You’ve quickly become one of my favorite channels on RUclips. I’m a woman but I’m on a mission to understand how a gentleman carries himself, thinks, and operates so I know what to look for when choosing a partner to date and eventually marry. You’ve helped me tremendously so thank you so much and keep up the great work.
@ Give it some time, especially after this election, lol. If you say that you meet the criteria above, then your vote should have reflected that, and the market will be flooded for you in about one more month. For MAGA men - they won’t be getting a date ever again, lol. If you haven’t yet noticed, MAGA men are diametrically OPPOSITE to every line item above.
Interesting video. My take is that you need to do these two things if you want to be the part of top 1%: 1. Develop a growth mindset, learn from your failures and mistakes, and strive to be at least 1% better than yesterday 2. Read 'Chase No More: The Path To Success, Wealth And Love' This book I mentioned is the most comprehensive guide on how to become modern, magnetic, masculine man.
What I always looked for, besides humor, was competence. When I was growing up, all men carried a Swiss army knife and knew how to use every tool in it. They could all fix a car (before computers were included) and had a well-organized tool chest in their car trunk. Men who didn't have these things were assumed to be incompetent or effeminate. Things have really changed in the last fifty years.
They learned because they had to. 60's and 70's Detroit cars weren't well built. Add in emission standards and Detroit's Rube Goldberg cheapskate solutions and you were breaking down a lot.
An excellent list. I would only say this.... if you have to actively think about being nicer to others because it will make you more attractive to a gal, then you have already missed the boat.
@Floorguy1000 - You certainly have a good point -- The concept of GENUINE result of who you are as a decent human, vs what mask can you use as bait. Also, that second character bragging about his unstoppable good fortunes and promotion in the big apple, could be either someone who is real but would care too much for career and not for her; Or, perhaps just a narcissist in process of impressing people to gain advantage from her.
As a woman who (subscribed to this channel because I think the host is handsome), I agree with most of these. Tho I wouldn't say I'm someone who lets her feelings pour out like a storm.
Doubt and humility can also be attractive male signs, since the willingness to question and reevaluate signal openness to growth, itself a sign of adaptability and maturity.
James, make videos you except what women likes. You could make anything on topics like what should we do right now to improve in current state to upgrade and improving lifestyle... Also you could do some on eating right , seeing right and speaking right
Decisiveness is one of the most attractive traits for a man, and indecision is one of the least attractive traits. Nothing makes your girlfriend want to sleep with another man more than a 30-min conversation about where the two of you should go for dinner. Women want a man who can take initiative and make confident decisions.
Men should know that success isn't built on success. It's built on failure and frustration, and on fear that you have to overcome. That's what the e-book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood taught me. The best read I ever had.
Ambition and drive." This is the trait that every woman craves". I would have to disagree with this one. When I was dating and wanted to be a dad, I was dating women who were more looking for someone who could relate to them and their children. All depends on where they are in the process of life.
@James Lawley: What you are doing here with your channel is so incredible valuable. After decades of removing traditions, fading society standards, creating an armada of influencer who are convinced to now how it works and confuse young people with their trash content, distracting people with social media etc from what should you really focus on on life, you James… you tell us information which have more and more fallen into oblivion. I wish you, that the range of coverage of your content will reach a level you have not even imagined in your wildest dreams. Actually I would like to see you producing educational videos shown in schools to teach the generations. Sadly, that is not wanted by higher forces. And nowadays … well … we put our hopes into the hands of dudes like Andrew Tate. No comment. Personally the video which I preferred most was the one where you analysed the dating advice for young men from the 1960s(?). Please more of that. Treating a lady properly (Things which go far beyond opening doors etc.), being in a relationship, how to be a good husband, being role model for kids etc. Cheers from Germany
Already the worst like/dislike ratio I've seen on a gent Z video, something tells me it's gonna be controversial Edit: After watching it, I still don't know why it's so disliked already, the only thing I guess could've been perceived negatively was the self promotion, but it only lasted like 30 seconds and every man's gotta make a living so I find no problem with that
Be confidance and belive in your self carry your self with confidance and show you dont give a fuck and its importent that you get your self out there guys and approach women rutinley. thats my advise also.
James, big fan of the videos. I would recommend some more diligence in your research for these types of videos, only because a lot of bias & pseudoscience has been found in studies on these topics. Keep up the good work.
its the opposite, actually. If a man is hot and/or tall, you can get away with lacking these traits. Women will want you. If you're average, which most of us are, then you NEED all these traits to have a chance in the dating pool.
This channel started as a channel for men who want to improve themselves. Now it has become another one of these "how to appeal to women without them noticing your simping" channels. Guess what, women dont crave men who do what they tell him to (which they would not admit, of course).
Men should concentrate on what they want in a woman. Forget what women want, sorry but be yourself nothing more nothing less. This video is more for attracting the more materialistic type, but a lot of people are artistic and Bohemian and do not care for all of that. Some parts of Europe women ae super forward, try Germany or the Netherlands, and will take the lead. We are not in living the 50s any more folks.
Nothing works more then going to more social events. I remember going to my first prom and having to ask a girl to dance. It was very intimidating, but it definitely paid off. My confidence was boosted by a large amount after that dance.
What do you think about Nietzsche? (Ik it's out of context question, sorry for that, but I saw you talking about philosophy on #2 so I just decided to ask)
Men should know that success isn't built on success. It's built on failure and frustration, and on fear that you have to overcome. That's what the e-book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood taught me. The best read I ever had.
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You’ve quickly become one of my favorite channels on RUclips. I’m a woman but I’m on a mission to understand how a gentleman carries himself, thinks, and operates so I know what to look for when choosing a partner to date and eventually marry. You’ve helped me tremendously so thank you so much and keep up the great work.
@ Thank you for your comment! You made my day. I’m glad you’re enjoying the channel so much.
“Rizz, as it’s sadly become known” lmao
I’m not usually one for slang but I like it
I hate Gen Alpha slang so much lol
These shouldn’t be skills cultivated to appeal to women, purely to improve your own life regardless of external opinion.
@@QuiescentArcadia I agree
1. An EDUCATED, WELL READ MAN.
2. A SECURE MAN
3. A MORAL MAN
4. Some self esteem and SELF RESPECT.
5. SOPHISTICATION.
And goes to the theatre
What is this 1924? It’s 2024 bitches want 7 feet tall handsome guy with 12 inches deck and 3 million dollars in his bank out
Of course, many, many women are not looking for moral men as they find them boring and old-fashioned.
I have all of these, but no wife in sight... yet!
@ Give it some time, especially after this election, lol. If you say that you meet the criteria above, then your vote should have reflected that, and the market will be flooded for you in about one more month.
For MAGA men - they won’t be getting a date ever again, lol. If you haven’t yet noticed, MAGA men are diametrically OPPOSITE to every line item above.
@@mattrushmere this is all by chance bro
Interesting video. My take is that you need to do these two things if you want to be the part of top 1%:
1. Develop a growth mindset, learn from your failures and mistakes, and strive to be at least 1% better than yesterday
2. Read 'Chase No More: The Path To Success, Wealth And Love'
This book I mentioned is the most comprehensive guide on how to become modern, magnetic, masculine man.
James, your hair looks great in this video
James always looks like a million double-dollars, lol.
What I always looked for, besides humor, was competence. When I was growing up, all men carried a Swiss army knife and knew how to use every tool in it. They could all fix a car (before computers were included) and had a well-organized tool chest in their car trunk. Men who didn't have these things were assumed to be incompetent or effeminate. Things have really changed in the last fifty years.
EXACTLY.
They learned because they had to. 60's and 70's Detroit cars weren't well built. Add in emission standards and Detroit's Rube Goldberg cheapskate solutions and you were breaking down a lot.
Thank You James.
@@faisalalt8836 thanks very much for your support
I'm so glad you're doing The Daily Stoic!
Much learning from Kenya- Africa. Your new style of videos is full of insight.
The book club convinced me. Joining now.
@@DeadWaterLies fantastic. Shoot me a message so I know it’s you!
As a women I will say that this advise is correct!!
An excellent list. I would only say this.... if you have to actively think about being nicer to others because it will make you more attractive to a gal, then you have already missed the boat.
@Floorguy1000 - You certainly have a good point -- The concept of GENUINE result of who you are as a decent human, vs what mask can you use as bait. Also, that second character bragging about his unstoppable good fortunes and promotion in the big apple, could be either someone who is real but would care too much for career and not for her; Or, perhaps just a narcissist in process of impressing people to gain advantage from her.
As a woman who (subscribed to this channel because I think the host is handsome), I agree with most of these. Tho I wouldn't say I'm someone who lets her feelings pour out like a storm.
Doubt and humility can also be attractive male signs, since the willingness to question and reevaluate signal openness to growth, itself a sign of adaptability and maturity.
I've realized that all these traits will come much easier when you get proper sleep. A lack of sleep makes you unmotivated, depressed, ect..
James, make videos you except what women likes. You could make anything on topics like what should we do right now to improve in current state to upgrade and improving lifestyle... Also you could do some on eating right , seeing right and speaking right
Decisiveness is one of the most attractive traits for a man, and indecision is one of the least attractive traits. Nothing makes your girlfriend want to sleep with another man more than a 30-min conversation about where the two of you should go for dinner. Women want a man who can take initiative and make confident decisions.
Men should know that success isn't built on success. It's built on failure and frustration, and on fear that you have to overcome. That's what the e-book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood taught me. The best read I ever had.
I am glad he brought up stoicism. Stoic skills are a good collection of skills to practice. I was going to recommend such to the creator.
Ambition and drive." This is the trait that every woman craves". I would have to disagree with this one. When I was dating and wanted to be a dad, I was dating women who were more looking for someone who could relate to them and their children. All depends on where they are in the process of life.
he talks about personality, but he forgot about the looks
Well spoken indeed! ...but the red hand, and the red cartoon figure, -- scary, like the devil 😖
sir...your consistency
Interesting aspect. For today's women, this also makes you very intimidating as they are challenged to "measure up".
I personally recommend this novel well worth reading gentlemen
I have read this last summer
@James Lawley: What you are doing here with your channel is so incredible valuable. After decades of removing traditions, fading society standards, creating an armada of influencer who are convinced to now how it works and confuse young people with their trash content, distracting people with social media etc from what should you really focus on on life, you James… you tell us information which have more and more fallen into oblivion. I wish you, that the range of coverage of your content will reach a level you have not even imagined in your wildest dreams.
Actually I would like to see you producing educational videos shown in schools to teach the generations. Sadly, that is not wanted by higher forces. And nowadays … well … we put our hopes into the hands of dudes like Andrew Tate. No comment.
Personally the video which I preferred most was the one where you analysed the dating advice for young men from the 1960s(?). Please more of that. Treating a lady properly (Things which go far beyond opening doors etc.), being in a relationship, how to be a good husband, being role model for kids etc.
Cheers from Germany
When my women expressed their "emotions" its scary and truly off-putting. So Id rather stay single. Price of sex is too high for a man I think.
James Bond can be a major inspiration for staying calm in the face of chaos.
Already the worst like/dislike ratio I've seen on a gent Z video, something tells me it's gonna be controversial
Edit: After watching it, I still don't know why it's so disliked already, the only thing I guess could've been perceived negatively was the self promotion, but it only lasted like 30 seconds and every man's gotta make a living so I find no problem with that
How can you see the dislike number ?
@mtlicq browser extension
And one other thing :)
Be confidance and belive in your self carry your self with confidance and show you dont give a fuck and its importent that you get your self out there guys and approach women rutinley. thats my advise also.
James, big fan of the videos. I would recommend some more diligence in your research for these types of videos, only because a lot of bias & pseudoscience has been found in studies on these topics. Keep up the good work.
1:50 what about instant attraction? When you are very handsome to them but you can't "provide"
MONEY MONEY MONEY
Have you ever heard a mother tell her daughter to find a man who wants to stay home and take care of the children instead of getting a job?
Advice for short manlets?
what happend? why so many dislikes?
How can you see ‘dislikes’?
@scrappymark Firefox add on called "return youtube dislike"
This is all BS. A woman wants a finished product.
You could have all 5 of these traits and if you aren't physically attractive this won't work
Or at least SIX feet TALL
bruh atleast average height like 5 8 5 10
its the opposite, actually. If a man is hot and/or tall, you can get away with lacking these traits. Women will want you. If you're average, which most of us are, then you NEED all these traits to have a chance in the dating pool.
When you realise you've been doing everything right
Good hygiene and dress well on dates
Being funny
In some ways I think these traits are innate. Your father should have taught you the rest although I realize not everyone has this luxury.
No two women are looking for the exact same man. I s he kidding?
This channel started as a channel for men who want to improve themselves. Now it has become another one of these "how to appeal to women without them noticing your simping" channels. Guess what, women dont crave men who do what they tell him to (which they would not admit, of course).
Ryan Holiday write great prose, but his research is awful.
Sustine et abstine.
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Some would argue that too much humor or certain types of humor indicate lack of intelligence.
Men should concentrate on what they want in a woman. Forget what women want, sorry but be yourself nothing more nothing less. This video is more for attracting the more materialistic type, but a lot of people are artistic and Bohemian and do not care for all of that. Some parts of Europe women ae super forward, try Germany or the Netherlands, and will take the lead. We are not in living the 50s any more folks.
Cillian Murphy's too short and too pretty. Pierce Brosnan"s gorgeous, and Colin Firth
You'd be surprised how many girls like Thomas Shelby... I mean Cillian Murphy
As long as the woman is smart, well educated, mentaly sane and has a good parental figure, all these will work
That's asking a lot lmao
None of this matters if your ugly, if she’s not physically attracted to you she won’t even give you a chance to talk to her
I don't know... there are some pretty ugly guys out there with attractive women in their lives.
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Thank you for starting off the comments
Wallet and height 💩
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#5 as a social awkward person, do you have any tips to fix my confidence
Listen to music that hypes you up before any social gathering.
@@silverwolf6194 the 'Training montages' from Rocky Movies always gets me pumped up.
Nothing works more then going to more social events. I remember going to my first prom and having to ask a girl to dance. It was very intimidating, but it definitely paid off. My confidence was boosted by a large amount after that dance.
@@Will-fc2iu Do you have any ideas how to get to social events when my friends don't go/organise things like this
Get an education, and study martial arts for 5 years.
What do you think about Nietzsche? (Ik it's out of context question, sorry for that, but I saw you talking about philosophy on #2 so I just decided to ask)
Nietzsche refused the woman he loved most and she even loved him back, and he died as an insane man. Not good advice to follow after Nietzsche
Men should know that success isn't built on success. It's built on failure and frustration, and on fear that you have to overcome. That's what the e-book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood taught me. The best read I ever had.