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Having a Miscarriage
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- Published on Mar 10, 2026
- With everything we've shared with you guys so far: our infertility, Jessi's endometriosis, our IVF... it felt appropriate to also share our miscarriage experience. It's another thing that so many people go through, yet there's a huge lack of information and support out there. It's always expected that these are things you must suffer through in silence, but we disagree. So we wanted to share our experience with you and let you know, if you're going through something similar, you are never, ever alone.
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I love that you don't talk over each other! You listen and let the other finish speaking. Respect!
I have had three miscarriages. all at the tenth week, all with curettage. it was devastating. I felt responsible for everything: yet I was in bed all the time, but my body rejected this little being in my uterus. my relationship has undergone many shocks, if it hadn't been for my partner who is very stubborn and madly in love with me, today perhaps I would be single and depressed. we decided not to try anymore. in August 2023 my partner says to me why don't you take a test before leaving for holidays? so out of nowhere. "It's fine" I tell him, to leave calmly but I never expected something positive. I didn't react well. I was afraid of losing him again, of suffering physically like the previous times. we didn't tell anyone because I didn't want people to look at me with pity after my fourth miscarriage. Today I'm 32 weeks. it's a real miracle, we still don't know why three pregnancies were lost and this one wasn't. but miracles sometimes happen. I hope that your heart can receive everything it desires. I pray for you and for your two little ones who await you ❤️ a hug from Italy
I agree that announcing the pregnancy before 3 months is better than not telling…
Nothing to be ashamed.
I think it depends, really. I had a loss on my 4th pregnancy. I found out super early since i would test all the time. I announced with my older three wearing big sister shirts. I lost the baby a week later. I wish i wouldn't have told everyone just because i had people asking me how the pregnancy was going, and i broke down. Our 4 year old at the time would talk about the baby all the time. We didn't tell her we lost the baby since we were going to keep trying, and she didn't know how long a pregnancy was. We ended up telling her after our youngest was here and when she could understand more.
I am glad my close family knew, but I wish i had kept it at that. I think it just depends on the person.
True, really depends on who you will want to have the support specially after more than one.
I had 2 miscarriages and went through that alone.
I agree, it was heartbreaking to continuously tell people over and over about it.
There were times when i would wanna distract myself from the pain but i couldn't talk to anyone bcz they would ask me about the pregnancy and i had to tell them.
I understand, I had 2 miscarriage. I was devastated. The physical pain was awful as well. I delivered at home. I was 4 months. The doctors office experience is awful as well. Separate rooms are necessary. The staff is insensitive too. But 3 years later I got pregnant again. They prepared me to lose the baby but I made it. Don't lose hope.
It's probably for the best .
Don't breeders understand the world is overpopulated ?
Or your kids will be without jobs thanks to AI
The " Luddites " where ahead of their times on these matters .😊
I'm praying for you! I lost my uterus at age 23 due to tumors. No chance of giving birth. In my late 30s, I decided to adopt a daughter. She just graduated with her Master's degree. Even if the IVF doesn't work, don't give up!
You two have everyone rooting for you! Absolute strangers are pouring love and hopeful wishes and good karma your way! I imagine your future child watching these videos one day and feeling incredibly loved and wanted and so special ❤️
I love that you’re using your channel to get the word out about miscarriages and infertility. I have four children but it was a very difficult road to have them. I lost six pregnancies and had four children over a 10 year period of time. My body finally said you’re done having babies and I had a hysterectomy a couple of years ago. My doctor said that having miscarriages was a type of infertility that is not talked about enough. Thank you for sharing your story.
My parents (Italian dad and British mum) during their first 10 years of marriage had several miscarriages before I was born. They had almost given up hope that they'd ever have children. I have a close friend who went through the same thing before giving birth to two strong healthy children. Wishing you all the best on your journey towards parenthood. I know you'll make wonderful parents. ♥
My Sicilian Grandma was always upset if we announce before 3 months. Thank you for sharing! God Bless you for your vulnerability in sharing your lives
I love you saying that "this baby deserves to be celebrated no matter what happens ".❤
What a wonderful way to look at it. My Mom had at least 10 pregnancies-7 children. & 3 miscarriages ( she’s not sure-might have been more). Her Ob/Gyn told her that in a way it was a blessing, as perhaps the baby had a birth defect that would have been difficult. Our position as Catholics is that every child I’d a gift-there would have ever been. a decision to not go ahead with the birth. But maybe it was a small comfort. And the aftermath is still hard-her OB/Gyn 35 yrs experience told her to try to get pregnant asap
b/c 17:36 a woman goes thru the hormonal fluctuations as if still pregnant. He had a tremendous amount of experience in miscarriages to be a subject matter expert and it’s now been validated scientifically.
So it’s not only the psychological issues, communicating the loss to others, but also the hormonal changes beyond your immediate control .
Thank you so much for sharing your physical and mental woes… we are here to pray and listen
From one silent miscarriage couple to another still hoping for their first successful pregnancy, my husband and I are praying for you, in Jesus’ name
I am sitting here sobbing, one of my best friends has been trying IVF and just had a positive pregnancy test and found out yesterday she's miscarrying again because of her levels and I live across the country and I just want to hug you both so much. I don't know if anyone has told you how important these stories are, to bond women, to make us women stop blaming our bodies, to talk about the unspoken stupidity of having these "unwritten rules" or methods. I have followed you guys since your silly olive garden outing and I hope you know I am praying and rooting for you. I am SO SORRY you had this experience, especially with medical you have the right to have a painless experience- and as someone who's worked in healthcare having a separate space/area makes so much sense. There's so many easy ways to accommodate this even in small offices.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I will light a candle for you two in church. 🕯️🕯️🕯️
With my 2nd pregnancy I thought I was going to miscarry, cramping and spotting. I went to the Dr right away. He suggested I have a DNC but I wanted a 2nd opinion for whatever reason. I saw another Dr that same day. She examined me, she told me to go home stay in bed, no lifting no housework NOTHING. The symptoms subsided 7mos later I delivered a healthy baby boy. I was lucky and blessed. You will also be blessed with a child. 🙏🙏
Love you guys! I'm SO touched by your willingness to share your intimate & personal experiences in your IVF journey. I hope & pray we'll all be celebrating your "little lion 🦁" in the coming months! ❤
Praying for the both of you! i have had 2 miscarriages both at 5 months. After the first a very wise older lady told me not to put a question, where God put a period. This helped me tremendously in not playing the blame game. I have two wonderful daughters, today and I wish you all the best!
I’m so sorry you went through that. I had two back to back miscarriages (one at 13 weeks December of 2019 and one at 8.5 weeks (twins) March of 2020). It was the worst time of my life but I now have my rainbow baby girl who will be three in June. I pray you all get your rainbow baby as well. Many blessing you all love you guys.
Your situation sounds like mine. I miscarried my first at 13 or 14 weeks.
My second was twins at 8 weeks. Thankfully my one twin survived. She’s definitely still a fighter.
I’m so sorry for your losses. And thankful for your rainbow baby. Those littles definitely hold a different place in your heart. ❤️
You two have thousands of people praying for you! You are not alone in this journey, may God Bless you with a precious child! ✝️🙏❤️
Aww I am so sorry you guys had to experience the loss of a pregnancy. I can’t imagine what you both went through!
Hopefully, this IVF journey will be successful and you don’t have to endure another loss.❤🤞🏽
Awe. Love you guys. I have had miscarriages as well. Broke my heart for you guys! I am praying that you guys will soon have a beautiful tiny human. Maybe I'll pray you have twins. You will be wonderful parents! Sending you both love and positive energy.
Giving birth to twins is not a piece of cake.Twins are also a lot of work, especially in the first 4 years. 😦
God be with you both! Praying for success!
I agree about letting people know, too! It isn't just your loss, it is a loss to your family. People tend to go on quickly, but at least initially you aren't going through it alone. No one should grieve alone. Also, it was amazing how many women with the same experience came out of the woodwork to tell me they'd been through it. Community and not feeling alone is vital.
We are praying for you guys! We know that pain all too well. Have been trying for 3 years, also had a miscarriage. In my case, I had to deliver opening remarks for an art show at the Governor’s residence in front of hundreds of people while I was actively miscarrying and had been told by the doctor that morning that it was not a viable pregnancy after my progesterone dropped. I too, had told most people because it didn’t feel right to hide it or to have to be alone in that grief and I’m so glad we had that support. We are with you and wishing you strength in the journey ahead.
I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how hard that was. ❤
It’s so strange you say that because I was watching Teal Swan this morning and she was talking about the exact same situation happening to women and being told to keep a stiff upper lip and do the things they agreed to.
I cannot agree with you enough about telling people you are pregnant right away. The first time, I didn't tell anyone, and had to go through a miscarriage silently. The second time I did the same, but had severe hyperemesis... alone. For the third pregnancy I told all my closest friends and family right away, and it was so much better to have support.
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I had 11 miscarraiges and a full term stillbirth. I found out i have MTHFR. My daughter also has it andhas lost 3. Please look into MTHFR.
I wanted all the prayers and shared joy from the word go. And then the support when I miscarried our son. 😢
@susansteele687I have this and don't hear a lot of people talk about it.
@susansteele687I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome and lost my daughter at 36 weeks. I actually just wrote a long comment about it and how I blamed myself before knowing I had APS . I wish the tested everyone for clotting disorders. It could save so many lives
Thank you guys for sharing your beautiful story of commitment to each other and your journey in creating a family together-in both the moments of joy and pain-your love for each other shines thru it all and your videos never fail to touch my heart. May God continue to Bless You in Your Lives Together 🙏🏻
Aw, praying for you both! I can see the pain and emotion on your face, Jessi. I had a miscarriage almost 16 years ago. I think about that little one still, but not as often as I used to. The pain does fade. And I know I will meet that baby one day and he/she will be with Jesus until then. Same goes for yours. ❤
I hope you guys will feel better soon❤😢
MY daughter got pregnant, 6 weeks after her first surgery!!!!! Gabriella is 3, and my daughter Jennifer is pregnant with Mateo💕 I am praying with you🙏🏽
100% agree! 😭❤ beautiful words from Alessio - there’s life there, a part of him and a part of you, Jessi! Praying for you both as well, sending love from northern AZ
Been there, such a heartbreaking experience! Luv on ya’ll and good luck!❤️
Thank you for talking about it. It’s only when I had a miscarriage that I learned how many of my friends had gone through the same thing.
Thank you for sharing. Been there. It’s an emotional roller coaster.
You have such a healthy attitude. Thank you for sharing. Well done for doing the emotional and spiritual work to be in that place. May God bless you in this season.
Patti here. We grieve the loss of your Baby, yet, realizing you will see him/her in Heaven. We grieve for you both and what you went through. Our Hope is in Him, creator of the Universe. He is good and Holy. In His Sovereignty He has a plan for you both. We pray for you both and deeply love you. Praying for a Baby in the Pasini Household.❤
This post is monumental. This is so important. So many people need to know this. Because SO MANY PEOPLE GO THROUGH THIS....and they feel so alone and isolated and afraid when it happens to them.
And it is not discussed enough, so many of the people who go throught it think it is only them :-(
Big prayers, thoughts and love are with you, Jessie and Alessio. ❤😊
You’re both so brave for sharing your story. Thank you.
I am sorry to hear you went through this. I cannot imagine
Congratulations on your pregnancy and have faith you will carry it to term. Prayers on a healthy baby or babies.
I will being praying for you and your journey. One of my 4 pregnancies was a miscarriage, so I empathize with what you went through. It is one of the worst things I’ve gone through and the grief is indescribable. But you are correct that you are not alone and we should be able to process our grief and sadness with other humans who have suffered the same. I am wishing you a textbook safe and healthy pregnancy, labor, and delivery and praying that you get to experience the joy as you create the new addition to your family. Much love to you both.
Praying for you. We went through infertility time. My twins now turning 17. Keep faith.
I am praying you conceive and you are blessed with a healthy baby and have a healthy pregnancy.
Praying for you! Thank you for being such a positive light.
Thank you for sharing your story. I also suffered a miscarriage and you expressed those emotions precisely.
I agree with telling those you want to celebrate with early, also those are the same I needed when I experienced my miscarriage. Thank you for sharing your journey, I’m praying for you during touring your journey.
Praying protection for your journey
Blessings to you both.
❤️ I am so sorry you went through this, Jessi. I know how you have felt. 🥺
You both are so nice, guys, I'm hoping for the best and praying. A hug from Treviso. 🥰
My husband and i conceived our first try. I got a positive test a week before my birthday. 2 weeks after my birthday i had a miscarriage. I would not wish the feeling on anyone.
I hope you guys are doing good and wish you all the best and baby dust on your ivf journey ❤
I just can't put into words how amazing and inspiring and uplifting you two are .
I'm so sorry you went through all of that, Jessi, especially on the day your family was gathering for your grandmother.
I've had a miscarriage too. I gotta tell you, from my experience, should it happen to you again, get the D&C. Physically, it is so much easier and makes the process not last as long.
While it does stink to lose the pregnancy, you now know that your uterus can handle implantation. Hopefully, that can give you both a little peace of mind when it is time for the embryo transfer.
My prayers and fingers are crossed for y'all. Thank you both for sharing this challenging journey. I think it really does help many couples who are struggling with similar situations and don't have a good support system or can't share their battles with those around them.
Oh man is this tigger in all my feelings from 34 yrs ago. This month of June the 26th I had my miscarriage. I know what you are talking about…the pain the guilt the loss… I remember lying on my couch in pain then okay then in pain again over and over until it was done. Back up to earlier that day after a week of the dr saying maybe maybe not wait and see then seeing my baby’s heartbeat on an ultrasound in the morning only to miscarriage that evening. I want to say this…even when it seems over it’s not over. Knowing the route you are taking currently I want you to know there are always avenues open. My story didn’t end 34 years ago I adopted my daughter 9 yrs ago. 9 years ago! Don’t ever give up hope!
I recently found you and I just love you both. Your love is obvious, you two respect and truly care about each other and it really comes through.
I'm so sorry about your loss, my son's wife had a few miscarriages and they were heart breaking. Today their son, my grandson is 13, but his father (my son) is no longer alive and I thank God for his son.
You will get the baby you want, I know you will. You both have so many people who care and are praying for you ss I will be doing. Buona Fortuna ❤️
2 things:
1. Alessio, your English is top tier!!!
2. You are AMAZING to tell people to drop their questions, and say maybe you can do a live with the expert. SO many people don't have the money, time, or opportunity to consult such an expert. God will bless you both for being open, helpful, and generous!
Thank you for talking about it. You are helping normalize this experience, amd take the stigma away. If everyone was so brave and open, then we could support one another and it wouldn't be so isolating in a time where someone needs love and support the most.
I have just recently started watching your videos and I have enjoyed them so much! I am so sorry to hear about your loss. If I was given the option to either never exist, or to not be able to live life here on this earth but to enjoy eternity and everlasting Love, to only know heaven I would choose heaven. I know how hard it is….. I will be praying for the two of you as I would for my own brother and sister! Much love!!!
I am incredibly sorry for your loss. I have had two miscarriages (only been pregnant twice) and it is the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. Wanting and praying for something for so long...and then going through something so terrible. I wish more people spoke about about it. It is such an isolating and painful experience.
Same. We told our love ones as soon as we knew. Sorry for your loss.
Ohhh, Jessi & Alessio...
I felt this post to my core! It took me back to all the emotions I felt when I went through my miscarriage. It was one of the toughest times in my life.
I'm praying that this time around, after freshly having your surgery, I pray that you will have a blissful experience with a beautiful little one to share your abundant love with. That precious baby will be sooooo loved!!
Thank you for sharing your journey. 🥰
Just wanted to say a massive thank you for talking so honestly about your experience. My husband and I are going through our own IVF journey and about to start our second cycle your videos have given me so much support. I cannot agree more to celebrate every positive moment and not let them pass by with fear of the unknown. Wishing you all the best on your IVF journey x
Im so sorry you had to go through this. I am so happy your sharing your story because its not talked about enough! Im so hopeful your current fertility journey bring you a beautiful baby!
I had 2 miscarriage myself at 6 wks and at 15. Its not like period cramps. It was like labor! Then i had a stillborn at 29 wks. PTSD after all that and i never allowed myself to ever try again. Too much heardbreak one more loss would have literally put me in a mental institution.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am currently going through my 2nd miscarriage and I resonated so deeply with Jessi talking about the waiting room. There’s nothing more painful than knowing you’re miscarrying and seeing happy moms walk through the door while you’re losing your baby. Honestly, the whole thing is traumatizing. I’m so sorry we have to know this pain together, but there’s also comfort in knowing I’m not alone ❤️🩹
Great point about having the support of your loved ones. So sorry for your loss. Sending you a big hug. ❤
Great medicine is answers and knowledge. Your gift of sharing is 😢 amazingly helpful to others you dont understand how much you are helping people with your story. You will be blessed because your doing everything the right way. Your story is a gift. Thank you... I have 23 year old twin girl IVF gifts from God. My prayers 🙏 go out for you to.
Praying for you guys - I lost my second, and understand exactly what you mean.
My heart is with you both.
I had a miscarriage at 20 weeks. It was so devastating, I’m sure I couldn’t discuss it even 15 years later. Thank you for sharing this.
I totally agree on sharing a pregnancy earlier rather than later. It builds your support group that way. Also, what a raw and heartfelt video. Thank you for sharing.
Thankfully you had each other to hold, love, and cry together. Blessings to you both when you do welcome a little one into your life. ❤
You two are really brave and level-headed about this process. Wishing you the best from Oregon!💖
I hope everything goes well with the IVF!! I'll be praying for you 2!!! ❤❤
Hugging y’all with my heart . Yall are so sweet .
Praying and hoping yall have a blessed year .
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I had three miscarriages in the second trimester and two living children from the only two pregnancies I had that were to term. Many years later when I had a hysterectomy for uterine adenomyosis the OBGYN said I had a tilted uterus and they contributed to my multiple miscarriages. It was wild to find that out so many years later. Sending you good vibes!
Thanks for bringing awareness. I like the idea of telling right away, just to have suport you need. I did tell my friends and family because I was just to excited that we finally got pregnant after long fertility treatment. I was diagnosed with PCOS and had to have surgery to remove cysts prior to starting fertility treatment. Taking all those medication sure bring your hormones out of whack, is not fun. Had to stay on meds to keep the hormones up for at least 6 month etc. At 7 weeks I had a scare where I thought I was having a miscarriage, it was on a Friday, I called the doctors office, and they said there is nothing they could do over the werkend, to come in on Monday. It was the worse weekend of my life. I barely left the bed. Could not talk to anyone, I was lucky and did not lose him. But I think I know what went through your mind.
I was able to carry just about full term. He is my miracle, I had less than 15% percent to even conceive.
We tried, unsuccessful, for a second time. Infertility is stressfull. Glad you have each other to lean on.
I wish you both the very best and pray that you will be blessed with a little one real soon.
I have been through this many times and my heart mourns for you both. I am so sorry. God Bless you both and peace be with you.
Praying for your new family of three with blessings and perfect health ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
All my love to you guys. We also had our first positive test after 1.5years of trying. I was crying from happiness one week, only to find myself crying myself to sleep two weeks later. I was not prepared for the possibility of losing a pregnancy so it was devastating experience.
I love your openness! Crossing fingers!
You are so brave and honest to share of this journey here. You don’t have to do this but by doing it you are helping so many people. Wishing you and everyone watching that is sharing the same journey love, hugs and prayers (please substitute whatever you need to if prayers are not part of your life). They’re part of mine and they’re all I could think to offer you from far away. ❤️🙏🇨🇦🤗
Been there, very awful thing to experience, I lost my son when I was 4.5 months along, and lost another early on. Wouldn’t wish this heartache on ANYONE!!! Hope you’re doing okay
I hope you guys feel better soon
Sending you much love and prayers, I love the way you both express your love for each other
Praying for you! It’s a blessing you are being so open with your journey; happiness and pain. I’m so sorry you have gone through this. I’m excited for you and your new journey. 🙏🏻
Praying for you both. You two are so loving and kind. Thank you for sharing with us all.
I am so sorry for your loss… the love that you have for each other is so beautiful and I am glad you have each other for support during hard times. I know some that have had to face this alone… and although this is not anyone’s fault (I’m many cases) the guilt, pain and shame can be immense. Tragedies happen, sadly, this was one of them… we need to celebrate life, however brief it is… I will be praying for you both and hopefully soon there will be another life in your hands…
I understand about the doctor’s office. I had to have a hysterectomy for endometriosis, and when I went for my first postoperative checkup, the office was full of new moms and their newborns and pregnant women. I just sobbed for what I could never have. My doctor was so abrupt and cruel and told me I needed to get over it. I never went back to him again. Of note, I had a miscarriage at 5.5 weeks 12 years before….before I knew I was even pregnant.
in our culture we don't announce to everyone before 3 months like when my cousin's wife was pregnant I got to know after a week of them knowing. but other family members like the distant ones we don't tell till 3 months as we believe that someone can put an evil eye on them or a lot of people becoming so excited that they want to come and meet them that it can overwhelm the pregnant woman
You two are so smart. I totally agree with you on sharing baby news , if you are comfortable, when u wish. Prayers and support for the parents is so important. Praying you get that beautiful baby. I can’t wait to hear your happy news when it does! 🙏
I’ve had two miscarriages and I totally agree that sharing the pregnancy and celebrating that life from the beginning is so important! We are praying for you during this time and asking for a successful pregnancy ❤
I had a miscarriage about 8 yrs ago it was horrible and I too held onto a lot of guilt that maybe I somehow did something to cause it. I’m so sorry u had to go through that. 🙏I will keep u two in my prayers I pray that u experience a happy healthy pregnancy to full term and deliver a healthy baby. U guys deserve it so much u would make such wonderful parents.
Oh, gosh... This is a hard journey. I remember having ours.. After second miscarriage and years of trying to conceive my husband and I were just.. broken. But we kept trying, and now we are blessed with a baby-boy we dreamt of❤ I do remember though feeling like it would never happen to us! We've learnt from this to stay patient and never lose hope.
I will pray for you❤
Thank you for sharing. I pray you will get your miracle baby soon. You will be wonderful parents. 🙏
So grateful for your vulnerability. This has been a long journey for you both
God bless you…. Thank you for allowing some to revisit and give permission to grieving loss. Such a difficult thing emotionally but we need to grieve. You are generous people
Dear Jessi and Alessio, you are terrific examples of hope and courage. Both of you are giving us life lessons through your actions and relationship♥️ Wishing you every possible positive outcome 🥹♥️
I agree with telling your family and friends right away! I also know that prayer works miracles! Maybe not every time, but a lot of the time! And a life is a life and should be loved, celebrated and even grieved just like everyone else! Love you guys and I am praying for you!
I’ve had 3 miscarriages and I’m thankful to have had those closest to me be there when I was going through that. My second miscarriage my husband had just gone back to Korea so here I was all alone but thankfully my friends and family were there to support me through it all.
I agree with you on announcing or not. I had two miscarriages I still told everyone as soon as the positive showed up because they will be with you for the excitement or the grieving.
You are a spectacular couple. It's a learning curve you guys are going through. Don't forget, no matter what, you have your love, that is the beginning and sense of everything. Don't feel 'compelled' to accomplish, if it happens it will be a blessing, if not, you are in love and you are a family. I think that mindset will help you a lot. Best of luck on your project :)