Demi Lovato Documentary #1 - (Addiction) - Therapist Reacts
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- Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024
- Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to the Demi Lovato documentary, Dancing with the Devil (RUclips Original).
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When she overdosed, everyone online was saying nice things about her, praying for her recovery, etc. Now that she's alive and talking about her experience people are clowning her... You don't have to wait till she's dead to be kind to her 🙄
From what I saw on Twitter ppl were being awful towards her and specifically a lot of men.
What? When she had the OD there were memes about her all over the Internet. People were nice and caring until they heard she’s still alive and hasn’t died and then they started making memes. It’s not just happening now, it happened 2018 already
Yeah same with every celebrity, a lot of people don't treat celebs as people with feelings and it's disgusting
Sad reality is that she was not even out of the hospital and people started wishing she had died instead of other artists who had died like Mac Miller and another artist who died around that time.
@@heartbreakhotel4278 yea at least 70% of the stuff I saw on twitter was absolutely awful towards her. But the same people post every year RIP Mac miller and how much they wish he was still here. It’s ridiculous the hypocrisy.
I don't know much about Demi Levato, but it breaks my heart seeing some of the comments about this documentary online. People saying she's done multiple documentaries now saying shes clean and sober and never going back, only to relapse. People saying the reason she can't get better is because she can't take responsibility. It's shocking honestly, that this narrative still exists in 2021. Having worked with addicts, and seeing how miserable and trapped they feel in their addiction, I can say that I've never met an addict who didn't want to change. It's just not easy, and I think unless you've lived that experience, you'll never truly understand it, myself included.
So many ignorant and confident people in this world. Your comment is so lovely and empathetic.
this ideology is horrible and i think it ties in with mental health stigma which can affect so many making them feel trapped and isolated feeling like they can’t go for anyone for help it’s sad. i dealt with that in my family too i my immigrant grandparents hve never attempted to truly process their own trauma and it’s led to them invalidating everyone else’s trauma in the process it’s always the same thing “you could get through this if you had enough willpower” “why didn’t they just try harder” “she’s just lazy” while people who are struggling just need help vulnerability needs to be normalized
What a beautiful and supportive statement. I love how much we support the wellness of ppl on this forum. It’s not that common and I really appreciate us advocating for one another. ❤️🙏🏼
Some people are ignorant to addiction and eating disorders and they don’t know about either of them and still chose to comment!!
@@Tootsie-yj1rz that is very true they try to make it out to be an issue of strength or willpower when anyone who was an addict would know that anyone could be an addict and it’s not a question of how much someone tries because like trauma it takes a long time to understand and process and it’s not a straightforward thing
I like how you talk about how traumatizing non-physical violence and other abuses can be. Constant yelling, threats, breaching privacy, verbal abuse. People always tell me "you didnt even have it that bad" but I'm learning I really did.
I can relate to what you’re saying. I just learned that I went through constant trauma.
Same. I used to even invalidate my own feelings. It's crazy that schools aren't teaching this more often.
Yep that's exactly why I automatically shutdown as a defense mechanism because of the constant verbal abuse that my parents would use
some people are so ignorant about abuse and trauma, it’s not a competition and no one’s place to tell someone the abuse they experienced was “not that bad” because they haven’t lived in that person’s shoes, and everyone responds to experiences differently
Yesssssss
demi has also talked about how she always searched for what her father found in drugs because he ultimately chose that over her and she has a ot of other traumas and situations contributing to it like she was severely bullied whe she was in middle school and developed an eating disorder and has always sufferd from suicidal ideations since she's a child, she has even said that drugs in a way saved her life because if she hadn't had drugs to turn to at times she would've just taken her life, she also lost her virginity in a rape.... like once you actually take a real look at her life, it all connects sadly. she's incredible, I hope she finds actual peace and happiness
It worries me that Demi is “California Sober”. She was out partying with Nikita Dragun last night. I’ve been sober since October 2018 and actually saw Demi the night of her OD at Saddle Ranch drunk/high out of my mind. I was starstruck bc I’ve been a fan since like 2008 but got kicked out for getting into a fight with some old lady. Learning she overdosed the next day is what inspired me to give sobriety another try after battling it and an ED since I was 15. I’m 30 now and it’s still a daily battle and everyone’s different but I could never go back to drinking, I’d be back on drugs eventually. I’ve tried that method several times. Abstinence only isn’t for everyone though and I’m still on sub maintenance so I do get it but Demi is a “real addict” and it’s a lot different than still partying and going to clubs when you nearly died from an overdose. It’s addict behavior, but this doesn’t come from a place of judgment, just fear and lots of experience unfortunately.
I relate to your story a lot & I completely see what you mean. 'California sober' doesn't work for me either. Best of luck in your recovery, friend! 🖤 Hoping the very best for Demi as well
@@ambriaashley3383 thank you! Sorry for just seeing your reply too, unfortunately there’s so many of us addicts who have tried what Demi is doing and it only led us back to “the duffle bag”. She’ll either learn that it simply can’t be done or she’ll learn the hard way and be another young star gone with her whole life ahead of her. Definitely not saying the AA dogma is the only way to get sober but if you know, you know.
demi has said her urges are worse when she completely cuts herself off from drinking or allowing herself a joint here and there. It may be how shes handling her depression or other mental illnesses she may have...she very much reminds me of a child. If you tell her no absolutely not you can not have that (think candy) it makes them want it more. if tell them "You can control yourself and have one piece right now." it makes that want for it no where bear as bad. She has to learn her self control/what she can and cant do. i have a friend who is a meth addict....when u tell her shes never allowed to have it...when shes given her freedom of it...she may do it once every 6 months....
@@lulubellpop13 I would believe this if starting drinking again hadn't ultimately led her down a road to doing hard drugs and overdosing. She already tried moderation and it didn't work. I don't think she's being honest with herself. I hope that I'm wrong and everything works out for her, but I'm not sold on this theory as it applies to her staying off hard drugs or avoiding slipping into alcoholism.
@@haute03 that’s the thing tho she’s hasn’t.California sober is not just drinking and smoking occasionally it’s also continuing therapy and continuing to look deeper within.Before she was told no and she got tired of it but she waited until she was already in a dark place to start drinking again that’s what messed her up in my opinion if your already in a bad state of mind then your not drinking for leisure your drinking to take pain away and that’s what leads to addiction
As a person in a constant state of stress, trauma, and grief this is so helpful to hear. Makes me feel less alone. I'm looking into therapy.
Good to hear! You deserve it, you really, really do 💐
Yes you do deserve it 🧡
Not alone. With you here.
@@thriftcraft 🖤
Therapy has helped me so much and I would recommend it to everyone
Something Dr. Honda said really resonated with me: I've had back problems in the last few years and I've heard myself say on more than one occasion that I didn't realize how tense I was until I took a muscle relaxer and suddenly felt like a normal person. It's strange to realize that you're never really relaxed, even when you think you are. Even as I type this, despite sitting in a sunny window in my home where I'm not in any danger, I'm noticing my shoulders are hunched and all of my muscles are on alert, like I might have to run or defend myself at any moment. If I could have stayed on muscle relaxers forever, I would definitely be tempted to. I think people think that drug use is all about partying and having fun and it just isn't.
Totally!! My jaws are always clenched and my shoulders tight. I know if I had a muscle relaxer or pain killer, I could relax but its a slippery slope. I'm in therapy now to learn physical relaxation techniques and they aren't easy or as instant as a med but little by little its helping.
Yesss I can totally relate. I feel like my body is always on edge and that I always have to be “prepared” For what? I guess danger? Because of that, I have been such a light sleeper. I feel like I’m sleeping with one eye open every night. The weird part is I can actually handle a stressful moment pretty well when it’s actually happening. It’s like my body just does what it wants 😆
@@ksenlovesbears I'm a super heavy sleeper, usually. It's weird because I've actually been assaulted in my sleep a couple of times and slept right through it. I guess my body wants to be prepared to fight back but my brain would rather not deal with it at all.
@@ksenlovesbears light sleeper as well cause any sounds I hear wake me up
I do that constantly!!! My mom always tells me “put your shoulders down, relax your shoulders”
Wondering if you'd ever review Princess Diana's interviews? She seemed like she was very open about her struggles and her bulimia and I think your reaction would be really interesting!
Oh great suggestion!
Yes!!! please do dr Kirk
Good idea!
Oh yes!!! Great idea, I would love that
Yes, please please please! “Diana: In Her Own Words” on Netflix would be a great one for Dr. Honda to use for this
I've been on a waiting list for 6 months..the first problem is making therapy affordable and accessible..why is it so hard to see someone? Why is it so expensive?
That's a really good question
I’ve never had to wait long to see a therapist. Search elsewhere
Try BetterHelp
I’ve been there 😔 it took me being sent to the hospital for a 3 day hold because I was hysterical and threatening suicide. It was horrible. But I finally got help and put on meds that make me function normally.
Yes! I have insurance (thankfully) but I can't even find a therapist. I am seeing a psychiatrist where I tell her my symptoms and she gives me medication basically, but it isn't therapy. The health care facility I go through is full. I looked into psychology today but all the therapist I called never called me back. I looked into Better Help but it was expensive.
I don’t think you ramble, everything you say makes perfect sense and is very interesting
Agreed! I like the "rambling" haha
Exactly what I was thinking!
Agree!
oh he rambles
@@magopal5610 lmao
The empathy on his face when he watches these videos and reacts... Everyone deserves someone in their life like that, who cares that much. It's even more rewarding to be that person. *pats my heart* Quality dude right there.
Me, last week, the entire time I was watching this doc - "I can't wait for Psychology in Seattle to watch this!!!!"
I 100% came to comment that same thing omg
I thought the exact same thing!
SAME THO!
People act like addiction is the only issue she struggles with, when clearly it’s not.
I didn’t grow up watching her, or listening to her music...but her writing lately has gotten so raw and so real, plus the girl can blow. Her voice is amazing. And music is everything to me...I’m very glad she didn’t die and can share her story this way. There’s no telling how many people she can and will help this way!
As a fan from her very early career until now, the transformation of her voice and music, is insane! This new album is incredibly raw, and she is so brave. Truly. 🔥
My Mother was a suicidal alcoholic with BPD. She succumbed in 2018 when she was 55. I'm now estranged from my family. Too much bad things have been said and done to go back. Listening to you makes me feel less lonely on what I'm going through. There are others out there and we can help each other.
Reading that hurts. I'll send you some support through the internet. You aren't alone here
@@katiewest3326 ❤️❤️❤️
I'm sorry hun. I hope you're healing from the pain you're going through.
Poor girl. She looks so deeply unhappy. I hope she gets help and starts working on her healing. Thank you Dr. Honda for your compassion and lessons on how to be a decent human being.
Demi Lovato is a true fighter. Her strength & resilience stuns me
She’s incredibly brave & sweet for opening about her problems being a public image, a celebrity 😢
I have to admit I know very little about Demi (didn’t grow up with her shows/music), so I just clicked on this video because it’s PiS. 10 min later I’m holding back tears.
Wow...I guess all those things I pushed away are still lingering beneath the surface just waiting to engulf me again. This video is hitting a bit too close to home but I’ll try to keep watching. Thank you so much for offering us the words to help understand what’s going on with ourselves.
I can relate to Demi in certain areas. Specially growing up with an alcoholic father. I was young and I didn’t think of his alcoholism as a disease but rather a choice. Now that I’m older and he’s gone, I realized he lacked the willingness to be sober. Just like she said she knew her dad eventually would end up dead, so did I. 😔 I found myself drinking, spiraling down, just like him. I was the same thing I hated. Luckily, I was able to regain control and I strive to be better. We all have different struggles but can rise above. ❤️
Have you ever done a video on child stars and how parents feel they can’t discipline them because the child stars pay the bills and how that can negatively affect the child?
Ironically Demi talked about this a little bit with Joe Rogan on his podcast. She said she was a little “c*nt” (sorry her words verbatim) when she was younger and would throw it in her parents face that she was making all the money anytime they tried to discipline her. This would be a really interesting topic to see him cover and assess.
How can you expect to discipline your child when you exploited them from a young age? No offense.
I'm a older person that use to watch a lot of Disney shows when I was in my 20s and 30s (no kids). I still enjoy some of the clearly geared towards families with young kids. When Demi was on Disney, I never much cared for her, she was always so smiley in interviews and on the stuff she did, it always felt really off or forced. And not like, the usually way famous people do because they have too. I've only gotten this feeling about famous people once before and that was The Neelys on Food Network and it turned out that behind the scenes they hated each other. So, when it came out that Demi was a cutter and went to rehab for the first time, I wasn't shocked. I had no idea about father and it explains a lot. After her first rehab stint and she left Disney, though she would relapse and have problems, Demi stopped acting fake, she's been transparent about her issues over the years; she at least stopped hiding behind a fake smile and I respect her for that.
I remember as a kid actually (12 or so) watching Demi on Camp Rock I also felt that something seemed really off and forced about her and it turns out she was clearly dealing with a lot of Demons from her own traumas.
Isn’t it sad what Disney is willing to sweep under the rug for profits
Hi Dr Kirk, I’m a recent patron but longtime fan. I think the Billy Eilish documentary would be a great one to comment as she seems to have grown up with secure attachments, in a loving home and is very wise and self aware at a young age as a result. Its rare to get a case study for a person with secure attachment and thus could be a model for us all. Thanks, love you, huge fan from U.K. living in France.
Wow that is really interesting!! I really hope he does make a video on that
it's a shame that therapy is so expensive... such a treshold for so many people
Demi pays for peoples treatment 🥹
My dad struggled with alcoholism throughout my childhood. Having a parent who has an addiction is tough, because your love for them is conditional (sobriety has to come first always). My dad has been sober for 8 years now. A big part of why he hasn't relapsed is because he goes to AA weekly. He has a group of people who he can talk to and relate to.
My heart goes out to Demi because I know what it is like to have a parent who suffers with an addiction. I am grateful my dad chose his kids over alcohol and got the help he needed. Yes, he relapsed throughout my childhood but he always kept trying to get back to the sober pathway of life. I'm sorry Demi's father couldn't do the same for his own children.
I'm here for all of Dr. Honda's 'rambling'. This is deep.
I am very curious to hear Dr. Honda's thoughts on Demi's continued use of alcohol and weed (which comes up later in the doc).
Same.
If ur not an addict please dont copy what Demi is doing. She NEEDS that type of treatment.
I’m an addict. There is no such thing as moderation in addicts. Doesn’t work. Moderation is a death sentence for us.
demi has been through so much, she's incredible, I'm glad she continues to use her platform and sharing her story no matter what. comments from people saying she always talks about the same thing is actually why she needs to continue to talk about it, these are life long diseases.
ps. she also talked about her issues in depth on joe rogan's podcast
you have no idea how happy i was to see you posted about demi she was my childhood idol
this woman just been through so much man I can't believe how a human being can take all of this and is still standing strong hope she will continue to fight never give up even tho I know it is sooooo hard
My mother has bipolar and was an alcoholic for all of my childhood and early adulthood. I remember getting home from school one day and my little sister and I couldn't find her. She had left her phone on the table and no sign of where she she could've gone. I spent the next half hour calling any nearby hospitals to see if she had been admitted anywhere, followed by police stations. She didn't show up for hours until late in the evening at which point she said she had driven to West Virginia and back. She said she liked the nature there. It's sad in retrospect that by 16 I already had a "what to do when mom goes missing protocol". It's so difficult for the children of unwell people.
My mother was bipolar too and my childhood was spent mothering her, keeping her together and doing her adult tasks like paying bills 😒 I remember her telling me that she did crank because it made her feel normal and that was the only way for her to go to work and later on she became dependent on opioids and adderal.
when you talked about people preparing a recovering addict for relapse because it's normal that also sticked with me beause that obviously didn't happen with demi, her old tem literally said "if you relapse we leave" and on the joe rogan's podcast she also talked about how she had spent 6 months telling them that her bulimia was getting really bad and that she needed help otherwise she would pick up drugs, thta's the thought she and you talked about, she was so miserable with her eating dirosder that she felt like being sober wasn't even worthy anymore because she was still miserable while sober, she had been like that for months and her team said she wasn't sick enough. so for her to have that mindset that if she relapsed she would die or everyone would leave her along with her abandonment issues from her father like that's just cruel, and her old team included a mental health coach who continues to work with mentally ill people which is insane to me
12:52 that's interesting u say that bc she said she started using drugs for that reason. Something like "I wanna know what is so good about this, that my dad left me for it"
as someone who had a father that had both bipolar and schizophrenia I really appreciate this documentary and your reaction. The most memorable things my absentee and estrange father said to me was " I have an addictive personality." In reply to me indulging in addictive behaviors. It almost normalized my addictions to a dangerous level. Thank you for talking about this
Demi was diagnosed with Bipolar when she was 18 or 19 when she was in rehab the first time back in 2010.
Oh wow, what a nice surprise! I was just today recalling Demi Lovato's experiences, especially the part with her eating disorder(s). I don't listen to her music, I didn't grow up with the productions she acted in but she's a huge inspiration for me because she talks about body acceptance so openly. I'm also recovering from years living with eating disorders and body dismorphia and I can relate to so much she speaks about. I'm excited to watch the documentary and reaction videos!
I’d love to hear your reaction to the other episodes of this documentary, especially the third episode, which talks a lot about her responses to certain traumas that I think would help a lot of people because the reactions she expresses isn’t something that is discussed very often.
Hey doc, regarding opiates. There's also research that using opiates in a new location also increases the likelihood of overdose. They took rats accustomed to a specific dose in one environment and moved them to a new environment and they overdosed much more frequently with the exact same dose. So where you are using is as important as the amount that you use.
What that is crazy ! So interesting 😱😱
Geographic location, not method of taking? That’s craaaaaaazy!!
@@ms-corleone yes! An important distinction. Said more clearly, if you always get high at home with half a gram, and then go out to a friend's place and do half a gram, you're at an increased risk for overdose at that friend's place even if you still use half a gram.
Please keep covering this, doc
Please react to Demi's interview with Joe where she talks about being "California sober"
I was raised by a narcissistic parent and went through a LOT of trauma throughout my entire life. I never did hard drugs because I knew that I would be a candidate for becoming addicted, so I started drinking and smoking. This documentary is touching people like me who have low-level addictions but still feel disgusting inside. I know I need real help but I feel like I have to wait until the trauma and abuse ends.. Im fighting to get out on my own but its a cycle. Mentally distressed so I cant keep a job. No job means no home of my own. No home away from my parent means endless abuse. I went to a job interview this morning and my parent brought up I'm probably only getting work to buy alcohol... how is a person supposed to live like that? Im doing my best. Itll never be good enough. I think about killing myself alot.
It might never be good enough for your parents, but maybe you shouldnt do it for them. You could do good enough for you
I really relate to Demi’s story as I personally grew up with an addicted father and suffered a lot of trauma but always told myself I’d never be like him. Yet in my early 20s everything caught up to me and my mental health declined. I turned to marijuana to cope and really spiraled. Addiction doesn’t care who you are and it feels great to hear a celebrity use their platform to shine a light on something that affects so many people around the world
Can you elaborate on trauma long term care? you're right, I don't think many people know anything about it, including me. *Thank you for all you do!
Read The Body Keeps the Score by Bancroft
I need to get into that as well.
Morning Dr. Honda! Can you do a podcast episode on food addiction, weight struggles and maybe eating disorders? I struggle with obesity and gained significant weight after sexual abuse and a general chaotic, traumatic upbringing. Just wondering your take on all that.
Same here! Thank you for suggesting this ;) wish you all the best!
I’d be really interested as well. Disordered eating comes in so many forms and so many are invisible to others...I’ve never really heard the Doc talk about it a lot but perhaps he can invite an expert?
Yes and lack of self control around food. I struggle with it so much that I would be on the brink of urges to purge.
So empathic and informative. Thanks so much
she talks about her relationship with her father and his death in a very dissociated way that you can literally tell she still has a lot of suppressed grief in her.
You should watch Demi’s RUclips 2017 doco Simply Complicated, it dives more into her childhood and her relationship with her father and growing up in the spotlight and what made her get help the first time around.
I heard from a therapist "self medicate" ... She said sometimes it is what people do trying to survive .. or just get through ... This was 20 years ago and in response to how I would use drugs abusively but was never addicted ...
I was just curious about your phrasing "people will call it self medicate"
Yes. My friend and her husband went to couple's therapy and talked about his drinking problem and the therapist told him he was self medicating his trauma.
I would guess it's in opposition to a professional medical prescription. I wonder if a new term should be invented for self therapizing...
I have quit Nicorette gum after 11 years of trying to quit it. Extremely hard, much worse than cigarettes. Never touch this poison. There are no rehabs for Nicorette, but it also is very bad. It is legal, but people lose their teeth, hair, skin, brain, heart, stomach, sleep, all their health. Any addiction is hard. Stay strong and keep trying to get free.
Oh wow I didn‘t know that. :O But good for you ☺️ Congratulations!
Listening to this is so helpful with what I'm going through right now. I've struggled with self harm since I was 15. I'm 21 now and I relapsed last year after being clean for over a year. And I fell back into a depression. Listening to this made me realise that I didn't adress my thoughts of wanting to relapse. The thoughts of not knowing why I'm clean. I also realise that I have a lot of supressed trauma that I have never dealt with, I always self-medicated.
So happy to see Dr. Honda talking about somatic trauma! I have been working with clients in in-patient treatment for substance abuse and one thing that has been really striking for me is how many of our clients struggle with physical disregulation. The psychotherapy aspect of treatment is critical, but I am now of the opinion that recovery plans must integrate targeted healing of the nervous system as well.
8:42 - you’re not rambling, Dr. Kirk, you’re giving me useful knowledge that really helps me. Thank you!
Is that Depeche Mode’s “Black Celebration”? It looks like the album art. I’m not a fan of Demi Lovato’s music, but I am a heroin/fentanyl addict who is struggling to stay clean. I am clean, it’s just been harder to stay clean during the pandemic. I really like this documentary so far and her last documentary that RUclips put out. I can’t remember what it’s called but it’s on her RUclips. Maybe you can react to that one because all the episodes are out and then compare it to this one? Oh wait! I think it’s called “simply complicated”... I could be wrong.
Opiate addict also struggling to stay sober through the pandemic over here. The struggle is so real, so I hope you got the same feeling of being seen and heard by watching Dr Honda respond to this doc. I wasn't familiar with Demi Lovato either until I watched this ♡
@@inubakablog same! I’m glad I’m not alone. Thank you for reaching out to me.
You can do it, i believe in you!
Ive never felt tendency for addition, untill i experienced trauma. I was in an unbelievable amount of pain for weeks, deprived of sleep and spiralling. Thats when i got a new drug (from the doctor), psychadelic. Within an hour i felt 'normal'. It took a lot out of me to not increase usage of that to keep it all away. It took a lot of effort to stop because it made me physically sick for weeks. I had to throw the last boxes away from my home on a strong day.
I guess all im saying is. After this small taste of it, I know I will never fully understand how hard it can become. But you do and youre doing it!!
Dr. Honda, please react to 1000 lb sisters!
Have a wonderful week! ❤️
OOO YES
yes please!
WAITING FOR PART 2 🙌🙌
I can't believe that we as addicts still have the stigma that we can get over it and when we relapse, we are lying, we don't want to get better etc etc.
We have triggers. We have to learn what they are. We have tendencies we have to undo piece by piece and learn to deal with and learn how to stop repeating patterns.
It's never that simple. Mental health is not that simple. Well done Demi, because you are showing the true cycles we go through. 💘
My family and I are indigenous. We suffer from inter generational trauma, and our personal traumas. Watching this first part hit hard
That might’ve been my all time favorite way of hearing addiction explained. Wow. Spot on. Your empathy is amazing!
Her dad is from NM and since I moved here I noticed mental illness and drug/alcohol addictions are so common it’s crazy
its heartbreaking to me how much pain some people have from such a young age. i think its easy to just look at what goes on on the surface and judge but whenever you hear the details you have no other choice but to be sympathetic to the struggle addicts go through.
You should react to her first documentary on RUclips called Simply Complicated. She goes into more depth about her childhood, father, addiction and eating disorder.
There is so much to talk about in this documentary. I really liked her first documentary too. Everyone who is thinking these are only her problems is wrong, we are all connected her struggles are all of our struggles. I am grateful that she is bringing awareness. I hope that she can take the time for herself to get better.
I've never had substance abuse problems--I've never even had alcohol, or coffee!--but I do have mental illness, so I feel I can understand a lot of the thinking patterns behind addiction. I have the mentally ill part of my brain telling me things, giving my intrusive thoughts, etc. My therapist was concerned when I said I watched the doc and cried a lot. But it wasn't necessarily because I was triggered... I love Demi, I've followed her through her journey, I was so happy when she hit 6 years sober (I watched the fan video version of what was in the doc), and was hit hard when she revealed she wasn't sober anymore. The day she overdosed, I had another trauma event with my mom (who is one source of a lot of my issues), so that day is memorable for me. Watching the doc and reactions to it is a cathartic outlet for my emotions.
I really enjoyed this and hope you'll do the rest of her documentary.
Poor Demi it brakes my heart to see her going through this. I hope she’s able to get it together, she’s been through a lot since she was little.
That “moment” is different for everyone. It’s when you literally are at the point where you know you’re living wrong, you’re so tired of being miserable and living your life this way! That’s when an addict will finally get help!
Also, GOD!!!! I’m being treated with the subs as my doc thought I was so bad off with opiates that I wasn’t going to be able to stay away from them, I needed to be weaned off of them very slowly while getting counseling and working on myself. I’m on a low dose and I’ll be off of it soon and that’s ALL GOD! He makes me want to do and be better! I wouldn’t be here and where I am without Him! 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️
I had very poor experiences as a teen going to therapy. We didn’t have great insurance so there wasn’t much selection. Now in my 20s I’ve got a therapist who I’ve stayed with for well over a year. We’ve made some great progress. She’s one of the first people who helped convince me that I deserve and am worth the effort to take care of myself.
Much luck and love to anyone currently searching for help. It can be difficult to find but you’re very worth it!
I'm 5 and a half mins in and already in tears. Not because of the documentary (as awesome as it was) but because your description of the causes of CPTSD hit so close to him. ,❤️
Yes, this video was everything i hoped. I learned so much from this and i cant wait for the next episode. will you be doing her Video Diaries too? I think they could all be done in one video considering they are really sort and only a couple. They are very raw and emotional.
I was just talking to a friend about this with alcohol. She says it takes the edge of anxiety out.
It really does. That was part of the problem with quitting drinking.
Yes but the next day feels horrible but I can finally sleep !!!
This is 1/4 part if her documentary! Please react to those 3 other parts!the 3rd part is not out yet but next week it comes out and other parts are out
Looking forward to your commentary for the second episode.
I’m just hoping, for her sakes, this doesn’t become a running gag. She goes through a mental breakdown or a massive substance abuse, get’s up again, opens up about it through a documentary and then it repeats itself. In the long run this might cause more harm than anything else, because as much as there is people out there appreciating this (me included) sadly I believe there will be equally much people with less nice things to say about it to her, and I don’t know how much this will affect her.
I don't like her mom, there's something that doesn't sit well with me
Demi has struggled with bipolar disorder and bulimia and substance abuse etc. her dad was an addict and alcoholic who was bipolar and schizophrenic. So it obviously ran in her family with her mom also taking Xanax and having an ED.
I love what you say about relapse being expected. That's so encouraging, I think a lot of us feel so much internal pressure to do it right the first time but clearly it's a process, and it's not linear. Coool!
I’m so happy my friend recommended me this channel. so much insightfulness
This is SO good. I'm a psychilogist in Brazil and to study the case of this girl is very enriching. It's great to see another professional talking about this and gather knowledge. I would love to discuss your opinion on the lifestyle she still on of drink and smoke occasionally.
this channel's name would be a great band name
YASSSS! I've been waiting for this 🙌 Thank you for blessing us Dr Honda!
I just saw you uploaded this and I rushed to the original first episode to watch so I can watch this immediately after that haha:) very excited to hear your reaction, I really enjoy your documentary reaction videos!!! :) they are my favorite!! sending love from Hungary!! :)
The first episode made me super emotional, I remember growing up watching Demi in various tv shows and listening to her music and it feels so sad and painful to watch her suffer! hope everything will be sorted out for her
Really grateful you mentioned that sometimes it takes awhile to find the right therapist.. that’s what happened to me
I deeply appreciated your rambles! It hit close to home.
will you react to other episodes too bc please do, i am learning so much
Can you react to Derrick Jaxn's video where he confesses to cheating where he was famous for being a relationship guru against cheating.
Do you already have a reaction to episode 3? Because the way that Demi responds and copes with sexual abuse was very shocking to a lot of viewers.
THIS IS SO GOOD! Please continue with the rest of the Demi Lovato documentary series!!!!!
honestly you speaking just validates everything i have experience and felt. thank you. Please continue the whole documentary!!
Ramble ramble ramble! I love it! I’m learning the most when you ramble. Thank you for rambling ;-) thanks for your trigger warnings too!
Thank you for reacting to this. Love this channel. Keep up the good work :)
Thank you so much for reacting to this Dr. Honda and for your kind, inspiring words. Your insight and therapy really helps me everyday. Best wishes.
I think if people looked more into the psychology behind trauma, abuse and substance issues, they wouldn't be so harsh on addicts. Demi had so many people online making fun of her overdose and still judging her treatment choices as if it's a one size fits all. As a fan of all these years, I just want her to be happy and ok. Thank you for breaking this down for people. ❤
To add: I think it's extremely important to note that her team at the time would threaten to drop her from the label if she relapsed, therefore causing fear of losing a very successful career and causing her to stay silent instead of asking for help. She had little to no support prior to her OD that kept her from actually getting ahead of it.
2 yrs sober from opiates and although I feel things now and feel more functional, it was so scary to leave it behind because it is the only thing that made me feel “normal”. Took both my anxiety and depression away. Sucks it’s addicting 👎🏼 You should see her Grammy performance Anyone. So heartbreaking and relatable. More and more celebrities are speaking out about mental illness. Billie Eilish does too 👍🏼
I’m really glad I found your channel! This may sound like a dumb question, but you stated that alcohol is commonly used to subdue the physical and psychological pain that someone is feeling. So why is it that alcohol can also make people more emotional and possibly bring on more psychological pain? Thank you, I’m so curious!
Thank you for this. I am not an addict but I was raised by one. I find myself watching a lot of documentaries on drugs and addiction trying to understand their behaviors. Your commentary was really informative.
I consider myself very lucky 🍀 my father was all of these things and I did not get the addictive predisposition in the genes. Now, I’ve had to go through lots of therapy to help w the trauma patterns , but still overall I’m grateful I could identify my issues and pain and start to heal . God bless her journey.
She never had chance because both parents were addicts. That is what she learned.
How come I feel like the therapists i've had. Didn't feel invested or interested in any way other then 'to fix' my current situation (get me back to work). I'm struggling with my past, but for some reason every time i brought up a moment/trauma from childhood it almost felt like they waved it away. Been also thinking that it's all in my point of view. How can I not make the same mistake if I don't know if it is me over reacting or it is actually like I experience it. I relate much to Demi story about her parents substance abuse/violence). I am gratefull that she is opening up about it and spreading awareness
Maybe search for a childhood trauma therapist
I see “Demi” in a title and I’m definitely watching :) such an inspiration
Always appreciate the trigger warning, Dr. Honda!
Love your videos and would have pushed through but the prompt to check in was like very much needed and helpful.
Honestly Demi reminds me so much of myself our stories are so much alike. This helps me want to share my story one day.
Ava, You must be a strong, incredible woman then! Keep fighting for yourself❤️
I need a therapist. I’ve known I have an addictive personality for a bit now. But if I actually say that, I’m afraid I’ll lose everything.