I cannot understand how we listen to such powerful well studied believers and not get better? I want more better in my health, my soul, spirit and mind, that I could promote better decisions. To show up with Holy Spirit authority and power. We can make change if we yield. 🎉❤
I've come back to this video/podcast time and time again since I first heard it. So much so that I've had to just add it to my "Daily" playlist so I can listen to it regularly and remind myself what it truly means to love others and be loved in healthy ways. Guilty of enmeshment and of both enabling and being enabled. Thanks to P31 for this entire series and to Lysa, Joel and Jim for sharing their time, their wisdom and their knowledge.
Thank you!!!!! I have watched this multiple times. Lots of insight & nuggets of wisdom here. This video helps clarify how we often misunderstand or misconstrue what love is, and what it should look like (i.e. abuse or misapplication of the "5 Love Languages" ... or even the way the 'world' tells us we should define love. )
I can't even begin to express how grateful I am for what you do.. This this video should have 10 million views along with all of your other ones. God-bless you all!
I love these talks discussions! Something struck me in this. While loving others unconditionally is not something we can truly possess “in our humanity,” as Joel put it, I think it is something we are called to do and that GOD can do through a surrendered heart. I can’t love my friends, family, or husband unconditionally in MY nature but God can if I allow Him to love them through me. I believe that’s what God calls us to do in Scripture- to surrender everything to Him and love others (and this is only possible with the new heart God gives us when we are saved and when we allow Him to live through us thereafter. I say allow because we have to choose to surrender our way for His even though He has given us that desire). And whatever God tells us to do, He WILL provide a way to accomplish it. It’s NOT up to us. That being said, sometimes loving the other person does look like setting boundaries and not encouraging their sin. ❤️
This series is life changing and life giving… Thank You! We do not have this type of in depth solid Christian counselling in my small town; I’m so appreciative that you make this available to us!
Love your neighbor as yourself can be a very helpful standard to use when looking at how people treat you or others. Someone who doesn't love themselves very much will often treat others accordingly.
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Excellent thoughts as usual! ❤ A note about the Five Love Languages: the Bare Marriage people have scrutinized the research upon which the book is based and found it to be quite faulty. I've come to trust the opinions of Bare Marriage, and I know many here have as well. Just thought I would mention it.
Except the unconditional acceptance of ALL behavior is somehow tied to that unconditional love we are supposed to give. And that is not what it means, imo. You can love someone but not tolerate toxic and harmful behavior. Often that behavior is just as harmful to the person doing it as it is to others, so holding them accountable is for their good
I definitely think it’s possible to love unconditionally. I don’t think relationship is unconditional. I love my son no matter what. I couldn’t not love him if I tried. Our relationship/closeness however is very conditional. 🤔
Would appreciate your comment on how I interpreted Jesus’ instructions to the rich ruler “to go and sell all that he had and give to the poor” -- the rich rule his wealth, riches took presidents in his life -- first place in his heart -not allowing Jesus to be his first love / occupying his heart-- it’s like someone getting into a new relationship but still holding on to a relationship from 10 yrs ago - it will never work until they let go of the old and start with a fresh mindset. Therefore the rich ruler would’ve never fully committed his life to Jesus -- why did Jesus let him go “LOVE” and free will -- Jesus does force any of us to do anything He’s not a tyrant we have free will -- who so ever will let him come!!! ❤
I believe parents love their children unconditionally even when their children might drive them crazy as their children get older, & Jim said only God can love unconditionally? Im not sure what his statement truly means
If it's conditional it's not love, because love is not selfish. If you love unconditionally it means you still seek the person's best even when they break your boundaries and you have to put conditions in place. If you never put place conditions in place this is not love at all. Good parents experience unconditional love when their kids go astray. We should not think that only God loves unconditionally.
Yea I struggled with that when he said that unconditional love was just for God. I thought we were to attempt to be Christ like in all characteristics?
I will never understand the way a woman is considered " emotionally unstable" when she falls to her knees and weeps in heartbreak over her husband/father of their children walks out the door & into the home of another woman? And then the court considers a mother emotionally unstable when she cries in front of her teen son at the door of their home as she is served custody papers to take away her son whom she raised for 16 years and move him out of state where her ex husband moved 8 years ago- forcing her to have so much less time in his life- the ex husband moved by choice for his own needs- now, he says a son needs his father- the court allowed it. I am certain laws were broken to even allow such a thing to happen when father chose not to be close then years later wants all control & then uses the court to confirm to all- the law said he needed to be raised by his dad for what will be 2 years out of 18 years. Mom had 16 of 18 years- I hold in my pain- i trust that God doesnt want me to fight- i am torn
There's no coincidence that this podcast showed up. Its help me and other people in my life. Thank you Jesus. Am so happy for your blessing.
I cannot understand how we listen to such powerful well studied believers and not get better? I want more better in my health, my soul, spirit and mind, that I could promote better decisions. To show up with Holy Spirit authority and power. We can make change if we yield. 🎉❤
Wow.!!!!.
I’m so grateful for this ministry ❤️
Thank you, Taryn! We're so grateful these videos have helped you.
Wow! What an incredible podcast! That is so good: I am most loving when I "see and celebrate who you are, not who you are for me."
I love this podcast. Free advice and Therapy. Thank you Jesus.
I've come back to this video/podcast time and time again since I first heard it. So much so that I've had to just add it to my "Daily" playlist so I can listen to it regularly and remind myself what it truly means to love others and be loved in healthy ways. Guilty of enmeshment and of both enabling and being enabled. Thanks to P31 for this entire series and to Lysa, Joel and Jim for sharing their time, their wisdom and their knowledge.
We're so glad this has been a helpful resource for you, friend! Thank you for sharing.
God is using you to change my life and so many others ❤️
Thank you!!!!!
I have watched this multiple times. Lots of insight & nuggets of wisdom here. This video helps clarify how we often misunderstand or misconstrue what love is, and what it should look like (i.e. abuse or misapplication of the "5 Love Languages" ... or even the way the 'world' tells us we should define love. )
Finally, I truly understand codependency & boundries! Thank you!
We're glad this video helped you, Mark!
Mind blown. God's timing is perfect, so glad I found this podcast when I did!❤
Thanks for watching!
“ expectations can be premeditated resentments” wow 😳
Ikr! Had to jot that one down
I can't even begin to express how grateful I am for what you do.. This this video should have 10 million views along with all of your other ones. God-bless you all!
I love these talks discussions! Something struck me in this. While loving others unconditionally is not something we can truly possess “in our humanity,” as Joel put it, I think it is something we are called to do and that GOD can do through a surrendered heart. I can’t love my friends, family, or husband unconditionally in MY nature but God can if I allow Him to love them through me. I believe that’s what God calls us to do in Scripture- to surrender everything to Him and love others (and this is only possible with the new heart God gives us when we are saved and when we allow Him to live through us thereafter. I say allow because we have to choose to surrender our way for His even though He has given us that desire). And whatever God tells us to do, He WILL provide a way to accomplish it. It’s NOT up to us. That being said, sometimes loving the other person does look like setting boundaries and not encouraging their sin. ❤️
Thank you for watching, Colleen.
I like your insight Colleen, very helpful.
This series is life changing and life giving… Thank You! We do not have this type of in depth solid Christian counselling in my small town; I’m so appreciative that you make this available to us!
God bless you Lysa Joel and Jim!!
Love your neighbor as yourself can be a very helpful standard to use when looking at how people treat you or others. Someone who doesn't love themselves very much will often treat others accordingly.
So interesting and helpful. Thank y’all❤
We’re glad you’re here!
This was so full of great info will definitely be rewatching and sharing!
Thank you for sharing, Lisa!
Amazing!! I can’t believe I haven’t heard of you until this last week. May Yahweh bless you!!
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I LOVE these sessions in they are incredibly helpful to understanding, my actions and those of others, as well as changing unhealthy behaviors.
Great discussion !
Wow. This was so good. Great timing watching this ❤️
This is so good!
Sooo good !
Excellent thoughts as usual! ❤
A note about the Five Love Languages: the Bare Marriage people have scrutinized the research upon which the book is based and found it to be quite faulty. I've come to trust the opinions of Bare Marriage, and I know many here have as well. Just thought I would mention it.
So. Much. Here. Wow!
Trust issues that I have, because of past hurts, makes it hard for me to trust when others show any of the 5 love languages towards me.
Except the unconditional acceptance of ALL behavior is somehow tied to that unconditional love we are supposed to give. And that is not what it means, imo. You can love someone but not tolerate toxic and harmful behavior. Often that behavior is just as harmful to the person doing it as it is to others, so holding them accountable is for their good
So well stated!!
I was looking for the Therapy and Theology: Codependency. I can’t find it.
Wow! Wow! Wow!
I definitely think it’s possible to love unconditionally. I don’t think relationship is unconditional. I love my son no matter what. I couldn’t not love him if I tried. Our relationship/closeness however is very conditional. 🤔
Would appreciate your comment on how I interpreted Jesus’ instructions to the rich ruler “to go and sell all that he had and give to the poor” -- the rich rule his wealth, riches took presidents in his life -- first place in his heart -not allowing Jesus to be his first love / occupying his heart-- it’s like someone getting into a new relationship but still holding on to a relationship from 10 yrs ago - it will never work until they let go of the old and start with a fresh mindset. Therefore the rich ruler would’ve never fully committed his life to Jesus -- why did Jesus let him go “LOVE” and free will -- Jesus does force any of us to do anything He’s not a tyrant we have free will -- who so ever will let him come!!! ❤
I believe parents love their children unconditionally even when their children might drive them crazy as their children get older, & Jim said only God can love unconditionally? Im not sure what his statement truly means
If it's conditional it's not love, because love is not selfish. If you love unconditionally it means you still seek the person's best even when they break your boundaries and you have to put conditions in place. If you never put place conditions in place this is not love at all. Good parents experience unconditional love when their kids go astray. We should not think that only God loves unconditionally.
Yea I struggled with that when he said that unconditional love was just for God. I thought we were to attempt to be Christ like in all characteristics?
What about a married person who thinks love is to convict his wife, and refuses to show love that brings about her highest good.?
I will never understand the way a woman is considered " emotionally unstable" when she falls to her knees and weeps in heartbreak over her husband/father of their children walks out the door & into the home of another woman? And then the court considers a mother emotionally unstable when she cries in front of her teen son at the door of their home as she is served custody papers to take away her son whom she raised for 16 years and move him out of state where her ex husband moved 8 years ago- forcing her to have so much less time in his life- the ex husband moved by choice for his own needs- now, he says a son needs his father- the court allowed it. I am certain laws were broken to even allow such a thing to happen when father chose not to be close then years later wants all control & then uses the court to confirm to all- the law said he needed to be raised by his dad for what will be 2 years out of 18 years. Mom had 16 of 18 years- I hold in my pain- i trust that God doesnt want me to fight- i am torn