The first time my puppy approached automatic doors she nope away from it. She must have been about 4 months. So I crouched down with her and we watched a few people go through but then I firmly and gently walked her through. I then turned around and did it again, and again. She hasn't had a problem since. I agree that sometimes you have to use gentle force to expose to them to new things for them to gain confidence, not only in themselves but in you.
Good job, what a sweet story! I've never walked mine through automatic doors. I wonder how she'd do. She's a German shepherd Australian shepherd and husky mix
I remembers Cesar Milan saying the timid dogs were the hardest to help. His treatment was also, generally, give more experiences. Thanks for this patient session.
So difficult. I have a cautious and ultra submissive border collie cattle dog mix. She is over a year old now and we are still working on socializing because we've had to take things so slow to not overwhelm her. Some dogs have such big emotions
@@KellysGarden i have the same mix and she was fine for the 1st year and a half she would easily intergarte into any situation kids, other dogs she was wonderful but at some point something must have happened I'm not sure what but she suddenly became very tense and is now scared of new dogs and is noise phobic. Its been so frustrating and difficult. 😩
Goodness, this feels like actual therapy for socially anxious people, like when I was a kid and had severe separation anxiety from my parents, some this information would have really applied to me
“Bayleigh is the least overwhelming dog in the world” 😂😂 ... she’s a totally different dog at home when we have to crate her so the grandkids can play without her in their faces . Goes to show you that dogs are different away from mom and dad .
I've personally found that playing with nervous dogs expedites the process tremendously. But sometimes it takes some time to find a game that they're not afraid of.
Getting to see dogs, the various behaviors, and personalities is very helpful. I like how you apply the techniques with that common sense consideration of the individualness of the dogs.
"She's getting pulled in... she's getting picked up... and she didn't die." The delivery on this cracked me up, especially with the way the puppy sort of looked at him like she understood every word and was processing it. :D
No child comes with a guarantee. You take what you get and work with it . Unconditional love and strong guidance for a well rounded life. Thank you Joel for this video.
'She will avoid life her whole life'. That is a notion most people don't understand, yet they always also avoid something their entire lives because they feel uncomfortable. But if u want to improve at something, somwtimes u have to face and deal with the struggles.
“We need tiny little sheep” so cute! 😍 Thank you for this reinforcement of challenging nervous dogs while trying not to overwhelm them. I’m in the thick of this with my rescue. It’s been a year of largely avoiding and very slow sitting waiting just like you mentioned! Enough is enough! I have accepted recently that we have just got to get our move on so we can get that exposure and socialization with the outside world. The cries and screams in the car when the peanut butter lick mat is empty is the most excruciating. I worry that allowing all the over threshold behavior is reinforcing it??? But how else can I get down the road more than 5 mins to get to big open spaces (or the vet or necessary trips). He’s not totally scared…it’s a combo of happy excitement and nervous anxious. He’s curious and brave yet skiddish….so I believe 100% we can do this. I just can’t see myself where I’m messing up. I think a year of daily devotion, baby steps and patience without full resolution is indicator I’m am doing lots of stuff wrong. But we have progressed in some major ways so I remain hopeful I can figure this out. I appreciate the balance in your training. Please more doggos like this❣️🙏
That's so true. Its sad and Very complicated that many many times the dog behaves better and is more trainable when the owners are not around. So the matter is basically on then and how to train the humans kkkkk
Good to see how Joel applies his balanced approach in action. It is clear that he carefully assesses the dog and adjusts his approach to get the maximum result instead of one-fits-all type that many dog trainers are only able to produce.
My 5.5 month old golden retriever came to us anxious at 13 weeks. Breeder said she was, “ so sweet.” Translation, fearful. We’ve made a lot of progress with her through training and going about life. But the one thing we cannot do is get her to be calm in the car and to leave the driveway for a walk. We’ve tried luring with treats. We’ve tried coaxing. We’ve tried correcting and pulling with leash ( she gets on her hind legs and hops, trying to get back to house) We’ve tried walking a steady pace. That goes well until she sees the street. Nothing is working and she is definitely over her limit most times. In the car, she goes into the corner of the seat and shakes. Within 10-15 minutes, she vomits and then is even more anxious. Please do a video in young puppies too scared to walk off property. I know we need to learn how to correct appropriately without pushing her over the edge. Ideas for car would also be helpful. I’m loving your puppy series! Thank you.
The dog was getting closer and closer to Joel. Everytime she get near he would stick his hand out and she run back to the grass at the very end of the video lol but he was talking to us. I love these videos. He's a very GREAT trainer.💯💯💯💕
I like that you say there is a line and we each have to find that line for each of our dogs (or even human children). You are correct about that. How many parents cry when their child goes to kindergarten for the first time? You still have to do it!
Thanks Joel! I have a relatively shy dog. She's getting better with more exposure to things even though she is three. People always ask what happened to her to make her that way? And I've had her since a puppy and I know where she came from, I think she was just born a little on the shy and fearful side, and to be honest I know I didn't do enough to fix that when she was a puppy. But it's good to hear you say that you believe some dogs are just that way, it validates what I believe. Not all shy and fearful dogs were abused.
Ask friends to babysit her several times per week (not the same friend) and do fun stuff with her. It helps a ton to have other people than her human do that with her.
I have a naturally nervous and sensitive dog and often felt like I was failing her. But it is just they way she came! She's also a border collie mix. These herding breeds especially tend to be on the far side of the sensitivity spectrum. It is extra tricky to socialize and train them. Its not because you suck or did anything wrong.
One of the proudest moments I had with a dog is when I picked up one of my old dogs. She came from a history of abuse and was incredibly nervous at everything. Slowly, me and my roommate built up her confidence and she didn't love being picked up. She tolerated it when it was but she didn't love it. We never pushed her too hard but it was necessary occasionally. Then one day, we're on a walk and she hurt her paw. Nothing serious. Just twisted it. But she couldn't walk on it. I maybe could have let her limp home but it would have been miserable and scary for her being hurt and vulnerable like that. So I picked her up, gently as I could. Still she squealed and thrashed for about a second because she was hurt and that scared her. I just held on and supported her weight. The freak out was literally probably less than a second but she did manage to catch her tooth on my cheek. I don’t think she intended to bite or do damage. I think it was a total accident. But after I didn’t react, and I held her and supported her even when she was losing her mind, I felt her change. Her body relaxed and she let me carry her all the way home. It was a moment where I could feel in my gut she knew I was trying to help her. Some people may think she just shut down, and yes. She was so panicked and there probably was some element of that in the moment. But even in that state, she didn't turn and bite my face like she could have. She let me carry her and I brought her home. I put her on a soft blanket and brought her some water and I let her have her space until she calmed down. And she remembered. She was a lot calmer dog after that. It was like a light clicked on in her brain that this person is safe. ❤
I needed to see this. My 10-month pup is so nervous and jumpy. Part of it is she's in a very intense fear period. Even if I get up from my desk too suddenly, she runs and hides under the bed. Yet, if I try to leave her with someone else, she is like that Delly -- she desperately wants to get back to me. Out in the woods it's different; when she's out in the woods chasing squirrels she is very confident -- always on alert, but comfortable and confident.
I myself was brought up with “being pushed into your luck” attitude and tended to apply the same to our dogs. Worked a treat with a Dutch Shepherd a long time ago. We now have two Border Collie sisters yet they are quiet different and I needed to adjust and learn for one that is just a lot more sensitive. One is happy to sit back and observe from a distance, but also copes being thrust into new experiences and just has a much more robust psyche. The other one was always more “front of house”, but is actually more nervous and sensitive when you dig deeper. Unfortunately I made mistakes in the beginning with her, by being hard with her at times, when positive only training would have probably suited her better in hindsight. Just hope I can fix where I went wrong initially. The other one just blossomed with the tougher old school “balanced” approach, even though I was too tough on her at times, but luckily now have a happy, confident, balanced and self assured dog. Wish I was better at training, but we all bring our individual past to their life. I also found that trust is what helps the most, but some dogs just struggle to give it completely, when it comes down to it. It is what it is and all styles of training have a place I believe. It shows that even dogs from the same litter can be very, very different and require different approaches, same as owners. I’m just glad that these days I have access to a huge expanse of knowledge online and can try and learn from experts like you on how I can become better and do these dogs justice. So thank you very much!👍
The mini Aussies (MAS) supposedly were bred down with Paps and/or chihuahuas. Having exposure of at least a 100 of these breeds (and owning 3) I personally would say 75% of this bred down breed have issues of fear/super startle response, etc… Being an owner of shelties for 40 years I have found the MAS with bigger fear issues/and what we refer to as stranger danger. Great job of making her face her fear issues. I agree middle of the road for this breed.
Thank you for talking about the different mindsets of how to approach dogs like this and in general. There is NO one size fits all!!! The way I see it is these ppl are one way only ppl for every dog and it's one extreme or the other with no middle ground. This mindset/way of working with dogs can do serious damage...😔
She seemed surprisingly content in your arms. She is laser-focused on her 'owners'. It looks like in order for her to come out of her shell in a worthwhile way, she would have to spend half of her life boarding with you and the other half with her folks! She is adorable!
Nice work - my old GSD was similar when we rescued her between 3 - 4 months of age. As we lived in a small town, her learning curve from a backyard with other dogs to town-life was steep. And boy, was she nervous; screaming (loudly, oh yes, like a banshee) when she encountered CATS. No kidding. Cats, other loose dogs running up to her etc., she'd scream and try to slip out of her collar. But avoidance wasn't an option, so she adapted quickly. Within 3 - 6 months, she became relatively comfortable in a wide variety of situations, and after 1 - 2 years, she had become a quite confident dog, well-adapted to town life and all its craziness. Had we had our own house in the countryside like now, I would have struggled getting her the exposure she needed to gain confidence; as there' hardly any or anything out here.
Joel, thanks for another great video. Not only our your videos educational but you make them entertaining. Luv how you mimic the critics & always appreciate you admitting your mistakes. That takes character🐶😊
I like that you highlight there is a fine line with when to do corrections and how much. Might be this dog is very intelligent with linguistics. You said "Stay right there" to Bailey's handler, and the nervous dog sat immediately. Looking to you for a release command it seemed. I wonder if half the problem is a lack of goals and language training. I see a sheep dog looking for intellectual stimulation.
15:24 looks more like she's starting to accept the situation. She's not quite smiling but she's a bit more at ease than at the start. She also looks and moves around less frantically.
This puppy series is so helpful! I would love to hear more about how to help a puppy coexist with an older dog. My older dog is very calm and likes to snooze. My puppy is super bold and energetic. They seem to like each other but the puppy goes crazy everytime she's in the older Dog's vicinity. We usually keep them separated and play/exercise the puppy individually, but how can we start to integrate them eventually without the puppy pouncing on the older dog to play constantly?
I love how many different types of dogs you deal with , not just one breed or a type of breed like little Cesar . Never seen him train a mastiff . I wonder why?
Beckman family 🐾 , I am doing separation anxiety with our boy. He's stays in his bed for 1 1/2 minutes training in and out the door. Trying to get pass a 1 1/2 minute time frame. In crate he gets to high for 20 minutes before he stops. So now it's out crate on loose leash in bed, patience.💕🐾
Get a Kong that you can fill with stuffing. Then get back before he finishes it, at first. If you have a doggycam you can monitor how he's doing. Putting music up helps too. There are great playlists on youtube and spotify.
Its so tricky with sensitive and nervous dogs. I agree that it is definitely a middle of the road thing. My cattle dog/border collie mix would enthusiastically avoid so many things in life if we didn't gently expose her. We'd never be able to groom her for example. Or take her in the car. She hated walks for the first 6 months of her life and now she is the best loose leash walker! The not overwhelming them part is what is so hard . Because you can easily make their nervousness/fear worse by pushing them too far. You are right about genetics and how "she came this way". We have had the same experience with ours. It seems super common for herding breeds to have these issues because they are bred to be alert and sensitive to their environment and to movement.
Thanks for puppy advice! It's freezing cool in Paris and our new 9 weeks old Iggy refuses to go outside, crying and winning , not willing to take a walk or putty... I would love your insight!
Forcing your IG outside in cold weather is not good. They are extremely sensitive to cold. My IGs have their own back yard, but when it gets cold, they know to go in their litter box inside. Don't get a breed that you don't know how to take care of properly.
@@virginieniel1840 I gave you a respectful answer. If you had researched the breed before getting one, you would know that they need a litter box for cold weather. I have had IGs for about 30 years. I train them to use an indoor potty first, because they have no undercoat to keep them warm and their bladders are tiny and they need a safe place to go. Nowadays I use a weekly grass pad. These dogs were kept by royalty in Europe. Why? Because they require special care.
I thought Gina's answer felt a little negatively judgmental, too. If you leave out, "don't get a breed you don't know how to take care of...", one sees that it's not unreasonable for these tiny skinny dogs with no natural insulation to want to stay inside the nice warm house! Maybe it is a good idea to get an indoor toilet with floor heating and a heated seat for the little person?
My 8 month old gsd is a bit like this when he's in the middle of his nervous moments. He mostly will only have them if a new person joins us in a closed room at home or in 6+ people "crowds" in gatherings. I can get him normal and not behaving too anxiously by making sure no one reaches out to pet him, or even acknowledges him much. In that case he can walk past almost everyone without too much of a problem, but he's done for if just one person reaches out. He won't go near them at all and just looks overwhelmed even when he's safe and no one's trying to say hi.
It's really weird because the behavior change was quite stark. He was a super people social puppy up until somewhere in 6 months, close to 7. Then he started being wary and needed to sniff familiar faces before he would get to playing with them as usual. Then he started being fearful of my nephews jist entirely- then almost everyone in general after that even if he had played and met with them before.
Sounds like your dog is entering that fear period that Joel talks about. Maybe Joel can do a little video on how to deal with the fear period particularly.
Had a dog in a boarding kennel like that. The dog avoided everyone and scared,of everything. Dog bit me once when I was trying to pick him up to go outside. It was hiding in fear to go outside. So, I decided that day I wasn’t going to pussy foot around and let the dog live like that. So, every day I leashed that dog and walked it by all of the barking dogs wanting outside. A week later it was the most confident dog. The owner returned several months later and thanked me. She didn’t know how I did it, and I asked did what? Her dog was terrified of every visitor and after my work the dog had no more fears. Had I told the owner how I fixed it, she probably wouldn’t have like me. Why? Cause the owner is how the dog became that way! She allowed that dog to live in fear.
Poor thing I would love to see more videos on genetic fear in puppies PLEASE I have recently boarded my pup she actually done good she was there for 5 hours I'm thinking of boarding her once a week to help her with fear of strangers and other dogs
Joel, can you please do a video about puppies/young dogs being a jerk to older dogs? My 6 month old retriever mix body slams my poor old senior dog. We never let it slide, we always give the big “HEY!” and pursue her and make her sit and tell her no. But, she keeps doing it. It’s such a jerk move. And our old guy is too old and tired to correct her.
i really like this video, i think its helping me understand my 4 month old puppy. She is aboslutly afraid of me and my wife, although it seems like shes growing on us slowly. I really want to expose her to the right level of things, and find "that line" like you say. Its so easy to seem like im pushing her to hard (even by giving her treats). i try to be middle of the road like you. do you think the training is the same for a dog found in feral conditions?
Left my puppy alone today. He didn't stop barking for nearly 2 hrs and inored all the toys and treats and a kong filled with PB😭 watched him through live cam
Aww! I'm going through separation anxiety issues with my 6-month old pup, too. I'm starting very slowly...seconds at a time, then minutes at a time. Yesterday, we made it to 5 minutes without crying while he was in a crate with a beef soup bone. Very slow progress, but I am hoping that we can keep building on successful short sessions. Hope things get better. Please post with updates.
@@arcobyte99 that's great! I left him today for 40 minutes.. watched him through cam He cried and the calmed down and howled luke a wolf. This time i left him in the puppy thingy with a fence so he doesn't have whole room and it worked better because he laid and wasn't standing by the door (he couldn't). He slowly realizes that barking and crying won't make it better^^ i also leave him for short periods like few minutes when i go upstairs or downstairs.. to shoe that i'll always return😃😅
My 6 months old puppy is super good with dogs and people but she is scared of everything else outside when we go for a walk. She gets so nervous and overwhelmed that i can not even make her look into my eyes let lone making her walk on a leash! She doesn’t get any treats even when she is outside!
Can you make a video again on getting a consistent recall with puppies that blow off their owners or with adhd. My dobie runs after dogs off leash, i would like to do flirt pole with him again but a long line lead is the only way and it sucks cause he gets stuck on rope.
My border collie 16 week puppy is the same way but as I hear you talking I see no major problem with it take them out with you or stay home I'm a introvert anyway
just seems extremely timid, even with the owners she constantly circled them and i doubt she would have entered the water if the owner wasn’t in the middle but credit to joel, he might have told him to go stand there to let the dog know the water is fine
Could you do a video on how to stop dogs from barking at people and dogs outside of the car window? Also, could you show how to desensitize a dog to being pet by adult and child strangers? This would be for therapy dog work
Caesar Milan had a video clip of a dog named Luke who was fearful of humans because his paw was chopped off. That video may help with desensitization to petting. Does the dog not like being approached by strangers? My dog needs to have strangers earn his trust, he does not love people just because. He responds well to confidence in people and will bark at people who try to baby him and pet him. He’s very affectionate towards his pack though and with repetition (people are no longer strangers but friends) he won’t bark and is now even taking more interest in people. If I could give advice I’d say people should give treats, don’t make eye contact, remain calm and be told to pat the dogs back, not head, and respect the dog by stopping petting as soon as the dog gives signs of annoyance, because that will earn the dogs trust.
My dog is hot and cold with his people shyness. He’ll be fine with someone new for five minutes, then just have enough of it. In addition, he’ll ignore some unfamiliar dogs, but will get tunnel vision on others. He seems curious about new people and dogs, but is socially awkward.
What’s your opinion on a puppy amstaff that is 9 months old that jumps and bites when when he isn’t getting what he wants any recommendations ? Does it go away on its own because it’s a puppy behavior or should I correct it more then I already do ?
Should not allow an amstaf to be jumping and biting. Just correct, not with violence or you will have problems. Correct consistently, I use the ground method, I just groudn the dog on a bathroom or some place for a few minutes for him to think of what his done, it's a great non violent correction.
It’s a breed standard. I don’t know why. Doberman ears don’t come the way the appear. Breeds follow standards. But more and more people are choosing to not alter their dogs. If it’s not necessary. Some people don’t remove dewclaws also. I have read they do serve a purpose so I find breeders and one of my questions is about dew claws
"Bailey... do you even see the other dog?" 😆 aww they are so cute!
The first time my puppy approached automatic doors she nope away from it. She must have been about 4 months. So I crouched down with her and we watched a few people go through but then I firmly and gently walked her through. I then turned around and did it again, and again. She hasn't had a problem since. I agree that sometimes you have to use gentle force to expose to them to new things for them to gain confidence, not only in themselves but in you.
Good job, what a sweet story! I've never walked mine through automatic doors. I wonder how she'd do. She's a German shepherd Australian shepherd and husky mix
I remembers Cesar Milan saying the timid dogs were the hardest to help. His treatment was also, generally, give more experiences. Thanks for this patient session.
Very true- they are just unsure and nervous, all we can do is guide them through their new experiences and make them positive
So difficult. I have a cautious and ultra submissive border collie cattle dog mix. She is over a year old now and we are still working on socializing because we've had to take things so slow to not overwhelm her. Some dogs have such big emotions
@@KellysGarden Don't give up; she is young and maybe is going through a more extensive "fear period" as Joel calls it. I hope she finds her mojo.
My old dog once peed its pants when a balloon fell near it. So scared of everything. Poor girl!
@@KellysGarden i have the same mix and she was fine for the 1st year and a half she would easily intergarte into any situation kids, other dogs she was wonderful but at some point something must have happened I'm not sure what but she suddenly became very tense and is now scared of new dogs and is noise phobic. Its been so frustrating and difficult. 😩
Goodness, this feels like actual therapy for socially anxious people, like when I was a kid and had severe separation anxiety from my parents, some this information would have really applied to me
100% . I have a nervous dog and working through her "issues" has helped me learn more about my own anxiety issues.
I'm also seeing a lot of resemblance with human behaviour through the explanations of Joel. I thought I was the only one
“Bayleigh is the least overwhelming dog in the world” 😂😂 ... she’s a totally different dog at home when we have to crate her so the grandkids can play without her in their faces . Goes to show you that dogs are different away from mom and dad .
I've personally found that playing with nervous dogs expedites the process tremendously. But sometimes it takes some time to find a game that they're not afraid of.
Yes!!!! Play 100%
Getting to see dogs, the various behaviors, and personalities is very helpful. I like how you apply the techniques with that common sense consideration of the individualness of the dogs.
"She's getting pulled in... she's getting picked up... and she didn't die." The delivery on this cracked me up, especially with the way the puppy sort of looked at him like she understood every word and was processing it. :D
No child comes with a guarantee. You take what you get and work with it . Unconditional love and strong guidance for a well rounded life. Thank you Joel for this video.
'She will avoid life her whole life'.
That is a notion most people don't understand, yet they always also avoid something their entire lives because they feel uncomfortable.
But if u want to improve at something, somwtimes u have to face and deal with the struggles.
Refreshing change of pace in this session! Never had to deal with anything like that and I learned a lot!
Thanks Joel! More videos with Deli please!! Your videos with soft, shy dogs have been helping us so much with our 9 month old mini aussie
“We need tiny little sheep” so cute! 😍 Thank you for this reinforcement of challenging nervous dogs while trying not to overwhelm them. I’m in the thick of this with my rescue. It’s been a year of largely avoiding and very slow sitting waiting just like you mentioned! Enough is enough! I have accepted recently that we have just got to get our move on so we can get that exposure and socialization with the outside world. The cries and screams in the car when the peanut butter lick mat is empty is the most excruciating. I worry that allowing all the over threshold behavior is reinforcing it??? But how else can I get down the road more than 5 mins to get to big open spaces (or the vet or necessary trips). He’s not totally scared…it’s a combo of happy excitement and nervous anxious. He’s curious and brave yet skiddish….so I believe 100% we can do this. I just can’t see myself where I’m messing up. I think a year of daily devotion, baby steps and patience without full resolution is indicator I’m am doing lots of stuff wrong. But we have progressed in some major ways so I remain hopeful I can figure this out. I appreciate the balance in your training. Please more doggos like this❣️🙏
Again 100% !!! Some owners are unknowingly "feeding" into their dogs fear. This dog will have a better life after spending this time with you👍🐾
That's so true. Its sad and Very complicated that many many times the dog behaves better and is more trainable when the owners are not around. So the matter is basically on then and how to train the humans kkkkk
Good to see how Joel applies his balanced approach in action. It is clear that he carefully assesses the dog and adjusts his approach to get the maximum result instead of one-fits-all type that many dog trainers are only able to produce.
My 5.5 month old golden retriever came to us anxious at 13 weeks. Breeder said she was, “ so sweet.” Translation, fearful. We’ve made a lot of progress with her through training and going about life. But the one thing we cannot do is get her to be calm in the car and to leave the driveway for a walk. We’ve tried luring with treats. We’ve tried coaxing. We’ve tried correcting and pulling with leash ( she gets on her hind legs and hops, trying to get back to house) We’ve tried walking a steady pace. That goes well until she sees the street. Nothing is working and she is definitely over her limit most times. In the car, she goes into the corner of the seat and shakes. Within 10-15 minutes, she vomits and then is even more anxious. Please do a video in young puppies too scared to walk off property. I know we need to learn how to correct appropriately without pushing her over the edge. Ideas for car would also be helpful. I’m loving your puppy series! Thank you.
The dog was getting closer and closer to Joel. Everytime she get near he would stick his hand out and she run back to the grass at the very end of the video lol but he was talking to us. I love these videos. He's a very GREAT trainer.💯💯💯💕
I like that you say there is a line and we each have to find that line for each of our dogs (or even human children). You are correct about that. How many parents cry when their child goes to kindergarten for the first time? You still have to do it!
Thanks Joel! I have a relatively shy dog. She's getting better with more exposure to things even though she is three. People always ask what happened to her to make her that way? And I've had her since a puppy and I know where she came from, I think she was just born a little on the shy and fearful side, and to be honest I know I didn't do enough to fix that when she was a puppy. But it's good to hear you say that you believe some dogs are just that way, it validates what I believe. Not all shy and fearful dogs were abused.
Absolutely! Some dogs are just more sensitive, just like people.
Ask friends to babysit her several times per week (not the same friend) and do fun stuff with her. It helps a ton to have other people than her human do that with her.
@@Flippokid that's good advice, thanks😊
All dogs need socializing
I have a naturally nervous and sensitive dog and often felt like I was failing her. But it is just they way she came! She's also a border collie mix. These herding breeds especially tend to be on the far side of the sensitivity spectrum. It is extra tricky to socialize and train them. Its not because you suck or did anything wrong.
One of the proudest moments I had with a dog is when I picked up one of my old dogs.
She came from a history of abuse and was incredibly nervous at everything. Slowly, me and my roommate built up her confidence and she didn't love being picked up. She tolerated it when it was but she didn't love it. We never pushed her too hard but it was necessary occasionally.
Then one day, we're on a walk and she hurt her paw. Nothing serious. Just twisted it. But she couldn't walk on it.
I maybe could have let her limp home but it would have been miserable and scary for her being hurt and vulnerable like that.
So I picked her up, gently as I could. Still she squealed and thrashed for about a second because she was hurt and that scared her.
I just held on and supported her weight. The freak out was literally probably less than a second but she did manage to catch her tooth on my cheek. I don’t think she intended to bite or do damage. I think it was a total accident.
But after I didn’t react, and I held her and supported her even when she was losing her mind, I felt her change. Her body relaxed and she let me carry her all the way home.
It was a moment where I could feel in my gut she knew I was trying to help her. Some people may think she just shut down, and yes. She was so panicked and there probably was some element of that in the moment.
But even in that state, she didn't turn and bite my face like she could have. She let me carry her and I brought her home. I put her on a soft blanket and brought her some water and I let her have her space until she calmed down.
And she remembered. She was a lot calmer dog after that. It was like a light clicked on in her brain that this person is safe. ❤
I needed to see this. My 10-month pup is so nervous and jumpy. Part of it is she's in a very intense fear period. Even if I get up from my desk too suddenly, she runs and hides under the bed. Yet, if I try to leave her with someone else, she is like that Delly -- she desperately wants to get back to me. Out in the woods it's different; when she's out in the woods chasing squirrels she is very confident -- always on alert, but comfortable and confident.
0:12 I like how you built the fence around the rock
Love your puppy playlist here! Please keep em coming! :)
I myself was brought up with “being pushed into your luck” attitude and tended to apply the same to our dogs. Worked a treat with a Dutch Shepherd a long time ago. We now have two Border Collie sisters yet they are quiet different and I needed to adjust and learn for one that is just a lot more sensitive. One is happy to sit back and observe from a distance, but also copes being thrust into new experiences and just has a much more robust psyche. The other one was always more “front of house”, but is actually more nervous and sensitive when you dig deeper. Unfortunately I made mistakes in the beginning with her, by being hard with her at times, when positive only training would have probably suited her better in hindsight. Just hope I can fix where I went wrong initially. The other one just blossomed with the tougher old school “balanced” approach, even though I was too tough on her at times, but luckily now have a happy, confident, balanced and self assured dog. Wish I was better at training, but we all bring our individual past to their life. I also found that trust is what helps the most, but some dogs just struggle to give it completely, when it comes down to it. It is what it is and all styles of training have a place I believe. It shows that even dogs from the same litter can be very, very different and require different approaches, same as owners. I’m just glad that these days I have access to a huge expanse of knowledge online and can try and learn from experts like you on how I can become better and do these dogs justice. So thank you very much!👍
The mini Aussies (MAS) supposedly were bred down with Paps and/or chihuahuas. Having exposure of at least a 100 of these breeds (and owning 3) I personally would say 75% of this bred down breed have issues of fear/super startle response, etc… Being an owner of shelties for 40 years I have found the MAS with bigger fear issues/and what we refer to as stranger danger. Great job of making her face her fear issues. I agree middle of the road for this breed.
Interesting. Thanks for that insight.
You're completely right. 90% of MAS I've met and worked with act exactly like Deli.
Neither of my MAS (including Bayleigh) were crossbred or out crossed. They were selectively bred down for size.
Thank you for talking about the different mindsets of how to approach dogs like this and in general. There is NO one size fits all!!!
The way I see it is these ppl are one way only ppl for every dog and it's one extreme or the other with no middle ground.
This mindset/way of working with dogs can do serious damage...😔
She seemed surprisingly content in your arms. She is laser-focused on her 'owners'. It looks like in order for her to come out of her shell in a worthwhile way, she would have to spend half of her life boarding with you and the other half with her folks! She is adorable!
It’s sad to see her avoid things but she needs to learn that if she avoids things then she won’t have friends
Nice work - my old GSD was similar when we rescued her between 3 - 4 months of age. As we lived in a small town, her learning curve from a backyard with other dogs to town-life was steep. And boy, was she nervous; screaming (loudly, oh yes, like a banshee) when she encountered CATS. No kidding. Cats, other loose dogs running up to her etc., she'd scream and try to slip out of her collar. But avoidance wasn't an option, so she adapted quickly. Within 3 - 6 months, she became relatively comfortable in a wide variety of situations, and after 1 - 2 years, she had become a quite confident dog, well-adapted to town life and all its craziness. Had we had our own house in the countryside like now, I would have struggled getting her the exposure she needed to gain confidence; as there' hardly any or anything out here.
Joel, thanks for another great video. Not only our your videos educational but you make them entertaining. Luv how you mimic the critics & always appreciate you admitting your mistakes. That takes character🐶😊
I like that you highlight there is a fine line with when to do corrections and how much.
Might be this dog is very intelligent with linguistics. You said "Stay right there" to Bailey's handler, and the nervous dog sat immediately. Looking to you for a release command it seemed. I wonder if half the problem is a lack of goals and language training.
I see a sheep dog looking for intellectual stimulation.
15:24 looks more like she's starting to accept the situation. She's not quite smiling but she's a bit more at ease than at the start. She also looks and moves around less frantically.
This puppy series is so helpful! I would love to hear more about how to help a puppy coexist with an older dog. My older dog is very calm and likes to snooze. My puppy is super bold and energetic. They seem to like each other but the puppy goes crazy everytime she's in the older Dog's vicinity. We usually keep them separated and play/exercise the puppy individually, but how can we start to integrate them eventually without the puppy pouncing on the older dog to play constantly?
Good video. Thanks. Really like your training style.
Omg deli is so precious ☺️
The butt-sniff Delhi gave to Bailey at the end. Was that progress? Looked like the best contact since the initial nose-to-nose sniff.
I love how many different types of dogs you deal with , not just one breed or a type of breed like little Cesar . Never seen him train a mastiff . I wonder why?
I made leaving or experiencing new things a non issue with my kids, and I do the same with puppies. If you show anxiety then they feed off if that.
Thanks for another video you guys!
such a cuty!
Beckman family 🐾 ,
I am doing separation anxiety with our boy. He's stays in his bed for 1 1/2 minutes training in and out the door. Trying to get pass a 1 1/2 minute time frame. In crate he gets to high for 20 minutes before he stops. So now it's out crate on loose leash in bed, patience.💕🐾
Get a Kong that you can fill with stuffing. Then get back before he finishes it, at first. If you have a doggycam you can monitor how he's doing. Putting music up helps too. There are great playlists on youtube and spotify.
Also, We pronounce Aussie as Ozzie! Thanks! Love your videos. You really do understand dogs!
Great video
Its so tricky with sensitive and nervous dogs. I agree that it is definitely a middle of the road thing. My cattle dog/border collie mix would enthusiastically avoid so many things in life if we didn't gently expose her. We'd never be able to groom her for example. Or take her in the car. She hated walks for the first 6 months of her life and now she is the best loose leash walker! The not overwhelming them part is what is so hard . Because you can easily make their nervousness/fear worse by pushing them too far. You are right about genetics and how "she came this way". We have had the same experience with ours. It seems super common for herding breeds to have these issues because they are bred to be alert and sensitive to their environment and to movement.
Thanks for puppy advice! It's freezing cool in Paris and our new 9 weeks old Iggy refuses to go outside, crying and winning , not willing to take a walk or putty... I would love your insight!
Forcing your IG outside in cold weather is not good. They are extremely sensitive to cold. My IGs have their own back yard, but when it gets cold, they know to go in their litter box inside. Don't get a breed that you don't know how to take care of properly.
@@ginacirelli1581 how assuming! Silly of me to think I would get a helpful and respectful answer...
@@virginieniel1840 I gave you a respectful answer. If you had researched the breed before getting one, you would know that they need a litter box for cold weather. I have had IGs for about 30 years. I train them to use an indoor potty first, because they have no undercoat to keep them warm and their bladders are tiny and they need a safe place to go. Nowadays I use a weekly grass pad. These dogs were kept by royalty in Europe. Why? Because they require special care.
I thought Gina's answer felt a little negatively judgmental, too. If you leave out, "don't get a breed you don't know how to take care of...", one sees that it's not unreasonable for these tiny skinny dogs with no natural insulation to want to stay inside the nice warm house! Maybe it is a good idea to get an indoor toilet with floor heating and a heated seat for the little person?
You have my permission as an Australian person to pronounce it as "Ozzy/Auzzy"!!!
My 8 month old gsd is a bit like this when he's in the middle of his nervous moments. He mostly will only have them if a new person joins us in a closed room at home or in 6+ people "crowds" in gatherings. I can get him normal and not behaving too anxiously by making sure no one reaches out to pet him, or even acknowledges him much. In that case he can walk past almost everyone without too much of a problem, but he's done for if just one person reaches out. He won't go near them at all and just looks overwhelmed even when he's safe and no one's trying to say hi.
It's really weird because the behavior change was quite stark. He was a super people social puppy up until somewhere in 6 months, close to 7. Then he started being wary and needed to sniff familiar faces before he would get to playing with them as usual. Then he started being fearful of my nephews jist entirely- then almost everyone in general after that even if he had played and met with them before.
Sounds like your dog is entering that fear period that Joel talks about. Maybe Joel can do a little video on how to deal with the fear period particularly.
I need my Bella to be board and trained. She’s a great dog just stubborn
can u make another video on dogs barking at things outside the door/gate
This dog has been babied. Not treated like a dog.
Had a dog in a boarding kennel like that. The dog avoided everyone and scared,of everything. Dog bit me once when I was trying to pick him up to go outside. It was hiding in fear to go outside. So, I decided that day I wasn’t going to pussy foot around and let the dog live like that. So, every day I leashed that dog and walked it by all of the barking dogs wanting outside. A week later it was the most confident dog. The owner returned several months later and thanked me. She didn’t know how I did it, and I asked did what? Her dog was terrified of every visitor and after my work the dog had no more fears. Had I told the owner how I fixed it, she probably wouldn’t have like me. Why? Cause the owner is how the dog became that way! She allowed that dog to live in fear.
Hey Joel! Little sheep are called lambs! 😂 Sorry, I just couldn't resist saying that!
I'm interested to see how one changes the genetic temperament of a dog.
Poor thing I would love to see more videos on genetic fear in puppies PLEASE I have recently boarded my pup she actually done good she was there for 5 hours I'm thinking of boarding her once a week to help her with fear of strangers and other dogs
Joel, can you please do a video about puppies/young dogs being a jerk to older dogs? My 6 month old retriever mix body slams my poor old senior dog. We never let it slide, we always give the big “HEY!” and pursue her and make her sit and tell her no. But, she keeps doing it. It’s such a jerk move. And our old guy is too old and tired to correct her.
Probably means that dog doesn’t take you as a real leader/the dominant in the relationship
probably sees you as weak and not controlling enough .
i really like this video, i think its helping me understand my 4 month old puppy. She is aboslutly afraid of me and my wife, although it seems like shes growing on us slowly. I really want to expose her to the right level of things, and find "that line" like you say. Its so easy to seem like im pushing her to hard (even by giving her treats). i try to be middle of the road like you. do you think the training is the same for a dog found in feral conditions?
Would doggie daycare be too overwhelming for this dog?
Has there even been a dog(s) that has jumped all of the (short) fences on the property?
Can I ask an off topic question? Why do so many dogs have their tails cut off over there?
Left my puppy alone today. He didn't stop barking for nearly 2 hrs and inored all the toys and treats and a kong filled with PB😭 watched him through live cam
Aww! I'm going through separation anxiety issues with my 6-month old pup, too. I'm starting very slowly...seconds at a time, then minutes at a time. Yesterday, we made it to 5 minutes without crying while he was in a crate with a beef soup bone. Very slow progress, but I am hoping that we can keep building on successful short sessions. Hope things get better. Please post with updates.
@@arcobyte99 that's great! I left him today for 40 minutes.. watched him through cam
He cried and the calmed down and howled luke a wolf. This time i left him in the puppy thingy with a fence so he doesn't have whole room and it worked better because he laid and wasn't standing by the door (he couldn't). He slowly realizes that barking and crying won't make it better^^ i also leave him for short periods like few minutes when i go upstairs or downstairs.. to shoe that i'll always return😃😅
My 6 months old puppy is super good with dogs and people but she is scared of everything else outside when we go for a walk. She gets so nervous and overwhelmed that i can not even make her look into my eyes let lone making her walk on a leash! She doesn’t get any treats even when she is outside!
Can you make a video again on getting a consistent recall with puppies that blow off their owners or with adhd. My dobie runs after dogs off leash, i would like to do flirt pole with him again but a long line lead is the only way and it sucks cause he gets stuck on rope.
Second this. But you’ve definitely got to work on your long line handling skills. That’s the way to get it
He made one already a few months back; basically, u need to go get the dog and bring him to you every time he does not come to you when tell him to.
Love your videos 💕❤💕❤
My border collie 16 week puppy is the same way but as I hear you talking I see no major problem with it take them out with you or stay home I'm a introvert anyway
I feel like when he looks at her she gets scared, but when he doesn't make direct eye contact she calms down a bit.
just seems extremely timid, even with the owners she constantly circled them and i doubt she would have entered the water if the owner wasn’t in the middle but credit to joel, he might have told him to go stand there to let the dog know the water is fine
@@vrdla She is used that her fear is being fed.
thats a border collie-
Joel, how do you get her to be less nervous, less worried, when it's complicated by an intense fear period ?
About to watch the video, but wondering if you have answers for a puppy whining and jumping up on glass door to get inside?
Could you do a video on how to stop dogs from barking at people and dogs outside of the car window? Also, could you show how to desensitize a dog to being pet by adult and child strangers? This would be for therapy dog work
Caesar Milan had a video clip of a dog named Luke who was fearful of humans because his paw was chopped off. That video may help with desensitization to petting. Does the dog not like being approached by strangers? My dog needs to have strangers earn his trust, he does not love people just because. He responds well to confidence in people and will bark at people who try to baby him and pet him. He’s very affectionate towards his pack though and with repetition (people are no longer strangers but friends) he won’t bark and is now even taking more interest in people. If I could give advice I’d say people should give treats, don’t make eye contact, remain calm and be told to pat the dogs back, not head, and respect the dog by stopping petting as soon as the dog gives signs of annoyance, because that will earn the dogs trust.
My dog is hot and cold with his people shyness. He’ll be fine with someone new for five minutes, then just have enough of it. In addition, he’ll ignore some unfamiliar dogs, but will get tunnel vision on others. He seems curious about new people and dogs, but is socially awkward.
Thanks for the recommendation, though! I’ll go check out his video!
This is what my puppy do and she is 3 months going on 4
What’s your opinion on a puppy amstaff that is 9 months old that jumps and bites when when he isn’t getting what he wants any recommendations ? Does it go away on its own because it’s a puppy behavior or should I correct it more then I already do ?
Should not allow an amstaf to be jumping and biting. Just correct, not with violence or you will have problems. Correct consistently, I use the ground method, I just groudn the dog on a bathroom or some place for a few minutes for him to think of what his done, it's a great non violent correction.
Why remove the tails off a long hair breed?
It’s a breed standard. I don’t know why. Doberman ears don’t come the way the appear. Breeds follow standards. But more and more people are choosing to not alter their dogs. If it’s not necessary. Some people don’t remove dewclaws also. I have read they do serve a purpose so I find breeders and one of my questions is about dew claws
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