How to tell if he is a good guy.| What to look for in a guy when dating

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  • @anasalco1392
    @anasalco1392 4 года назад +214

    If you want a good man, don't forget to be a good woman.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 4 года назад +6

      All women are. Doesn't mean she gets a good guy.

    • @anasalco1392
      @anasalco1392 4 года назад +27

      @@nofybn7794 Are all women good? this is simply not true.

    • @dharmadasa66
      @dharmadasa66 4 года назад +5

      @@nofybn7794 Nofy bn is a sexist pig. All her comments are "Men bad, women good". Deluded.

    • @Gianni.chellini
      @Gianni.chellini 3 года назад +1

      @@dharmadasa66 toh fir aap inko zyada bhao kyu de rahe ho? Agar aise soch hain toh jane do utna attention mat do, single rehena hi thik hain 😇🙏

    • @dharmadasa66
      @dharmadasa66 3 года назад +2

      @@Gianni.chellini maana

  • @kuunami
    @kuunami 6 лет назад +178

    Step 1, make sure that you actually want a good guy first. Many women say they do but their choices and actions show otherwise.

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  6 лет назад +14

      Completely agree!

    • @lindazhang8004
      @lindazhang8004 4 года назад +3

      so true !!!!

    • @UnexpectedWonder
      @UnexpectedWonder 4 года назад +2

      Facts!!! 😁😁😊😊👌👌👊👊👏👏👏

    • @terhemengabriel9491
      @terhemengabriel9491 4 года назад +4

      So true. Some women are not to be pitied for what they go through in relationships. They pick a bad guy instead of a good one. After a while they won't let someone rest !😃

    • @caucasianafrican1435
      @caucasianafrican1435 4 года назад +6

      The jerk guys are called "mistakes".

  • @annaramos7950
    @annaramos7950 5 лет назад +80

    My bf is a good man. I feel his love without words. He is heaven sent. I am blessed he is my bf

    • @syrenaxhaferi7278
      @syrenaxhaferi7278 4 года назад +2

      one in a million ...good luck

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 4 года назад +1

      I need words.

    • @aichujohnson8444
      @aichujohnson8444 3 года назад +2

      Just as with amazon.com ratings, it is important to know where you were in the relationship at the time.
      In the beginning, matters seems pretty good. As more time passes, people tend to value each other less.
      Are you still with him? Are you of the same opinion as you were a year ago?
      Wishing you all the best.

    • @gavin9039
      @gavin9039 2 года назад

      you have no idea what i would give to hear a girl say that about me,,all i get is weird faces and instant rejection,

    • @neilpeartspurplenose8739
      @neilpeartspurplenose8739 2 года назад

      Rock on, Anna! 👍

  • @musicmayhemshow6986
    @musicmayhemshow6986 4 года назад +75

    After struggling with dating for years, one thing I had realized is that any attractive woman gets hit on by plenty, and various, types of men. But the guys who usually "get picked" so to speak have a strong game - they'll come on strong, compliment the woman, and tend to be more aggressive when getting her attention. That's not necessarily a good man, just one who has the game down pat. Then you have your truly good men who sometimes think "eh what's the point, she wouldn't want me!" and give up without a fight. That's why women accidentally date bad men and start building up baggage over the years. Same can go for men dating women, and even gay/bi/lesbian dating circumstances - the alpha isn't always the best choice, and many of us realize this simple concept when its too late.

    • @sofiayz7472
      @sofiayz7472 4 года назад +8

      OMG that's soooooo true

    • @terhemengabriel9491
      @terhemengabriel9491 4 года назад +2

      That's true. Most women settle for the game , marry the man with the highest game and then in marry turn out looking for the good man in marriage ; a major reason women try to change men !
      The good man must step up his game and the woman in love with the man with the highest game must be more sincere about her needs (not wants) and more discernible. The man with the highest game without much goodness don't make it in the long road of marriage. The choice is yours !! 🤔😋

    • @heenap88
      @heenap88 4 года назад +9

      YES YES YES thats me ! I have always chosen men who are confident/have a big ego/boastful. In the long run, these types of men are no good and I have learnt that they are the womanisers/narcissists/will never apologise etc. I've learnt that kindness is key and that a kind/gentle man will take care of my heart.

    • @dharmadasa66
      @dharmadasa66 4 года назад +10

      You said....'Then you have your truly good men who sometimes think "eh what's the point, she wouldn't want me!" and give up without a fight.' No, they think "eh, what's the point, she's not worth it!" and give up in order to embrace peace of mind and fulfillment. Men, exhausted by feminism, gyncocentrism and misandry, increasingly understand that women are not worth it.

    • @aichujohnson8444
      @aichujohnson8444 3 года назад +1

      @@heenap88 But those traits are very attractive in men, aren't they? If a kind man is not confident, but is selfless and humble, would you want him? Or would this be a tug-of-war between logic and emotions? We understand what we need, but that is not always what we want. How do you resolve this?

  • @liabakar
    @liabakar 3 года назад +29

    I disagree in certain points. Be careful with narcissistic men, they will lovebomb you and you will definitely FEEL loved, He will say and do exactly what you want to win your attention and love. He treats you like a princess one day and a trash the next. You cant tell he's good or not, all you need is TIME..... take time to get to know a guy.

  • @asstanley8438
    @asstanley8438 6 лет назад +13

    wow, I'm excited, I'm finally dating a good one! It's all new and exciting but I have known him a year and he is very respectful to everybody around him.so his character is not switched on or off as a dating 'ploy'. A lot of men employ fake niceness as a strategy but then they're not vibrating on an authentic level.

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  6 лет назад +1

      Excited that you are dating a good guy! x

    • @gavin9039
      @gavin9039 2 года назад +1

      we vibrate?

  • @rayoflight4957
    @rayoflight4957 6 лет назад +22

    Just one thing .. To have 'High Standards' in your man .. have those same 'High Standards' within yourself first. You will beget only what you sow. It is as simple as that. If you yourself belittle others .. are not kind yourself .. or any of the ten qualities mentioned in this video. Then don't expect outcomes greater than what you are putting forth.
    Thank you Renee for a great video. We love you. Love, Blessings & Warm Regards.

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад +2

      Aww this comment made my day :) x

  • @boom33joelmtz85
    @boom33joelmtz85 6 лет назад +92

    For a lady to find a good guy need to get mentaly healthy and quit playing with their own emotions.

    • @beigelover95
      @beigelover95 6 лет назад +1

      I love this comment ❤️ can you expand on the sexond part though please?

    • @Godzilla-ct2pp
      @Godzilla-ct2pp 5 лет назад +1

      Iqra Qaali, you women always go for the bad boys.

    • @beigelover95
      @beigelover95 5 лет назад +2

      Super Haggi I hate bad boys

    • @Godzilla-ct2pp
      @Godzilla-ct2pp 5 лет назад +1

      Iqra Qaali lies

    • @jaysmith3448
      @jaysmith3448 4 года назад +1

      Just words, most will never actually use the advice.

  • @Hon_cb1kr
    @Hon_cb1kr 6 лет назад +98

    No. You are wrong.
    Real good men are simple.
    Loyal to their friends and family. Reliable in a crisis. He knows more about real life than just fake Facebook life. Above all, he knows what is right and wrong. He will not go down without a fight.

    • @Hav0ck23
      @Hav0ck23 6 лет назад +11

      Exactly. The way you date a woman doesn't say anything about your masculinity. You know why ? Cause women are fake most of the fucking time and most of them. I wont run over my fucking morality and ethical rules for a pussy.

    • @cgmarin83
      @cgmarin83 6 лет назад

      Absolutely 💯

    • @raziyababayeva
      @raziyababayeva 5 лет назад +1

      True.

    • @xm377Moyocoyatzin
      @xm377Moyocoyatzin 5 лет назад +4

      Did you know that being loyal, dependable, protective, and a good reliable provider are all traditional male gender roles? Why should men keep up their side of the bargain when women have shitted all over theirs? Only stooges, simps, manginas, and beta-bitches continue to act our their traditional male gender roles like well trained dogs. A modern man is not loyal, because loyalty is for fools, modern men are fraternal (only to our male peers of course). We are not reliable either, we are contractual, if the other party doesn't keep their end of the bargain we won't either. There is no room for pride in pragmatism. Pride is the leash by which women control their beta-males.

    • @tannd8476
      @tannd8476 2 года назад

      Absolutely right on

  • @ETERNALFART
    @ETERNALFART 6 лет назад +30

    Ok I do all of these. I wish women understood these are the things they need to do also.

    • @EnoI539
      @EnoI539 4 года назад +2

      Women don't know what they WENT!

    • @doubleambition5211
      @doubleambition5211 2 года назад

      I replayed it to the start just so I could apply these to myself. Thank you. 🥰

  • @JacobPAus
    @JacobPAus 2 года назад +2

    Love also allows. It flows, it's a give and take, it is not selfish, it listens and takes action, it's protective and investive

  • @aniyagonzalez_
    @aniyagonzalez_ 4 года назад +16

    Ladies. I have found a good guy 😁

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  4 года назад +2

      Awesome to hear!

    • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
      @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад

      @@ReneeSlansky HI RENEE SLANSKY DO WOMEN ASK OUT GUYS OR DO GUYS ASK OUT WOMEN FOR GOING OUT ON DATES. OR DATING. AN RELATIONSHIP NEED TOO NO RENEE SLANSKY FROM NEW ZEALAND THAINKS FOR YOUR HELP RENEE. ASK RENEE

  • @terohipeheodonnell3493
    @terohipeheodonnell3493 5 лет назад +9

    Interesting. I keep thinking that this is a list for being a good dad. I firmly believe good dads show what a good man is for their girls to make good decisions regarding the men in their life. The best decision a man can make is to be a damn good dad to their girls.
    I think a few things could be added: Vulnerable, compassionate, forgiving, funny, protective, assertive, passionate, driven, mindful, communicative, kind, gentle...Men who live values driven behaviour. Not much value shown by alot of men on here regarding their comments.

  • @AppleofGodseye6543
    @AppleofGodseye6543 5 лет назад +10

    i love being single

  • @youtoo2233
    @youtoo2233 6 лет назад +10

    Just be sure that him or her did not grow up with a bunch of issues that follows them into adulthood because if they did then you're going to have yourself one hell of a time

    • @Steven-sd2zi
      @Steven-sd2zi Год назад

      I'm this person. It's very hard for me to date people genuinely don't trust people. It sucks because I really wanna find the right woman but I understand why the right ones don't want me. I just keep trying to better myself but it's hard there's a lot of bullshit I mentally have to deal with

  • @atheistontheroad4545
    @atheistontheroad4545 6 лет назад +26

    You just described a 1-way ticket to the friend-zone. No woman will ever give a guy like you described a chance. There are also no women that meet those same requirements. What do you think women have to offer a guy like that?

    • @bellag2864
      @bellag2864 5 лет назад +5

      Not true i look for all those qualities in a man

    • @atheistontheroad4545
      @atheistontheroad4545 5 лет назад +4

      @@bellag2864 You are just one person. You might be that unicorn that actually is a decent woman and is honestly looking for a guy like she described. Those women do exist, but the vast majority of women are not like that. Women say they want a guy like described, but then when they meet one, they friend-zone him instantly and complain because there are no good men....

    • @Tino_1025
      @Tino_1025 5 лет назад +2

      Tom Thumb you are posting on the wrong video. You belong with the incels and mgtow. Jerking eachother off since no woman wants to

    • @atheistontheroad4545
      @atheistontheroad4545 5 лет назад +3

      @@yetanotherfangirlpatreonvi8146 Your boyfriend has almost all of those qualities? Well, then clearly, you have other priorities. You are proof that women don't want men like she describes. You're dating a man who doesn't have all of those qualities.

  • @thedroplett214
    @thedroplett214 6 лет назад +11

    well. if you want a good man, than be yourself a good woman. otherwise guarantee that you won't have that relationship that you are looking for. you want integrity from a man, you must have integrity in the 1st place, becouse we seek reliable womans too. and make sure that you have clear directions in your life.

  • @xinyizhou7531
    @xinyizhou7531 5 лет назад +18

    I am so happy you did this video and I found it. I was always in a toxic relationship and I realize i don’t even know what is a good man and how I should feel in the good relationship. This helps me ^ ^. Thank you very much 🧡

    • @Coneman3
      @Coneman3 2 года назад +1

      You probably ignore the good ones.

    • @neilpeartspurplenose8739
      @neilpeartspurplenose8739 2 года назад +2

      @@Coneman3 Yup. Alpha chaser.

    • @Coneman3
      @Coneman3 2 года назад

      They want excitement but it usually comes in the form of an arsehole.

  • @stevensantana8049
    @stevensantana8049 6 лет назад +20

    There woman out there they see a nice guy they will take advantage of him and use them and never returned there calls or text messages at all

    • @gem1086
      @gem1086 5 лет назад +3

      You have to make sure she's a good woman! Do you think users are watching these videos? No, it's women who are too nice. Lol

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 4 года назад

      You have issues with women to work on.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 4 года назад

      @@gem1086 PREACH!!

    • @Gianni.chellini
      @Gianni.chellini 3 года назад +1

      @@gem1086 what if the nice women here are actually the users finding the nice guyz to feed on, parasites lol 😂🤣😹

  • @jobellecollie7139
    @jobellecollie7139 5 лет назад +6

    after my divorce i was busy working and rearing two great children. i purposely put my dating life on hold, because i didn’t want my children to see a stream of various men wander in and out of our lives. i had male friends and knew lots of men i met through Church. now my youngest child has finished law school and got married, i have lots of free time. i’m nervous about dating because all the “rules” have changed. can you please make a video on women who’ve not been on a date in over 25+ YEARS? once i know the modern dating rules and with your wisdom, i might just find mr. right. Thank you.

    • @mysticstrikeforce5957
      @mysticstrikeforce5957 2 года назад +1

      I guess the best help is knowing that women now are controlling the dating game and man are just following the rules. Also be your self don't try to copy what others are doing as most men now a days are hating the dating market game and not dealing with the same types of women that is changing the game and making it worst.

  • @vanscoyoc
    @vanscoyoc 6 лет назад +48

    Do they have money? Do they pay? The end.

    • @davidrodgers7704
      @davidrodgers7704 6 лет назад +4

      vanscoyoc well damn !

    • @vanscoyoc
      @vanscoyoc 6 лет назад +3

      @MGTOW Revolution Exactly! Whining and Complaining is worth ZERO!

    • @EnoI539
      @EnoI539 4 года назад +2

      So you a gold digger?

  • @andrewmihalik7575
    @andrewmihalik7575 4 года назад +2

    I think Renee is right on target. Good men are indeed a scarce commodity. Look at how he treats strangers--whilst he is with you. :)

    • @mysticstrikeforce5957
      @mysticstrikeforce5957 2 года назад +2

      And the same for a women yha i also do this test cause if you want a nice man well the women got to be nice to

  • @noface3928
    @noface3928 22 дня назад

    Respect and kindness for others is such an important thing. Both my toxic exes seemed like they adored me but they were misogynists and fatphobic towards others

  • @laurar.2053
    @laurar.2053 6 лет назад +50

    To men in comments thread: stop whining about women not wanting nice guys. Emotionally mature ladies do want nice guys,but maturity comes with a price, like going through negative experiences with people who are not a relationship material. Its the same for all of us, both men and women, we learn as we go. Some women will stay in unhealthy relationships just because they've never seen better,but that is not the women you'd want anyway, and others will learn and move on to better quality men. Emotionally healthy people do not expect another person to have always made perfect decisions. If you reject a woman due to the fact that she didn't find your type attaractive while she was going through her learning process, you act on assumption that women can't make any imperfect choices (while being very accepting to your own imperfect choices).
    On niceness - if one needs to stress how nice he is, it is very likely that genuine niceness is lacking.
    On "bad boys" - they may or may not actually be bad, but they are always confident. That is super attractive and good news is that its attainable to any man. If only all that effort put into sulking about women wanting only bad boys would be put into bettering yourselves. I see quite many grown men, who do not pay proper attention to their looks, let alone emotional intelligence, while expecting a woman to have her sh** together both internally and externally. Such woman is not a match for someone who is unwilling to work on himself and other men have nothing to do with her reluctance to choose you. Ask women that you trust about whats attractive about you and what could be done better, and get to work. Get better, not bitter.

    • @jamesmanter8731
      @jamesmanter8731 5 лет назад +8

      Financially mature men don't want mature women. I mean would you buy a car with 100k miles for the same price as one with 10k miles? The working (career woman) 100k car will likely breakdown(divorce) much sooner and the 10k might last you forever if you keep it in the garage (home)

    • @johnhepbean4346
      @johnhepbean4346 5 лет назад +4

      Just don't confuse confidence with lack of caring or taking anything seriously.

    • @valfle
      @valfle 5 лет назад +3

      @Laura k. Great words! I 100% agree

    • @akeemjack8042
      @akeemjack8042 5 лет назад +3

      so work on your self guys, be bad dont whine just be bad to women, she says it works

    • @44Curmudgeon
      @44Curmudgeon 5 лет назад +11

      "experience" - also known as riding the cock carousel

  • @nightblizzard3160
    @nightblizzard3160 3 года назад +4

    This is sooo true, but also amusing. I’d love a video on how to know if a woman actually wants a good guy, or if she just wants to give her best years to bad guys, sow a bunch of wild oats, say no to good huts because they actually want a relationship, and then when the clock starts ticking, look for a good guy. Men just love feeling like they are the backup plan.

  • @liabakar
    @liabakar 3 года назад +3

    He Listens to you : To me, a guy have 2 ears, and to listen and understand what has been said is different, listening alone can come from a guy who just want to stop the argument.

  • @TessIbbotson
    @TessIbbotson 6 месяцев назад

    Well, this video was a good eye opener for me. I can't believe that I just fell for a guy again who only had bad intentions and was really likely just wanting a friends with benefits situation. Thankfully I know what to look for now. If a guy doesn't follow through on what we had planned and just starts drinking a lot, then that is a bad sign and I will just leave next time!! I already told the guy goodbye because I didn't appreciate that way he was treating me!

  • @infj-tguy6275
    @infj-tguy6275 3 года назад +2

    I usually dont treat toxic n overly negative ppl good, I don't give respect to ppl who don't deserve it

  • @elainepagnani9980
    @elainepagnani9980 5 лет назад +6

    I found my prince then! I took a nasty fall and was pretty bruised up. When He called me and I told him that I got hurt he was really worried. On Saturday he worked a two o'clock in the afternoon shift till 11:00 in the evening. He told me that he wanted to come see me after his shift because he was concerned. He warned me that it would be late. He came kissed my bruises and asked my son about his college classes. In the morning he took out the garbage for me, afterwards we talked about plans for the Spring. We also talked about him meeting my brother and sister-in-law. My cats love him!

  • @whiteknight5100
    @whiteknight5100 6 лет назад +117

    How to tell if he's a good guy:
    Step 1. He avoids most women..

    • @stevokennedy2383
      @stevokennedy2383 5 лет назад +5

      White k your negative and I'm thinking you have had some bad experiences

    • @uncleankie9436
      @uncleankie9436 5 лет назад +7

      @@stevokennedy2383 ..hey stevo..white night is rite..and those women were negative..you have it backwards

    • @hnavkumar2268
      @hnavkumar2268 5 лет назад

      specially blabbering women.. :-)

    • @akeemjack8042
      @akeemjack8042 5 лет назад +1

      makes sense

    • @joygasm1
      @joygasm1 5 лет назад +1

      But is he richhhhh sorry fell on some dik Lol

  • @_anyasaltykova_
    @_anyasaltykova_ 3 года назад +3

    seems like I never met a good guy. I've met "nice"and "polite" guys but haven't came across the one I could build a healthy relationship with.

  • @MechanicalTrader
    @MechanicalTrader 4 года назад +2

    the only criticism I have of this video is that the speaker did not preface her presentation that the WOMAN needs to MODEL the same behavior that she asks the MAN to model in the relationship. Women are controlled by "feelings", NOT by "facts" 90% of the time. The female ALSO tends to NOT accept personal responsibility for her actions - women TYPICALLY deflect criticism and blame the male in the relationship. GUYS, find a woman that DOES NOT engage in this behavior. Of course, BOTH man and woman MUST speak to each other KINDLY and be FORGIVING and give GRACE to their partner. A biblical foundation between the two is best - Proverbs & Psalms are the two books of "rules" that work very well.

  • @jenniferphillips3561
    @jenniferphillips3561 5 лет назад +5

    Really appreciate this video and what I found very true is committing to what they say. Following through

  • @erynemarcelo277
    @erynemarcelo277 3 года назад +12

    You don't look for a good man to be in a relationship. You look for a good man AND the right man for you. So, not only will you look at this guy, you'll also need to look within you, your intuition, your gut feeling.

  • @MusiqueEnchantment
    @MusiqueEnchantment 3 года назад +2

    Well this sounds waaay too perfect to be true because all I have ever known are literally men who are the opposite :(

  • @starlightwhispers6781
    @starlightwhispers6781 4 года назад +5

    Very important for him to be kind to ALL animals (especially the ones typically seen as meat/clothing)

    • @EnoI539
      @EnoI539 4 года назад +4

      Lol💀

  • @stephencirving
    @stephencirving 6 лет назад +5

    Is a shame that even when you're aware this is what is healthy, is doesn't fall into the actuality of what people are attracted to.

    • @stephencirving
      @stephencirving 6 лет назад +3

      To the extent I would advise to do the exact opposite of everything she said, exept the boundaries and trust one. Cest la vie...

  • @tanyaakh
    @tanyaakh 6 лет назад +4

    Great video! This is exactly what I'm looking for in a man.

  • @murphsviews
    @murphsviews 5 лет назад +2

    Been enjoying your vids for The Attractive Man team and didn't realise you had your own channel! Excellent, and another good video. 👍

  • @sarmi1993
    @sarmi1993 4 года назад +4

    Ma'am, first of all, love from India and thanks for your advice. These are all the qualities I look in a man but unfortunately, every time I trust someone he actually betrays me . I do all I can in a relationship still I get rejected in love. What I do so that men can't take advantage of my goodness and instead propose me for marriage? I am really looking for a serious relationship.

  • @beth5951
    @beth5951 5 лет назад +3

    How about in a long distance relationship? How would i know if he truely loves me? Waiting for your reply and thank you so much.

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад +1

      I have done a few videos on this ... x

  • @scottgurstein
    @scottgurstein 6 лет назад +1

    Renee, tell me...WHY should a guy who is HONEST, and HONESTLY knows he's not worthy of respect act like a phony and respect himself? Hmm? I present myself as exhibit A in this question. Now, respecting others is a different matter. On that, we agree. But the self respect component is like the self confidence component. Self confidence is one thing. False confidence is entirely another.

  • @sokhavirithsorn3380
    @sokhavirithsorn3380 6 лет назад +2

    Did all of that..got cheated on..left me for that guy shortly after

  • @DannyBoy443
    @DannyBoy443 5 лет назад +6

    I'm 34 and have bad ADHD and I can only do about 3 of these. Is there any hope ? lol.

  • @devkisreshtha2856
    @devkisreshtha2856 4 года назад +2

    No. 9. You feel loved. 👍😊

  • @sharlenecooper7989
    @sharlenecooper7989 4 года назад +1

    Thankyou. A pleasure listening to you.

  • @RnBCutz
    @RnBCutz 5 лет назад +16

    As a man, you cannot be 100% nice or good to women. They see this as weak. You have to play 70% nice and 30% asshole. That way they take you seriously and know you have a backbone. This is the mistake most nice guys make. You cannot be nice all the time. There needs to be a balance.

    • @Sarahizahhsum
      @Sarahizahhsum 2 года назад +1

      No not at all. I only date men who don't abuse me.

    • @ashleykathryn9038
      @ashleykathryn9038 2 года назад

      I think it's because when their nice all the time it feels fake. No one is that nice all the time

  • @rosanahosseina842
    @rosanahosseina842 4 года назад +2

    Thanks Renee, all your videos are helpful.

  • @elegantgiraffe9570
    @elegantgiraffe9570 2 года назад +1

    My ex-husband never prioritised me or or followed through with his promises. He eroded my trust and any good feelings in him. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

  • @fzyelf
    @fzyelf 4 года назад +2

    In fairness you should ask yourself do I have these traits. If not, do you deserve it in your partner? It's not fair, to yourself, to ask for these types of things if you aren't willing or able give them.

  • @mysticstrikeforce5957
    @mysticstrikeforce5957 2 года назад

    I think the best way is don't take it so deeply just be okay that a guy can be nice but not always nice at the same times. I think that's the mistakes girls tend to do and forget. Yha i had a girl who did this and we had a huge fight but we are still friends now but she didn't know i also like to help anyone who ask for my help or wants my help a girl or guy she just thought she was the only girl i was nice to. But one important thing to if you want a nice man don't forget to be a nice women if your are crazy and not humble you will find the same guy who's like you.

  • @hollychezum1003
    @hollychezum1003 5 лет назад +4

    I was very recently “talking” to a man for a little over 4 months. I wanted a relationship, he said he wanted it to naturally happen and not be forced and we live in different states so because of the situation we could only be friends, even though we had already crossed friendship boundaries. He said he could see us having something if I moved closer. Well, 4 days ago he ghosted me. I’m blocked on his phone and every one of his social media sites.

    • @caucasianafrican1435
      @caucasianafrican1435 4 года назад

      You.slept with him & he still didn't want you. Do women.actually think sleeping with a guy will make him want to date you? lol. At least you both have another notch....

    • @ayuanabradford3206
      @ayuanabradford3206 Год назад

      Already crossed friendship boundaries 😂😂😂😂 = i gave him the full package of having sex with him.

  • @Deus_wukong1468
    @Deus_wukong1468 3 года назад +1

    Love is a poison best served to the people arrogant enough to believe it.

  • @trinakaufman4804
    @trinakaufman4804 4 года назад +2

    Thank you for your support

  • @timgreen6384
    @timgreen6384 6 лет назад +8

    Kindness - you see him kick a dog! 10 seconds before you turned the corner you did not see the dog bite him! Context is important! The person he is verbally dressing down just called him an asshole for not giving him a buck instead of the 25 cents oh things like that happen all the time what most RomComs have at their foundation and has happened or I saw/heard happen! People take this advice and tend to run with it either NO effort is put into context or false conclusions are made?

    • @xfaroutzx3637
      @xfaroutzx3637 5 лет назад

      Tim Green Your point is still proving that you need to pay attention to how someone acts. Even if a dog bit you or someone called you an asshole, YOUR reaction is a complete reflection of who YOU are.
      Your thinking clearly demonstrates that you believe your behaviour is someone else’s fault. Eventually when a woman does something to “piss you off” you will retaliate in the same manner and blame her.
      Again, her advise is on point.

  • @ms.bizlady2956
    @ms.bizlady2956 5 лет назад +1

    What if the man works the night shift and calls and says he's tired and or may have family obligations? You assume a man should drop everything to cater to a woman.

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад +1

      No a man shouldn't drop everything to please a woman , he can still make her feel like a priority even if he is busy and vice versa .

  • @emilymonz8283
    @emilymonz8283 3 года назад +3

    When you like a guy who has every single one of these traits😊

  • @SophiaLovella
    @SophiaLovella 5 лет назад +3

    Where did you get your leather jacket? You look so beautiful. Thanks 😊❤️

    • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
      @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад +1

      HI RENEE SLANSKY WHERE DID U GET YOUR LEATHER JACKET FROM???? YOU LOOK SOO CUTE AND BEAUTIFUL TOO THANKS
      AND HAVE A GREAT WEEK AND A GOOD WEEKEND TOO RENEE WHAT AGE ARE U AND ARE U SINGEL TOO ETC ALL YOUR VIDEOS ARE SOO HELPFULL TOO ME RENEE CUTE OUTFIT TOO LOVE YOUR JACKET!!!!

  • @jennynyanga4212
    @jennynyanga4212 4 года назад +4

    Perfect lesson ,thank you 😊👌😍

  • @lashgoshotwheels1127
    @lashgoshotwheels1127 5 лет назад +1

    It was a good relationship i didn't rush her and commenting happiness and trust.
    I did all this we never had a fight i never yelled at her or was never violent i went hot and cold unstable 1 time and lost her
    She new i love her but she didn't love me i did the things i said i said i would send her flowers to her work and i did i respect her and her family and love her kids .
    I did everything you said and i lost her why.she will not give me a CHANCE to change she is on a date site i don't want to lose her

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад +1

      Maybe she wasn't emotionally available or feeling the same. Or maybe her own baggage prevented her from loving you back as much. It sucks but we can't control how others feel or act. You sound like a catch , so go where you are celebrated not tolerated :) x

    • @MAGAISKLAN
      @MAGAISKLAN 5 лет назад

      You went hot and cold on her. That's where you hurt her and she decided you weren't right for her. You probably broke her heart, but she was strong enough to walk away. I'm not saying you're a bad guy, you're probably very nice, but never go hot and cold on a person you want in your life. If they have high standards, they won't stick around long.

  • @shamerydiamondsd7324
    @shamerydiamondsd7324 4 месяца назад

    Hello to all!Beautiful points to take in. My question would be ,as far as the 'too fast ' goes and in general being hasty, after what time of period ,approximately, is considered a good time to know that it is safe to go to the next level or that you can confidently say that you know som3one long enough to have a kid with him/her or get married or move in together?All honesty would be much appreciated 🙂Thank you.

  • @g.mmcloughlin4964
    @g.mmcloughlin4964 4 года назад +3

    Check out how he treats the waiter. Love your channel.

  • @gavin9039
    @gavin9039 3 года назад +7

    a good man could literally yell straight in you face IM HERE!! and you still wouldnt give him a chance.i just think its funny at this point

  • @weekendnomad5038
    @weekendnomad5038 4 года назад +2

    He told me the first few weeks he was still dating we’ve only been seeing eachother like 3 weeks should I give him benefit of the doubt or run

  • @laneaspen7535
    @laneaspen7535 2 года назад +2

    I am in shock I’ve found a man that does all these.

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  2 года назад

      Glad to hear that, thank you for sharing!

  • @SediMusic
    @SediMusic 5 лет назад +8

    Too bad women don't actually value these values. I'd like to say I have mostly all of these and I've been on multiple dates and met tons of women over the last 4 years of being single, yet 99% of the women left me, either ghosted, cancelled (fizzled out), or led me on. Dating for a man today is close to impossible. Women just have way too high of standards, all thanks to feminism and social media/dating apps.

  • @DannyBoy443
    @DannyBoy443 5 лет назад +1

    Also, it seems like most of these are feminine heavy or caring A LOT/mostly about the woman. Where's our love Renee?

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад

      I do lots of videos for men over at The Attractive Man :)

  • @dashphonemail
    @dashphonemail 3 года назад +5

    Ladies, it's easy to find a good guy, they're all around. You're just not attracted to them! Lol

  • @bluechakraascension126
    @bluechakraascension126 4 года назад +1

    Great videos. Thank you.

  • @imthebestdirector
    @imthebestdirector 6 лет назад +41

    Lady just tell the truth. you want a man to support your lifestyle.

    • @mgtowbooboo8530
      @mgtowbooboo8530 6 лет назад +8

      don't they all?

    • @mgtowbooboo8530
      @mgtowbooboo8530 6 лет назад +2

      I mean that goes without saying

    • @atread1001
      @atread1001 5 лет назад +2

      No thanks. But keep telling your damaged self that. And treating women the same as if they are. You'll get the same results.

    • @imthebestdirector
      @imthebestdirector 5 лет назад +1

      @@atread1001 What results?

    • @atread1001
      @atread1001 5 лет назад +2

      @@imthebestdirector The results that caused you to form that opinion. It's the same as women saying all men ...... so basic.

  • @lindseye4300
    @lindseye4300 6 лет назад +11

    I find it sad that I'm already 23 and just learning how to spot the traits of a good guy

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  6 лет назад +10

      You are still young and have a lot of time left :) x

    • @SunRise-ul7ko
      @SunRise-ul7ko 6 лет назад +9

      A woman reached her SMV peak at 20 according to statistical evidence. At age 27 she is at the edge of a wall that is about to plummet. By age 30 her SMV is half what it was at 27. By age 35 she"s scraping the bottom of the floor. Don't listen to any woman that tells you that at age 23 you have plenty of time, because every year your SMV drops, & every year your SMV drops means the lower standard of man you will attract.
      The wall is 4 years off, if you have not found a good man by then, you are in trouble, believe me.

    • @ericcartman6528
      @ericcartman6528 4 года назад

      I'm sad that I came across a beautiful girl I really wanted to say hi to ....while using an account that says I'm Eric cartman lol for what it's worth I would do every last one if these things for a girl like you 😊

  • @starlightwhispers6781
    @starlightwhispers6781 5 лет назад

    Will a good guy ever go back to an ex if he has had a child with her but currently does not have a relationship with either of them?

  • @aaronlavalley4852
    @aaronlavalley4852 5 лет назад +5

    Most women friend zone you when they know you are a good guy

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад +1

      I do see that happen a lot its true!

    • @aaronlavalley4852
      @aaronlavalley4852 5 лет назад

      @@ReneeSlansky yeah it is true and I know from experience cus I've been friend zoned by women my entire life and still happens to this day

    • @shaktikumar2693
      @shaktikumar2693 5 лет назад +1

      It happens in the age of 18 to 24
      After this age they become smart and go for gud guy .

    • @queenolo506
      @queenolo506 3 года назад

      Not true for me.

  • @raziyababayeva
    @raziyababayeva 5 лет назад +1

    There is no ideal people. Everything depends on what your values are.

  • @sentiasatransformasi
    @sentiasatransformasi 5 лет назад +2

    In the end, she always go to those assholes who knows the psychology of making her chase them and just want to get into their pants. In short, women wants an exciting guy not a good guy. And sometimes if she gets lucky she’ll get both a exciting n nice guy.

  • @1julierowe
    @1julierowe 2 года назад +1

    What if he hits 7 outta 10 of these qualities? One thing he doesn't hit is making me feel loved. I'm so confused

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  2 года назад

      Does he know your love language ?

  •  6 лет назад +2

    Excellently portrayed... Chivalry :-)

  • @nedeljkonikolin
    @nedeljkonikolin 4 года назад

    You would not believe how much men is watching this video.At least I feel like that.
    I am trying to find myself,so I look what others are trying to find in me.Having a question,how does a man decide whether he is actually a good man.

  • @titanniki412
    @titanniki412 3 года назад +1

    I'm a Walk the Talk kinda guy!
    Show me don't just tell me. I do my best to do the same!!

  • @5thdimensionliving727
    @5thdimensionliving727 3 года назад

    Excellent video Renee. Very useful. Thank you 🙏🙏

  • @augustusstone3053
    @augustusstone3053 4 года назад +2

    I thought I was the good guy. Damn. I don't hit everything on this list. Maybe I should give up on the whole dating thing. I'll die alone

    • @emiv592
      @emiv592 4 года назад

      Or maybe just asses your strength and weaknesses. If you know where the weaknesses are from, and work on it, you'll probably feel a lot better. Don't give up on dating, and don't give up on yourself either.

  • @yaelreidel5361
    @yaelreidel5361 5 лет назад +1

    Thanks!! You re really nice

  • @johnkelly8135
    @johnkelly8135 5 лет назад +2

    Great vid. 👍. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself “what do I bring to the relationship”. And “what more can I do”. If both bring this attitude to the table....good things will happen. Woman can step up the communication a little more. If you like me, be a bit more forward!! Just a little, I personally find that super hot.....Im a direct guy, good looking (I think anyway) and I suspect I’m ‘hit on’ a fair bit but, it mostly goes unnoticed by me. Anyway woman are awesome. I like girls, just the way you are!! ( a little naughtiness never hurts either) lol.

  • @jacksugden8190
    @jacksugden8190 6 лет назад +9

    You women hadn’t got a clue if I was a good guy, which I am, if I sat down in front of you.

    • @sarmi1993
      @sarmi1993 4 года назад +1

      But your attitudes will

  • @guillermogouldburn763
    @guillermogouldburn763 4 года назад

    Women like nice guys as long as they can't manipulate them. They can be nice but not pushovers. The moment a woman feels like a man can't say "no" to her when he has to and stand his ground, she'll leave him and go look for another man that will. Being a nice guy doesn't mean giving a girl anything she wants and doing averything she wants and agreeing with everything she says and going only where she wants to go. You'll see yourself as nice, she'll just see a lap dog.

  • @pmacca4830
    @pmacca4830 6 лет назад

    Very informative vid girl..Didn't realise you were geared mainly towards women...Learnt a few things watching this so thank you..

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  6 лет назад +1

      Thank you! I do coach men as well and will be starting to do videos for men more so in the new year :)

    • @pmacca4830
      @pmacca4830 6 лет назад

      Superb Renee,look forward to watching them girl..Have a nice crimbo an new year...Take care girl

    • @conorm2524
      @conorm2524 6 лет назад

      @@pmacca4830 Dude, you will fail miserably if you take her advice. I implore you to read The Rational Male by Rolo Tomassi. You'll learn the true nature of women and why they respond to pretty much the opposite of what this video spouts. Basically Beta=bucks, Alpha=fucks.

    • @conorm2524
      @conorm2524 4 года назад

      @Cherry Minty Anyone who proclaims to be a good person are usually the worst.

    • @conorm2524
      @conorm2524 4 года назад

      @Cherry Minty I agree. I fit none of those criteria, though. I don't hate women at all. I just understand them.

  • @BelmooreArtistry
    @BelmooreArtistry 4 года назад +1

    Talking to a guy online, we barely know each other but he is very flirty and wanting to make me his, idk if this is a sign of him rushing things along, he says he respects my beliefs but due to not meeting him in person yet, I'm not so sure

    • @naomifuentes3517
      @naomifuentes3517 4 года назад

      , My fiance had been cheating on facebook.. thanks to *cyber_kor* on Instagram who bursted te bubble. Finally my suspicion has been vindicated. If you ever wish to see the hidden things your spouse does on social media. You could get cyber_kor give yo access to snoop. He is on whatsapp too +1 347 830 3644. He is legendary. . I promised I would tell it to the world. Because this saved me and aided my decision.

  • @SuperQdaddy
    @SuperQdaddy 6 лет назад +13

    Life is a two way street...woman used to being in toxic relationships..can not be with a for real good guy....fact !

    • @tonylama2012
      @tonylama2012 6 лет назад +5

      She now has that other mans DNA

  • @infj-tguy6275
    @infj-tguy6275 3 года назад

    3 years late but I'd like to thank you for makin your vid 11 mins, it was the perfect amount of time to meditate to while listening so thank you again ms renee 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿

  • @wendellbatts2477
    @wendellbatts2477 4 года назад +1

    This list is half how do you find a good guy and how to know if I man is interested in you.

  • @artisticafflair408
    @artisticafflair408 4 года назад +1

    Long story short now I live with the man who I met online, a month into the relationship, over 2 years later I am questioning weather he has ulterior motives/hidden adjendas. He never expresses himself nor tells me whats on his mind, I have to play a guessing game then question weather what he says is the truth and it's messing me up mentally it's driving me nuts. Any suggestions please anyone? Much appreciated. X

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  4 года назад +1

      Ok whilst you can't force someone to change you can influence them in a positive way by affirming who they are and then exampling the behaviour and setting a standard. Every one processes emotions differently and we all have different communication styles. Do you know what his love language is?

  • @deydraniadiancecht8298
    @deydraniadiancecht8298 5 лет назад +1

    Unfortunately, there are no ways to tell if a woman is worth having. She can act all sweet until the moment she says "I do" and then it's too late. Divorce will be way to costly especially if she waits until you have a child. Once a guy amasses a healthy income, marriage isn't worth the risk of divorce court and women know this. All women do (even and especially the ones who will respond to this telling me that they would never do this to a guy).
    Okay so I am a good guy- or was when I was still naive enough to still date. I earn a healthy income (60k a year and where I live that's a nice amount), I am respectful to women, thoughtful, always looking to boost up someone's confidence, completely loyal to those I call loved ones, and yet, I just can't find anyone that would add anything to my life.
    In most relationships, women don't add- they take. Do you know how difficult it is to find a good women who makes as much as I do? I don't want to lower my income by taking on a woman who doesn't work- who stays at home all day. That would be financial suicide especially with Alimony laws. Do a Google search if you don't believe me. If your wife doesn't earn as much as you, you will be paying Alimony when she divorces you. Besides, adding to my income means a happier life. We would have more to do. But, alas, most women won't see it this way. Most women want to add to their income and will refuse to date anyone within their own class. They will always seek to increase their own status by "marrying up". Men are a resource.
    Also, most women just don't seem to know that they should hold up the men. They simply want to be held up by the men. It gets exhausting and I just don't have the strength, stamina, or time to be the only one doing the lifting.
    So we need a way to tell if a woman is worth having a good man. We need to know what the woman brings to the relationship. There has to be something. What do women add?

  • @sanzzz26
    @sanzzz26 5 лет назад +3

    Ugh no to all. 😣 I knew there was a reason I left

  • @rjc7289
    @rjc7289 5 лет назад +1

    Is there a reason why every Aussie girl who posts videos on RUclips is drop-dead gorgeous? I'm talking like "make you do a double take when you walk by her" gorgeous! I've heard of some countries having disproportionately high numbers of beautiful women, but it seems Australia is off the charts!

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад +1

      haha thanks!

    • @lamentate07
      @lamentate07 Год назад

      Australian women look good, but they are not cultured and lacking in the brains and maturity department, especially Anglo women.

  • @Ced_GT
    @Ced_GT 6 лет назад +10

    There are good guys everywhere. Problem is, girls are not interested in these so-called good guys, they want a challenge, a pet project or someone they can change and mould into their fantasy ideal. The good guy in their eyes are just boring, dull and tedious to most women. The bad boy character is like a moth to a flame, totally irresistible!!

    • @Hav0ck23
      @Hav0ck23 6 лет назад +3

      You can be a good guy and have a fucking exciting life lol.

    • @arnelabih1845
      @arnelabih1845 5 лет назад +1

      Ced GT I agree I like in between but no damn bad boys those days are over

    • @Hav0ck23
      @Hav0ck23 5 лет назад

      arnela bih i am a good guy and i have a damn adventoourus life cause thats how my parents grew me up but they also grew me up with a set of ethics and values. The probem is these values are seen as weakness by people

  • @MistiqueL
    @MistiqueL Год назад

    All those who complain that having these qualities are not appealing to women or get you in the friendzone ...either don t know to recognize a good women who can appreciate it...which means they themselves can't tell right from wrong..or healthy from unhealthy...or they may just be acting nice to people please or doing it as a tactic to see if they can get what they want..which of course will push women away cause at some point the fakeness comes to light. These things apply to women too.
    A man or women who has these traits naturally..are simply drawn to those similar to them..there is chemistry and attraction...they get married or in a commitment....and don t even watch videos like these.

  • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
    @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад +1

    THE BSET FIRST DATE QUESTIONS TOO ASK HIM!!! OR HER AND ASK HER OUT TOO HANGOUT OR CHILL OUT WITH U ON A. DATE AT A COFFEE SHOP OR BARS IN TOWNS ETC

    • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
      @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад +1

      HI RENEE SLANSKY CUTE OUTFIT DOME GIRL SOME TIME WHEN THIS COVED 19 IS OVER AND DONE CAN U COME OVER TOO NEW ZEALAND AND MEET UP WITH ME SOME DAY SOON

    • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
      @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад +1

      OMG CUTE AS LOL LOVE TOO MEET U RENEE SLANSKY

    • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
      @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад +1

      HI RENEE SLANSKY I AM GREAT RESPECTFUL GUY TOO THE LADIES OUT THERE RENEE SLANSKY HAD A GOOD DAY TODAY LOL LOVE TOO NOW MORE ABOUT U RENEE SLANSKY AND WHATS YOUR DAY JOB TOO IF THATS OK TOO ASK YOU THAT RENEE XXX

    • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
      @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад

      HI RENEE SLANSKY COMMENTS ON HOW TOO LOOK FOR IN A GIRL THAT YOU ARE DATEING RENEE SLANSKY CAN YOU ASK MY QUESTIONS ABOUT DATEING GIRLS AND THE BSET PLACES TOO MEET UP WITH THEM RENEE

  • @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson
    @RorydriftmansxrsilviaWilkinson 3 года назад +2

    1. I AM A RESPECTFUL GUY TOO THE LADIES OUT THERE

  • @anthonyward2433
    @anthonyward2433 6 лет назад +1

    lol i did all these things and got broken up with. solid advice haha

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  6 лет назад +1

      Then maybe it was the wrong woman you dated who wasn't ready to see your true value. Sounds like you deserve someone who appreciates you more :)

  • @687805
    @687805 5 лет назад

    Do you have a video about how to identify good women? Same points as this, or ate there different things to look for? Thanks.

    • @xm377Moyocoyatzin
      @xm377Moyocoyatzin 5 лет назад +1

      A good woman is an ignorant one. As soon as she finds out there are men with more money she will treat you like shit and use you to trampoline unto those other men. Fact of life bruh

    • @ReneeSlansky
      @ReneeSlansky  5 лет назад +1

      I will do one just for you :)

    • @687805
      @687805 5 лет назад

      Renee Slansky - Thanks! I'd appreciate it!

    • @687805
      @687805 5 лет назад

      xm377Moyocoyatzin - Sounds like you've had at least one negative experience with such types. Sorry. There are other types of women out there. Quick question- do you spend time being jealous of men with more money or status than you? She'll pick up on that, especially if you verbalize such thoughts, which then makes her feel you are insecure... you can see where that will go I'm sure.