INFLUENCER INSANITY EP 7 | Tradwives: The business of being a “traditional wife” influencer
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4:01 What is a Tradwife?
4:55 The Allure of Nara Smith
17:13 The Secrets of Ballerinafarm
20:45 Estee Williams
21:51 Is Being a Tradwife Problematic?
25:37 The Business of Being a Tradwife
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The voice that's used by most tradwife content creators sounds so fake and freaks me out. It doesn't sound like a genuine loving mother.
No
People like this make me glad I'm not on social media. I love Hannah, but I, for the life of me, had to stop the video. I can't spare any time for those women to dumb me down with their foolishness. Keep fighting the good fight for those who engage willingly.
@@lilessab85RUclips is social media.
That's right it's a job
The danger is when MEN think their wives are supposed to be this way, not the wives.
Good point.
Yep.
They think we have so much time on our hands because we are home😅
That's the saddest part... This pretend played by women will only harm women
Recently found out that the first woman shown her husband has a child with another woman before her. Not very traditional huh? 😂😂😂
My son asked me to make him an apple pie, but we didn’t have apples at home and I decided to plant an apple tree in our yard
😂
Then I waited for the tree to grow and bare fruit and I walked threw my apple orchard barefoot in a white linen dress with eyelet handkerchief in my hair and my hand loomed basket, and picked the apples while the sun shined upon my thin, beautiful, natural makeup touched face. Then I skipped joyfully back to the house.
😒🙄🙄😴
Being a stay at home mom was a necessity for me at one point in my life. And I lasted about 9months before I was like....mmm I think it's time I go back to school so I can get a better job, and back to work. 😂😂
Stay at home moms are built different. 💪 I couldn't do it full-time. Being a working mom is not easy either because it's like having 2 jobs, especially if you're a single parent. But these tradwives are just promoting a lifestyle that is not real or attainable to most women. And it's dangerous when paired with toxic religious doctrine and misogynistic husbands.
"Honey, your apple pie will be ready in three years, just be patient please."
You should also plant an apricot and plum tree. You could make jam.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣☠
"My toddler woke up sick, so I left him alone for 9 hours to make him a homemade cough drops."
This 😂😂😂
But makup, hair and dress first!
And then he choked on them because toddlers are not supposed to be given hard candy as they are a choking hazard 😮
@@MCGCummings My child is dying so I'm going to make a dinner so my husband have something to eat after the funeral.
What’s also super meta is that the tradwife influencers while promoting a stay-at-home lifestyle (where the woman prioritizes her children and family) are actually being entrepreneurs and devoting all their time to their business lol
Nara has a talent agent, so she's definitely making money. If she didn't, said agency would have terminated her contract by now.
EXACTLY 😂 Playing in ERRBODY face!
Exactly!
👏 nailed it
Pyramid schemes!
My toddler woke up suddenly sick this morning, and I had a tripod and camera set up ready for no reason.
Have you seen the videos of people filming themselves "napping"
As you do
I hope you rose to the occasion and put on a full face of glam makeup, dressed up in your favourite ball gown and gloves and spent 2-6 hours to scratch make cough drops.
@@missfigs5255 Best comment!
😂😂😂
The soft “influencer voice” is worse than nails on a chalkboard.
Nara’s voice is so boring 🥱
That along with modern aesthetics being all white, black, and grey makes for a very boring experience branded as "soothing."
Oh god yes! It's boring to death and somehow making me aggressive at the same time. 🫠🤮
Yes! It’s soooo fake you can tell that they’re forcing it. Nobody talks like that in real life.
Thank you! I was thinking the same thing 😅
My 8 year old wanted to go swimming so I ordered 30 bags of concrete. While waiting for those to arrive I grabbed my shovel and started digging.
Lol
😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 you made my tea come out my nose
😂😂😂😂😂
Twist: is the son still alive? Was the concrete for his dead body?
Reminds me of that woman whose videos about cooking dinner for her family in the trailer park (heavily featuring frozen or premade items) would get constant scorn about her being a terrible mother. People claim they want the relatability of the working class, but refuse to actually see it.
I love her for just that and rather watch her cooking, even if it doesn't represent my type of food or anything I make. But watching these videos from the trad wives are like nails on a blackboard to my eyes. My eyes are bleeding just from these short clips 🩸😂
Dang, reading that makes me sad man, it really goes back to the point about being the right inluencer tradwife is really a privilege, like working class cosplay. This video series and the comment section does help though, media literacy is a skill that needs to be developed so it's nice that we can identify how weird the entire fantasy is
Christacelia right? I love her
"It's their job to pretend that they don't have a job," is the best summary of the trad-wife trend.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
That and that they are wealthy somehow
And they are privileged to pretend like that… majority of them are rich 😂
I actually am a SAHM. I homeschool my kids while also handling a baby.
Almost nothing I've seen on tiktok or RUclips is what actually goes on in my home. 💀
I don't think it's bad to aspire to be that put-together all the time, but it's never going to actually look like that.
Excellent comment.
My toddler woke up sick and was all shivery so went to the stable, sheared a sheep, spun the wool and knitted my poor baby a jumper. When finished he was 7 years old
Omg 😂😂😂
Omg 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
LMAO 😂
I had a sudden urge to end that the way Ricky Gervais would....
And by the time I finished the jumper he was dead. 😂
..............
There's a joke he says about he's decided to now become "woke". He's got so trolled for not being woke so he's given in.
He says, take for example the word handicapped... that's no longer acceptable, you should say disabled.
So one day he's at the beach, and he's still being woke. A woman runs up to him and says, help please, my handicapped toddler is drowning. He says, whoa whoa whoa, hang on a minute, don't you mean your _Disabled_ toddler? She says, well yeah, same thing. He says, no, they are not the same, you should say disabled. So he turns to look at the sea, toddler.....floating.....dead.
And he says to the audience, that's what happens when you waste time being woke. 🤣
Your comment reminded me of that. 😅
The biggest problem is when MEN fall for this lie and start talking it seriously for real and demanding it from the women around them.
Hence Project 2025.
Yeah this part sucks!
No fr just like how men love pick me girls, they think this is the perfect wife fantasy and they actually want this "traditional" wife. It's just misogyny and double standards while it's just fake
That's the thing... I don't think most men think this is real, nor do they watch this content. It's all curated for women, obviously by the comments.
@@lisamendis5886 You would be surprised at the sheer number of men who have these videos as their own personal fantasy.
I just saw a stand up comedian recapping about a tradwife who got exposed as working and unmarried 😂. I thought of you when I heard
Imagine asking your mom for a cough drop while you're sick & then waiting 3-5 business days for your mom to make you a cough drop while you hack your lungs out.
🤣 😂 🤣
Not business days 😂😂😂
While being a toddler that you probably shouldn't even give a cough drop to because of choking hazard...
That was too my exact thought, and I don’t even have kids!
All you want is relief and she’s waiting on Amazon to complete her supplies order to get to your request
Crazy there's no children bothering her, hanging on her, shoving themselves between her and the counter, saying I'm hungry 100 times. Because someone else is caring for them right now. Not her. It's not real.
They already had breakfast lol
@@toomanymarys7355 They have nanny lol and house servants to do all the work in the house. Lol
@@toomanymarys7355 even when mine already ate I still have at least one of my 4 under foot lol
I feel like Nara has made it known that lucky does his part in the relationship so more than likely he could be watching their kids. I don't view her content as trying to be a tradwife
Every time I cook my daughter wants to help then she needs her but wiped because she had to poop😂😂
To add Nara Smith is actually a supermodel as well as her Husband, Lucky B Smith. They have the money, time and resources to make these unrealistic videos happen 😂
*model.
Supermodel is a rare title that has to be earned. There's only a few, and Kylie Jenner isn't one of them.
"We're watching a curated and privileged fantasy."
Bingo! 👌🏾
Ok but who is giving a toddler a cough drop? Isn't that a choking hazard?
Yes, it is
They were gummies
And you would never give them an actual couch drop... But they do make gummies for kiddos ❤
@@pettykittyfamGummies are a known choking hazard until close to age 5, much like popcorn, whole nuts, etc.
feeding them anything like that, gummies, cough drops, and even uncut grapes are choking hazards. She honestly sounded like the one who needed the cough drops, judging by her voice.
@@pettykittyfamWrong. She said the honey reached its crack stage. That’s how you test hard candies to make sure they’re ready to pour.
In order to make gummy candy, she would have to have used gelatin - which she did not.
I'm an authentic, modern housewife, and I just ate ravioli out of a can using a plastic fork. Regrets? Zero. 😂
Dishes, zero either! Win win! ❤
I like the term “modern” 😂
That's good stuff. Been there, eaten that.
children love Mac and cheese and I know for a fact real busy moms aren’t about to make Mac and cheese from scratch😂
That’s disgusting and you do look like someone to do that
“I dont usually keep traditional medicine in the house” - ginger, elderberry, lemon, honey ARE traditional medicines. They are not western pharmaceutical medicine.
My kid woke up with explosive diarrhea and projectile vomiting and here is a video of me making fresh bread.
"Cosplaying" is the most accurate word for tradwives I have heard so far 😂
They are not doing it even right. The blonde one casually seduces the audience by firmly showing a little bit of chest.. aren't you supposed to be traditional lol? That's not very trad of you. But of course she is doing that-the real face of the traditional women won't sell.
I think everyone is aware that a tradwife doesn't put on a party dress to cook without an apron.
I agree. I would also add 'fetishizing' as an additional descriptor for tradwives.
@@Laure__Linebased on the comments on tradwife videos, it really doesn’t sound like it. You’re giving people who follow that type of content seriously way too much credit.
@@DivideThatBy9PleaseThis too. The amount of men who look at this content and yearn for this type of wife, knowing full well that this is extremely unrealistic.
What’s so bizarre is that I’ve been a housewife for 26 years. Raising kids, baking bread, cleaning house, taking care of animals… we don’t have time to video ourselves, and dressing in those frilly outfits? What? 😂😂😂
Finally someone saying it like it is
I agree been a housewife for 17 years and I agree! With a very curious 16 month old , cleaning, and other things to do I don’t even have a min to write this 😂. I have disheveled hair( running around and this muggy weather 😂) and wearing “non traditional frilly “ little house on the prairie attire.
😂GUUURL leave those sick-crying babies right where they lay stat! You must set the lighting and sit for glam before muddling the lavender!!😫🤯
They give the real ones a bad name. Everyday home-makers just go about doing their thing.
The outfits and make up make it so fake
I made a comment about what a bad mom I was, while watching 'The Family Fudge'. My then 10 year old son said, "Yeah, well, I don't think she works, is getting her Masters and doing an internship. You feed me good lunches. They don't need to look like hers. " Made me realize just what you are saying. It is not real life.
You have a smart kid. ❤
Oh that's a well grounded child that you have 😊
What an awesome job you've done!!! Your kid is testimony to that! We as moms put more pressure on ourselves than our husbands or kids would ever do with that attitude. They just want something to fill tummies and a mom that's happy!
Been a SAHM to 6 aging from 12 months to 12, I homeschool, clean, cook, make bread etc etc. you’ll find me in bike shorts and an oversized shirt or leggings and a hoodie, usually covered in flour, food from cooking and spit up. I don’t get a minute to all the pretty things and rarely get a minute to myself. I just made bread for tomorrow-at 11pm because I forgot about the dough rising and so here I am. Exhausted and no makeup or dress to be found! 🙄I had to stop watching farmhouse in Boone, my oily house and ballerina farm to mention a few. These mammas who seem to be able to it all really depressed me because as hard as try I just can’t-not like them anyway. I used to beat myself up about it..still honestly healing from it. Thank you for posting this!!!
👏👏😊 keep being real 💕
I see you, and I look like you (not so much the spit up any more, but sometimes puke.)
How can a toddler request Corn Flakes if she doesn't buy Corn Flakes and therefore, presumably, the toddler doesn't know what Corn Flakes is?
Maybe she made it for them previously and they wanted it again?
Because they don’t live under a rock and the toddler had somehow a chance to eat some or maybe she made some before?
kind of disagree with some of these comments. nara smith has said she struggles with eczema and that she makes most of her food from scratch which is where her videos started taking off. then, i think she started to make “satire” commentary about how she makes them cornflakes or cheetos from scratch. do i think it is a damaging influence for other moms to see this and compare themselves to them? yes, especially in this economy, it is IMPOSSIBLE to live with two kids if both parents arent working (and dont even get me started on single parents).
i do think naras content is damaging in the way that she portrays that she makes all of her food from scratch. i just think trad wife culture itself is horrendous so.
@@annawhite7998Then they shouldn’t watch her. If her content is damaging to some and if they can’t help but to compare themselves to her then they should learn to swipe away. No one is forcing you to watch anything. She is merely an entertainer/content creator, that’s her job. She is not trying to be realistic or telling women how to live their life or to make anything from scratch, she is just showing what she loves to do with HER life and you have the freedom to look away. She has said many times that cooking is her love language and she just wants to share that. These women also have the choice to follow creators that are more realistic to them and aren’t millionaire models.
@@wandooayabam1406 thats not what im saying? trad wife content is pushing the narrative that woman need to do 10000 things at once to be considered attractive or “wife-material”. and this is coming after we just made it out of the trenches.
i think nara is a good person but trad wife content in particular is bad. and as a content creator, her job is to produce content that actually has a meaning/purpose. like i said, she started with normal content until she gained traction for making stuff from scratch. so, she continued to do that. i think her videos are just normal cooking videos with a satire commentary with it.
AND, i didnt say anything about nara doing any of that. i said trad wife content makes people want to be able to do that
My son woke up this morning & was demanding pizza so I warmed up a hot pocket in the microwave & told him to stop whining.
😂
😂😂 now this is real life
Now that is content I can relate to
Now thats.. a mom😂
That was me when I was a kid lol
My aunt had FIVE children AND she worked full time AND the household was chaotic, messy, and crazy, BUT full of love and fun.This was in the more laid back 80s-90s. Social media has made everyone fake and uptight and money obsessed.
That woman and her husband look like AI robots. They are performing life, they are both former “models”…
Trad wives: “I don’t believe in traditional medicine it’s poison”
Also trad wives: *have tons of lip fillers* 👁️ 👄 👁️
THIS LOL
Maybe her toddler asked for the lip filler
Lol the "science bad" trend is both stupid and extremely problematic. I use home remedies for many minor illnesses or discomfort, but I still take all my prescriptions when I need them.
My home remedies usually involve honey, teas, soup, and Vicks -- all of this I learned from my (boomer) mom as a kid. These are all very common household remedies around the world -- they are nothing special and usually cost a few bucks at the grocery store. It isn't glamorous like this person pretends they are.
It's complicated cause I want you call a traditional life. I tell my husband died anyway and I did a lot of what they're doing, but I had a time obviously and in my j's. I didn't do it in A. Full face makeup
bratz doll mouth lol
I grew up indoctrinated in a fundamentalist cult, and I *was* baking bread 10 days postpartum. I also stood on my feet and made 60 freezer meals for myself, a week past my due date. I was standing in my kitchen with my infant in a moby wrap baking cookies less than 72 hours postpartum. And you know what it got me? Massive, massive medical issues that I'm still suffering the consequences of 10 years later. No inner peace, no magical contentment of self-satisfaction, I didn't even get the superiority complex that some of these influencers seem to feed off of. This content is so unsafe, and so damaging to people who are actually having children, in reality. Thank you for your education content, as always, Hannah.
That's horrifying! I hope you're well away from those abusive people. That's what happens when you try to replicate what's essentially a Bronze Age lifestyle (Old Testament) or Roman Empire in the 21st century.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. I hope you’re doing better now and sincerely wish the best for you!🩵
Huh…How did baking cookies give you massive medical issues??
@@maryeckel9682 The best comment I've read in social media.
@@loweys8580 it can usually take 45 days to 3 months for a woman to recover from giving birth. The body goes through massive strains during pregnancy and rest is needed for a nice recovery.
Thank you for pointing out the positives and hard work of another woman, while also validating and compassionately discussing the struggle of women in new mom roles. I wish we had more women willing to build each other up and willing to critically think and analyze our feelings on certain phenomenon
The irony that I’m trying to figure out making sourdough bread (it’s not going well) and keep getting ballerina farms videos in my feed which make me feel SOOOO frustrated is not lost on me. This is such an important topic and video - women already are made to feel like we’re never doing enough. This trad wife era we’ve entered certainly perpetuates that idea.
Whatever you’re doing is enough, even if it’s just barely making it through the day. ❤
You spend 2 hours making cereal from scratch for your toddler. Only to have him say, “No, I don’t want that. I want eggs!” after it’s done.
All these mom who make yogurt from scratch kids are always yelling in the back “YOGURT AGAIN!!” lol 😂
This, I’m like, and her kids eat everything she makes?
@@Dominique20 to be fair, making yogurt from scratch is a process that you start about 24 hours before you actually WANT the yogurt, it doesn't just get whipped up. (It's also pretty easy if you have an InstantPot. I go through phases when I do it, but currently I am in my 'cannot be bothered' phase.)
Better get to it and get that baby chick now! 😂
Trad wife = trad spoon
Your TODDLER asked you for a cereal you don’t keep in the house? Where would they have gotten the notion to ask you for something you’ve never given them? 🤣
That part lololol
Good point 😅
The iPad you don't see on screen 😂
Yes with the common sense 😁
I dont care if you're hungry right now, please kindly wait 2 hrs so i can make these. haha
I’m surprised that people believe that this isn’t planned.
You are a breath of fresh air. Subbed during your intro. Get 'em girl. So refreshing to have this bizarre misogynistic nonsense called out.
"Cosplaying homemakers" is the best description I've heard of what they're doing.
I would call it Homemaker Porn.
Except it insults cosplayers. We know reality and we are not trying to tell the internet we ARE the character we wear the costume of. These women are equally in costume but pretending otherwise. The dishonesty they display in this is not found in cosplay.
I'd say it's more that they are "playing house" like little kids, but that probably would insult the kids....
Today my toddler said he wants to be an astronaut but I don't usually keep spaceships around the house so I immediately got my aerospace engeneering degree and using all this parts I had in my garage laying around for no reason I built him this amazing spaceship. And I didn't even dirty my hands. What do you mean you BUY cereal from the store???
Where did you get your air separation unit? I'm never going to get this shuttle past the second stage if I can't get more liquid oxygen.
Comment of the year
😂😂😂😂
😅
I know you're joking, but Stockton Rush of OceanGate told his parents he was interested in space and they literally paid for an astronaut to talk to him about his career aspirations and give him advice.
I absolutely love the cat cameos. His little meows give me so much joy. Yet another reminder from your videos of what real life is like.
My husband asked for a cup of tea but we had none in the house. I flew to India, planted some tea plants, waited to harvest and prepare them and flew back. By the time I got home he’d divorced me for going to India for months😐
The problem is when men believe this content to be true and achievable for women.. and feel their partners are not doing enough
so true, you see it in every comment section
💯💯
@@2mYgR that's irrelevant to this video and has no value in relation to it.
Honestly I think that's the point of these social media agendas... not to go all conspiracy theory but it's giving "destruction of healthy relationships" by setting this up as somehow being how you "should" live your life and if you're not up to this standard then somehow your inadequate and your spouse begins to resent you for it. It's simply not realistic 😅
sadly true
The fact that we need to remind ppl that this is not real is what actually gets me.
I'm pretty sure most people are very aware that they are actors. This is just entertainment. Then again, there are still people that think TV is real, but those are the exception. Feeling bad that your life isn't like that is no different then wishing you were Ironman. You outgrow it.
Same!
For example I don't understand why people get worked up for the first woman making those cough drops when it's obviously a fabricated story around those drops. Isn't it obvious that no one would do what she did in real life or at least not in these circumstances?
Also if I'm not wrong she's not calling herself a trad wife. She just loves cooking and tries her best to sell her videos by giving everything a background story.
I think it's a lot of jealousy and no media competence. I think a lot of people only see something they kind of envy and lose the ability to think critically.
Social media has made people lose their minds. "I saw it online, it must be true!" Of course that handsome soldier is in love with me, let me send him some gift cards. "He must be real, I saw his picture!"
@@B.H.56 Have you personally seen this behavior? Or just believe it because you hear people complain about it on social media. I only ask because while I've heard this many times, I have never actually met anyone that behaves that way.
@msSweeTae you're joking right? People don't dislike it because they're jealous, they dislike it because it's disingenuous and preys on the ignorant. Her comment sections are proof that people absolutely believe it. 12:56
Why would a toddler ask for corn flakes when they're not something mom usually keeps in the house?
I think what’s fascinating about these channels is that it’s totally fine and awesome to make things from scratch, and plenty of people would enjoy that content, but these influencers hook you on the story… that this is all truly part of their daily life and also a higher moral lifestyle/calling for women. They also know that the more outrage and the more improbability/shock value their videos have the more engagement they will get. Love them or hate them it’s a win win for them 🤷🏻
The dress of the lady in the first video costs $3000...Imagine cooking in a dress worth more than the average person's rent
And without an apron. I'm shivering thinking about it. Imagine the cleaning up process. At least kimono mom, although dolled up still wearing an apron.
😮
Right? I wear an apron over PJs when doing the dishes. I can't imagine wearing a dress worth more than my entire wardrobe without even an apron
That's double my fucking *mortgage*
That's twice my monthly income
My toddler woke up sick this morning so I decided to spend an hour making them an organic choking hazard.
Right? My mom used to just take like 5 minutes to make a cup of tea with a bunch of lemon and honey in it. But of course, you can't really link a bunch of obscure ingredients and supplies for that to make money off of. And if we had bad chest congestion, she'd put a bit of bourbon in it. It tasted awful but it would make you sleep and you always felt a lot better when you woke up. Helped loosen the phlegm in the chest.
But it's organic!
@@mommy2libras I was going to say the same thing. Just make some tea with honey and lemon. And, they won't even choke on it, lol. As long as they are over a year of course. You aren't supposed to give children under a year honey.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
While watching your video half asleep at night I just jumped out of bed thinking I heard one of my 4 children cry "Mama?!" - it was your cat 😂
It would be totally different if she presented the content like, “Have you ever wondered how to make cough drops at home? I have some time this morning so let’s give it a try.”
It’s the “I don’t keep traditional medicine/corn flakes/bubble gum in the house, but I sure wear a ball gown to make breakfast. This is totally normal.” False reality. It’s a performance presented as a candid reality.
No one gives toddlers cough drops. It’s a choking hazard.
very true!
Not to mention, taking the elderberry syrup on its own would be way better for you if it is something you had on hand. Why bother making the cough drop for anyone in the family who is sick?
Omg, thank you!
SHE wouldn't know, I bet she has AT LEAST one nanny, maybe a few
@@telise8730 I made cough drops because my kids don’t take any syrup . They are too young to eat them so I melt them in warm milk
The fact that she dresses like she’s going on the red carpet just to cook. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly 😅
I've seen bits of this creator and I thought she was a PARODY account.
I actually used to do this back in like 2018 and my bf said it was creepy. Too much influence from the church. 😅
Everyone wants to look good, if she wants to look good while cooking then that's great
She’s a model they are probably sponsored outfits.
You're the right person to talk about this! So honest but kind and you don't downplay what's so entertaining about these videos, yet you think through them thoroughly and do your research. I don't have any desire to have children but even I, a 28 year old woman, can catch myself comparing to ppl like Nara before remembering that her job is making elaborately staged DIY videos.
My MIL grew up in Ohio on a farm and literally lived this life. Outhouse and all. She had to bring her own water to the kitchen to cook and clean with. This kind of influencers drive me crazy because it romanticizes what people really had to live through and it was hard and not glamorous. I love that you used to word “cosplay” because I couldn’t think of the right way to put it. 👏🏻
They call themselves “trad wives” while working and people seem so fooled by it.
This
They work a lot 😂
50s housewives usually gave their small children so morphine or something to knock them out all day so they could housework without having to stop to take care of them,
With a whole camera crew director, deal handlers, accountants, lawyers,
@@middleagebrotips3454Assistants, Editors, social media managers as well
"they aren't traditional wives, they are performers" LOVE THAT SENTANCE, SO SO SO ON POINT
As a full time house wife I feel absolutely insulted by these fake house wives trying to convince the masses that being a house wife is a breeze when it’s blood and sweat everyday to make sure that everything is clean and in order.
I always find it funny and hypocritical when an influencer critiques other influencers being being influencers
I died at “my sister in law was craving bubble gum so bad.” I’ve never once in my life craved bubble gum so bad 😂
If my SIL said she was craving gum, I’d ask her to grab me a Diet Coke while she drives herself to the store to get some lol
I mean.. you’re not everyone. People having cravings for everything lol
I have..
The scenes at the end though… it all screamed fetish content to me!
@isabelle6632 yeah, no.
What these influencers don’t show you is the amount of support they have behind the scenes.
They have assistants, house cleaners, groundskeepers, and even NIGHT NURSES.
Kids or not, No one can do it all at once every single day.
They're influencers not celebrities. Lol. Im sure the only support they get is from family.
@@s.r6331 if you’re making at least $100k a year you can def hire all the support you need.
Also a nanny. The rich ones aren’t even the ones taking care of their kids cause the rich don’t do that
@@s.r6331 You would be surprised. Some influencers do surpass most celebrity's net worth. So, they can definitely afford to pay such services.
@@s.r6331 if you’re making at least $100k a month you can def pay for $40k/yearly assistant, $50k/yearly nanny, etc.
I'm a stay at home mom, and it looks nothing like this. I promise. The house is always in a mess, and I'm always with the baby 😂
This is such an excellent critique. Fair, balanced, honest analysis or the problems with this content while appreciating the work that goes into it.
10/10, no notes
Her toddler woke up coughing and the first thing to do is to put on a dress , put on some make up , do a nice hairstyle than make a cough sirup from scratch. That is total BS.
Don't forget setting up the tripod, camera, and lighting before even starting
Yeaaah !! That one is making it even worse @@imzabatch
Also who gives their toddlers a cough drop? Choking Hazard !
I was having a giggle at that too. First she spends 2 hours putting on an evening gown, full face make up and hair and then proceeds to spend make cough drops - not suitable for toddler - from the scratch. All the while the patient little one is sitting hands folded over knees on the white on white sofa.
When my toddlers woke up with a cough first thing I did was mutter some curse words because I knew my next weeks sleep was ruined.
No! She has ALL of that done wayyyy before her toddler woke up.
Getting dolled up and cooking that complex of a meal 10 days postpartum is absolutely psychotic and the fact ppl think it’s aesthetic or should be standard is concerning.
Idk... I know a few women who give birth and the next day or so took a walk or re-organized the house to "get the circulation going". They genuinely terrify me....
It's pretty insane to be sure. I was proud I made some rice pudding like a week or two postpartum bc I had a craving.
When you just give birth you do t want to do anything of the sort they are crazy
I’m a years post partum and currently pregnant again and still don’t fill up for any reason.
(For context, though, I LOVE cooking and have been doing it for decades, it's very second nature for me. Even so, the level of spaced-out exhaustion and pain you can get postpartum makes even "easy" things harder)
I love how respectful you are while still sticking to your point 👌☺️
What I hate about it are the men that see this and expect their wives to be exactly like this. Men like my ex-husband. When I became a stay at home mom he expected perfection. He would compare me to women like this, women with nannies, and maids and expected the same. That's not reality. I am so glad I got out of that marriage and now have a husband who truly gets it and is grateful and wonderful about all I do.
I got divorced before having children because my husband expected perfection despite me working over double the hours he did. He called me lazy, and then demanded we have children. I got out so fast after that. There was no way he was going to help me, and there's no way I'm going to subject myself or my future children to that kind of behavior. So glad you got out and found a real man who appreciates and values you
I totally understand you! When I was in maternity leave, my husband began to behave delusionally as he was the only provider of the house, and I was just "the stay at home mom". He even started to make important decisions without consulting me... Well, he's now an ex-husband...
I actually thought that most of her viewers are red pill men
Your ex is a loser and good for you getting out and getting your life. Not for nothing but if these men want perfection from their wives then SURELY they can provide the nannies, big bright state-of-the-art appliances & kitchens and luxury beauty budget, easy breezy, right? Oh wait.
@@aichabt8869ohhhhh good point! You’re probably right
Meanwhile, the lower income mothers doing videos of their meal prep get nothing but hate for not making everything from scratch.
Yeah there was a mother and she got called the worst mother ever (and worse) when she made food for her kids. She lives off the food bank and people complained she didn't pick healthy food, i had a "aunt" who had to live off the food bank for a while, most food banks won't let you choose your food they just get a small portion from the supermarket to give to people, you are happy that you have food so that you can feed your children (and one of the children has sensory issues so they have difficulties with certain foods).
It’s because she has pretty privilege
Exactly because a lot people are costumed to seeing those videos and are too ignorant to realize those videos are an act
Omg I hate how much lower income mothers get hated on! Mama C used to get so much hate for filming her cooking videos while her (I believe ex) husband watched their kids yet her meals were both creative and realistic for the average person.
There was a mom on tiktok who owned a trailer home and she showed the gifts she bought for her kids for Christmas (which totaled to $20 I believe) and you'd think she burned her children alive. People called her irresponsible for buying those gifts instead of saving it (because obviously lower income children don't deserve gifts 😤) and it got me so heated. Was 1000000% an overreaction on the internets part and it's disgusting because lower income mothers are the most creative people I've seen and as a childless person, I find their content more helpful. Like who cares about making homemade mozarella? I wanna see how people provide for their families with a budget of $35/week.
THIS!
I like Hannah Alonzo’s voice and also how she is so thoughtful about her subject matter. She stays away from judgement and lays out the situation in an intelligent and compassionate way
I only heard of tradwives a few hours ago when I came across your video. If your whole purpose is to expose deception, then I applaud you. There are so many falsities in the world and so much deception that needs exposing. If this is the basis of your intent then I 100% support you and thank you for your efforts.
The soft, calm voice that sounds unbothered and bored… really grinds my gears!
ME TOOOOO ! 😡I can’t stand listening to her
sounds like she either just woke up or didnt get any sleep for 5 days straight
@@annipsy2185 yes!!! 😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I thought I was the only one who hated her voice I can’t stand it honestly
My toddler woke up sick this morning and, he puked on the sofa then the dog tried to eat it and while I was running to help my baby I kicked the table and broke my toe. The rest of the mornin I was cleaning up vomit and obsessively taking temperature and worrying and limping. That is the reality, I know I lived that life. Nobody is making homemade medicene while looking beautiful with sick kids
And two days later Mom is sick herself with killer-toddler germs and puking all over the place while still having 100% of her responsibilitys and a toddler who is well and active again... but I guess one could do that in a fancy gown, why not 😅😅😅
You just put my morning into perspective 😅 Good luck with the sick kiddo and broken toe
Also hard candy for a toddler = choking hazard!!
Ouch! I hope the little guy is OK with helping you feel better. Wishing you calm cuddles, and lots of ginger ale.
That's a whole different kind of content... real life! I can relate to all of it, I hope the toddler is feeling better and I'm so sorry about your toe.
I loved everything you said. It brings a lot of light to tons of women and people believing this is actually true. Thank you for being so open and honest for us ignorants. Hehehe
I stumbled across your videos and this might be my favorite. The way you explain to new moms or even seasoned moms to not compare. Don’t beat yourself up because being a mom especially to young ones is hard.
“My toddler was sick and I still had time to do my full makeup and dress up before making his meds”😂😂😂
Dont judge others. Its a sin
@@Dontplaywiththat😂😂😂it’s an observation not a judgment
Exactly what I thought- When my toddler was sick I didnt even brush my hair in three days 😀
@@Dontplaywiththatobservation and critical thinking isn’t judgment. Also, sin isn’t real.
Also he is a toddler. I hope nobody would give hard cough lollies/sweets to a toddler. He could choke.
If my toddler woke up sick, I would be cuddling with a sick toddler, not making cough drops from scratch while my toddler suffers in another room for hours.
Hundred times this!
This was my thought too. Like he’s suffering so you what, just left him to himself and told him to stay out of the camera shot? More likely, his nanny was taking good care of him while mom made the content.
Ugh, but cuddling with the offspring means she actually has to touch them.
& you're not going to give your toddler hard candy/cough drops 🙄
I think we have to remind ourselves that this is a fabricated story to sell her video better. It wouldn't get that much engagement if she would just upload a video about mking those drops.
And that's why I think it's wasted energy to get worked up over something that's just a nice story like things you see in the TV.
I just found your channel and I love it seeing someone finally exposing the truth about all the BS online love it ❤
Hold up,so you don't usually keep corn flakes in the house and your TODDLER just wakes up and requests them? Ok yeah.. Sounds legit.
As a mom of two toddlers, my kids were pissed because I went pee before handing them their (pre-made) breakfasts. I can't even imagine the riot that would ensue if I made them wait this long 😂
Seriously 😂 my kids are crawling up my leg if I’m in the kitchen trying to make them something
My toddler got upset because I didn’t get the memo that she only wanted melties and bananas for breakfast 😂
Waaaaaaaaait... You got to go to the toilet *without* supervision? 😲
This. ALL of this🤣
Maybe those babies are just props? Who says they have to be real?
I am a fulltime housewife. If my kids cough or get sick and I have lemon and ginger, I just make drinks and ask my kids to drink. I have no time to make lemon candy.
Same. Now that sounds relatable and real to me 😅
Right. I'm like lemon, ginger, elderberry,. I have right now in the kitchen. even arrowroot powder is not that crazy to have either. Those are things real housewives get for their families. It's the cough drop molds that's silly and how perfect she looks. I don't think it's all a sham. Some is realistic and some is staged of course to perfection. I think we need to have a balanced view of it
Period 😂😂😂
Girl your a real stay at mom hero!
Oh come on. You know you use home grown ingredients!
I love your channel. I have been binging your videos this afternoon. Very well done, thank you.
Only issue is, Every time your cat meowed, I thought it was mine, and kept looking for her 😂❤.
I’ve been learning more about health, time management, and just living in general (learning from experienced people who’ve been teaching me A LOT for a while now). I just wanted to bring attention that whole ingredients (not the gum and sugar ingredients) are very possible to keep fresh and in stalk most if not all the time! At least for my community. (I understand it can be hard though) And it is very possible for woman to be VERY active right before birth if kept up well with their health :) I know these things look very impossible but it is absolutely impressive how much you can do with the right knowledge and help!
Love how you encourage us to not be pulled down and think of ourselves as worse than others! Thank you❤❤ I hope you all are doing well!
I’m a homemaker with 4 babies and love to cook from scratch, but yeah the number one thing that drives me nuts is when any influencer apparently has hours alone to cook, workout, etc, with lots of time where no one explains where the children are
I can’t even pee for 30 seconds without my kids yelling for me! (Funnily enough I am an adult woman but my son changed my name on here as well hahaha)
All while dressed to the 9s in full makeup and silk dresses lol
Facts! I'm alsoa homemaker with 3 young children, here I am right now replying while seeing in the corner of my eye the pile of cleaned clothes that need to be fold. I'm not perfect, I love having more time for my children but we also have our challenges and sooo much work to do around.
Thank you for being realistic! This! We do have time to take care and make ourselves look great but not extra 8 hours for filming editing and setting up cameras around the house 😅
The reality is you don't have to make "everything" sometimes buying produce from good sources is time saving and equally better
@@Timmybabim😂😂 sounds like mine
The monotone emotionless voice-overs are sending me. 😂😂😂
Honestly, it’s gotta be satire right?! 😂
Literally
It's relaxing
There is no way someone has that much energy with such a low-energy voice
social media terms like 'sending me' are so annoying
Hahahaha Hannah! I love how you put Zekes subtitles up for us “Meow” 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for being so honest yet respecful on this topic!
I'm SO tired of people saying, "you're just jealous," every time someone has a problem with something!
I'm definitely not jealous of these women. Who wants to spend all day making absolutely every morsel of food consumed in your home by scratch?? Not only do I not want to do that, I also don't want to spend hours a day pretending that I live that way.
IKR. Also "you're sexist" and "you're not as successful as her so you don't matter." As if privilege means we can't critique the wealthy.
I get wanting to be positive but these days you can't express any kind of dislike or distaste without being accused of “hating” or being jealous.
Or “you’re a hater!” What I hate is the fact that it’s all fake.
Some of these women are probelmatic but how is it fake from Nara? You guys clearly dont watch Nara's content. She never touts herself as a normak SAHM or a tradwife. She loves to cook and she has verbalized multiple times that she loves it, it is not expected of her, and her husband helps with cleaning and other things. Clearly they have money and help, her videos are literally about her passion of cooking.
I’m so glad somebody finally said it in a healthy way. There is no hate just a reminder to everyone that they should not compare themselves to a fantasy.
A fantasy indeed. Where are her kids when she is doing all this cooking?
@@matheromichellenkhalambaI'm guessing they're asleep, because it's 1 a.m.
Oh! Or, she hired help.
Right on sister 👊🏽 thank you for highlighting the absurdity of this 'trend'. I despair at the hold that social media has on young women, particularly mothers. I applaud you ❤
This is truly an incredible video. You've managed to explain amazingly how this all works and at the same time give some hope to many many women out there who have fallen for this I can do it all insanity. Thank you for your effort and courage to post a video like this.
People, please please please learn this once and for all: the BEST way to protest against these phonies is to STOP watching their content. Don’t give them the views, PERIOD.
I've never watched any of them!
True! Ban those internet trash!
The old adage, “Don’t feed the trolls,” comes to mind. In a way these tradwives are trolling us all, pretending to be something nobody in the real world can be.
The problem is that you can't tell teens and preteens that. They WILL form their worldview based on all of it
I straight-up REFUSE to watch tradwife content. It is so unrealistic and it is detrimental to the younger generation of women to portray this tradwife lifestyle, because it makes you feel bad when you can't achieve what they are portraying as gracefully as they are portraying. Reminds me of old 50s & 60s commercial advertisements, especially home appliances. You know, where the tradwife is dressed up like that Estee Williams meeting her husband at the door with slippers and a cocktail, then having the dinner table set and dinner served within moments of the husband walking thru the door. They're fakers and I don't like it. I don't like the ideology behind it. It influences ppl like that football player to make speeches discouraging women from pursuing anything other than a homemaker lifestyle. Which is fine for some, but there are a lot of ppl out there that have absolutely no business having children. As a pioneer of the opposition of tradwife ideology, I have been thru it. I still go thru it. I'm still made to feel bad because I didn't breed. Recently, my very own father said to me, "so my line ends with you." Which was a direct comment to me stating that No, I was not going to pursue fertility treatments to have a child because I'm beyond the "breeding" years for a human woman, and my childless husband is fine with that. I could really go on about how I married pretty much out of HS, how I was almost forced into having children by my 1st husband thru sabotage, etc, but it would be a novel. Just know that I've been thru it, and I totally disagree with the archaic ideological traditions that are being forced upon us, women, today. Personally, I will fight with tooth & nail to prevent us from every reverting back to that dead-end lifestyle for women.
Do these people understand that housewives in the 50s BOUGHT cereal and BOUGHT bread, jam, bubblegum, etc?
People did make things from scratch too, of course, but this idea that everything right down to the everyday staples were consistently homemade is just delusional. 🙄
To be fair all the women were on lithium back then. Maybe they were baking a ton lmao
For sure! Look at the ads from the era, it's all 'simplify your life! Look at this product of the future!' These people forgot the 1950s lifestyle was also trying to stomp out the horrors of World War II
Not only that it would’ve been cheaper on their tight family budgets!! Like sure hand making some items is cheaper but for a lot you’re spending more on raw materials especially back when the pricing for food was more fair!
Thank you! Even the poorest of the poor had to buy items and supplies! It amazes me people watch them and actually believe it!
People have this weird idea of what life was like in the 50s and 60s. Tons of women worked, especially black women. Traditionally, black women have worked.
The 50s and 60s also weren't ht best social time in the world .I wouldn't want to mimic anything from that time lmao
This was phenomenally done! Thank you for the thought provoking video :)
Seen one of your videos and now I Gotta watch them all because it's like a breath of fresh air!
I heard a divorced trad wife say "whether you'll have food and shelter will depend on whether he still loves you and finds you fuckable" and that stuck with me. 😥
And that’s the life that these people are glorifying, and some men are expecting from their spouses. I don’t like having to work a job (who does?) but I’ll be damned if I’m going to depend on a spouse for all of my financial needs.
@@sabrinaladyswallowtail4262🗣️PERIODDDDDDD!!!!!
I was always told “a man is not a financial plan”.
Oh my god, me too! That my whole life depends on this man even still liking me. Horrifying. It was so heartbreaking to watch her video. I just felt so broken fir her 😞
@@ufos-cos May I know who you are talking about?
This morning my husband said that his feet were cold, so I went outside into the field, sheered a baby lamb and spun the wool in my loom. I then picked some beetroot in my garden so that I could dye the lambs wool pink; dried the wool in the morning sun and then knitted him some slippers. I just happened to have some soft leather lying around so I cut that into sole shapes and quickly sewed them onto the bottoms of the slippers. I then toasted them on the fire so that he could have them extra warm to wear when he eats his homemade pancakes with elderberry jam. He was thrilled and couldn't believe that I had done all of that before my power yoga session at 8.30am.
😂 facts jeeeeez what a fraud
Too funny 😂
😂😂😂😂
Lol..oh no not the elderberry jam!!!
I disagree with the finale. He wasn't thrilled because he died in the process 😅
To me, rather then encouraging women to marry wealthy husbands and become stay at home moms, I feel it’s going to make women feel pressured to be career women AND these miracle homemakers who do everything in order to feel they have value. Women have too high of unrealistic expectations to measure up to and have to juggle a lot. Let them find some happiness for themselves instead of needing to always perform for others…
You don't keep cereal in the house, yet the "toddlers" specifically requested corn flakes. How would they know what it is?
I’m a traditional wife, like the old school tradition where mom does the kid stuff and the home keeping while dad is the provider and helps around the house doing the repairs and what not. This tiktok tradwife trend is NOT traditional wife or motherhood lol we are working our asses off from daylight to dark with messy hair and stained clothes. It’s hard, it’s thankless and it’s not this picturesque life these women portray. But I will say, while it’s hard, I am “rewarded” with excellent kids. They are kind funny and my favorite little people. The memories we make every day are both happy and stressful but I wouldn’t change it.
Does your man do anything else besides working and doing repairs lol? Like helping you out around the house and with the kids?
I congratulate you for finding what works for you and your family. It seems you chose this for yourself and didn't feel pressured to be someone you weren't.
@@Renee84repairs is helping around the house. I do the repairs; my husband does some of the kitchen cleaning.
@@toomanymarys7355 But unless their home is in complete disrepair and he comes home every night and continues working (like she does because work at home doesn't stop at 5pm), then he's not helping out very much. My parents split the evening work up. One did the dishes while the other gave us our baths. They both then sat down after everything was taken care of.
Agreed. I'm listening to this while I'm making cough syrup (yes, I have the ingredients on hand), food prepping, and juggling homeschool lessons with my 3 kids. It doesn't happen overnight, you learn and grow on the job, and you'll have days that bring immense joy and days that kick your trash. I think that is something we can experience in many jobs/roles. We should be so careful when looking to influencers/social media for how to live life because it is super curated, money-making content, and not how it is in real life. It is almost always performative.
I dated a guy for 3 years, I had to be the perfect girlfriend (hair and make up flawless, no body hair, no weight gain, etc.) Had to treat him like a king while I got nothing in return. I was so exhausted from being with him that I broke it off. I met my husband and married him 6 months within meeting, dating and engaged. 7 years later, he has seen me at my worst (4 babies, post natal depression, weight gain after kids, etc) and still looks at me with love and adoration. These trad wife video trends are quite unrealistic, it's equivalent to photoshopped magazines that young teens look up to causing them body image issues, except trad wife videos cause perfectly normal mothers feeling inadequate.
Precisely feeding off creating insecurity. Vampires.
Im glad u did
I’d also like to be w someone who sees me as a human
Yes girl. Exactly 💯
Good point
Truth
The first one.... It seems like a joke!!!! With that awful, soft voice.... "My toddler woke up this morning with a cough, and I was wearing a ball gown with perfect makeup, and I spent 2 hours making cough drops from scratch while my toddler was out of sight and perfectly quiet, and my kitchen was 100% clean...." I can't stand to watch it!
The difference is that if a tradwife gets a divorce, she is still a millionaire. But if a real house wife get a divorce, she will find herself broke, jobless, with no recent working experience, with lots of debts and expenses and with children to take care of. So, with 50% of marriages ending in a divorce, the fantasy ends there...
Spot on
My gosh that was dark. Also it’s not 50% of marriages… that stat is a few decades old and people just keep repeating it without actually knowing. It’s less and if religious it’s much less. Some reality thats positive for all the married people reading your comment 😬
If an already wealthy tradwife gets a divorce she is still a millionaire. There are older tradwives who are now divorced coming forward on social media to give the truth. Most tradwives are not independently wealthy and when the marriage ends, they end up with nothing.
it's still pretty close if I consider all of the weddings Ive gone to and who is still married....I would also venture to say that a decent percentage of people in a marriage arent happy either. Im 50 so Ive seen a lot of relationships at this point in my life
It's a dark thought, but honest and needs to be prepared for - 100% of relationships end in a break up or death. Ignoring thus is doing the family disservice.