Joh I am from Brenda my mother is exactly like this the worse she had devided us as siblings. We don't get along because of her and she jealous.. when you can help she Nice and when life hits lowor make mistakes she the is the first to talk about you . she celebrates my downfall and hates it when am making it only beneficial for her. I made so many mistakes trying to please her . I cut her off and my siblings who have her traits. There are mothers like this. Only those who had experience this kind of abuse and narcissist will get it
@@PhenduK Thank you cc I don't even go home anymore as we always fight her or we fight each other as siblings. The worst I don't have education as i was raising my younger siblings and chores taking care of her house slaving away. Worse i made mistake to marry at 19 to run away from home situation but it was also the worse as i gave birth and wife. Now divorced unemployment. Went home she was the first to call me failure return soldier and abused left again with my kids..
You are spot on Madam Speaker, this is the extend to which things can go wrong with black tax in toxic family environments. I teach a lot on the subject. I am a survivor of a toxic mother, after building my mother a double storey house I had to walk away from my relationship with her for my own healing and restoration... I would love to share my story with your audience one day
Our downfall starts when we get so tired of struggling than we get a job and wants to be the savior of the family. You want to uplift the family man. When you can't anymore people starts to make you feel bad and true colour's come out. But madam speaker said it well. Thank you madam
Todqy I want to appreciate my mother, who faught and worked hard so that she could be able to take care of herself. To this day when my siblings and I struggle, she is willing and able to assist. We are truly blessed❤
@rosinamogano9545 it is sickening, I had to be very strategic about this, and it has given me peace, if I have money I will assist, if I don't have I don't have, period. The operative word is I am assisting so that everyone else can contribute their part, so I decide how much I will assist with, but it's not my responsibility really, and, I don't buy groceries, people must buy what they eat, so that I don't find myself spending thousands trying to feed people who don't care if I go to bed with or without food with my son. Nope, not anymore!!!🚶♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Sad part about this situation is that, if this old lady dies today, society will expect Brenda to show up and show out! People will expect her to forget all these things and just be the bigger person. People talk from a place of comfort. There are parents who hate their children!!!!!!
@Blessed_for_life_2023 I feel you. Let us continue to live our lives. We cannot be held hostage by people who have no clue. The pain of just acknowledging your fate, is a heavy one. The last thing we need is to be burdened by society's expectations.
True. I can help when I have. Parents should not demand or feel entitled to my finances. Yes, they educated me they absolutely did everything, but they need to know that it was their responsibility.
It's situations like these that increases my adoration for my late mom. My mom took care of us all the way to taking care of our kids. We always tried to spoil that woman, but she'd find ways of giving back. I pray for Brenda, may GOD turn things around for the better for her🙏🏼🙌🏼
We Black people do not discuss narcissistic mothers. Many are walking around damaged by such mothers. May God come into this relationship and heal both.
No sign of black tax seeing the moms house. There are people who only remembers to go home and bother others when they are down and out. Her mom's house does not look like she been taxing her black. Nah I refuse
When they cannot get any money from brenda then brenda is a nuisance to them. This is so unfair. She is good enough as long as she is sending all this money back home and it can NEVER be enough. Brenda is back at home now, she is probably going through a career slump and this is what she has to deal with, an unhappy self entitled old lady. This is not dementia she did say it's been going on for a long time. Magogo ukhohlakele qha. This is magogo feeling entitled. Her kids must give give give and work to pay her back for sending them to school. This is very common behaviour emakhaya so we r not surprised. Magogo ukhohlakele period
@@pandorabox5210yoh i had no idea. It is soooo common in many black families. I have never heard any white person share a similar story so maybe it isn't as common in that community
@@BrideinAmericasoooo frustrating. And if they call a family meeting, brenda will be called into order and blamed for disrespecting her mom. The elders r never wrong , no no
This environment is not healthy for the little one. The mother is clearly toxic. It’s heartbreaking. She must leave asap. And having a narcissistic parent must be painful. Yoh! 😢
True that , I'm going thru a lot because of this, they are times I feel like quitting the job n so they'll understand when I say I don't hav money cos wow ,n they are so manipulative
We don't talk enough about jealous parents. They hate that things come easy for you. They have convinced themselves that if they were not doing thing for you, they would be far. They rely on blowing hot-&-cold to keep you in check. They can never "remember" the hurtful things they have done to you.
But guys, U Brenda naye u wrong. Mothers are toxic sometimes, but we can't talk back to them the way they talk to us. Sometimes its better to leave to avoid talking back to them especially when we are angry. Also, we can't say its not our responsibility to look after our parents. Unfortunately it is Bazalwane. All she could have said was I cannot currently because I am not working. You can't say voetsek to your parent, irrespective of what they say to you. Let's be honest, I understand that her mother is abusive and toxic but we can't be like them
What if the School of talking back was taught by the same mother. I've come to realize that whatever they teach you in school it extremely hard to supercede what they teach you at home, unless you are very smart that battle is hard to fight. Just now think of any challenges you are facing and associate those problems with the family you were born into , 99% of the time it Home Teach or what your home lacked it teaching you or permitted you to absorb the teaching which were not available at home. This thing of giving your children blessings to any new endeavors is reach 60sec-60min heart to heart chat Is what many children need and become a fighter is finding their purpose without any hesitation. Parents should have that talk with their children as early as teenagers. The most important thing that can make this world a better place is when everyone knows their purpose. The moment many think of something other than that that where wondering on everything becomes the order of the day.
I totally relate to Brenda i went through what she's going through for years and it hurts me seeing this video..Some mothers are really toxic to the core..at some point i despised her.. I'm glad we have no relationship and i don't need her in my life
This is very painful. Many people are suffering from such in silence. I know how it feels and when you're down and out nobody cares. You are someone to them whilst helping out. I pray for Brenda, may God heal her and bless her immensely
I am a mother. Children didn't bring themselves to this world. It is our responsibility to feed and educate them as bazali. Black taks is a demon as you said. Im a parent who dont like freebees. If they give,i will accept but dont make it a norm. Children also have their lives to live and to educate their children. As bazali,lets stop milking our children especially girls. Etswang mo tabeng ya gore ngwana ngwanyana o berekela hae. O iperekela neng yena? Things are expensive now. Phela ka seo o nang le sona and amogela seo o fiwang. Lets pray God to help us to have a good relationship with our children and their partners. Thank you
Please do another segment. This touched home, its mot easy being taxed when you do things to better the family. I feel for brenda, i know exactly how shes feeling
This is sad 😢, painful 😰 How can a mother be like this at her age.Brend still need to bury her 😢. This is painful ,mothers need to heal . Sorry Brenda , may God help you.
Clearly, there is nothing as painful as being illtreated by your mother. Those of you who have good relationships with your mothers, you are blessed, cherish that. Brenda my dear, stay strong. Find a safe place for you and your baby. Break free, it's not going to be easy, but for your own health, break free sesi.
My mom appreciates even R50, she doesnt demand money from any of her kids and mond you we are all working including grandkids who are working andnwe give her when we have.
Eish it's tough sometimes in our families Brenda atleast she must get her own place so that they can have peace with her mum and the rest of her family 🙏
The people in this comment section refuse to listen, and what’s even more infuriating is their lack of understanding about what Brenda is going through. Despite having no insight into her struggles, they arrogantly cling to their belief that their way of handling such situations is the only right one. This mindset, especially when coming from entitled parents, is both harmful and dismissive. And while we’re at it, let’s also discuss black tax something many seem to overlook or trivialize. It’s a complex burden, often misunderstood by those who haven’t experienced it. Brenda’s situation might be compounded by this, as black tax places a heavy responsibility on individuals to financially support their families, often at the expense of their own well-being. People need to stop making assumptions and start addressing these issues with compassion and a broader perspective.
Wow, this is just sad.. really sad. There's nothing wrong with wanting to help your family, but it also important to have boundaries because wow, how fast they turn on you when that money stops rolling in.. wow! Blood is not thicker than my peace, no no.
Brenda is clearly at breaking point and I commend her for speaking out. I see fear in her because she has a small child. What goes through her mind is, if I am no longer around, what will happen to my young child if my own family treats me like this. I pray for your strength and long life Brenda. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Other people might have done the ultimate and take their own lives💔.
Brenda explained her situation with MacG.. she did say izinto azimnandanga ekhaya kubo ngenxa yez entitlements and black tax...badayisa imfuyo yakhe bangamnike imali
Brenda's mom seem to be my mom's sibling. Exactly the same, blaming, dividing family, supporting outsiders just to gain platform to drag my name in the mud. Hard to please, the list gives on n on n on. Jho!
This is so sad! I really feel heartbroken, for your own mother to do this to you . I wish actors in this country would be paid more money for their craft for us not to see such talented people go down and out!💔💔💔
If you listen carefully Brenda is very much disrespectful communication is vital let's learn n teach good communication Who speak like this n expect to get their point across...
How... She does not have a job..no job no money... She put all her money to help her mom build the house. Now that the money is finished mom true colors are showing..
@@123smc that explains a lot. So she is bitter and her mom is bitter and she has a child on her back. She will have to choose to heal and forgiveness( not reconciliation) if that cycle is to be broken. No one ever hurts you from the place of wholeness and love.
@@ntombindweni you get me. She has to choose her peace. And choosing her peace means she must cut her off and leave that house. I know she’s invested a lot, but for her own healing. She must choose peace. Otherwise she’ll go mad!
Same . I said God l have learned my lesson. This time around am putting myself first. I help but you won’t see me in the fore front. They say if you do not learn the lessons . Will keep coming😂
Yhoo celebrities are really not Role Models. I wish they can at least try and be good Role Models because of their large number of followers. This is not a good story to tell. I may be missing some episodes but... this to your mother....its a big NO. No young person should do this. She was very rude, mmm choice of words😢. Be Considerate and understanding, Be Polite, don't argue worse in public. Truth has a way of coming out. There is no place like home. I'm embarrassed 😢
Never record your parents no matter how wrong they behave.. Sorry.. My mom is also impossible to be around always complaining.. Whinning.. Sorry. Remember not to give your enemies bullets amor Brenda 💕
Totally agree with you madam it's easy to comment when you're not wearing those tight shoes . Once one encounters the same situation, they'll definitely understand why other people react in a certain way .
Parents, we are supposed to love and support our children when they are perfect or not. My heart is bleeding to see Brenda going what she's going through esp now that she's not working and able to move out of the situation. I grew up without my mother, and even now after me and my sister found her as grownups, she's still distancing herself from us no matter how much closer we are trying to get to her. So it's not good for parents to abuse your child in the name of being a patent. Hope things will work out for both of you. Love you my dear sister. We/ I love you all the way, from North West..❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😂
Calling her mother a lair is so disturbing. Brenda, how can you say voetsek to your mom, shame Brenda! You both accused each other than you have been beaten. You are too angry Brenda. You both need help. I don't think your mom can have strength and energy to beat you. You are also exposing yourself. Your child will also copy yourself one day.
I would never expose my mom or any of my family members like this I would rather move out. I just don't see how recording an old woman who probably doesn't have social media is going to help her, the recording itself is one sided coz she keeps provoking the mom to talk and to beat her while she sounds put together I bet her response would be totally different if she was not recording but she has to look and sound calm for the socials the mom actually said "beat me Brenda because that is what you do" I am not taking sides but I think the family needs intervention. It's not black tax to me Madam Speaker it's helping and serving my family I do it out of love not obligation, I would never eat while my family starves. We were taught to share everything and that is one of the Greatest Legacy that my grandfather left us with.
You speak thusly because you have not experienced a narcissistic mother. Swap places with Brenda and let us know how it goes. She has supported her family for years. Now that she is down and out of a job, she gets kicked to the curb. Haykhona Sisi. Rather pray for Brenda and thank God everyday you have a superb family and the ability to serve them
@@zodwalengisi6806 We will agree to disagree and the only thing I said about my family is that they would never starve while I eat and I would never expose them to social media because social media doesn't forget, and yes I do thank God for them every day and that I have the ability to serve them. Brenda as a brand could have done better she still has a long road ahead of her in this industry and I think this was a bad move for her, I will pray for the whole family they all need help.
Dated a girl with a terrible relationship with her dad, he was very manipulative and emotionally blackmailed her. I ended that ish cause I was like here I will surfer as her man, taking care of her family as well. Always, always keep your ear to the ground on these things cause your children need a good future ay le nonsense we get stuck in cause ngyamthanda. That is not enough, a healthy relationship with both families ibalulekile else stop making babies bathong.
This is so true. I know a girl whose moms expects 80% of her salary, because she raised her. Mom says "Your husband will take care the kids & household".
I have problems with my mother and I'm scared to shout at her or talk back and that gives her permission to run on my head,so I choose to take my kids and leave her but I'm still calling her nd whatsapp her but is not nice to have no bond with my mum,old ppl are toxic shame 😢
I love Brenda and I'm missing you from the tv ,akekho ofana nawe sisi sozabikho girl, you are a star the best actor,I'm sorry about that,but I wish someone can put you back to to work for your kids,live this old lady and pickup your self , you have a lot to offer in South Africa,I love you my sweetheart ❤❤❤🎉
Im not here to judge , this is one of the common issue in our family, above all , life goes on, my dear Sister Brenda, 99,9 % of families face the same problem, but, next time, dont spread your family issues🙏🙏, abeg, We all have problems in our Families🤞🏾, on sicial media , we laught at other people problems, may GOD bring peace and happiness among all families around the world.
And if you petsued the dark side, she'd love you eve so dearly, in a Flash! Im glad youre taking a stand for your Faith. God says we need to choose Gom over all our loved ones orthewise we're not worthy of rhe kingdom
And then we always blame white people for our lack of prosperity in this country, meanwhile it started at home. Parents and family feeling you’re obligated to make their lives better, whilst they don’t give a shit about yours. Imagine all the time that she would send money home and taking care of them and now that she don’t have money or work anymore they see her as a nuisance 😢. This is heartbreaking and it happens to most of us. Some of our friends buy cars and travel the world and some of us have to feed everyone at home. I remember how I had to start work at 18 and buying clothes and furniture for my older family members and I didn’t even have a kid and this is still ongoing.then as soon as you say you don’t have money they start acting differently towards you. When is this going to stop
Hai hai KHONA lo mama she is possessed I feel sorry for the both of them eish they need help 😢I hope someone can come to their rescue 🙏 as for sky I feel sad growing up in such a toxic relationship 💔
It's very sad and it's very common in SA. Sadly you have to remove yourself from the equation or else your life ends up miserable depending on the person..some will break marriages because they want their own way. It's sad and very common amongst brown people. I wont expect my son to do anything for me. I know he has to create his own space and life.
Being raised by a toxic mother it's can be scary 😨seeing Brenda going through this mess with her mom who ungrateful to her really painful 💔 😔 this explains why she has been jobless and didn't get roles after The River Soapie has ended.
You'll never understand if you never have narccistic parents or parent, because you are a child people would ask what did you do to them, my father is a narccist that man is toxic guys😭😭😭 he would wake up with those moods then we know we will be beaten for nothing, this people feed off of chaos, drama and fights it's like they are allergic to peace, and when you tell nobody believes coz you are a child
The comments are depressing. This generation is lost. You've lost yourselves and misleading each other.. To degrade and embarrass your mom for the world to see and not see nothing wrong - instead feel justified. God knows what this lady does to her mom outside of cameras. Really shameful. People, if your parents annoy you and you don't want to assist them when they can nolonger care for themselves, leave them. Leave them in peace instead of harassing them or emotionally abusing them. Brenda is an actor,there isn't income there. She can not say she is a breadwinner- rather a dependent. Her sister disagreeing is a big clue. Social workers called is another sign. Sis wena you are misleading the people. You will all age one day, I pray your children don't speak blacktax words to you and never treat you like Brenda is treating her mother. I pray none of you ever become Brenda's mother.
I do not know what is wrong with this generation. Brenda should be embarrassed to be putting this in public. it's our responsibility to look after our parents when they are not strong to do that. it's nothing to do with demons or black tax. we are Africans people... lets look after our parents.
Parents are abusing us in the name of raising us😢
Joh I am from Brenda my mother is exactly like this the worse she had devided us as siblings. We don't get along because of her and she jealous.. when you can help she Nice and when life hits lowor make mistakes she the is the first to talk about you . she celebrates my downfall and hates it when am making it only beneficial for her. I made so many mistakes trying to please her . I cut her off and my siblings who have her traits. There are mothers like this. Only those who had experience this kind of abuse and narcissist will get it
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Sending you lots of love sis❤
It shall be well, no matter what!
It looks like most of us we are in the same boat.the hurtful thing is they are our mothers.
@@PhenduK Thank you cc I don't even go home anymore as we always fight her or we fight each other as siblings. The worst I don't have education as i was raising my younger siblings and chores taking care of her house slaving away. Worse i made mistake to marry at 19 to run away from home situation but it was also the worse as i gave birth and wife. Now divorced unemployment. Went home she was the first to call me failure return soldier and abused left again with my kids..
You are spot on Madam Speaker, this is the extend to which things can go wrong with black tax in toxic family environments. I teach a lot on the subject. I am a survivor of a toxic mother, after building my mother a double storey house I had to walk away from my relationship with her for my own healing and restoration... I would love to share my story with your audience one day
@@LeratoWBSvideo Good for you sis am sorry sending Love and hugs
Yaaasss¡!!!!! Queen i wish people would learn this early and leave
Our downfall starts when we get so tired of struggling than we get a job and wants to be the savior of the family. You want to uplift the family man. When you can't anymore people starts to make you feel bad and true colour's come out. But madam speaker said it well. Thank you madam
Because they see u as the family cash cow and how they loathe u when the money has run out 😢
Truth
Todqy I want to appreciate my mother, who faught and worked hard so that she could be able to take care of herself. To this day when my siblings and I struggle, she is willing and able to assist. We are truly blessed❤
My father always said "a cow cannot drink milk from a calf."
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Is so crazy what we are going through in our families.
@rosinamogano9545 it is sickening, I had to be very strategic about this, and it has given me peace, if I have money I will assist, if I don't have I don't have, period. The operative word is I am assisting so that everyone else can contribute their part, so I decide how much I will assist with, but it's not my responsibility really, and, I don't buy groceries, people must buy what they eat, so that I don't find myself spending thousands trying to feed people who don't care if I go to bed with or without food with my son. Nope, not anymore!!!🚶♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
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OK what does it mean?
Parents should understand that we don’t owe them anything..WE DONT OWE THEM
Hallelujah
Sad part about this situation is that, if this old lady dies today, society will expect Brenda to show up and show out! People will expect her to forget all these things and just be the bigger person.
People talk from a place of comfort. There are parents who hate their children!!!!!!
Eish man! Nna I stopped doing mother's day rubbish and stopped wishing happy birthday, because it was tough to acknowledge her like that.
@Blessed_for_life_2023 I feel you. Let us continue to live our lives. We cannot be held hostage by people who have no clue. The pain of just acknowledging your fate, is a heavy one. The last thing we need is to be burdened by society's expectations.
My dear I know exactly what you mean, people dnt understand when I tell them that there are evil parents who hate their children it's scary😭😭😭
Toxic mother wil only love u when u have money once u broke they treat u like trash yoh 😢this is sad
It's not abt the mother the girl is more toxic 😮
@thembiencube-s2u the mother is worse instead of supporting her daughter when is down he treats her bad 👎
True. I can help when I have. Parents should not demand or feel entitled to my finances. Yes, they educated me they absolutely did everything, but they need to know that it was their responsibility.
Amen!😢
It’s their responsibility to take us to school because they brought to this earth. 🤷🏽♀️hai Black Tax leyona🤦🏾♀️
Ayinguye yedwa Brenda ojongene nale situation qha sithule💔
Ibuhlungu lento if awunamali you are nothing within family
It's situations like these that increases my adoration for my late mom. My mom took care of us all the way to taking care of our kids. We always tried to spoil that woman, but she'd find ways of giving back. I pray for Brenda, may GOD turn things around for the better for her🙏🏼🙌🏼
We Black people do not discuss narcissistic mothers. Many are walking around damaged by such mothers.
May God come into this relationship and heal both.
True.
So true...😢
Thank you Madam Speaker... black tax is dangerous
No sign of black tax seeing the moms house. There are people who only remembers to go home and bother others when they are down and out. Her mom's house does not look like she been taxing her black. Nah I refuse
@@YIked807u dont know what u r talking about
@@YIked807and judging peoples homes is below shallow.
@@YIked807 😮 How many houses did you see there?
When they cannot get any money from brenda then brenda is a nuisance to them. This is so unfair. She is good enough as long as she is sending all this money back home and it can NEVER be enough. Brenda is back at home now, she is probably going through a career slump and this is what she has to deal with, an unhappy self entitled old lady. This is not dementia she did say it's been going on for a long time. Magogo ukhohlakele qha. This is magogo feeling entitled. Her kids must give give give and work to pay her back for sending them to school. This is very common behaviour emakhaya so we r not surprised. Magogo ukhohlakele period
This is not only in africa, it is in the Caribbean as well
When said nelz! That is the sad 😞 truth!
@@pandorabox5210yoh i had no idea. It is soooo common in many black families. I have never heard any white person share a similar story so maybe it isn't as common in that community
@@BrideinAmericasoooo frustrating. And if they call a family meeting, brenda will be called into order and blamed for disrespecting her mom. The elders r never wrong , no no
Helping people has now turned into taking care of them and their kids for life. People now purposely have babies just to demand black tax from people
This environment is not healthy for the little one. The mother is clearly toxic. It’s heartbreaking. She must leave asap. And having a narcissistic parent must be painful. Yoh! 😢
It's very painful. My dad is narcissistic, that man put me through hell. 2 extend my child hated him. It's truly sad
@ I’m so sorry mama 🙏🫂
True that , I'm going thru a lot because of this, they are times I feel like quitting the job n so they'll understand when I say I don't hav money cos wow ,n they are so manipulative
I did this twice.. 😢
We don't talk enough about jealous parents. They hate that things come easy for you.
They have convinced themselves that if they were not doing thing for you, they would be far.
They rely on blowing hot-&-cold to keep you in check.
They can never "remember" the hurtful things they have done to you.
I wish you can invite ousi Brenda to the podcast
But guys, U Brenda naye u wrong. Mothers are toxic sometimes, but we can't talk back to them the way they talk to us. Sometimes its better to leave to avoid talking back to them especially when we are angry.
Also, we can't say its not our responsibility to look after our parents. Unfortunately it is Bazalwane. All she could have said was I cannot currently because I am not working. You can't say voetsek to your parent, irrespective of what they say to you.
Let's be honest, I understand that her mother is abusive and toxic but we can't be like them
What if the School of talking back was taught by the same mother. I've come to realize that whatever they teach you in school it extremely hard to supercede what they teach you at home, unless you are very smart that battle is hard to fight.
Just now think of any challenges you are facing and associate those problems with the family you were born into , 99% of the time it Home Teach or what your home lacked it teaching you or permitted you to absorb the teaching which were not available at home.
This thing of giving your children blessings to any new endeavors is reach 60sec-60min heart to heart chat Is what many children need and become a fighter is finding their purpose without any hesitation.
Parents should have that talk with their children as early as teenagers.
The most important thing that can make this world a better place is when everyone knows their purpose.
The moment many think of something other than that that where wondering on everything becomes the order of the day.
I loved you from day one Madam Speaker… you are so honest. Everything you said is true.
Please do a podcast on black tax
I totally relate to Brenda i went through what she's going through for years and it hurts me seeing this video..Some mothers are really toxic to the core..at some point i despised her.. I'm glad we have no relationship and i don't need her in my life
Hallelujah 🙌 You said it, its a demon 😈 and No boundaries, toxic, narcissistic parents, especially mothers they dont understand boundaries.
This is very painful. Many people are suffering from such in silence. I know how it feels and when you're down and out nobody cares. You are someone to them whilst helping out. I pray for Brenda, may God heal her and bless her immensely
I am a mother. Children didn't bring themselves to this world. It is our responsibility to feed and educate them as bazali. Black taks is a demon as you said. Im a parent who dont like freebees. If they give,i will accept but dont make it a norm. Children also have their lives to live and to educate their children. As bazali,lets stop milking our children especially girls. Etswang mo tabeng ya gore ngwana ngwanyana o berekela hae. O iperekela neng yena? Things are expensive now. Phela ka seo o nang le sona and amogela seo o fiwang. Lets pray God to help us to have a good relationship with our children and their partners. Thank you
The wisdom on this video ❤❤❤❤
Please do another segment. This touched home, its mot easy being taxed when you do things to better the family.
I feel for brenda, i know exactly how shes feeling
Thank you Madam Speaker ,Every time when you talk is like I’m listening to my older sister 🫶🏻💐much love Sana ❤️
This is sad 😢, painful 😰
How can a mother be like this at her age.Brend still need to bury her 😢.
This is painful ,mothers need to heal .
Sorry Brenda , may God help you.
Clearly, there is nothing as painful as being illtreated by your mother. Those of you who have good relationships with your mothers, you are blessed, cherish that. Brenda my dear, stay strong. Find a safe place for you and your baby. Break free, it's not going to be easy, but for your own health, break free sesi.
My mom appreciates even R50, she doesnt demand money from any of her kids and mond you we are all working including grandkids who are working andnwe give her when we have.
Eish it's tough sometimes in our families Brenda atleast she must get her own place so that they can have peace with her mum and the rest of her family 🙏
Are you sure she doesn't have dementia... Before we jump to conclusion about her character?
The people in this comment section refuse to listen, and what’s even more infuriating is their lack of understanding about what Brenda is going through. Despite having no insight into her struggles, they arrogantly cling to their belief that their way of handling such situations is the only right one. This mindset, especially when coming from entitled parents, is both harmful and dismissive.
And while we’re at it, let’s also discuss black tax something many seem to overlook or trivialize. It’s a complex burden, often misunderstood by those who haven’t experienced it. Brenda’s situation might be compounded by this, as black tax places a heavy responsibility on individuals to financially support their families, often at the expense of their own well-being. People need to stop making assumptions and start addressing these issues with compassion and a broader perspective.
“…by those who haven’t experienced it.” That’s where we differ my sister, they will never know it until it happens to them!
Wow, this is just sad.. really sad.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to help your family, but it also important to have boundaries because wow, how fast they turn on you when that money stops rolling in.. wow!
Blood is not thicker than my peace, no no.
Love your input this is what is happening over and over . People are always looking to sponce you at any given time.😢😢😊
Brenda is clearly at breaking point and I commend her for speaking out. I see fear in her because she has a small child. What goes through her mind is, if I am no longer around, what will happen to my young child if my own family treats me like this. I pray for your strength and long life Brenda. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Other people might have done the ultimate and take their own lives💔.
Eish I didn't factor in "the what happens to my child when am no longer around"shame😭
My kids knows very well ukuthi they dont owe me anything i tell them almost everyday
Sho sisi waze walikhuluma iqiniso,abanye abazali batoxic ,Brenda is going through a lot may the good Lord be with her .
Brenda explained her situation with MacG.. she did say izinto azimnandanga ekhaya kubo ngenxa yez entitlements and black tax...badayisa imfuyo yakhe bangamnike imali
Madam speaker 😢say that again, our families do not appreciate, thank God I am now aware of it 😢
Mothers can be so greedy. My mother is late but she was so greedy.
Watching you from Ireland 🇮🇪
Brenda's mom seem to be my mom's sibling. Exactly the same, blaming, dividing family, supporting outsiders just to gain platform to drag my name in the mud. Hard to please, the list gives on n on n on. Jho!
This is so sad! I really feel heartbroken, for your own mother to do this to you . I wish actors in this country would be paid more money for their craft for us not to see such talented people go down and out!💔💔💔
Am up for the topic🙋♀️ya black tax let's talk about it this weeks top😢🫡
If you listen carefully Brenda is very much disrespectful communication is vital let's learn n teach good communication Who speak like this n expect to get their point across...
We don't even know if she is being truthful. Why not leave, why not teach the child she is carrying better? Brenda is toxic.
Brenda needs to move out honestly.
How... She does not have a job..no job no money... She put all her money to help her mom build the house. Now that the money is finished mom true colors are showing..
@@123smc that explains a lot. So she is bitter and her mom is bitter and she has a child on her back. She will have to choose to heal and forgiveness( not reconciliation) if that cycle is to be broken. No one ever hurts you from the place of wholeness and love.
@@ntombindweni you get me. She has to choose her peace. And choosing her peace means she must cut her off and leave that house. I know she’s invested a lot, but for her own healing. She must choose peace. Otherwise she’ll go mad!
@@moe_ramzyou perhaps have a place for her?
Ewe,ingxaki kuduru kwa ukwenza igali
Even fathers do this if you've never experienced this you wont understand
My dad is like that
Hey .. they dnt appreciate.. im glad i got my wake up call b4 its too late.. @ list now, im putting my self first..
Same . I said God l have learned my lesson. This time around am putting myself first. I help but you won’t see me in the fore front. They say if you do not learn the lessons .
Will keep coming😂
It's painful ,😭😭😭I
Yoo Madam speaker please do a podcast about topic eo 🇧🇼🙏
Yhoo celebrities are really not Role Models. I wish they can at least try and be good Role Models because of their large number of followers. This is not a good story to tell. I may be missing some episodes but... this to your mother....its a big NO. No young person should do this. She was very rude, mmm choice of words😢. Be Considerate and understanding, Be Polite, don't argue worse in public. Truth has a way of coming out. There is no place like home. I'm embarrassed 😢
As a black woman I personally believe that I have responsibility to take care of my Queens, my mother and my mother in law.
Never record your parents no matter how wrong they behave.. Sorry.. My mom is also impossible to be around always complaining.. Whinning.. Sorry. Remember not to give your enemies bullets amor Brenda 💕
Honestly if food is the issue they are both childish. As for me I love cooking and buying food for my family.
Totally agree with you madam it's easy to comment when you're not wearing those tight shoes . Once one encounters the same situation, they'll definitely understand why other people react in a certain way .
Parents, we are supposed to love and support our children when they are perfect or not. My heart is bleeding to see Brenda going what she's going through esp now that she's not working and able to move out of the situation. I grew up without my mother, and even now after me and my sister found her as grownups, she's still distancing herself from us no matter how much closer we are trying to get to her. So it's not good for parents to abuse your child in the name of being a patent. Hope things will work out for both of you. Love you my dear sister. We/ I love you all the way, from North West..❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😂
Thank you cc everything you said it's true
Oh this is soo heart breaking...😢
Spot on madam Speaker❤❤
Calling her mother a lair is so disturbing. Brenda, how can you say voetsek to your mom, shame Brenda! You both accused each other than you have been beaten. You are too angry Brenda. You both need help. I don't think your mom can have strength and energy to beat you. You are also exposing yourself. Your child will also copy yourself one day.
It’s the mother who said futsek, Brenda was just shocked!
I would never expose my mom or any of my family members like this I would rather move out. I just don't see how recording an old woman who probably doesn't have social media is going to help her, the recording itself is one sided coz she keeps provoking the mom to talk and to beat her while she sounds put together I bet her response would be totally different if she was not recording but she has to look and sound calm for the socials the mom actually said "beat me Brenda because that is what you do" I am not taking sides but I think the family needs intervention. It's not black tax to me Madam Speaker it's helping and serving my family I do it out of love not obligation, I would never eat while my family starves. We were taught to share everything and that is one of the Greatest Legacy that my grandfather left us with.
God bless you
They taught you to share everything, because they wanted to exploit you.
You speak thusly because you have not experienced a narcissistic mother. Swap places with Brenda and let us know how it goes. She has supported her family for years. Now that she is down and out of a job, she gets kicked to the curb. Haykhona Sisi. Rather pray for Brenda and thank God everyday you have a superb family and the ability to serve them
@@zodwalengisi6806 We will agree to disagree and the only thing I said about my family is that they would never starve while I eat and I would never expose them to social media because social media doesn't forget, and yes I do thank God for them every day and that I have the ability to serve them. Brenda as a brand could have done better she still has a long road ahead of her in this industry and I think this was a bad move for her, I will pray for the whole family they all need help.
Black tax gave me chronic stress, I ended up going to the hospital
I like the speed 😂😂 I’m new here. Loving it
Black tax I'm counted it still breaking my heart 😢
Dated a girl with a terrible relationship with her dad, he was very manipulative and emotionally blackmailed her. I ended that ish cause I was like here I will surfer as her man, taking care of her family as well. Always, always keep your ear to the ground on these things cause your children need a good future ay le nonsense we get stuck in cause ngyamthanda. That is not enough, a healthy relationship with both families ibalulekile else stop making babies bathong.
This is so true. I know a girl whose moms expects 80% of her salary, because she raised her.
Mom says "Your husband will take care the kids & household".
Honour your father and mother so that live look and be bless. No excuses it's the only commandment with promises
I’m sorry but I don’t think one of the promises is that in return the same mothers will abuse you .
thsi topic needs to be expanded and never tire to talk about it
I have problems with my mother and I'm scared to shout at her or talk back and that gives her permission to run on my head,so I choose to take my kids and leave her but I'm still calling her nd
whatsapp her but is not nice to have no bond with my mum,old ppl are toxic shame 😢
I love Brenda and I'm missing you from the tv ,akekho ofana nawe sisi sozabikho girl, you are a star the best actor,I'm sorry about that,but I wish someone can put you back to to work for your kids,live this old lady and pickup your self , you have a lot to offer in South Africa,I love you my sweetheart ❤❤❤🎉
May God help me not to be like this to my children!!
Black Tax Is Real and Dangerous.
So true and you can see that recording that video was her last cry 😢😢
That's true children are suffering from their mothers , I have been there being blackmailed 🙌
She's sweet her voice says it all.
I understand you,its very sad and painful
Im not here to judge , this is one of the common issue in our family, above all , life goes on, my dear Sister Brenda, 99,9 % of families face the same problem, but, next time, dont spread your family issues🙏🙏, abeg, We all have problems in our Families🤞🏾, on sicial media , we laught at other people problems, may GOD bring peace and happiness among all families around the world.
And if you petsued the dark side, she'd love you eve so dearly, in a Flash! Im glad youre taking a stand for your Faith. God says we need to choose Gom over all our loved ones orthewise we're not worthy of rhe kingdom
She is living the character she once portrayed on home affair. Sad!!
And then we always blame white people for our lack of prosperity in this country, meanwhile it started at home. Parents and family feeling you’re obligated to make their lives better, whilst they don’t give a shit about yours. Imagine all the time that she would send money home and taking care of them and now that she don’t have money or work anymore they see her as a nuisance 😢. This is heartbreaking and it happens to most of us. Some of our friends buy cars and travel the world and some of us have to feed everyone at home. I remember how I had to start work at 18 and buying clothes and furniture for my older family members and I didn’t even have a kid and this is still ongoing.then as soon as you say you don’t have money they start acting differently towards you. When is this going to stop
Hai hai KHONA lo mama she is possessed I feel sorry for the both of them eish they need help 😢I hope someone can come to their rescue 🙏 as for sky I feel sad growing up in such a toxic relationship 💔
It's very sad and it's very common in SA. Sadly you have to remove yourself from the equation or else your life ends up miserable depending on the person..some will break marriages because they want their own way. It's sad and very common amongst brown people. I wont expect my son to do anything for me. I know he has to create his own space and life.
Address this issue.a full video on it Madam Speaker.becoz wow🥺😩😥.
Sad , we hardly ever talk about such relationships..its a demon
Being raised by a toxic mother it's can be scary 😨seeing Brenda going through this mess with her mom who ungrateful to her really painful 💔 😔 this explains why she has been jobless and didn't get roles after The River Soapie has ended.
Tell her to stop posting family issues
Crab winner and black tax honestly Africans we should stop doing this from our children 🙌
I feel sorry for this girl, but umama possible uqalwa yi dementia . I hope she can understand
BROKENNESS..😢😢😢😢😢
One said my child should buy me a house because i took her to varsity 😮 bathong when is she going to buy her own house?
You'll never understand if you never have narccistic parents or parent, because you are a child people would ask what did you do to them, my father is a narccist that man is toxic guys😭😭😭 he would wake up with those moods then we know we will be beaten for nothing, this people feed off of chaos, drama and fights it's like they are allergic to peace, and when you tell nobody believes coz you are a child
Iyhoo... this is bad.😢
Black tax is very bad shem.
The comments are depressing. This generation is lost. You've lost yourselves and misleading each other.. To degrade and embarrass your mom for the world to see and not see nothing wrong - instead feel justified. God knows what this lady does to her mom outside of cameras. Really shameful.
People, if your parents annoy you and you don't want to assist them when they can nolonger care for themselves, leave them. Leave them in peace instead of harassing them or emotionally abusing them.
Brenda is an actor,there isn't income there. She can not say she is a breadwinner- rather a dependent.
Her sister disagreeing is a big clue.
Social workers called is another sign.
Sis wena you are misleading the people.
You will all age one day, I pray your children don't speak blacktax words to you and never treat you like Brenda is treating her mother.
I pray none of you ever become Brenda's mother.
I think most of the Xhosa mothers are like this. I don't know what's happening there in the eastern cape.
I do not know what is wrong with this generation.
Brenda should be embarrassed to be putting this in public. it's our responsibility to look after our parents when they are not strong to do that. it's nothing to do with demons or black tax. we are Africans people... lets look after our parents.