Dude is much more then just a saint, ain't no way anyone is just going to take all this crap one after another after another, and still consider everything he is doing as for her. He isn't doing divorcing her for himself, he is divorcing her because if he doesn't he will absolutely murder her. This Ain't just a saint, this dude is personification of patience, and the pinicle of forgivness.
YELLING AT YOUR PARTNER WHOS ALREADY YELLING AT YOU IS MIT ABUSE. He is not abusive. He should’ve divorced her before he found out about the substance abuse. The min she said she’s an in home slave that shoulda been the end of it
No no no no no no, this is not him being abusing, it’s her. She mentally tortured him to getting back into substance, and he could very well sue for emotional abuse.
All of this and the OP still feels it was his fault. I say it's the wife and her friends fault, as that friend caused this whole downspiral. Hope OP will feel better, as barely any of this was something he could have avoided. Yes, he could've made the weight lighter on the wife with the whole divorce conversation and more, but it was 80% the wife's fault.
@beast_boy_Khanna and that's the problem. Women keep going for gender equality, yet pull the "I have less rights card" the second they are the suspect. There will never be equality no matter what
When she first came out he only wanted her to adjust to being out of the care before divorcing her and offered to help her to move out he didn't really take her back he wanted to help her get a stable life after the divorce so she doesn't fall back onto drugs but he decided to over dose herself to manipulate him into taker her back now hes upset and thinks she was amazing by old memories before she got terrible. He needs to realise she had illegal drugs around his children and could have killed them if they got to them
This man was really in love. People could hate him but this is really how love looks. I feel so sorry for him and his family, i hope one day the pain doesnt haunt them but the memories they have left become something they can remember her by
@@RoyalHAMM exactly, a simp is a "golden retriever" significant other. Calling someone a simp as an insult is like saying "yous a dumbass for being caring"
I don’t know how tf he didn’t get fed up with her. She was one of those people you just couldn’t help. He was patient and kind, and did everything he could to help her, but she wouldn’t stop hanging around that damn “friend” that was so selfish she hesitated to call an ambulance since it would get her in trouble with the law. Nothing he could’ve done, he’ll he did everything he could’ve done, but she did nothing to help herself
Long story short, op found out wife was using, wife went to rehab, op said he wanted divorce, wife od, wife passed, younger kids upset, oldest kid angry, op depressed
She was the one out of line your reaction sounds too calm and you're blaming yourself where there's no blame for but it's always good to check up on people like in her state but it's still not your fault you were sure you found all the substances do not blame yourself she chose to not think of her children well being and the mental impact it would have on them you did your best
Divorce your wife, get sole custody of the kids, sue her friend for spousal alienation, and get even quickly. The friend helped to kill your wife. You did.not. it is not your fault. There's no place you can hide, when you're crippled inside.
tl;dr Her friend was supplying her with drugs so husband checked her into rehab. Friend of wife send videos of wife cheating. Husband plans to divorce wife once she gets out. She gets out husband takes her home and explains how he wants a divorce, she quietly goes goes into the guest room. Husband thinks nothing of it. She does drugs in the guest room, she ODs and becomes comatose. She wakes up, husband and wife are overcome with love and try to reconcile, do therapy, etc, ultimately she does drugs again and passes.
100% the last thing he even said to her before the first od was they should focus on being better parents she chose to focus on doing all the drugs she had left instead
@@Indiana_Jesus The sad thing about all of this is that he's still maintaining that she loved her kids more than anything else in life. I don't mean to sound crass, but that is utterly ridiculous and not true at all. If that was the case, then she would still be there with her husband working on their relationship and taking care of their children! No, she chose the drugs and her friendship over everything else! It took my cubs quite some time to come to the truth about their own mother. I almost feel bad for not telling them constantly that their mother didn't care enough, but I didn't want to be "that parent!" I did eventually try to explain it to them once they were older, but it still took a lot of hurt from her end before they realized it. They now almost have zero contact with their mother. It's sad...
I know this supposed to be a tragic, but he's an idiot. First time okay, but after the OD on the second time, all the flags are crimsons. I know hindsight is 20/20, but even a blind man could have seen the writing on the wall. Biggest mistake was giving her the time of day after hospital visit.
@@dragunkod Let's be honest, modern day feminism, isn't even feminism, the modern day feminist sold themselves to the patriarchy for a false sense of control when these rich men told them "do whatever you want without responsibilities" not realizing the only reason why those rich men told them to do that is so those men can use them and take absolutely no responsibility, just to pawn the responsibility of these women and themselves onto other men, so they can continue to trick women into this false sense of superiority. Modern day feminism is basically created by left wing Andrew Tate's, with the only goal being to use and abuse as many women as possible. Absolutely spitting and stomping on the very fundamentals that actual feminism put into place.
Yes, if you don’t have to yell at each other that means you don’t have any major disagreements and your relationship won’t be halted by them, sorry you can’t understand that because form this comment i am sure your parents didn’t love each other and probably didn’t love you
I wish this man would have manned up when his wife asked him to, weak soul, let this woman completely walk on him to her own detriment. You are supposed to be a pillar of strength for your family as a husband and a father, being assertive and dominant is apart of the role, when you let your wife take those roles from you NOTHING GOOD will come of it.
there’s nothing wrong with forgiving someone. it’s taking back the toxicity into your life is what the issue is. you can still forgive someone and keep ties cut for your own well being
@@ejmdenhamthat’s not forgiveness. To just say oh it never happened oh well. There is an old saying. Forgiveness can be your benediction, forgetting can be your damnation.
@@ejmdenham Forgiveness is for oneself, to move on and not let something bother. It isn't treating someone that wronged you as if they never wronged you. That's trust. That is a belief that a person who wronged you has learned from their mistake and will never do it again. You can forgive someone and trust they won't wrong you a second time. They are mutually exclusive.
@@railey_boy there was no mention of any brushes with death only the eventual death that was drug related, if you mean drug use then sure but that doesn't mean he HAS to stay only that it would be much nicer for HER if he did. but it all depends on the circumstances and people so nothing is 100%
I’m honestly appalled at these comments. The wife made mistakes, everyone does. And I bet if you were in an unstable mindset and your world was falling apart, you’d want to make the mistake of ending it all too. I’m upset that eveyone thinks this man is stupid for not leaving her sooner and stuff like that. But it’s clear he obviously cared for her, and was; like everyone else; human. There were mistakes made on both sides. Yet everyone here is upset that these people weren’t perfect and made better choices. If you people truly mean what you say, then you wouldn’t mind your partner dumping you because you made some bad choices. This comment may be a bad choice on my part, but I mean every word I said.
there were mistakes made on one side… her side. she had opportunities, she had chances he did everything he could and she stupidly chose trusting some two faced hoe who was more obsessed about corrupting his wife than about trying to save her life when she was dying. you are ignorant.
Dude she is a grown ass adult shr is the only one responsible for her world falling apart, there isnt even a step towards any kind of resolution from her side, instead accepting her mistakes and taking accountabilty, she tried to manipulate him and did suceeded it, i dont have any symphaty towards any of these people because they are both dumbasses
Her Actions were multiple kinds of abuse. You think He should have Just sucked IT Up and "be a man" so she can walk all over him? He tried to Deal with IT the best He could but probably should have divorced sooner. The Red Flags were visible.
There's some bad choices, and there's doing hard drugs, cheating, and expecting OP to do everything while also making the same amount of money and still taking her on dates. In a relationship, thoes all are crossed boundaries, and she is incredibly selfish for doing thoes things
She made her choices clear, and she has to take responsibility for her actions just like everybody else. Caring for someone doesn't mean you need to turn a blind eye to every bad decision they make, then blame yourself for the mess. That causes more problems. It's over between them. Peace ✌🏻
This man is not fit to be a parent either. Why are you letting an addict and cheater close to your sons? Because you want to play happy abusive family again? You’re putting your children’s lives at stake. Real pieces of work, both of them and those children must be traumatised.
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This guy is so damn close to a Saint and patient man. Honestly, it sounds like he was a great father and husband, and didn't deserve what happened.
He is trying to not turn into the bad person he used to be.
This hit hard.
Dude is much more then just a saint, ain't no way anyone is just going to take all this crap one after another after another, and still consider everything he is doing as for her. He isn't doing divorcing her for himself, he is divorcing her because if he doesn't he will absolutely murder her. This Ain't just a saint, this dude is personification of patience, and the pinicle of forgivness.
This man is the biggest angel you could ever think of, it's just incredible how this man handled everything.
tbh hes too forgiving he let it spiral if he would of put his foot down on the first time it could of stopped there
@@formoth3rrussia472
Shut up
This is why men care about who your friends are. This is not a unique situation.
YELLING AT YOUR PARTNER WHOS ALREADY YELLING AT YOU IS MIT ABUSE. He is not abusive. He should’ve divorced her before he found out about the substance abuse. The min she said she’s an in home slave that shoulda been the end of it
No no no no no no, this is not him being abusing, it’s her. She mentally tortured him to getting back into substance, and he could very well sue for emotional abuse.
Can't sue a dead person
All of this and the OP still feels it was his fault. I say it's the wife and her friends fault, as that friend caused this whole downspiral. Hope OP will feel better, as barely any of this was something he could have avoided. Yes, he could've made the weight lighter on the wife with the whole divorce conversation and more, but it was 80% the wife's fault.
If you see realistically any human being will start putting the blame on his head in these situations
@beast_boy_Khanna and that's the problem. Women keep going for gender equality, yet pull the "I have less rights card" the second they are the suspect. There will never be equality no matter what
@@beast_boy_Khanna how
what dude did wrong was take her back. There ended up being no consequences for her actions, nothing changed so there was nothing to stop the use
When she first came out he only wanted her to adjust to being out of the care before divorcing her and offered to help her to move out he didn't really take her back he wanted to help her get a stable life after the divorce so she doesn't fall back onto drugs but he decided to over dose herself to manipulate him into taker her back now hes upset and thinks she was amazing by old memories before she got terrible. He needs to realise she had illegal drugs around his children and could have killed them if they got to them
This man was really in love. People could hate him but this is really how love looks. I feel so sorry for him and his family, i hope one day the pain doesnt haunt them but the memories they have left become something they can remember her by
This all happens just because that one friend
Lesson learned be careful who your friends with and don't let them influence u
This man really needs to be repeatedly told that none of it is his fault his wife's choices are none of his
honestly all i got from this is he was so ungodly supportive it made it so much worse wife is 100% the worst ever but ive never seen such a simp
Bruh simp?-
The fuck
@@MorsAlgic we were taught simps by incels😭 to me a simp is someone who would drop anything for a girl
@@RoyalHAMM exactly, a simp is a "golden retriever" significant other. Calling someone a simp as an insult is like saying "yous a dumbass for being caring"
this comment really said "I'm a Chad kid, and I cheat on my girl"
WHAT. Bro if my husband offered a date night like that “A movie night in and I paint her nails” the speed at which I’d accept 😭😭
Why not ask him?
I don’t know how tf he didn’t get fed up with her.
She was one of those people you just couldn’t help.
He was patient and kind, and did everything he could to help her, but she wouldn’t stop hanging around that damn “friend” that was so selfish she hesitated to call an ambulance since it would get her in trouble with the law.
Nothing he could’ve done, he’ll he did everything he could’ve done, but she did nothing to help herself
He is so nice, bro ur not respo isble for the hospital, it's her. Man of the x amount of years he was married to her. A real og...
Long story short, op found out wife was using, wife went to rehab, op said he wanted divorce, wife od, wife passed, younger kids upset, oldest kid angry, op depressed
Thanks
I wouldve immediately went after that friend to make sure she was deep in court fees
'Raised my voice which I understand could be considered abuse' - sir, you are a victum
Misandry isn’t something to just gloss over bro
Good for him!!!
She was the one out of line your reaction sounds too calm and you're blaming yourself where there's no blame for but it's always good to check up on people like in her state but it's still not your fault you were sure you found all the substances do not blame yourself she chose to not think of her children well being and the mental impact it would have on them you did your best
That friend should be arrested
Divorce your wife, get sole custody of the kids, sue her friend for spousal alienation, and get even quickly. The friend helped to kill your wife. You did.not. it is not your fault. There's no place you can hide, when you're crippled inside.
Wife is a horrible person, and this poor guy, hope everything works out for him
tl;dr Her friend was supplying her with drugs so husband checked her into rehab. Friend of wife send videos of wife cheating. Husband plans to divorce wife once she gets out. She gets out husband takes her home and explains how he wants a divorce, she quietly goes goes into the guest room. Husband thinks nothing of it. She does drugs in the guest room, she ODs and becomes comatose. She wakes up, husband and wife are overcome with love and try to reconcile, do therapy, etc, ultimately she does drugs again and passes.
He is not responsible
100% the last thing he even said to her before the first od was they should focus on being better parents she chose to focus on doing all the drugs she had left instead
@@Indiana_Jesus The sad thing about all of this is that he's still maintaining that she loved her kids more than anything else in life. I don't mean to sound crass, but that is utterly ridiculous and not true at all. If that was the case, then she would still be there with her husband working on their relationship and taking care of their children! No, she chose the drugs and her friendship over everything else!
It took my cubs quite some time to come to the truth about their own mother. I almost feel bad for not telling them constantly that their mother didn't care enough, but I didn't want to be "that parent!" I did eventually try to explain it to them once they were older, but it still took a lot of hurt from her end before they realized it. They now almost have zero contact with their mother. It's sad...
"turns out life is short" 💀
I almost cried from listening to this story
“So you see”
Op spoiled her too much
Men… that was never 50/50. Don’t let yourself be used. The outcome is always a destroyed soul, if not nipped in the bud.
I know this supposed to be a tragic, but he's an idiot. First time okay, but after the OD on the second time, all the flags are crimsons. I know hindsight is 20/20, but even a blind man could have seen the writing on the wall. Biggest mistake was giving her the time of day after hospital visit.
He needed to seriously search the house for drugs to prevent more damage also everyone just keeps ignoring the fact the wife was cheating on him
@@hubbleiddiothe searched, but accident always happen.
That is modern feminism in a nutshell
@@dragunkod Let's be honest, modern day feminism, isn't even feminism, the modern day feminist sold themselves to the patriarchy for a false sense of control when these rich men told them "do whatever you want without responsibilities" not realizing the only reason why those rich men told them to do that is so those men can use them and take absolutely no responsibility, just to pawn the responsibility of these women and themselves onto other men, so they can continue to trick women into this false sense of superiority.
Modern day feminism is basically created by left wing Andrew Tate's, with the only goal being to use and abuse as many women as possible. Absolutely spitting and stomping on the very fundamentals that actual feminism put into place.
How is the house dirty. Is she not there all day
She didn't love them she didn't get that through your head
Leave her 😊
Facts
She's dead
Tbf he permanently left her
Yknow cuz shes dead
If you're a couple that's never yelled at each other, do you even have strong feelings?
possibly no, or perhaps they are emotionally mature enough to know that yelling wont lead to anything good.
Yes, if you don’t have to yell at each other that means you don’t have any major disagreements and your relationship won’t be halted by them, sorry you can’t understand that because form this comment i am sure your parents didn’t love each other and probably didn’t love you
So the women just wants to sit, do nothing and be treated like a princess at her big age 🤨
damn
She is a problem. Divorce this woman.
Listen to the whole thing next time
She ded
This dude is an either the most naive, angel in the world, or he is the biggest cases of male abuse in the world.
Real or not women are the worst influence on women
Yelling is not abuse.
It can be, but in this story it was out of anger. Yelling becomes abusive when it’s constant, but this was one outburst
It is because cops don't want to investigate these at first until the man is in the car
You older son is the only one with a brain
Dude, that’s harsh. They are only very young children
@@bensonjarvis5025he is riight
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You are not responsible for her set back
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I wish this man would have manned up when his wife asked him to, weak soul, let this woman completely walk on him to her own detriment. You are supposed to be a pillar of strength for your family as a husband and a father, being assertive and dominant is apart of the role, when you let your wife take those roles from you NOTHING GOOD will come of it.
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Why is forgiveness seen as weakness. It's one of the hardest thing to do in this world...
there’s nothing wrong with forgiving someone. it’s taking back the toxicity into your life is what the issue is. you can still forgive someone and keep ties cut for your own well being
@@AM-vw8gh no you can't... That's not forgiveness. Forgiveness is treating someone as though they never wronged you.
@@ejmdenhamthat’s not forgiveness. To just say oh it never happened oh well. There is an old saying. Forgiveness can be your benediction, forgetting can be your damnation.
@@ejmdenham Forgiveness is for oneself, to move on and not let something bother. It isn't treating someone that wronged you as if they never wronged you. That's trust. That is a belief that a person who wronged you has learned from their mistake and will never do it again. You can forgive someone and trust they won't wrong you a second time. They are mutually exclusive.
OP is a pushover
Shut up
@@Astro1997-2 agreed
I feel like after the person you love olmost dies you want to try to keep them close
@@railey_boy there was no mention of any brushes with death only the eventual death that was drug related, if you mean drug use then sure but that doesn't mean he HAS to stay only that it would be much nicer for HER if he did. but it all depends on the circumstances and people so nothing is 100%
@@h2h1zzz she olmost died from an overdose
when someone claims you are being abusive 9 out of 10 times you are the one being abused
My brother, put down the Andrew Tate stuff. That's a spiral on the level of the wife in this story.
@@ninjacow ew its not a tate thing lol, its just an pretty common abuse tactic, its called DARVO
I’m honestly appalled at these comments. The wife made mistakes, everyone does. And I bet if you were in an unstable mindset and your world was falling apart, you’d want to make the mistake of ending it all too.
I’m upset that eveyone thinks this man is stupid for not leaving her sooner and stuff like that. But it’s clear he obviously cared for her, and was; like everyone else; human. There were mistakes made on both sides. Yet everyone here is upset that these people weren’t perfect and made better choices.
If you people truly mean what you say, then you wouldn’t mind your partner dumping you because you made some bad choices.
This comment may be a bad choice on my part, but I mean every word I said.
there were mistakes made on one side… her side. she had opportunities, she had chances he did everything he could and she stupidly chose trusting some two faced hoe who was more obsessed about corrupting his wife than about trying to save her life when she was dying. you are ignorant.
Dude she is a grown ass adult shr is the only one responsible for her world falling apart, there isnt even a step towards any kind of resolution from her side, instead accepting her mistakes and taking accountabilty, she tried to manipulate him and did suceeded it, i dont have any symphaty towards any of these people because they are both dumbasses
Her Actions were multiple kinds of abuse. You think He should have Just sucked IT Up and "be a man" so she can walk all over him? He tried to Deal with IT the best He could but probably should have divorced sooner. The Red Flags were visible.
There's some bad choices, and there's doing hard drugs, cheating, and expecting OP to do everything while also making the same amount of money and still taking her on dates. In a relationship, thoes all are crossed boundaries, and she is incredibly selfish for doing thoes things
She made her choices clear, and she has to take responsibility for her actions just like everybody else.
Caring for someone doesn't mean you need to turn a blind eye to every bad decision they make, then blame yourself for the mess.
That causes more problems.
It's over between them. Peace ✌🏻
This man is not fit to be a parent either. Why are you letting an addict and cheater close to your sons? Because you want to play happy abusive family again? You’re putting your children’s lives at stake. Real pieces of work, both of them and those children must be traumatised.
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What a clown.