New York City Chewed Me Up and Spit Me Out

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 37

  • @bnug242
    @bnug242 2 месяца назад +45

    You went to nyc with no plan and a low paying job??? while going out on dates and paying for plane tickets?!? i don't think it was the city man

    • @maximallen3202
      @maximallen3202 2 месяца назад +6

      Finally someone said it

    • @wonderfulworldofmarkets9033
      @wonderfulworldofmarkets9033 2 месяца назад +4

      RUclipsrs are the perfect example of survivorship bias

    • @evilkingstanley
      @evilkingstanley Месяц назад +1

      I'd say having a savings to start with and a job at a major organization is about as far as you can realistically plan ahead. I also find the idea that you have to be single in NYC a bit silly.

  • @jameshicks6435
    @jameshicks6435 Год назад +22

    I moved to New York late in my career. I already had a good job, was able to rent a nice apartment, knew some locals, etc. And I have said many times that I could NEVER have done it when I was young. The city is SO expensive and can feel lonely and isolating (ironically enough, given the size of the population). It's not the right fit for everyone. I couldn't be happier to be here now, but I know that I chose to come at the right time for me. It just wasn't the right fit and the right time for you. There's no shame in that. And you should feel good that you gave it a shot.

  • @nicholasdelligatti7225
    @nicholasdelligatti7225 Год назад +5

    Proud of you homie it's a big move to recognize when you need to do what's right for you, never feel shame of that I'm genuinely impressed and proud of you

  • @ElRonDeTexas
    @ElRonDeTexas 9 месяцев назад +3

    You ROCK! Thank you for sharing your story. 🎉

  • @rvscript
    @rvscript 2 месяца назад +7

    Only reason to be "in" NYC is for the amazing speed of change. You can "quickly" ascend within a few years at your career. This is probably because of the constant changes, fast pace, and competition. The "issue " with NYC is the $$$RENT$$$. OMG it will literally cut you in half or more. City landlords have a lock on rents and it's beyond brutal. Very hard to focus on becoming better while stressing over being evicted.

  • @erockvaughn2190
    @erockvaughn2190 2 месяца назад +8

    I moved here a few years ago. I knew no one and did not have a job. It is expensive. I live in Manahattan in the Broadway district. I love it here and did not think I would. This November will be three years. I tried to move here when I was about 22 and did not last one year. It was super hard young and broke. Coming back older and with money made it very easy and not having a car is great. I was always into nice cars. I could care less now. I can walk to everything. Hells kitchen two blocks away. I love it.

    • @DarViajar
      @DarViajar  2 месяца назад +4

      I hope to be able to move back one day when it makes sense financially, but for now I can't afford it haha

    • @erockvaughn2190
      @erockvaughn2190 2 месяца назад +2

      @@DarViajar I moved her broke 20+ years ago. Trust me I know. Moving here with money is the only way to sruvive with ease. I am living the dream life now. But was broke as a joke most of my life. So I know the pain.

  • @electriquenikki
    @electriquenikki 2 месяца назад +2

    This is an incredibly authentic video. I cried during this when you were talking about your feelings of shame and the weight of stress that you felt. You are doing incredible work with your filmmaking. Also, thank you for sharing different jobs that you had, I have a background of casting producer for reality tv and I move to NYC next month and need something while I work on making my wellness startup profitable. So Ive been wondering what types of media jobs might be there for me to work while I get my business off the ground. Super helpful video, I would love to see you move back to NYC and conquer the beast when you're ready!!! Much love to you superstar, look forward to following your journey. xoxox

  • @cliftonbarker9168
    @cliftonbarker9168 Год назад +3

    Finally someone giving a real account of the struggle! I'm glad you made it to a place you feel more comfortable, and do feel like it's a rite of passage to do something of this sort. I grew up idolizing LA and I didn't last nearly as long as you did in NYC, I was there like 3 weeks and was like NOPE, but this was early days of the internet so couldn't do advanced planning to get housing etc, no excuses though. You did great and I enjoyed your videos during this period. Truth be told, your Mexico stuff is way more interesting though!

    • @DarViajar
      @DarViajar  Год назад +3

      LA is another city I think would be tough. Thanks for sharing your story and watching!

  • @davidandrejsin1259
    @davidandrejsin1259 2 месяца назад +4

    I think your NYC experience was totally skewed by your job. I know NYC has reputation for being a super hard working city, however unless you are working in a hedge fund or investment banking making 200-300k then working around the clock is insane.
    My experience with New York has been much different. I came to the US as an international student and after college got a 6 figure job in NYC. I live in Jersey City and my portion of rent is 700 a month with 25 minute commute time to Manhattan. I save 50 percent of my after tax salary and I am very grateful for the opportunity considering that I came from a considerably poorer country.

    • @6idangle
      @6idangle 2 месяца назад +1

      This is my experience 6 figure legal job, 1500 a month for rent. Save about 35%

  • @cayad2591
    @cayad2591 2 месяца назад +1

    well buddy i wish you all the luck in the world. I'm a born and bred NYer so i have different circumstances and perspective. but definitely moving anywhere on this earth based on what you see on tv and movies is not the way to go. i watch those shows and films and say to myself this is a lie! a lot of transplants move here for those kinds of reasons and don't experience the NY that i did growing up. is it rough? hell yeah. it's not for everybody or for the faint of heart. most NYers are struggling, all that glitz and glam on tv is....well it's tv, a f*ckin stupid Hollywood fantasy. some people live that life and they seem like they're taking over the whole city. By city i also mean Queens, Bronx, Brooklyn, and Staten Island. but they're not the heart of NYC. sorry it didn't work out for you, i hope you thrive wherever you land.

  • @TeranceHealy
    @TeranceHealy 3 месяца назад +5

    The one thing which would have permitted you to succeed in NYC is a place to stay rent free just til you are established. A newb has no idea how crappy NY can be.

  • @hansonel
    @hansonel 4 месяца назад +2

    There's nothing to be ashamed of for not making it in NYC. It is an incredibly difficult and expensive city to "make it" in. Lived in New York for almost 6 years. Moved there in 2010 since I always wanted to live there and had a very romantic view of the city shaped by movies and TV which always depict people living in amazing brownstones or loft apartments and living luxury lifestyles. I was able to make friends, get into a romantic relationship and find a job.... although the job was underpaying. A breakup and the realization that I was also paying 50% of my income towards rent living in Upper Manhattan and Queens to pursue the dream" and was living paycheck to paycheck to achieve it. And I couldn't afford to move to a nicer area or live without roommates.
    Moved back home to Chicago and was devastated thinking I had "failed" but now I see it was better that it didn't work out since I'm focused on becoming a digital nomad and eventually an expat in another country.
    I still love NYC but it is just too expensive to live there unless you're wealthy

  • @rothn2
    @rothn2 3 месяца назад +1

    I moved here when I was older. I liked it. I don't think I would have enjoyed doing what you did. Maybe come back in a few years!

  • @gn6905
    @gn6905 2 месяца назад +3

    NYC is all about $ & power.

  • @jeanmeizel8895
    @jeanmeizel8895 9 месяцев назад +4

    I'm a New Yorker....had to leave cause I couldn't afford the rents...at the suggestion of a family member moved to Davis Ca....so now I will sound like you terribly lonely can't get anywhere..horrible transportation unless your a student...will be moving somewhere back to the east coast...I wish it could be NY.

  • @ThrivingNotDying
    @ThrivingNotDying Год назад +1

    I started watching your videos because of your Spain content. And then New York, although I have no desire to live there. So where are you now and what are you doing professionally?

  • @6idangle
    @6idangle 2 месяца назад +1

    Nyc is great but gotta have a decent job unless you’re ready to grind

    • @DarViajar
      @DarViajar  2 месяца назад +1

      Tell me about it

  • @johnknavish6704
    @johnknavish6704 Год назад +2

    NYC always seemed like a cool place to visit but I don't think I could ever live there

    • @DarViajar
      @DarViajar  Год назад +1

      Hey man, good to hear from you!

  • @JCa-n3e
    @JCa-n3e 3 месяца назад +1

    How can I get you on a panel to discuss this?

  • @noneya734
    @noneya734 9 дней назад

    Thank you for making this video. Can I ask where you went to apply for Fox News? And do you have any tips for the interview?

  • @NomadicRuss
    @NomadicRuss Год назад +3

    So where did you go after nyc?

    • @DarViajar
      @DarViajar  Год назад +2

      I'll explain in my next vid!

    • @NomadicRuss
      @NomadicRuss Год назад +1

      @@DarViajar cant wait

  • @malooch
    @malooch 2 месяца назад +2

    Deblasio ruined nyc

  • @bobertrobertson130
    @bobertrobertson130 6 месяцев назад +1

    it's ok, nyc sucks