Once again excellent and useful advice. It is so much better seeing people for real. There are so many "clues" one can pick up when checking out guys. Doing this in real time with the other guy in full view--and yourself as well, is, IMHO, the best way to meet.
Love it. It's a lost art for many people with all the online stuff. I'm a tease now though. I enjoy flirting but nothing is going to happen since I'm married. It's still fun though. Makes someone feel attractive when i flirt so it's not a total loss for them. Many definitely need coaching on this.
I go for telling them what I’m looking for. Sometimes we’re nowhere near on expectations and that’s great. “Have a fun night. Nice talking with you.” Other times it can be “My place, your place or right now (let’s sneak to the restroom or out to my car!)”. Beating around the bush is ok while playing but not productive while flirting.
2:00 The Bar is a extroverts game. Always was always has been. Lone introverts going there are always singled out for being creepy or weird when in reality there just careful about the company they keep.
@@PatrickMarano In my experience there are many introverts on the apps who don't go out that much or not as much as they used too. When asked about the local bars in the area or in other cities they didn't really seem to know all that much but they weren't bad guys just homebodies. It's sad because people always say the good guys aren't in the bars and what they really is the introverted homebodies aren't in the bars (which is true). The guys people talk about they just want hang in bed at home with you aren't in bars because to the guys in the bars that stuff is boring (which could also be why so many are single there). Stabe = boring but also mean lower chances if infidelity is that's what you enjoy doing most.
I am glad that you mentioned people might be nearsighted but also people might be blind and not outward showing it necessarily. I have this difficulty one at a bar because someone may be trying to make iContact with me but not be aware that I can’t see them. Oh I only use a cane but when I was younger with a little bit better version but still blind I really had no outward showing characteristic. And obviously body language and other nonverbal communication is lost on me. 😔
Back in Easter 2004 I went to this particular London club for the first time, alone. Of course, almost everyone else was there with their mates. Except one young guy who looked a bit lost (though he was actually a regular he said). I’m no good at smiling or flirting but we started chatting and have been chatting ever since. We became Civil Partners in 2006. (A long-time open relationship though which is why I was sneakily checking out your vid 😘).
Ask questions - try to sound interested in their lives - One thing I HATE is when a guy can't carry a conversation - I'm tired of conducting interviews
Useful piece of advice. I try to meet new people off dating apps more and your tips will definitely come handy. Can we expect continuation video on dating, first 3 dates? How to secure next date and stay in touch between dates? I am looking forward to your ideas Patrick.
On my experience, some useful tips are: repeat every now and then a few words of what they are saying, reassuring the fact that you are listening. Also, ask for their opinion on light subjects, not their opinion on the fucking Brexit. And make them laugh, laughing together is hot. Thanks for the video!
I don't think i have the eye signal part down. If i ever get to the point where I'm talking to the guy i do so of your others points naturally. It's just successfully acquiring the target and making the approach that stops me. And i must have the worst sense of who might be interested. Let's say I'm a 6. I've tried talking to guys both higher up and lower on the scale. But i have never been successful in a bar. I have lots of friends who tell me what a nice guy i am. So something is breaking down in the flirting department. Fortunately I'm open to learning. I'll go watch your other videos. Thank you for posting content like this. I definitely need it. 👍👍😘😘👍👍
I'm glad you're enjoying it!! Of course, there's gonna be different skills for different people. If you're a 10, you can rely on your looks... but if you say you're a 6, then you'll have to use that sparkling personality more. That being said... a great personality can hike you up the scale from a 6 to a 10 for sure!! The other person just needs to talk to you a bit.
I've never been all that confident flirting with men, I can do it, but they have to give me some kind of opening...something to help me get started. Oddly, I find it easier, not much, but easier to start conversations with women. I guess, among other reasons, I find it difficult to compliment another guy.
I’m masc bi guy. Back in the day I told my buddies if they wanted to get drunk for free, just go to a gay bar and let guys buy you drinks. (My buddies didn’t know I was bi). One night we went to a popular gay bar in Atlanta and got smashed. In the ride home one of my friends asked, ‘how did you know that would work?’ I didn’t know what to say so I said ‘just a hunch’. It got weirdly quite the rest of the ride home. Hahahahah Also, I love to hear my name. Especially when he’s begging me to go harder
Patrick, this might be a little confusing but I thought of it this AM before getting out of bed. If you play a flute, you're not called a flutist, you're called a floutist. OK, if you're flirting, are you a flirter or a flouter? I should go after this further, to see if I can straighten my tongue out. Patrick, waking up with thoughts like this could make your head hurt. You might know what I mean. Yea, I do scare myself with ideas like this. haha
at the bar I go directly to whatever I feel I I'm interested in, because the bar is a place where we can talk freely and have fun and I do not care about any rejection, but my problem is that at the GYM I mean regular gym, I can not approach anyone there, I respect the vibe of the place, but I would I apart any tips for that
Well for starters, I am a sometimes flirt or wink at a guys, hoping he catches my interest also, and if I approach him, I would sometimes giggle or smile, if the same chemistry is there, I usually talk w/him or give a little rub on his back or leg, but if we’re at a bar, it usually goes the same way, and I offer to buy him a drink or 2, then I ask him to his place for a romantic evening, sometimes he gives me his contact number, but I sometimes 4 get to keep contact with him after several days, but still on the lookout for my mister right (soulmate)!!!
This video can help straight girls with some of your points. I.like how your sincere. People are better off staying off dating apps. It's dangerous. Do volunteer, charity work, alumni events and the like to meet people. I'm not a bar person. Try to listen good and take cues from other person.
@@PatrickMarano It can happen, if either a person has one of those hard-to-wear names that almost no one gets named (for a reason), or if they have some negative memory with it. Or if their given name doesn't match their self concept, gender identity, etc. that's also a thing. In all those cases, getting it changed is a solution though.
@@PaulHo Bro... Did you ever think that maybe you're way too picky and have too high an opinion of your hotness scale 🌡? Because you say "You can never find anyone interesting enough to flirt with"... That sounds alot like you think in your mind that you are alot better than most guys you are around... You gotta get over that because it's probably not true
@@michaelgrant7322 I take one good look around, find the tallest guy and scope it out. After that, I'm just trying to have a good time. I have a serious aversion to people stuck on their phones and will say hi to the quiet one, I'm never rude to anyone unless they bump me. I don't think that's high standards or makes me a bitch, and OC is a wasteland.
What we need in my area is for more guys to go to the bars. I'm surprised at the alcohol in the background, considering your comments in other vids. Hope you have learned to control it.
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Once again excellent and useful advice. It is so much better seeing people for real. There are so many "clues" one can pick up when checking out guys. Doing this in real time with the other guy in full view--and yourself as well, is, IMHO, the best way to meet.
agreed
Love it. It's a lost art for many people with all the online stuff. I'm a tease now though. I enjoy flirting but nothing is going to happen since I'm married. It's still fun though. Makes someone feel attractive when i flirt so it's not a total loss for them. Many definitely need coaching on this.
I go for telling them what I’m looking for. Sometimes we’re nowhere near on expectations and that’s great. “Have a fun night. Nice talking with you.” Other times it can be “My place, your place or right now (let’s sneak to the restroom or out to my car!)”. Beating around the bush is ok while playing but not productive while flirting.
Well said!
2:00 The Bar is a extroverts game. Always was always has been. Lone introverts going there are always singled out for being creepy or weird when in reality there just careful about the company they keep.
Great point... I wonder if App's are easier for introverts?
@@PatrickMarano In my experience there are many introverts on the apps who don't go out that much or not as much as they used too. When asked about the local bars in the area or in other cities they didn't really seem to know all that much but they weren't bad guys just homebodies. It's sad because people always say the good guys aren't in the bars and what they really is the introverted homebodies aren't in the bars (which is true). The guys people talk about they just want hang in bed at home with you aren't in bars because to the guys in the bars that stuff is boring (which could also be why so many are single there). Stabe = boring but also mean lower chances if infidelity is that's what you enjoy doing most.
I'm going to start referring to my husband as my "target." It's easier than learning his name.
love it!
I love his energy 💙
I am glad that you mentioned people might be nearsighted but also people might be blind and not outward showing it necessarily. I have this difficulty one at a bar because someone may be trying to make iContact with me but not be aware that I can’t see them. Oh I only use a cane but when I was younger with a little bit better version but still blind I really had no outward showing characteristic. And obviously body language and other nonverbal communication is lost on me. 😔
Thank you for sharing your story with us!
These are the best tips ever 🔥
Glad you like them!
Back in Easter 2004 I went to this particular London club for the first time, alone. Of course, almost everyone else was there with their mates. Except one young guy who looked a bit lost (though he was actually a regular he said). I’m no good at smiling or flirting but we started chatting and have been chatting ever since. We became Civil Partners in 2006.
(A long-time open relationship though which is why I was sneakily checking out your vid 😘).
Hey no judgements Will! and congrats on flirting your way into a relationship, beautiful story!
Ask questions - try to sound interested in their lives - One thing I HATE is when a guy can't carry a conversation - I'm tired of conducting interviews
very true
Perfect. You checked every item on my experience list. Now I’ll have to jump that go over and intro hurdle. Whew. More courage please.
Ya... that's the tough part...
Useful piece of advice. I try to meet new people off dating apps more and your tips will definitely come handy. Can we expect continuation video on dating, first 3 dates? How to secure next date and stay in touch between dates? I am looking forward to your ideas Patrick.
Sure 👍
"With big risks, comes big rewards!!" Amen
Wonderful Patrick !
On my experience, some useful tips are: repeat every now and then a few words of what they are saying, reassuring the fact that you are listening. Also, ask for their opinion on light subjects, not their opinion on the fucking Brexit. And make them laugh, laughing together is hot. Thanks for the video!
Great advice, thank you!
Hi Patrick, love the video. I am one of those clueless gays who has no idea when someone is hitting on them. Probably why I am still single. Lol
if your with a buddy, he will see it and can tell you lol
thanks for another great video! something that has really helped me is to "be less interesting, be more interested"
Love that!
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I don't think i have the eye signal part down. If i ever get to the point where I'm talking to the guy i do so of your others points naturally. It's just successfully acquiring the target and making the approach that stops me. And i must have the worst sense of who might be interested. Let's say I'm a 6. I've tried talking to guys both higher up and lower on the scale. But i have never been successful in a bar. I have lots of friends who tell me what a nice guy i am. So something is breaking down in the flirting department. Fortunately I'm open to learning. I'll go watch your other videos. Thank you for posting content like this. I definitely need it. 👍👍😘😘👍👍
I'm glad you're enjoying it!! Of course, there's gonna be different skills for different people. If you're a 10, you can rely on your looks... but if you say you're a 6, then you'll have to use that sparkling personality more. That being said... a great personality can hike you up the scale from a 6 to a 10 for sure!! The other person just needs to talk to you a bit.
There is one guy that I flirt with at work. He's of course married with 2 daughters. I'm nothing wil happen between us but I enjoy it anyway
kinda takes the pressure off when you know nothing will come of it
He's just so hot to me. He's a ginger blond with a really nice body and fur...
@@thewolfman775 thx I appreciate it
I like the flashy kitchen
Nice video. Thanks for posting!!!!
I've never been all that confident flirting with men, I can do it, but they have to give me some kind of opening...something to help me get started. Oddly, I find it easier, not much, but easier to start conversations with women. I guess, among other reasons, I find it difficult to compliment another guy.
It's def easier when they are giving clear signals that they're interested
I’m masc bi guy. Back in the day I told my buddies if they wanted to get drunk for free, just go to a gay bar and let guys buy you drinks. (My buddies didn’t know I was bi). One night we went to a popular gay bar in Atlanta and got smashed. In the ride home one of my friends asked, ‘how did you know that would work?’ I didn’t know what to say so I said ‘just a hunch’. It got weirdly quite the rest of the ride home. Hahahahah
Also, I love to hear my name. Especially when he’s begging me to go harder
Patrick, this might be a little confusing but I thought of it this AM before getting out of bed. If you play a flute, you're not called a flutist, you're called a floutist. OK, if you're flirting, are you a flirter or a flouter? I should go after this further, to see if I can straighten my tongue out. Patrick, waking up with thoughts like this could make your head hurt. You might know what I mean. Yea, I do scare myself with ideas like this. haha
Dale, I think weird stuff ALL THE TIME
@@PatrickMarano Maybe that's why we can relate.
at the bar I go directly to whatever I feel I I'm interested in, because the bar is a place where we can talk freely and have fun and I do not care about any rejection, but my problem is that at the GYM I mean regular gym, I can not approach anyone there, I respect the vibe of the place, but I would I apart any tips for that
I do have a video on Gym Cruising you can check out under the Cruising playlist
If the man is right and the time is right, it will happen. If not, so what?
So true, you just have to try the potential guys if you want to get anyone.
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Wow, thanks! I really appreciate that Michael! xo
Well for starters, I am a sometimes flirt or wink at a guys, hoping he catches my interest also, and if I approach him, I would sometimes giggle or smile, if the same chemistry is there, I usually talk w/him or give a little rub on his back or leg, but if we’re at a bar, it usually goes the same way, and I offer to buy him a drink or 2, then I ask him to his place for a romantic evening, sometimes he gives me his contact number, but I sometimes 4 get to keep contact with him after several days, but still on the lookout for my mister right (soulmate)!!!
I'm so sorry I missed the premier! I was tres occupado with my editing. ugh. xox
Urg editing... when are we outsourcing that? lol
Can u do a video of going to a gay bar ALONE and how to navigate ?
Thx for the suggestion!
Just following up here. I usually go to bars alone and would love the tips !
I really envy your gorgeous long hair. You're such a beautiful guy. 🔥🔥
Wow, thank you
Im so bad at flirting :(
It's not easy
I do flirt. I flirt with inuendos (?sp). If anything happens it happens. If it doesn't happen, who cares? I still have a great time!
❤
This video
This video can help straight girls with some of your points. I.like how your sincere.
People are better off staying off dating apps. It's dangerous. Do volunteer, charity work, alumni events and the like to meet people. I'm not a bar person.
Try to listen good and take cues from other person.
How did I ended up in this video? 😳
That is not my most scandalous video lol
Yeah, I've been to some of those as well lol
I hate hearing my name
That can't be true
@@PatrickMarano It can happen, if either a person has one of those hard-to-wear names that almost no one gets named (for a reason), or if they have some negative memory with it. Or if their given name doesn't match their self concept, gender identity, etc. that's also a thing. In all those cases, getting it changed is a solution though.
Me too. That's the reason why I made up another name. I never say my real name or my real age to the people because I wanna be more interesting 👍👍👍🍑🍑🌈
@@elenacarra5863 that’s pretty real of you x
I'm great at flirting 🥺, I just never see anyone interested/interesting to flirt with.
oh wow, that's sad, do you live in a small town Paul?
@@PatrickMarano Orange County, CA 🤡
Patrick, if you've noticed, I've been doing this the whole time. haha
@@PaulHo Bro... Did you ever think that maybe you're way too picky and have too high an opinion of your hotness scale 🌡? Because you say "You can never find anyone interesting enough to flirt with"... That sounds alot like you think in your mind that you are alot better than most guys you are around... You gotta get over that because it's probably not true
@@michaelgrant7322 I take one good look around, find the tallest guy and scope it out. After that, I'm just trying to have a good time. I have a serious aversion to people stuck on their phones and will say hi to the quiet one, I'm never rude to anyone unless they bump me. I don't think that's high standards or makes me a bitch, and OC is a wasteland.
After your current videos (alcohol free for more than 2 weeks) your background and comments justify going alcohol free for a few days.
How so?
What we need in my area is for more guys to go to the bars. I'm surprised at the alcohol in the background, considering your comments in other vids. Hope you have learned to control it.
I put the bottles there on purpose because I was talking about cruising at the bar!