@@barryallen8307 d is objectively worth less than P considering how hard it is for guys to date/hookup easily and while women can message the first guy on a dating app and sleep with him the next minute if she wants to - Veronica
@@simonesquared Since worth is dependent on how easily someone can get it, it makes sense for guys to go for virgins instead of those who have been with many men, right?
“You’re not in your feminine energy therefore he treats you badly and that BS” YES! Finally someone who calls out the bullshit behind the whole “feminine energy” and stuff
Yes, as a naturally “feminine” woman, I can tell you guys just see it as a weakness and think they have to teach you a lesson for being nice. One day I hope to find someone who appreciates me as I am. Until then, I have to fly low and stay under the radar cause I have a bullseye on my back apparently.
@Marcell Toing according to such “feminine gurus” I’ve been living in my “”masculine”” energy all my life, therefore I should be feeling out of balance and stuff. Reality is, I am not considered “unattractive” by men, I am not “outbalancing” men, nothing of what is expected to happen by these gurus is actually real. As cliche as it sounds, staying true to your colors does the difference.
@@Eisragenlow Sorry but listen to your own bloody rant..Just your words are making u sound masculine af and hella unattractive. 🤦 No feminine energy thing is not bullshit.. Let's be frank no man wants an annoying ass, irritating, always starting argument type masculine energy women...Stop living in your delusions and start being accountable for your own actions and faults.
Its not BS. Men don't want masculine women surprisingly. If you want to get on board with this message, you will find it more difficult to find a happy long lasting relationship.
@@TK-kb1qy but these things teach you that you whole personality is wrong and that you have to live to please man, you are going to be faking a behaviour and it is wrong, when you finally get to be in a relationship thanks to these ""feminine energy and blabla" you are going to fake for your whole life? Hide your real self? People have to love you for who you are and that's the thing about love... if it is real then, nothing else will matter
I agree on the part "if you're both pretty and smart, people won't take you seriously" cause I know I AM pretty AND smart but people treat me like a stupid person even if I have better grades than them and better investments 😩😩 the world hates successful women ig
I remember watching CSI Miami (I think), about 20 or so years ago & I was in awe of Actress Emily Proctor who played the role of a Forensic Scientist/Detective & she was also very beautiful. It was the first episode I had watched when my own perception of society's programming changed the way I thought..... that being an intelligent, smart & beautiful was so darn sexy in a woman. My thoughts on this hasn't ever changed since. Shows such as Beauty & The Geek are quite degrading to women in my opinion! 💕
Immediately followed you. Sexualizing ourselves online or in real life in a way that pleases boys will never be liberating or empowering. We should fight against being objectified, instead of feeding it.
@@Hhej927 unfortunately, that happens a lot, especially to young girls that came from a strict environment. Plus, social media has given young girls and even adult women a false sence of power.
PERIOD!!!! LADIES GET YOUR EDUCATION. GET A JOB. NEVER RELY ON A MAN. A man will leave you but your brains and wisdom won't. Love yourself and your sisters.
@OmNamohBhagavateVasudevaya Of course. I don't get why many people think that the bf MUST pay for the gf. They either agree on who pays without forcing it, or each one pays for their food.
@@Theone-kz9vd its because the majority of women are still looking for a traditional man. and there is nothing wrong with that. but it's just unfair when males say they want a traditional man, it's taboo and they get bashed for it.
@@thewolfofthedarkness1470 Not true. Unless she was a religious woman or a strictly conservative woman or something similar. Being bashed for having such mentality (idk if you know what type of mentality I'm talking about), it happens to both men and women. Because it has the same effect.
@@Theone-kz9vd would you not agree that the majority of women are still looking for a man that's making more money than themselves? in which I don't see any men bashing women for saying they want a man that makes more money than themselves or a provider for the family (traditional men). all I see is women bashing men for wanting a chaste wife that stays home to cook and clean (traditional women).
I love how Simone is not scared of voicing her opinion despite it not being the mainstream. That’s how you know she’s authentic, most influencers just say what they know will get them likes and followers
FINALLY this is being talked about! Ladies don't live for MEN nor for their expectations of us in a male dominated world. Live for yourself and value yourself then the right man will gravitate and accept you as you are. It's time for change spread the word.
@@josh_ewe Depends on who you are, if you are smart, hardworking and know your goals you don’t waste your Time. If you don’t know your goal, you do. It’s that simple, man.
we need to stop undermining ourselves cause there are men out there with half our potential that are fcking thriving only because they have the confidence and no one made them choose between being pretty or successful.
@@chaelmavik sure but this 5% is in every position of power that exists. This commend didn't come from hatred towards men but towards the system that has benefited them in more than one ways.
@@evangelydossie4668 So?..World is unfair and will always be..One side will always have more power and that side generally tends to be which is the strongest. And fortunately or unfortunately Men are stronger and more powerful than women in an overall sense...Hence the world will be biased in favour of men and also will be controlled by men...Harsh but true. 🤷
@@evangelydossie4668 Oh shut up and be at least more creative than a fifth grader if u truly want to insult. You insecure women have used this term to try to insult any men who you disagree with or who speak facts that it has become irrelevant af.
I unfortunately come from a home where my mother is the one who is being abused by my step father over the years. It’s taken me a lot through the abuse as well to grow into a strong person who no longer takes shit from anyone, even someone who I considered a father figure . This is an amazing video, and I hope it reaches those who deeply need it most so they grow within and out.
With me it was my father and he left, left us both with trauma and now I’m mentally and emotionally unstable. Unfortunately now I don’t give a shit about anyone, because I used to move a lot and usually first saw the bad people out there. I had only one cool class and lost it.
Thank you for this video. I recently went down this huge spiral of feeding into the male gaze because the one time I started to gain confidence for myself, guys started to notice me and I went down this rabbit hole of trying to please them more 😭 This definitely opened my eyes though
Thank you for finally calling out the whole „femme fatale“ „divine feminine energy“ bullshit…girls just be yourselves and love yourselves the way y’all are. You don’t have to be a „femme fatale“ to be attractive, independent and magnetic…the whole topic seems so off to me, don’t force yourself to be something you’re not just bc it „attracts men“ smh, focus on yourself and do you FOR you.
I agree that you should always be yourself instead of being someone you're not to attract the opposite sex. but I wouldn't say feminine energy is bullshit. just like how most women like masculine men, most men are attracted to feminine women.
As a man, I approve this message. Women have to be there for each other. There’s not one woman I know that don’t got their girlfriends and have a female to female conversation. If females talk about the little things like decorating, cooking, plants and dresses, other women will open up. I know this because I been living with my mother since I was born. They also express on how they feel about it, too. Like how cute Christmas lights is or the little features of the dress or stuffs like pillows for rooms, living rooms and bedrooms. No I’m not kidding. This is how my mother and every single conversation with a girlfriend of hers is talking about. Shoutouts to this woman. I’m giving her a like on the video.
@@EmmaHolland well she does reply to a few women as well just because you only noticed men that don't mean anything. People will take literally anything they can hate on
I have heard "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" multiple times. Very recently, I saw somewhere that "You are the beholder" and that addition has changed how I've seen myself. I won't lie and say that I don't get lonely. I suck at making friends so surprise surprise that dating or even getting a boyfriend is hard too. But I appreciate that tip of focusing on building your own life. That way if things ever go south, you can still support yourself and you aren't stranded. I'm already building my own life so I will give myself credit for that. However it's important for me to remember that I'm my own complete person already. Anyways that's my rant. I'm all for supporting and building everyone up 🥰
Dude I’ll say that the only reason ppl think they are ugly is because they compare themselves to the bs “standard” of what is “pretty” but let me tell you once you see your face for the beauty and the uniqueness of the culture and character and vibe it represents you will stop subconsciously viewing yourself through the filtered lens of that “standard”. And I’m telling you you absolutely don’t need to have conventionally attractive features to be seen as beautiful you need to appreciate and let your “unusual” characteristics stand out and not cover them up because they are not flaws literally that idea is also just a lie. I’m saying this as someone who had always been insecure about my nose because I have a godforbid hump on the bridge of my nose and I used to think it was impossible for me to ever be “beautiful” to my max potential as long as I had that nose and why because I kept viewing myself and trying to fit myself into a look that was not meant for me until I began to embrace all the features I have naturally for how they are meant to be and the minute I did dude I have never had so much unexpected attention from others that I never could comprehend how it happened (I even had gotten complimented on my “conventionally flawed” nose) until I realized all my “conventionally attractive” features were not what made me stand out but my unconventional features that I once had viewed as flaws that would “prevent me from reaching the potential” that I once associated with that beauty standard that actually gave my face unique character. Anyways I don’t mean to sound aggressive LOL but I guess what I really wish I knew before and I wish most girls knew is that beauty standards are bs and despite society’s idea of a beauty standard what is beautiful is beautiful and there is no “standard” that can change that it will only deceive you (so that companies can profit off you thinking you need to change yourself) because it took society (other ppl) to appreciate the features I had before even I could realize it myself even tho I have a feature that is condemned according to “beauty standards” whatever that even means. Anyways point is beauty standards are a lie I truly don’t believe that most humans are meant to be “ugly” like tf imagine if cats had beauty standards and were calling other breeds of cats ugly we all just look different that’s it.
@@allenejerome7140 I totally agree with what you said.... Same with me... My nose was my insecurity but not anymore. As you said you got more attention and compliments once you accepted yourself truly that's what happened to me. Anyways have a good day /night 💙
@@allenejerome7140 You really wrote me a book reply hehe. But I love long comments. Thank you for sharing! I agree that there is beauty in everyone. It's so cliche but like I said before, I'd rather build people up rather than tear them down. It's really hard having yours and my mindset, especially on my current college campus. Luckily for me, I've dealt with opposition my entire school life and I'm stubborn in my opinions too. It helps to appreciate the tiny details then eventually you'll be in love with the entire masterpiece (which is your existence). I'm really artsy, sorry lol. Y'all have a great day/night too!!
I've been thinking about the performative behavior I display and it is shocking. Recently, I realized how much I prioritize others' perceptions of me, to a point where even when I'm alone I started to feel a disconnect with my true self. And don't get me wrong, I still think in certain situations you need to "sell" and image of yourself to get what you want but definitely not with people that are supposed to be your friends and most importantly you should not feel a stranger to yourself. I've been actively trying to root myself in who I really am and gifting me solitude and it has been wonderful.
True. Can you believe that even my laughter was distorted? It seemed like I was laughing how others women did because it looked better or better accepted. Weird, right? But finally I recognized my true laughter. 😂 I like it very much.
9:12: BOOM - I tell my sisters this ALL THE TIME. Men only tell you things to scare you, so that you can lower your standard and date them(someone you would not otherwise be interested in). Also, yes, I know so many women who are well past 30 and men are on them like flies on shit. 😂 I know SOOOO many women who met their spouses later in life.
Bruh honestly men who feel like they’re not enough or lack something or have poor self esteem will always view high self esteem in a women as threat. It doesn’t matter how accomplished you are, if you’re secure in yourself men or women other gender or simply person won’t appear you as a threat. Period.
Or we just don’t like masculine women who are combative and critical for no reason? Why does everyone think everything is a man’s fault? Do you not see the contradictory in saying nothing is ever a woman’s fault and when it is, a man probably had something to do with it.
@@ilikepancakes2368 it is your fault if you feel threatened by a woman minding her business and navigating herself in this world. whether she presents masculine or feminine IT IS YOUR FAULT
My ex partner started going on and on about young women are more attractive and how once women pass 30 they aren’t as appealing to a man… it made me feel like I have this internal deadline and stressed me so much. Thank you for acknowledging this BS.
It's a form of control by fear mongering. My mom is 54 and got proposed to a few weeks ago. I know older women (40+) that went through the same experience. However, most older women want their peace and are done with men around that age. My mom declined. The other women I knew accepted.
Bs:/ my mom is almost 60 and men still flirt with her. Guys who are scare of a womans age are probably a manchild. They are scare of being hold accountable for their bs
@@CarolaTesla And if it's a fertility issues I understand why they would want younger women. However, most males that spew this bitter nonsense don't want to be good fathers to being with! They just want a young body and a young mind they can manipulate as they please. A real man would choose what he wants silently without feeling the need to bash a whole gender.
@@BashaerB-h2c good on her, but don't you think the guy would've picked the younger version of your mom if he had the option to? younger females are generally more attractive than older females why can't we just accept that? taller men are generally more attractive than shorter men and men with more money are generally more attractive than men with no money. it's a part of our biology so why sugarcoat everything just so feelings to get hurt?
"Are you doing it for yourself, or you are performing." That's gonna stay with me for the rest of my life! I really needed to hear those wise words. Thanks :)
I feel like seeing as men as competition might give off the idea that you want to be a man or are envious of them, I'm quite positive it's not your case, but I used envy man a little bit because of the respect/validation they automatically get by being a man. But I do get what you're saying, healthy competition instead of being wrapped by this toxic behaviour of wanting their attention when in you're right mind you don't really care that much.
as a man, we men always think of other men as competition. In any feild in any way. ANd beating the so called competition is actually when we;re happiest.
@@Random-qi3vv I don't know if that's healthy 😅. I mean, thinking about men in that way ALL the time? I understand, but I don't think that's a healthy form of happiness long term if you need to win the competition, it gives of a vibe of always trying to prove yourself. I mean, I sort of get it, but I think it can be negative, depending on the person. Like, where's your sense of self worth when you're not competing? Or what if someone is picked instead of you, do you automatically feel useless? I think healthy competition is important, but when its so intertwined with our feelings of self worth, I think it's something to be conscious and careful about, and obviously addressed and healed along the way.
definitely messages more women need to hear because it'll change their lives just as living by these beliefs changed mine!! loved it as usual, i always look forward to your weekly video here
God I needed this video. My mother, a hard working, loving, uplifting woman was done so dirty by the people around her for being a beautiful, smart and capable woman. Makes my blood boil. She's not perfect by any means but she did not deserve the people she was surrounded by. Thankfully, that's no longer the case. As a young woman now, it has started to happen to me. I started feeling belittled by other people for taking care of my appearance and educating myself. I was called a 'karen' for having healthy self esteem and a spine. I was being disrespected for having the discipline to get my life together. I was starting to worry that in talking passionately about topics I care about or have a well developed opinion on. I was worried I would sound egotistical and bossy. I felt like being myself would trigger other peoples' insecurities and make them loath me. When in reality, true friends are not intimidated by who you are there should be mutual respect. Focus on improving yourself and loving yourself as a person. It doesn't happen over night. Be the change you want to see in the world.
Honestly as someone who is 19 i really needed this video because these "feminine energy bs" videos are very toxic and i thought i was just being a stubborn person or maybe something was wrong with me. Thank you so much for this.
If you want to live for you and yourself only, then yes be as masculine as you want the world is yours… however, if ever come a time where you can’t obtain the man of your dreams, and the feminine women is dominant in that field, dont feel sorry for you decisions. The world is yours you behave and do what you think is true to you
It all depends on what you want. If you want a man who’s actually a man. You would have to be in yo ur feminine energy but being in your feminine energy doesn’t mean you don’t value yourself, that just means you’re insecure.
@@Zellymackintosh you're telling me that masculinity is all about living for yourself and only.. without telling me that masculinity is all about living for yourself and only...lol you did just exposed a damn f*cked secret of masculinity 😁 thank you for the honesty
@@jara9385 hey ms rubber goose obtuse.. idk , maybe you try not to read too in between the lines? Lol The original comment alluded to “feminine energy bs” videos being toxic.. whats the opposite of feminine energy ? MASCULINITY WISE ASS! And she stated that she feels stubborn and that something was wrong for her being that way and not agreeing with feminine energy… so i clearly stated that “if you want to live for you and yourself only” appeasing to her thinking she was stubborn… Now may i ask, what level is your reading comprehension?
I love this content so much. in my culture, men don't respect divorced women or even the ones who were engaged, and her chance of getting a decent man after that is almost impossible! I would love if you talked about such topic
I don't think it's 30 anymore. I've heard dumb guys in my classes tell me that women over 23 are old hags now. Heck I was rejected by a guy a few years ago for being "too old" for him despite being 3 years younger than him.
Don’t listen to them 😂 the average marrying age for women In the west is 28-35+. I’m imagining the boys that say that are young just like you? They say it to lower your self esteem. Don’t listen to them. Believe me, women of all ages get married and find someone. 😂
Honestly about the whole male gaze think I've realised nothing would work. If we groom ourselves etc it "fits the gaze" but also avoiding so many things to not fit the gaze is wrong. Because we're putting so much focus on avoiding it. And after all no matter what you do people are gonna trash on u so do whatever u want
I would REALLY love to see more of thoughts about "corn idustry" like glorification of OF or sexual liberation. I didnt know this info about how easy it is to lose your income at the only fans platform. Ich liebe dich
Hook up culture and FWB does not benefit women. That should be left up to the paid professionals. A lot of women in those industries were usually (sorry to say) abUZed in some way. So because they were taken advantage of, they see the fact that they can now control who has access to them and at what price ‘empowering’. Yes, it can be. For them. And that’s okay. I personally do not find them weird. As a celibate woman. I find women who sleep around with strangers for free and call it a ‘hook up’ or ‘FWB’ weird. If it was up to me, Men shouldn’t get any free access to women unless they pay for it or are committed to her. That’s how I see it. But maybe I’m just a hater 😂
TRILLIONAIRE GANG HERE!! OMG is this the video you were talking about in the discord server? THIS IS THE WAKEUP CALL ALL WOMEN NEED FRFR! Simone spitting facts as usual 💖👑
PREACH! We need more female empowerment speakers calling all the BS men say about us and all the double standards. For example: Age limits are man imposed ideas
@@danalee2520 Nah it's delusional moronic woman like u who are living in fantasy land with no self accountability for their own personal faults, mistakes and sheer irresponsibility towards life in a long term context.
Or that they can have zero self control and sleep around without decreasing their value. Literally no women want a dirty dog with body count higher than his age 🤦♀️
@@ana-nim OMG! This is what the alpha males like to say about us sleeping around and that we aren't desirable having a high count of multiple partners so they go for the younger more fertile woman with a lower count. Yet it's okay for them to sleep around with multiple partners...such selfishness. It's like everything is acceptable for them, but for us it's not "Male made ideas" You just turned the table's woman don't like dirty dogs either!
I think you spoke my my mind, we as women really need to be there for one another, instead of seeing each other as a competition. It's true, that the only competition you have is you, yesterday. Another women's success is not your failure. With the rise of redpill men, we enlightened women need to understand that validation comes from within, and to live a fulfilling life is simply by loving ourselves, doing what we love everyday (hobbies and such) Revolving your worth around a man just takes your authenticity & spark away. Love and accept you, your time, your needs, and simultaneously other people will treat you the way you treat YOU. This is 2022 (turning 2023), lets use our knowledge for our own good & be better for our self growth, peace & contentment. Love you so much Simone my Aquarius baby 💝
Truly, as the times are changing I see more enlightened beings rather than "men" and "women" who are stuck with labels... Identity will go obsolete someday and people will start behaving how they are energetically aligned. Will love to live in that world 🌍✨💞🌞
Great video! Don’t listen to them about the over 30 thing…I am over 50 and they still come after me, but it’s much better now because I can actually go sit in a restaurant alone and not be bothered.. and I don’t even think that it’s because I am less attractive. I think it’s because they know they can’t intimidate me.
I am 40, and I've never felt more beautiful. I've had my fair share of f boys and disappointment, but they are all lessons learned. I am so thankful for all I've learned from people like you and other relationship coaches/experts. ❤️ Now, I'm on this journey of accepting myself and knowing my worth ✨️ not being afraid to let go when/if needed. I would rather stay single and even friendless if I am not feeling fulfilled. I've been through a lot and all on my own ( as I have no bros/sister/mom), so I'm not settling because I'm putting in the work on myself.
I am 30 and I have more options than ever... because I am feeling more confident and grounded in myself. There are younger AND older men chasing me but I feel so tired from all this nonsense already that I really think about not having a family and just staying single. But am I in my power this way? Maybe more than if I had a family with a guy who disrespects me. I cut ties with so many men who tried to disrespect me and I am proud of myself. Really hoping to find a man that a) understands these issues and does not take advantage of my good spirits b) loves me and vice versa It's hard this day and age and I am feeling tired! Lol
I needed this, I'm sick of men, I just want to be happy and gain power and money and if someone comes I hope it will be wonderful and have a fairy tale lol
Thank you for this! Especially the OF part. I share your opinion but I have seen massive fights online in the comments between people who think like you and people who think it's sl*t shaming to think like that..
Basically de-center men from your life and REALLY become the main character. I bought into the fem energy stuff and it’s just BS. Just live the way you want 😙
I'm writing this translated from Russian, so it may not be particularly clear. Wow!!! This video has now proved to be insanely useful for me, right now I am in a difficult situation the way out of which it seems that I have comprehended. Thank you for talking about it, if all the girls think like this, it will literally change the world, you are great!
Yes! Thanks so much for this video! I'm disabled with a chronic illness that means I can't cook and clean, so by "feminine energy" bullshit, I can't be a feminine woman. But this is wrong, I'm a really academic person, I'm at Uni at the moment studying so I can do a doctorate and earn more than my man, I love working 60hrs a week. My man cares and nurtures me when I'm struggling physically due to my physical illness, he does more cooking and cleaning and has no intention to work full time. This works better for us. We are both still pulling our weight in ways that work best to suit our talents, strengths and struggles. Just do what you are good at and enjoy x
I am a married man, but I never revolved my whole life around anyone. Nor did my wife. We both have a life apart from marriage. We both agree that "a wonderful relationship is a wonderful slice of your life, but not your whole life".
I’ve known abt ur channel since ur subliminals era lmao quite a while but just now found abt this channel and I stg…literally everything you said, facts. HARDCORE FACTS. Like I’m SO glad you’re spreading this type of message cuz I couldn’t agree more…I’m also really glad that you came all this way and I think that THAT is empowering. Seeing another women being in her own power and shining. Also this video is so important and I hope it will reach all the right people!!
it took me so much time, and finally i have realised that being a woman is so pretty and empowering itself, girls know ur worth by listening to yourselves
Это потрясающе!!! Прекрасные субтитры, красивая понятная речь и важный посыл. Я готова расплакаться от того какая это находка для человека изучающего английский, а тут ещё и с удовольствием !!!!💖
this video is amazing! hard truths. to answer your question about doing things for others / doing things that make us uncomfortable. I think it's always good to put yourself in *slightly* uncomfortable positions so you can grow. for example, helping someone do something even if they did not explicitly ask but obviously needing help, a trip to a foreign country that may make you nervous, leaning how to code, leaning a new language, trying a new type of drink that you thought tasted weird before, speaking to people with different identities than you, etc. Even if your gut is unsure, sometimes those experiences can really transform you, because the gut may be limited. if we are only around people who make us comfortable, we may never question our own intentions. Always question our own intentions and limiting beliefs, because I can see it go both ways. I can see how social anxiety may stop women from growing, but also how social anxiety can keep someone safe in a world where women are not always safe. With that being said, discomfort is a sign of potential growth, but intuition is honest. If the gut feeling is a full red flag no no no feeling, then save ourselves the trouble and stay in until a better opportunity comes along. that's why discourse and longform content is important so we can critically think about the world
I would love to hear your insight or opinions on how to maintain yourself as best separated from the male gaze while in a straight relationship. This is my first video I’ve seen of yours but there’s so much that has spoken to me, the part I sometimes struggle with is with knowing if I’m doing something for me or because of my participation in the male gaze through being in an active relationship. Such as, am I dressing this way because it makes ME feel good or because I want to impress my boyfriend and inadvertently that makes me feel good? Either way, this was an incredible message and I appreciate it tons!
This is so important. I feel so strongly about this lately because I've learned the hard way and now I'm on the better side of the poor mindset that I had
Thank you for making this video. We need to talk more about the false sense of female empowerment. I never understood why so many women feel it's empowering to sell their bodies and objectify themselves just to make some money. Isn't it empowering to make other people see you and treat you as a person and to make them respect you rather than treat you like an object that can lose its value at any moment?
Your channel is my new obsession! Thank you for saying what I have been thinking my whole young adult life. I said it once and I got burned alive, literally. I wished there were more of us, because being alone agains a crowd is what weakens us and keeps us silent. So much to the construct of pucking women agaibs one another. Because when women compete with one another, they don't have time to compete with men. Thank you that you exist ;) Ich liebe Dich auch.
im so glad you talked about OF, when i was younger i really viewed it as empowering because of how people on social media made it seem but now i see there really isnt much empowerment behind it? i’m not against it or anything, i really couldn’t care less how people make their money but i really wish social media stopped promoting it as something that is empowering.
You are a year younger than me but I look at you as my older sister because you are so freaking smart and you are actually the ONLY You-tuber in our age group who's giving us FACTUAL advice and not just trendy BS. I am so grateful for you! You are saving our lives, S!
So smart. I am quite a bit older than you and agree with all of this. I’m glad there are young women out there who understand all this also and are spreading the message. There is so much opposite info out there that is so harmful. Thank you for making these videos. Very important! 🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I want u to explain more about escaping the male gaze, it’s so important and a lot of RUclips creators are like telling u to perform and u need to save these girls
I never understood feminine energy and the whole empowerment thing cause at the end of the day it will always have to involve a man like "how to seduce a man with doe or siren eyes" or "starting an OF to feel empowered". Why can’t we just focus more on empowering ourselves without it having to benefit the men
You speak out my mind! All my peers got married, and at the same time, they want me to be like them. I told them that I will find "the one". But in fact, they don't believe me, and talked bullshit, trying to lower my self-esteem. At the end, I walked away from them. So called "friends"! HA
I loveeee your perspective of seeing the world Simone... You really brought up the very underrated/unspoken facts.. As women we should keep elevating ourselves and ensure the best for ourselves, anywhere. Thank you for your wise thoughts. Love you 💜
Yes thank you so much for pointing out the importance of financial independence for women. I've seen a few videos of women promoting the homemaker lifestyle and making it seem all romantic and empowering etc and it seems so disingenuous and potentially harmful to send out this message without talking about the risks of being dependent on someone else's income
Very important for women and everyone to understand that how people treat you is not a sign of what you are worth, it’s a sign of their character and what they’re willing to do to others. I wouldn’t be wicked to even my greatest of enemies because I’m not a wicked person. With that, things you do and say can be an emotional trigger for people, but ultimately they make the choice for themselves how they’re gonna respond and treat you and if they dehumanize and devalue you, it doesn’t mean you deserve it. It means they think it’s okay to dehumanize and devalue people, nothing more or less. And it’s unacceptable. It’s important to realize that people can’t define your worth, YOU have to define it and decide what you’re willing to accept from others. It’s normal to be sad and lonely if you don’t currently have people who make you feel valued and loved, but regardless they can never adequately validate you, they don’t have the authority to unless you give it to them. And if you give it to them, they’ll always let you down. Decide that you’re enough and that it’s enough for you.
Simone this video was so thoughtful and well articulated. I love your new channel (ofc the old one too ❤️). I hope more and more young girls and women join your community.
I agree with all of your points actually. I've been in a toxic relationship and I feel like this video is something that I needed ATM. Thank you. Much love 💗
I am indian women in our india country women seems only object and dowry things thats it and here respect is like null we indian women seems soo many hurdles because everyday we fed up to listen those negative things about women . Pretty +smart women gets less value exactly I am seeing soo clear picture infront of my eyes they think and say she dont know anything she's innocent never going to understand about what world it is I am focusing on my career and in December 2022 i listened from my cousins my parents seek man for marry and seriously without career never settle for man and also never settle for man who fulfil from him for half of your wishes .
The last aspect hit hard. I've been trying to reflect a lot recently on whether I do things truly for myself cause sometimes I feel like I don't but I couldn't fully grasp the issue. Male voyeur in our own head... I think this really puts it straight. Thank-you for this straight forward video!! ❤️ I saved it to share and watch over again when needed
good video !! On the other hand, compared to the fact that we perform for the male gaze even when we act as if we don't perform... it's so true! But how to get out? By changing thought patterns??
@@simonesquared @Elisia K This is my take. I think as women, beauty/physical appearance should be viewed simply as a perk. It can be used to your advantage if you want. For example, there's nothing wrong with dressing up etc for dates and looking pretty. Beauty and glamour can boost your self-confidence and add another interesting dimension to your life for yourself and for others (self-expression/creativity). BUTTTT, the key is not being a slave to it. Your sense of self-worth should come from primarily within. Changing your thought patterns is difficult (schemas, which you probs know about as a psych grad). But through self-reflection and looking back at the events/incidents and messaging (both on a personal and societal level) that could have made you develop these thought patterns-actually taking the time to grieve and heal from them, you're able to break free from it. Your liberation from the male gaze happens gradually and over time (your other vid about personal growth happening slowly hits it home). Be compassionate to yourself in the process. The first step is to acknowledge that this is even a thing. So many people aren't even aware that this is a thing!!!!! I'm soooo glad you made this video xx
Don't accept anything for the sake of being loved, respected or wanted. I've learned this the hard way.
Well said, thank you 😊 God bless you
@@MeAwesome god bless you too sweetheart ❤
I wish I would have acceptted that fact years ago. I wasted so much life time in misery
@@melissae7219 sadly its a lesson that's harder to learn than most realise but you did, for that you've done amazing :)
Same!
The topic of fake empowerment is so controversial yet so important
yup
She said, reassuring herself by thinking D is less valuable than P. While they simultaneously imply guys are insecure for wanting a virgin
This is how I feel
@@barryallen8307 d is objectively worth less than P considering how hard it is for guys to date/hookup easily and while women can message the first guy on a dating app and sleep with him the next minute if she wants to - Veronica
@@simonesquared Since worth is dependent on how easily someone can get it, it makes sense for guys to go for virgins instead of those who have been with many men, right?
“You’re not in your feminine energy therefore he treats you badly and that BS”
YES! Finally someone who calls out the bullshit behind the whole “feminine energy” and stuff
Yes, as a naturally “feminine” woman, I can tell you guys just see it as a weakness and think they have to teach you a lesson for being nice. One day I hope to find someone who appreciates me as I am. Until then, I have to fly low and stay under the radar cause I have a bullseye on my back apparently.
NO LITERALLY! It just again puts the blame on the women rather than just realizing the guy was just mediocre
Yeah its getting out of hand❗️
@Marcell Toing according to such “feminine gurus” I’ve been living in my “”masculine”” energy all my life, therefore I should be feeling out of balance and stuff. Reality is, I am not considered “unattractive” by men, I am not “outbalancing” men, nothing of what is expected to happen by these gurus is actually real. As cliche as it sounds, staying true to your colors does the difference.
@@Eisragenlow Sorry but listen to your own bloody rant..Just your words are making u sound masculine af and hella unattractive. 🤦
No feminine energy thing is not bullshit.. Let's be frank no man wants an annoying ass, irritating, always starting argument type masculine energy women...Stop living in your delusions and start being accountable for your own actions and faults.
we love a queen who calls out the bullshit behind the whole “feminine energy” and other bs
Its not BS. Men don't want masculine women surprisingly. If you want to get on board with this message, you will find it more difficult to find a happy long lasting relationship.
@@TK-kb1qy but these things teach you that you whole personality is wrong and that you have to live to please man, you are going to be faking a behaviour and it is wrong, when you finally get to be in a relationship thanks to these ""feminine energy and blabla" you are going to fake for your whole life? Hide your real self? People have to love you for who you are and that's the thing about love... if it is real then, nothing else will matter
As much as I want to agree, reality would disagree with this statement.
@@TK-kb1qy "iTs nOt bS, mEn dOn'T wAnt" on a literal video about women not living & existing for men. Read the damn room.
@@sloperparks #metoo
I agree on the part "if you're both pretty and smart, people won't take you seriously" cause I know I AM pretty AND smart but people treat me like a stupid person even if I have better grades than them and better investments 😩😩 the world hates successful women ig
this is so relatable
Yep. And if you manage a team they don’t like being given orders by you too. :/ been there felt that
RELATEEE
Yeah I feel you. That's a reason why I prefer not to show them much, silent work till success.
I remember watching CSI Miami (I think), about 20 or so years ago & I was in awe of Actress Emily Proctor who played the role of a Forensic Scientist/Detective & she was also very beautiful.
It was the first episode I had watched when my own perception of society's programming changed the way I thought..... that being an intelligent, smart & beautiful was so darn sexy in a woman.
My thoughts on this hasn't ever changed since.
Shows such as Beauty & The Geek are quite degrading to women in my opinion! 💕
Immediately followed you. Sexualizing ourselves online or in real life in a way that pleases boys will never be liberating or empowering. We should fight against being objectified, instead of feeding it.
Idk how ppl dont see this
@@Hhej927 unfortunately, that happens a lot, especially to young girls that came from a strict environment. Plus, social media has given young girls and even adult women a false sence of power.
@@Hhej927 I don't see it that way.
But she sexualizes herself in the other videos I saw on her channel... so...
I totally get it but men also sexualize woman even if we would only were potato sacs from now on :(
PERIOD!!!! LADIES GET YOUR EDUCATION. GET A JOB. NEVER RELY ON A MAN. A man will leave you but your brains and wisdom won't. Love yourself and your sisters.
@OmNamohBhagavateVasudevaya Of course. I don't get why many people think that the bf MUST pay for the gf. They either agree on who pays without forcing it, or each one pays for their food.
Except for her opinion on hooking up. It doesn't benefit men alone, both parties enjoy it.
@@Theone-kz9vd its because the majority of women are still looking for a traditional man. and there is nothing wrong with that. but it's just unfair when males say they want a traditional man, it's taboo and they get bashed for it.
@@thewolfofthedarkness1470 Not true. Unless she was a religious woman or a strictly conservative woman or something similar. Being bashed for having such mentality (idk if you know what type of mentality I'm talking about), it happens to both men and women. Because it has the same effect.
@@Theone-kz9vd would you not agree that the majority of women are still looking for a man that's making more money than themselves? in which I don't see any men bashing women for saying they want a man that makes more money than themselves or a provider for the family (traditional men). all I see is women bashing men for wanting a chaste wife that stays home to cook and clean (traditional women).
I love how Simone is not scared of voicing her opinion despite it not being the mainstream. That’s how you know she’s authentic, most influencers just say what they know will get them likes and followers
FINALLY this is being talked about! Ladies don't live for MEN nor for their expectations of us in a male dominated world. Live for yourself and value yourself then the right man will gravitate and accept you as you are. It's time for change spread the word.
But proceeds to post photos on Instagram receiving likes and wanting attention from simps lol. So yeah, you're point is invalid lol
@@josh_ewe Says a man 😒....not all woman are like this bro many of us don't gaf about social media likes and views.
@@namasky2200 I did not say all but mostly they are lol
@@namasky2200 Nor are men. This whole “Gender War” thing is really becoming a Tragedy just watching it and not taking part.
@@josh_ewe Depends on who you are, if you are smart, hardworking and know your goals you don’t waste your Time. If you don’t know your goal, you do. It’s that simple, man.
we need to stop undermining ourselves cause there are men out there with half our potential that are fcking thriving only because they have the confidence and no one made them choose between being pretty or successful.
That's like 5% of men.
@@chaelmavik sure but this 5% is in every position of power that exists. This commend didn't come from hatred towards men but towards the system that has benefited them in more than one ways.
@@evangelydossie4668 So?..World is unfair and will always be..One side will always have more power and that side generally tends to be which is the strongest.
And fortunately or unfortunately Men are stronger and more powerful than women in an overall sense...Hence the world will be biased in favour of men and also will be controlled by men...Harsh but true. 🤷
@@vivek27789 it’s giving incel
@@evangelydossie4668 Oh shut up and be at least more creative than a fifth grader if u truly want to insult.
You insecure women have used this term to try to insult any men who you disagree with or who speak facts that it has become irrelevant af.
I unfortunately come from a home where my mother is the one who is being abused by my step father over the years. It’s taken me a lot through the abuse as well to grow into a strong person who no longer takes shit from anyone, even someone who I considered a father figure . This is an amazing video, and I hope it reaches those who deeply need it most so they grow within and out.
With me it was my father and he left, left us both with trauma and now I’m mentally and emotionally unstable. Unfortunately now I don’t give a shit about anyone, because I used to move a lot and usually first saw the bad people out there. I had only one cool class and lost it.
Thank you for this video. I recently went down this huge spiral of feeding into the male gaze because the one time I started to gain confidence for myself, guys started to notice me and I went down this rabbit hole of trying to please them more 😭 This definitely opened my eyes though
Same
i relate with you
Thank you for finally calling out the whole „femme fatale“ „divine feminine energy“ bullshit…girls just be yourselves and love yourselves the way y’all are. You don’t have to be a „femme fatale“ to be attractive, independent and magnetic…the whole topic seems so off to me, don’t force yourself to be something you’re not just bc it „attracts men“ smh, focus on yourself and do you FOR you.
I agree that you should always be yourself instead of being someone you're not to attract the opposite sex. but I wouldn't say feminine energy is bullshit. just like how most women like masculine men, most men are attracted to feminine women.
Am I a lesbian? Yes
Am I still taking notes? Yes
I mean yes you should be the priority nomatter what
Omg, same!
Same here ☺️
Me too, haha
Ahaha yeah me too
As a man, I approve this message. Women have to be there for each other. There’s not one woman I know that don’t got their girlfriends and have a female to female conversation. If females talk about the little things like decorating, cooking, plants and dresses, other women will open up. I know this because I been living with my mother since I was born. They also express on how they feel about it, too. Like how cute Christmas lights is or the little features of the dress or stuffs like pillows for rooms, living rooms and bedrooms. No I’m not kidding. This is how my mother and every single conversation with a girlfriend of hers is talking about. Shoutouts to this woman. I’m giving her a like on the video.
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@@EmmaHolland well she does reply to a few women as well just because you only noticed men that don't mean anything. People will take literally anything they can hate on
Every woman is like this.
I have heard "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" multiple times. Very recently, I saw somewhere that "You are the beholder" and that addition has changed how I've seen myself.
I won't lie and say that I don't get lonely. I suck at making friends so surprise surprise that dating or even getting a boyfriend is hard too. But I appreciate that tip of focusing on building your own life. That way if things ever go south, you can still support yourself and you aren't stranded. I'm already building my own life so I will give myself credit for that. However it's important for me to remember that I'm my own complete person already. Anyways that's my rant. I'm all for supporting and building everyone up 🥰
Dude I’ll say that the only reason ppl think they are ugly is because they compare themselves to the bs “standard” of what is “pretty” but let me tell you once you see your face for the beauty and the uniqueness of the culture and character and vibe it represents you will stop subconsciously viewing yourself through the filtered lens of that “standard”. And I’m telling you you absolutely don’t need to have conventionally attractive features to be seen as beautiful you need to appreciate and let your “unusual” characteristics stand out and not cover them up because they are not flaws literally that idea is also just a lie. I’m saying this as someone who had always been insecure about my nose because I have a godforbid hump on the bridge of my nose and I used to think it was impossible for me to ever be “beautiful” to my max potential as long as I had that nose and why because I kept viewing myself and trying to fit myself into a look that was not meant for me until I began to embrace all the features I have naturally for how they are meant to be and the minute I did dude I have never had so much unexpected attention from others that I never could comprehend how it happened (I even had gotten complimented on my “conventionally flawed” nose) until I realized all my “conventionally attractive” features were not what made me stand out but my unconventional features that I once had viewed as flaws that would “prevent me from reaching the potential” that I once associated with that beauty standard that actually gave my face unique character. Anyways I don’t mean to sound aggressive LOL but I guess what I really wish I knew before and I wish most girls knew is that beauty standards are bs and despite society’s idea of a beauty standard what is beautiful is beautiful and there is no “standard” that can change that it will only deceive you (so that companies can profit off you thinking you need to change yourself) because it took society (other ppl) to appreciate the features I had before even I could realize it myself even tho I have a feature that is condemned according to “beauty standards” whatever that even means. Anyways point is beauty standards are a lie I truly don’t believe that most humans are meant to be “ugly” like tf imagine if cats had beauty standards and were calling other breeds of cats ugly we all just look different that’s it.
@@allenejerome7140 I totally agree with what you said.... Same with me... My nose was my insecurity but not anymore. As you said you got more attention and compliments once you accepted yourself truly that's what happened to me.
Anyways have a good day /night 💙
@@allenejerome7140 You really wrote me a book reply hehe. But I love long comments. Thank you for sharing! I agree that there is beauty in everyone. It's so cliche but like I said before, I'd rather build people up rather than tear them down. It's really hard having yours and my mindset, especially on my current college campus. Luckily for me, I've dealt with opposition my entire school life and I'm stubborn in my opinions too. It helps to appreciate the tiny details then eventually you'll be in love with the entire masterpiece (which is your existence). I'm really artsy, sorry lol. Y'all have a great day/night too!!
@@parkjibuns638 hi. I saw your comment and thought I'd reply. I hope you are doing good. I'm also in college 🤗
I've been thinking about the performative behavior I display and it is shocking. Recently, I realized how much I prioritize others' perceptions of me, to a point where even when I'm alone I started to feel a disconnect with my true self. And don't get me wrong, I still think in certain situations you need to "sell" and image of yourself to get what you want but definitely not with people that are supposed to be your friends and most importantly you should not feel a stranger to yourself. I've been actively trying to root myself in who I really am and gifting me solitude and it has been wonderful.
True. Can you believe that even my laughter was distorted? It seemed like I was laughing how others women did because it looked better or better accepted. Weird, right? But finally I recognized my true laughter. 😂 I like it very much.
9:12: BOOM - I tell my sisters this ALL THE TIME. Men only tell you things to scare you, so that you can lower your standard and date them(someone you would not otherwise be interested in).
Also, yes, I know so many women who are well past 30 and men are on them like flies on shit. 😂
I know SOOOO many women who met their spouses later in life.
Like flies on shit... well, Freudian spill))
@@Crazy_Rich_Asian *Yawn* not clever, nor impactful. Carry on.
@Darren No.
@Darren incel
But having high standards is not good. Just find a good and nice person with a good mindset.
Bruh honestly men who feel like they’re not enough or lack something or have poor self esteem will always view high self esteem in a women as threat. It doesn’t matter how accomplished you are, if you’re secure in yourself men or women other gender or simply person won’t appear you as a threat. Period.
that's true tho
Or we just don’t like masculine women who are combative and critical for no reason? Why does everyone think everything is a man’s fault? Do you not see the contradictory in saying nothing is ever a woman’s fault and when it is, a man probably had something to do with it.
@@ilikepancakes2368 masculine women lmao what??? You're sexist gtfo
@@ilikepancakes2368 it is your fault if you feel threatened by a woman minding her business and navigating herself in this world. whether she presents masculine or feminine IT IS YOUR FAULT
@@ilikepancakes2368 Well said
My ex partner started going on and on about young women are more attractive and how once women pass 30 they aren’t as appealing to a man… it made me feel like I have this internal deadline and stressed me so much. Thank you for acknowledging this BS.
It's a form of control by fear mongering. My mom is 54 and got proposed to a few weeks ago. I know older women (40+) that went through the same experience. However, most older women want their peace and are done with men around that age. My mom declined. The other women I knew accepted.
Bs:/ my mom is almost 60 and men still flirt with her. Guys who are scare of a womans age are probably a manchild. They are scare of being hold accountable for their bs
@@CarolaTesla And if it's a fertility issues I understand why they would want younger women. However, most males that spew this bitter nonsense don't want to be good fathers to being with! They just want a young body and a young mind they can manipulate as they please.
A real man would choose what he wants silently without feeling the need to bash a whole gender.
@@BashaerB-h2c good on her, but don't you think the guy would've picked the younger version of your mom if he had the option to? younger females are generally more attractive than older females why can't we just accept that? taller men are generally more attractive than shorter men and men with more money are generally more attractive than men with no money. it's a part of our biology so why sugarcoat everything just so feelings to get hurt?
I mean you don't have to make the age of 30 your deadline but what he said is true at the end of the day.
"Are you doing it for yourself, or you are performing." That's gonna stay with me for the rest of my life!
I really needed to hear those wise words. Thanks :)
I have this thing about taking men as competition and women as inspiration, just felt like saying this. To summarise. It really helps.
I feel like seeing as men as competition might give off the idea that you want to be a man or are envious of them, I'm quite positive it's not your case, but I used envy man a little bit because of the respect/validation they automatically get by being a man. But I do get what you're saying, healthy competition instead of being wrapped by this toxic behaviour of wanting their attention when in you're right mind you don't really care that much.
@@kenasssss exactly like as women we can do way better than what they do uk what I mean
@@basement2345 Yeah 😄
as a man, we men always think of other men as competition. In any feild in any way. ANd beating the so called competition is actually when we;re happiest.
@@Random-qi3vv I don't know if that's healthy 😅. I mean, thinking about men in that way ALL the time? I understand, but I don't think that's a healthy form of happiness long term if you need to win the competition, it gives of a vibe of always trying to prove yourself. I mean, I sort of get it, but I think it can be negative, depending on the person. Like, where's your sense of self worth when you're not competing? Or what if someone is picked instead of you, do you automatically feel useless? I think healthy competition is important, but when its so intertwined with our feelings of self worth, I think it's something to be conscious and careful about, and obviously addressed and healed along the way.
definitely messages more women need to hear because it'll change their lives just as living by these beliefs changed mine!! loved it as usual, i always look forward to your weekly video here
thanks queen ily
God I needed this video. My mother, a hard working, loving, uplifting woman was done so dirty by the people around her for being a beautiful, smart and capable woman. Makes my blood boil. She's not perfect by any means but she did not deserve the people she was surrounded by. Thankfully, that's no longer the case.
As a young woman now, it has started to happen to me. I started feeling belittled by other people for taking care of my appearance and educating myself. I was called a 'karen' for having healthy self esteem and a spine. I was being disrespected for having the discipline to get my life together. I was starting to worry that in talking passionately about topics I care about or have a well developed opinion on. I was worried I would sound egotistical and bossy. I felt like being myself would trigger other peoples' insecurities and make them loath me. When in reality, true friends are not intimidated by who you are there should be mutual respect.
Focus on improving yourself and loving yourself as a person. It doesn't happen over night. Be the change you want to see in the world.
@@rroxanna cringe
i support you sis ❤️ , i know living in this world isnot easy, let be strong together
Honestly as someone who is 19 i really needed this video because these "feminine energy bs" videos are very toxic and i thought i was just being a stubborn person or maybe something was wrong with me. Thank you so much for this.
If you want to live for you and yourself only, then yes be as masculine as you want the world is yours… however, if ever come a time where you can’t obtain the man of your dreams, and the feminine women is dominant in that field, dont feel sorry for you decisions. The world is yours you behave and do what you think is true to you
It all depends on what you want. If you want a man who’s actually a man. You would have to be in yo ur feminine energy but being in your feminine energy doesn’t mean you don’t value yourself, that just means you’re insecure.
@@Zellymackintosh you're telling me that masculinity is all about living for yourself and only.. without telling me that masculinity is all about living for yourself and only...lol you did just exposed a damn f*cked secret of masculinity 😁 thank you for the honesty
@@jara9385 hey ms rubber goose obtuse.. idk , maybe you try not to read too in between the lines? Lol
The original comment alluded to “feminine energy bs” videos being toxic.. whats the opposite of feminine energy ? MASCULINITY WISE ASS! And she stated that she feels stubborn and that something was wrong for her being that way and not agreeing with feminine energy… so i clearly stated that “if you want to live for you and yourself only” appeasing to her thinking she was stubborn…
Now may i ask, what level is your reading comprehension?
That’s not “masculine” that’s called being a normal human
I love this content so much. in my culture, men don't respect divorced women or even the ones who were engaged, and her chance of getting a decent man after that is almost impossible! I would love if you talked about such topic
I’m sorry but I don’t feel qualified to speak on this because I don’t know much about your culture !
@@simonesquared not me suspecting you're a fake account 😂 You're not!
What is your culture if you don’t mind my asking?
That used to happen in my culture too in the past but these days it's getting better and people have become a bit more open minded
Move
I’m tired of having to feel uncomfortable with other females bc if competition. I need strong women around me like this
In many cultures its the man who is held responsible if something goes wrong in his relationship.
I don't think it's 30 anymore. I've heard dumb guys in my classes tell me that women over 23 are old hags now. Heck I was rejected by a guy a few years ago for being "too old" for him despite being 3 years younger than him.
Don’t listen to them 😂 the average marrying age for women In the west is 28-35+. I’m imagining the boys that say that are young just like you? They say it to lower your self esteem. Don’t listen to them. Believe me, women of all ages get married and find someone. 😂
good he rejected you , you deserve someone better . dont lower your standard for bad guys .
Wtfff
Honestly about the whole male gaze think I've realised nothing would work. If we groom ourselves etc it "fits the gaze" but also avoiding so many things to not fit the gaze is wrong. Because we're putting so much focus on avoiding it. And after all no matter what you do people are gonna trash on u so do whatever u want
I love your stance on Only Fans and hookup culture! I agree 100%..it’s a false sense of empowerment
Having onlyfans or hooking up has nothing to do with empowerment. It is a choice, and they should be respected as long as no one is getting hurt.
I would REALLY love to see more of thoughts about "corn idustry" like glorification of OF or sexual liberation. I didnt know this info about how easy it is to lose your income at the only fans platform. Ich liebe dich
Yeah I wanna make a full video
@@simonesquared yes please...🥺
Totally! I’m super interested in this topic and have researched it extensively, because it really is a prominent issue in our world today.
Hook up culture and FWB does not benefit women. That should be left up to the paid professionals. A lot of women in those industries were usually (sorry to say) abUZed in some way. So because they were taken advantage of, they see the fact that they can now control who has access to them and at what price ‘empowering’. Yes, it can be. For them. And that’s okay. I personally do not find them weird. As a celibate woman. I find women who sleep around with strangers for free and call it a ‘hook up’ or ‘FWB’ weird. If it was up to me, Men shouldn’t get any free access to women unless they pay for it or are committed to her. That’s how I see it. But maybe I’m just a hater 😂
TRILLIONAIRE GANG HERE!! OMG is this the video you were talking about in the discord server? THIS IS THE WAKEUP CALL ALL WOMEN NEED FRFR! Simone spitting facts as usual 💖👑
Indeed it is
PREACH! We need more female empowerment speakers calling all the BS men say about us and all the double standards. For example: Age limits are man imposed ideas
You mean more delusion 🤦😂
@@danalee2520 Nah it's delusional moronic woman like u who are living in fantasy land with no self accountability for their own personal faults, mistakes and sheer irresponsibility towards life in a long term context.
@@vivek27789 never trust a woman with vocal fry.
Or that they can have zero self control and sleep around without decreasing their value. Literally no women want a dirty dog with body count higher than his age 🤦♀️
@@ana-nim OMG! This is what the alpha males like to say about us sleeping around and that we aren't desirable having a high count of multiple partners so they go for the younger more fertile woman with a lower count. Yet it's okay for them to sleep around with multiple partners...such selfishness. It's like everything is acceptable for them, but for us it's not "Male made ideas" You just turned the table's woman don't like dirty dogs either!
This is such an important message. Never delete this video please
I think you spoke my my mind, we as women really need to be there for one another, instead of seeing each other as a competition. It's true, that the only competition you have is you, yesterday.
Another women's success is not your failure.
With the rise of redpill men, we enlightened women need to understand that validation comes from within, and to live a fulfilling life is simply by loving ourselves, doing what we love everyday (hobbies and such)
Revolving your worth around a man just takes your authenticity & spark away. Love and accept you, your time, your needs, and simultaneously other people will treat you the way you treat YOU.
This is 2022 (turning 2023), lets use our knowledge for our own good & be better for our self growth, peace & contentment. Love you so much Simone my Aquarius baby 💝
Truly, as the times are changing I see more enlightened beings rather than "men" and "women" who are stuck with labels... Identity will go obsolete someday and people will start behaving how they are energetically aligned. Will love to live in that world 🌍✨💞🌞
Great video! Don’t listen to them about the over 30 thing…I am over 50 and they still come after me, but it’s much better now because I can actually go sit in a restaurant alone and not be bothered.. and I don’t even think that it’s because I am less attractive. I think it’s because they know they can’t intimidate me.
I am 40, and I've never felt more beautiful. I've had my fair share of f boys and disappointment, but they are all lessons learned. I am so thankful for all I've learned from people like you and other relationship coaches/experts. ❤️ Now, I'm on this journey of accepting myself and knowing my worth ✨️ not being afraid to let go when/if needed. I would rather stay single and even friendless if I am not feeling fulfilled. I've been through a lot and all on my own ( as I have no bros/sister/mom), so I'm not settling because I'm putting in the work on myself.
“Am I doing it for me? Or am I performing right now?”
That hits me hard..
this is literally what i have been needing to hear, thank you so much
I am 30 and I have more options than ever... because I am feeling more confident and grounded in myself.
There are younger AND older men chasing me but I feel so tired from all this nonsense already that I really think about not having a family and just staying single.
But am I in my power this way?
Maybe more than if I had a family with a guy who disrespects me.
I cut ties with so many men who tried to disrespect me and I am proud of myself.
Really hoping to find a man that
a) understands these issues and does not take advantage of my good spirits
b) loves me and vice versa
It's hard this day and age and I am feeling tired! Lol
wow, I loved the idea, how you layered it, quotes, and APA reference too
girl you could NOT have posted this at a better time i swear to god
The male gaze thing has always disturbed me so much
this is so important for everyone to hear thank u
7:23 oh my god finally I see someone talking abt it
yep
I needed this, I'm sick of men, I just want to be happy and gain power and money and if someone comes I hope it will be wonderful and have a fairy tale lol
Girl! I need more contents like this. 🖤😭
Thank you for this! Especially the OF part.
I share your opinion but I have seen massive fights online in the comments between people who think like you and people who think it's sl*t shaming to think like that..
people who think it’s slut shaming are uneducated
Basically de-center men from your life and REALLY become the main character. I bought into the fem energy stuff and it’s just BS. Just live the way you want 😙
Self respect is so important
I'm writing this translated from Russian, so it may not be particularly clear. Wow!!! This video has now proved to be insanely useful for me, right now I am in a difficult situation the way out of which it seems that I have comprehended. Thank you for talking about it, if all the girls think like this, it will literally change the world, you are great!
Эй, я перевожу это с моего родного родного языка, английского. Да, я понял, что ты хотел сказать :)
Yes! Thanks so much for this video! I'm disabled with a chronic illness that means I can't cook and clean, so by "feminine energy" bullshit, I can't be a feminine woman. But this is wrong, I'm a really academic person, I'm at Uni at the moment studying so I can do a doctorate and earn more than my man, I love working 60hrs a week. My man cares and nurtures me when I'm struggling physically due to my physical illness, he does more cooking and cleaning and has no intention to work full time. This works better for us. We are both still pulling our weight in ways that work best to suit our talents, strengths and struggles. Just do what you are good at and enjoy x
Wow that's great for you sis... Live a happy fulfilling life for yourself and your partner.
Thank you for making this. You are helping out so many women. I wish I had heard this years ago
that's really true, better focus on yourself
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Definitely agree!! I never want to revolve my life around a man again.
I am a married man, but I never revolved my whole life around anyone. Nor did my wife. We both have a life apart from marriage. We both agree that "a wonderful relationship is a wonderful slice of your life, but not your whole life".
I’ve known abt ur channel since ur subliminals era lmao quite a while but just now found abt this channel and I stg…literally everything you said, facts. HARDCORE FACTS. Like I’m SO glad you’re spreading this type of message cuz I couldn’t agree more…I’m also really glad that you came all this way and I think that THAT is empowering. Seeing another women being in her own power and shining. Also this video is so important and I hope it will reach all the right people!!
ily
it took me so much time, and finally i have realised that being a woman is so pretty and empowering itself, girls know ur worth by listening to yourselves
Это потрясающе!!! Прекрасные субтитры, красивая понятная речь и важный посыл. Я готова расплакаться от того какая это находка для человека изучающего английский, а тут ещё и с удовольствием !!!!💖
this video is amazing! hard truths. to answer your question about doing things for others / doing things that make us uncomfortable. I think it's always good to put yourself in *slightly* uncomfortable positions so you can grow. for example, helping someone do something even if they did not explicitly ask but obviously needing help, a trip to a foreign country that may make you nervous, leaning how to code, leaning a new language, trying a new type of drink that you thought tasted weird before, speaking to people with different identities than you, etc. Even if your gut is unsure, sometimes those experiences can really transform you, because the gut may be limited. if we are only around people who make us comfortable, we may never question our own intentions. Always question our own intentions and limiting beliefs, because I can see it go both ways. I can see how social anxiety may stop women from growing, but also how social anxiety can keep someone safe in a world where women are not always safe.
With that being said, discomfort is a sign of potential growth, but intuition is honest. If the gut feeling is a full red flag no no no feeling, then save ourselves the trouble and stay in until a better opportunity comes along. that's why discourse and longform content is important so we can critically think about the world
Except for her opinion on hooking up. It doesn't benefit men alone, both parties enjoy it.
I would love to hear your insight or opinions on how to maintain yourself as best separated from the male gaze while in a straight relationship. This is my first video I’ve seen of yours but there’s so much that has spoken to me, the part I sometimes struggle with is with knowing if I’m doing something for me or because of my participation in the male gaze through being in an active relationship. Such as, am I dressing this way because it makes ME feel good or because I want to impress my boyfriend and inadvertently that makes me feel good? Either way, this was an incredible message and I appreciate it tons!
This is so important. I feel so strongly about this lately because I've learned the hard way and now I'm on the better side of the poor mindset that I had
this side of youtube is great af, ppl just talking and talking i love it.
Thank you for making this video. We need to talk more about the false sense of female empowerment. I never understood why so many women feel it's empowering to sell their bodies and objectify themselves just to make some money. Isn't it empowering to make other people see you and treat you as a person and to make them respect you rather than treat you like an object that can lose its value at any moment?
Hooking up and liking it isn't called selling one's body. Both parties enjoy it. And doing it isn't wrong. Unless it was cheating.
Your channel is my new obsession! Thank you for saying what I have been thinking my whole young adult life. I said it once and I got burned alive, literally. I wished there were more of us, because being alone agains a crowd is what weakens us and keeps us silent. So much to the construct of pucking women agaibs one another. Because when women compete with one another, they don't have time to compete with men. Thank you that you exist ;) Ich liebe Dich auch.
im so glad you talked about OF, when i was younger i really viewed it as empowering because of how people on social media made it seem but now i see there really isnt much empowerment behind it? i’m not against it or anything, i really couldn’t care less how people make their money but i really wish social media stopped promoting it as something that is empowering.
True.. Very True
No form of “work” under capitalism is empowering, it’s simply a means to an end (to pay bills etc.)
You are a year younger than me but I look at you as my older sister because you are so freaking smart and you are actually the ONLY You-tuber in our age group who's giving us FACTUAL advice and not just trendy BS. I am so grateful for you! You are saving our lives, S!
I really missed this kind of videos from you Simone!
So smart. I am quite a bit older than you and agree with all of this. I’m glad there are young women out there who understand all this also and are spreading the message. There is so much opposite info out there that is so harmful. Thank you for making these videos. Very important! 🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I've been clapping my hands the entire video, everything you said is so trueee!!!
Except for her opinion on hooking up. It doesn't benefit men alone, both parties enjoy it.
I want u to explain more about escaping the male gaze, it’s so important and a lot of RUclips creators are like telling u to perform and u need to save these girls
Nice one! Plenty of things to take away and totally agree with the individual life to live. Introspection is a powerful thing
I never understood feminine energy and the whole empowerment thing cause at the end of the day it will always have to involve a man like "how to seduce a man with doe or siren eyes" or "starting an OF to feel empowered". Why can’t we just focus more on empowering ourselves without it having to benefit the men
well why do you have a thing against benefiting men?
You speak out my mind! All my peers got married, and at the same time, they want me to be like them. I told them that I will find "the one". But in fact, they don't believe me, and talked bullshit, trying to lower my self-esteem. At the end, I walked away from them. So called "friends"! HA
I loveeee your perspective of seeing the world Simone... You really brought up the very underrated/unspoken facts.. As women we should keep elevating ourselves and ensure the best for ourselves, anywhere. Thank you for your wise thoughts. Love you 💜
Girl I feel the exact same abt hookup culture and only fans. It’s only beneficial to men, it’s not liberating.
Not true. Women can enjoy hooking up too, it is not beneficial for men alone. Both parties have fun.
Love this Simone, speaking your truth is admirable, and you're uncovering the truth for others while doing it. Kudos
Yes thank you so much for pointing out the importance of financial independence for women. I've seen a few videos of women promoting the homemaker lifestyle and making it seem all romantic and empowering etc and it seems so disingenuous and potentially harmful to send out this message without talking about the risks of being dependent on someone else's income
love this queen rant. It's much needed these days than ever.
4:32 there already is a movement & one piece of literature that has literally changed my entire life is "The Erotic" by Audre Lorde. A must read.
Ok there needs to be more widespread movement lolll
@@simonesquared agreed : )
Omg I really needed this so many channel blame women reasons why they can’t keep a men
you and thewizardliz are such icons honestly
2:04!! I need all teenage girls to listen to that part again and again. This is truly one of the biggest issues all women have.
I love these. I listen to them and just invert everything and its so empowering
This advice is so valuable.❤
You are saving my life, ICON
As a young woman, videos like this helps a lot, this vid was so good. Thank u for creating this !!!!
Very important for women and everyone to understand that how people treat you is not a sign of what you are worth, it’s a sign of their character and what they’re willing to do to others.
I wouldn’t be wicked to even my greatest of enemies because I’m not a wicked person. With that, things you do and say can be an emotional trigger for people, but ultimately they make the choice for themselves how they’re gonna respond and treat you and if they dehumanize and devalue you, it doesn’t mean you deserve it. It means they think it’s okay to dehumanize and devalue people, nothing more or less. And it’s unacceptable.
It’s important to realize that people can’t define your worth, YOU have to define it and decide what you’re willing to accept from others. It’s normal to be sad and lonely if you don’t currently have people who make you feel valued and loved, but regardless they can never adequately validate you, they don’t have the authority to unless you give it to them. And if you give it to them, they’ll always let you down. Decide that you’re enough and that it’s enough for you.
LOUDER FOR PEOPLE IN THE BACKKKK
Simone this video was so thoughtful and well articulated. I love your new channel (ofc the old one too ❤️). I hope more and more young girls and women join your community.
"this content teaches you not to be yourself" "you manipulate your personality"
OMG so on point
So aptly said and very intelligent observation
Thank you for uploading this. I never define my looks for the male gaze and just because you are attractive does not mean you'll attract good men!
This is one of the best videos I have ever seen. Super eye opening. Thank u ❤
I agree with all of your points actually. I've been in a toxic relationship and I feel like this video is something that I needed ATM. Thank you. Much love 💗
Love this video!!! I’ve been so confused lately, this really cleared everything up!
This is one of the best videos ever this needs to be nationally broadcasted
I am indian women in our india country women seems only object and dowry things thats it and here respect is like null we indian women seems soo many hurdles because everyday we fed up to listen those negative things about women . Pretty +smart women gets less value exactly I am seeing soo clear picture infront of my eyes they think and say she dont know anything she's innocent never going to understand about what world it is I am focusing on my career and in December 2022 i listened from my cousins my parents seek man for marry and seriously without career never settle for man and also never settle for man who fulfil from him for half of your wishes .
The last aspect hit hard. I've been trying to reflect a lot recently on whether I do things truly for myself cause sometimes I feel like I don't but I couldn't fully grasp the issue. Male voyeur in our own head... I think this really puts it straight. Thank-you for this straight forward video!! ❤️ I saved it to share and watch over again when needed
good video !! On the other hand, compared to the fact that we perform for the male gaze even when we act as if we don't perform... it's so true! But how to get out? By changing thought patterns??
Idk if we can it’s so deeply rooted
@@simonesquared @Elisia K This is my take. I think as women, beauty/physical appearance should be viewed simply as a perk. It can be used to your advantage if you want. For example, there's nothing wrong with dressing up etc for dates and looking pretty. Beauty and glamour can boost your self-confidence and add another interesting dimension to your life for yourself and for others (self-expression/creativity). BUTTTT, the key is not being a slave to it. Your sense of self-worth should come from primarily within. Changing your thought patterns is difficult (schemas, which you probs know about as a psych grad). But through self-reflection and looking back at the events/incidents and messaging (both on a personal and societal level) that could have made you develop these thought patterns-actually taking the time to grieve and heal from them, you're able to break free from it. Your liberation from the male gaze happens gradually and over time (your other vid about personal growth happening slowly hits it home). Be compassionate to yourself in the process. The first step is to acknowledge that this is even a thing. So many people aren't even aware that this is a thing!!!!! I'm soooo glad you made this video xx