Retirement Transitions: Don't Rush Through It

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  • Опубликовано: 23 дек 2024

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  • @Dr.DorisTorres
    @Dr.DorisTorres Месяц назад +2

    I really appreciate your authentic and honest chats. Your advice is so valuable, and the sprinkles of humor, empathy, and kindness makes watching your videos awesome! 👏🏼 ❤ ✨

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  Месяц назад +1

      Awww....thanks, Dr. Doris! I appreciate you!

  • @Bellamama-lj9nd
    @Bellamama-lj9nd 10 дней назад

    This is super helpful as I think about retirement. Appreciate your willingness to share. Thank you.

  • @suekurtz1024
    @suekurtz1024 18 дней назад

    I like your videos. All the same thoughts going through my head. I am 64. My long time employer just merged with a bigger office. I didn’t see all the changes coming. I never really thought about retirement before and now am forced to think about it. Work is now extremely stressful. Side note. I like your collection of earrings.

  • @Mary-tj5qx
    @Mary-tj5qx 3 месяца назад +6

    You’re making me realize yet another reason my decision to retire early in 8 months from now is a no brainer. I work in an environment where nobody is happy and I can’t relate to any of my coworkers. I’m enduring it for a bit longer to ensure that when i walk from this that i never have to do this kind of corporate crap ever again. Back to the newly realized benefit, I definitely will not miss the job or my coworkers.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +3

      It's a little easier to endure that kind of a situation with a light at the end of the tunnel that isn't years out. Hang in there. It sounds like you aren't letting it mess with your goals and getting yourself where you need to go. Thanks for stopping by!

  • @AyaSmith-rb2hp
    @AyaSmith-rb2hp 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you! I retired at 58 and am now 65. It has been a difficult transition due to the unexpected death of my 29 year old son and my father a few weeks later. I just have found that I enjoy slow living. Structure is so important, I had to add some of that to feel less lost.
    Found I love long walks with my dog in nature and water aerobics. 8:09

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  2 месяца назад

      My goodness, you have experienced some really difficult events all at once. I'm so, so sorry for your loses. Being gentle with yourself, which it sounds like you are doing, is so important. You can't rush through grief, you can only learn to live with it somehow. I've not historically been a lover of structure but I do find that it helps when you are trying to sort through life transitions. Something to hold on to during the chaos. Thanks for sharing this with me and thanks for stopping by.

  • @dee4435
    @dee4435 3 месяца назад +5

    Just turned 63. Plan to retire in January 2025. Living alone makes it a little daunting. But I've worked long and hard. TY for this video.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      You're so welcome. I'm so happy for you that retirement is so close. You deserve time for YOU. Whatever that looks like. Thanks for stopping by.

  • @ManhattanRats
    @ManhattanRats 3 месяца назад +3

    My routine is totally disrupted! Precisely! Thank you for articulating that. Robert in NYC.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      Thanks for the feedback, Robert.

  • @PanChristodoulou-go8pq
    @PanChristodoulou-go8pq 3 месяца назад +5

    A retired lady, since November 1st 2023 discoverd your chanel yesterday. So before I delete any more messages, I give you a big warm hug. You are a real deep nise and wise soul. I will keep in touch. Not able to right what is going on with me. Being lazy for close a year is it alright? Not stress anymore but my plans disappeared. I try to find out who I really am. Now or before was the real me? Doing nothis is it alright?
    Lot's of love. Love and health to you and family. Yiota❤

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +2

      There is no "wrong" way. Do what serves your needs and your soul. There is a huge difference between being lazy and resting. And there's nothing wrong with lazy, either, if that's what makes you happy. Thanks, Yiota!

  • @Mary-tj5qx
    @Mary-tj5qx 3 месяца назад +2

    One thing I’m doing 8 months out from my retirement date is really focusing on getting my health and diet and exercise optimized. There’s a great deal we can to give ourselves the best chance of a good long and healthy retirement, so I’m prioritizing that now. I’m on a health journey, modifying my eating patterns for optimum metabolic health. This is not only paying dividends - weight loss without that being the main goal - it’s a lifestyle I know i can maintain AND it’s giving me something super positive to focus on while i get through this last stretch at a pretty awful job.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +1

      That's amazing (the health journey, not the awful job)! We're just starting to really focus on our eating habits, optimizing for nutrient density and to address some of the not-yet-serious indications we're seeing (cholesterol, blood sugar etc) before things get out of hand. Lifestyle is exactly it, isn't it. Sounds like you are putting yourself on a good path!

  • @Carnegiered52
    @Carnegiered52 2 месяца назад +1

    It’s been a year since I retired in my early sixties. I thought it would be easy but it’s been a rough transition to say the least.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  2 месяца назад

      Exactly! I think so many people assume it will be easy and it certainly isn't for everyone. Any transition is difficult, but especially one that involves creating a new purpose and identity and life structure. I'm going to be doing more videos on exactly these topics, so I hope you'll come back. I'm not an expert by any means, but I'm hear to share my experience and insights as they happen on my journey.

  • @Felicia8888
    @Felicia8888 2 месяца назад +1

    Sorry to hear about your health issues and wish you good health in the future. I feel like it took me a long time to feel like I had a new normal so your story helped me realize this happens to a lot of people. Thanks for sharing with us.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  2 месяца назад

      I appreciate you stopping by. Thanks!

  • @Lifeinthewyldewest
    @Lifeinthewyldewest 3 месяца назад +1

    Your subs are climbing fast! I’m so proud of you.
    I would like to say I’m retired. Now I just say I don’t work.
    I have many of the retirement perks minus the money😂
    My first year of quitting my job, I battled depression and it was not easy. I felt lost.
    I thought it was going to be bliss however working 31 years same job with never more than a 2 week vacation. It took me way more to decompress than I realized.
    This video and your wise advice made me feel so much better.
    6 months after I quit, I started this channel. It’s been a slow go however YT has greatly helped in finding my worth.
    Sometimes it feels therapeutic even.
    This is all such great advice. I think it’s rad many of my connections have been right here virtually on YT along with ones I have in my real life.
    You are such a strong person Kris, I’m so glad you are now cancer free and started a new exciting chapter, after decompression of course.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      My last vid was crazy, subs and watch hours. Grateful and also need to keep my expectations in check so as not to take things personally. So far so good.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      Your experience post-career is more common than people realize. I hope I can help someone not be taken off-guard by the feelings they may have. I love watching how you find so much joy and wonder in the little things that are so beautiful about life.

  • @Approaching60
    @Approaching60 3 месяца назад +2

    Brilliant video, Kris! You shared some really insightful points and great strategies. I also enjoyed hearing about your retirement experience (I hope you are well and recovered now). You’re doing such a wonderful service to help those of us in or nearing retirement to go through this transition. You have such a clear and sincere way of communicating.💕

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +2

      Thank you! I'll be cancer free for 5 years this coming up February. I appreciate you stopping by.

    • @Approaching60
      @Approaching60 3 месяца назад

      @@RobinsonKris Wonderful!!! 💕

  • @WeAreItalyBound
    @WeAreItalyBound 2 месяца назад

    Great information! We are planning on retiring in Italy when we retire. We're not quite there yet, but we're so ready! We even started a channel to document the whole process. ☺

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  Месяц назад +1

      WOW! So exciting. I'll check out your channel. What a great idea to share not just the big move eventually, but the process you are going through to get there.

    • @WeAreItalyBound
      @WeAreItalyBound Месяц назад +1

      @@RobinsonKris Thank you!! We’re excited about it!

  • @kristannonfire
    @kristannonfire 3 месяца назад +1

    Hi Kris! My name is Kris too. I just retired at the end of May 2024 at age 56 (my husband is 59 and he also retired at age 56). I’ve really enjoyed retirement so far, but I definitely have had some issues with feeling guilty that I’m not “productive” like I was when I was working. I have to keep reminding myself that I’ve earned this phase of life and I don’t have to feel guilty if I want to spend the day reading a book or putzing around the house. I’m glad YT sent me to your channel! It sounds like you’ve had an interesting retirement so far!

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +1

      Hi Kris! Thanks for watching. I hope you keep reminding yourself that you do deserve this. Whatever "this" is for you.

  • @mariabc9815
    @mariabc9815 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for your advice. I listened to a lot of retirement videos but your videos seem really authentic. Really appreciate it.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  2 месяца назад

      Wow, that means so much. Thank you for taking the time to comment so thoughtfully. I appreciate YOU stopping by!

  • @julieann-lz7wg
    @julieann-lz7wg 3 месяца назад +3

    Great to listen to. Im in England and considering whether to retire next year or the year after. All financial considerations but am thinking a little more deeply having listened to this!

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      Thank you! When I started looking for books, videos, articles etc on retirement, all I could find was info related to money. You do have to have that sorted out so it's really important, but it's not the ONLY thing to consider. You can have the best financial plan and nest egg ever, but if you are then lost, bored, or otherwise unhappy what good does it do? Thanks for stopping by.

  • @travelingexpats
    @travelingexpats 3 месяца назад +1

    It's was a huge life change when I first retired and I felt a bit lost in the beginning. I didn't expect to feel so lost and emotional. It was definitely a process trying to figure out a new routine for myself. Things got much better once my husband retired and we started traveling frequently. We stayed busy restarting our RUclips channel and it gave us something to focus on besides aimlessly traveling. Now we've figured out a good mix of traveling and spending time with loved ones. Retirement is great but it's definitely a big adjustment.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +1

      I can imagine that having one person retired and the other not would be a whole other set of challenges. We did it together, by chance. And while we were living abroad it was different than it is now that we are back in the states with family (who is not retired). Hoping to get back on the road, or in the air, in a couple of years. Thanks for stopping by (again).

  • @schoolneverteach
    @schoolneverteach 3 месяца назад +3

    The analogy of not being able to stop a speeding train is so apt.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +1

      Thanks! I think people forget to allow themselves time to change speeds.

    • @schoolneverteach
      @schoolneverteach 3 месяца назад

      @@RobinsonKris well said

  • @gratefulpitnicker
    @gratefulpitnicker 3 месяца назад +1

    I’m less than a week away from one year of retirement. Knowing my personality and the value I put on work, I decided to get a part-time, no stress job as a way to leave the mental fatigue in the past. This worked tremendously for me and I wouldn’t change a thing about this process.
    Nearly one year in, I’m almost 62 yrs old and fortunately healthy; hoping to be decompressed enough to give up even the part time job by the time I’m 65 - almost forty years working a job that didn’t do anything for my life but put food on the table.
    Thanks for your nice video 👍

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +1

      Thank YOU for stopping by. The phasing concept works so well for some people. Sounds like it was the right choice for you.

  • @lindadorman2869
    @lindadorman2869 2 месяца назад +1

    After a career in international development across 40 countries, I planned to retire abroad. But as I was researching retirement visa programs, I started my own business in the US at age 60. Now 4 years later, my business has grown and I’m rethinking my plans. I enjoy what I do, and the income supplements my Social Security and pension benefits. What surprises me the most is how my desire to live somewhere else has changed. I already live a comfortable life in a great city and am rediscovering it all. Life keeps changing...

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  2 месяца назад

      Linda, I can very much relate to that. I really wanted to live overseas for many years. We got 3 years in Mexico before we needed to move back for family reasons. I thought I would really be unhappy here, but I'm not at all! We'll likely spend significant amounts of time in other countries when our family obligations change, but if not, I'm happier than I thought here.
      Thanks for stopping by.

  • @ga6589
    @ga6589 3 месяца назад +2

    I might be an oddity, but I had no qualms about retirement. When someone asks me what I do, I say that I do whatever the heck I want! I'm ten years in and feel wonderful! My husband is also retired and feels the same way.

  • @AgingOnYourTerms
    @AgingOnYourTerms 3 месяца назад

    Great insights. We're all on our own journey, but this is universally relatable information.

  • @tashasc1
    @tashasc1 3 месяца назад +3

    One month in...I am going through this right now.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      First, congrats on retiring! Be gentle with yourself. There's no "right" way to do it. There is just YOUR way.

  • @AmandaJYoungs
    @AmandaJYoungs 3 месяца назад

    Nice, thoughtful video. Things are generally not quite the same financially for us here in the UK as they are for you in the USA, or people in other parts of the world, but the general issue of adjusting is the same. It's quite an adventure! Thank you, Kris!

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      I know finances are different place to place, person to person. Everyone has different challenges and different opportunities. Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words.

  • @elizabethholliday6059
    @elizabethholliday6059 3 месяца назад +1

    18 months in, this is helpful, thank you.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      Oh, good! I appreciate you stopping by.

  • @JackieWolven
    @JackieWolven 3 месяца назад +1

    Ooooo I will be sending this to a friend recently retired.

  • @ireneking6885
    @ireneking6885 3 месяца назад +1

    Great video. I’m in month 2 of retirement. I always said I didn’t really like people but I realize I do need them. I have a large family so am blessed there. But also have some great friends who are great at keeping in touch. Also, working on how/when I want to do any exercise stuff. And some day trips I need to actually act on. Overall, it’s just transitional that needs maybe some pre planning. Still working on it 👍🏾

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +1

      Sounds like you are well on your way. I also have a large family (20+ in a 15 min. drive) and it does help. Thanks for stopping by.

  • @MindSoulGrit
    @MindSoulGrit 3 месяца назад +1

    Thanks for the helpful video. I’m sorry to hear about the health issues you had to go through. I started working as a teenager and have always been employed, so now, at 52, I’m unemployed. My ex-organization went through restructuring at the end of the pandemic, and I did go through a phase of an identity crisis. Accustomed to being ‘productive’ during my employee years, it took a while for me to stop beating myself up for not managing to get a new job quickly. Slowly, I started to realise that I might not be able to get one and began making meaning of this new phase of my life; my RUclips channel is part of it. It is interesting to hear about experiences and perspectives.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      Joane, It sounds like we've been on a somewhat similar journey. It's REALLY hard to get a job in your 50s. I hate to say that as a former HR professional because I'd like to think that agism isn't a thing, but it is. And I knew it when I decided not to even try to get a new job.
      RUclips IS great for having something to focus on, create, nurture and to get a sense of purpose. Identity crisis (which I think is largely what a "midlife crisis" is) is a real thing. One of the comments on another one of my videos said "we know what we are retiring FROM, we just don't know what we are retiring TO" and I thought that was brilliant.
      I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. I have several of your videos teed up to watch later today!

    • @MindSoulGrit
      @MindSoulGrit 3 месяца назад

      @@RobinsonKris Thank you for your kind response. It really does sound like we’ve walked similar paths. It’s so validating to hear from someone who understands the frustrations of job searching at this stage of life-there’s indeed a certain unspoken reality around ageism, unfortunately.
      I’m really grateful for your support and look forward to hearing your thoughts on my videos.

  • @suekurtz1024
    @suekurtz1024 18 дней назад

    I like

  • @gailirvine343
    @gailirvine343 3 месяца назад +1

    I'm going through it.

  • @SoneCantala-j1n
    @SoneCantala-j1n 3 месяца назад

    I love working

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      You're so lucky! I know quite a few people who do and that's fantastic. Thanks for stopping by.

  • @JaneThorson-dm3ev
    @JaneThorson-dm3ev 3 месяца назад +2

    Retired 2 months ago. A bit weird.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +1

      Right? It takes time to find a new normal.

  • @scottjackson163
    @scottjackson163 3 месяца назад +1

    I guess this video is meant for women. I don’t know. It came up in my RUclips feed. Because I’m preparing to retire - whatever that means, “preparing” - I decided to comment. I realize that what I’m supposed to be focusing on is the prospect of extended time freedom and absence of stress, but I’m understanding already that retirement for me is going to entail unrelenting project management, just not in a corporate environment.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад +2

      Interesting, I didn't intend for it to be meant for women (about 45% of my audience according to RUclips are men). Do you think it's going to entail project management because you have things you want or need to accomplish or do you have that impression because of the way I've portrayed it? I have found it a little challenging to disconnect from my "corporate behaviors" and I'm not sure if it's because I actually enjoy some of them or if it's just habit.
      For instance, I find looking at and analyzing my metrics on RUclips to be really interesting (they provide a LOT of metrics). Makes me feel like I'm in a board meeting again with each video being a product and I am challenged with gleaning insights into performance and how it should inform future product development. And then I shake my head and think, what am I doing? Shouldn't I be out in the garden, or painting or something? And the answer (for me) is that I "should" be doing whatever is making me happy and it can be all of those things. It's a soup with many ingredients and it's going to be different for everyone.
      I appreciate you watching and commenting. I'm curious to hear how your journey progresses.

    • @scottjackson163
      @scottjackson163 3 месяца назад +1

      @@RobinsonKris Wow. I’ll start by thanking you for responding so thoughtfully to my comment. You and I would, I suspect, have a lot to talk about if we met in person. I’m a Program Manager, Principal at a systems engineering consulting firm. I think in “project manager ways” about many things, but especially about retirement planning. Nothing in your video stressed me out. I do a fine job of that all on my own. 🤣 I would have to write a tome to explain my transition-related worries. I’ll just say that 90% or more of my concerns pertain to family relationship issues. I’m grateful to have in place already what I think is an adequate (or better) replacement identity. I make visual art (about 40 pieces so far). I’m writing a novel. At age 66, I still ride dirt bikes (Kawasaki KLX 300). I’m confident that I’ll be okay about exiting corporate culture, as long as my health holds up. I also have a 4 year old granddaughter. I love her more than life itself. From Joe Walsh, “I can’t complain but sometimes I still do; life’s been good to me so far.” ❤️

  • @charmcrypto824
    @charmcrypto824 3 месяца назад

    Really appreciated the advice about taking your time with retirement. I think the emotional transition is so underrated! I’ve been thinking about diversifying my retirement savings to stay flexible in the long run-anyone else looking at things like crypto? I’ve been using My Digital Money, and it’s been super easy to balance everything out.

    • @RobinsonKris
      @RobinsonKris  3 месяца назад

      We have crypto and AI investments. I think it's really important to pay attention to, and at least have a rudimentary understanding of all of that. Thanks for stopping by.