew this whole time while they are taking his money and coming for family visits. Luckily he put everything in a trust and they got none of his belongings. We men are only money and support for these women, even our own daughters and its sad. A life of helping people and they throw you away and try to unalive you once you are old and they can get money from you
😮😳 Terrifying and yet, entirely believable.
I'm 66yrs old. I got custody of my 15yr old son from my 1st when she abandend him at our oldest daughters house and she only went to pick up the child support check from the mail. He got arrested with 2 other kids. I raised him till he graduated from hs where he played QB one yr, then studied computers. After he graduated hs he went to work in that field. I then got full custody of my 3 of 4 younger kids from my 2nd. I paid for my oldest to go to the culinary school of the arts. I had full custody of my 3rd child(a daughter)from the time she was 11yrs old. She had near perfect attendance till she graduated. She was on the track team her last yr in jr hs, wrestling team freshman hs, swim team soph/jr, and drama club jr/sr, and cowrote and directed and stared in a performance her sr yr. I had gotten full custody of my youngest(son) when my daughter was 14yrs old.
Even though my exes "abandend our kids, in the end they have divorced themselves from me and have chosen to chase after their moms. They have forgiven their moms(as I have taught them to), but they have chosen to believe the poison they have been told about me. Only good thing is they don't come to me for "needs". They are otherwise independant . Maybe cuz they also believe that I am broke still cuz even with full custody, I was still forced to pay child support(CA law). They don't call or visit, so I know they're ok. I just tell myself that I did good cuz they are independant and not codepentant of me.
I just live my life as comfortable and peacefully as I can(me and my dog). I still work, and have my hobbies. No wife, no kids, no problems. MGTOW.
Please be comforted that you did your best for them. Join a good fellowship. Find a little good you can contribute to your society.
One with God is a majority. I can feel your pain.
You are a good man brother, you did a good job and now you can rest easy knowing you did and please yourself - it's YOUR time. 👌👏
Sir, you at a hero, providing all the fundamentals for your children. Be proud that they're not a burden to you nor society. Congratulations🎉
Similar story for me. I sacrificed so much and the girls all turned their backs on me the moment they had a boy they could move in with. They come back to me when they get divorced then leave. I feel you sir.
@@DrCharlesApoki One time I took the kids to see the Dodgers. I was approached by a man who asked if we needed tickets. He then spoke to the man at the turnstyle entrance, came back and told us to follow him only, just say thank you as we entered. He led us into the lodge level. He then instructed me GOD 1st, then my kids, then me.
Another time I was sold tickets by some guy as we entered from the parking lot. I was suspicious of the tickets cuz they looked different than usual. We ended up seated directly behind the dugout. One of the players came out, gave my son a baseball(he was around 5yrs old) and immediately threw it onto the field. The player retrieved it and returned it to my son. My kids were filmed by the camera crew and appeared on the jumbotron. Great time was had by all.
Only time I ever went to the stadium alone, it was the playoffs. I was given a free ticket from a sox fan. Got to see the Dodgers win.
As an Arab watching you & to make this very Clear as a Husband a father I trust what you are saying is Very much the Fact of many of the Families regardless of Culture or Faith ..
Sometimes the Mother is unaware of her extended Protection in Grooming our Children it's not necessarily that she's intentionally doing so it's because of her Protection and Mother's love
While & our Deciplinary attitude just as our Fathers did is seen to be tough which as Being young and immature creates Divisions within the Surrounding....
However We are indeed living in another Century of Time ...
Those Beautiful days of our Father's & Mother's have gone when the definition of union & Family was intact When Fathers had their place and Mother's knew their Boundaries....
Vulnerability will come with no doubt Even if we have enough to look after ourselves this will did not only happen to us even those before us ....
All my Love & Respect to you for this Courageous Clip....
I really appreciate your perspective sir.
@@DrCharlesApoki Doctor..
I wish to know from which part of Africa are you ?? I'm having this Admiration for our African People learning about their Culture and Traditions they are the Wonderful people of God ..!!!
I think he's from eastern Nigeria...@@jetstreams2986
You are right Sir 👍, I'm 23 years old and I'm already planning on how to build several businesses and investments of my own, I don't want to work for the government, I crave independence, thanks for the video sir
The Solomon of our time. Remain Mightily Blessed as you keep being a mighty blessing to the menfolk while ageing gracefully.
Nice video sir , I am 30 years old man but I notice some of the things you said in my own family already thank you for the eye opening and motivation words remain bless 👍
I told my kids they not getting anything unless they work for it . I refuse to give kids all of it
The passing of one of the people I looked up to was a lesson to me.
They gave their all but died alone with no help or caretaker around.
All what you said in this video is true I'm 57years now but I'm experiencing what you have just said I'm vulnerable if i don't have money i come second to their mother thank you God bless you and give you wisdom
This is a fact,never totally depend on anyone but THE FATHER, certainly HE will never let us down.
Strong topic my brother, personally I tell everyone I care this because it is true... especially single parents who think that their children will be around because they took care of them most of their lives,this is a recipe for disaster.
This happened to my father ooo, I was the only one who was heloing him ooo. The rest were showing contempt and resentment. I have warned myself. 😢 Men who are suffering for families are at risk.
When I was a teenager, and I lost my dad still In Secondary school, things became though because our senior brother who supposed to manage our father’s legacy and support us, became radical and squandered everything, sold my dads car and one piece of land, I felt bad because I didn’t get any property non of my siblings got anything, our first son sold everything and agree with his pastor to call my late dad a ritualist. But some few years ago, I have been able to buy a very big land very close to where our land that was sold is. I fenced the land and mould a lot of bricks to start my building. 🙏🏻
Very well done! Now the hardest part will be to forgive him from your heart im PRAYER in the mighty name of Jesus.
God will overflow you with His Love
@@Justino-lh2ml I will heed to your words and have forgiven him, thanks so much my dear🙏🏻🙏🏻
May God continue to strengthen you. Amen.
@@abudubalogun4905 Amen, and you too🙏🏻❤️
@@user-jz2tp4sy4tIt can be a good idea to forgive but don't forget and be observant to see if your brother is still the same selfish and inconsiderate person he used to be. That will tell you how you would interact with him.
Am 62 years now and my wife and children are my best friends whom i mould through discipline, moral and respect, living in an ethnic, religious and social harmonious society as a Muslim. ❤❤❤❤❤
Congratulations sir.
They're scared of ur remaining marriages and subsequent progeny to share 😊
@@madhusudan6129nah, they don't care.
Respect our Mothers to support our children’s mothers. !!!!!! Disciplines of moral nature, knowledge of norms and values of cultural and traditional social harmony.
great message. thank you from Kenya
You are so welcome
An alpha man of inestimable glory... A rare gem and an icon to reckon with. Louder doc.
This is splendid. And upholds a 95% truth.
A word from a wise man is sufficient.
Thank you Sir.
Seniorman don shake table wey stand on only three legs ... much respect!
My friend you making me happy, I just came across your channel I was lost and felt alone and I'm 42 years old and you're bringing me back to life..
Yes sir, you are fresh! You too much. Wise man. Your mindset is exactly like mine. You just gained a subscriber
I appreciate that
@@DrCharlesApokiI’m 33
You do know by saying,"For Men only" ,these HARD HEAD women will be the ones viewing this this most..I AGREE with everything you said..Lately i've been saying a FAKE family is better than no fammily.>that's where i am on women..Love them but they truly suck.
lol…. Lord help us … lol
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Well I guess you can't stop us from watching what can a title of a video do
This is the most beautiful gift I have ever had, God bless you more sir.
Build a financial reserve and property is the number one way to have this safety net.
Thank you Dr, this happened to my father, my friends father... When I see so many broke old men on the streets, I feel sad but this wisdom of yours should be shared to all men since young. Thank you. ❤
White Canadian and thank you for crisp take on life.
I'm almost 36 and I'm already on this ramp... getting up to speed 🙏🏼
Any of us men only start to understand what was happening to our fathers when it starts happening to us, often very late, or too late in life, then we start honoring our fathers only in their graves.
This is true. When children are still young, the man is responsible.when they are grown, the situation changes.
Watching from Nairobi Kenya. Thanks for that wisdom
Thanks for watching
You are right. I and my friends of 50+ are going through it right now.... in this country, things even get worse with parental alienation syndrome.
I love it,well put,well said💪♥️🤘 I needed to hear this at 48,divorced,3 kids, borderline type 2 diabetes,but I feel good. I'm motivated,got to get my ass in gear 😂Thanks coach 👍
44 here
I heard No lies spoken and plenty of gems shared
Thanks, big brother 🙏
You are the most honest elder man I have ever heard ...most of this things you say I have noticed them and you have just confirmed them to me
Very powerful message from Dr Charles about self love and responsibility especially for men:
"I don't care whether you like me, I like myself. All those you like, I don't know what you've done for them. I don't care who likes me including my wife and my children. I am only responsible to them but I am more responsible to myself."
I have been watching your videos for a few months now and I must say, my mindset has changed with regards to my priorities. While still trying to live and make the most of the present time, I have been droping a little here and there for the future plans. God bless you Sir and bless us all .
Wonderful!
Good afternoon sir, I am a woman but you are very correct.
I like the way he calls "cynamon"😂😂.
Yes sir. Live well. Stay strong. Happy health
Cynamon had me cracking up too 😅
No lies told!!! 100% SPOT ON!!! You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!!! Excellent commentary.., outstanding advice!!!!….
Bros try to drink more water than any other drink, the advice you gave is the best anyone can get anywhere.
I’ll be 30 on 20th February and this is THE best advice ever!!!!!
Good advice Mr man.... I have heard that statement for sometime now. It's an eye opener to us men
There is nothing less true about what you have said sir. This is wisdom raw truth. God bless your old age, I'm 43 now. I have learned what 40 year didn't teach me.
"I'm repackaging myself" 🤣
It is obvious that you are happy, anybody can see that 🤩
This man is spewing FACTS!!!!!!
Awww😢 it’s painful but I never left my dad but he is the one that let me down. I tried to making him my priority
You are on point Sir.
No wonder, until you mentioned your name,I was wondering were I saw this face.
It was in HCF CAMP Ok Igwe when you were the guest minister in one of our conferences. More grace Sir.
Dr you’ve won yourself a new subscriber for this sound advice.
50 years and counting.
Dr. Charles, you said it perfectly.
Love his energy and the smiles 🤣😆😆
65 shortly , I did this , he speaks the truth . And I go to the gym every day. Stay strong, in every way.
I am 70 years old. I know what you're talking about Doc. God bless you ❤❤❤❤
Thanks sir.
Very true. I'm 45, it's already beginning. I'm putting up structures to manage this inevitable evolution. God bless you for this insight.
Truth, I'm 40 and this is reality
Money is the answer to everything. At 30 every waking second is about my retirement or my family’s quality of life
After this video, I have to check out your channel for more gems of wisdom
Every family is not the same. Each home is unique. Don't universalize your personal story. Some homes are full of love and their stories are different.
Love or not it actually ends with what is saying stop trying to give yourself hope , it happens everywhere
Please don't mind him some people only learn later in life through pain.
Time is a great teacher and an impartial judge. Continue in your naivety, 30 years from now you must have learnt the hard way.
Listen to all you women haters 😢 why go with women and have children if you lot minds are so corrupt??? You men should date yourselves 😂
Assuming you are the exception does that disprove the rule?
You are head deep in your delusions. I pray you don't go broke permanently or have a life altering injury that hinders you from making money because if that happens, even in your young age you will understand what this wise man is saying.
You don't have to grow old to understand some pertinent truths of life especially when wise older people caution you. These realities keep staring at everyone but only the prudent man sees them and takes note.
I saw this happen to my Dad and My late Uncle.
It made me sort of see women (including my mum) in a very different light.
I now understand why there is a new movement called MGTOW
Amen 😂😂😂 continue pampering your self, ❤I take your advice
good advice my brother, 35 years old here 😁
100%take care of yourself rely on no one or their opinion..👏
Well spoken. God bless you Mr Charles
Where Is The Lies? God Bless You Senior Man For This Advice..
I'm in my 20's and don't regret watching this videos
So true my brother…. Even more wise when you have lazy step-children that expect everything to be given.
Watching from Lusaka, Zambia. Very sound advice
Unc said can't you see how I look I'm fresh... Dig that ✊🏾
Free Truth. Where does one get respect or honour from at old age without money? Let's work hard while it's day , for the night comes when no man can work. Great lesson!
Why when he mentioned his age so proudly I smiled?? Go pops
Words of wisdom. Love don't value much. It's like the air we breathe, only when we're suffocating we appreciate it's value
😂😂😂 I need this man 😂😂😂 ..he's a gem
I think he might be right. I'm already thinking of how I will find independence.
Right now, my husband is always out to drink at pubs. When he returns, he will be looking for mistakes and thing that we're not done while he was out. I have been sleeping for no more than 5hours for the two years that I have been a mom again. I'm up at 4am and return from work at around 6pm.I'm putting on weight because I sleep less and I have little time to cook nourishing meals. I plan to prioritise myself as much as my husband puts himself first. It's not to revenge but I recognise that he is living his full life while I stay home alone. I am going to change it as soon as my youngest is no longer too depent on me. I want to go to Church, lunches with my friends and just really be out to shop and unwind. So when this man reaches 65, he will have lost a friend in me. It might be hard to connect at that age if things are not geared towards investing time into his family.
Enmity from the wife. Yes, definitely. I never considered the subtle influence on our own kids. But, after a divorce, I am living it. For those who are wise enough, this man speaks truth.
The best advice I have ever heard this year
All facts fellas…cinnamon tea is also something all men need to drink…keep this content coming Doc..I’m listening ✅ thanks
Thanks for listening
Excelente y necesario video.
Por cierto, la camisa dice "Scorned" y eso significa "desdeñado" y "despreciado". Jajaja
Whole title, thumbnail, and intro intrigued me. 😂 keep talking unc I’m about to listen. 👂
I'm 66 going to 67. This man is 100% correct. Younger men, better take this warning on time. I am taking care of myself now, at times with some financial support from the children.
A word is enough for the wise. God bless your children sir.
Well said; and thank you for assisting men coping with their old ages.
He speaks plain truth with a smile on his face...
Man full of wisdom.Just came across your videos, and suscribed after watching this one. Bravo!
This is the truth form an elder. Good wisdom in this message and thanks for delivering this to MEN. May the Most High God bless you.
You look very healthy, skin clear and smooth, teeth super white. I had to say that , I hope you don't mind. Thank you for the good work you are doing.
This is very true. According to me those changes begin at 45 years. Everything changes exactly as explained.mmmmh😢
If you are vulnerable at 45 and not able to care for yourself then you are in BIG trouble. At 45 most people still have strength to work and change their financial situation.
I'm nearly 40 and this is has long started for me. As long as the attitudes of my parents and most childhood friends are concerned. I've failed my life's plans and despite being self-sufficient at most of times, i haven't built a lasting carreer and currently have even gone broke. This is not only on me (people have seriously messed with me), but the comforting part is, i've never had a wife (or gf etc.), kids or close relationships. This means i can be as vulnerable as it comes and it doesn't matter. I've accepted recently that i'll forever stay alone, and this is the prize. Irrelevancy.
Tks a million times for your wisdom. Great lesson,.too late for me at 66
Never too late sir. You can live up to 100. I am 65.
You are so correct. I've always tell a very close friend of mine that I've noticed that I've seen some older men move from the master bedroom to live in a bk rm, eating by himself while wife, children and grandchildren have dinner and ice cream.
Sad but true.