I once left a "fiance". He will not let me take anything, even my precious jazz cds. I heard this voice in my head saying "if you don't leave now, you will regret it for the rest of your life ". The guy knelt down and begged with tears. I still left. Best decision ever. He threatened to shoot me. I thank God for the courage to leave.
@@joyful4487 You're right about not leaving in front of them. One time I feared for my life and as soon as he went to work I started scrambling and loading my truck. I was gone by noon and many many miles away in another state by the time he got home. He called my friends but no one knew where I was because I didn't tell anyone about my plans. He was a horrible person and I feel blessed to have gotten away. Also, recently I found out another ex-boyfriend had made an attempt on his current girlfriends life while they were on vacation in Hawaii. The Lord has sure protected me!
I left one day while he was at work leaving furniture,clothesfood,everything behind . Only carried 3 plastic grocery bags with important documents & whatever clothes, underwear, toothbrush & baby stuff for myself & my 6 month old & an 18 month old daughters. Its over 25 years now best decision I ever made.
And there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship or marriage!💯 Some ppl don't want to be a alone. Some want companionship. Not every woman and man is bad.
Truth! Im in my 50’s in my early 30’s both my good friend and my best friend would dig at me for not be married, make jokes at my expense, and constantly talk about going on couples dates in front of me. Fast forward 10 years, both are divorced. My good friend, her husband never wanted to marry her and she suffered humiliation and mental abuse in her marriage. My ex best friend, he got on drugs, abused her as well, and went to prison for trying to rob a gas station. She was humiliated as well. Imagine your husband on video on the 5:00 oclock news robing a gas station. Sometimes its best to keep your south shut and a life your life and not impose your lifestyle on others🙄
I agree . Sometime last year , I ran into an old acquaintance . This guy is about 26 or 27 years older than me . He told me that he had been married for 16 years and was getting a divorce . He wanted to take me out to lunch that day , but I declined . This particular person ( despite being much older ) , has some issues with control . Even though I hadn't seen or spoken to him in many years , he was trying to belittle me as we were having a conversation . In my opinion , he should be way past this and show a better level of maturity . I see a lot of younger people who show more decency towards others . This guy is now 80 years old . The ignorance , sense of entitlement , and lack of maturity is astounding for someone his age . But I absolutely agree with your comment : don't assume or think an older person is going to be better . Many people don't change who they really are or might actually become worse as they get older .
LEAVE IN SILENCE; NEVER BREAK UP WITH A DUDE WHEN HOME ALONE; AND NEVER BE ALONE WITH A PERSON AFTER YOU END THE RELATIONSHIP. GET YOU SOME 🔥 AND BE SAFE FOLKS! Condolences to the family 😢
After a 22-year marriage, I applied for divorce last year and made the decision to live the rest of my life single. I really do not need no drama in my life.
I'm 63. Never married or had children. Was a caregiver for 17 years to my elderly parents and grandmother until their deaths. I used to think I missed out on something. No. I'm cool. I'm content with my single life.
When I see these outcomes of women who couple with these guys… It’s never worth it. When I see what happens to their bodies, minds… it’s never worth it. Women give up everything for these relationships, including their lives. What man is worth that? Being single is a blessing.
The thing is some times the warnings are there upon the first few meetings yet some over look it doubting their intuition . They think maybe theyre over reacting too quick to make a judgment call so they stay thinking its just a moment thing things will get better and next thing u know theyre in the thick of it smh .Women need to stop over looking whats being done in their faces stop thinking u can change him or things will change just give it time nope when any behavior is being shown that isnt in accordance to the way u want and deserve to be treated just exit dont negotiate whether its within or with that man directly . Its not worth it
There are MILLIONS of relationships and when they end, 99% of them ends amicably. People breakup every single day and most don’t end like this. As a society, we are easily influenced by the media. If they had to report on the relationships that end just fine, we’d never get to stories like this tragedy. This life isn’t meant to be spent alone. Mattered of fact I would guarantee your best memories aren’t those spent alone.
I dated a psycho. I told him my brother was moving in with me as a scare tactic so he’d leave me alone. I haven’t seen or heard from him in 5 years. THANK GOD. He also lived 2 hours away so I never run into him.❤️
You will never truly know someone until you've live with them and hopefully survive long enough to tell the story because a person can hide who they really are up until and after marriage! True facts from personal experience!
Before you say anything you don't know what she said or did to beg for this to happen so don't go feeling bad for what could possibly be the main problem
@@futurefunk88eddins96 Does she need to know her to conclude that her passing is a loss for everyone whose life she touched? If nobody else, it's a loss for those grieving children. What a strange take.
Leave in silence . Never tell them you’re leaving . Run at the first sign of control or abuse and never go back no matter how much they say it won’t happen again because it will
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 Yep, cause you can't get rid of them when they're using your mailing address too! My ex knows a postal worker who keeps track of my addresses! If I only knew who they were...
It's happening way to often in any country. I had a co worker that eventually told me what was happening to her after I sensed something was not right with her, it was horrific what he was doing to her. I said to her I WILL NOT hear of her death by that man and your getting out. Because he was so violent we worked out a very detailed plan and i got her brother involved to help. She was out and safe. To any victim please talk to family and friends and get help in leaving & don't worry about material things, they can get replaced and you can't.
My coworker told me a swat team had to come in her house because he held her and the kids hostage.She still stayed with him,he is on meds now but she still fears he will snap again .She wants out now but I told her move in silence.I always worry for her and the children.
@@Called_toovercomeinternationalMaybe showing her this video will help her make the decision to leave. She would not want her children to end up like the children of this poor woman.
She spoke as though she knew, that’s telling. She lived a nightmare and wanted to leave long before the end. She kept it all to herself. These situations can serve as a lesson to others, I share these things with my friends & my daughters.
There were these two guys in my life that wanted to date me. However, I observed somethings were not quiet right about them. I told them I appreciated them but I was not ready for a relationship because I was going back to Graduate School to finish my education and I was relocating. I told them that this was a Goal of mine for I had to come out of School to raise and educate my Children. I move on. However, one of them called both my Contractors, tried to get me fired, the other stalked me. I involved the Police and moved on. I changed my phone number and never looked Back. The sad part was I never sleep with either one of them Men, only went out to Breakfast, Lunch or Dinner. I never invited them to my home for I did not bring Men around my CHILDREN. If women would stop, observe; they can pick up these behaviors before even starting a relationship. There is NOTHING wrong with being by yourself.
Something like this happened to me. I never dated the guy, just spoke with him but I knew something was off with him. He put his hands on me twice and I called the cops on him. Never spoke to him again and got a RO. Also realized he had a criminal record. I too never got intimate with him, but he ended up showing how psycho he was early on. It never felt right with him either.
Something like this happened to me. I never dated the guy, just spoke with him but I knew something was off with him. He put his hands on me twice and I called the cops on him. Never spoke to him again and got a RO. Also realized he had a criminal record. I too never got intimate with him, but he ended up showing how psycho he was early on. It never felt right with him either.
@@futurefunk88eddins96 Did you grow up in this kind of household? Is that why you seem so bitter about the sympathies for the woman? Did your mom expose you to this type of man growing up? There are counselors you can speak to that will help you deal with your pain better than this.
If I am ever divorced or widowed I will stay single for the rest of my life. Not worth the risk at all, men are not worth the risk. Too many are fragile, weak and unstable. Stay single, stay alive. My condolences to her children and family. So sad.
Me too, I will never remarry. So many broken men of all ages, young and old. I will just be single and it's ok to be single. I'm married now and marriage is work....ugh
Same here! There’s no WAY! My husband saved me and I’ve been blessed with 30 years of nurturing from him. If he goes home before me, I’m going solo… just me, our pew pews and I’ll get some cats.
So sad I had a ex boyfriend who use to beat me so bad I moved 4 times he set my house on fire I moved to a different state unfortunately he unalived a girl in Augusta GA
Forensic Files, skin of her teeth. The guy did something awful to baby momma. Last time a guy tried that it was my house and he was bloody when the cops came to get him, too. Helps if it's your place and you told them to go.
I've asked men I know what they think and they say stuff like " they're crazy,,". I believe it's because men have beliefs that women BELONG to them, as in ownership. Most won't admit it but it's steeped in the patriarchy. Most women can tell u about at least one man they were with that expected them to obey them.
I think a lot of dudes are FAR MORE insecure than they let on. When they realize they don't have the control they think they have, it drives them insane. It's not always control over the spouse, but control over themselves because they can't keep another person.
AFTER TWENTY YEARS OF MARRIAGE. my GOD FEARING husband went to sleep in jesus christ. A GOD FEARING MAN. LADIES don't move too quickly. People have different motives.
I'm sorry to hear this, but I'm glad you and your mother made it out alive. Did she tell him she was planning on leaving, or did she try to sneak away?
I’m a Liberian in the DFW area , my condolences to your family. Bernice was a beautiful person. Tonisha I remembered you and your brother when you were kids. May her soul rest in peace 🙏🏽💕
Men aren’t the ones dealing with this- especially not in the same numbers and when they do- it’s simply against a woman who finally fought back. Your comment should have been directed specifically at women. We are the ones in real danger and always have been when it comes to men. Period
at this point in the game you have to side-eye every male that approaches, if a male is single at 50-60 somethings way wrong, no woman in her right mind will let a genuinely good male go-he is single for a reason.
That means nothing. Lots of women said NO to being married. Probably numerous times, mostly because they want OWNERSHIP, and she can look right through that. If it's not right. It's not right.
@nomorecrocs it's not true smh every situation is different. Do not stereotype all men. I walked away from my fiancé because I value my peace and will not compromise who i am as man.She begged me too stay. I was very good to her. We are NOT all the same please don't put that narrative out there
This is sad. I got off barely with my life when it's happened to me. it's selfish what is done. Praying for peace for the family causey it's not easy it's devastating
So you had a Female who tried to take your life? If you don't mind me asking? That's crazy but there are some mentally unstable females out here as well
If in this situation you need to leave in silence. Use your workplace to have your extra luggage with your things then leave. You may have to leave your job (or get a transfer) and maybe even the state. Never underestimate someone that has nothing to lose. Announcing when you'll leave becomes a very dangerous situation for the victim. Very sad
I don't know what it is. Or why it is. My former partner threw an axe at me, and missed me by inches...I left him in the early 2000s. He left a series of abusive, obscene messages on my phone machine. Looking back I don't even know why I stayed as long as I did!! In 2005 - I met a wonderful, kindly man....and we married in 2008. Sixteen years contented and counting. My sweet hubby is total polar opposite to my ex: who I remember as a flashy, hard drinking, volatile, charismatic, and ultimately violent 'cool guy'...I heard he later died of Alzheimer's after returning to alcoholism. As my Uncle Jimmy used to say, "Baby, did YOU dodge a bullet or what?"
I was 7 months pregnant and left mine and he stalked me. Then he broke into my new apartment. I made it. My daughter is now 27 years old. She never was raised around that type of pain.
I am still surprised that women want to be attached to men. There are some nice men but most have issues that they won't deal with. They convince women to be with them only for the women to find out too late that these men are dangerous. Also, they don't just take themselves out of the picture, they take out everyone. Why be with them? Singlehood is a blessing. Marriage and relationships take a lot of work by very mature and humble people in order to make it work. Egos will drive you apart. These days, egos say let me take out everyone. Good grief!! SMH!!!
There’s too much evidence that these guys are not good for women, but women keep running to them. Why? Why ?? how many women have to die before other women realize it’s time to do something different?
Condolences to the dear children and family. This is happening to too many women. Women, it is better to just be with your children and single then bring these maniacs into your lives. Just devastating. Ms. Bernice suffered her whole life, going to school, working for her family here and overseas, to be taken away by that monster. Just horrific.
This absolutely resonated with me….. left almost 6 years of physical abuse 3 weeks ago with what I could carry! 😢 I left the state back to my moms and filed a restraining order. At the end what she said is so true!!!!!
My condolences go out to the family but her first mistake was moving in with him he was (WEAK) from the get-go and he was jealous of her independence this guy was an undercover narcissist sometimes you don't see the subtle signs in the beginning he knew once she walked out that door he was going to be alone for the rest of this days be careful ladies most of the men today are walking around mentally unstable and broken and you can't fix them.
You said it!!!! Trying to get our right now but it’s hard.. he convinced me to quit my FT job to stay home and try to finish school.. worst decision EVER!!!
@@crohnsbae656 Go and find a Domestic violence shelter and just leave. Believe in yourself but mostly believe that God will help you out of this. You can always start over. As soon as you get there speak to someone like a counselor and make a plan you can always get another job and go back to school another time after you heal. Nothing wrong with working and saving up for a room as a start. At least you will be free and alive. Change your phone number and tell no one where you are located. Focus on yourself. I know you can do it. You are strong! Start a whole new beautiful life.
She was vibrant and he was the opposite, light & darkness.. They were the total opposites of one another. Toxic combination. She couldn’t tell in the beginning because he was able to match her energy but then the tell tell signs began to emerge. 2 days prior she was ill, hi bp, I feel mentally she had checked out of that relationship & he was causing her hell. Leaving wasn’t the answer, she would’ve had to relocate for a while, at least 6 mos or longer.
This just happened here a week ago. The wife wanted a divorce. He tricked her into coming back to the house and got rid of her and himself. They had kids that were left without their parents. SMH
Jan said it right. Jan said you don't see it coming and the guys come on as gentle men. This is so true. Some men are gentle men in the beginning of the relationship and later on in the relationship, the men change into a whole different person. That's what happened to me with my husband. Gentle man in the beginning and changed into a monster, a totally different person. My husband was nice with strangers and nice with people in our community. So everyone in our community thought he was a wonderful guy. Glad I left my husband and never looked back. Since her suitcase was by the door, then that means their mother probably told her fiance she was calling off the wedding and ending their relationship.
Wow!!! No age is safe to date/ marriage in this Domestic Mess. My husband passed away in 2020, I’m 54 and have no interest or desire to date, for this very reason, people are so unstable. Prayers for her family 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Lost my mom to a similar situation. But she fought to STAY... you couldn't tell her NOTHIN about her man. He was sent by God. He gave her HPV which is an STD that gave her cancer. She died with nothing. He re married 2 months later
I left my ex while she was out after 10+ years together! After years of her threats of violence, arson and deletion, I left the cars, house, everything but my clothes! She lost everything also, so we both had to rebuild our lives separately. Always choose yourself and your sanity over those you love or they will take you with them while they spiral into darkness and insanity…
It is awful! Because so many women DO leave and they still end up dead!!! Not too long ago a young woman was shot and killed in her vehicle by two gunmen her ex hired from jail!!! Another young woman actually left for college! Her ex followed her there and murdered her! Another lady actually tried to get the police involved after numerous threats made by her ex. The ex even set her car on fire, and the police did nothing. One morning while taking her kids to school, her ex showed up and killed her right in front of the kids! That's just three stories of women trying to go on with their lives and these men are just out of control. These victims were in the US, but this is a global issue!!!
A large percentage of men worldwide actually hate women, and cultural norms in many societies refuse to accept this. I consider any man dangerous if he exhibits a need or desire to control another adult.
@@shirleyashanti3031 Exactly, this is a hard fact many women have a hard time accepting, they don't like us...the misogyny is deep within the patriarchy
There are signs, its just that evil people and narcissists are masters as lying, manipulating, cheating, deceiving and being con artists. I teach about narcissists from experience. Ladies get out, heal, and protect yourselves and your children early on. Do not wait. Your life is worth living, peacefully. Prayers to this family. God be with them. As time goes by, these children will recall the signs. Teach others. I help and im affordable too.
Lovebombing is one of those signs. Always there with offerings of gifts, love affirmations, money, “I can help you with xyz”, very early on in the relationship (too early in fact). Lovebombing can be a huge sign and women don’t understand that they are being groomed and primed for the Control stage of the relationship. Run when it’s only been a month or two and he’s already in love with you and giving you gifts.
@@jb-ze1yh Oh im not victim blaming at all. Whats not easy to see up front is often times remembered later on. It's a learning process cause narcissists are masters manipulators, master liars and Con artists. They are very much believable for so lo g. Ask them a tin of questions. Either 99% is a lie or they will tell you they their business or they walk away or get quiet but they always want to know about your life so they can weasel in it.
I think he suspected she was cheating on him while she was working that holiday shift. He probably didn't believe she was working but was with another man. Also, suppose a partner/spouse indicates they want out of the relationship. In that case, the other person sometimes thinks the only reason that person wants to leave is because they've got somebody else on the side that they now want to go to for a relationship. This is often not the case, but it is what is believed at that time. This is why it is important not to give any expression of wanting to leave the relationship, especially if involved with an abuser or someone who has pathological jealousy. Pathological jealousy causes people to become delusional.
This is so sad. My family sends their deepest condolences. This is close to home. We are so sadden by this lost. She was a wonderful mother and friend to many. 😢
I'm very skeptical of mid and late in life marriages for numerous reasons. I say that as a middle aged, childless spinster. My condolences to her family, friends and colleagues.
My FIL only married my step MIL agter he lost ALL of his teeth because he didn't brush them, he had no assets, no car, no place to live. He met her and now he has a place to stay, a car, a nurse, and a purse. You are RIGHT to be skeptical 🧐 these old men are looking for HELP not love!
You say there were no signs of anything wrong but also say we knew something was off when she told us how she wanted to plan her funeral. Somethings not adding up Because there's always signs But are we listening and paying attention? Is the question.
Please dont. . .this family is suffering enough with guilt and pain. We wear masks that rarely slip in front of loved ones because we don't want them to worry. Families tear themselves apart after loved ones are killed or commit suicide with this obsession that they "should have perceived" someone's internal war. My sincerest condolences.
@marcelladillard3556 Stop it because I think you know good and well your assumptions are misconstrued. People wear mask because their pride won't ask for help. Not because help isn't available. There's no way my loved one would be sharing and confiding in me about certain things, and it not set off an alarm of concern. And if I ignore those red flags, it is something I must take accountability for.
She told one daughter that she didn't tell the rest of kids ..she's older married with kids maybe she felt more comfortable sharing with that daughter her other kids are younger
@jamsng And that's perfectly understandable It was mentioned in the video As the daughter of a parent who was also abused and a wife of an abuser as well. There are always signs that should never be ignored.
The daughter’s final message is important: just leave. Material things can be replaced. Your life can’t be. Just leave with the clothes on your back. One day, just walk out, go to a shelter. My friend went to one in another state, called her boss and explained everything and her boss immediately understood (maybe he sensed something beforehand). She is alive today. Please just leave.
My heart goes out to this family. I'm sure their mom didn't want them to worry about her, so she kept silent with the intention of telling them after she left that house. Please know many of us are praying for all to find peace with time. God Be with you all! Remember the strength of your mom moving from Liberia and making a life in America. She may have only been a child at the time of the move, but she made a good life here and was loved by many! This is worth noting and keeping in your hearts and minds.
Don't just move in with any stranger. Stay by yourself at your own place. Be very selective. Also be selective with who you share your time with cause some are unstable.
that is pitiful. some women don't leave because they have no where to go. I left my abusive husband after 10 years of marriage, I had no job and no money of my own. I stayed with a friend until I found a job and got my self together. of course I got a divorce and he paid for the divorce. went to a judge and tried to get me to pay for it. when the judge found out why I left him, he told my ex he had to pay all cost. this happened in 1980s no help was out there like is is today.
Too old?? Um, they don't change. Why would you think they would? Please look for Dr. Daniel Amen, his books on brain damage. A guy put his wife's head through a wall. They were both old.
Im a survivor of domestic violence, my ex-husband was a stalker but i was young and in love he would just show up when i would tell him i didn't need a ride home from work when we were dating that was the first red flag, as time went on i started to see how clingy he was so i broke up with him i told him we needed time apart ( keeping in mind he started seeing other women ) 2 months later on mothers day he broke into my apartment and assulted me. I ran into the cousin his mother would never leave me alone with when she visited, she explained to me his track record and how he bullied her when they were younger. But the jail time he did has stopped him thus far.
There are people who wear masks and the mask comes off after the wedding. I am so sorry for your loss. She was a bright light. She did not deserve this and neither do her children and grandchildren. These toxic types target empathetic, kind people. Look up narcissism. These people are unhinged and this is not the first time this has happened. They love bomb - they fall in love fast to get trap their target. Behind closed doors, they are monsters. A good question to ask is what happened in previous romantic relationships. There are usually other victims who managed to get away. I'm so so sorry.
Exactly. Please tell the victim blamers that too. I hate when guys tell women to choose better as if the men were transparent about themselves and had "Mvrderer" or Narcissist written on their foreheads when they first got into the relationship! So ignorant.
No, you're missing a big chunk. The fun/good part is always there. It's just not the MAIN part, and it gets less so over time, not better. Moody/distant and rude can be default on these types. Theyre mulling over what you "did" to them 8 months ago. Like you went to a party and dared talk, and not about how great he is.
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 You are correct there is a LOT with narcissists that my small post did not cover. - Walking on eggshells so as not to offend them with any disagreement you dare express - Lovebomb, Devalue, Discard, rinse and repeat - triangulation during and after relationship - smear campaign (they are smearing your name behind your back the whole time, you just didn't know it) - isolation - they move victim/primary love away from their support network or make you think your family/friends are bad people - gaslighting/denial - making you think you are the problem, not them - projection - they project their problems/issues onto you, making you the scapegoat - silent treatment/ghosting - a form of control and punishment for offending them - also moody/distant/rude There is more I'm leaving out for now. People hang on because they think the lovebombing part will come back. It does not. Things get worse. This lady knew in less than a year she was done. Interestingly, he chose her because she was working FT. He wanted to be supported financially - another 🚩red flag. These types will scam you financially at the end of the relationship. That's why I wish people would learn about this type of person in High School. Because the worst thing you can do to derail your life is be in a romantic relationship and marry/have children with such a person. RUclips University is a great place to study this type.
At that age do not involve yourself with strangers. Still seeking no need have plenty of family Im so glad my mom never even mentioned dating after dad passed. We asked her. She not interested. She still in shape and attractive. Respects memory of dad.
Domestic abuse is a mental illness that needs to be studied. If someone wants to leave, let them. I feel terrible for her children. She seemed like a genuinely sweet person. 🙏🏾
Never tell that person you are leaving. Just leave and never go back.
Exactly, you can always coordinate a police escort in order to gather your possessions when you're safe
EXACTLY
Yes, you can't replace an iife 😢
And if you were told to leave
And come back
You get what you deserve
Yes!! Fr idk why women do this! Never announce it just LEAVE! Wait til they leave or go out and be secretly packing little as you go!
I once left a "fiance". He will not let me take anything, even my precious jazz cds. I heard this voice in my head saying "if you don't leave now, you will regret it for the rest of your life ". The guy knelt down and begged with tears. I still left. Best decision ever. He threatened to shoot me. I thank God for the courage to leave.
Amen 🙏
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@@joyful4487 You're right about not leaving in front of them. One time I feared for my life and as soon as he went to work I started scrambling and loading my truck. I was gone by noon and many many miles away in another state by the time he got home. He called my friends but no one knew where I was because I didn't tell anyone about my plans. He was a horrible person and I feel blessed to have gotten away. Also, recently I found out another ex-boyfriend had made an attempt on his current girlfriends life while they were on vacation in Hawaii. The Lord has sure protected me!
here yall go telling theses fake testimony in the comments
Is this why your name is what it is?@@frogvision9534
I left one day while he was at work leaving furniture,clothesfood,everything behind . Only carried 3 plastic grocery bags with important documents & whatever clothes, underwear, toothbrush & baby stuff for myself & my 6 month old & an 18 month old daughters. Its over 25 years now best decision I ever made.
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There is help for your mental health if you just reach out. Good luck. @@futurefunk88eddins96
@@futurefunk88eddins96 😂 you must be the weak man she left
God bless you!
God Bless You
My grandmother sneaked away one day when my grandfather was away and she said she never got a good nights sleep until the day he died
What did she do to enrage him?
@futurefunk88eddins96
Maybe he was an abusive psychopath and it wasn't her fault.
@@futurefunk88eddins96🤔 why couldn’t he just have had a stand alone anger issue that he chose to take out on her?
@@futurefunk88eddins96you sound like an incrl
@@futurefunk88eddins96What did he do to cause her to fear and run 🏃 for her life . Smh 🤦
Theirs nothing wrong with being alone.
Absolutely nothing
@@ahanna4396 Exactly!
And there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship or marriage!💯 Some ppl don't want to be a alone. Some want companionship. Not every woman and man is bad.
Truth! Im in my 50’s in my early 30’s both my good friend and my best friend would dig at me for not be married, make jokes at my expense, and constantly talk about going on couples dates in front of me. Fast forward 10 years, both are divorced. My good friend, her husband never wanted to marry her and she suffered humiliation and mental abuse in her marriage. My ex best friend, he got on drugs, abused her as well, and went to prison for trying to rob a gas station. She was humiliated as well. Imagine your husband on video on the 5:00 oclock news robing a gas station. Sometimes its best to keep your south shut and a life your life and not impose your lifestyle on others🙄
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Don’t think because these men are older it’s better. I find these older men to be very dangerous.
All ages at this time ..
It's all ages these men out of control dealing with these narcissist manipulators
Just finding that out but I’m stuck
I agree . Sometime last year , I ran into an old acquaintance . This guy is about 26 or 27 years older than me . He told me that he had been married for 16 years and was getting a divorce . He wanted to take me out to lunch that day , but I declined . This particular person ( despite being much older ) , has some issues with control . Even though I hadn't seen or spoken to him in many years , he was trying to belittle me as we were having a conversation . In my opinion , he should be way past this and show a better level of maturity . I see a lot of younger people who show more decency towards others . This guy is now 80 years old . The ignorance , sense of entitlement , and lack of maturity is astounding for someone his age . But I absolutely agree with your comment : don't assume or think an older person is going to be better . Many people don't change who they really are or might actually become worse as they get older .
I think they are worse…they are still just as immature as the younger guys but way more controlling 🙅🏽♀️
LEAVE IN SILENCE; NEVER BREAK UP WITH A DUDE WHEN HOME ALONE; AND NEVER BE ALONE WITH A PERSON AFTER YOU END THE RELATIONSHIP. GET YOU SOME 🔥 AND BE SAFE FOLKS!
Condolences to the family 😢
That's what I did and I thank God I am still alive even though I lost everything. I had to start from scratch at 43 years old
Frr
Been saying this. You don't owe that person anything when they have given you the reason to leave. Jesus help us.
*Wise words...*
Yup..its an escape
My prayers goes out to these beautiful kids that lost their mother
After a 22-year marriage, I applied for divorce last year and made the decision to live the rest of my life single. I really do not need no drama in my life.
Amen 🙏🏽. Be diligent and STAY SAFE.
Single is safer 🙏
Great work now just get yourself a new younger woman who won't nag you as much as the last one good luck bro
Yall cause all the drama gtfoh.
Widow here who was married for 28 years. I'm content to remain single.
I'm 63. Never married or had children. Was a caregiver for 17 years to my elderly parents and grandmother until their deaths. I used to think I missed out on something. No. I'm cool. I'm content with my single life.
When I see these outcomes of women who couple with these guys… It’s never worth it.
When I see what happens to their bodies, minds… it’s never worth it.
Women give up everything for these relationships, including their lives.
What man is worth that?
Being single is a blessing.
Preach
The thing is some times the warnings are there upon the first few meetings yet some over look it doubting their intuition . They think maybe theyre over reacting too quick to make a judgment call so they stay thinking its just a moment thing things will get better and next thing u know theyre in the thick of it smh .Women need to stop over looking whats being done in their faces stop thinking u can change him or things will change just give it time nope when any behavior is being shown that isnt in accordance to the way u want and deserve to be treated just exit dont negotiate whether its within or with that man directly . Its not worth it
There are MILLIONS of relationships and when they end, 99% of them ends amicably. People breakup every single day and most don’t end like this. As a society, we are easily influenced by the media. If they had to report on the relationships that end just fine, we’d never get to stories like this tragedy. This life isn’t meant to be spent alone. Mattered of fact I would guarantee your best memories aren’t those spent alone.
@@clarencedolan699That is a lie that 99% end amicably…and it is ok to be alone.
A beautiful woman with beautiful children had he life stolen from her by some miserable man.
There are too many cases like this. Just stay single.
@@azureavocado5195 nobody is asking. trust me. lmao
I dated a psycho. I told him my brother was moving in with me as a scare tactic so he’d leave me alone. I haven’t seen or heard from him in 5 years. THANK GOD. He also lived 2 hours away so I never run into him.❤️
Never let your guard down!!
Hopefully he ain't watching this video.🤲take special care ma'am.
@@sylviarosario6503 i lie and say I have five brothers when I date these men. You have to always deter them early on.
You have to be really careful dating people. Stop moving so fast and keep your distance for a while. People hide who they really are.
Dating is not a life requirement. Nobody had to date anyone. Lol
@@stevemoore-nx8cq unfortunately some people always gotta have a man/ woman in thier bed. Sad
You will never truly know someone until you've live with them and hopefully survive long enough to tell the story because a person can hide who they really are up until and after marriage!
True facts from personal experience!
Sounds like victim blaming!@@stevemoore-nx8cq
yep!!!
Please leave in silence y'all. The same thing happened to my mother. I'm so sick of these men thinking they own women. Condolences to the family ❤
I'm so sorry for the loss of ur mom. My condolences 🖤
The cowards never wanna go alone.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@cheraude951thank you ❤
Sincere condolences to you and your family 😢
RIP beautiful lady. What a tragic loss for everyone whose life she touched.
Before you say anything you don't know what she said or did to beg for this to happen so don't go feeling bad for what could possibly be the main problem
You don't know her from a hole in the ground.
@JayValle-c6n your a pshyco 🤦🏾♂️
@@futurefunk88eddins96 exactly!!!!! None of us know her so don't be so quick to defend her
@@futurefunk88eddins96 Does she need to know her to conclude that her passing is a loss for everyone whose life she touched? If nobody else, it's a loss for those grieving children. What a strange take.
Leave in silence . Never tell them you’re leaving . Run at the first sign of control or abuse and never go back no matter how much they say it won’t happen again because it will
VERY TRUE!! And it doesn't matter what RACE they're from!!!
Best to make sure it's YOUR house. And don't let nobody move tf in. No common law, send your mail to the friggin po box. Nope.
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 Yep, cause you can't get rid of them when they're using your mailing address too! My ex knows a postal worker who keeps track of my addresses! If I only knew who they were...
@melloLL4722 Notify the Postal Inspectors about your situation.
I dearly hope this family finds peace. How incredibly kind of the children to share their story in hopes of saving another.
It's happening way to often in any country. I had a co worker that eventually told me what was happening to her after I sensed something was not right with her, it was horrific what he was doing to her. I said to her I WILL NOT hear of her death by that man and your getting out. Because he was so violent we worked out a very detailed plan and i got her brother involved to help. She was out and safe. To any victim please talk to family and friends and get help in leaving & don't worry about material things, they can get replaced and you can't.
God bless you for helping your coworker escape from that DV relationship🙏🏽🙏🏽
My coworker told me a swat team had to come in her house because he held her and the kids hostage.She still stayed with him,he is on meds now but she still fears he will snap again .She wants out now but I told her move in silence.I always worry for her and the children.
@@Called_toovercomeinternationalMaybe showing her this video will help her make the decision to leave. She would not want her children to end up like the children of this poor woman.
Bless you for helping this person!!!! Sometimes it is legitimately too hard to do on your own!
Thank you. Lynda you very possibly saved a life. ❤
I'm from Liberia and my deepest sympathy and condolences to this grieving family. Immensely sorry for your loss.
Waterside, Paynesville, Sinkor or Camp Johnson road?
She spoke as though she knew, that’s telling. She lived a nightmare and wanted to leave long before the end. She kept it all to herself. These situations can serve as a lesson to others, I share these things with my friends & my daughters.
@never4saken165, Well said, & very true
Abusers dont get better they only grow worse and extremely controlling and increasingly more abusive.😢😢😢😢😢😢
Sometimes ladies you have to come home and tell him you have a terminal illness. He will leave on his own.
Wow!!!! You are right!!! I wrote a paper on this very thing in college.
Not if he has life insurance on you. He’ll ride it out to see it through. Lol. But I agree.
🤣🤣🤣 They leave REAL QUICK when you're sick!
Damn. So true 😭🤣🤣🤣
@@carmelwine7610 Life insurance excludes terminal illnesses. You are talking about health insurance. lol.
Being Single saves lives
Not all men are like this
@Heytherey yeah but I'm not willing to take the chance
@@Heytherey Where is your scienctific evidience to prove your Opinion?
Indeed! Statistics show single women are happier, live longer and lead more fulfilling lives.
*Oh stop that crap... Weak cop out*
There were these two guys in my life that wanted to date me. However, I observed somethings were not quiet right about them. I told them I appreciated them but I was not ready for a relationship because I was going back to Graduate School to finish my education and I was relocating. I told them that this was a Goal of mine for I had to come out of School to raise and educate my Children. I move on. However, one of them called both my Contractors, tried to get me fired, the other stalked me. I involved the Police and moved on. I changed my phone number and never looked Back. The sad part was I never sleep with either one of them Men, only went out to Breakfast, Lunch or Dinner. I never invited them to my home for I did not bring Men around my CHILDREN. If women would stop, observe; they can pick up these behaviors before even starting a relationship. There is NOTHING wrong with being by yourself.
Women know they satisfy their ego and when they’re done. They wanna dismiss the men. Not happening!
Something like this happened to me. I never dated the guy, just spoke with him but I knew something was off with him. He put his hands on me twice and I called the cops on him. Never spoke to him again and got a RO. Also realized he had a criminal record. I too never got intimate with him, but he ended up showing how psycho he was early on. It never felt right with him either.
Something like this happened to me. I never dated the guy, just spoke with him but I knew something was off with him. He put his hands on me twice and I called the cops on him. Never spoke to him again and got a RO. Also realized he had a criminal record. I too never got intimate with him, but he ended up showing how psycho he was early on. It never felt right with him either.
A void that can never be filled among her babies!
She made her choice. He made his.
Never ❗😢
@@futurefunk88eddins96what are you talking about ⁉️🤔
@@futurefunk88eddins96 Did you grow up in this kind of household? Is that why you seem so bitter about the sympathies for the woman? Did your mom expose you to this type of man growing up? There are counselors you can speak to that will help you deal with your pain better than this.
@@futurefunk88eddins96 ignorance doesn't have to be validated!
If I am ever divorced or widowed I will stay single for the rest of my life. Not worth the risk at all, men are not worth the risk. Too many are fragile, weak and unstable. Stay single, stay alive. My condolences to her children and family. So sad.
That's how a lot of men feel about you
I’m so proud of women for realizing this. These comments are giving me hope that more of you will survive.❤
Me too, I will never remarry. So many broken men of all ages, young and old. I will just be single and it's ok to be single. I'm married now and marriage is work....ugh
I wish she would have left and not packed her bags. He didn't want her to leave.
Same here! There’s no WAY! My husband saved me and I’ve been blessed with 30 years of nurturing from him. If he goes home before me, I’m going solo… just me, our pew pews and I’ll get some cats.
So sad I had a ex boyfriend who use to beat me so bad I moved 4 times he set my house on fire I moved to a different state unfortunately he unalived a girl in Augusta GA
he finally get locked away for life?
@@LouisCasas Yes, he is locked away in GA.
Forensic Files, skin of her teeth. The guy did something awful to baby momma. Last time a guy tried that it was my house and he was bloody when the cops came to get him, too. Helps if it's your place and you told them to go.
😢
Man life is crazy I will think to have got atleast 1 year .@@LouisCasas
Horrible, God please 🙏🏾 heal those kids’ hearts 💕 so senseless, I hope she is resting in peace.
As a man, I don’t understand men who do this at all.
I've asked men I know what they think and they say stuff like " they're crazy,,". I believe it's because men have beliefs that women BELONG to them, as in ownership. Most won't admit it but it's steeped in the patriarchy. Most women can tell u about at least one man they were with that expected them to obey them.
Lol, neither do THEY. They think what they do is ok.
I think a lot of dudes are FAR MORE insecure than they let on. When they realize they don't have the control they think they have, it drives them insane. It's not always control over the spouse, but control over themselves because they can't keep another person.
That's because they are not Men
AFTER TWENTY YEARS OF MARRIAGE. my GOD FEARING husband went to sleep in jesus christ. A GOD FEARING MAN. LADIES don't move too quickly. People have different motives.
So incredibly saddened y the loss of your dear Mother. Take comfort in the memories that you shared together
My God these men are seriously unhinged. Help your daughters Father.
Assigning a male designation to this deity is WHY women keep looking for men on this earth.
I feel so sorry for her & her kids… my bio father tried to unalive my mom the night we left.. rest in paradise 😢
I'm sorry to hear this, but I'm glad you and your mother made it out alive. Did she tell him she was planning on leaving, or did she try to sneak away?
I’m a Liberian in the DFW area , my condolences to your family. Bernice was a beautiful person. Tonisha I remembered you and your brother when you were kids. May her soul rest in peace 🙏🏽💕
It’s simple folks. Stay single, stay alive.
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Men aren’t the ones dealing with this- especially not in the same numbers and when they do- it’s simply against a woman who finally fought back.
Your comment should have been directed specifically at women. We are the ones in real danger and always have been when it comes to men. Period
This! 💯
Amen
More like stay celibate
at this point in the game you have to side-eye every male that approaches, if a male is single at 50-60 somethings way wrong, no woman in her right mind will let a genuinely good male go-he is single for a reason.
PERFECT COMMENT and SOOOOO TRUE! 💯💯💯
That means nothing. Lots of women said NO to being married. Probably numerous times, mostly because they want OWNERSHIP, and she can look right through that.
If it's not right. It's not right.
THats Not Necessarily True
@@tyronelewis7854 yes it is, unless his wife passed way and even then, she probably passed because he worried the hell out of her
@nomorecrocs it's not true smh every situation is different. Do not stereotype all men. I walked away from my fiancé because I value my peace and will not compromise who i am as man.She begged me too stay. I was very good to her. We are NOT all the same please don't put that narrative out there
This is sad. I got off barely with my life when it's happened to me. it's selfish what is done. Praying for peace for the family causey it's not easy it's devastating
So you had a Female who tried to take your life? If you don't mind me asking? That's crazy but there are some mentally unstable females out here as well
If in this situation you need to leave in silence. Use your workplace to have your extra luggage with your things then leave. You may have to leave your job (or get a transfer) and maybe even the state. Never underestimate someone that has nothing to lose. Announcing when you'll leave becomes a very dangerous situation for the victim. Very sad
Ain't nothing wrong with being single
Yet they’re not
I don't know what it is. Or why it is. My former partner threw an axe at me, and missed me by inches...I left him in the early 2000s. He left a series of abusive, obscene messages on my phone machine. Looking back I don't even know why I stayed as long as I did!! In 2005 - I met a wonderful, kindly man....and we married in 2008. Sixteen years contented and counting. My sweet hubby is total polar opposite to my ex: who I remember as a flashy, hard drinking, volatile, charismatic, and ultimately violent 'cool guy'...I heard he later died of Alzheimer's after returning to alcoholism. As my Uncle Jimmy used to say, "Baby, did YOU dodge a bullet or what?"
You dodged an axe..😢
I was 7 months pregnant and left mine and he stalked me. Then he broke into my new apartment. I made it. My daughter is now 27 years old. She never was raised around that type of pain.
I am still surprised that women want to be attached to men. There are some nice men but most have issues that they won't deal with. They convince women to be with them only for the women to find out too late that these men are dangerous. Also, they don't just take themselves out of the picture, they take out everyone. Why be with them? Singlehood is a blessing. Marriage and relationships take a lot of work by very mature and humble people in order to make it work. Egos will drive you apart. These days, egos say let me take out everyone. Good grief!! SMH!!!
There’s too much evidence that these guys are not good for women, but women keep running to them. Why?
Why ??
how many women have to die before other women realize it’s time to do something different?
Being in a Marriage and relationship is like getting the 💀 penalty. NO THANK YOU.
@@IntellectuallyKuriouslol actually that’s true. I think my Mom would still be alive if she hadn’t been married.
THE BEST COMMENT HERE! 👏👏👏
@@IntellectuallyKurious🤣🤣🤣
Condolences to the dear children and family. This is happening to too many women. Women, it is better to just be with your children and single then bring these maniacs into your lives. Just devastating. Ms. Bernice suffered her whole life, going to school, working for her family here and overseas, to be taken away by that monster. Just horrific.
This absolutely resonated with me….. left almost 6 years of physical abuse 3 weeks ago with what I could carry! 😢 I left the state back to my moms and filed a restraining order. At the end what she said is so true!!!!!
💜💜💜
Make sure you have some pepper spray abd whatever else you might need. Dump the phone. Google yourself. It's extremely easy to find info.
Stay safe!! They will look for you!
Deepest condolences to these children
✨️✨️💕🕊
Before I clicked on the story, I already knew who unalived who. Stop killing us!
My condolences go out to the family but her first mistake was moving in with him he was (WEAK) from the get-go and he was jealous of her independence this guy was an undercover narcissist sometimes you don't see the subtle signs in the beginning he knew once she walked out that door he was going to be alone for the rest of this days be careful ladies most of the men today are walking around mentally unstable and broken and you can't fix them.
I agree, they are unstable and unhinged.
💯💯🎯👈🏾
You said it!!!! Trying to get our right now but it’s hard.. he convinced me to quit my FT job to stay home and try to finish school.. worst decision EVER!!!
@@crohnsbae656 Go and find a Domestic violence shelter and just leave. Believe in yourself but mostly believe that God will help you out of this. You can always start over. As soon as you get there speak to someone like a counselor and make a plan you can always get another job and go back to school another time after you heal.
Nothing wrong with working and saving up for a room as a start. At least you will be free and alive. Change your phone number and tell no one where you are located. Focus on yourself. I know you can do it. You are strong! Start a whole new beautiful life.
I've never tried to fix anyone it's not my job. Stay celibate ❤
Such a tragedy to take her away from the four children that loved her dearly. May she rest in peace.
Always leave secretly! NEVER make them aware! That is your safest way to exit DV relationships.
This is happening more and more since 2019😟
America has the worse women, I'm never shocked by this.😊
This has ALWAYS been going on. Social media spreads it faster
@@baileybutterfly320yes it has!😱
@@baileybutterfly320 The same story every single time
She moved into a living facility with him? Thats a red flag and a no no.
Big red flag!
He probably wasn't as productive as she was. She worked long hours and came home to his foolishness. Her pressure was up because of him.
Thanks for pointing that out. I thought he was too young to have a residence at a living facility...... He was a BORN LOSER 🤬
And they wonder why some women priortize careers over so called family or marriage.
No "they" don't. Any real man wants his woman to be successful. It's feminist like you who project your weaknesses onto others. Grow up
She was vibrant and he was the opposite, light & darkness.. They were the total opposites of one another. Toxic combination. She couldn’t tell in the beginning because he was able to match her energy but then the tell tell signs began to emerge. 2 days prior she was ill, hi bp, I feel mentally she had checked out of that relationship & he was causing her hell. Leaving wasn’t the answer, she would’ve had to relocate for a while, at least 6 mos or longer.
Damn you gleaned all that from the video? You may be the most gullible person who existed. You don't know her from a hole in the ground.
This just happened here a week ago. The wife wanted a divorce. He tricked her into coming back to the house and got rid of her and himself. They had kids that were left without their parents. SMH
My son in law just committed suicide last Friday ! This is very heartbreaking story! Our family is suffering as well!
Sorry for your loss.
@ thank you
Did he tell why ?
So sorry for your family!
My condolences to your family.
Jan said it right. Jan said you don't see it coming and the guys come on as gentle men. This is so true. Some men are gentle men in the beginning of the relationship and later on in the relationship, the men change into a whole different person. That's what happened to me with my husband. Gentle man in the beginning and changed into a monster, a totally different person. My husband was nice with strangers and nice with people in our community. So everyone in our community thought he was a wonderful guy. Glad I left my husband and never looked back.
Since her suitcase was by the door, then that means their mother probably told her fiance she was calling off the wedding and ending their relationship.
My prayers are with these children.
Wow!!! No age is safe to date/ marriage in this Domestic Mess. My husband passed away in 2020, I’m 54 and have no interest or desire to date, for this very reason, people are so unstable. Prayers for her family 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Lost my mom to a similar situation. But she fought to STAY... you couldn't tell her NOTHIN about her man. He was sent by God. He gave her HPV which is an STD that gave her cancer. She died with nothing. He re married 2 months later
omg sweetheart, I'm so sorry 😢 I'm absolutely speechless 💔🫂
I'm sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
I left my ex while she was out after 10+ years together! After years of her threats of violence, arson and deletion, I left the cars, house, everything but my clothes! She lost everything also, so we both had to rebuild our lives separately. Always choose yourself and your sanity over those you love or they will take you with them while they spiral into darkness and insanity…
I second that message 💯 always choose yourself and your sanity and peace
It is awful! Because so many women DO leave and they still end up dead!!! Not too long ago a young woman was shot and killed in her vehicle by two gunmen her ex hired from jail!!! Another young woman actually left for college! Her ex followed her there and murdered her! Another lady actually tried to get the police involved after numerous threats made by her ex. The ex even set her car on fire, and the police did nothing. One morning while taking her kids to school, her ex showed up and killed her right in front of the kids! That's just three stories of women trying to go on with their lives and these men are just out of control. These victims were in the US, but this is a global issue!!!
The police abuse their women
A large percentage of men worldwide actually hate women, and cultural norms in many societies refuse to accept this. I consider any man dangerous if he exhibits a need or desire to control another adult.
@@shirleyashanti3031 Exactly, this is a hard fact many women have a hard time accepting, they don't like us...the misogyny is deep within the patriarchy
Don't they ALWAYS do nothing? If it's not them perpetuating the abuse.
Unless if you are treating a health insurance company ,they might do something
There are signs, its just that evil people and narcissists are masters as lying, manipulating, cheating, deceiving and being con artists. I teach about narcissists from experience. Ladies get out, heal, and protect yourselves and your children early on. Do not wait. Your life is worth living, peacefully. Prayers to this family. God be with them. As time goes by, these children will recall the signs. Teach others. I help and im affordable too.
Lovebombing is one of those signs. Always there with offerings of gifts, love affirmations, money, “I can help you with xyz”, very early on in the relationship (too early in fact). Lovebombing can be a huge sign and women don’t understand that they are being groomed and primed for the Control stage of the relationship. Run when it’s only been a month or two and he’s already in love with you and giving you gifts.
Don’t victim blame. Smh 🤦♀️
@@jb-ze1yh Oh im not victim blaming at all. Whats not easy to see up front is often times remembered later on. It's a learning process cause narcissists are masters manipulators, master liars and Con artists. They are very much believable for so lo g. Ask them a tin of questions. Either 99% is a lie or they will tell you they their business or they walk away or get quiet but they always want to know about your life so they can weasel in it.
“There are signs it’s just that people hide the signs”
Exactly!
I think he suspected she was cheating on him while she was working that holiday shift. He probably didn't believe she was working but was with another man. Also, suppose a partner/spouse indicates they want out of the relationship. In that case, the other person sometimes thinks the only reason that person wants to leave is because they've got somebody else on the side that they now want to go to for a relationship. This is often not the case, but it is what is believed at that time. This is why it is important not to give any expression of wanting to leave the relationship, especially if involved with an abuser or someone who has pathological jealousy. Pathological jealousy causes people to become delusional.
This is so sad. My prayers to her children.
Single cat ladies have been trying to tell you all…
Right
Yes
This is a hard pill to swallow as children about how your parent died.
Soo sad. My son’s father tried to unalive me when I was pregnant because he didn’t want the child. Dangerous world we live in!!!
She wss clearly a woman who had her life together. Even how she was aging was a reflection of her discipline all for this man to end her life.
Ikr! She was a beautiful womam I was surprised when they said her age! Def thought she was younger
This is so sad. My family sends their deepest condolences. This is close to home. We are so sadden by this lost. She was a wonderful mother and friend to many. 😢
Thank you so much for your condolences and kind words. My mother will be missed
I'm very skeptical of mid and late in life marriages for numerous reasons. I say that as a middle aged, childless spinster.
My condolences to her family, friends and colleagues.
Your paranoia doesn't create reality. You can get help if you just reach out.
Yep. Been married, done that, worn the hat. At my age, most of the men are married, nuts, dead, or looking for free home health care. Nah, I'm good! 🤣
Umm I think it happens at any age honestly it’s the person
My FIL only married my step MIL agter he lost ALL of his teeth because he didn't brush them, he had no assets, no car, no place to live. He met her and now he has a place to stay, a car, a nurse, and a purse. You are RIGHT to be skeptical 🧐 these old men are looking for HELP not love!
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BEING SINGLE IS NOT A CRIME
You say there were no signs of anything wrong but also say we knew something was off when she told us how she wanted to plan her funeral.
Somethings not adding up
Because there's always signs
But are we listening and paying attention? Is the question.
Please dont. . .this family is suffering enough with guilt and pain. We wear masks that rarely slip in front of loved ones because we don't want them to worry. Families tear themselves apart after loved ones are killed or commit suicide with this obsession that they "should have perceived" someone's internal war. My sincerest condolences.
@marcelladillard3556
Stop it because I think you know good and well your assumptions are misconstrued. People wear mask because their pride won't ask for help. Not because help isn't available. There's no way my loved one would be sharing and confiding in me about certain things, and it not set off an alarm of concern. And if I ignore those red flags, it is something I must take accountability for.
@@marcelladillard3556 correct we plan our funerals all the time and we're celibate ❤ It's normal.
She told one daughter that she didn't tell the rest of kids ..she's older married with kids maybe she felt more comfortable sharing with that daughter her other kids are younger
@jamsng
And that's perfectly understandable
It was mentioned in the video
As the daughter of a parent who was also abused and a wife of an abuser as well. There are always signs that should never be ignored.
The daughter’s final message is important: just leave. Material things can be replaced. Your life can’t be. Just leave with the clothes on your back. One day, just walk out, go to a shelter. My friend went to one in another state, called her boss and explained everything and her boss immediately understood (maybe he sensed something beforehand). She is alive today. Please just leave.
EXACTLY
sad and tragic... the american dream of marriage and family became a nightmare
That dream.
That delusion.
That fantasy …has caused millions of women (and children) their lives.
My heart goes out to this family. I'm sure their mom didn't want them to worry about her, so she kept silent with the intention of telling them after she left that house. Please know many of us are praying for all to find peace with time. God Be with you all! Remember the strength of your mom moving from Liberia and making a life in America. She may have only been a child at the time of the move, but she made a good life here and was loved by many! This is worth noting and keeping in your hearts and minds.
So heartbreaking. Never tell a narc you are leaving and if you take things with you, never move out alone.
My sincere condolences to the family.
So, so sad.
Prayers for this family! 🙏🏻♥️
So awful for this family. Can’t imagine the grief they must be feeling. 😢
It’s really scary out here in these single dating streets…I’m so sick of hearing about these deranged men killing our women🥺
This is horrible... I guess being single isn't so bad...
She was a BRIGHT light that the perpetrator could not put out. This is soooo sad 😢
Praying for the family and friends, in Jesus name 🙏🏻
Men must be taught as boys how to handle/accept losing or rejection in a way that doesn’t hurt others. Start when they are young🙏🏾
Some men handle it with no problem I'm living proof
I feel terrible for this woman
I'm in Australia and would have a class in every kindergarten in this country,on equality and respect to girls
Compulsory
I pray strength peace and comfort God speed to this beautiful family. RIP beautiful mom.
Sending so much love to these kids. Their pain is immeasurable.
Don't just move in with any stranger. Stay by yourself at your own place. Be very selective. Also be selective with who you share your time with cause some are unstable.
Tooo close to home!! Holidays are a burden for some family wise or financially. This is so disturbing 😢
that is pitiful. some women don't leave because they have no where to go. I left my abusive husband after 10 years of marriage, I had no job and no money of my own. I stayed with a friend until I found a job and got my self together. of course I got a divorce and he paid for the divorce. went to a judge and tried to get me to pay for it. when the judge found out why I left him, he told my ex he had to pay all cost. this happened in 1980s no help was out there like is is today.
Yeah, you got next to nothing in 2010. If you ask for medical reimbursement from the state, it'll take you 3-4 years to get 2/3rds of that money back.
There are always signs to an abuser. The signs are mostly not recognized. Never tell the abuser you are leaving & just leave.
Her grown-up children had no idea something was wrong. I am learning from these tragic incidents 😢😮
He was too old to be abusive...horrible!
Too old?? Um, they don't change. Why would you think they would?
Please look for Dr. Daniel Amen, his books on brain damage. A guy put his wife's head through a wall. They were both old.
So much domestic violence in the black community. Happens all day everyday.
So it's a black thing?
in every community
Im a survivor of domestic violence, my ex-husband was a stalker but i was young and in love he would just show up when i would tell him i didn't need a ride home from work when we were dating that was the first red flag, as time went on i started to see how clingy he was so i broke up with him i told him we needed time apart ( keeping in mind he started seeing other women ) 2 months later on mothers day he broke into my apartment and assulted me. I ran into the cousin his mother would never leave me alone with when she visited, she explained to me his track record and how he bullied her when they were younger. But the jail time he did has stopped him thus far.
There are people who wear masks and the mask comes off after the wedding. I am so sorry for your loss. She was a bright light. She did not deserve this and neither do her children and grandchildren. These toxic types target empathetic, kind people. Look up narcissism. These people are unhinged and this is not the first time this has happened. They love bomb - they fall in love fast to get trap their target. Behind closed doors, they are monsters. A good question to ask is what happened in previous romantic relationships. There are usually other victims who managed to get away. I'm so so sorry.
Exactly. Please tell the victim blamers that too. I hate when guys tell women to choose better as if the men were transparent about themselves and had "Mvrderer" or Narcissist written on their foreheads when they first got into the relationship! So ignorant.
True!
No, you're missing a big chunk. The fun/good part is always there. It's just not the MAIN part, and it gets less so over time, not better.
Moody/distant and rude can be default on these types. Theyre mulling over what you "did" to them 8 months ago. Like you went to a party and dared talk, and not about how great he is.
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 You are correct there is a LOT with narcissists that my small post did not cover.
- Walking on eggshells so as not to offend them with any disagreement you dare express
- Lovebomb, Devalue, Discard, rinse and repeat
- triangulation during and after relationship
- smear campaign (they are smearing your name behind your back the whole time, you just didn't know it)
- isolation - they move victim/primary love away from their support network or make you think your family/friends are bad people
- gaslighting/denial - making you think you are the problem, not them
- projection - they project their problems/issues onto you, making you the scapegoat
- silent treatment/ghosting - a form of control and punishment for offending them - also moody/distant/rude
There is more I'm leaving out for now.
People hang on because they think the lovebombing part will come back. It does not. Things get worse. This lady knew in less than a year she was done. Interestingly, he chose her because she was working FT. He wanted to be supported financially - another 🚩red flag. These types will scam you financially at the end of the relationship.
That's why I wish people would learn about this type of person in High School. Because the worst thing you can do to derail your life is be in a romantic relationship and marry/have children with such a person.
RUclips University is a great place to study this type.
At that age do not involve yourself with strangers. Still seeking no need have plenty of family
Im so glad my mom never even mentioned dating after dad passed. We asked her. She not interested. She still in shape and attractive. Respects memory of dad.
Awww no💔😪😔 this is so heartbreaking rest in peace too her i send my deepest condolences too her kids 🙏🏽♥️
Im so sorry for your loss! Prayers for your family.
My sincerest condolences to her children and all of her loved ones! 🥺😭🫂🙏🏾
Domestic abuse is a mental illness that needs to be studied. If someone wants to leave, let them. I feel terrible for her children. She seemed like a genuinely sweet person. 🙏🏾