Moderation in everything. People act like sugar is evil. If that’s all you ate, sure that would be a problem. But balance is key. I totally agree with you!
Parenting is just the word we use for “teaching beginners how to human”. You don’t do kids any favors by shielding them and keeping them on the bunny slopes of life. Your job is to get them ready to exist in the actual real world. Imagine that you live in a house with a swimming pool. Now you don’t want your children to drown, so you have two choices: build a big wall around the pool, maybe add barbed wire and a tarp, then spend every day of every year telling them that water is evil. Or just teach them how to swim.
@@notcompletelynormalAgreed. And the same with kids fighting and socializing. While accidents do happen in a scuffle, when kids fight they are learning about how to moderate their use of strength - how much will discourage an attacker without causing serious damage. It's much better to learn while the kid has a strength of a kid, and not a full-grown man. For socializing, I'm certain that a fair bit of bullying is caused by the bully not even realizing they're bullies, because they've never realized that what they do/say hurts others. Because they don't see the person get hurt, thanks to social media. I'm obviously not talking about people who intentionally want to upset others, such as "classic" bullies and trolls.
And she knows her kids will eat healthy! I had a friend with an almond mom and boy did she eat candy, chips, donuts, soda, etc any time we had a sleepover and she always got something from the vending machine at school but they also always fall into patterns of an ED :(
@@ughicanteven5896atleast they won’t have to say that their mom abuses them. Sure they can develop mental conditions or be moody, but one way or another they’ll one day learn to appreciate how they were raised.
@purpl3loverz I also have a friend like this. Anytime I ever seen that baby eat it's never anything healthy. Ever. I lived with them for almost a year and I noticed the baby was very addicted to screen time. She would cry for it every single morning so she would get it. Well she was old enough to know how to talk but nobody ever worked with her so I started downloading learning games for her and delete the others & when I had the time I worked with her every chance I got. It's a shame that people like me who want a child so bad can't have one, but people who don't even enjoy their kid pops them out left and right.
Totally agree with you Abby! I allow my son sugar or to have juice (50/50 with water if course) and chocolate milk. I wouldn't want to only drink white milk or water every day so I don't expect that of him.
Okay I've seen so many parents cutting juice with water.... I'm not judging, just genuinely asking because I don't understand. What is the point of cutting the juice with water? Is it because of the sugar?
@@tonixfay it makes the cup fuller but it lowers the sugar. like fot example if u have a kid that wants thier cup completley filled all the time but dont want to give them a full cup of juice then add water and fill it the rest of the way. j make sure that if ur doing this for other kids that thier parents also do that or theyll still drink it. my aunt did it for me once when i was like 4, and my parents never watered down my drinks and i wouldnt drink it bc it wasnt as good.
Moderation is a great message! I do know adults who never eat sugar AND don’t use screens, but it’s definitely not fair to the kids to expect something you aren’t modeling yourselves as parents.
@@439801RS By thinking about it,putting themselves in the situation, and healing if you're not ready to be a good parent and to live a good life, to make your babies happy and yourself, then don't start it CS it's not fair too
@@puppyproductions964when people say this they usually mean. Outside of needed use. Some people use tech/screens for work because they have to and personal time never or rarely do. With food, it’s possible with meal prep. I’m very low sugar and only counted added sugar because obviously you can’t control what’s in fruit or other naturally sweet items.
Yesss treating them as what they are, little people, really puts things into perspective. I try to do that with my kid, "would I act this way if it was an adult?". Some people really change the respect they had for the other person based on that, meaning kids get no respect at all!
Love how Abby said “healthy relationship with foods”. Meaning not scared but not addicted to it. While I’ll try to really limit my kids junk food intake as much as possible, everybody deserves a sweet treat at the end of the day!! (Also, props to my mom. She hasn’t had any sugar in over four years only things like erythritol due to preventing her breast cancer/leukemia coming back. She feels better than ever!)
@leslieholland7843 Wow, that was really sweet of you to say!! literally made my day. Good on you for starting keto!! From my own experience, it’s HARD. Hope everything just stays well. :))
Hi, how often does she consume erythritol? I have lymphoma right now so I’m not consuming any sugar as well. Also did she start consuming erythritol during treatment or in remission?
I love the no screens at meals especially when y’all are out in about. It makes me smile when I see kids sitting at the dinner table in a restaurant without a screen and just interacting and being kids❤
For us dinner is the time of the day to come together and tell about your day. But we talk about a lot of topics at the table too, from politics to scientific topics to culture
@@Mr.Helper.How Sad that’s a rarity to you. For me, it’d be a given. I’d NEVER have a child brought into this world without the implication & understanding of such & ensuring it’s provided before allowing yourself to be in the situation of getting pregnant. With the structure of having a father in the home, as a family, always. Yes things happen & life can be unpredictable.. but for the most part that’s how it should be. As for me I plan to be married so my children don’t have to know any other (aka a fatherless) reality exists. 🤷🏻♀️
I love the fact that you are not showing your son’s face. He should be able to know what is happening and how. He is too young to have an opinion so this is a perfect way to handle this situation. We love you abby! ❤
This is one of the best parental channels ever. When she’s filming with her child, she doesn’t pressure them by pointing the camera straight at them. Instead she points it to herself and I think that is just amazing and also builds the kids confidence on camera in the future. Thank you so much 😊
Exactly. I've seen that happen. Deprivation and then suddenly going crazy when you're old enough to feed yourself... That path of crazy is more problematic both mentally and physically than giving little sugar to kids since they're young and are being fed by adults.@@zebedeesummers4413
That “you’re welcome 🤗” almost brought me to tears. It’s so incredible to see how young parents these days are treating their kids and fixing things that maybe they wish didn’t happen to them when they were younger. Thank you for putting this out there because I know it’s going to mean a whole lot to your kid in the future
not planning on having kids myself so it really warms my heart to know there's hope out there. It means a lot to see people in my generation making up for the mistakes of our parents
Me too❤ I don’t think I’ll have kids, maybe 15% on a high chance day but I am thrilled when I see this. I’m worried I’m not healed enough of a person to have kids and that’s okay. I much rather that than continue the trauma I was given.
@TheJulietxo That's a very valid concern. But IMO, being concerned about that is the first step to becoming a better parent than your parents were (if you want to have kids). I sometimes worry about the same thing, but I'm in therapy and doing my best to heal myself. I'm also figuring out what parenting style/ strategies I want to use so I can have a solid parenting toolbox when the time comes. I highly recommend doing something similar if you want kids but are just scared. ❤
it’s so cute when toddlers say thank you since they don’t always say it 🥹 i have a 3 year old cousin who usually never says thank you but it’s always adorable when she does
I agree totally, It is actually scientifically proven that kids that grew up with parents that are very strict about stuff, ex. sugar, will go crazy on it on whatever it is when they have freedom when they get older.
That's a big BS! Where is this study? Send me this scientific proof. I never fed my child sugar and he's a grown ass adult and still doesn't eat sugar . Thats just a poor excuse for parents who wants to feed their kids sugar. I could send you lots of studies that prove sugar is bad. Try googling it .
I totally agree with this. As someone who grew up with several friends who had very strict dietary restrictions placed on them by their parents I saw first hand how this could backfire. I had one friend in particular whose mom would make her and her sister run around the block before they could eat a Twizzler. 😅 they would laugh it off and joke about it but she also would go over to everyone else’s house and LIVE for the snacks and treats that were available. If they aren’t getting it at home it’s not like they won’t be able to find it out in the world so better to teach good habits and a healthy relationship with all food groups etc than to totally deprive or restrict. ❤
I was that kid 😂 in middle school I figured out if we were quick, my friend and I could stop at the drug store on the way home and get a 2 Litre of Coke each, and chug the entire thing at the baseball diamond before going home and my mom would never know. I also used to babysit for junk food. My neighbours always had pop, chips, chocolate, and candy, *and* they had computer games and no time limits, so I was in heaven! Once I got my first job, most of my money went to all the food my mom wouldn’t let me have unless it was a super special occasion. Took me till my late 20’s to get over my pop addiction.
I was the opposite, I was the child that would turn down a cookie and snacks at my friends house because I wasn't raised to eat it. Even to this day as an adult sweets and the junk food myu parents didn't allow me to eat doesn't appeal to me. I am the only few people in my schools that didn't gain a significant amount of weight as an adult.
Yes and it's great that you seem to be cooking most of these treats like cookies for example because that way you can control the amount of oil and sugar used.
Great approach. Helping your kids build a healthy relationship to food is so important and teaching them how to enjoy things but not in excess is equally important. Lovely to see realistic and grounded parenting.
I wish my mom thought that way too when i was younger. I'm still struggling with food moderation because of all the strict guidelines that i was raised on for 18 years. I couldn't control myself when i finally had my freedom and independence that I became overweight so quickly
I agree. It annoys me when parents go 'you can't have sugar' or 'you can't stay on your devices the whole day' or 'you can't stay up late and you can't go on any devices after blah blah o'clock' because that's what I was told as a kid (my dad got angry when I stayed up past 10 when I was 11-12) and yet they would do this exact stuff. For instance my dad would say 'stop playing games on the computer' and then stay up till 12 or later that night playing games on his computer, contradicting himself on two of his own rules (he would also complain that no one else stacked the dishwasher or did the laundry and then redo that stuff when someone else did it because it wasn't exactly how he thought it should go. this makes my dad sound bad but he was really awesome) TLDR: parents annoy me when they contradict themselves on strict rules they set for you and then lie about not doing it, and also complain when no one does chores when they redo them anyway if they aren't done the way they think it should be. (edit - this is meant as a pointer to parents that do this because kids just copy adults and anyone older than them. If a parent does something, since they are their kid's role model, the kid will also do that and start to think it's normal. While kids do need to have rules set, if parents break them right away, then it'll be seen as a short - term punishment in the kids eyes. So parents can have more freedom but if they do stuff in front of their kid you can't expect the kid to not do it, because they look up to their parents and we are talking about very young kids here, so they don't get a lot of outside influence on what is normal. Sorry if I didn't make this clear enough (looking over it it isn't clear at all), but please stop coming at me if you read this.)
@Kwildcat13 Yes!!! Kids need to be told what they can and can't do, but if parents then go and do those exact things, then the kids will think it was just a short-term punishment, and start doing it again. Sorry if my point wasn't clear there
@@RRC879parents and kids are not the same. With parents, they know when they are doing too much and can self regulate. With kids, they mostly don't know when to stop and can do too much to the detriment of their health. Children and parents cannot be held to the same standards in the sense of what you're saying. It's just like expecting kids to bring money home because the parents bring money home. It's not the same.
@@eggy1712 the rules are for the kids and don't necessarily apply to the parents because as a parent, it is your responsibility to ensure that you make the best choices for your child and do not overindulge them or be overly strict with them. Parents can tell their kids to not stay up late but the parents themselves can stay up late because their lifestyles are not the same. They sometimes work late, sometimes, that night time is the only time they have to themselves in peace and quiet. And it's important that kids know they are not adults and so adults and kids should not be held to the same standards
Here's an interesting thing a kid's brain that's still developing and fully developed adult brain reacts differently... I know it's crazy and surprising 🙀
Let me just say it is amazing that your kid sounded so young and still said thank you it is amazing to see that parents are still teaching their kids manners just like mine did❤
YES, my parents, if I was ever sick and had to miss something, would not let me have any sugar at all, have me go to bed at an outrageous time( as in 6:00 for 8-16y/o) and punish me more for having any screens on. They’re philosophy was that, even though I had no record of ever faking sick, I probably was. That led to little me feeling like I would be punished for being sick and grew a toxic relationship with taking a day off and has led now to me pushing myself past my limit. What you do as a parent matters, you could do anything from inspire a genius to ruin a life and possible end one. Always be fair with your kids.
You’re an amazing mom Abby and I appreciate you forming a healthy relationship with food and other things for your children. My grandma and mom traumatized me growing up with food, working out and not allowed to have anything with sugar. When you grow up you tend to binge on them because it was restricted from you for so long. I have never loved my body also from their way of thinking. I was so skinny and thought I was fat because of this. You’re doing a great job balancing everything for them. ❤️❤️❤️
She looked so happy and proud when he said, thank you like that. End of the way she said you’re welcome is just so wholesome you could tell she’s a proud mother.
I 100% agree with this. A good relationship with these things is so important. My personal approach is going to be no screens, and no sugar for at least the first 2 years. That's just how i feel based on research I've done. But moderation is key, and i think that will teach me as well cause i could use a better approach myself😂
Yes! Moderation after 2. By this same logic under 6 months are little people too and we should give them all foods, but we don’t, we only give them milk. I’m assuming her son is over 2 at this point but she didn’t specify.
I listened to this song with my mom 7 years ago and at that time I was being abused by my father and I would listen to this song and think God got my back. Now I am free from my abuser with my mom and having a good life. Rip Mandisa, send love to your family.❤
Agree with the idea of moderation but I don’t knock parents who opt out of sugar either. I cut sugar completely out of my life for almost a year and felt healthier than ever… and during that time my kids also were off sugar and it really helped some health issues and behavior issues they had. I still gave them treats but they were made with fruit or maple syrup as the sweetener since they responded better to that. Now my kids eat sugar occasionally and so do I, but our time without it holds a lot of fond memories. (So, I guess I’m an example of an adult who ate zero sugar, which you inferred doesn’t exist.. haha) During that time I wished people would be more understanding of our choice because it was benefiting us so much and none of us felt deprived, but people didn’t get it. Ideally people would be understanding of having it in moderation AND of choosing not to have it, no judgement either way… but a lot of people like to judge others choices. I wish the mom shaming had never been a thing. You are a great mom and should trust your gut to do what feels right as their mom during each phase of life. You got this!
@@anacpereira5 my point was there is no right or wrong with this, and there shouldn’t be judgement either way. I agree with her on moderation like she talks about but also loved my time avoiding sugar and neither decision should be judged by outsiders. I’m not attacking anyone, just adding some much needed nuance to the discussion, and pointing out that sugar free moms do exist. Also, definitions are important. To me sugar literally means processed/refined cane sugar and if you get technical is almost pure sucrose. There are a ton of other sweeteners with their own names too… and yes, fruit has fructose in it but that isn’t what sugar is and isn’t what I was talking about. I have found that for me fruit is easier on my body, probably because it’s paired with the fiber and vitamins in that fruit (which also make it a lower glycemic index food than straight cane sugar). I also handle maple syrup better, likely because it also has natural vitamins like manganese, riboflavin, and zinc paired in its structure and is also lower glycemic index than sugar. Processed cane sugar is not paired with vitamins or fiber so it’s a big hit to the blood sugar levels. Glucose is what most sweeteners, fructose, and carbs are converted to in the body and there is nothing wrong with having some glucose. In some studies women more easily balanced their hormones with some glucose in their bloodstream, this is one reason lower glycemic index foods are great. On the other hand, big spikes in blood sugar are known for causing quite a few issues. True moderation with sugar would likely mean that these spikes wouldn’t be consistent which reduces the risk behind the spikes substantially, but if there’s already certain health issues, avoiding those big spikes can help. I am not off refined sugar now, nor do I judge anyone who eats it, but I do appreciate how good it was for my physical health to avoid it for a while. Socially it was very difficult and I like having a balance in that way. Both can be true… she can be right and I can be right at the same time. Context is everything.
Yes I see your point! Screen time and sugar isn't bad but I don't plan on giving my kids their own tablet or phone until they're older because everyone has a phone addiction now even kids thats not to say they wont be able to watch tv tho ! Of course they can sit down and watch a movie as for the sugar thing as long as it's real sugar and eaten in moderation I don't see anything wrong.
Yep. I was fine as a kid actually I felt better before I started using the internet and could look up any and all information. And that started when I was around 15. Kids had some smart phones around 2005 but I still had a flip phone. Technology is really bad for our mental health and it’s better we don’t have access to information that could harm us…
I don’t see nothing by wrong with tablets since it’s a parents job and responsibility to know what your kid is doing online and set boundaries which a lot of parents don’t want to do so they take it away or limit it
Stop I am crying right now when she said do you want a cookie and he said yeah and then thank you her your welcome was some sweet I’m literally crying I can’t it was the most wholesome conversation ❤❤❤
As a diabetic i agree, I'm not allowed to have sugar a lot. But sugar is sometimes also good for you. Because if we didn't have sugar. We would have no energy. Sugar is important for everyone. When my bloodsugar is low i HAVE to eat it. Sugar in some meals is definitely important. Good parenting❤ -Laura
THANKYOU! Finally we have a parent who understands children are tiny humans and a good balance in keeping up with the modern world but still raised well and respectfully. You are an amazing mom so keep it up. Your children are amazingly lucky to have you ❤️❤️
I love this!!! I love teaching health habits! This is why kids go crazy in college they’re left with no strict rules for once and since they didn’t build the skills to self manage they don’t know how to manage the new freedom. This mama is setting her kids up for success great job
I feel like it also helps to build good habits. Completely banning them from sugar could potentially mean once they are buying their own food they might just eat a lot of sugar. By teaching moderation, it can definitely help better eating as they grow up
I totally agree with the mindset here. But I have worked on making no sugar sweets my whole life due to the many health problems in my entire 16+ family! That's what I consume, so I wouldn't change that for my kids. No sugar doesn't mean NO sugar. It means natural sugars. Fruits, dates, maybe coconut sugar, and even raw cain sugar are better options. But I'd say the same for my kids😂. We could have a cookie or cheesecake or anything you can think of it's just made with no sugar and tastes like it is!
When I was little, my country economy was pretty bad. We don't have candies or chocolate, so I wasn't raised with sugar or soda. Growing up I find myself doing fine without sugar, no sweet craving ever. I do enjoy sweet fruits like longan, mango or papaya.
I mean that are the little things that made our childhood better. My parents wouldn't let us to eat to much sweets or watch to much Tv but I think not to much of everything but that doesn'n mean that we shouldn't do any of that.Nobody's perfect and there is not a perfect parenting.❤
I’m gonna try and give my kids a childhood that I wish I had. I wish my parents were stricter than they were. I’d feel like they love me. As an adult I find myself struggling with how my parents raised me. Not taking me to the dentist ever or even just watching me. I was kind of just doing my own things and being independent.
@@siennajantzen1158that’s true and I’m going to do the same thing. I love my parents they weren’t super strict or lenient but a middle ground. They made sure I was happy and healthy. What I feel like is missing is when they had my younger brothers I felt left out they didn’t teach me how to communicate my feelings and now as a teenager I’m trying learn how to communicate my feelings in an healthy way. They also as soon as I got older just completely started ignoring me and spending more focus on my brother because he has higher needs than I do. I’ve realized they’ve made me the glass child and it’s damaging my mental health. I think if people can realize where their parents parenting when wrong, so they don’t do the same things to their own kids a lot of people would be better parents.
Good point! Do not treat your kids in a way that you would not like to be treated. It sounds very basic so many parents don't like to believe in it. My own mom constantly insults me and belittles me, every single day. But if I would talk back to her in the same tone of voice, with the same words, that she uses on me, her anger would go through the roof and she would try to "punish" me by destroying my stuff or stealing my money.
My children definitely get sweets but we have zero cane sugar in our home. We sweeten things up with coconut sugar, maple syrup, or raw honey. It’s only when we go out to eat (once per month), when they consume cane sugar.
His little “ yeah “ and “ thank you “ at the end 🥹 so cute . Moderation in everything. People act like sugar is evil. If that’s all you ate, sure that would be a problem. But balance is key. I totally agree with you! .
Teaching moderation and not full abstinence is such a great way to build healthy boundries with your kids. I think a lot of people forget the world we live in now almost makes it necessary to understand screens and phones. I’ve found children with zero screen time tend to have a hard time completing homework or after school activity lessons and home practice if they have no idea how to use a computer or smart phone. And the absolute ban on sugar has been proven to cause adults to seek more than they need once they are “allowed” it. Great job mama!
I have a friend who was raised without a tv, ate only bio, healthy things and in general her parents were very strict. It's so bizzare when other people are nostalgic and like 'ohhh, do you remember that show that everyone used to watch back then', or 'I was obsessed with that cartoon, so happy children now arw watching it too', or 'rember this little green candies, they were the best'. And she is has no idea what other people are talking about. I mean, I would feel like somebody has stolen a huge part of my childhood.
His little “ yeah “ and “ thank you “ at the end 😭🥹 so cute 😍
So true😢❤
It’s so sweet. He is so well mannered
So true.
Yesss
That’s what I’m saying it was too adorable
Moderation in everything. People act like sugar is evil. If that’s all you ate, sure that would be a problem. But balance is key. I totally agree with you!
@Kwildcat13 because they aren't balancing??
@Kwildcat13 i know ur life is soooo sad feel bad for ur kids if u have any or if ur ever gonna have any
@Kwildcat13 thats because those people don't balance it.
Parenting is just the word we use for “teaching beginners how to human”. You don’t do kids any favors by shielding them and keeping them on the bunny slopes of life. Your job is to get them ready to exist in the actual real world.
Imagine that you live in a house with a swimming pool. Now you don’t want your children to drown, so you have two choices: build a big wall around the pool, maybe add barbed wire and a tarp, then spend every day of every year telling them that water is evil. Or just teach them how to swim.
@@notcompletelynormalAgreed. And the same with kids fighting and socializing.
While accidents do happen in a scuffle, when kids fight they are learning about how to moderate their use of strength - how much will discourage an attacker without causing serious damage. It's much better to learn while the kid has a strength of a kid, and not a full-grown man.
For socializing, I'm certain that a fair bit of bullying is caused by the bully not even realizing they're bullies, because they've never realized that what they do/say hurts others. Because they don't see the person get hurt, thanks to social media. I'm obviously not talking about people who intentionally want to upset others, such as "classic" bullies and trolls.
This is the most genuine message I have seen in a while that is not an ad. Thank you for reminding us
This is how you can tell your kids won't hate you. Ever.
And she knows her kids will eat healthy! I had a friend with an almond mom and boy did she eat candy, chips, donuts, soda, etc any time we had a sleepover and she always got something from the vending machine at school but they also always fall into patterns of an ED :(
Lol no. Kids can still turn the wrong way or fights can happen. This in no way guarantees love.
@@ughicanteven5896atleast they won’t have to say that their mom abuses them. Sure they can develop mental conditions or be moody, but one way or another they’ll one day learn to appreciate how they were raised.
This teaching boundaries in thebest way possible,
@purpl3loverz I also have a friend like this. Anytime I ever seen that baby eat it's never anything healthy. Ever. I lived with them for almost a year and I noticed the baby was very addicted to screen time. She would cry for it every single morning so she would get it. Well she was old enough to know how to talk but nobody ever worked with her so I started downloading learning games for her and delete the others & when I had the time I worked with her every chance I got. It's a shame that people like me who want a child so bad can't have one, but people who don't even enjoy their kid pops them out left and right.
Totally agree with you Abby! I allow my son sugar or to have juice (50/50 with water if course) and chocolate milk. I wouldn't want to only drink white milk or water every day so I don't expect that of him.
Okay I've seen so many parents cutting juice with water.... I'm not judging, just genuinely asking because I don't understand. What is the point of cutting the juice with water? Is it because of the sugar?
I add water to make the juice last longer and imo it tastes better and im 26 😅@tonifay99
@@tonixfayyes you are right parents water down juice for their kids so it’s not so sugary and unhealthy
@@tonixfayforgot to mention I don't have children
@@tonixfay it makes the cup fuller but it lowers the sugar. like fot example if u have a kid that wants thier cup completley filled all the time but dont want to give them a full cup of juice then add water and fill it the rest of the way. j make sure that if ur doing this for other kids that thier parents also do that or theyll still drink it. my aunt did it for me once when i was like 4, and my parents never watered down my drinks and i wouldnt drink it bc it wasnt as good.
"tHaNk yOu 🙂"
"You're welcome! ❤️"
That was so cute I'm crying-
1) he’s absolutely adorable with his little voice
2) do u have a recipe for those?
it’s probably js a normal cookie recipe w crushed up cadbury eggs
@@els.pistolmini eggs
@@FreyaLongmatethey are Cadbury mini eggs so the person is correct
If you’re feeling lazy, you can use Betty Crocker sugar cookie mix and add the crushed Cadbury minis! That’s what I plan on doing 💁🏽♀️
@@LB06_ oh ok
Moderation is a great message! I do know adults who never eat sugar AND don’t use screens, but it’s definitely not fair to the kids to expect something you aren’t modeling yourselves as parents.
Agreed! Only thing Id do differently is give the cookie earlier in the day, so there's time to exercise before bed❤
How are adults supposed to know how to achieve balance/moderation when they grew up in an all or nothing childhood?
This is like impossible unless they have no jobs, hobbies, and make all their food from scratch
@@439801RS By thinking about it,putting themselves in the situation, and healing if you're not ready to be a good parent and to live a good life, to make your babies happy and yourself, then don't start it CS it's not fair too
@@puppyproductions964when people say this they usually mean. Outside of needed use. Some people use tech/screens for work because they have to and personal time never or rarely do. With food, it’s possible with meal prep. I’m very low sugar and only counted added sugar because obviously you can’t control what’s in fruit or other naturally sweet items.
“Thank you” “your welcome” the way she said it the pure love in her heart she loves her children so much ❤
the way you talk to your kids!!! so kind + gentle!! 😍😊👏👏
Yesss treating them as what they are, little people, really puts things into perspective. I try to do that with my kid, "would I act this way if it was an adult?". Some people really change the respect they had for the other person based on that, meaning kids get no respect at all!
It was creepy and ingenuine
@@purrrrrrrple absolutely! 👌👏😊
It wasnt @@nataliaandrews1659
@@BonBon069 i believe it was. Parents should speak to their kids like people, not in that tone of voice. Clearly you have never interacted with kids.
Love how Abby said “healthy relationship with foods”. Meaning not scared but not addicted to it. While I’ll try to really limit my kids junk food intake as much as possible, everybody deserves a sweet treat at the end of the day!!
(Also, props to my mom. She hasn’t had any sugar in over four years only things like erythritol due to preventing her breast cancer/leukemia coming back. She feels better than ever!)
Good for your Mom. I'm diabetic and getting back on keto. 65 pounds down so far. Love to your Mom.
@leslieholland7843 Wow, that was really sweet of you to say!! literally made my day. Good on you for starting keto!! From my own experience, it’s HARD. Hope everything just stays well. :))
Great for your mom!!! We all need our moms for the longest possible time 🥰🥰
Hi, how often does she consume erythritol? I have lymphoma right now so I’m not consuming any sugar as well. Also did she start consuming erythritol during treatment or in remission?
My gma is doing the same thing for her breast cancer. She feels great and doesn't overeat or have any wild cravings.
you can tell that abby was so shocked and happy when he said “thank you”
Yea, cuz he's only widdle. Talking and manners are new to him ^^
I love the no screens at meals especially when y’all are out in about. It makes me smile when I see kids sitting at the dinner table in a restaurant without a screen and just interacting and being kids❤
For us dinner is the time of the day to come together and tell about your day. But we talk about a lot of topics at the table too, from politics to scientific topics to culture
Something rare you don’t see much I like … having the father at the dinner table
I only use screens if I'm eating by myself
@@Leinad64444same here, I never use my phone when eating out in a public place and I wanna stop while eating at home but it’s a bit difficult 😭
@@Mr.Helper.How Sad that’s a rarity to you. For me, it’d be a given. I’d NEVER have a child brought into this world without the implication & understanding of such & ensuring it’s provided before allowing yourself to be in the situation of getting pregnant. With the structure of having a father in the home, as a family, always. Yes things happen & life can be unpredictable.. but for the most part that’s how it should be. As for me I plan to be married so my children don’t have to know any other (aka a fatherless) reality exists. 🤷🏻♀️
I love the fact that you are not showing your son’s face. He should be able to know what is happening and how. He is too young to have an opinion so this is a perfect way to handle this situation. We love you abby! ❤
Was thinking the exact same thing, it’s so weird that some ppl show their children’s faces online
@@JosieC.luv. like i don’t need that personal information all i need to know is that you love them and that you vow to take care of them!
She consistently shows both her boys faces what do you guys mean??
@@ameliahhh222no they don't? They used to, but stopped a shortly after. Refer to a recent video where they did this please
They do show the kids faces wth
This is one of the best parental channels ever. When she’s filming with her child, she doesn’t pressure them by pointing the camera straight at them. Instead she points it to herself and I think that is just amazing and also builds the kids confidence on camera in the future. Thank you so much 😊
I agree! Teaching moderation and appreciation ♥️ Good for adults too!
absolutely, it is so much better than not having a cookie till 18 and suddenly cannot stop eating.
Exactly. I've seen that happen. Deprivation and then suddenly going crazy when you're old enough to feed yourself... That path of crazy is more problematic both mentally and physically than giving little sugar to kids since they're young and are being fed by adults.@@zebedeesummers4413
That “you’re welcome 🤗” almost brought me to tears. It’s so incredible to see how young parents these days are treating their kids and fixing things that maybe they wish didn’t happen to them when they were younger. Thank you for putting this out there because I know it’s going to mean a whole lot to your kid in the future
not planning on having kids myself so it really warms my heart to know there's hope out there. It means a lot to see people in my generation making up for the mistakes of our parents
Me too❤ I don’t think I’ll have kids, maybe 15% on a high chance day but I am thrilled when I see this. I’m worried I’m not healed enough of a person to have kids and that’s okay. I much rather that than continue the trauma I was given.
I love this comment ❤
@TheJulietxo That's a very valid concern. But IMO, being concerned about that is the first step to becoming a better parent than your parents were (if you want to have kids). I sometimes worry about the same thing, but I'm in therapy and doing my best to heal myself. I'm also figuring out what parenting style/ strategies I want to use so I can have a solid parenting toolbox when the time comes. I highly recommend doing something similar if you want kids but are just scared. ❤
it’s so cute when toddlers say thank you since they don’t always say it 🥹 i have a 3 year old cousin who usually never says thank you but it’s always adorable when she does
His lil “ yeah “ tant you “ is just sooooo adorable😭❤️🥹
I agree totally, It is actually scientifically proven that kids that grew up with parents that are very strict about stuff, ex. sugar, will go crazy on it on whatever it is when they have freedom when they get older.
That's a big BS! Where is this study? Send me this scientific proof.
I never fed my child sugar and he's a grown ass adult and still doesn't eat sugar .
Thats just a poor excuse for parents who wants to feed their kids sugar.
I could send you lots of studies that prove sugar is bad.
Try googling it .
Abby’s your welcome at the end was too cute
The love in her eyes after he says thank you and as she says your welcome is adorable ❤
I totally agree with this. As someone who grew up with several friends who had very strict dietary restrictions placed on them by their parents I saw first hand how this could backfire. I had one friend in particular whose mom would make her and her sister run around the block before they could eat a Twizzler. 😅 they would laugh it off and joke about it but she also would go over to everyone else’s house and LIVE for the snacks and treats that were available. If they aren’t getting it at home it’s not like they won’t be able to find it out in the world so better to teach good habits and a healthy relationship with all food groups etc than to totally deprive or restrict. ❤
I was that kid 😂 in middle school I figured out if we were quick, my friend and I could stop at the drug store on the way home and get a 2 Litre of Coke each, and chug the entire thing at the baseball diamond before going home and my mom would never know. I also used to babysit for junk food. My neighbours always had pop, chips, chocolate, and candy, *and* they had computer games and no time limits, so I was in heaven!
Once I got my first job, most of my money went to all the food my mom wouldn’t let me have unless it was a super special occasion. Took me till my late 20’s to get over my pop addiction.
I was the opposite, I was the child that would turn down a cookie and snacks at my friends house because I wasn't raised to eat it.
Even to this day as an adult sweets and the junk food myu parents didn't allow me to eat doesn't appeal to me. I am the only few people in my schools that didn't gain a significant amount of weight as an adult.
Yes and it's great that you seem to be cooking most of these treats like cookies for example because that way you can control the amount of oil and sugar used.
Such a good mum! And the little thank you at the end melted my heart!
Great approach. Helping your kids build a healthy relationship to food is so important and teaching them how to enjoy things but not in excess is equally important. Lovely to see realistic and grounded parenting.
I wish my mom thought that way too when i was younger. I'm still struggling with food moderation because of all the strict guidelines that i was raised on for 18 years. I couldn't control myself when i finally had my freedom and independence that I became overweight so quickly
Preach! ❤❤
Griffin is talking to clearly now.. the soft “Yeah” and “thank you” at the end melted my heart 😍
The pure love in her eyes when she was watching him was so cute and just filled my heart for the day ❤
I was thinking the exact thing 🥹
you are an AWESOME MOM! your kids will be very kind people when they grow up thank you for bringing good people in this world!
I agree. It annoys me when parents go 'you can't have sugar' or 'you can't stay on your devices the whole day' or 'you can't stay up late and you can't go on any devices after blah blah o'clock' because that's what I was told as a kid (my dad got angry when I stayed up past 10 when I was 11-12) and yet they would do this exact stuff. For instance my dad would say 'stop playing games on the computer' and then stay up till 12 or later that night playing games on his computer, contradicting himself on two of his own rules (he would also complain that no one else stacked the dishwasher or did the laundry and then redo that stuff when someone else did it because it wasn't exactly how he thought it should go. this makes my dad sound bad but he was really awesome)
TLDR: parents annoy me when they contradict themselves on strict rules they set for you and then lie about not doing it, and also complain when no one does chores when they redo them anyway if they aren't done the way they think it should be.
(edit - this is meant as a pointer to parents that do this because kids just copy adults and anyone older than them. If a parent does something, since they are their kid's role model, the kid will also do that and start to think it's normal. While kids do need to have rules set, if parents break them right away, then it'll be seen as a short - term punishment in the kids eyes. So parents can have more freedom but if they do stuff in front of their kid you can't expect the kid to not do it, because they look up to their parents and we are talking about very young kids here, so they don't get a lot of outside influence on what is normal. Sorry if I didn't make this clear enough (looking over it it isn't clear at all), but please stop coming at me if you read this.)
@Kwildcat13 Yes!!! Kids need to be told what they can and can't do, but if parents then go and do those exact things, then the kids will think it was just a short-term punishment, and start doing it again. Sorry if my point wasn't clear there
@Kwildcat13But the parents should practice what they preach. If your kids' screen time is limited to 4 hours, yours' should be aswell.
@@RRC879parents and kids are not the same. With parents, they know when they are doing too much and can self regulate. With kids, they mostly don't know when to stop and can do too much to the detriment of their health. Children and parents cannot be held to the same standards in the sense of what you're saying. It's just like expecting kids to bring money home because the parents bring money home. It's not the same.
@@eggy1712 the rules are for the kids and don't necessarily apply to the parents because as a parent, it is your responsibility to ensure that you make the best choices for your child and do not overindulge them or be overly strict with them. Parents can tell their kids to not stay up late but the parents themselves can stay up late because their lifestyles are not the same. They sometimes work late, sometimes, that night time is the only time they have to themselves in peace and quiet. And it's important that kids know they are not adults and so adults and kids should not be held to the same standards
Here's an interesting thing a kid's brain that's still developing and fully developed adult brain reacts differently... I know it's crazy and surprising 🙀
Oh my goshhhh listening to him speak is just sooo adorable ❤🥰
You Abby have grown to be a wonderful mom! I’m so sooo proud of you ❤❤
Abby, you're an amazing mom!!!!🩵💙
Abby is such an amazing mom! And her kids manners show how well she taught her kids
Let me just say it is amazing that your kid sounded so young and still said thank you it is amazing to see that parents are still teaching their kids manners just like mine did❤
YES, my parents, if I was ever sick and had to miss something, would not let me have any sugar at all, have me go to bed at an outrageous time( as in 6:00 for 8-16y/o) and punish me more for having any screens on. They’re philosophy was that, even though I had no record of ever faking sick, I probably was. That led to little me feeling like I would be punished for being sick and grew a toxic relationship with taking a day off and has led now to me pushing myself past my limit. What you do as a parent matters, you could do anything from inspire a genius to ruin a life and possible end one. Always be fair with your kids.
@@missperfectluxury7630 How does that sound like playing the victim? I’m genuinely confused.
You’re an amazing mom Abby and I appreciate you forming a healthy relationship with food and other things for your children. My grandma and mom traumatized me growing up with food, working out and not allowed to have anything with sugar. When you grow up you tend to binge on them because it was restricted from you for so long. I have never loved my body also from their way of thinking. I was so skinny and thought I was fat because of this. You’re doing a great job balancing everything for them. ❤️❤️❤️
She looked so happy and proud when he said, thank you like that. End of the way she said you’re welcome is just so wholesome you could tell she’s a proud mother.
"you're welcome" was so sweet ❤🥺
I 100% agree with this. A good relationship with these things is so important. My personal approach is going to be no screens, and no sugar for at least the first 2 years. That's just how i feel based on research I've done. But moderation is key, and i think that will teach me as well cause i could use a better approach myself😂
That's because those are the "age appropriate guidelines"
Agreeded ! I don’t think people realize how crucial the first two years are!
Yes! Moderation after 2. By this same logic under 6 months are little people too and we should give them all foods, but we don’t, we only give them milk. I’m assuming her son is over 2 at this point but she didn’t specify.
Abby is one of the most honest and relatable moms on this social media platform. Keep up the great work!😊❤
Abby is such a great mom!🩷💖
as someone who was watching WAY before you got pregnant with your first kid, hearing his little voice? it’s one of the most amazing things ever.
Saw a comment once about someones mom saying that there are no bad foods, there are bad amounts. So true
Aww!! Abby, you are literally the best mom!! God bless yall 💖
I listened to this song with my mom 7 years ago and at that time I was being abused by my father and I would listen to this song and think God got my back. Now I am free from my abuser with my mom and having a good life. Rip Mandisa, send love to your family.❤
I love y’all!! I remember when he was born!! And now he is talking and saying “thank you” crazy!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤😊
Agree with the idea of moderation but I don’t knock parents who opt out of sugar either. I cut sugar completely out of my life for almost a year and felt healthier than ever… and during that time my kids also were off sugar and it really helped some health issues and behavior issues they had. I still gave them treats but they were made with fruit or maple syrup as the sweetener since they responded better to that. Now my kids eat sugar occasionally and so do I, but our time without it holds a lot of fond memories. (So, I guess I’m an example of an adult who ate zero sugar, which you inferred doesn’t exist.. haha)
During that time I wished people would be more understanding of our choice because it was benefiting us so much and none of us felt deprived, but people didn’t get it. Ideally people would be understanding of having it in moderation AND of choosing not to have it, no judgement either way… but a lot of people like to judge others choices. I wish the mom shaming had never been a thing.
You are a great mom and should trust your gut to do what feels right as their mom during each phase of life. You got this!
If you ate fruit you ate sugar though - just not the "free sugar" from sweets and drinks. So she is technically correct xD
Same, I haven’t touched refined sugars for 1 year (and 1 month ahaha). My autoimmune disease went into remission for most of it.
@@anacpereira5 my point was there is no right or wrong with this, and there shouldn’t be judgement either way. I agree with her on moderation like she talks about but also loved my time avoiding sugar and neither decision should be judged by outsiders. I’m not attacking anyone, just adding some much needed nuance to the discussion, and pointing out that sugar free moms do exist.
Also, definitions are important. To me sugar literally means processed/refined cane sugar and if you get technical is almost pure sucrose. There are a ton of other sweeteners with their own names too… and yes, fruit has fructose in it but that isn’t what sugar is and isn’t what I was talking about. I have found that for me fruit is easier on my body, probably because it’s paired with the fiber and vitamins in that fruit (which also make it a lower glycemic index food than straight cane sugar). I also handle maple syrup better, likely because it also has natural vitamins like manganese, riboflavin, and zinc paired in its structure and is also lower glycemic index than sugar. Processed cane sugar is not paired with vitamins or fiber so it’s a big hit to the blood sugar levels.
Glucose is what most sweeteners, fructose, and carbs are converted to in the body and there is nothing wrong with having some glucose. In some studies women more easily balanced their hormones with some glucose in their bloodstream, this is one reason lower glycemic index foods are great. On the other hand, big spikes in blood sugar are known for causing quite a few issues. True moderation with sugar would likely mean that these spikes wouldn’t be consistent which reduces the risk behind the spikes substantially, but if there’s already certain health issues, avoiding those big spikes can help.
I am not off refined sugar now, nor do I judge anyone who eats it, but I do appreciate how good it was for my physical health to avoid it for a while. Socially it was very difficult and I like having a balance in that way. Both can be true… she can be right and I can be right at the same time. Context is everything.
@@anacpereira5mom-shame much? They can both be right…
Abby you are such a great mom and your kids are so lucky they have you and Matt. 😊
The little “yeah” and “thank you” was amazing and your parenting is amazing to and I totally agree with this video
this melts my heart
YES I 100 percent agree with you! HOWEVER my mom says “me and your dad are adults so we can watch tv longer than you”
"yeah"
"thank you"
"your welcome"
THAT HAD ME CRYINGGGG❤❤
Yes I see your point! Screen time and sugar isn't bad but I don't plan on giving my kids their own tablet or phone until they're older because everyone has a phone addiction now even kids thats not to say they wont be able to watch tv tho ! Of course they can sit down and watch a movie as for the sugar thing as long as it's real sugar and eaten in moderation I don't see anything wrong.
Yep. I was fine as a kid actually I felt better before I started using the internet and could look up any and all information. And that started when I was around 15. Kids had some smart phones around 2005 but I still had a flip phone. Technology is really bad for our mental health and it’s better we don’t have access to information that could harm us…
I don’t see nothing by wrong with tablets since it’s a parents job and responsibility to know what your kid is doing online and set boundaries which a lot of parents don’t want to do so they take it away or limit it
I like how she's gentle parenting but she's not spoiling them.
Stop I am crying right now when she said do you want a cookie and he said yeah and then thank you her your welcome was some sweet I’m literally crying I can’t it was the most wholesome conversation ❤❤❤
Same, so cute
HES SO PRECIOUS I CAN’T
As a diabetic i agree, I'm not allowed to have sugar a lot. But sugar is sometimes also good for you. Because if we didn't have sugar. We would have no energy. Sugar is important for everyone. When my bloodsugar is low i HAVE to eat it. Sugar in some meals is definitely important. Good parenting❤
-Laura
I love you and all that you do for your kids! You are such a good mom
when he said thank you you looked so proud 🥹 you’re raising him so well abby❤️❤️
“Thank you” my heart melted ❤
Why is no one talking about how good his manners were like he’s so sweet!❤
Griffen is the sweetest!❤
His little “thank u” was so cute!😻🥹 he will be such a gentleman when he’s older
THANKYOU! Finally we have a parent who understands children are tiny humans and a good balance in keeping up with the modern world but still raised well and respectfully. You are an amazing mom so keep it up. Your children are amazingly lucky to have you ❤️❤️
This is such a great perspective! I struggle to find that healthy balance but you made some really good points.
I love this!!! I love teaching health habits! This is why kids go crazy in college they’re left with no strict rules for once and since they didn’t build the skills to self manage they don’t know how to manage the new freedom. This mama is setting her kids up for success great job
Awww... he was soo cute with his "thank you". I love y'all's videos! Keep being relatable and awesome!
YES. THIS IS A GOOD MOTHER, WE DONT NEED MORE PPL LIKE HER, WE NEED MOTHERS TO BE MORE LIKE HER
Fr chain?❤
I feel like it also helps to build good habits. Completely banning them from sugar could potentially mean once they are buying their own food they might just eat a lot of sugar. By teaching moderation, it can definitely help better eating as they grow up
You are a great mom to those kids keep it up
I totally agree with the mindset here. But I have worked on making no sugar sweets my whole life due to the many health problems in my entire 16+ family!
That's what I consume, so I wouldn't change that for my kids. No sugar doesn't mean NO sugar. It means natural sugars. Fruits, dates, maybe coconut sugar, and even raw cain sugar are better options.
But I'd say the same for my kids😂. We could have a cookie or cheesecake or anything you can think of it's just made with no sugar and tastes like it is!
When I was little, my country economy was pretty bad. We don't have candies or chocolate, so I wasn't raised with sugar or soda. Growing up I find myself doing fine without sugar, no sweet craving ever. I do enjoy sweet fruits like longan, mango or papaya.
This is literally so cute! you’re such a good momma!💗
His voice melts my heart
I mean that are the little things that made our childhood better. My parents wouldn't let us to eat to much sweets or watch to much Tv but I think not to much of everything but that doesn'n mean that we shouldn't do any of that.Nobody's perfect and there is not a perfect parenting.❤
I’m gonna try and give my kids a childhood that I wish I had. I wish my parents were stricter than they were. I’d feel like they love me. As an adult I find myself struggling with how my parents raised me. Not taking me to the dentist ever or even just watching me. I was kind of just doing my own things and being independent.
@@siennajantzen1158that’s true and I’m going to do the same thing. I love my parents they weren’t super strict or lenient but a middle ground. They made sure I was happy and healthy. What I feel like is missing is when they had my younger brothers I felt left out they didn’t teach me how to communicate my feelings and now as a teenager I’m trying learn how to communicate my feelings in an healthy way. They also as soon as I got older just completely started ignoring me and spending more focus on my brother because he has higher needs than I do. I’ve realized they’ve made me the glass child and it’s damaging my mental health. I think if people can realize where their parents parenting when wrong, so they don’t do the same things to their own kids a lot of people would be better parents.
Good point! Do not treat your kids in a way that you would not like to be treated. It sounds very basic so many parents don't like to believe in it. My own mom constantly insults me and belittles me, every single day. But if I would talk back to her in the same tone of voice, with the same words, that she uses on me, her anger would go through the roof and she would try to "punish" me by destroying my stuff or stealing my money.
It’s js Great how he has grown. U r one of the best moms that I have seen
Sweetest mom ever!!
I love manners from little kids!!!! it melts my heart❤❤❤❤❤
i love abby she’s just a happy spirit
This is why i love this channel. Youre such a great mom, Abby ❤
You are an amazing mom and your husband is amazing too! The end was adorable
Ok but are we not going to talk about the fact that she is so pretty ❤️
My children definitely get sweets but we have zero cane sugar in our home. We sweeten things up with coconut sugar, maple syrup, or raw honey. It’s only when we go out to eat (once per month), when they consume cane sugar.
Typical white sugar is actually worse than cane sugar, it's made from GMO sugar beets 😢 We are a coconut/maple/honey family too.
It's so adorable hearing him say 'Thank you' at the end. He sounds precious. ❤️
Abby deserves an award for the best mom in the world.
His little “ yeah “ and “ thank you “ at the end 🥹 so cute . Moderation in everything. People act like sugar is evil. If that’s all you ate, sure that would be a problem. But balance is key. I totally agree with you!
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Teaching moderation and not full abstinence is such a great way to build healthy boundries with your kids. I think a lot of people forget the world we live in now almost makes it necessary to understand screens and phones. I’ve found children with zero screen time tend to have a hard time completing homework or after school activity lessons and home practice if they have no idea how to use a computer or smart phone. And the absolute ban on sugar has been proven to cause adults to seek more than they need once they are “allowed” it. Great job mama!
You are absolutely right
And your son's voice is gest the cutest 😍
The "absolutely nooo sugar" as she puts in a whole handful of sugar in the bowl 😭
The way her heart melted when little buddy said thank you ❤ 🥹
ABBY IS THE BEST MOM EVER ILYSMMMMM💗💗💗
Abby is such an amazing person. She is such a jem and an amazing mom. I am so happy to be reminded that there are such great people like her!! ❤️
When I do become a parent, I hope to hold my kids up to the same standards as you are, so much respect 🥰🙌
So true, but especially with movies, I feel like screen time makes sickness worse to be honest as an adult myself
The thumbnail 😭😭😭
it did her dirty😭🤚🏼
The kiddos burn that sugar off in no time. It gives them energy while playing and running around.
I have a friend who was raised without a tv, ate only bio, healthy things and in general her parents were very strict. It's so bizzare when other people are nostalgic and like 'ohhh, do you remember that show that everyone used to watch back then', or 'I was obsessed with that cartoon, so happy children now arw watching it too', or 'rember this little green candies, they were the best'. And she is has no idea what other people are talking about. I mean, I would feel like somebody has stolen a huge part of my childhood.
He is such a sweet little man ❤❤