WEDDING NIGHT Q&A | What we wish we knew, when we want kids, was it awkward? | Christian Perspective
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- Опубликовано: 5 окт 2024
- Yep that's right, we're talking about our wedding night lol. Everything we wish we knew, if it was awkward, expectations, etc! Also let me know in the comments what your favorite quote from Cai was in this video because he had a lot haha!
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Okay but can we just admire how the first 30 seconds are GOLD 😂💕
Yess 🤣
I COULDN’T BE HAPPIER. I remember your singleness videos, and watching them and just praying you would find an amazing Godly man who is a spiritual leader and loves you so much. Check check check and check!
Love you stas!
(p.s. I was cracking up at how much cai said “legit” 🤣)
So glad I found your channel. You guys give me, a 24 year old, never-been-kissed virgin that this kind of relationship can and will happen in God’s timing. ❤️
Wow, I'm a 24-year-old, never-been-kissed virgin too! I'm doing marriage God's way, but it'll also help me stay faithful to my wife. This is not my real name, I'm using a fake account. I find you really impressive and I sometimes watch videos like these to see if there are others like me as well. I'm not ready for marriage yet, but will be soon (like a year or 2). Did you find your one yet? Can we chat via email? I'll set up another fake, temporary email, give it to you here, and from there I'll give you my real email. I don't have any social media accounts. We might not be compatible but maybe we could just say hi from time to time since we have some similarities. You're particularly impressive because you're good looking. Being a virgin in itself is not a virtue. But anyway, I hope you see this and I hope you're interested Summer. Cool name by the way. My real name is Steve, not so cool, but in my branch my name means the cross (Greek-Orthodox).
I started to watch your channel a year ago when I was single and now I am a year on, and got engaged to a wonderful Christian man. We are looking forward to getting married next June. I took a lot of inspiration from your journey and your channel and want to thank you ☺️☺️
Congratulations :)
@@winkydstanaccount5003 😁 I prayed a year ago when my last relationship ended for God to heal my heart and also to only have eyes for my future husband and it really happened, Praise God ☺️
@@siobhandetwiler4869 I believe you and I live for testimonies like that. Deep respect for how faithful you were.
Congratulations 🙏🎉
Congratulations! I hope you don't mind me asking but how did you meet him?
Hi! I really appreciate the discussion around intimacy, waiting until marriage, etc. because there is not nearly enough open discussion around this for a lot of people.
I am a medical student in my final year of school, interested in Obstetrics & Gynecology and so I think it is important to dispel some misinformation I feel you shared about birth controls. Birth control is not abortion. I think it's important as Christians not to feed into misinformation because it makes our community more susceptible to (often warranted) public scrutiny and makes our women & girls much less informed on their own health care.
Here is a summary of birth controls and how they work as well as explanation of how they are not abortion:
1. Combined oral contraceptive pills (OCPs) - prevent ovulation (release of an egg) or follicular development. This is not abortion because this works by preventing pregnancy before fertilization even occurs. The Patch and Nuvaring work the same way.
2. Progestin-only oral contraceptive pills - thicken cervical mucus which prevents sperm from travelling into the uterine tubes to fertilize an egg. This is not abortion as it works by preventing sperm from meeting the egg, before fertilization occurs.
3. Depo-provera/“The Shot” - suppresses ovulation, same rationale as combined OCPs.
4. Intrauterine Copper IUD (also used as a form of “Plan B”) - this is spermicidal. This is the only form of contraception that may impair implantation of a fertilized egg. However, there has been no definitive evidence that IUD users have higher rates of embryonic loss than women not using contraception so the copper IUD is not considered to be an abortifacient. If this is something of concern to you then this may be the form of birth control to avoid. The side effect profile of Copper IUDs is also quite undesirable (heavier/more painful periods).
5. Intrauterine Hormonal IUD - thickens cervical mucus like progestin only pills.
6. Plan B pills - prevent ovulation. If you have already ovulated, Plan B pills will NOT stop you from getting pregnant. They are not abortion.
7. Natural family planning/fertility awareness method - abstinence during your fertile/ovulation window.
8. Surgical sterilization - i.e. getting your tubes tied or vasectomy. Not abortion.
9. Barrier methods such as condoms - most people know this is not abortion. These are the only form of contraception that protect against sexually-transmitted diseases.
Sources (Medical Journals):
Overview of modern contraception - www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1521693420300456?via%3Dihub
Contraception: Overview - www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK279452/
An overview of oral contraceptives: mechanism of action and clinical use - pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16567739/
Love this 🥰 we had a “sexpectation” talk before our wedding haha definitely a great idea so you can get on the same page about things initially!
Wait until you have kids there won’t be ANY quiet time 🤣 (not complaining it’s such a blessing)
And Yes girl!!! I want 7 kids and then to adopt!
For the intimacy part, society and movies has glorified it being super intimate so much that when you do it in real life especially if you waited till marriage that you'll feel like something is wrong with you when in fact it's normal. And the intimacy in the movies are performed by professionals. Meaning they're experienced in having s-x so of course they'll have a lot of intimacy. I want to think of it like high school, I'm 17 and going in to high school as a freshman, I had a lot of expectation because of what I've seen in movies and tv shows, I planned it to go like this when in reality it wasn't anything special. Of course I was excited but nothing special happened. Felt like the first day of middle school so I was disappointed but I got over it quick.
5 things that I loved about this video
1. Y’all are so stinking chill and open
2. Ky (I hope I spelled that right) is very involved in the video and has a lot of great insight
3. Y’all are very clean. You’re showing the reality of sex between husband and wife but you’re not being explicit
4. You emphasize how sexual intimacy was designed for marriage a point that I think a lot of people think is old fashioned and consider faulty
5. You can tell that Jesus Christ is the center of your marriage which is most important in any and all marriages.
Thank you for not being ashamed of what you stand for and why you stand for it❤️
You guys are so cute!! I think this video is extremely important for Christian couples because it really gives them an idea of what to expect. It won't really apply to me as I am set on a chaste marriage but I can see that your eyes really light up when you're around each other.
Hey I’m curious when you say “chaste marriage” does that mean you want to have a marriage without sex? Also where did you get this concept if that is the case? God bless 💛
@@erinchristina3809 hello! that is pretty much what a chaste marriage is. I am not completely sure if it is an actual term but when I do get married I would like to refrain from sexual activities for personal reasons ❤️
@@annie_4444. Annie I think it would be best if you stayed unmarried, Biblically there is no such thing as a chaste marriage, staying chaste for the Lord is wonderful however if you read 1 Corthians ch.7 you'll understand why the idea of "a chaste marriage" is unbiblical. I pray God give you clarity and that His will be done in you're life. Have a great day. My sister in Christ
Maybe you are meant to be single. Do you long to be married?
You guys are SO CUTEEEE. Thank you for sharing your lives with us! And for being open and honest.
My extrovert husband turned into a homebody when we got married, and I've become more social and needing time out and people. Did not see that coming for this introvert! It's interesting how marriage changes things like that!
I wish I had something like this to watch before my wedding night. We also... "Tried" the first night. At the gift opening the next day I had to take my matron of honor aside and ask her questions haha. We were not properly prepared for that night. I'm so grateful for friends that can give advice about this stuff. And for videos like yours to go to. You are so encouraging to us! 🥰
Awwn that was sweet though ❤️
I’m nearly 27 and still a single virgin. Please pray I will have the right man soon. I want my next boyfriend to be the one. Get your church and friends to pray.
You have easily become one of my favorite RUclipsrs to watch. Like, you're so genuine it's unreal. When I watch your videos it's like I'm sitting with a friend having a normal conversation. I love that God is the #1 priority in yours and your hubby's marriage and He always has been. Your videos are just so refreshing and I look forward to watching them each time you post! Stay healthy and safe, God bless you two!❤
Congrats guys!!!! Still hard to believe you're a married lady now 😍 blessings as you navigate this new chapter together!
"It's gonna be legit" Cai needs that on a T-Shirt 😂😂
Loved this, I'm so happy for you and you guys look so genuinely happy, God bless your union 🙏🏽 ❤
Love the video, but also LOVE your living room decor!! So freaking cute.
thank you so much!!!
Good for you for using NFP. I wish I had known about this when I was young and married - I'm 60 now. I really admire both of you for waiting and for following Jesus at such a young age! Keep it up!
This is my first time here
I stumbled upon this video and now I can't stop replaying it 😅
First of guys, I love your sweaters 😊 and this video was so funny
Even though I am 16 I can't wait to have a Christ centered marriage
Haha God bless you two
Just subscribed 😊❤️
bro this is my first time seeing u guys interact and i love u guys 😭
Love Cai's comparison of love to your walk with Jesus 💛
Cannot wait to make this video with my future hubby in 2 months.. eeep!! So excited! Y'all made me crack up (:
I hope to experience marriage and intimacy soon
So excited for you guys!
My husband and I actually just did a little bit of research on the birth control pill (all kinds/brands) as I used to be on the pill. They all abort babies from the Christian perspective because we believe pregnancy starts at conception, while the world will say that pregnancy starts when the fertilized egg implants/latches onto the uterine wall. Birth control actively thins the lining of the uterus to make sure a fertilized egg cannot attach and, therefore, causes it to die. If you are a Christian, I would choose natural ways to avoid pregnancy :)
I did a lot of research on birth control as a Christian as well and for us birth control like the pill, patch and shot and and condoms are used by many of our Christian friends. We also go by it’s a matter of self conscious these methods & for the couple to decide. I understand the thinning of the lining of the uterus but I feel like naturally when having sex millions of sperm die regardless because wether using a condom they also die eventually because there not even going into the vagina, they stay in a condom. Even during natural contraception, all the other sperm eggs die.
Got so excited for this video
Thank y'all so much for doing this! I feel like you guys did a great job of informing without getting graphic 👍
Cai spinning 😂😂
At about 20:40 ish, she speaks to muscles that struggle to relax that causes some difficulty- it’s called vaginismus. There is a great Christian book that mentions this called The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire. Also, another great Christian resource Intended for Pleasure by Ed and Gaye Wheat. Both books have sound medical and psychological bearings in a Christian worldview.
I do think you need to discuss expectations as in I expect you to carry me through the front door. I expect to take our time or do it as soon as you get home. I expect to say in my dress etc those small details should be talked about that way you’re not disappointed if he makes you walk through the front door and eats a sandwich before getting to the festivities lol
hahaha good point!!
🎉 festivities 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The only reason I've given up on dating is because I cannot find a place to meet a ANY christian women in my state (california) for dating (not even church because you can't just go up in church and be like hey baby ...How YOU doin.. lol haha - don't use that line guys those are never a good idea haha
Lol... I say go up to the girl. You are walking in obedience to go to church, if you see a Christian girl that you like, as her to coffee or a hike, females are just as lonely in this season. Honestly, I would love if a Christian guy came up to me at church, and if she isn't interested, then at least you tried. I want to encourage you to pursue and keep pursuing. One day your pursuit will end in marriage.
Dating is so gross the way it's done in American culture. But talking to a girl at church? Do it! Go for it!
@@169provebs I agree with this
@@169provebs some of us (me) wish that Boys approached us but I’m so ugly
We waited just shy of a year after getting married before we started trying to get pregnant and I’m honestly really grateful that we did. Definitely pray about it and I know you will! But for us personally I’m really glad we took that time. I’m pregnant now and due in September 🥰 but there’s so much that comes along with it that I didn’t expect. So my recommendation, if it’s in God’s will and you guys can, definitely try to wait!
Love this video! Love all of your videos 😘💓
You both are so adorable and look like bff's. Happy for you.
Blushing the whole time💝
Watching you two together is so inspiring and energizing and it really brings so much joy. Thank you so much for sharing, i love your videos! Be blessed you're amazing!:))
awww thank you!!
Y’all should have a podcast lol I’d listen to you two. So much fun
Off limits: Anything either party does not want. Might help to know what that is, early on. It is also important to know what the other party wants. Else, there could be a problem with unmet expectations.
I LOVE THIS!!! BE BLESSED!!!
“Unless you really want some” HAHDJCKSJCJS I LOVE YOU GUYS😂💖
You guys are adorable. 😂❤
Hey Nastasia, love all your videos! I don’t have Instagram so I wanted to see if I could reach you here. I was wondering when your spring line for Nolia will be released?! I’m excited to order more!💕
So excited
AMEN to the 2021 pregnancy 😍🙏🏾
Great video
Id like to add to this that although birth control can be great for regulating cycles for PCOS (which can help fertility), for pain during endometriosis it can actually lead to infertility!! Please keep this in mind when using birth control. And although Birth control can be used as a tool for these issues it should never be your first resort but your last option. Look into other things that can help PCOS (i.e weight loss, exercise, certain prescriptions like metformin etc.)
@@robyn905 thats true but unfortunately, not using hormonal birth control could lead to infertility as well :/ I don‘t really have a win-win situation 😅 I just don‘t wan‘t that because of this video, some young girls are afraid/ashamed to use hormonal bc when they „should/have to“
@@marielou2365 No yeah for sure PCOS birthcontrol is really helpful for fertility i jsut know that i was told for endometriosis, the birth control can cause more scarring even though it helps with pain :(( I wish you the best on your health journey. PCOS sounds like a very difficult thing to go through having known some people who have been diagnosed after years of not knowing what was wrong
@@robyn905 oh sorry, I didn‘t read it correctly, thought you were talking about pcos 🙈 yes, it‘s not fun but I personally am lucky that I don‘t have a severe form of it and my gynecologist and I can handle it. The only thing that would be difficult is when I decide to have children 😬... wish you the best with endometriosis ❤️! How do you deal with it? Is there anything that can be done that helps you with it?
@@marielou2365 I am not diagnosed with it, nor do i believe i have it but i had a scare the other week because i have been getting pelvic pain before my menstr. cycle (one out of the handful of symptoms of endo) and used google as a diagnosis even though it was completely normal to have mild pelvic pain . Anyway long story short i spent hours researching endometriosis and crying from watching other women talk about their experience. Needless to say i feel for the heart of every woman with either endo or PCOS. Im keeping tabs on my symptom and PMS patterns because you never know but for now i think im okay :,) I pray you will have healthy beautiful children God willing, when you do. Have a great week!
When she she means attempted to, she means she said "I'm tired, not tonight honey"
You guys are adorable.
Love the Christian advice
What I really want to know is was it worth the wait? 🙈 no one asked haha x
yes 100% worth it!!!!
@@NastasiaGrace I wish I had your life. Pray I will very soon and get pastors to pray.
Unless you really want some 😂😂😂 class 👌🏼
Nastasia, would you do some Bible studies with your husband? He's wise, it would be so Nice!
Great video
I was on the pill for my acne and my periods. Then when Covid happened, I got off the pill and I now haven’t had a period much at all.
ok like I'm really not tryna be a hater or anything, I love your content, but this video (or at least the first 5 minutes) felt very censored, like I understand why, but it just kinda defeats the purpose, but then again, I understand , maybe I'll just ask someone in real life
What I wanna know is why your lights broken
I've been seeing the "rubber" rings on your fingers around. Are they actually rings? Where and how do you get it?
Are they wedding rings?
Awwww #goals 😭😭😭😭
Love love you look great ❤️
I don’t think saying there’s nothing off limits in the bedroom is wise- I feel like anything that involves another person or is abusive is not honoring to God
I thought we were pretty clear about the fact that we are ONLY intimate with each other (because we follow a Biblical view of marriage) and we would never abuse or harm one another in any way (because we follow a Biblical view of marriage). Of course those things are off limits, the only reason we didn't mention them because they're never even a thought in our minds.
24:40-24:49 DO IT!!!!
Post marriage Q&A - 😆
*sips tea*
Her problem with him is just something all guys have
Getting hurt in a car reck can be devastating.
Love your videos! But I just wanted to say that "birth control" ( i.e - hormonal contraceptive like the pill, patch, IUD etc...) is not the same things as an abortion. Hormonal contraceptives prevent conception/pregnancy and are not the same thing as a medical abortion. There are oral forms of abortions but they are different than the contraceptive pill :). But everyone should talk to their health care providers and do their own research on contraceptives to find what is best for them!
True there ARE some birth control options that arent abortion but there ARE some that are including some forms of the hormonal pill.
@@NastasiaGrace I am not familiar with any hormonal contraceptives that cause abortion, which pills are you referring to? From my understanding contraceptive and abortion pills are 2 separate pills that serve 2 separate purposes.
An iud is a form of abortion as it does not prevent implantation. All other hormonal birth controls prevent pregnancy.
*fertilization
@@DulceCassia IUDs do prevent fertilization. They make the uterus inhabitable for sperm and can disrupt ovulation.
Talking about hormonal contraceptives as a form of abortion is SO incorrect, misleading and offensive to so many women. Educate yourself, please, and in a scientific way.
I like spinning🥺
✝️🙏🏽👍🏽❤😁🥰
grace are tarot cards sinful? btw congratulations!
absolutely, they’re a form of divination and witchcraft
Yes. They’re actually abominable as anything having to do with the arts and things of that nature are abominable to Jesus. Essentially, for them to be effective you have to get info from the fallen angels.
Does stas always yell over her husband? ☺️
not really sure how to take this comment so lol
Yay! You're so fun together. Also: get you some sex toys for practising. There are totally unscary and legit companies that sell things to help.
No porn or threesomes … porn is still lust of the flesh!
Very true
Please try to refrain from using the phrase “staying pure.” It implies that people who have sex just to have sex (which is a perfectly normal human behavior) are somehow impure or “less than.”
Sex outside of marriage is impure. That’s not the way God intended for it to be done, therefore partaking in it outside of wedlock makes it impure.
@@B4577-x9d Treating all people with respect and not putting them down or belittling them (perhaps unintentionally) is a pretty low bar and should be easy to do if you take a moment to consider not everyone has the same views. Simply pointing out that sometimes we use language we don’t even realize can be hurtful to others. Not sure why you felt the need to object to a call for human decency. (Again, I recognize many times people do not mean to be hurtful, which is why I pointed out something people may not have realized.)
There's no opinion or belittling about it. We believe that the Bible is the Holy Word of God and it literally sex before marriage is considered impure in the eyes of God. But OF COURSE there can be redemption from that. None of us are perfect including me and there are loads of sins i have to repent for on the daily!
I understand where the "staying pure" statement comes from and why it is used. But, I can see why some people would feel like it's looking down on others who aren't waiting until marriage. It's not. No one is less than.
However as Christians we believe God's plan is for us to have sex within marriage. Sex is designed to create children and having sex actually releases a hormone called oxytocin which causes bonding. It's meant to bond you to someone and can cause a lot of hurt when a break up or separation happens since there is attachment emotionally and physically. Again, no one is less than because they have not waited. A bunch of my friends have not waited but they are not less than at all. I personally plan on waiting since that is what I believe to be the best for me.
@JC Productions are you talking to me? Sure, I’m insecure about a lot of things lol. But no, I have never had sex. Just a feminist. Some people do care about others and come to their defense even if the issue doesn’t affect them personally.
What a feminine guy. It’s like 2 girls .
To me it sounds like your not man enough to realize that this is a true man. He’s caring and loving to his wife and others, honest, strong in his faith, strong in what he believes in and that is what a lot of woman want in a man