Today I felt so bad, because I wanted to do many things, and it seemed impossible to do them all. I didn't feel like starting them either. I was sad, felt guilt and hopeless. Your email with this video arrived at the best moment. From tomorrow on I'll start searching for the "why". I like your natural videos, you radiate compassion, kindness and intelligence. Thank you Noah!
Noah I started watching your videos years ago. I went through a very ugly divorce and i could not sleep so I would browse the web and RUclips. I just so happen to fall upon your channel. It was one of the best things to happen to me. I learned so much from you on how to see things in a different way and much more. You Noah made a big difference in my life. For that I am forever grateful 🙏. Thank you. Don't loose that spark my friend. You know what I mean. God bless you.
I stambled upon your channel 2weeks ago.... And it's changed my life wholesomely..... I am actually using your earlier videos that you did 5years + ago and am in a place of peace and able to live life more and in control of my environment.
This hit me hard. Why are you not famous Noah and your channel should have more subscribers. Please tell me how can I get rid of shyness,shame and laziness??
I took notes for myself, sharing them with you beautiful people in the hope it might help somebody: 1. Let go of shame. Be willing to let go of guilt, shame, fear and drill as self motivation. 2. What emotions am I afraid to feel? If you can't do what you want to do, there is always a reason why. You perceive there might be more pain in doing it than leaving it. What pain arises while you do the work/thing? 3. Isolate that emotion (fear of rejection, fear of failure etc.) and work on it. Thank you Noah !
Hey Noah, you are the best. The way you think and thought is amazing I just love it. My fiancee broke up with me 2 weeks ago, and without you and my friends, I wouldn't have learn the way I have. I feel like I am going through the right path thanks to you and them. Tooons of love from Chile, please keep this amazing work.
This makes so much sense! I got/still get heavily criticized from my parents for everything. Even something that was someone else's fault, and when they find out it wasn't me, they never admit to being wrong. I don't get apologies. There's not even an excuse given. They did the exact opposite with my brother. So, I'm mentally unstable and on disability, due to mental health issues. While, my brother is earning his graduate degree in psychology. Still, I'm wrong. That's no longer acceptable to me. Once I started to realize why so many things were shit in my life, my perception slowly began to change. It's still changing. I had no value for myself. Now, I do. I didn't love myself. Now, I do. I didn't believe in myself. Now, I'm my biggest fan! Through my change in perspective, I've found that I have many talents and gifts that I don't think anyone else has. It wouldn't bother me if anyone did! Why? Because I'm still amazingly wonderful, unique, beautiful, and powerful. I'll keep improving everyday. I won't have someone else's goals, and only the ones that I give myself. I'm going to do my best to never look back once I've healed my trauma.
While watching this video I realized that the cause behind my procrastination is feelings of shame. I feel ashamed about my work which I do , I believe that that other boys of my age group are more successful and do the job or business that is respected and socially accepted and recognizable. I have sense of shame and Inferiority about my self and my job or my current situation that's why whenever I open my laptop for doing work, I first open my gmail, do some work and then watching youtube videos whole day. I think whenever I start my work it remind me that you are not successful like others and I feel shame and to escape this feeling I watch only youtube videos on my laptop whole days.
What you said about wondering why I’m so damaged when my childhood was apparently healthy and my parents provided for me well is soooooooo relatable for me. I’ve always felt ungrateful or dramatic when I felt sad about something because I would wonder what went wrong as compared to other people who had a sad childhood, like I felt too privileged to have issues.
My parents were very clear about not loving me, especially my mother and my father just wasn't there at all. And she didn't have the intuitive respond to help me or say "I love u anyway", my mother laughed at me. The first 2 yrs of my life (if she was there) I asked "mom, what's this or how do I do that?" and she said "children who ask, will b skipped" and things like "I wish I never had you, you are the cause of all my problems in life" giving it back to her right now. And my father claims no man will ever love me. And so I try to give that back to him, but it's more difficult since I'm not a man. Once I actually gave it back to him and for a couple of months I was free, but now I integrated it completely again. 🤪 Thanks Noa!
I love you and the way that you express yourself and how you look and feel when you express joy and amusement is absolutely delightful to me, and I understand your sense of humor. Above and beyond all that you teach me, are these are gifts from God I receive from you being still alive and a part of my life. By the way this is Pamela Joan Dillon. If you remember me.
The thing about people always doing the least painful thing was powerful. A successful/high performing person isn’t better than the less successful one. He just associates less paint with grinding day by day than with not performing at his peak all the time.
I'm not far in yet so you may mention it in the video, but thought I'd say Mel Robbins 5 second rule has been amazing help in my experience. Look forward to listening to your thoughts on the subject
Noah I love your videos so much. For years, I've gone back to your old ones often whenever I needed help and it gives me comfort almost every time! You are totally amazing and I hope you continue making vids forever! But if not that's ok too :)
@5:00 To give some more context, a lot of parents use criticism and judgement to parent their children, and therefore children grow up to mirror those behaviours onto themselves, at least that's what happened in my case. I like that you make videos in one take and don't script anything that you say, I really enjoy listening to genuine thoughts and questions, and i dont expect any one answer to be true because i never expect to have enough context to answer any question put forth with 100% certainty of its trueness. The simple way that i found that allows you to ask questions about what you want without putting yourself down is to entertain the initial question that was raised by asking more questions about it to give it more context. In this example if the question was 'Why can't i do what i want to do?' I would entertain that question by asking 'What would it take to do what i want to do right now?', and the answer would be something like 'well if i wanted to do what i want right now at this present moment, it wouldn't be possible because im at work...or in bed...or in a restaurant...or preoccupied with something else that is taking up my time'. Now that we've gotten more context to the question, and a reason why you can't do what you wan't to do right now, the next question becomes 'What do i have to do to get what i want?', and thats more of a lovely exploration that anyone would love to embark on, and if they understand what they have to do, and reject the notion that it is worth doing it at all once more context is given, then they can rest easily that they were able to answer their question with another question. Edit: Posted this comment without watching past the timestamp, this topic is addressed @22:00
I really love your videos. You’ve helped me to see things in a new perspective and find peace. I’d like you to talk more about how to stop judging people and also about rejection in general (not only in a breakup situation). The feeling that we never find reciprocal relationships with friends and someone we fall in love with.
For me, I tried so hard to achieve something but couldn't get it and that created huge demotivation for me which was the underlying basis for my procastination. I didn't even realize it until I just sat with myself and decided to dig in about why I was being the way I was being. This is a great video, thanks Noah :)
Is anyone ever just lazy too? I thought I am lazy and unable to function as society would want me to. But this subject might have saved my life, it totally made sense, most importantly it made me feel better about myself. I totally hated myself and lost hope about my ability to change. Where to go from here? How to get rid of the pain? But thank you Noah for this one. 💟
I am so grateful for you. As you reveal your truth you act as a light illuminating the lies of darkness I once thought were true but were only leading to my destructive actions towards myself and others. I don't procrastinate anymore on my work and so am naturally and enjoyably putting in effort to contribute to others with it - so thank you for your work, I appreciate it with my whole heart.
It was a pretty well explanation about what happened inside of the mind of someone that procrastinate (like myself) Than you Noah ..you have put me on the right track to star!!! Saludos desde Mexico 🇲🇽
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Sir, Please tell us about How to heal our wounded inner child and overcome feeling of shame and embarrassment about ourselves and overcome feeling of low self worth
Hi everyone, this is a great video. For me at times when there is resistance, and my issues are very subtle sometimes, The most important thing to do stop and just show the resistance love. Just isolate that resistance and show in the love that it wants. Maybe it’s just stopping and feeling like hugging the resistance, or maybe it’s just acceptance to the resistance Even if it never gets better just the way it is. I hope this makes sense to anybody. Maybe I can give some clarification if anyone needs it with an example.
Thank you noah so much for all your wisdom. I look forward to all of your videos. They help me understand why I feel anxious when there’s nothing actually happening or a logical reason for my feeling. It’s helps me to be kinder to myself in those difficult times a childhood trauma is activated. I wish for the world to have as much compassion as you do.
@@94smithee1 That's what I was going to say. It's why many people engage in screen, social media and gaming detox. Instead of washing dishes you might avoid and the cycle continues. It's only hard at the start but break the cycle and things get easier.
@@94smithee1 Try using the Japanese Art of Kai-Zen which is to set a timer for one minute and START the task, and when it goes off you can quit, and loudly say "I give myself credit for doing the job!!" Now if you want to go on you can but you don't have to, as the rest is your choice. Steven Guise uses this method in his MINI HABITS which he has here on YT. The idea is STARTING is the hardest part, so learn how to get started. Steven used it to exercise one minute each day, and over several months formed a HABIT of doing some exercise daily, etc. I suggest hiring a cleaning person (much like a personal trainer) for a few hours of help as many of us just don't like to work alone.
@Emma Smith you can listen to some interesting podcasts while you are doing the dishes and cleaning the house. You can even start learning a new language and listen to the podcasts while doing your shores
Because doing them causes extreme unpleasantness and bodily pain. It is nasty work and even that cleaning products are expensive. Also, I was criticized horribly for cleaning WELL. Weird, but true. So I give up.
Noah hey, could you do a video on mindfulness as well? I am really curious that whether you advise mindfulness in daily life or not. You have done meditation videos in past which are mostly related with open awareness meditation. What I want to ask is that is there any informal meditation or mindfulness way in daily life that may help us to awaken and to be in the moment? Because, all my sensational clarity has gone with my mind processes. In old times, I used to see the world as 4k Tv, not it is 144p.
I had a epiphany when you said the person will get less pain if they exercise more. It's kinda like people who work all the time feel less anxiety if they make more money where as someone coming from abundance may not feel the need to over do it because they have never suffered without.
Nice hair cut, in my culture we usually slap our friends on the back of their neck after a hair cut. As a way to make sure the shaving was clean and a sign of affection.
Adamantia P no , Levant, Middle Eastern. We have a weird way of showing affection and love among brothers here😆😆😆. We also do it when a friend gets married, make sure he is nice and clean (after a Turkish bath) and slap the neck so he is ready to perform during his “wedding night” 😆😆😆
I understand what you’re talking about, but I feel like sometimes I just want to do things that are more fun and less tiring. Although I know that cognitively it will benefit me more in the long run.
Hello Noah, I’ve seen so many videos, also on this topic, but you tell it more clearly, easy, honest, you mention all the side thoughts that sabotage me, thanks :) They are much deeper than the older videos I think. I am still at a phase that when I almost get it, I make even more mess, and leave the kitchen behind not totally cleaned up for example (on purpose almost) and I am also procrastenating doing the releasing shame etc. Is that possible?
Hello. I procrastinate heavily. I'm realising that I procrastinate with any form of mental stimulation. I've been trying to write down notes from this video and trying to discover more about why I avoid certain things and even doing this work is really difficult for me, I just want to give up so easily and go on social media or think about food. I'm trying hard to think about why even slightly mentally stimulating tasks are so difficult for me.. they just feel like so much effort. I'm struggling to know how to link this with a past experience.. I feel stuck
Not through watching the video yet but I reached a point where you said, and I’m paraphrasing here, “You need to be willing to let go of the punishment strategy (or beliefs that are getting you to do work from fear) -parenthesized words are paraphrased and sort of what I understood from it. I think I agree with you to a large extent I guess the language and the word willing was a word that didn’t resonate with me. However what you said with curiosity a sentence earlier is an attitude or a disposition that I think is extremely useful in self enquiry or mindfulness. From the point of view of curiosity, everything is beautiful and welcome. I was wondering if you resonate with this too and I was wondering if you speak more to curious attitude. When it comes to the matters of looking at wounds or painful emotions/sensations/beliefs curiosity has been the force that has kept me on the path so to speak and not disillusioned with spirituality or whatever you want to call it. Curiosity, however, is not the reason why a lot of people, including myself still, try to heal their wounds. I feel like it is just the desire to rid themselves of pain, which is totally understandable. That’s what gets us through the door. What keeps us motivated to keep meeting our experience fully and without reservation?
If a person walks into your house and they start making a lot of noise, how do you feel? 1) I don't want the noise here. That's natural. 2) Do you try to get rid of them from a place of rejection and harshness? Or, can you come from a place of curiosity about why they are here? You might find it's easier to get them out from compassion that leads to curiosity... than from harshness and trying to force them out the door.
@@NoahElkrief Yeah I understand this. In my experience, sometimes I am unable in the moment to recognize pain or sometimes I even try to deny it. It makes a lot of sense to me now that it is not wrong to want the noise in our house but I think like you said an easier way to get that noise out is through compassion which leads to curiosity. Thanks for the insight Noah!
Very good explanation, but what do when we cant do some specific thing and we wnat do it, ho to overcome it? please make an elaborate video you did take on in the last,but make more elaborate video on just how to fking do it or decide of not doing it.
How do you know that emotions from the past can be buried? Our memory of the past is entirely constructive.. our current beliefs have started from a past life event however what's keeping them going is that we keep believing them to be true and reinforcing the belief.. not really because we have that fear/emotion bottled up somewhere deep inside us and it is reminding us of that situation The emotions we experience, we are creating now with our CURRENT beliefs. Would love to hear your thoughts ❤️
For me, the emotion is the physical form of the belief. So our emotion stays partly because we haven't expressed it and partly because we still believe whatever idea created it.
because as a child we are under our parents Authority and we believe everything to be gospel even though it could have flaws to it so we internalize whatever they say as truth and that's what we believe about ourselves what we were taught from 0 to 5 years old so then that is our foundation when we get 8 years old are cerebal cortex kicks in and we can learn more so we become more aware that there are two sides to the coin and then at 12 years old we k n o w right from wrong and are accountable for our actions. So to regress or digress are young minds except that as truth without any filters so we don't dismiss what we've learned. As adults we can listen to someone and accept what we agree and discard what we don't agree but as children we don't have that ability so as adults if we can go back maturely and look at some painful situations that happened we can understand that our parents either did the best that they could or they weren't capable of doing it or simply the fact that people don't always say the right thing and then forgive ourselves and our parents and move forward and learn what we didn't learn back then and love ourselves even if no one else does but there is one who always loves us no matter what and that's God in heaven the most high
Hi noah, I have a question for you. I have experienced a lot of anxiety and have always felt like my dads voice continues to show up in my head saying I'm not good enough. How do i get the courage to face these emotions head on. I firmly believe that i haven't been taught to regulate these emotions therefore I have a difficult time experiencing them, and as you mentioned letting them go
So ,are you trying to tell that the populor saying ti "di wthing that you are afraid of" is not true, or in practical real life we tend do things which we think are hard anyway
I believe it's not just parents. It can be from friends, relationships and society that we buy into shame.
Today I felt so bad, because I wanted to do many things, and it seemed impossible to do them all. I didn't feel like starting them either. I was sad, felt guilt and hopeless. Your email with this video arrived at the best moment. From tomorrow on I'll start searching for the "why". I like your natural videos, you radiate compassion, kindness and intelligence. Thank you Noah!
Noah I started watching your videos years ago. I went through a very ugly divorce and i could not sleep so I would browse the web and RUclips. I just so happen to fall upon your channel. It was one of the best things to happen to me. I learned so much from you on how to see things in a different way and much more. You Noah made a big difference in my life. For that I am forever grateful 🙏. Thank you. Don't loose that spark my friend. You know what I mean. God bless you.
You're very welcome Ricardo!
♥️🙏
Thank you, Noah! Very helpful ♥️ I hope you are happy and well. You are much appreciated ✨🦋
I stambled upon your channel 2weeks ago.... And it's changed my life wholesomely..... I am actually using your earlier videos that you did 5years + ago and am in a place of peace and able to live life more and in control of my environment.
thanks, keep delivering!!!
This hit me hard. Why are you not famous Noah and your channel should have more subscribers. Please tell me how can I get rid of shyness,shame and laziness??
Thanks for this, when I ask why i find answers.
I took notes for myself, sharing them with you beautiful people in the hope it might help somebody:
1. Let go of shame.
Be willing to let go of guilt, shame, fear and drill as self motivation.
2. What emotions am I afraid to feel?
If you can't do what you want to do, there is always a reason why. You perceive there might be more pain in doing it than leaving it. What pain arises while you do the work/thing?
3. Isolate that emotion (fear of rejection, fear of failure etc.) and work on it.
Thank you Noah !
Hey Noah, you are the best. The way you think and thought is amazing I just love it.
My fiancee broke up with me 2 weeks ago, and without you and my friends, I wouldn't have learn the way I have. I feel like I am going through the right path thanks to you and them.
Tooons of love from Chile, please keep this amazing work.
Rhownin 😊🦋
Thank you for sharing Noah ♥️💐
Andi Ruspitadera 😊♥️
This makes so much sense! I got/still get heavily criticized from my parents for everything. Even something that was someone else's fault, and when they find out it wasn't me, they never admit to being wrong. I don't get apologies. There's not even an excuse given.
They did the exact opposite with my brother. So, I'm mentally unstable and on disability, due to mental health issues. While, my brother is earning his graduate degree in psychology.
Still, I'm wrong.
That's no longer acceptable to me. Once I started to realize why so many things were shit in my life, my perception slowly began to change. It's still changing. I had no value for myself. Now, I do. I didn't love myself. Now, I do. I didn't believe in myself. Now, I'm my biggest fan! Through my change in perspective, I've found that I have many talents and gifts that I don't think anyone else has. It wouldn't bother me if anyone did! Why? Because I'm still amazingly wonderful, unique, beautiful, and powerful. I'll keep improving everyday. I won't have someone else's goals, and only the ones that I give myself. I'm going to do my best to never look back once I've healed my trauma.
I just want to say that you coming back is the best thing that has happened to me in the last year. I missed you! Thank you for everything!
While watching this video I realized that the cause behind my procrastination is feelings of shame. I feel ashamed about my work which I do , I believe that that other boys of my age group are more successful and do the job or business that is respected and socially accepted and recognizable. I have sense of shame and Inferiority about my self and my job or my current situation that's why whenever I open my laptop for doing work, I first open my gmail, do some work and then watching youtube videos whole day.
I think whenever I start my work it remind me that you are not successful like others and I feel shame and to escape this feeling I watch only youtube videos on my laptop whole days.
What you said about wondering why I’m so damaged when my childhood was apparently healthy and my parents provided for me well is soooooooo relatable for me. I’ve always felt ungrateful or dramatic when I felt sad about something because I would wonder what went wrong as compared to other people who had a sad childhood, like I felt too privileged to have issues.
My parents were very clear about not loving me, especially my mother and my father just wasn't there at all. And she didn't have the intuitive respond to help me or say "I love u anyway", my mother laughed at me. The first 2 yrs of my life (if she was there) I asked "mom, what's this or how do I do that?" and she said "children who ask, will b skipped" and things like "I wish I never had you, you are the cause of all my problems in life" giving it back to her right now. And my father claims no man will ever love me. And so I try to give that back to him, but it's more difficult since I'm not a man. Once I actually gave it back to him and for a couple of months I was free, but now I integrated it completely again. 🤪
Thanks Noa!
I'm really sorry that you went through that Kali.
@@NoahElkrief thanks Noa. You're a gem imo.
Noah...
I love you and the way that you express yourself and how you look and feel when you express joy and amusement is absolutely delightful to me, and I understand your sense of humor. Above and beyond all that you teach me, are these are gifts from God I receive from you being still alive and a part of my life. By the way this is Pamela Joan Dillon. If you remember me.
The thing about people always doing the least painful thing was powerful. A successful/high performing person isn’t better than the less successful one. He just associates less paint with grinding day by day than with not performing at his peak all the time.
I’m procrastinating while watching this.
Same dude
I’m failing all my classes in school
Admitting your present reality is a great start. When overwhelemed try monotasking. Focus fully on one small task.
I'm not far in yet so you may mention it in the video, but thought I'd say Mel Robbins 5 second rule has been amazing help in my experience. Look forward to listening to your thoughts on the subject
Noah I love your videos so much. For years, I've gone back to your old ones often whenever I needed help and it gives me comfort almost every time! You are totally amazing and I hope you continue making vids forever! But if not that's ok too :)
@5:00 To give some more context, a lot of parents use criticism and judgement to parent their children, and therefore children grow up to mirror those behaviours onto themselves, at least that's what happened in my case. I like that you make videos in one take and don't script anything that you say, I really enjoy listening to genuine thoughts and questions, and i dont expect any one answer to be true because i never expect to have enough context to answer any question put forth with 100% certainty of its trueness. The simple way that i found that allows you to ask questions about what you want without putting yourself down is to entertain the initial question that was raised by asking more questions about it to give it more context. In this example if the question was 'Why can't i do what i want to do?' I would entertain that question by asking 'What would it take to do what i want to do right now?', and the answer would be something like 'well if i wanted to do what i want right now at this present moment, it wouldn't be possible because im at work...or in bed...or in a restaurant...or preoccupied with something else that is taking up my time'. Now that we've gotten more context to the question, and a reason why you can't do what you wan't to do right now, the next question becomes 'What do i have to do to get what i want?', and thats more of a lovely exploration that anyone would love to embark on, and if they understand what they have to do, and reject the notion that it is worth doing it at all once more context is given, then they can rest easily that they were able to answer their question with another question.
Edit: Posted this comment without watching past the timestamp, this topic is addressed @22:00
I really love your videos. You’ve helped me to see things in a new perspective and find peace. I’d like you to talk more about how to stop judging people and also about rejection in general (not only in a breakup situation). The feeling that we never find reciprocal relationships with friends and someone we fall in love with.
Very helpful to mee. Thank you!
Helpful to individuals. Thank you!
As a parent this video makes me feel like crap
This video lifted a huge weight off my body I can't explain it but thank you so much noah
I am currently going through a phase when I can do nothing. This video made so much sense to me.
You helped me not about not procrasting but about my fears. Blessings brother!
For me, I tried so hard to achieve something but couldn't get it and that created huge demotivation for me which was the underlying basis for my procastination. I didn't even realize it until I just sat with myself and decided to dig in about why I was being the way I was being. This is a great video, thanks Noah :)
Is anyone ever just lazy too? I thought I am lazy and unable to function as society would want me to. But this subject might have saved my life, it totally made sense, most importantly it made me feel better about myself. I totally hated myself and lost hope about my ability to change. Where to go from here? How to get rid of the pain? But thank you Noah for this one. 💟
Thank you very much ! Your videos helped a lot 😊
I am so grateful for you. As you reveal your truth you act as a light illuminating the lies of darkness I once thought were true but were only leading to my destructive actions towards myself and others. I don't procrastinate anymore on my work and so am naturally and enjoyably putting in effort to contribute to others with it - so thank you for your work, I appreciate it with my whole heart.
Nice. I'll watch this later
It was a pretty well explanation about what happened inside of the mind of someone that procrastinate (like myself)
Than you Noah
..you have put me on the right track to star!!!
Saludos desde Mexico 🇲🇽
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Sir, Please tell us about How to heal our wounded inner child and overcome feeling of shame and embarrassment about ourselves and overcome feeling of low self worth
Hello there, just browse his channel and you will find these topics right away. Wish you good luck
Thank you so much for this video ❤️ you're a literal angel 💕
Hi everyone, this is a great video. For me at times when there is resistance, and my issues are very subtle sometimes, The most important thing to do stop and just show the resistance love. Just isolate that resistance and show in the love that it wants. Maybe it’s just stopping and feeling like hugging the resistance, or maybe it’s just acceptance to the resistance Even if it never gets better just the way it is. I hope this makes sense to anybody. Maybe I can give some clarification if anyone needs it with an example.
Embrace pain
= freedom
always nice to wake up to you in my e mail! you have been a god sent in my life. I hope you are well, stay safe!
Thank you noah so much for all your wisdom. I look forward to all of your videos. They help me understand why I feel anxious when there’s nothing actually happening or a logical reason for my feeling. It’s helps me to be kinder to myself in those difficult times a childhood trauma is activated. I wish for the world to have as much compassion as you do.
Very useful to dig into this topic for me...for myself and for my doughters. Thanks Noah
❤ you are helping me so much thankyou
Thank you for sharing your struggles I am going through the same. You give me hope. 🙏🏼
Incredible. Thank you so much for all this amazing free content you give us!!!!!!!
Hi Noah love your videos, you have helped me alot, please don't stop making videos again, I'm can't wait to see your new videos you are awesome 🙏
This was unbelievably helpful to me today, Noah, thank you so much
TFABK YIG SO MUCH NOAH!!🙏
This is one of my favorite videos ever, thank you! And I absolutely love the randomness of your examples, always cracks me up, intentional or not xD
What about 'simple' tasks like tidying up, cleaning dishes etc? I'm struggling to understand why I have resistance to these tasks.
Did your parents force you to do these things as a child when you didn't want to? That's generally why.
@@94smithee1 That's what I was going to say. It's why many people engage in screen, social media and gaming detox. Instead of washing dishes you might avoid and the cycle continues. It's only hard at the start but break the cycle and things get easier.
@@94smithee1 Try using the Japanese Art of Kai-Zen which is to set a timer for one minute and START the task, and when it goes off you can quit, and loudly say "I give myself credit for doing the job!!" Now if you want to go on you can but you don't have to, as the rest is your choice. Steven Guise uses this method in his MINI HABITS which he has here on YT. The idea is STARTING is the hardest part, so learn how to get started. Steven used it to exercise one minute each day, and over several months formed a HABIT of doing some exercise daily, etc.
I suggest hiring a cleaning person (much like a personal trainer) for a few hours of help as many of us just don't like to work alone.
@Emma Smith you can listen to some interesting podcasts while you are doing the dishes and cleaning the house. You can even start learning a new language and listen to the podcasts while doing your shores
Because doing them causes extreme unpleasantness and bodily pain. It is nasty work and even that cleaning products are expensive.
Also, I was criticized horribly for cleaning WELL. Weird, but true. So I give up.
I like your pace of your video and tone. I cannot stand those outrageously loud lectures and speaking at 10 million miles an hour.
well i do, and i donno why i feel kinda offended and i’m 14 so i’m dumb go easy if you reply
Try putting those on .75 speed, just like the ones who talk too slow, put them on 1.25 or even 1.5 as it can make a huge difference.
thank you for this video
I don't know why did I cry while watching this.
I sometimes cries too when watch his other videos. I think it’s because they resonate with your deepest emotions.
thank you
Noah hey, could you do a video on mindfulness as well? I am really curious that whether you advise mindfulness in daily life or not. You have done meditation videos in past which are mostly related with open awareness meditation. What I want to ask is that is there any informal meditation or mindfulness way in daily life that may help us to awaken and to be in the moment? Because, all my sensational clarity has gone with my mind processes. In old times, I used to see the world as 4k Tv, not it is 144p.
I had a epiphany when you said the person will get less pain if they exercise more. It's kinda like people who work all the time feel less anxiety if they make more money where as someone coming from abundance may not feel the need to over do it because they have never suffered without.
Nice hair cut, in my culture we usually slap our friends on the back of their neck after a hair cut. As a way to make sure the shaving was clean and a sign of affection.
Are you Greek? Because we greeks do it as well !!
Adamantia P no , Levant, Middle Eastern. We have a weird way of showing affection and love among brothers here😆😆😆. We also do it when a friend gets married, make sure he is nice and clean (after a Turkish bath) and slap the neck so he is ready to perform during his “wedding night” 😆😆😆
thanks!
I understand what you’re talking about, but I feel like sometimes I just want to do things that are more fun and less tiring. Although I know that cognitively it will benefit me more in the long run.
Hello Noah, I’ve seen so many videos, also on this topic, but you tell it more clearly, easy, honest, you mention all the side thoughts that sabotage me, thanks :) They are much deeper than the older videos I think. I am still at a phase that when I almost get it, I make even more mess, and leave the kitchen behind not totally cleaned up for example (on purpose almost) and I am also procrastenating doing the releasing shame etc. Is that possible?
Hello. I procrastinate heavily. I'm realising that I procrastinate with any form of mental stimulation. I've been trying to write down notes from this video and trying to discover more about why I avoid certain things and even doing this work is really difficult for me, I just want to give up so easily and go on social media or think about food. I'm trying hard to think about why even slightly mentally stimulating tasks are so difficult for me.. they just feel like so much effort. I'm struggling to know how to link this with a past experience.. I feel stuck
Not through watching the video yet but I reached a point where you said, and I’m paraphrasing here, “You need to be willing to let go of the punishment strategy (or beliefs that are getting you to do work from fear) -parenthesized words are paraphrased and sort of what I understood from it. I think I agree with you to a large extent I guess the language and the word willing was a word that didn’t resonate with me. However what you said with curiosity a sentence earlier is an attitude or a disposition that I think is extremely useful in self enquiry or mindfulness. From the point of view of curiosity, everything is beautiful and welcome. I was wondering if you resonate with this too and I was wondering if you speak more to curious attitude. When it comes to the matters of looking at wounds or painful emotions/sensations/beliefs curiosity has been the force that has kept me on the path so to speak and not disillusioned with spirituality or whatever you want to call it. Curiosity, however, is not the reason why a lot of people, including myself still, try to heal their wounds. I feel like it is just the desire to rid themselves of pain, which is totally understandable. That’s what gets us through the door. What keeps us motivated to keep meeting our experience fully and without reservation?
If a person walks into your house and they start making a lot of noise, how do you feel? 1) I don't want the noise here. That's natural. 2) Do you try to get rid of them from a place of rejection and harshness? Or, can you come from a place of curiosity about why they are here? You might find it's easier to get them out from compassion that leads to curiosity... than from harshness and trying to force them out the door.
@@NoahElkrief Yeah I understand this. In my experience, sometimes I am unable in the moment to recognize pain or sometimes I even try to deny it. It makes a lot of sense to me now that it is not wrong to want the noise in our house but I think like you said an easier way to get that noise out is through compassion which leads to curiosity. Thanks for the insight Noah!
43:50 So which videos or tools would you recommend?
Very good explanation, but what do when we cant do some specific thing and we wnat do it, ho to overcome it? please make an elaborate video you did take on in the last,but make more elaborate video on just how to fking do it or decide of not doing it.
How do you know that emotions from the past can be buried?
Our memory of the past is entirely constructive.. our current beliefs have started from a past life event however what's keeping them going is that we keep believing them to be true and reinforcing the belief.. not really because we have that fear/emotion bottled up somewhere deep inside us and it is reminding us of that situation
The emotions we experience, we are creating now with our CURRENT beliefs.
Would love to hear your thoughts ❤️
For me, the emotion is the physical form of the belief. So our emotion stays partly because we haven't expressed it and partly because we still believe whatever idea created it.
because as a child we are under our parents Authority and we believe everything to be gospel even though it could have flaws to it so we internalize whatever they say as truth and that's what we believe about ourselves what we were taught from 0 to 5 years old so then that is our foundation when we get 8 years old are cerebal cortex kicks in and we can learn more so we become more aware that there are two sides to the coin and then at 12 years old we k n o w right from wrong and are accountable for our actions. So to regress or digress are young minds except that as truth without any filters so we don't dismiss what we've learned. As adults we can listen to someone and accept what we agree and discard what we don't agree but as children we don't have that ability so as adults if we can go back maturely and look at some painful situations that happened we can understand that our parents either did the best that they could or they weren't capable of doing it or simply the fact that people don't always say the right thing and then forgive ourselves and our parents and move forward and learn what we didn't learn back then and love ourselves even if no one else does but there is one who always loves us no matter what and that's God in heaven the most high
Noah.. ❤️
Probably the reason is that I set blockages for myself and they are so deep that it is difficult to lift them.
Nice hair cut!!!! Who did that for you?? Desperate for haircuts here
I'm in Bali. It's more lax here
I understand why I don’t do what I have to be doing. But what to do if it’s important I have to do that how to start doing that?
Hi noah, I have a question for you. I have experienced a lot of anxiety and have always felt like my dads voice continues to show up in my head saying I'm not good enough. How do i get the courage to face these emotions head on. I firmly believe that i haven't been taught to regulate these emotions therefore I have a difficult time experiencing them, and as you mentioned letting them go
What about procrastination over something you don't want to do but have to?
After watching this i just feel like crying and letting it all out...
This is a fuckin masterclass my brother
Romans 7:15 "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do."
So ,are you trying to tell that the populor saying ti "di wthing that you are afraid of" is not true, or in practical real life we tend do things which we think are hard anyway
Procrastinates watching video on how to stop procrastinating