What I discovered about anxiety is groundbreaking. At the heart of all anxiety is a desperate need to CONTROL. What I mean is behind any anxious thought there is a need to control other people's thoughts, reactions, actions etc. To further explain by an example, say someone is anxious about a certain situation, in their mind there is this game going on where the outcome is to be determined by the anxious person. The only way out of this game is to release control of the what the outcome should be. The anxious person will say "ok I will give up control or give up my projections, but what about controlling my own side of the thought game". Well as I discovered the minute you give up your projections and allow external situations(people, events etc) to determine their own outcomes, immediately your own mind starts to rest. Give up control!!!!
Best answer so far!! Also this two words will help with your symptoms and racing thoughts: Accept and Surrender. No need to change anything, be kind to yourself and relase control ☺️
I agree so much! It worked for me for a week where giving up control just made me alive and happy again, like a dream state for a week where I saw everything positively, it really felt good. But it also felt almost too good to be true and a week later some thoughts/situation/person triggered me back into the spiral of chronic anxiety… I hope next time it’ll last more than week.. any tip is welcome ;)
Omg you are so right. I get bad anxiety when I get sick. If I don’t recover in a certain amount of time I become full of anxiety and start to get panic attacks. That’s definitely a control issue. I have to lose that control I think I have over the illness.
Anxiety and stress have taken over me for many many years following my life. And it's really frustrating how I let it happen, that I no longer know how to deal with it, control myself. Due to it, I can't do mundane tasks, I can't keep up my hobbies and my relationship with myself and others suffer. But it might be that I didn't try enough to control it, I just let it. Because at the end no matter how many times other people told me to control my thoughts my friends, my sister, my mom, my psychologist, and other people, I just let my emotions get to me, till I got panic attacks and then breakdowns and...then my closed ones had to comfort me. So they were all right about controlling your thoughts. No matter how many times I heard that advice I didn't absorb how effective it is and how much it can affect your life without realising. No matter how much advice you gonna get about coping with stress, you got to first control your mind. Doing sports and other activities that help you relax are also good ways to lessen stress, but I think they help momentarily, you won't be able to do those things in the middle of the night so you need to be able to shut down your thoughts whenever they try to take you. I don't really know why I wrote this, I don't usually comment:D
This is so true! Whenever an anxiety hit me I used to say 'God is with me' while breathing mindfully. It was the only weapon I had against the spiritual war I had with myself.
I have started speaking to the physival manifeststioms of my anxiety. "Why are we fearful? What are fearing? Calm down. I feel you and i understand you but we are safe. We are not being rationale...etc".
@@FaintClover I am the master of my own universe, I am the master of my own mind, I am the master of my own emotions. All completely true statements you can try
“Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be anxious, for I am your God. I will fortify you, yes, I will help you, I will really hold on to you with my right hand of righteousness.”
@@seasington Take action. If anxiety affects internal physical health visit a psychologist. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Waking up feeling panicky for a long time until I started my day with deep breathing saying to myself "Come holy Spirit" over and over. It was an amazing transformation in my life.
Me …. Scary yes? I have PTSD to have a hard time relaxing right now I should be asleep and my whole body’s clenched up and fight or flight and my doctor won’t give me enough Anxiety meds So I run out early and Feel beyond horrible.
What about BMW? You didn't mention any of what you did to help yourself! Did you practise deep breathing? Or think of a beautifully calming word? Do you want to change your life, or keep complaining about this thing that so many people have got. As a man thinketh, so is he. Your thoughts are very powerful. You do not need to believe your thoughts. Most of what we worry about never happens. Anyway, even if it did, it might be the best think that happened to us. This talk is a great example of this. You could let everyone here know how you are progressing with your BMW some time after you have put some real effort in. I'm just trying to help.
I have chronic illness. My anxiety is so bad that I can't even leave the house anymore. 😫 I have prayed and called out to God to help me. I know our loving God will help. I just want to be happy again.
I waited for 7 years for God to help me with my anxiety. I cut everyone out of my life, stopped leaving the house and started sinking tons of hours into things like video games to distract myself from my anxiety. Except the amount of time I put into games made me even more anxious. The things that seem easy for everyone else seemed so far out of reach for myself. I let anxiety get in such a bad spot I lost all my muscle and weight til I physically look sick. The worst part about all of this is my constant telling myself that it’s just anxiety and I should be able to handle it on my own. I’ve lost everything that mattered to me in my life… and it took that for me to realize that I have a mental illness and I need help. Don’t let your anxiety do to you what I let it do to me.
KEY POINTS: Chronic stress/pain triggers the autonomic nervous system, and you live in constant fight-or-flight mode. VEGAS NERVE(brain-body connection) helps us calm down. Relaxation technique: BMW B- Breath (and relax muscles) M- Mind (slow down your thoughts; be present) W- Word (repeat a word)
So it works. Lately I've had to deal with a difficult person at work and all of a sudden I've gone into full blown panic attack mode 3 days in and now I'm second guessing my job and thinking more about how this is going to ruin my life then anything else Was with my wife and family last night all I thought about was this difficult person that I now have to deal with
@@taochi100 I've been there, dealing with a very difficult, unprofessional boss. Being in that situation for years,take a tool on my health. Before I resigned, I already experienced anxiety. It's been a year now from experiencing anxiety. Somehow I was able to handle it. And I will do this, BMW, hope to be totally healed.
From the moment we wake up to the minute we go to bed, we're bombarded with impressions and notifications. Don't forget to turn everything off a couple of minutes per day and allow yourself to let your thoughts come from the inside as opposed to them being reactions to the outside.
@@sudhiriyer5118 Take action. If anxiety affects internal physical health visit a psychologist. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. The best time to meditate is between 3.30 am and 5.30 am known in India as the brahma muhurat time --the time of miracles. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
For years I thought I had ADHD. I don't go around saying I'm self diagnosed, but it was always a concern I had. Recently, I've been having blood pressure and heart problems, not great for a 19 year old. Turns out, I have chronic stress. For the past few months I've been living in constant stress due to family issues and general life stuff to the point where almost every second I was stressed. I followed her steps to calm down, and the relaxation hit me like a truck. I hadn't felt like this in months. Finally my mind was quiet, my heart was calm, and my muscles were relaxed. I'm really glad I found this vid
I need help.. i cant sleep cant relax. Mind goes 10000000 mph . Sad part is so many people dont listen when you tell them you need help. Hearing this makes me feel better. ❤ gonna start now
after watching this, i laid under some blankets (it’s v drafty up in here) with my eyes closed and silently said “forgive” with each long exhale. i’m thankful i didn’t fall asleep, because i can’t even describe how that ten minutes just actually helped me as a person that has been quietly plagued with anxiety her entire life.
My husband passed away in 2009 at age 45, it was my birthday. I have relived that day so many times since then. I don’t know how to turn it off. I often think how much would be different in my life had the love of my life not died that day. It is so hard. I really need this as I am getting older and have horrible insomnia and anxiety.
It is almost impossible to stop thinking about something. Instead force yourself to think about something else each morning and night for 10 minutes. Find something that requires a lot of focus like learning to say the alphabet backwards, or studying a new language. Each day increase the amount of time you think of something else. Eventually the thought your trying to stop, will be replaced. Good luck hope this helps at least a little.
Follow the path as the Dr described. Breath. Listen to your breathing, let that be your focus. Find one word and repeat it. The key is to persist at it every day. In time it will get easier and become more effective. Peace, love and calmness to you ✌🏿💗🙌🏿
Do deep breathing,yoga excercises, In india ,you tube swami baba ramdev, Take medawati 2 tabs herbals, It has cured 100s of people with out side effects, Pranayama breathing cures😇
I will be trying this today! I’m claiming my home again!!! This stress and anxiety hit me out of nowhere once I recently found out that my dream as a nurse was put on hold… but I will reclaim my life because you only get 1
Thanks for this truth! When I became so sick from stress that I thought I might die, doctors couldn't help me. So I helped myself by learning for to care for myself. Powerful medicine!
Humans have never been this separated with each other through all history, there's a why for your anxiety and you're not alone! it's a hard path but this worrying is not something that makes u different from other people, it connects u with people that are going through the same, don't give up!
Useful video. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down anywhere-anytime. No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night at home, at work, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. One more tip is to sit on a chair without moving, be still and observe your breath. Stillness reduces thoughts and brings relief. Like me make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I have been consumed by stress and anxiety, as i imagine many of us have been in recent years. This talk brought me to tears; i feel like I'm on full throttle all the time. Was most noticeable after taking a staycation for a few weeks, where I was able to relax. Going back to work I feel all the stresses seeping back in. I need to try this technique.
I took deep breath while listening this speech on earphones. Almost felt like meditation. I suffered chronic stress from few months now my mind is completely calm because of single speech. Just imagine how 10 minutes BMW meditation will improve brain and body health. 🙏 Thanks Ma'am. OM Shanti 😌
Im 34 and just today figuring out the key to my depression, its my stress. My stress feeds my anxiety and has turned into depression as a result, like severe to the point I become irrational and cannot think at all. Then i carry it with me so today I've decided to make a change for my health and for my family. Im going to start doing this every day before I do anything else. Thank you for the TED talk needed this very much
I'm 34 and watched this today too. Have had vertigo and anxiety attacks. Desperately need to control my stress instead of seeking out 10 different doctors and treatments.
@@heresjonny. I thought of some things that might be useful here. Firstly, our thoughts are not really a part of us. They often are not true. I have tried also Byron Katie's "Worksheet". I have read and listened to ideas for a long time now. But this is the most simple way I have found to really reach enormous amounts of truth, compassion and transcendance. The results are incredible. Another thing that might interest people is to do with differences between how men and women think. My partner is 60. He is a very intelligent man. But in the days when we argued frequently, I noticed he would really speak nonsensically. I really couldn't have a logical discussion at all!! I then learned that men see these conversations as very threatening. I was always trying to resolve issues. He ALWAYS thought I was criticizing him. This was never the case. The brain is very fascinating. The fight-flight response my partner can gets into is a response to something he sees as a threat. He behaves as if he is being attacked, quite literally. I have heard that men's pulses increase rapidly during verbal conflicts, and that what I found is quite common. I just read something yesterday, that a man's complaint is commonly women's tactics in arguments. It is not surprising that the ability to express logical thoughts verbally is hard for men. Men have much less areas of their brains for language. It makes sense, also because biologically, men once evolved to hunt and protect others from predators and danger. Men are truly amazing how they react so instantly, and are so focused. My partner loves riding motorbikes... fast. He can avoid situations when riding and driving in an instant. All these amazing skills that men have are incredible!! Focus, strength, stamina, protectiveness, and a lot more. Men are able to be very stable and consistent. It will all increase with age. My partner, and a lot of guys probably got angry or hot tempered more when younger. Hormones are a fascinating topic also. I wish you people all the best with BMW and anything else you discover along your journeys and wonderful lives. PS Women are very complex, so remember they might be more happy to "argue". We evolved to be experts in getting on in groups. That means a lot of talking, listening to different views and coming to a consensus, or resolution. Maturity takes a while for all people, and relationships are often a challenge, especially when you really can't understand how others think. Sometimes girlfriends and mothers are hard to cope with. The main relationship is the one we have with ourselves. From this acceptance we can tolerate others who falter, as we do. We cannot be hard on ourselves. We are doing okay!! Life is all about learning. I was talking to an 88year old lady who I have befriended. She is another generation older than me. With a heart trying to accept and forgive all things, I am far behind her wisdom. She is closer to "God" I think. She said "In the end you love everybody."
11:46 oh my goodness this actually made me feel so much better. realizing that the past and present arent real things and are just memories. the current moment is NOW and true deep realization of that simple fact probably makes things so much easier in life
This was extremely helpful and timely for me. My mother is a doctor, and she is always operating under stress/anxiety. I just sent this to her. Thank you, Doctor.
You make me Soo PROUD to be 🇨🇦 !!! I wish I lived in Vancouver because I would Definitely seek you out to help me on my road to recovery 😔 ... It's been 9yrs since I was given "6 to 12 months to live" I'd just turned 40 !!! 😔 BUT, Because I'm also Loved by an AMAZING Man who ADORES me & a few Great Friends & Family that equally 💗 Me ... I FOUGHT ... With everything I had & here I am 9yrs later ... GLAD TO BE ALIVE !!! But, recently another obstacle came my way ... "Irrational Anxiety" & I'm trying EVERYTHING & I won't give up until I find what BEST works for me !!! You've Helped - Thank You & GOD🙏🏻BLESS You & Yours !!!
It does work - My anxiety caused excessive reflux symptoms that made it hard for me to even breathe. I’ve been meditating daily and been off my stomach meds for over a year as a result. Be patient. Pair it with healthy eating. And most importantly, consult a doc because everyone is different and you shouldn’t take medical advice from RUclips strangers 🤣
So true I have anxiety so bad that I cannot breathe and I feel like I am choking all the time. I so scared to go to the hospital because of the current situation. I cook good healthy food for myself, no process foods, I try to meditate but I am still not feeling better. I am praying that I will get over this soon!
Yes meditation is helpful and it is good to be reminded to do it, especially in dealing with PTSD and much of it from the healthcare system but a lot of other systemic policies. The online advice is more helpful than what I get from professionals, which was costly in hardship, time and money, leaving me broke and worse off than before. Taking care of myself is needed so I can care for others.
Thank you so much. I have begun my day with prayer and try to relax before I start my busy day. Going through a very difficult time trying not to get too overwhelmed. Glad I took a meditation class when I was going to yoga.Happy New year, Blessings … Namaste❤✨🙏🕊🌎😇
This provides so much hope for me. I also went through a traumatic health scare - Pulmonary Embolism due to blood clots - 3 months out and my body has been manifesting chronic pain, dizziness, stomach issues, my mind is on fight-flight mode 24/7. I have been practicing the SKY breath method and feel like it helps, but not enough. I am going crazy and every symptom in my body triggers my fear, anxiety, rage, depression that until I break down and cry, does not go away. I am going to continue to meditate, do breathing in my BMW! To God be all the glory!
Good. Try reading the bible it will give you peace in mind and peace with in your soul and God. John 3:16 ps: don't take the covid19 vaccine or test. Revelation:13:16-17. God is in control.
@@hugo3conde After doing the following meditation try to reduce medicine to the lowest power. Avoid Benzos as they are habit forming. SSRI's are better. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed-if possible in the morning and night. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
The instant cure for anxiety is to understand the fact that there are infinite amount of possible outcomes in this universe and our brain only thinks of a handful . A bad outcome can become the means of a good outcome in the future. Just like that a good outcome can become the means of a bad outcome. For example, you lost your job (bad thing). But then you got a new job which is better ( bad thing led to a good outcome.) It's an endless cycle. So just go with the flow and don't think about it . 😄 Goodluck.
Exactly what happened to me. Lost my job during Covid. Unemployed and depressed. After months of stress and depression I landed a job paying me more than I’ve ever made. Though the outcome was a positive, the journey to that positive wasn’t pleasant.
What a fabulous speech! I am experiencing severe anxiety but am resisting meds as it’s not the route I want to take. Just ordered Bal’s book as I really believe in this concept. Anxiety is not random and needs to be dealt with by finding the root cause..!
Such a great video/ talk you can tell how that whole situation massively effected her but to be able to center yourself and compose yourself to speak about in front of many others is true strength
It sounds so easy and simple right? what is missing discipline. For me my word is words "this too shall pass" it takes an actual effort and discipline for this to work but the beauty is that is does!!!!
Roxaanne, If anxiety affects internal physical health visit a psychologist. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. The best time to meditate is between 3.30 am and 5.30 am known in India as the brahma muhurat time --the time of miracles. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
What a great testimony, I cried @ 13:18 watching this! So I’m dealing with stress & depression now for 5 months and I agree, BMW helped! And I think I just have to do my routine to get better and better❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much for this💕
Deepa, Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. The best time to meditate is between 3.30 am and 5.30 am known in India as the brahma muhurat time --the time of miracles. Read about this time on you tube. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
“For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.”” Zephaniah 3:17
That was amazing! True, we should not just rely on medicine but also on meditation, exercising or anything that brings joy to us. All these bring good hormones to our body and the body tries to heal itself. I also find listening to calming and soothing music very relaxing. My favorite these days is The Journey by Roundglass music.
Today is my first day i feel so good i will comment again after I practiced this Bmw for 1month❤❤❤ so inspiring video thank u so much hope my pain also goes away🙂
I was injured 3 years ago in different locations in my body and i have had problems with healing them even with consistent rehab and medical help. The experts say its because of stress. I have felt hopeless so long but now i am trying to fix my mind and body connection, hoping it can heal my body.
These comments are inspiration, I was able to rid my depression but as of lately I feel it mildly and my anxiety and stress just seems too much, I’m over it… hence the *managing stress* search! God Luck and Blessings on Blessings everyone
Very happy for you. Nice to hear you are at peace again. Thank you for the story, however, it would have been nice to share exactly how you did it. I understand your BMW metaphor but this particular. Ideo, I only leaned that you overcame it.. we are happy for you truly!
What I discovered about anxiety is groundbreaking. At the heart of all anxiety is a desperate need to CONTROL. What I mean is behind any anxious thought there is a need to control other people's thoughts, reactions, actions etc. To further explain by an example, say someone is anxious about a certain situation, in their mind there is this game going on where the outcome is to be determined by the anxious person. The only way out of this game is to release control of the what the outcome should be. The anxious person will say "ok I will give up control or give up my projections, but what about controlling my own side of the thought game". Well as I discovered the minute you give up your projections and allow external situations(people, events etc) to determine their own outcomes, immediately your own mind starts to rest. Give up control!!!!
Omg! This is me and right now I am suffering.
Best answer so far!! Also this two words will help with your symptoms and racing thoughts: Accept and Surrender. No need to change anything, be kind to yourself and relase control ☺️
I agree so much!
It worked for me for a week where giving up control just made me alive and happy again, like a dream state for a week where I saw everything positively, it really felt good. But it also felt almost too good to be true and a week later some thoughts/situation/person triggered me back into the spiral of chronic anxiety…
I hope next time it’ll last more than week.. any tip is welcome ;)
Omg you are so right. I get bad anxiety when I get sick. If I don’t recover in a certain amount of time I become full of anxiety and start to get panic attacks. That’s definitely a control issue. I have to lose that control I think I have over the illness.
@@zephir happened same with me.
Anxiety and stress have taken over me for many many years following my life. And it's really frustrating how I let it happen, that I no longer know how to deal with it, control myself. Due to it, I can't do mundane tasks, I can't keep up my hobbies and my relationship with myself and others suffer. But it might be that I didn't try enough to control it, I just let it. Because at the end no matter how many times other people told me to control my thoughts my friends, my sister, my mom, my psychologist, and other people, I just let my emotions get to me, till I got panic attacks and then breakdowns and...then my closed ones had to comfort me. So they were all right about controlling your thoughts. No matter how many times I heard that advice I didn't absorb how effective it is and how much it can affect your life without realising. No matter how much advice you gonna get about coping with stress, you got to first control your mind. Doing sports and other activities that help you relax are also good ways to lessen stress, but I think they help momentarily, you won't be able to do those things in the middle of the night so you need to be able to shut down your thoughts whenever they try to take you. I don't really know why I wrote this, I don't usually comment:D
This is so true! Whenever an anxiety hit me I used to say 'God is with me' while breathing mindfully. It was the only weapon I had against the spiritual war I had with myself.
I have started speaking to the physival manifeststioms of my anxiety. "Why are we fearful? What are fearing? Calm down. I feel you and i understand you but we are safe. We are not being rationale...etc".
Is there a version of that but for atheist?
@@FaintClover I am the master of my own universe, I am the master of my own mind, I am the master of my own emotions. All completely true statements you can try
@@natures1joy425 I like that tip a lot
They are difficult experiences to face
To those, who are suffering - my heart with you. It WILL get better soon. This video and Voicely helped me a lot. Remember, you are not alone!
Thank you it means so much
I am so stressed
@@jhumurrani2506 I am too... At some days it is very hard. I am no doubt going to try this BMW meditation method...
Thank I just embarked on the journey
She is such a courageous person, reliving this trauma in front of audience takes a person of steel . God bless!
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“Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be anxious, for I am your God. I will fortify you, yes, I will help you, I will really hold on to you with my right hand of righteousness.”
Amen
@@seasington Take action. If anxiety affects internal physical health visit a psychologist. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 thank you
@@shyaaammeneen63 Awesome. Thank you!
@@seasington Ultimately we are all responsible for our own health and happiness. Best wishes.
Waking up feeling panicky for a long time until I started my day with deep breathing saying to myself "Come holy Spirit" over and over. It was an amazing transformation in my life.
Her voice is so calming :) who is here after having a panic attack or a mental break down? Same here
Me …. Scary yes? I have PTSD to have a hard time relaxing right now I should be asleep and my whole body’s clenched up and fight or flight and my doctor won’t give me enough Anxiety meds So I run out early and Feel beyond horrible.
@@KaylaJ8827 I’m sorry I hope you feel better and that you can find peace in your life :)
Anxious person listening: "stress causes serious problems, heart attacks, cancer..." 😳😳 anxiety retriggered and the cycle starts all over again
Man😭 i almost panicked bad
What about BMW? You didn't mention any of what you did to help yourself!
Did you practise deep breathing? Or think of a beautifully calming word?
Do you want to change your life, or keep complaining about this thing that so many people have got.
As a man thinketh, so is he.
Your thoughts are very powerful.
You do not need to believe your thoughts.
Most of what we worry about never happens.
Anyway, even if it did, it might be the best think that happened to us.
This talk is a great example of this.
You could let everyone here know how you are progressing with your BMW some time after you have put some real effort in.
I'm just trying to help.
My comment is for Gina. Good luck, Sister.
mee too, luckily she mentioned the breathing exercise with the chosen word, it calmed it afterwords hhh
😂😂😂😂 and she calls herself a doctor
I have chronic illness. My anxiety is so bad that I can't even leave the house anymore. 😫 I have prayed and called out to God to help me. I know our loving God will help. I just want to be happy again.
Me too I am scared
Did you seek for help yet? Please do
Mental health is horrible, wish you all the best 🙏✌
I waited for 7 years for God to help me with my anxiety. I cut everyone out of my life, stopped leaving the house and started sinking tons of hours into things like video games to distract myself from my anxiety. Except the amount of time I put into games made me even more anxious. The things that seem easy for everyone else seemed so far out of reach for myself. I let anxiety get in such a bad spot I lost all my muscle and weight til I physically look sick. The worst part about all of this is my constant telling myself that it’s just anxiety and I should be able to handle it on my own. I’ve lost everything that mattered to me in my life… and it took that for me to realize that I have a mental illness and I need help. Don’t let your anxiety do to you what I let it do to me.
@@ricksobania8725 your not on your own, your strong for getting though it, wish you all the best 👊🙏✌
KEY POINTS:
Chronic stress/pain triggers the autonomic nervous system, and you live in constant fight-or-flight mode.
VEGAS NERVE(brain-body connection) helps us calm down.
Relaxation technique: BMW
B- Breath (and relax muscles)
M- Mind (slow down your thoughts; be present)
W- Word (repeat a word)
Thank you 🙏 so much . I am writing in my notes to take better care of myself
I am doing BMW technique from last few months and 50% of my health issues had gone.And the best thing is i feel happy all day❤️
So it works. Lately I've had to deal with a difficult person at work and all of a sudden I've gone into full blown panic attack mode 3 days in and now I'm second guessing my job and thinking more about how this is going to ruin my life then anything else
Was with my wife and family last night all I thought about was this difficult person that I now have to deal with
Hello,
What steps are you following?
@@dimitardimov85 i am doing rhythmic breathing exercises , mindfulness meditation, and some aerobic exercises..you can find these videos on youtube
Great
@@taochi100 I've been there, dealing with a very difficult, unprofessional boss. Being in that situation for years,take a tool on my health. Before I resigned, I already experienced anxiety. It's been a year now from experiencing anxiety. Somehow I was able to handle it. And I will do this, BMW, hope to be totally healed.
God Bless this Lady. This speech has inspired me so much. I will kick out Anxiety and acid reflux !!!
I have same problm..
Me too! 💪
I have the same thing...
i have the same too
Exactly 💯
This is an amazing TED talk. I love when physicians empower their patients to take their own health into their hands.
From the moment we wake up to the minute we go to bed, we're bombarded with impressions and notifications. Don't forget to turn everything off a couple of minutes per day and allow yourself to let your thoughts come from the inside as opposed to them being reactions to the outside.
Deep.
The Information Age is what is at the root of all these issues.
@@sudhiriyer5118 Take action. If anxiety affects internal physical health visit a psychologist. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. The best time to meditate is between 3.30 am and 5.30 am known in India as the brahma muhurat time --the time of miracles. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
For years I thought I had ADHD. I don't go around saying I'm self diagnosed, but it was always a concern I had. Recently, I've been having blood pressure and heart problems, not great for a 19 year old. Turns out, I have chronic stress. For the past few months I've been living in constant stress due to family issues and general life stuff to the point where almost every second I was stressed. I followed her steps to calm down, and the relaxation hit me like a truck. I hadn't felt like this in months. Finally my mind was quiet, my heart was calm, and my muscles were relaxed. I'm really glad I found this vid
I need help.. i cant sleep cant relax. Mind goes 10000000 mph . Sad part is so many people dont listen when you tell them you need help. Hearing this makes me feel better. ❤ gonna start now
after watching this, i laid under some blankets (it’s v drafty up in here) with my eyes closed and silently said “forgive” with each long exhale. i’m thankful i didn’t fall asleep, because i can’t even describe how that ten minutes just actually helped me as a person that has been quietly plagued with anxiety her entire life.
“State of mind = state of body.”
That hits differently -
My husband passed away in 2009 at age 45, it was my birthday. I have relived that day so many times since then. I don’t know how to turn it off. I often think how much would be different in my life had the love of my life not died that day. It is so hard. I really need this as I am getting older and have horrible insomnia and anxiety.
I'm so sorry you are going through such a heartbreaking situation. You are in my prayers. Love to you. Stay strong. One moment at a time. 💜
It is almost impossible to stop thinking about something. Instead force yourself to think about something else each morning and night for 10 minutes. Find something that requires a lot of focus like learning to say the alphabet backwards, or studying a new language. Each day increase the amount of time you think of something else. Eventually the thought your trying to stop, will be replaced. Good luck hope this helps at least a little.
Follow the path as the Dr described. Breath. Listen to your breathing, let that be your focus. Find one word and repeat it.
The key is to persist at it every day. In time it will get easier and become more effective.
Peace, love and calmness to you ✌🏿💗🙌🏿
Do deep breathing,yoga excercises,
In india ,you tube swami baba ramdev,
Take medawati 2 tabs herbals,
It has cured 100s of people with out side effects,
Pranayama breathing cures😇
@@auntyshanti. where do you buy medawati from? tia
I will be trying this today! I’m claiming my home again!!! This stress and anxiety hit me out of nowhere once I recently found out that my dream as a nurse was put on hold… but I will reclaim my life because you only get 1
Thanks for this truth! When I became so sick from stress that I thought I might die, doctors couldn't help me. So I helped myself by learning for to care for myself. Powerful medicine!
Humans have never been this separated with each other through all history, there's a why for your anxiety and you're not alone! it's a hard path but this worrying is not something that makes u different from other people, it connects u with people that are going through the same, don't give up!
Useful video. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down anywhere-anytime. No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night at home, at work, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. One more tip is to sit on a chair without moving, be still and observe your breath. Stillness reduces thoughts and brings relief. Like me make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Absolutely true!!!!
technologies and social media kill us little by little... we really need to meditate and calm our minds. thks Dr. Bal
I have been consumed by stress and anxiety, as i imagine many of us have been in recent years. This talk brought me to tears; i feel like I'm on full throttle all the time. Was most noticeable after taking a staycation for a few weeks, where I was able to relax. Going back to work I feel all the stresses seeping back in. I need to try this technique.
I took deep breath while listening this speech on earphones. Almost felt like meditation. I suffered chronic stress from few months now my mind is completely calm because of single speech. Just imagine how 10 minutes BMW meditation will improve brain and body health.
🙏 Thanks Ma'am. OM Shanti 😌
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OM Shanti.
You have done a wonderful thing.
Love from New Zealand.
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B= breathe (focus on being present)
M= mind (clear mind of past and future thoughts)
W= word (choose a word like ohum)
Im 34 and just today figuring out the key to my depression, its my stress. My stress feeds my anxiety and has turned into depression as a result, like severe to the point I become irrational and cannot think at all. Then i carry it with me so today I've decided to make a change for my health and for my family. Im going to start doing this every day before I do anything else. Thank you for the TED talk needed this very much
I'm 34 and watched this today too. Have had vertigo and anxiety attacks. Desperately need to control my stress instead of seeking out 10 different doctors and treatments.
HERE'S JON
You're amazing. You're only 34 and understanding yourself. That is wonderful.
@@steamynoodle2010 Both of you touch my heart. It's hard to work things out sometimes.
You have a cool name, quite unique.
@@barbsmart7373 thank you!!
@@heresjonny.
I thought of some things that might be useful here.
Firstly, our thoughts are not really a part of us. They often are not true.
I have tried also Byron Katie's "Worksheet". I have read and listened to ideas for a long time now. But this is the most simple way I have found to really reach enormous amounts of truth, compassion and transcendance. The results are incredible.
Another thing that might interest people is
to do with differences between how men and women think.
My partner is 60. He is a very intelligent man.
But in the days when we argued frequently, I noticed he would really
speak nonsensically.
I really couldn't have a logical discussion at all!!
I then learned that men see these conversations as very threatening.
I was always trying to resolve issues. He ALWAYS thought I was criticizing him. This was never the case.
The brain is very fascinating.
The fight-flight response my partner can gets into is a response to something he sees as a threat. He behaves as if he is being attacked, quite literally.
I have heard that men's pulses increase rapidly during verbal conflicts, and that what I found is quite common.
I just read something yesterday, that a man's complaint is commonly women's tactics in arguments.
It is not surprising that the ability to express logical thoughts verbally is hard for men. Men have much less areas of their brains for language.
It makes sense, also because biologically, men once evolved to hunt and protect others from predators and danger.
Men are truly amazing how they react so instantly, and are so focused.
My partner loves riding motorbikes... fast.
He can avoid situations when riding and driving in an instant.
All these amazing skills that men have are incredible!! Focus, strength, stamina, protectiveness, and a lot more. Men are able to be very stable and consistent. It will all increase with age. My partner, and a lot of guys probably got angry or hot tempered more when younger. Hormones are a fascinating topic also.
I wish you people all the best with BMW and anything else you discover along your journeys and wonderful lives.
PS Women are very complex, so remember they might be more happy to "argue". We evolved to be experts in getting on in groups. That means a lot of talking, listening to different views and coming to a consensus, or resolution. Maturity takes a while for all people, and relationships are often a challenge, especially when you really can't understand how others think.
Sometimes girlfriends and mothers are hard to cope with.
The main relationship is the one we have with ourselves. From this acceptance we can tolerate others who falter, as we do. We cannot be hard on ourselves. We are doing okay!! Life is all about learning.
I was talking to an 88year old lady who I have befriended. She is another generation older than me. With a heart trying to accept and forgive all things, I am far behind her wisdom. She is closer to "God" I think. She said "In the end you love everybody."
Great line, "nothing to lose, only to gain"..
How beautiful is humanity and people like her are flowers among us.
11:46 oh my goodness this actually made me feel so much better. realizing that the past and present arent real things and are just memories. the current moment is NOW and true deep realization of that simple fact probably makes things so much easier in life
2 min breathe diafragma, relax all muscles. Relax mind, just be in the moment. Total of 10 minutes morning and 10 min evening. Say your word
What are you doing today
This was extremely helpful and timely for me. My mother is a doctor, and she is always operating under stress/anxiety. I just sent this to her. Thank you, Doctor.
I will try it from now this BMW technique, because I have been through anxiety for 3 years.
No one will help you..only you can do it trusting yourself ❤️
I was feeling everything she was explaining, wonderful speech wonderful personality
I'm in! Starting to meditate twice a day, 10 minutes. Thank you for sharing your journey ❤
What a strong woman, hope all is good for her now 🤲🏻
Wonderful speech, very inspiring, million thanks from a chronic /helpless panic attack sufferer here in Hong Kong
What a speech yaar...I respect you madam from the bottom of my Heart 💓
The lady is so calming & seems so calm as a person. It obviously worked for her so I'll be trying this. Thank you🙏
You make me Soo PROUD to be 🇨🇦 !!! I wish I lived in Vancouver because I would Definitely seek you out to help me on my road to recovery 😔 ... It's been 9yrs since I was given "6 to 12 months to live" I'd just turned 40 !!! 😔 BUT, Because I'm also Loved by an AMAZING Man who ADORES me & a few Great Friends & Family that equally 💗 Me ... I FOUGHT ... With everything I had & here I am 9yrs later ... GLAD TO BE ALIVE !!! But, recently another obstacle came my way ... "Irrational Anxiety" & I'm trying EVERYTHING & I won't give up until I find what BEST works for me !!! You've Helped - Thank You & GOD🙏🏻BLESS You & Yours !!!
This talk revealed to me, that I am Possible
My life has received new meaning 🥺🙏🧘🙌
Thank you ❤️🙏
The what happens in Vegas joke really got me 😂😂😂 what a sweet woman with a wonderful message! ❤️
With her speech, she transmits totally positive energy, peace and spiritual heal.
TedX often has really good talks, but this one is astonishing👏
Thank you for your kind words
Agreed. Also, very likeable lady
@@balpawa1159 Great talk, Bal !
Not only did this video make me cry it was life changing. Thank you for sharing your story!
Lindsay in Ontario 🇨🇦
I’m from Ottawa. So much stress. Please help
Whenever is feel distressed and emotionally weak. Tedtalk always cure me ❤️
Dr Bal You are an inspiration to all & I am so glad that my daughter had me watch your presentation! Blessings to you!
OMG, what a brave lady. I feel so sad for her to lose the baby, but she is very happy healthy now. Brilliant.
7:19 I can understand the pain of a mother! Rip to that little soul who died before even experiencing this world. :(
This is a compelling and profoundly meaningful speech.
It does work - My anxiety caused excessive reflux symptoms that made it hard for me to even breathe. I’ve been meditating daily and been off my stomach meds for over a year as a result. Be patient. Pair it with healthy eating. And most importantly, consult a doc because everyone is different and you shouldn’t take medical advice from RUclips strangers 🤣
Try to write it on a paper whatever your thought you think maybe it will help to reduce your anxiety..
So true I have anxiety so bad that I cannot breathe and I feel like I am choking all the time. I so scared to go to the hospital because of the current situation. I cook good healthy food for myself, no process foods, I try to meditate but I am still not feeling better. I am praying that I will get over this soon!
@@NansGlobalKitchen I hope you feel better soon! I know you’ll get there. ❤️
@@candykandy Thankyou very much!❤❤❤
Yes meditation is helpful and it is good to be reminded to do it, especially in dealing with PTSD and much of it from the healthcare system but a lot of other systemic policies. The online advice is more helpful than what I get from professionals, which was costly in hardship, time and money, leaving me broke and worse off than before. Taking care of myself is needed so I can care for others.
Best speech on mental health i ever heard on Ted ex Talks, May Allah bless you more mam!
Excellent video, may all your anxiety go away and live a happy life.
Thank you
Thank you so much. I have begun my day with prayer and try to relax before I start my busy day. Going through a very difficult time trying not to get too overwhelmed. Glad I took a meditation class when I was going to yoga.Happy New year, Blessings … Namaste❤✨🙏🕊🌎😇
This provides so much hope for me. I also went through a traumatic health scare - Pulmonary Embolism due to blood clots - 3 months out and my body has been manifesting chronic pain, dizziness, stomach issues, my mind is on fight-flight mode 24/7. I have been practicing the SKY breath method and feel like it helps, but not enough. I am going crazy and every symptom in my body triggers my fear, anxiety, rage, depression that until I break down and cry, does not go away. I am going to continue to meditate, do breathing in my BMW! To God be all the glory!
Good. Try reading the bible it will give you peace in mind and peace with in your soul and God. John 3:16 ps: don't take the covid19 vaccine or test. Revelation:13:16-17. God is in control.
Are you taking meds
@@philiphouck1059 I am taking anxiety meds and also blood thinners...
@@hugo3conde After doing the following meditation try to reduce medicine to the lowest power. Avoid Benzos as they are habit forming. SSRI's are better. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed-if possible in the morning and night. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
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Thankyou so much madam😃
The instant cure for anxiety is to understand the fact that there are infinite amount of possible outcomes in this universe and our brain only thinks of a handful . A bad outcome can become the means of a good outcome in the future. Just like that a good outcome can become the means of a bad outcome. For example, you lost your job (bad thing). But then you got a new job which is better ( bad thing led to a good outcome.) It's an endless cycle. So just go with the flow and don't think about it . 😄 Goodluck.
Exactly what happened to me. Lost my job during Covid. Unemployed and depressed. After months of stress and depression I landed a job paying me more than I’ve ever made. Though the outcome was a positive, the journey to that positive wasn’t pleasant.
I love her personality and warming smile 😊
THE BEST TED TALK EVER!!!!
Amazing, wonderful lady! May God bless her and everyone reading this! ❤️❤️
That's the most help full advice I have ever got , Thank you so much ma'am
What a fabulous speech! I am experiencing severe anxiety but am resisting meds as it’s not the route I want to take. Just ordered Bal’s book as I really believe in this concept. Anxiety is not random and needs to be dealt with by finding the root cause..!
Did it work?
I wanna listen to her everyday. She is so positive ❤
This is an amazing TED Talk! God bless Dr. Pawa for all what she is doing to help to the people who need professional medical assistance and help.
God bless this lady, I love her soul
Dr. Bal, I loved the way you delivered your message. It was touching and I loved every moment of it.
Such a great video/ talk you can tell how that whole situation massively effected her but to be able to center yourself and compose yourself to speak about in front of many others is true strength
It sounds so easy and simple right? what is missing discipline. For me my word is words "this too shall pass" it takes an actual effort and discipline for this to work but the beauty is that is does!!!!
How are you doing today?
These ted talks save my life
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Roxaanne, If anxiety affects internal physical health visit a psychologist. Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. The best time to meditate is between 3.30 am and 5.30 am known in India as the brahma muhurat time --the time of miracles. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 thank you 🙏🏻
@@roxannemacalintal2486 Ultimately we are all responsible for our own health and happiness. Best wishes.
What a great testimony, I cried @ 13:18 watching this! So I’m dealing with stress & depression now for 5 months and I agree, BMW helped! And I think I just have to do my routine to get better and better❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much for this💕
This talk : 'B'-reathtaking 'M'-indblowing & well 'W'-orded'!!!!
Wow, love how you used BMW!
Deepa, Practical action is needed to reduce negative thoughts. The best time to meditate is between 3.30 am and 5.30 am known in India as the brahma muhurat time --the time of miracles. Read about this time on you tube. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Be as still as possible. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Patience is needed. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 thank you sir 🙏
Thank you for your speech ! It calmed me down and empowered me after a few days of Tunnel-Feeling of anger and sadness. Thank you Dr. !
Thank you very much for this beautiful, sensitive, and interesting explanation!
What a beautiful speech from a dignified authentic presenter! Very inspiring & insightful
One of the best stories I've ever heard. Very inspiring. THANKS!
“For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.””
Zephaniah 3:17
Just listening to her voice de-stresses me. 😊
Enjoyed this very much. Love your jacket, Dr. Pawa!
What an amazing WOMAN!! Thank you.
What an amazing storyteller, kept my attention and felt relaxed and motivated!
I have nothing to say but THANK YOU
That was amazing! True, we should not just rely on medicine but also on meditation, exercising or anything that brings joy to us. All these bring good hormones to our body and the body tries to heal itself. I also find listening to calming and soothing music very relaxing. My favorite these days is The Journey by Roundglass music.
Today is my first day i feel so good i will comment again after I practiced this Bmw for 1month❤❤❤ so inspiring video thank u so much hope my pain also goes away🙂
So glad it finished with hope
She said it so beautifully! I loved it❤ Thank you so much!
Amazing glad to know we are not alone. We are right there with Doctors 👍👍👍🙏🙏. This really does work
I was injured 3 years ago in different locations in my body and i have had problems with healing them even with consistent rehab and medical help. The experts say its because of stress. I have felt hopeless so long but now i am trying to fix my mind and body connection, hoping it can heal my body.
You can heal yourself. God has given you what is needed
This is so beautiful and so relevant. It will surely help a niche of office going people who face the workplace stress and anxiety issues.
Bless you for your courage and honesty. You make the world a better place. Thank you. ❤
These comments are inspiration, I was able to rid my depression but as of lately I feel it mildly and my anxiety and stress just seems too much, I’m over it… hence the *managing stress* search! God Luck and Blessings on Blessings everyone
You are a good mother ❤️
Superb delivery, hard-hitting content, effective dress up,appropriate slides. Kudos Bal. Bakul Dalal
Thank you Dr Bal, what a lesson and no one pays anything for a medical bill, thank you!
Amazing story, so insprirational!!!
Very happy for you. Nice to hear you are at peace again. Thank you for the story, however, it would have been nice to share exactly how you did it. I understand your BMW metaphor but this particular. Ideo, I only leaned that you overcame it.. we are happy for you truly!