The dubious consent is such an issue in so many dark romances and it’s getting to the point where i’m concerned about the real life consequences. like so many people (women) are thirsting over the haunting Adeline books where she’s literally crying during sex acts and saying no? like dark romance is one thing and r*pe is another thing
I really worry about the young girls reading all the bully romances, etc. I feel like this type thing could really warp their perception of what is actually acceptable treatment from a romantic interest.
Okay, but when you analyse the practicalities of why this isn't realistic at book 1, you're my girl. I'm doing it all the time, to the detriment of my enjoyment. like, when did she pack her clothes, why was it for a month, why am I creating a mental timeline for something i read for fun??
I noticed that if a book is really well written and captures me with its angst/tension etc, I can suspend my disbelief way easier and not be bothered by these little details. If the book fails to capture me that well, I will notice all the little inconsistencies and all the little absurdities that the author neglects to polish out of the story. The power of writing, I guess 😅
100% agree with you and other reviewers who have noted that authors seem to be getting sucked into feeling like their spice has to be OFF THE CHARTS in order for their books to ping the Book ToK radar, and generate buzz. And yes, relationship development is getting lost in the process. I’ve even been going back and revisiting a lot of old reads just to get my angst/pining/romance fix. I’ll be glad when the pendulum swings back again, because I’m not a prude about spice/smut/kink, but without the relationship development, it just leaves me cold.
I totally agree about the fact that it seems like romance books right now care more about having as many sex scenes as possible in place of building strong characters and romantic connections/tension. It's really disappointing and makes all of the tropes like rivals-to-lovers/enemies-to-lovers/friends-to-lovers/etc pointless because they all start banging 10% into the book. It's almost like authors/editors don't think that romantic and character development add to sex scenes. Which is bonkers to me.
My fave hockey romance is an m/m romance by Tal Bauer, Gravity. It‘s very emotional and the hockey plot is also interesting (I usually don‘t care about the sports in sports romances but this one I was really rooting for the team). It‘s also on KU!
Loved your review of Meet Your Match and what you say about having more plausible or clear reasons for the close proximity set up? Why is she living with him? How's that her job? LOL, when the reasons for moving madly gets lost, for "romance reasons," it takes away from the experience and build up. I too like more intimacy and being invested in the character through thought and sem-slow burns. Thx.
I feel like Focused by Karla Sorensen does the “social media/documentary to bring hero and heroine together” very well. If you haven’t read that one, it’s a great football romance that maybe sounds more your speed than Meet Your Match.
Meet Your Match definitely felt very contrived, like very fanfiction in the way that everything was just a set up for a sexy scene or to progress the relationship. But I picked this up on KU and to me I kinda expect that of KU books, they’re just focused on the romance and not necessarily the details surrounding it. Like I don’t expect to give a 5 to a KU book but most of them get a 4. Like when you said you don’t see how these two are puzzle piece and will last forever, I just don’t expect that from. KU book, I just want it be fun and entertaining.
I paused Meet Your Match. I love Kandi's other books especially "Blind Side and "Hail Mary" but I just couldn't vibe with Maven. I felt she was too harsh and judgemental. I couldn't get into Behind the Net either. Shutout by Avery Keelan has been my favourite hockey romance this month. Especially the audio book playing in the car scene ❤. Secret Obsession was too much for me. Maybe I'll revisit it.
Secret Obsession - couldn’t get past 30-ish%. The problem with this series for me is like you said, it’s not a good ROMANCE though it’s kind of billed as one. The other two books at the end, I was left just kinda feeling icky and not with a warm heart like I usually do. Miles killing that dude before even 10% was over the top psycho and it was just hard to believe. Not sure I will continue with this series on future releases.
The second book in S. Massery's serie , Devious Obsession, in my mind is the best one in 3. The hero is the most awful but he has his reasons and they change over course of the story.
I really liked Brutal Obsession, but Miles is a full fledged r*pist and I genuinely hope people do not continue to support that book by purchasing it. I regret buying a physical edition because I am so appalled and disgusted by the contents in that story. Lord knows I'm a dark romance girlie, but ever since "dark romance" became a buzzword, I feel like it's opened the doors for authors and readers/reviewers to glorify SA and domestic violence and it's really fucked up.
This is not towards Chandler but in MYM this is what happens when an author tries to force a “woke” vibes. If you have to create something that feel so unrealistic to convey it, it isn’t genuine. I’m tired of this in books. I think a book should portray the world you see around you and the characters should form organically from that view, if it’s not fantasy that is. Authors please stop forcing it.
Ok, I absolutely love your channel but I have to ask…do you upload in 2x’s speed or do you just speak that fast?! 🫶🏼 Because I have to always slow you down when I watch you lol but again I love your channel❤️🥰 it’s just my adhd struggles with how fast it is which I do adjust and slow it down
@@serendipity1237 I’m a very new follower so if this is slowed down 😳 compared to before I subscribed…but still love the channel I just have severe adhd and it’s hard for me to take in information that quickly. But I just slow her videos down no biggie👍🏼
@@blakeley-shea I used to have to slow her videos down too, but I don’t think it’s just that I’ve gotten used to it, I really do think she used to talk even faster. 😂
4:17 - To be fair, he was looking up at you trying to get your attention back on him immediately after you set him down the first time before that, but when that didn't work .. he moved on to entertaining himself.🤭🤭😁 He doesn't understand that you're trying to work! Loll 💖 🤍😊
The dubious consent is such an issue in so many dark romances and it’s getting to the point where i’m concerned about the real life consequences. like so many people (women) are thirsting over the haunting Adeline books where she’s literally crying during sex acts and saying no? like dark romance is one thing and r*pe is another thing
I really worry about the young girls reading all the bully romances, etc. I feel like this type thing could really warp their perception of what is actually acceptable treatment from a romantic interest.
@@serendipity1237 exactly! especially since it’s framed as romance
love hayden completely zoned out during the meet your match review in the car 😭
after i was done filming he asked if he was on camera hahaha
Okay, but when you analyse the practicalities of why this isn't realistic at book 1, you're my girl. I'm doing it all the time, to the detriment of my enjoyment. like, when did she pack her clothes, why was it for a month, why am I creating a mental timeline for something i read for fun??
HAHAH literalllllly this
I’m so type A and anxious that I struggle to let it go when stuff like that happens in books
I noticed that if a book is really well written and captures me with its angst/tension etc, I can suspend my disbelief way easier and not be bothered by these little details. If the book fails to capture me that well, I will notice all the little inconsistencies and all the little absurdities that the author neglects to polish out of the story. The power of writing, I guess 😅
Thank you! I totally agree. We need relationship development. How are we supposed to love the couple without even knowing what they are about.
any recos for books with real relationship development? 😭
100% agree with you and other reviewers who have noted that authors seem to be getting sucked into feeling like their spice has to be OFF THE CHARTS in order for their books to ping the Book ToK radar, and generate buzz.
And yes, relationship development is getting lost in the process. I’ve even been going back and revisiting a lot of old reads just to get my angst/pining/romance fix.
I’ll be glad when the pendulum swings back again, because I’m not a prude about spice/smut/kink, but without the relationship development, it just leaves me cold.
Can’t believe you got viciously attacked at 3:30 😂
i know #survivor lmao
I totally agree about the fact that it seems like romance books right now care more about having as many sex scenes as possible in place of building strong characters and romantic connections/tension. It's really disappointing and makes all of the tropes like rivals-to-lovers/enemies-to-lovers/friends-to-lovers/etc pointless because they all start banging 10% into the book. It's almost like authors/editors don't think that romantic and character development add to sex scenes. Which is bonkers to me.
My fave hockey romance is an m/m romance by Tal Bauer, Gravity. It‘s very emotional and the hockey plot is also interesting (I usually don‘t care about the sports in sports romances but this one I was really rooting for the team). It‘s also on KU!
Lifting climbing onto the bed @ 19:00 was ADORABLE
*kitten
Can I just say... You are one of the most pleasant booktubers to watch 😁
Loved your review of Meet Your Match and what you say about having more plausible or clear reasons for the close proximity set up? Why is she living with him? How's that her job? LOL, when the reasons for moving madly gets lost, for "romance reasons," it takes away from the experience and build up. I too like more intimacy and being invested in the character through thought and sem-slow burns. Thx.
I feel like Focused by Karla Sorensen does the “social media/documentary to bring hero and heroine together” very well. If you haven’t read that one, it’s a great football romance that maybe sounds more your speed than Meet Your Match.
ooo i'll have to check it out!
I am sat and ready 🫶🏻
Is that MERCH i spy?? 👀👀👀
'tis :)
@@chandlerainsley It's lovely! 🩶
your videos bring me so much peace and calm 🧘♀️🧘♀️
Omg, your kitty is so cute 😍😍😍
I'm starting behind the net next and i love the kindle it's a fast read
Behind the net sounds like it would be really good, sad it wasn’t the best 🥺
NEW LOGO🙀🙀🥰💖
(How late am I to noticing this?? 🤔😅😁😁😁)
It's SO cute! ^-^
Your truly a national hero 😭😭😭💗
cracking up at the *live,laugh,love* moment haha
you said it would be unhinged, but nothing could've prepared me for what that meant lol
your cat is adorable
Love this. I would love an unhinged books video. Not necessarily romance only, just the most wtf did I just read books
Not you skipping right over my fave in the Hockey Gods series by S Massery 😂 I did pick up the first one Brutal Obsession because you.
Meet Your Match definitely felt very contrived, like very fanfiction in the way that everything was just a set up for a sexy scene or to progress the relationship. But I picked this up on KU and to me I kinda expect that of KU books, they’re just focused on the romance and not necessarily the details surrounding it. Like I don’t expect to give a 5 to a KU book but most of them get a 4. Like when you said you don’t see how these two are puzzle piece and will last forever, I just don’t expect that from. KU book, I just want it be fun and entertaining.
Do you take a hair vitamin of some kind? Your hair has grown so fast this year!!
i don't and i actually have the worst hair in my family lmao. i am blessed with fairly good hair genetics
Chan-I’m begging you. Please stop doing your makeup on camera. You are slowly convincing me to buy an hourglass blush that I can’t afford!!!!
I paused Meet Your Match. I love Kandi's other books especially "Blind Side and "Hail Mary" but I just couldn't vibe with Maven. I felt she was too harsh and judgemental. I couldn't get into Behind the Net either. Shutout by Avery Keelan has been my favourite hockey romance this month. Especially the audio book playing in the car scene ❤. Secret Obsession was too much for me. Maybe I'll revisit it.
The way I want to read Secret Obsession now 😂😂
Secret Obsession - couldn’t get past 30-ish%. The problem with this series for me is like you said, it’s not a good ROMANCE though it’s kind of billed as one. The other two books at the end, I was left just kinda feeling icky and not with a warm heart like I usually do. Miles killing that dude before even 10% was over the top psycho and it was just hard to believe. Not sure I will continue with this series on future releases.
I’m sending you love (:
The second book in S. Massery's serie , Devious Obsession, in my mind is the best one in 3. The hero is the most awful but he has his reasons and they change over course of the story.
🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
❤❤
That's a horror book 😅
Are you full time vlogging/RUclipsr now?
no :)
@@chandlerainsley I have no idea where you find all the time! I bow down!
I really liked Brutal Obsession, but Miles is a full fledged r*pist and I genuinely hope people do not continue to support that book by purchasing it. I regret buying a physical edition because I am so appalled and disgusted by the contents in that story. Lord knows I'm a dark romance girlie, but ever since "dark romance" became a buzzword, I feel like it's opened the doors for authors and readers/reviewers to glorify SA and domestic violence and it's really fucked up.
This is not towards Chandler but in MYM this is what happens when an author tries to force a “woke” vibes. If you have to create something that feel so unrealistic to convey it, it isn’t genuine. I’m tired of this in books. I think a book should portray the world you see around you and the characters should form organically from that view, if it’s not fantasy that is. Authors please stop forcing it.
Ok, I absolutely love your channel but I have to ask…do you upload in 2x’s speed or do you just speak that fast?! 🫶🏼 Because I have to always slow you down when I watch you lol but again I love your channel❤️🥰 it’s just my adhd struggles with how fast it is which I do adjust and slow it down
I was actually thinking that she had SLOWED DOWN her speech compared to how it used to be, lol.
@@serendipity1237 I’m a very new follower so if this is slowed down 😳 compared to before I subscribed…but still love the channel I just have severe adhd and it’s hard for me to take in information that quickly. But I just slow her videos down no biggie👍🏼
@@blakeley-shea I used to have to slow her videos down too, but I don’t think it’s just that I’ve gotten used to it, I really do think she used to talk even faster. 😂
@@blakeley-shea well look at us talking about this like we can’t just go listen to her old videos and compare. 😂
@@serendipity1237 😂 well at least I know I’m not alone 🥰 I literally was like is my mind playing tricks on me🥴😂😉
4:17 - To be fair, he was looking up at you trying to get your attention back on him immediately after you set him down the first time before that, but when that didn't work .. he moved on to entertaining himself.🤭🤭😁 He doesn't understand that you're trying to work! Loll 💖 🤍😊
i am DYING at how cute ur kitten is 🥹🥹 someone tell me i don't need a kitten i just got one two months ago